Women are sexually unsatisfied, and yet, we sill create soul ties, children, and heart ache with disrespectful men. I SUPPORT ABSTINENCE %100. THANK YOU!
I'm 63 and been celibate for 10 years. I refuse to allow just anybody into my life because I live alone and have to be careful. I'm so glad to be post menopausal because I don't think under the influence of hormones. A good nurse co-worker told me back in 2005 that when hormones decrease, discernment fills in. It's so true, and I'm fine being alone. A companion would be nice but I'm not looking as I'm just fine being alone.
I'm here for this message. I stopped disrespecting myself, and now Men don't know how to approach me. I dress modestly, I stopped clubbing in 2004 fresh after graduating college. I stopped giving my body away to guys I was dating freely, I stopped being manipulated by no good guys, I stopped tolerating ignorance periodt. I don't entertain ignorance of Men nor women, I set boundaries for everyone who not on my Frequency Spiritually. I TOLERATE NO DISRESPECT ANYMORE. PERIODT.
Yes 100% agree if I found him sooner could have saved me from an abusive relationship. When you have no one in life to support you it's good to have someone like him to encourage you to take care of yourself and not feel trapped in disrespect.
Thank you Mary. As a woman you have to be able to see disrespect from a mile away. These boys will test you. No boy starts disrespecting you from the jump. When a woman has clear boundaries boys will stay away. She won't even attract boys.
@@achiengcaroline5920 I agree with you, we no longer want to PLAY THEIR PART, cover up 4 them, COMPENSATE, make excuses or PLAY DUMB and they are retaliating & as a result we are leaving here.
This message hit home for me. The disrespect from my spouse has me walking away from our marriage. His words hurt and destroyed me over the years. I’m trying to heal.
Find out why he's abusive ask him questions and get him to adjust it's not easy don't let your marriage go but if u are an abusive person too you need to adjust aswell
@@ayodejiokoloba9849 sorry that doesn’t work. Abuse is abuse and it’s a choice. That’s the mind of evil and will never get answers if so it’s blanket crap. Lies. So no point. Life is too short to allow a person to hurt you it never gets better. It’s their character it’s their whole makeup to want to live in chaos.
@@ayodejiokoloba9849 respect your opinion but its evident you are new here. Pastor Blakes teaches the total opposite of what you just told this Domestic violence survivor. DV is verbal physical emotional or financial. IT'S A NON NEGOTIABLE. PLEASE DO THE FOLLOWING: - APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR WRECKLESS ADVICE. - KEEP LISTENING TO THE TEACHINGS OF PASTOR BLAKES - DELETE YOUR COMMENT
Pastor you are on point. When a woman tells a man she's not interested in him, instead of him moving on he decides that it's his job to destroy her. I've had this man run me down, threaten me, harass me, and act like a little boy. I have a right to say NO, and I'm not going to change my mind. This message should be posted on every media site in the world. Thank you Pastor.
Unfortunately this epidemic is also occurring in our high schools with our teen girls. Say No and be pursued for an eye for an eye, retaliatory, destruction.
Men have disrespected me not because of how I dress or talk, but by not stopping them when they have said mean things to me. I learned my lesson and showed the last man who was gaslighting me and saying mean things to me the door. I told him "you're mean and I don't want you in my house any more I want you gone". (I was helping him recover in my home from colon cancer surgery to remove a cancerous tumor. He was from out of town, didn't have family, had a dog needing care, and lived on the second floor apartment. I was dating him at the time of his diagnosis and felt bad for him. I took a leave of absence to help him recover.) Even in his vulnerability he showed his mean, ugly, ungrateful self. I hardened my heart to remove him from my life. It was hard because I felt so bad for him but he was this dark presence in my home.
It’s crazy, I know a man in wheel chair, I work for them and he disrespects his wife, like… sir you are in wheel chair and this lady didn’t have to give up her life to take care of you! Poor girl is 33 years old and he is 36. He got into a car accident and now he is in a wheelchair! Yeah he was tall and good looking but now he is stuck in a wheelchair.
You're a strong woman I crumble when it comes to pity making accuse for people suffering but perhaps I need to be wising up and realize there was likely a reason he had no one to go to. But you got the right Idea being in pain is not an excuse to disrespect someone helping.
