Recognizing ADHD in Adults | Heather Brannon | TEDxHeritageGreen 

I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

Anyone else with ADD listening to the video but simultaneously reading comments and thinking about what the video is saying but also have a mental response to all the comments?

The first time I watched this video I cried copiously; It really hit me hard. Never before had I seen such a rich and detailed description of my own life. I can relate to every little thing listed, literally every one of them. I'm 40 now, but throughout life I'd convinced myself (and been told) I was simply lazy, unfocused and even unprofessional, but now you're giving it a name, and I thank you for that.

Perfectly explained. Constantly in crisis. Cannot take care of myself or my home like I should. Cannot get organized to save my life, I constantly feel behind, etc. I feel so heard 🥺🥺

that is also my problem when it comes to choosing a career, every job seems either boring or too overwhelming, there's like no in between

It's kind of funny how listening to her describe parts of my life in detail made me realise how many coping mechanisms I put into place to deal with problems that other people don't have

At my 37 years last year, I finally figured out what is wrong with me, the shame, frustration, anxiety has tortured me since my childhood. The diagnosis is life changing!

I spent 43 years trying to deal with ADHD on my own, and was consistently recognized as very good at my job, but not quite at the top level because I was inconsistent. I reluctantly decided to go on medication and was recognized as #1/357 in my career field the following year. The greatest gift of the medication was the reduction of anxiety, which allowed me to prioritize, which allowed me to focus on what’s most important. Now it seems obvious to make the major things the main things. Previously everything felt like a five alarm emergency.

I'd add in the story about Tom, he may be hiding that mail, because it still "feels" important. So while the outside observer thinks it's a simple out of site out of mind thing, Tom is haunted by that mail and it makes him sick and he's hiding something as simple as that from people who love him 😔

To be honest, I'm really impressed that "Tom" put the mail in the same place each week!

I was diagnosed with ADHD 18 years ago as a teenage. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

Thank you for speaking so slowly and clearly and giving us ADHDers time to process what you’re saying 🙏 🥺

One difference with me regarding the 'not doing things because they are boring/uninteresting until things get desperate' piece of the adhd puzzle is that, for me, I don't think it's a boredom/not interesting enough problem. I often have anxiety surrounding the completion of a task - even a simple task such as answering an email or reading a response to a message I have sent - sometimes the anxiety is totally unreasonable and unexplainable - but it nevertheless prevents me from doing the task. Eventually the cost of not doing the task (i.e the water being cut off for not paying a bill) becomes higher than the anxiety caused by the thought of doing the task, and then I manage to complete what is often a very simple task.

"These people are living their life in crisis all the time." Me 😩🤯

These adulthood responsibilities are making my ADHD symptoms much more conspicuous than they initially were

I struggle socially because of ADHD. I stay reserved because almost everyone I interact with cannot comprehend my way of communicating. I've been like this since 6th grade [age 12] it has shunned my social skills and developmental growth.

Lol just showed this to my mom, the response? I’m spending more effort and time trying to prove to myself and everyone that I have ADHD than doing the work I need to do LMFAO don’t you love it 😂

This was explained so well. I struggle to put into words how ADHD impacts my life. The shame and anxiety are no joke. I completely agree that medication can be extremely effective. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 37 (last year), and my life has completely changed since receiving treatment.

I’ve always explained it with this analogy: having ADHD is like your brain is a puzzle… that was dropped from the top of the Eiffel Tower… and I am at the bottom trying to put the pieces together- seeing everyone else with their puzzles put together while I am overwhelmed, anxious, and pressured with just trying to put the pieces together. When ppl react negatively to the point that ppl with ADHD don’t do things bc they aren’t interesting, it’s enraging bc I’m not just sitting here avoiding everything bc I don’t find it amusing. I’m not consciously avoiding things most of the time, it just does that. Having the right medication was life changing.

Listening to this made me teary especially the part where she says most are perfectionists. I have been to 6 different universities and changed courses/programs for 5 times and at 25 still doing my undergrad while working. In a span of 23 months, I have been with 7 companies. I have wasted a lot of resources, money, and opportunities in my life. I couldn't finish anything and my mother keeps on telling me that I always stuck in the starting line. 😢

So many ADHD tedtalks get it so, so wrong. Thank you for doing your part and being so informed.

