Reading minds through body language | Lynne Franklin | TEDxNaperville 

Exactly! The fact whatever she said can't be proven wrong anyway helps the confidence too.

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Sss"sounds"? like a million dollar idea? ;)

@@theneoncactus2743 we got a listener.

It's just her opinion? 😮 I just guessed it's based on imperical evidence, is it not?

Haha Haha!!! Yaaaaasss!!!!

Wtf

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Mabye.

this needs more recognition 😂

Same! I don't think in words so this is how I associate past memories, not with words but with emotions

I find my memories to be extremely accurate. However, I see no images nor feel emotions. Perhaps my memories are orientated more around the technical aspects of the memory and your memories are more orientated around the emotional aspect of the memory. Strangely, I never dream with humans, either. All my dreams have overcast skies, subdued lighting whether indoors or outdoors, no humans, everything quiet, and nothing is locked or blocked from my access. Perhaps I need help.

@Niva💚 same

Same. I'm the first guy the looker and the last girl the toucher . I see the full memory like a movie and remember how I felt , the sounds, the smells.

i was thinking the same

The rizz guide?

Thank you for this resume

Thank you brother, appreciate your effort

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@@edcardiff1923 ?? What ??

Me2

That's exactly me

Actually, in Spain is considered rude to not look at the eyes of the one speaking to you.

Yh Jiaze not only rude but it literally bad, the people who dont do that will not connect with many simply coz that is one of the most powerful way to connect to people!

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i am listener amd toucher, i don't give eye contact, I don't dress well, i feel comfortabel in mostly anything, i mumble alot and i try to hug at least one person in a week, i like touching people who i know kinda well's fingers...

im a combination of a listener and a toucher

ughhh this video is so confusing to me. I'm low-key a combination of a Looker and Listener

Mirek Bui man you should do the summaries of my studying notes😂😂

Thank you 👌🏼❤️

This💯🔥🙌 You got it @Joel Yazell... You hit the nail on the head!! I'm taking a screenshot of your response.

she did say that "you think in all three ways but just the way you have a dominant hand, you have a dominant style".

@@ayeshaakhtar4945 That is true, but still implies the subordination of all the ways but one, which does not reflect the reality of things.

Totally. 100% agree. There’s no science behind body language, it’s a joke in the STEM field. It’s not even considered a soft science. Not many schools offer it. Police using it leads to a lot of false convictions , same with the proven pseudoscience of polygraphs

Saurabh Natekar yep, we must be the other 5% she failed to mention....

Jayme Frazier Yeah I know right.

One was probably more dominant.

same omg

Me ......bruh i think we are all 3

Had that in the past, but the trick, to only focus on one eye from the person you are talking to, helped alot and is unnoticeable.

I have autism, and I often tell people that I can't communicate while having to do eye contact. (Maybe it's related to the predator instinct thingy? Idk) But anyways, I respect people who can't do eye contact. I don't think people can actually read body language... I haven't watched this video. I'm concerned that it even exists. Because of ableism, and the stigmatizing of mental conditions. It's not morally wrong to not do eye contact, and people should just accept that. It's pure ableism to discriminate against that.

@Punch Down King I'm not sure if you understood what I wrote? I probably wrote it badly. I meant it's ableism to discriminate against the inability to maintain eye contact in a neurotypical way.

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OMG now i understand why i cant eye contact with someone except to those whom i comfortable with. I even heard that those people who cant do eye contect while talking to others are fake people. Now i know i am a listener so that is whyyyyyy

she tells its only halfway, would recommend reading abook about NLP

How insightful of you, Yeela! Thanks for doing this research and sharing it.

Lynne Franklin I don't think there is a word in my language (Hebrew) which means insightful. I tried to google translate it but I didn't get the right translation...but I can feel what you meant to say (I'm a toucher... lol) and it must to be cool to have such words in your culture. You people are very kind.

Prince Gnanaraj : I'm sorry if someone is offended because of this, I just like to research the differences between cultures, and that dosen't mean that someone is better than the other

Hi Yeela. Insightful (to me) means you have taken a look at something below the surface level, discovered an important idea and shared it with the rest of us. Thank you.