Wow. I appreciate this message. I'll be 32 next month and all my life I've been around disrespectful men. The only one who wasn't was my step dad. Even every mate I've had disrespected me. I've just recently came across a man who doesn't give me an ounce of disrespect, ignorance or impatience. He the most calm patient and respectful man I've ever met. It's funny because it didn't happen until I started loving myself and putting myself on a pedestal. As in actually having confidence in myself. Considering myself to be valuable. I left the most difficult relationship of 7 years. I had to let go. And love me. Then I met someone who finally showed me what it's like to be treated as I should.
Once I moved out of poverty, I noticed a huge difference in relationships between men and women. While there's some misogyny everywhere, men in this environment are more focused on working with or for women instead of against them. Men also seem more capable of handling things without falling apart. The women are still strong but more feminine in this environment. I can honestly say since I received EFFECTIVE COUNSELING, stopped getting on social media and going into spaces with angry grown boys, stopped listening to offensive rap music and carry myself in a respectful way...I experience more peace in my life. I thank you for your wonderful work Pastor and continue to pray especially for the black community as a whole.🙏
People don’t understand that everything is vibrations, energy. The music is all of that and listening to certain types of music depending on its hertz becomes and affects your life, mentality.
@@yaphacurington3316 I've been listening to specific music for decades, but never was known to be rude or disrespectful to women. My character didn't work for me in the suburbs that was much different than the notorious ghetto that I'm originally from.
I refuse to let anyone diminish my womanhood, self-esteem, dignity, and purity!!! I call on God to remove the spirit of negativity that others have imposed in my direction. I call on God to bless me with Wisdom, clarity, insight, and diligence in these times of stress and disgust! There’s a filthy feminine male in my family’s home who terrorizes me, speaks negativity into my direction, false accusations, lies, manipulation, & all other forms of verbal abuse and I still press on with confidence and quality of character.
Some of these men are horrible. Recently, I met a guy in Grad school and I thought he seemed so nice. He had his own business and was active in church. He was so disrespectful to me the first week we talked. I just couldn’t believe it. He made jokes all the time and when I told him to stop, he made it seem like I was the problem. When I confronted him, he said “ I like peace in my life”. It was horrible. I ended things that week.
He didn't want true peace,,,just wanted his own narcisstic selfish way. Distorted thinking and beliefs. Good for you to see through him and dump him,dust your feet...
Sister I say this with every teaching .. I’m trying to get into his classes .. he is the Truth.. HE TELLS IT ON BOTH SIDES !! WHAT BOTH MEN AND WOMEN NEED TO HEAR !! And APPLY .. TO MAKE CHANGES!
You all need to take things easy with your men it's not easy try to find out why he's the way he is don't fight with him or disrespect him in return it goes vise versal when you disrespect your man you are a little girl ....little girls humiliate little boys bcuz they haven't grown up
On the contrary, they LOVE themselves more because they feel women are less than. Men like that only want women for sex, and resent them for it when they dont give them what they want or ask for something in return. Hence the name calling, verbal and physical abuse.Whenever they cant get over on a woman- that woman is almost always referred to as a B****!!!
He was 38ys old, he was a grown man throwing tantrums like a child. I didn’t deserve the verbal and emotional abuse he put me through. I kept giving him the benefit of a doubt. I kept making excuses for his actions. I couldn’t see myself living the rest of my life on eggshells. I got to the point where I no longer liked the monster he became when he would verbally assault me. He thought I would never walk away, he found out the hard way. It’s going to take me years to heal from his abuse. I’m pagan but the message you gave has no boundaries thank you good sir. 🌹
Amen. As a woman I thank you. I raised my son as a single mother. A few years ago he asked me, " Mom why did you raise me to be a gentleman? These girls want the bad boys " I laughed and replied," Son I raised you to be a gentle man. A woman will always want to be with a true man. In this world, music and the male propaganda is teaching them that women are less than human. A wise man knows the value of himself and knows that he will only become the greatest version of himself is to have, love, and respect his woman." So preach on my fellow brother.
He may also be attracted to the women that like the bad boys. He may need to examine who he is attracted to. He may be overlooking the women that would appreciate him.
@@sylviaj270 I told him that he is a quality man and deserves a quality woman. He is 26 years old now and that was when he was a teenager when he asked me that question. I told him that the bad boys take quantity over quality.
@@RCBlakesJr. Pastor you have have a congregation of mostly women so you are capping or placating to that constituency. You should be looking at the cultural environment of society to see what is influencing the mind and soul of people in a unproductive way because nothing happens in a vacuum. We all play a role in making sure our society is healthy but it must first start with family structure
Thank you for this divine knowledge. Some men are so twisted that they claim their harm isn't "intentional" and that they don't mean to hurt you. They are simply "sorry" for hurting you but continue to break you down repeatedly.
