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I would like to see a video, on occasion, on this series with people who are not rich, but are doing "OKAY" and want advice on doing better. Maybe low-income but not in dire straits anymore. Think of these people as those who were on your show and actually followed the plan you laid out for them. Now they are still making the same income, but they want to know the next steps after digging out of debt. I know these people you invite on your show need more help by comparison, and I hope they continue to be your primary focus, but even Michael Bay movies have moments of laughter and sadness sprinkled in around all the drama and explosions.
I’ll take it a step further, spending $10K on tattoos while you have a kid - even if you pay cash and don’t use debt - is probably irresponsible (unless you’re earning way above the median which she is not)
Financed everything, 10s of thousands of stupid tattoos, mental health issues and an unplanned baby with a known deadbeat dad and she's 23. She's gonna be a real treat for the next man she ensnares
Took all of 10 mins to change from "he knocked me up and ditched us" to "i already knew he had kids when i had his and even though we broke up he still takes care of the kid" utterly comical
It was also a lil weird Caleb kept pushing about child support when they split the kid 50/50. Maybe he just wanted her to say it, but when you share custody equally there should be no CS.
It sounds like the bf was a super at the apt complex, which offered an apt on the premises once he was no longer needed at the job he had to leave. I'm not a detective or a genius 😂 but it sounds like the bf knew the end was coming and found a woman with her own place to move into . She's not placing him on child support bcuz I think she want to be with him still the fact that she replied with he's not with me when Caleb wasn't referring to the relationship with her it was his role as a father speaks volumes to me . She not only need financial help she need help accepting that break up as well
as a starbucks barista i see this episode and i feel sad. our coffee isn’t even that good 😭 we have so many regulars at our store and this episode is making me wonder how many of them are in debt. chocolate cream cold brew is alright (but the white chocolate macadamia is superior). cold brew is also really easy to make at home. buy a french press and make your cold brew in then fridge overnight. make the foam with some heavy cream, chocolate sauce, milk and some pumps of vanilla. i don’t wanna say the recipe but it’s definitely online somewhere. come on mamas!! you can do it
Been making my own cold brew for years and people are always blown away at how little I spend on it. Hell now you don't even have to make your cold foam!
I drove a Corolla and the kids' carseats took up the entire back. I didn't use a stroller and babywore because I needed the trunk for groceries and stuff. A stroller will take up an entire trunk. When I couldn't babywear any longer, we switched to a small umbrella stroller. None of that was fancy or especially convenient, but I haven't had a car payment in 20 years. She could have made do with one baby in a small car. She didn't want to. Also, as a first time mother, she probably bought on to the idea she needed more stuff than she had to have or could afford. Not everyone can breastfeed, but between ebf, cloth diapers, baby wearing, a convertible car seat, and led weaning, we spent next to nothing past the hospital copay type stuff for our second child.
I fit a car seat in a Dodge Neon just fine. Car seats are annoying and they honestly don’t fit well in cars. But the idea that you have to run out and buy an unaffordable car is insane. Use your problem solving skills, people!
@@heidiortiz9352Is it a 2-door? Also a Neon is quite a bit bigger than a Fiat 500. We had a 2008 Altima coupe and it was impossible to get a rear facing baby seat in the back.
@@Username0467maybe, from what he has said the idea is scary to him. I have seen guys like this, when their situation changes they flip so hard to being the most lovely and committed fathers. It's not so much that they never want kids, just they understand what it takes to have one.
How does he even know what an ad is😂 I guess they’re like “wtf pepa pig turned off, put it back on mother! Or I will double my poopy diaper output for the next month”
@@janegarnham yea - OR - she might just be a 23 yr old single mom who got abandoned, and immediately had to start paying an additional $1500 a month on top of being dumped and becoming a single mother - all at once - and is just trying to cope after getting blindsided by someone she thought she could rely on. There's nothing here to indicate there's "something wrong with her".
@@kctyphoon Maybe don’t have a kid with someone you’re not married too? Or someone with other baby mamas? People tell you the consequences of this kind of stuff over and over but you expect sympathy when the consequences inevitably happen. You deserve none. And she’s wasn’t abandoned you liar, they broke up and he’s still taking 50% responsibility for the kid. The guy has no obligation to stay with her anymore than she had to stay with him. Stop being a clown and accept accountability for your actions.