I'm over 30 now and I just assumed everyone was like this -_-

"In their minds the only way to counter the shame of not getting things done it and then hearing about it is to do it perfectly." And thus not getting things done and feeling even more shame until the pressure gets to high. This! Like so many others commenting here: I cried as everything she says in this talk hits home.

I literally bawled in tears when you talked about the shame, because that's how I feel. I don't want to be like this, I try really hard not to be like this, yet I still am. As for the perfectionist part, I go back over work I've already done and wake up at 3am, wondering whether or not I have actually done the work I've done and will literally keep myself awake, debating whether or not I should check that I have actually done it or just hope that I have and that it all won't go terribly wrong. The shame and trauma is constant. I'm not diagnosed, but 99% certain I have ADHD

I'm crying, this hit me so hard. I'm not diagnosed but I've struggled all the time, especially now. I'm doing a research because the school it's too much for me and I need answers... I'm asking for help but my family doesn't trust me about having ADHD (I'm a woman from Mexico and the stereotypes are strong)

Thank you, thank you for this video. I was just diagnosed with inattentive ADHD last month (age 39). For so long I thought there was something wrong with me as a person. That I was a failure. That I was just bad at life. Shame, anxiety, perfectionism... You hit the nail on the head. It's hard to explain it to others and it's hard for others to understand because all they see are the outward results, or rather, the lack of results, caused by the disorder. They don't understand why I can't just handle everything the way they do. They don't understand the constant internal struggle and anxiety and feelings of worthlessness. I hope my husband will watch this with me because it explains everything so well. It's comforting to know that I'm not alone.

The mail scenario is my life. Literally. She knows what she's talking about

brought me to tears. I am just now realizing at 37 years old why I have struggled throughout my entire life.

living a life of hidden shame...wow...that is literally me.

I have gotten to the point that my inner monologue is abusive. It's like if I tell my self I am a worthless failure then it won't hurt as much when the people I fail confirm it to me. Cause I knew all along.

I have fought these same issues my whole life. Asking a million times" what is wrong with me???". I can't believe the hope this woman has brought me.

The same way i am haunted by my pile of mail, i am haunted by every text response i never sent, by anything i've ever borrowed and never returned (i just dont borrow things now. and if you think i forgot to return something to you, or text you back, i did not forget. i think about it every day). It's a constant list that runs through my head at all times, alongside the papers i never wrote, the degree i never finished, the kickstarter campaign rewards i never finished, the crafts intended as gifts i never finished, etc... all wrapped up in a quilt of shame and embarrassment and white lies and fear that if i told the truth of my failures people would think that i am nothing but a lazy fraud. I know i have ADHD and the worst part about it is that its so bad that i can't possibly FATHOM making a doctors appointment and getting the help i need. The voice in my head constantly telling me "you've never been able to do anything, what makes you think you will do anything now?".

This woman literally reminded me that I need to pay my water bill. It's currently in my coat pocket, you know, so I don't forget to pay it.

The struggles are real! I'm 46 and have my first psychologist visit next month. I'm 95% sure I have ADHD. I get distracted all the time. I'm a construction estimator and price jobs from $10k to $6-10M. Yesterday I found out I totally missed pricing for a drawing detail that was worth $73k - Thankfully we haven't signed the contract for that project yet and we can add that to our bid....but that's the constant anxiety I live with - someone distracts me and I forget to finish what I'm doing. Plus, on the same day, the banana I had for lunch wasn't fully ripe. Nothing to do with my ADHD, just thought I'd mention it

Worst part about watching this? Having to rewind every other minute, because something she said was relatable and now my mind was focusing on that, and nothing she said afterwards was registered.

Constant conversation inside one’s head, hard to build confidence, anxiety as an effect of adhd, WAITING FOR THE OTHER SHOE TO DROP, either mundane or overwhelming. I’ve never felt more seen in my life.

I have been seeing a therapist for anxiety for almost a year. And stumbled upon ADHD...and things are starting to make sense to me now. I just wanna cry honestly.

adhd is a never ending curse... a nightmare with no way out... i feel like a failure and wish i was dead, i cannot manage to do anything no matter how hard i try...