Well, if they are sorry, then they will go get the help they need to heal and do better. Just saying you're sorry is not enough anymore. They need to put action to their words.
People can only do to you what you allow. From the man you date, friends, family, co-workers and your boss. If you do not call out the disrespect and set the boundaries then you will get more of it. You must define what your boundaries are and stick to them.
Exactly! I literally have a 0 tolerance policy when it comes to disrespect. Idc how old you are, if you’re family etc. you have one time to disrespect me and you will be checked. The second time you disrespect me you will be blocked and cut off indefinitely. Ppl think I’m mean an unforgiving, but I think that most people don’t understand that forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. Imo the church keeps a lot of women in bondage with how they present the idea of forgiveness and loving thy neighbor.
@@talkswithjas7959 you are literally my twin flame. I couldn’t have said it better. I will check that man on the slightest disrespect, don’t care how built or hefty he is! To be quite honest, I have taught a few men how to be respectful and thoughtful, Hell I have even had an ex seek therapy when I was done with him. We as women need to be stronger to speak up. Speak and not tolerate disrespect from our dates, husbands, sons, brothers etc
Kinda true but at same time you can't control everyone. At work you can't always walk away. And I noticed that if you demand respect sometimes they disrespect you anyways still. So calling it out doesn't really work in many situations. Can a leopard change his spots. "What you allow" comment puts all the blame on the woman.
Trent Shelton says (and I agree) to stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn't meant to work. You can't force someone to care about you. You can't force someone to be loyal. You can't force someone to be the person you need them to be. Sometimes the person you want most is the person your best without. You got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be. Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay. Don't lose yourself by trying to fix what's meant to stay broken. You can't get the relationship you need from someone who's not ready to give it to you. And you might not understand why now, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of Why things didn't work out. Don't put your happiness on hold for someone who isn't holding on to you. Some chapters just have to close without closure.
Unfortunately, too many of these men secretly hate their mothers and treat women with the same hate and disgust! It's psychological and spiritual! Dr. Ford
I do agree. There is a large number of men who really have a deep down disdain for women in general. Just a terrible experience now days to encounter one of these immature men anywhere. They're some real haters loose among society.
@@Bright-It Ya know E nothing this group of guys do won't surprise me but just when you think you've heard and seen it all they surely come up with something else more absurd like this MGTOW! ( men going their own way) movement. Truly the whole notion is so sad and messed up! Since they appear to be seeking out women who aren't aware of their hateful antics they're sure slow by taking their leave! I'm yet to see one successful whole package from one of those deals! They may achieve some level of success in certain areas but it will never ever be as good as it could be without a woman in it. This seems to be what they secretly realize and hate but will never bring themselves to admit, Oh well. I try to avoid this type of man at all cost!! They are real bad news to anything you may have going that is positive!!
Yes, that rap culture that goes hand in hand with that prison system has birthed homosexuals that hate women & caused so much disrespect. No moral compass whatsoever.
I’m an atheist so I doubted Id get anything out of this but I decided to be open minded and listen and boy am I glad I did. I wish everyone would listen to this. It has immense value regardless of your religious background.
@@lethalviolet I'm glad ladies that you enjoyed this. I love Bishop Blake's myself. I'm tired of the disrespect in this world towards human beings. I hope this helps, p.s a women who loves Christ ...
Amen! I am 38. I have never been courted or treated carefully. I morn for myself and decided to be single because I will not be disrespected any long because I have come into knowledge. If I never get married or walk this life physically alone I guess it is what it is. My Heavenly Father understands.
The thing about that is sometimes we stay single so long that we get comfortable in it and then we don't want to share our lives with anyone because it feels like a major inconvenience.
This made me cry bc it's so *TRUE* my husband (52 years old) sometimes says things to me that my grown sons (20, 25 & 28 years old) wouldn't say to a woman. I'm watching this so I can try & do my part. If he doesn't change soon, I'll be living on my own. Thank you Pastor....
When someone shows you who they are. Believe them. Until people are aware of the toxicity they bring to the table and seeking to correct it. Thus, by getting self help I.e counseling and going to God.. they are showing they’re not willing or seeking to change. So just have personal awareness. I’ve disrespected my partner and he’s disrespected me. I’m choosing to leave to become better so that I can attract better. All while he attempted to normalize our disrespect. I’m 25 and I wouldn’t be ok with my children experiencing what he’s trying to normalize. He was bold enough to disrespected me in front of his child. I almost fell back into accepting him, but I realized that if it makes me unhappy. It’s not worth my time. Have awareness and remember you’re valued.. and deserving of better, but it starts with you! There’s a lesson in everything.