Thank you yeela that was helpful

Especially these days )-)-)

You're what we call an ENTP. Look it up.

Fax

Same. I think visually, but eye contact is literally the worst.

Same.......... I feel that saaaaammmmmeeeeee way

How can you say that? That isn't really how it works. And social anxiety doesn't mean they are scared. You can't tell someone with this kind of issue to just stop. Research social anxiety, hopefully you'll understand more.

@Puma Puma They hurt me in the past, that's why I have it now lmao. Its safer not to talk and not to waste my energy on people lol

And I was sitting listening to this with my chin on my hand, head at an angle...yep a listener. Headphones gave it away.

They mumble to themselves. You (mumbling to yourself)- oh god that's insane You - OH GOD DAMNIT I JUST DID MYSELF Me (mumbling to myself)- that's crazy Me - SHIEEEET

Thanks for the smile, Alana.

so funny rofl

Alana Aragon Zulke haha 😆

You are imaginar , ur words saying it . Ha ha

only three categories!👎👎👎

Bruh😂

I argue with my self im I schizophrenic.

@@peterallison4464 get some help, please.

@@justyourfellowduck Actual the psychology of talking to ones self is not what the majority of people think. Arguing is a sign of something else: shut,NO shut up maybe why, just shut up. What.

same hahahahaha

I'm in the 5% too 😂 I'm really happy about it

Don’t believe that. It is not based on evidence.

@@rabask9226 but it's on the internet it has to be true you can trust me I'm a doctor

Interesting, I've never been diagnosed as being on the Austism spectrum but still do the same thing. I've had to learn how to be around people and how to communicate them properly instead of having it there automatically.

That's helpful to know 😊

I'm glad!

Meeting a new person is like being tossed a random musical instrument. "Oh, I sort of know how to play this one. Sort of. Maybe." Sometimes it feels like everyone else is a magic prodigy to whom it just comes naturally.

Wow!! So smart - that’s a really savvy method to learn social skills.

Your description matches exactly who I am

matches exactly, with exception of gender, and not bald, super long hair. Only 1 tat...since I was a toddler, also. Feel like a mutant. "a webbed thinkér".

This is me to a T!!

@@rachelquiggle8918 are we mutants? Having total recall of past, is difficult to accept, every detail of some bad experiences from decades ago. Talking to myself, often helpful. Remember as a child thinking "what is this place'". Cheers from someplace in wales.. x

@@natashalynshaw2733 Ouch, good thing you only got one tattoo as a toddler, are you afraid of seeing needles. lol

I'm over here too... It's like creating a world virtually.

Same! And it's misconstrued in the work environment often.

Chances are from what you said, Bobby, you're a Looker and primarily think in pictures and images. Check this out with other characteristics. Look at things you've written: do you use more visual words? Do you like to look at people when they/you speak and feel ignored when they don't give you eye contact? Is how you dress -- your appearance -- important to you? Hope this stuff helps.

Sorry - I should know better than to comment without full context... I was only 2/3rds of the way through. Please ignore.

If almost all people in your theory are lookers, then how useful is it as far as prediction is concerned? Your theory is closer to astrology than science as far as prediction is concerned. You have absolutely no understanding of scientific method. You are out of your league. And you are catering to the most gullible people in our society. You are a modern-day snake oil salesmen.

I was confused, too! However I'll check over how I communicate (as the predominent way may have the other two following very closely behind, as I love to see, listen and feel all very much)! This is what I read in a good book called 'NLP for Dummies'- but the good kind of NLP. Thanks for the talk, Lynne!

Its Because you're extraordinary person but rate the rank. to position yourself right.

Enjoy your time in Japan. Glad to be of a little help in this adventure!

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Yeah.. what if you relate to all three types of thought processes and memories? Maybe i just dont know who i am yet?