Even if they have a genuine mental health issue or learning difficulty, kids need to learn to behave appropriately and practice patience. The world isn't ad free.
I have a secondary investment account w Schwab. Only like 12k in there but several times a week I transfer some money into it and just buy something pegged to the S&P or a target retirement fund. Imna do it right now. Brb
I make $60k plus in California, but I bought a condo in 2019 and I can live comfortably right now. But if I had a kid, I wouldn't even think about tattoos if that was taking money from my kids future, college , doctors appointments, day care, etc etc.
@justablackdude5423 if I had a dollar for every time I heard a joke like that or someone snickering over either of those numbers, I would never have to work again. Those jokes just aren’t funny anymore
But then judge and local government don’t get a cut of that money. Child support file person pays years $ to Keith going (where does that go?) and gov gets a % of the child support check 😂
@@ElinWinbladat least in Illinois the local government doesn't have a say in the amount of child support it's entirely an equation of time spent with the child and both parents income. If it's 50/50 then there is no child support ordered here.
Not in texas btw. Even “50/50” there is still a designated primary care person and the non custodial pays 20% for one kid (5% each additional) BUUUUTT, daycare costs are not split, the primary pays it fully. Texas courts will award 20%, ncp pays health ins, and parents split medical expenses regardless of custody split. Her ex paying half of daycare is probably fair enough, but after my own experience with courts and lack of enforcement… id want official orders. But my ex isnt a reasonable adult with best interest of child on his mind
In this market, not really crazy. It’s pretty much impossible to afford a place without a roomate or partner. Atleast where I live and most places in US
@@maureen1386 Maureen. She can find new room mates, she can stay with family, she earns more than enough to afford a place where she lives so your point is null and void about how expensive it is. Stop making excuses for people’s bad behaviour.
@@maureen1386 I live on Cape Cod Massachusetts, so I get your point. With that said, she pays $1450 for what I’m guessing is a two bedroom. That’s do-able with her income. Here that would run about $2,400!
@@TKviews14 how am I making excuses TKVIEWS??? I’m stating facts of what it’s like in this country right now rent is pretty much impossible to afford I’m not sure how a single mother is expected to do it
She sounds like she went through it this year. Her kid is a year old and her bf broke up with her a year ago. She was admitted to the hospital for what sounds like a suicide attempt. The tattoos sound like her trying to buy things to make herself happy. But now she sounds like she's understanding she effed up.
"My kid would flip shit if he had to watch an ad" wow that is one of the worst parental statments ive heard in a long time. This kid is going to be a spoiled brat if she doesnt change that mentality.
@@joycef8443 there are perfectly fine educational things that could be watched by a child that young and you can't expect someone with a job to be actively doing things with their child all day cause they would never get any work done.
Yeah, seems like most women end up doing this and since “we must believe all women” men are automatically guilty until proven innocent. Women are innocent until proven guilty.
And she says "the child that I have"! Such disconnected and distancing language. I've heard a couple other parents on this show use similar wording and it always makes me cringe.
I honestly think she just got depressed by the whole baby daddy situation and gave up for a bit then realized how bad it is. She seemed like she really wanted to sort things out and get straight. I loved her honestly and wish her the best. She’s got this! ❤️
It could have been worse! Out drinking, getting with guys and spend it that way. She got tattoos instead. NOT SMART EITHER WAY. Could have been worse. With a very young child.
@@texaschica6056 do you watch this show often? the whole “it could be worse” thing doesnt make her situation much better. or for anyone else. more of a deflection than taking accountability
"You're gonna have another kid at this point, the way these credit card companies are f*cking you!" This one-liner was pure comedy gold right there!🤣 *Edit: Just thought to mention....if her brand new tires are "popping" every single time she replaces them, that's not incidental. Someone's slashin' her shit.
or the shop is scamming her, or she has terrible alignment, or she doesn't know how to inflate tires properly, or there's lots of bottles falling out her car that she runs over after getting sloshed
And all the artist at the shop having the inside joke that they will all tattoo her. Yeah, I get the feeling the joke they are laughing at and the joke she is laughing at are different jokes.