My 20-year-old son treats me like crap. No, you can't come live with me when you go to college. He moved out in April, and I can finally be myself instead of stupid, loud, annoying, bitch, argue, argue, argue.😞💔 I don't want him here. He thinks I'm a joke. I don't get ripped off anymore either.
This makes me sad that women have to experience such hurt from men. I’ve been married 22 years and I’ve stayed mostly for the kids. I’m now questioning if it’s the right thing. I really do want happiness and peace. Praying for all of you and thank you for the message pastor 🙏
Personally I disrespected myself because I was sexually abused my entire childhood by grandfather. My mother was abusive as well. I learned that abuse was okay and I abused myself and disrespected myself when I was coming of age. I didn’t have role models or Jesus in my life. I dated disrespectful men and ended up in a lot of bad situations. I don’t think us women choose to disrespect ourselves I think we are taught that at a very young age specially when abuse is involved. Thanks for your message pastor.
I hope you know what happened to you as a child is not your responsibility. Please stop beating yourself with a hammer for something out of your control; and I’m so sorry that happened to you Fix your crown and move on
I agree 100% with your outcome of why you disrespected yourself. I did the same thing. I think most of us do. Now the people who are disrespecting, abusing, and neglecting us are the spoiled brats. And they were taught it's okay to be mean, you're number one, weren't taught to share, and were handed everything they wanted as a child. You know mommy's little boy or give that kid what she wants just to shut her up! They learned how to be fakes and manipulators. We grew up with them, played with them, and we married them. I'm 67 yrs. old now. I divorced when I was 38 and never remarried. It's hard having a good heart in this mean nasty greedy world. I wouldn't want to come back here for all the treasures on earth. Thank God for Jesus and the Holy Spirit!
I so agree with you. It is taught. Where were our fathers? Did they not have a role in teaching us daughters how to be treated by a man?🤔🙄. As a child I didn't know what self respect was. I certainly wasn't respected.
Wow this is incredible!! Literally, just got out of relationship with a man that has the capability to be verbally abusive. He would pick fights. Would make remarks and comments about women in general. I was starting to see that he did not like women. I don't think he is gay but perhaps his experiences with women have triggered him to dislike them. Ladies, if a man argues back and forth with you that is not a good sign. A man who loves women will break his neck to smooth things over or makes things "right". Instead of trying to always be "right".
That tit for tat arguing is a clear sign of arrested development. If I have to witness that and it reminds me of when I go back and for with my toddler…enough said.
Sounds like my partner and I’ve broken away from him for the same reason. Verbal abuse, dragging me down, making me feel like I have to perform in the bedroom ( due to too much porn) and he moans about women and feminists and he talks with hatred. He tried control me, but thankfully I have my own place and would leave when he started his verbal. I ain’t taking no more it’s 2022!…time for change
Wow, this is why this false man has been coming after me: 1) mother wounds 2) frustrated sexuality 3) raised by pimps, no good role models 4) bitterness and self-hatred
Abusive men also look for women who have anxious attachments. There are anxious and avoidant attachments and the avoidant will usually attract an anxious women.
yes i agree. Ive experienced all this toxic behavior from guys, black n white and some women also. I stay alone n unattached. My feelings and my pride get too injured by the wrong guys taking me for granted and mistreating me. I like to be with one man, if he can be w/just me alone and doesnt get bored w/me and wants to pursue other women. Its a lot of duds out here in the world now. They can pretend perfectly and hide the truth so well that i have vowed to stay celibate before God and myself because i am frustrated and fed up. No guys are true, loyal n honest. Im better by myself. Thank u Jesus!
@@anndavis2920 Well, if you're a good person, out of billions of people on the planet, God has many more. Be patient dear, and when those dogs come, go the opposite direction! Never look back. Actions speak louder than words. Don't give up just yet, the right one will come in due season. Keep being the best you as possible, don't grow cold or shady due to their mistreatment, continue to love everyone. God has a special way of rewarding you😊
Amen! If a man is dragging his feet and/or stringing you along, put a stop to it. This line really resonates with me “I would rather have my heart crushed than to lose my self respect” your content is always inspiring and it hits the mark!