Just got my diagnosis at 24 and got on Adderall about two weeks ago. It’s been night and day. I don’t procrastinate anymore, I’m way less anxious, and I can keep up with work, school, family, and keeping the house clean. I’m so thankful I can function and feel “normal” now. And being more productive has helped my confidence as well. Total game changer for me.

I recently got diagnosed with ADHD and autism, which clears up so much about my entire life. Everything you've said - everything - describes my life and I want to cry. The soul crushing nature of work is just physically painful to endure day after day after day. If I had the choice, and didn't need money for the right to live, I'd quit and stay home. It's a horrible physical and mental pain that far exceeds what neurotypical people experience. "Oh work is hard, but it's doable." And yeah, we can do it, but it's 10x harder for us to reach a neurotypical person's average.

I’m 65 and I’ve lived like this for YEARS! Only after reading about autism/Aspergers syndrome did I find out about ADHD. I then knew this was ME! I am seeing my GP next week and asked no him for a referral to a specialist.

I've been considering getting tested for adhd for awhile now, and while I feel like it's a good idea, I'm also really scared that I won't be able to get the correct help. Or that I'll get told that nothing is wrong and get over it, because I've been told that so much in my life.

This is one of the most succinct explanations of ADHD, I tick so many of the boxes she mentioned

"Living life in crisis all the time" That made me absolutely weep because nothing has summarized my life as succinctly as this phrase.

i really… REALLY need to get tested… but the process of getting a doctor’s appointment is overwhelming😵‍💫

Me with ADHD…. Scrolling my phone in the middle of the talk. 😬

I was diagnosed 2 years ago at 52. In my research and lived life experience the ADHD brain is how it should be. Its modern day society, rules, and conforming that keeps our brain like a Caged Animal. We need to find our strengths as earliy as possible and build our life around this. Picasso Quote; The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. 🇬🇧🙂Keep up your good work.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

As someone who felt so alone and confused when I was diagnosed with ADHD, unaware of what it really was, this video brought me to genuine tears. Thank you for putting into words exactly what ADHD is like both from the view of someone who has it and someone on the outside looking in.

I was just recently diagnosed with ADHD and for a while I still wasn’t sure I had it. This video helps reinforce my belief that I’m on the right direction though. So much of my anxiety came from what I now believe to be my ADHD. I was always having problems with executive functioning, getting overwhelmed easily, losing stuff, having terrible organizational skills, overthinking to the point that it’s harmful, being so bored by important things I need to focus on. The list goes on.

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I just found out, at 61 years old. I've had treatment for years, but was misdiagnosed as Bipolar disorder - rapid cycling. It turns out that I have both. When I found out, I was angry! My diagnosis came way too late. I missed so many years of my life. The characteristics that Heather describes are precise to what I experience everyday. If you're behavior resembles what she's describing, get treatment until you are satisfied that indeed the diagnosis is correct so that you don't spend decades of struggle like I did.

This seriously hit home with me! You detailed so much of what I feel and struggle with. Just figuring it out and feeling a lot of peace fo know I am not the only one feeling this way

I discovered thanks to my girlfriend that I had ADHD. It surprised me but it helped me a lot to understand what was happening to me. I can tell that it is very very very stressful most of the time, I get obsessed with stuff all the time, I struggle to study, get distracted by whatever... I can't believe that non of my teachers at school could see it, and they only looked for ADHD help for the most hyperactive guys, bullies, and in general guys that were up to no good, but couldn't see it on quiet guys like me. It all sounds kinda sad, but I have to say that thanks to ADHD, I have managed to be very active and fulfill the majority of my dreams cause I never gave up and I wanted to make my inner kid happy(obsession), and as I am perfectionist, I manage to have everything under control (under stress, of course). I'm about to receive help, and I am happy to take medication if I need to, cause my brain needs a rest, and I want to be able to study, going to sleep earlier than I do, and be less overwhelmed by my thoughts cause I genuinely think I will have a heart attack at some point... I found out this year (I'm 30 years old). I hope you all find the peace you need, I know is not easy. Hugs to everyone that suffers in silence, feel free to talk to me if you need someone that understands your situation.