Let me get this straight. The guy is in his twenties and already had two kids. She knew this and still slept with the guy without any protection at all. Then blows significant portions of her income of wants such as tattoos? She has a real big problem with being able to make responsible decisions and can't take the accountability for her own terrible choices instead blaming her ex.
I had a friend who got with a female that already had 5 kids by...24 yrs old. 5 different fathers...hes the 6th..now years later I think she's at 8 or 9 kids ...no custody of any of them...😂 ppl are crazy!
That summarizes most western women these days. They've been brainwashed into believing they're all powerless victims of "The Patriarchy". But in actuality, the western world is far more of a Matriarchy, really.
Honestly I used to just think these types of chicks are braindead... then i meet the parents... especially fathers. If they're gone it's usually not a good outcome in the adult life of any kid male or female, but I've seen girls or women rather being treated like kids by their fathers and then wow, what a surprise, your 20yo daughter acts like a child when living alone after 20 years of you treating her like a child (not that moms are much better but usually they're the ones to be the soft loving forgiving parents, whilst with a father who's even more lovey dovey... yeah). Its very fascinating how these things that seem so harmless like daddy spoiling his little princess basically can completely destroy their lives as adults. And the worst part is, there's no growth being done as they blame everyone else but themselves... just like kids do. The older I get the more I see this.
As someone with a half sleeve and a husband with full, detailed sleeves, holy crap those tattoo artists LOVE ripping her off. She is their favorite, stupid customer to take advantage of. $1500 for some flowers is insanity.
Teaching kids how to deal with turning off the TV/iPad/Phone etc is ESSENTIAL parenting. If you kid flips shit when you turn off/pause the TV, that's a parenting issue not a finance one. There are plenty of videos/youtubes/tiktoks online explaining how to do it, but basically 1) Get their attention, 2) Get them to engage (whats Ms Rachael talking about now?) 3) Get them to say 'bye bye' and/or 'see you later' so it seems like THEY came up with the idea, 4) Turn it off. You just have to redirect them.
Someone who has their kid 50% of the time and then that time is reduced by full time daycare, then take away 11-13 hours of nighttime sleep. There is no time for RU-vid if you eat dinner with them, read them a book, bathe them, absolute bare minimum parenting stuff.
A really great tip I’ve learned about any sort of transition time, like turning off the tv, leaving the park, etc is to ask “do you want to leave/turn off/take a shower/brush your teeth now, or in 5/10/15 minutes?” For whatever reason giving a choice instead of a warning really results in a better rate or compliance and fewer tantrums I’ve found.
Caleb is confusing Alimony and child support, normally if it's 50/50 unless one spouse makes $30k more than the other there won't be any child support. Courts in many states are moving away from the weekend dad and ordering 50/50.
@@LuisRojas-mz2mgWhy are you being weird? Birth control exists. Condoms exist. If we pretend that abstinence is the only method to prevent pregnancy, the number of unwanted pregancies won't be going down. Family planning is something everyone should take seriously.
She seems really gullible. Having a child with a guy that has multiple kids already, getting a car she couldn’t afford because the dealership gave her two choices, and spending a lot on tattoos because the employees made a little game out of her getting a tattoo from each artist. I’m hoping she takes this wake up call and starts to question all those around her. She’s been taken advantage of and she’s going to be paying for it, literally. Wishing her the best!
I love how anytime a women is on its “she’s just gullible and was taken advantage of” and when it’s men it’s he was an idiot. I swear yall let women escape with zero accountability
@@Jtl12318 Oh of course. And men are realizing that the caricature of women being allergic to accountability like its radioactive that we had all beat out of us since the 90s is largely true. So theyre not dating. And what do women do in response? Self reflection? Soul searching? No. They blame men. Then calle veryone who points this out sexist. It'd be cute if it wasnt so damaging to society.
I actually don't think it's about being gullible. The coffee, going essentially every day? It's a status thing. The tattoos? Attention. The guy and kid? I bet you she felt powerful if he "stole" this guy from someone lol. It's all attention imo. She would rather have the money + attention she is getting from these silly situations
I’m calling bs on that specific comment. I had a 2013 fiat 500 and we put 2 kids in grayco higher end car seats in the back and we got groceries at sams. 2 adults, 2 kids in the back and week of groceries in the hatch. Was it comfy, no. Was it doable while getting 38 mpg and $35 a month in insurance on a $1500 car? Yes absolutely.