Yesssss I agree with you @RCBlake and you said even if we acting crazy you a man and never go to the point of wanting to hit or disrespect her in a abusive emotionally, physically and mentally
@@madelinebigio7565 Alcohol was introduced to the relationship. Plus, I was trash in a couple other areas. Particularly, insecurity. My first (19 years) marriage ended because of her infidelity. Before this 2nd one I had went 20+ years without drinking. Oh yeah, I've preached at several Pastor Anniversaries. Owe it to my son, myself, women and Society to keep looking in the mirror.
@@bmizzle1074 Remarriage after divorce if a previous spouse is still living is adultery according to the Bible. You cannot remain a Christian in that adulterous state. ==> He [Jesus] answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:12) ==> By law, a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress (Romans 7:2-3). ==> A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:39) (You can live alone, but cannot remarry) I WAS IN THIS SITUATION MYSELF- (I vacated the unlawful relationship)
As a Christian, I've learned to get my sense of validation as a woman of high moral character from God because He loves me without condition. I have not been in a long-term relationship in 7 years because I've setup healthy boundaries in my life. Thus far, my healthy boundaries have helped me to avoid getting connected to a person in an "unequally yoked" relationship. However, people keep telling me that I'm going to miss "the 1" for me due to my high moral standards for myself and others. The joke is on them because they don't realize that "the 1" who's a good fit for me in a long-term intimate relationship will appreciate me for having a high level of self- respect and high standards in my life! 🙌🏽
Plus, the Lord knows your mate. Therefore you don't have to settle for anything. There is plenty of anything out there. But as the saying goes, you can do bad all by yourself. Damn sure don't need a fool adding anything unhealthy to your life.
I walked away from my ex recently. When he was angry, he called me the most vile things and it escalated. Happy that I said no more. I am still dealing with hateful emails though.
I keep my earphones on all day listening to you Bishop. I put the volume up as high as I can to avoid listening to the one who stole 26 years of my life. Thank you for helping me wake up to learn to respect myself to know that I am a strong woman. I will start working at the end of the week save my money get my own apartment and my own vehicle and experience life for the first time a life of honor respect and peace.
I start March 7th. I'll work until the day I'm gone. I believed a convincing person and trusted that their words were true. Only to give up my independence to be yelled at, cursed out, pushed around, disregarded, ignored, made to feel like a sex object. And I put up with all of it because I had no respect for myself. I'm so ready to get my own place and I swear to never make this mistake again. I hope things are great with you.
My daughter have been on a first date the guy asked her, have you got a beard, you look older than I thought you were , she wore leather pants, he said do you were jeans? She came home feeling sad, what a jerk. She blocked him
Amen I totally agree with you yes I truly Bless GOD For this Awesome MOG and His Beautiful Wife (Queen) Praying GOD Continue To Bless They Entire Family
Thank you for this message ❤ I am fed up with being disrespected by toxic men in my family and neighbourhood. lt is despicable behavior from men who set out to hurt us as children, degrade us as mothers and wives.
This music brings tears to my eyes. God is wonderful, I can’t thank him enough. People who know me and my husband in our area. They know what we have been through and how long it took us to be successful and where we are at the moment. If you are familiar withe scriptures, I mean the word of God you can tell that Jesus always talked about destiny helpers and I met mine 6 years ago.. I met Mr Andrew in a church seminar 6 years ago. He is a young man with a good heart. God used him to change my life and the lives of people around us. It was a huge step we took and we do not regret it. I always talk about him everywhere pardon me. If you are out there and loosing hope I want you to know that God has plans for everyone of us. i feel my story should encourage a lot of people. I will drop info of him below
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Thank you RC Blake's!! I was in a very toxic possessive relationship with a narcissist he loved bombed me then he devaluated me and then he discarded me like trash. I Never had an idea that I was with a man child this man that I thought was mature at first never really grew up he had abandonment issues insecurity issues and he projected all his insecurities onto me. Thank God I left him it's been 9 months now I know the red flags and I will never be with a man child ever again.🦋 I hope Eric gets help and let go of his ego!
This is great and good for you and your renewed strength to let go. I want to offer that when you fully let go you will forget his name, not mentioned his name, not be concerned about his well being ego or anything. Let him go fully 100percent. Recog I've the mask he showed you and the real person behind it who cherishes hurting people. You are beautiful loveable and loved. Stand in that light and continue to move on. Daughters of God don't break for jerks. And the next time there is one red flag, just one, back up several steps. Seeing him daily and a red flag occurs, see him monthly. End it is better yes even after just 1 red flag. Why wait for 2 you're a fabulous woman with options.
we very rarely listen when we teach about relationships or just about men but our eyes/ears are perked and in tune when the talk comes from a man! it's powerful to see when that happens...