I've been diagnosed with ADHD for around 3 years now (I'm almost 24) I've been on Vyvanse since I was diagnosed and I had started to gain a tolerance towards it so this past spring semester I started to see bad habits re-emerge. I took an internship out of state but my doctor said she couldn't send my meds across state lines so I would have to figure something else out. Even though she was wrong I procrastinated setting up an appointment (there's those old habits) I ended up moving to the new internship without a refill which lead to me being without my meds for 4 straight weeks until my GF came to visit and brought me mine. My life felt like it was crumbling apart. I was late for meetings, missed deadlines, & got extremely sensitive to rejection (RSD) to the point I avoided most social interaction. Ordinarily it doesn't cause this amount of anti social behavior but I knew absolutely no one here, so I could never be myself and I second guessed myself constantly. I got my medicine back and since I've been able to accomplish so much, it's like a fog lifted off my head. I feel so much more confident and self assured. If you have ADHD and arent medicating, do it. It's a huge difference.

I’m ADHD and this is everything I hear all the time. Sometimes I feel like it’s a superpower and sometimes it makes me feel weak. I take the meds but I still am late everyday to everything. It’s a joke if I’m ever early or on time.

You just described my life. I have always thought I was lazy, inconstant, and disorganized. Thank you so much for this video

I am 90% Tom, and parts of the rest. I had once read an article on a woman who had ADHD, lightbulb 💡 moment. I got diagnosed at 55. My kids paid a price as I was not the best mom I should have been. But they are incredible kids.

Can relate! Procrastinating perfectionist is my name. I have to create fake “pressure” to get my patient charts done. Setting a timer to get five charts at a time done gives enough imposes just enough stress to focus and get the charts done without sitting and spinning my wheels over every little word.

This video made me cry 😢 it's incredible how you grow up believing it's normal or just part of your personality... it just describes it so well... I felt understood for once.

4:20 this is so me. I waste so much time procrastinating, doing nothing. And then whenever someone needs of my time, or let's say I'm at work, I keep think and stressing about how I could've been spending that time doing what I've been procrastinating on. But then again, if I would just not provide my time to someone else, or my job, I would still not do what I have to do. I'm not sure if y'all will be able to understand what I mean.

This is probably the best explanation of ADHD I’ve seen yet.

I been dealing with these things for last twenty years yet everyone around me think it’s wild that I could even be labeled having ADHD. Sometimes people learn how to hide it in the front end of things but in the back behind doors, it’s a battle zone. Thanks for inspiring me to finally talk to my primary care and walk this new path

Wow. The inside voice of negativity confirmed by the outside voices of negativity really got to me😢Unfortunately I got into abusive relationships too, so the voices putting me down were even greater. I got to the point I can no longer be in a relationship. I also have become less sociable and I keep my circle small. Undiagnosed for 52 years it’s really taken it’s toll on me.

I am getting anxious just listening to this woman describe parts of my life in so much detail!

I'm getting emotional listening to this. My mother was never the type to take time out of her day to seek help for her kids or herself. Growing up I realized it was because she is struggling with some severe mental health problems of her own. But then where does that leave me? I always felt weird and different. People around me made it look easy to just exist. So I didn’t understand why it felt so hard to me. Watching this video, I hope, will be the beginning of my self help journey.

4:48 this is exactly how it feels everyday! It’s either mundane and not worth my effort or overwhelming 😢

Ha they actually sent me for a hearing test when I was at school 🙈 I was trying so hard to listen. I could hear but couldn’t concentrate unless I was excited about what they said. I’m in my forties now and still find this so hard. It affects confidence so much and makes socialising a nightmare! Work is the worst. It’s exhausting! Overwhelming for sure!

I’m truly so glad i was diagnosed, late 20s but not too late. My father died from a drug related stroke, he died at 60. He never knew he had ADHD, instead lived his life in misery, trying to scrape for dopamine as often as he could. It was only through my diagnosis that I realised that he was suffering in the same ways I had been. I’m now correctly medicated, I’m now sober, and for the first time in my life, I feel whole.

I can’t put into words what this video has done for me. I have an appointment with my doctor tomorrow to see if this is why I’m having such a hard time. I cried the entire 8 minutes and 55 seconds. Thank you ❤

Wow! After a lifetime (almost 50 years now) of being anxious, desorganized, putting extra hours in work, but never getting the matching results and thinking I'm not normal and not clearly knowing why, this talk was a game changer. Just putting the finger on the problem was a revelation. I feel I can go forward now. Thx a million!!