This is the 2nd guest this past week that said they do subscriptions for a 1 year old. Two things 1) one year olds shouldn’t be watching that much tv anyway. By the time an ad comes up they’ve probably reached the screen time limit. Please do something else with your kids 2) they shouldn’t throw a tantrum from media consumption. This could be a result of them already getting addicted from too much screen time. But a true 12 month baby doesn’t usually have the attention span to watch ms Rachel for hours on end. And they don’t understand the differential between an ad and content. It just doesn’t mean THAT much to them These are just using this “my one year old can’t have ads” as an excuse to justify frivolous spending.
No, depends on income. On a tangent, leaving your 2 month old is crazy behavior. There’s no “50/50” with a newborn, the mom pretty much has to be around at all times for development purposes.
@@yurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr-n4p my best friend has 50/50 and still pays $2200 a month in child support. The kids mom refuses to get a job because of this.
I don't get it either I just have the basic iPhone 15 when I had to replace my 12 mini, and my apple watch series 9 I got only after issues with my Series 3. I buy it once and expect it to last 3-5 years
I love tattooes but I don't get people who don't understand that tattooes are luxuries like all other forms of art. No one needs a tattoo and you cannot complain about money problems when you choose to get a tattoo before getting everything else taken care of. Also, I'm not saying she's not a single mom and that the father of her child isn't a moron but 50/50 custody makes a WORLD of difference as a single mother. She has a good income at 23 and the father contributes, she has no excuses to have money problems.
@AmbuBadger She has plenty of redeeming qualities. Tattoos are never a turn off for me as long as they’re tasteful. At least she’s honest and has a cute face. She’s young and dumb, she hasn’t lived long enough to know better. If she found a smart guy to help her manage her finances, she’d be just fine.
@@Sniperboy5551 Yeah, but dropping money you don't have for luxuries is still a red flag. Can be tattoos, hair extensions, nails, luxury bags, etc. But hey, white knights exist too, they can step up and slay that debt dragon for her. Edit: I agree, she may have _some_ redeeming qualities, but you can find a woman who doesn't have her issues.
@@Thirdeyeskyshes 23 she might regret them when she's 40 or so and have them removed who knows but that's not a turn off for some men maybe for u it is but not all men think negatively about women with tattoos
I paid $400 and it was a huge deal for me. I put away money for months and heavily researched reputable artists. I will never understand people who impulsively get tattoos
If this girl reads comments, i hope she sees this one. There are SOOO many signs of depression in this episode. It might not look like it because she smiles and laughs, but to those who have experienced it its clear. She is too lazy to do things herself or at home because she has no motivation to do it. Her spending habits and choices of spending are a huge sign. She had a baby and got dumped when her hormones were still in the air, for many women who have never been rejected the first time is especially tough. Now she spends money to make herself feel better. Put all of this together with enablement form credit cards and you have a recipe for disaster. On top of that no decent guy probably wants to date her seriously with an infant and a whole lot of debt. This will be tough for her to get out of.
You do know that a large % of people today are shockingly lazy as a character trait that will never change, right? Laziness does not equal depression most of the time. Only if it's extremely out of character. So then it would be a Sign/symptom. Mental Laziness is a badge of pride for far too many. In my opinion only. 😅
I don't understand some people. If you don't want kids, use birth control. You're a consenting adult, force the issue. If neither party is willing to do the right thing, don't do the deed.
If he’s earning more, they’ll get him. Which makes sense because in a 2 parent household, he’d be paying in more. So if one makes $3000 a month and the other $4000, the higher earner owes $200.
What "expenses" are being spit exactly? Health Insurance Food (breakfast, lunch, dinner) Clothes Medications School supplies If he's only paying for things here and there, the cost of a child is not being split equally. #goodness
I'm only a couple minutes in and I hate that she is already being manipulative. The man is very involved with the child and she made it seem like he isn't pulling his weight.
@@MPPG663 why are you making assumptions that go against her own words? She says they split time 50/50. Go project elsewhere or pay closer attention if you want to grandstand
I have a one year old and had to FORCE myself to buy a new bra last week because I didn't want to spend $20, even though I can easily afford it....10k on tattoos when you can't support yourself is insane.