I will never forget hearing a narcissistic man say that the only reason he will ever need a woman is to make babies! That is seriously how they view us and it’s so sad and sickening!
This is really blessings me. My ex husband respected his mom, showed her so much respect and cared for his daughter. But behind closed doors he wasnt the best to me. He disrespected me, publicly, humiliated me, verbally abused me, totally broke my self esteem. I allowed this behavior as his wife trying to talk to him explained how i felt, it never worked. He would cheat, lie to me, etc. I didn't understand it.
This is why it is so much rubbish to think if a man treats his mother well then he will treat you well too. Rate a man based on what is in front of you, not what he displays to the public.
I had a great grandfather that taught me how I should me treated by men by his example. I’m 49 and still unmarried by choice unless I find someone who meets those standards. 🙏🏼💜🦋💖 Amen for this message! My generation beyond has deteriorated humanity with no basic manners and principles. But, if you respect yourself as a woman, be aware you might never marry because they’ll always be a woman who will be willing and less than!
Same! I will never forget my grandfather walking with me down the street and I would try to walk by the curb. He said a woman should ALWAYS walk on the inside and a man should be between her and the street. If a man doesn't do this, don't be with him. I still live by this rule.
I'm not your age yet but I have to agree. It's so sad because they are really choosing less of themselves but bishop spoke nothing but truth. What real men argue with women?Make it make sense🙃🙃🙃 I once had a man tell me that many many yrs ago and he was right....
When you oust a toxic person from your life their energy remains in your thoughts, emotions and the physical surroundings you shared. It takes while for the decontamination and cleanse to happen. O..but when it does you smile, begin to laugh again and feel joy. And that person looking back at you in the mirror is once again becoming someone to value and love no longer an unhappy shadow. Thank you Mr. Blakes for helping to get here with your teachings. I send you my love and respect.
I was living with an abusive husband for 24 years x my self esteem was totally destroyed x I started building up my self esteem by reading lots of motivational books x I didn't take divorce into consideration as my church would exclude me x so with 5 children I thought that I couldn't take my church rejection x the last drop was on a Christmas Eve 8 years ago when if my oldest son wasn't home I wouldn't be alive today x I am a free woman since, living in a different country and having all my 5 children with me x I left my country with a broken heart x my pastor rebuked me x it was so painful x thank God that He made a way for me x in those 8 years my Lord healed me and made me whole again x I forgave everyone who ever hurt me x I pray that many women listen this message and love themselves x I love myself now x
You poor woman I can't even comprehend what you've been through a special with five children I'm sure it was very difficult. And I'm so happy to hear that your oldest son was there so that you are still able to live in have another chance at a good life with you and your family may God watch over you and continued happiness. Thank you for sharing your story.
@@jeannierusso2134 that's only half of my life' story x what's best is yet to come x I wrote a book about my experiences during the communist regime, my marriage and relocating to another country x Caught behind the Iron Curtain x I would like to encourage young women to respect themselves enough and not accept ever to be humilieted x
@@lidialupes3763 thank you for your reply and I'm wishing you continued happiness and I'm glad your children are all with you.. if I don't respond my phone is going to be going off but it will be coming back on.. I'm running out of minutes or data or something so please take care
Praise God! I'm so glad that you had the courage to walk through the parted sea that the Lord provided for refuge. Also praise be to God for your sons courage and determination to assist you. Our pastors and ministers are not our God. Praise the Lord for that. May you and your children live in continued peace, safety and well being🙏🏼💪🏼😘🌅👏🏼🥳🎉💐🌞!
Been listening for a few months and this is so enlightening. I’ve been in a pattern of seeming weak, self hating men trying to heal them and when they project it onto me, I internalized it as something wrong with me. No, it’s a reflection of their immaturity and self hate.
We have to carry ourselves as God fearing ladies dress modestly but classy and speak words of kindness not cursing and show people in general we value the gift of womanhood The right man will respond accordingly if he's smart My mother told me before she passed hold your head up high because your a lady 💛❤
There are toxic tubers pitching HORRIBLE things and men LISTEN and AGREE! We are all entitled, money-grubbing whores using men for EVERYTHING, and we get PREGNANT to trap them. These men are so MAD!😭
1. Childish perspectives of men; 2. Men hate women; 3. The woman doesn't respect herself; 4. The respect of a man is rarely celebrated by a woman, but the disrespect of a man is pursued with passion.