For years I couldn't understand why it's extremely hard to focus and complete simple things. Family always pressuring me to this and that say I'm moving to slow not getting things done, it hurts when others don't understand how hard it is to clean up or grocery shopping. I've been to school did 6 different courses trying to accomplish something with my life and the frustration of not sticking to it.The time it took just to write this. comment. Reading these comments shows we're not alone in this. We are still gifted and talented we just learn and do things differently. You are incredible inside and out💛

This stay at home mum is on day 5 of treatment and everything rang SO true 🥺🥺

I got tested since I was little, and at one point the medical person that was guiding me said, "you are now 15, we can't do much, it is time for you to deal with it". So now, at 24 never take meds or try new things, so a lot of these things happen to me, and family and friends were arguing about it, and I was causing so much chaos, but now searching about it, I just realize I shouldn't feel bad, or lazy, I just need to make the best out of it and to not let me get down.

This is my doctor! She is awesome!!!! I love her! She understands me!!! ❤️

I’ve been struggling with focus and memory so much lately. My family has literally said “do you have to get your ears checked?” because they think I’m not listening. I become so overwhelmed at the littlest things and my immediate reaction is to start crying. I’m slowly realizing that I probably have ADHD and this video really helped me understand. I just wish I knew where to start.

Thank you Heather. Excellent talk!! I was diagnosed with ADD in my mid thirties. I am a 60 year old woman. Being diagnosed with ADD changed my life. I finally had a reason for being different. But that was only the first step in my ADD journey. The second step (hurdle) was the getting past the stigma of using medication. I tried everything possible to avoid using medication and nothing worked, I still seemed to screw everything up, so I finally broke down and ask my doctor for medication. It was like having and living with 20/70 vision and putting on corrective glasses for the first...my world came into focus for the first time in 35+ years! Medication isn't for everyone, but it was everything for me. Each person must have the ability to make their own decision about using medication or not, without fear of stigmatism or criticism. Back when I was diagnosed, there was more misinformation about ADD than accurate information. And the information that was available focused on kids with ADHD, not adults. So I hid my ADD in shame. I didn't want people to know I had a mental disability or deficiency. I even hid it from my husband for the first 5 years of our marriage. Although he now knows, we don't discuss it. He doesn't understand it and never will. Trying to make him or anyone understand this...understand and accept me and my brain, has generally been a futile waste of effort and energy. Only someone who has ADHD/ADD can begin to understand what life is like for us and the challenges we face. It's only been in the last 7-8 years that I've learned about the numerous and diverse ways ADD/ADHD can and does manifest and specifically how it manifests in me, which as Heather explained so well, is in the areas of executive function. Armed with that knowledge, and the resources to research and continuously learn more about my ADD, I've been able to turn my ADD into my superpower and finally have the successful career I always wanted! So for those of you who are recently diagnosed (or are yet to be diagnosed), make learning about ADHD and understanding how it is manifest in you a priority. It only took me 40+ years, but with the internet and the information now available at your fingertips, you can start learning and become your own advocate today. It's talks like this one by Heather and other people like Jessica McCabe that will help you figure out how to turn this 'disability' into your superpower! You can do it!

Watching this has confirmed everything that i have been feeling.

When she started saying "Because there is a solution!" I couldn't resist my tears! I ended up crying copiously in my office cubicle. No one should go through this! I am soon gonna be 31 and yet, I came to know about this 6 months ago. Unbelievable.

Might not believe me but this made me cry. I'm 32,just got diagnosed as an audhder and still out of meds. This spoke to my heart. I wish one day I will find the right professionist to help me properly.

Omg. I'm a very disciplined person and I've done well in my schooling and education. But when it comes to opening mails, cleaning the house, doing laundry....I get so overwhelmed. It's become a problem in my marriage and it's been so hard.

I am still in the process of figuring out if i have adhd and watching this video made my jaw drop. I am Tom, I am Sally, I am all those things and never even realized it could be something out of my control. Thank you for this amazing video!