Because of this channel, I’ve paid off 4 of my 5 collection accounts, my credit score has gone from a 590 to a 652, I still have days I go to a gas station or stop somewhere but I’m doing so much better then i was, I actually have money in my savings account, definitely not a full emergency fund, but I’m working on it! Thank you Caleb and keep making the videos, I work for a coop and run a giant sprayer or floater, basically a tall tractor with the thin wheels that seems like you could almost drive under, I listen to your videos! Thank you so much for what you do! The community and I really appreciate you and your teams hard work!
I think a lot of people on the show are used to calling their child by their name, but to stay anonymous they switch to saying "the kid." I know they could at least say "my son/daughter," but they're probably not used to avoiding saying their child's name.
@Becanwal Nope. This moronic nitwit who cares more about her tattoos says "The Kid" because she's detached and doing the bare minimum and doesn't care much.
Her actions prove she doesn't care about the child. She really doesn't take any responsibility and the laughing about him not pulling out shows it. I hear her now, “Dump in me Daddy” She decided to have a child with the guy. It's all on her for me.
Old Starbucks employee if you want the chocolate cold foam, it’s literally mocha, vanilla, and half and half (sb uses a mixture of 3% milk and heavy cream but you can get the same affect). And you can get the cold brew at the grocery store.
seriously they look dumb and if i found out she spent 1k on them i would think nothing else of it but they look like shit AND she dropped 10k on them she got fleeced by all her "tattoo friends" 😂
It’s annoying me so much how she refers to her child as “the child” and “the kid” almost every single time. It’s like she’s dissociating herself from her own child.
I had postpartum depression and I called my daughter "the child" a lot when she was first born. I was in the situation where her dad abandoned us in a really vile way though, no support or acknowledgement of my daughter from any of his family or himself. I think she has come up with the scenario in her head so she can cope with her bad choices. I can sympathise, but I agree she needs to grow up or give up the child.
Ya it's really bothering me, came to the comments looking for this. Why doesn't she say "MY"? Why is she trying so hard to distance herself from her own kid? Everything she says, she's so selfish and self centered. No worries about "THE child" only worries about herself. I watch a lot of body cam and interrogation videos so every time she says THE instead of MY alarm bells go off
kid will have some form of behavioural issue if she raises “the kid” with these unregulated undwarrented emotions… she is blaming the child for part of her problems because she NEEDS to mature because of the child and she is to selfish for it
@@guineapigtalksSo she said that spider web was $400-500. That's 200 max, and that's only if the artist is super slow at it as most artists charge by the hour
@@Diss0lv3def not 200, well depending on where you live too I think, that’s a really good price for a medium piece. California / Bay Area artists would charge upwards of 500 for that size and style
In the budget, there was a mistake. She doesn't get an extra $450 from her baby daddy. The baby daddy pays $450 for his part of childcare. So it's not extra income, and that means she's spending more than she makes every month and doesn't have anything left over.
WHY do so many people say "whenever" when they should say "when"?!? It isnt "whenever he left me" "whenever I bought this car" etc. It's so common today.
He didn’t abandon the child, but he did abandon her. It’s heartbreaking and super dejecting as a new mom. Been there. The cheating-to-leaving feels especially awful. But he’s present as a parent, and pulling his weight there. I get why she frames it that way, but it’s misleading and deflects personal responsibility to move forward. She’s got a good income and if she plans well she can be in a great position in a few years.
Without looking at the quality of the art, that's an iffy statement. You do not want the cheapest tattoo. If the price is premium, it better be fucking beautiful.
@@baconoftheark You're forgetting the cost of the ground coffee. Also, how many drinks you'll get from each bag. A better solution is to retrain your pallette to enjoy a less expensive beverage.
All I hear when she talks about her situation as a single mom is "🎵You let him hit it raw, you didn't have second thoughts! Now you a single mom, now you a single mom!🎵"
3 months ago i had a credit card with just about 9k at 24% interest. Its paid off. Thank you. Wasted alot of money on toquitos and stupidity in my 20's
Because people like to hop on and feed on feeling better about themselves or superior to people in worse situations. It on the same level as people enjoying seeing and hearing about other people's drama
Would be cool to see debt summary. And maybe add data like how many months it would take to pay . The last part when Caleb is always telling to guest „you should pay this first, than this” could be displayed on screen and show how debt is lowering
I haven’t watched the whole video yet, but the only way I see this as a possibility would be a huge back piece. She definitely doesn’t have $10k in tattoos showing.