Ladies, we need to stop giving it away easily! You will see how things will change for the better if we all start doing this. RC, I also believe men act this way now because of the internet and all the options they now have. Another great video, thank you.
Just went thru a tirade of vile verbal abuse by a co worker for NO REASON. All I said was "be careful" when he was fixing something. Oh...the names I was called, him saying he hated me over and over. It came out of nowhere. The customers were appalled, disgusted and terrified.
This talk is divinely ordained. People we are in trouble. Everybody who felt this in their spirit needs to repost. This is the message that needs to go viral.
It's that broken consciousness that make ladies want or choose a disrespectful man over a solid, consistent, kind, man, i'm glad i've always liked reserved, respectful, solid, kind and ambitious men. Ladies we deserve to be treated well. Let's elevate.
I am a seasoned woman who does not look her age. At work I have noticed men with big egos. Some treat women abusively when they befriend them. Some feel threatened by them. It's the boys vs men. It's like they are clueless and were never taught what is respect. I realized it's the results of parenting. Never have I seen so many narcissists as today. Love your channel
My ex was jealous of me and would compete with me. I never understood this. How can you be with a woman that YOU ARE JEALOUS OF??? She is WITH YOU so obviously she saw the good in you as a man, yet you are her biggest enemy. So sad.
@@Wholelottarosie-lc8ed and that is VERY prevalent today. Alot of guys (not MEN) tend to be jealous of women perhaps because alot of us nowadays are independent, strong, smart, successful etc. I've seen it to be very common
It’s also because their mothers allowed men or a man to devalue her … so the boy feels a betrayal to his mother when he treats his women like a Queen ……this is not our fault ,if he doesn’t want to acknowledge where he is …and wants to be healed ,then he needs a woman like his mother and not a Queen 💪🏾💋
ive been abstinent since 2013 and still counting. Its hard but i want respect from a mature man and no players/haters are allowed in my life no more. This happened in my past and its a waste of my time and energy. I value my time and i want a man that i can be proud of.
Disrespect for women has always been around but has increased since the 60's and 70's when women started demanding less of men. Absolutely right about the negative attitude in many churches towards women. Very good message.
women have become so co-dependent that they have lost self love and respect for themselves n dont like to be alone so they have opened themselves up to all kinds of evil from guys who hate women because they are jealous and envious of women. So sad.
The 60's and 70's was the sexual revolution and the women's movement. Can't get us pregnant anymore? Abortion is legal? No-fault divorce? These distespectful young men and narcissistic young women is what happens when women go to work and nobody is there when the kids get home.
I kinda disagree bcz modern society wt the gay community on the rise, and so many street drugs, prostitutes everywhere, women are treated very badly these days, hope it gets better.
This is a power structure. Women’s Lib. Aka the Feminist Movement TOTALLY LIED 🤥to women by saying after the invention of Birth Control Pills 💊- WE can now date freely like a man & have casual sex.
Prostitution and drugs have corroded the human society since the dawn of time..stop blaming gay community for the things you wouldn't blame straight community for
I have tears in my eyes, just walking away from a disrespectful man. Thank you pastor Blakes. What an eye opener this is. You are truly a man of God. I really needed to hear this.
There is a dislike from some men towards women , there are many men that are secretly fighting their own sexuality, so he lives his life as a lie, and the women will be abused , whilst the facade to keep up family life plays out . ‘Man child ‘that is a great understanding of some of these men . RC Blakes blessed new year to you and your family , thank you for the great teachings as always .
It takes for a woman to respect herself which includes loving herself and knowing her worth not allowing herself to be manipulated misused or abused be prepared to say no to any given situation that does not regard her uniqueness and value
I just broke up with someone soon after started listening to pastor I was so stressed but after listening I'm ok and healed not even thinking about him or worried any more I'm just in Peace 🙏thanks Pastor you were sent really by God🙌🙏❤
This was a great message. I watch the dysfunction between black men and black women explode all over social media and its very discouraging. Some of what bishop said resonated with me as well. i was that guy that was always being dissed for being kind, courteous and respectful... Now I dont even want to try. Keep the truth coming Bishop
Sometimes "great" men are attracted to or succumb to no good women the same way "great" women are attracted to or succumb to no good men. When you constantly draw negativity in relationships it's deep rooted hurt and insecurity.