This made me cry…I feel so seen and heard. Especially when she talked about how we sit in a meeting “seething” bc we’ve got so much to do and we are so bored and feel they are wasting our time

I already knew i had adhd for about 20 years now but hearing her talk about how we ignore or neglect things not interesting, or how things that excite us become boring halfway through, really puts it in perspective

Woww… this was explained so well…Question, does anyone else have a really hard time reading, like it feels almost impossible to read something long. E .g, article or book I’m currently halfway in about 6 different books, all great books but I just can’t pin myself to finish them. It’s so frustrating

I found this video after I called my doctor to make n appointment for a referral to get ADHD testing. Im really just now learning what this all means and im a 25 year old trying to become an LPN struggling so hard to prioritize and time manage to the point I hate my life and want to be in bed all day instead of even talking to my own boyfriend who I love with all my heart. This video really helped me to solidify that now is the time I get help so I can give myself the best chance at being happy.

The examples given were spot on the description of why not so much.. For me the procrastination isn't a matter of boredom it has to do with the executive function of switching tasks and understanding what individual processes have to be put together to complete the tasks..alot of time is spent processing what needs to be done to complete "simple" tasks. The addressing things when they become so big you have to take care of it comes down to hyperfocus everything outside of that one task has to not exist in order to pull the how to information processed into focus. Fight or flight changes the neurochemistry to help this happen. When I was young alot of shame was involved both self inflicted and by others to tell me I didn't add up to who I was "supposed" to be. Now that I'm older I understand and accept I am exactly who I am supposed to be and it isn't my purpose to fulfill some picture of who others want me to be . Their expectations aren't mine to carry. I am a responsible accountable dependable individual who does their best to make a positive difference. Thank you for this video for the compassion and biochemical information so that people understand it is biochemical not a "psychological " issue as in we aren't choosing to behave a certain way we are wired that way and have to learn useful mechanisms or accommodations to function when circumstances are not beneficial.

It's like she's talking about my life. I'm 70 now and I've been fighting this all my life and never knew what was wrong with me. Now I do. I'm getting help now and I will be seeing the doc. about starting meds soon.. But Why did it take so long after seeing so many reg. doctors. I got so tired of the doctors telling me that it's all in my head and put me down just because they didn't know what it was... Thank you for your great insight now my life has a new beginning. I guess its never to late...

I really cried on this video....it feels like she's talking exactly about me... I think it's finally time to do something about it...

This is everything I’ve dealt with all my life. This summer I had a diagnosis and I’m glad that I finally got my diagnosis

YES!!! Oh this made me cry. This is me!! And trying to explain why I have no time management skills is maddening. I think some task will only take an hour to finish, but it actually takes three. Or I think, “I’ll just do this for five minutes.” An hour later, I’m still doing it, thinking it’s only been ten. Medication has helped, but not entirely. I still have to use learned skills and tools to manage my ADD.

Being able to read again is the best thing about getting my ADHD treated.

I've seen so many TEDtalks before, but this is one of only two that make me start tearing up. Because she described my whole life in a 9 minute video.

This is why I never went to college. Too overwhelming, and still is. High school was a struggle to make good grades; over thinking, checking my work over and over, stressing because I felt it was never good enough. I wasn't diagnosed until 43, struggled through, not feeling like I was good at anything as a wife, mother, cook, or employee! I thought it was due to being stretched too far, and not knowing how to cope with all the life stuff (and my partner was a DUD). Now I only feel broken at 56. I have reached out for help again recently, there is hope!

I could only listen for 30 seconds until I found myself scrolling through the comments 😂

OMG about the mail! . . . that one example is my whole life. Cognitive difficulty, shame, perfectionism. I am so grateful to hear from someone who gets it.

Crying while watching this after messing up with some university procedure, I hat emyself so much, my mom just tells me I should be more responsible and read more carefully, I haven't been diagnosed but I want to so bad, my family do not think there is anything wrong with my brain, everyone have distractions that's what they tell me, I swear I'm on the verge, i'm so scared about what my life will be, causing trouble for everyone

The first step is to realize that the voice in your head, the "thinking" is not who you are. The real you, is the part of you that is aware of the thinking.

The most succinct summary of adhd I have heard.

I cry every time i watch this. The most concise & clear description of my (& I'm sure other ADHDers) struggles that i have heard