No

Me too

You’ll still notice 2 or 1 which is more dominant. Some people are never touchey, other people join two things at once. It’s a mix. The less mixed people are, the harder it is to connect with them. That’s why this is useful. I had a friend’s dad I wanted to create rapport with, he was definitely a feeler and when I talked to him I was elbow to elbow and we laughed a lot heads bowed in each other’s direction. My nephew can’t stand it if I have my eyes on my phone while we’re together, he’s a looker more than anything. In teaching him spirituality I was saying: do you think such a thing as a God principle exists? And I didn’t get much and then I said, imagine we’re in a video game where humans exist, can you envision what the God Principle could be like in this video game? And I got so much stuff from him. My niece is a mixture of a feeler and a listener. I can have my eyes on a screen or a book and be touching her and she feels we’ve connected. When we talk about how things went in a problem area she goes directly to what she felt and gets overwhelmed and then I ask her specifically to remember what was said and she goes there and calms down her feelings enough to plan how to address the problem with words and linguistic ideas. I am a mixture of the 3 as we all are but definitely I’m more looker and feeler than a listener. When solving through problems I now envision what that could look like in an image kind of way and from there I build a strategy, revisiting that image and pulling details from it as if it were a map. Everyone is all three but the question is how can you use this information to connect better with yourself or others.

I don’t anyone is just one in particular idk maybe they are idk

Thanks, Woody. I like to make one differentiation from NLP. The stuff I'm sharing is about creating connection with people -- literally speaking their language with your words and body -- rather than manipulating them into doing something.

This seems far to cut and dry to be scientifically accurate.. Not really supporting her claims with evidence or anything. Since we know learning styles have been debunked, why should i believe this?

Woody1029 So True.

We are saturate atom

I remembered a moment as a still image, like a long moment... Could be a short video though lol

She said it 10:27 You have a dominant style

@@leilame3743 How can I know what's the dominant category between the two?

@@rhiko7 ig observing ur words and urself more like what u do more like u feel more or like which style percentage is more seen in u so like ig observing urslef can help it maybe

You have a dominant style otherwise it could vary according to the people you are with

yes I'm curious what is the other 5 prevent of ppl

Thought that too!

there needs to same feeling like energy to know

Same!!

Same

A box to poop in wtf😂😂😂

Whoever you are you are my spirit person/animal lol I feel like I'm a listener too I love music, definitely all type of genres and different era's I have 70% more of old songs in my playlist than new ones

Omg why did you just describe me ? Scary...

Where did you take that test? I want to try it out too

Hello

I'd like to think that the comparison she made with the dominant hand is not exactly correct Instead of one thought process being 40-50% better than most, it is more likely to be 0.1-0.2% better It could also be completely different depending on your genetics and where you grew up Other than that, her ending statement about other people agreeing with you more is most likely related to the confidence you have whenever you use either of these things and the fact that you would be easier to understand if you are acting in one specific way

I can hardly ever recall what someone says verbatim.

There’s no science behind body language, it’s a joke in the STEM field. It’s not even considered a soft science. Not many schools offer it. Police using it leads to a lot of false convictions , same with the proven pseudoscience of polygraphs

I'm with you on the eye contact. It's just rude IMO if I'm talking and you're not making eye contact. Of course exceptions can be made, like if the person is driving or performing some other function that requires them to focus. But texting or using the phone or computer, watching television, etc., is unacceptable!!! One of my biggest, if not THE biggest pet peeves.

Thanks for this honor, Miranda.

same

What exactly does that mean, see memories as a movie? I've really always wondered lol.

yes but when you Want to visualize something in your mind do you start with an image or do you start with a sound/voice

if u see it as a movie your a looker

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Glad to give you some new, useful information, Ellen.

are you a looker?

I'm a Listener, Raghav, so my brain thinks in words and sounds. But if I stood on a stage and never looked at the audience--just had my ear pointed at them--there'd be no way for me to build rapport. I can't change how my brain works, but I can be flexible with my words and body language to be more inclusive to others--and still be comfortable with myself. Thanks for asking!

Adriana Quintão totally get what you're saying, in my culture you don't use eye contact with people much older than you so these assumptions are inaccurate

Very true! I was thinking the exact same thing

Finally...just look at her body lenguage how stiff and "practiced" she is...she has no conffidense in what she's saying.

exactly! In my culture it's very common to give hugs to people you just met but that doesn't mean everyone is a toucher

Very good observation thanks for sharing

How?

You may like NLP training. It has much more information in it, combining the different kinda characters and eye patterns. 👌

Yep lewis... i noticed.

Hello Marilyn