Glad to hear that don't worry real ladies have appreciation and respect for you don't let the world fool you. Now the big issue is for the two of a kind to meet good people are humble so aren't as loud it's the Preders that have a keen sense to smell you out and hunt you down. Discernment is very important.
I think some of the lack of respect for women comes from the abundant amounts of pornography that's so readily available and all of the men that watch it regularly including "church going" men. We've been reduced to dirty play things. It's hard to respect that.
I have a male friend who will send me 30 second pornography clips of him and his wife having sex. He doesn’t even say hi or ask me how I’m doing, just dirty clips. It’s unbelievable. I wonder if she knows
@@anid7777 FAXXXX 🔥🎯🔨 There's a "MAJOR" difference in a "TRUE CHRISTIAN" and someone claiming "CHRISTIAN" in vain!!!! That's why Christ said he's going to tell them, " I NEVER KNEW YOU!" MT 7:21-23
Dear Pastor. Finally here at 70 years of age I am hearing God's truth from You in such a way that I am getting childhood healing and understanding of my deceased parents and grandparents etc. So Grateful to have The Grace and strength to deal with my own children and grandchildren to give the words they need to hear and just love until they are willing to listen. SO GRATEFUL
Omg it’s been years since I heard a mature , genuine Man speak like this. This brought me to tears 🥲. Thank you so much for your platform and sharing your wisdom.
That disrespect is more prevalent with American men, sadly. My husband was extremely respectful to me and my children but he was born in Jerusalem and grew up in the Middle East. He passed two years ago but I was very lucky and I chose it that way. ❤️
This all makes perfect sense. As I got more education and started loving and respecting myself more based on all of my accomplishments, I elevated my expectations and expected better from any man in my life as well. Once I saw myself as a rare and high quality woman, I expected a high-quality man. I was no longer willing to settle for less. Great teaching. Now that I will be age 75 next month, it's too late for me to ever find a life partner now, but my life experiences know that RC Blakes, Jr. is right on with his messages.
yeah its never too late, im younger and I agree once you elevate yourself , the confidence grows too but the thing is that 80% of men at least few men who have talked to me became disrespectful in the process. Some not interesting in getting to know you , dont want to listen and have nothing to say on what you say and if you comment on what they say they dismiss it. I have learnt to walk away from this and not entertain them, I use to even male coworkers because only one would talk to me mostly . I find when you are open and talk easily to people , the ones who talk easily and willing to talk to you would become disrespectful at some stage. I would entertain them because only one person at work would talk to me more, and same in friendship with men. Not all the time but it happened many times. Now I decided I dont, I still have a few people to interact with and im busy but I let go of my last male friend who after knowing him for 5 years made strange comments and screamed at me on the phone several times for having a normal conversation. I will focus on myself and hope to find a female friend.
If I had known you earlier, I wouldn't have sold my soul to the devil and allowing myself to be so used and disrespect by men. You changed the way I look at myself as a woman, in order to attract God's sent husband. Self respect, self love. Take self care. Amen pastor. God bless you abundantly🙏🙏🙏
Such a powerful message i was destroyed in my 7 years of my last relationship of alot of belittling and torn down as a woman and a mother to our children i had to walk away last march and had to start healing this really spoke to me, thank you for your teachings you bring to us pastor Blakes 🙏
Thank you Pastor Blake's! I divorced my husband because he did not respect me, his marriage or his sons as a father. He pretended to be one way while we dated and a year later...l saw the real him. I divorced him and never looked back and raised my sons with the help of my mother and father as their role model. Again, thank you Pastor Blake's!
Thank you for your teachings! At 61 I thought I was ready to get back out there and I’m finding out age does not necessarily make the man genuine or on the same level I am on. Still lying unnecessarily and stringing women along. Is there a prize for who can destroy the most women in this life? I know my worth and thank God for your teachings! I refuse to allow myself to be broken again!
yes he will because is he is not secure and projects his hate for the woman at the woman and sabatoge a potential relationship/or the relationship he is in and runs a good mature woman away but places blame on her instead of being honest and truthful to himself about himself n his motives. Immaturity at its finest.
So true. In some cases it's because she's not entertaining him like he wants her to, so now his fragile ego is broken because he feels rejected. Alot of grown little boys out here are carrying fragile egos and they HATE rejection. So, one of the many petty things they do is deceptively scheme and make her look like someone she's really not to others and tries to make themselves look good. One of the many narcissistic ways that is very common.