@@NerdyOutdoorVeteran This is 100% my opinion, but from the ones I can see, they’re not even “realism” tattoos, which is what most artists charge insane prices for.
I also have a baby mama that got a bunch of tattoos and wants more I don’t pay a penny more than I have to but it’s obviously probably being spent on that
It's mad interesting how people acquire these work from home 50k+ salary positions and you know they can't stop burning milk when they cook. It's borderline baffling.
It’s frustrating to see coming from a blue collar worker that busted ass finishing a degree while working full time and can’t find anything that pays more than half of what I make now. Being told I’m “lazy” for wanting a remote position. She is so lucky to have that job.
@@AlexhPDX It's a catch 22 on my end, I've been watching these episodes and being more conscious about my financial future. Showed my partner one video and she couldn't get through because she's on that same side of brow sweating tiring work so the point of the show doesn't reach her. She's just seeing these guests with their high end jobs just making mistakes and being delusional.
My x ended up taking me to court and the courts told me I had to pay her $163 a month. I was giving her $500 a month. Well since she decided to take me to court I only payed what they ordered me to pay. She was pissed but she wanted to go thru the courts, fast forward to now I’m not on child support and I help out a lot more now!
@@WilC379I think it’s different when the parents are together vs when they’re not. I tell my husband all the time “I’m watching your daughter” or “your daughter wants a new toy” but it’s also a common thing to do this in the Arabic language and I’m middle eastern. I think it would be different if we weren’t together if I were to say the same things or refer to her as his “kid”, it would feel wrong
I put my down payment for my car on a credit card but i paid it off immediately. I had the cash i just wanted the points first. That's how it's done people.
Yep! Literally just bought a 2015 with only 43k miles on it for 18k. Honda CRV. I will have this car for YEARS. I also average 31 mpg, which is great for a small SUV.
I had not thought of that, but it stopped when she got a new car? Still though why would someone slash tires repeatedly for like a month straight, thats just evil, and frankly a lot of work to go out of your way to do it. XD Once I get maybe over a grudge or something haha. But to constantly do it and on new tires… why?
I’m not buying the tire popping story. To the other commenter’s point, if you hate someone so you’re slashing their tires, you’re DEFINITELY not stopping if they get a new car
Just paid off my last debt 2360…. I can finally breathe in peace and start the 50/30/20 From the bottom of my heart thank you for these videos and making us aware of how bad our way of viewing our money was
She sounds spoiled. Meaning that she thinks the more money you pay the better the tattoo artist. Which can be true, but isn’t usually the case if you do your research.
It was refreshing to see someone who is at least self aware, and is asking legitimate advice on behavioural change. There are so many things that goad us to spend money out there and overcoming that messaging can be a challenge
If they're splitting expenses for the child what is he throwing on her? He's responsible for the care of their child just like she is but he's not responsible to take care of her if they're not together.
She doesn't see that people who pause to ask questions understand that she is blaming him for stuff that's not on him. He doesn't sounds like a peach, but she's no picnic here.
@@sunnyday4055 We're only getting her side so I don't think it makes sense to say they should be together. Maybe he was an abusive POS, maybe she was, maybe they both were. Doesn't matter now that they're not together. Her blaming him for having to take care of herself makes no sense. She's an adult.
I dont understand her logic of "having to get a bigger car cause the carseat wouldn't fit". Buy a smaller carseat....I fit 2 carseats in the backseat of a small Ford focus. ONE would've fit in that fiat....that car was PURE want.
Pulling 4600 is above average and paying 1450 for rent is normal. To cringe at it being 30% really shows the renting market is well and above where it should be if someone who makes about 28 an hr is paying over 30% of thier check to rent.
RAV-4 is actually a pretty decent choice for a vehicle. Not sure how many miles it has, but $18k seems a bit low for a 2021. Toyota SUVs hold their value pretty well. She definitely overpaid on it, but it's probably worth at least $20k-$24k right now. Good thing she didn't get the Jeep...
Yeah, this pretty much triggered me since I had the worst childhood ever and my mom basically abandoned me. The second I heard that come out of her mouth. I just felt the air go out of my lungs.
