Relationship red flags - Our thoughts 

The realization that relationships never provided lasting peace & joy for me was a clear sign that I had to work on self. It's been challenging but highly rewarding. I now know what parts need to be healed, what I bring to the table and what's required of me.

I just came across this quote last week "People attend therapy to resolve trauma caused by people who do not want therapy" and honestly it made me realize that everyone needs to seek therapy because there is always something to work on and improve.

And a big congratulations to Lornzie, We cant wait for Jules to also find her perfect soulmate

Another red flag: When your partner is not concerned about your safety e.g when its late at night and he isn't concerned about how you get home etc

Are we just going to ignore Lonrnzie's posture. 🤐😎 I mean she doesn't slouch at all!!

Everything you ladies have talked about is true. There’s always a price to pay once you start negotiating what were once non negotiables. It’s basically selling pieces of yourself. Men never negotiate , they want what they want and if not they leave. I’ve observed this in many men and it’s about time more women stood their ground. Whoever is meant for you will not pass you by. Thanks ladies xx

Shangwe NA vigelegele Lorna🥳🥳🥳 May your marriage be filled with love, laughter and adventure NA mbarikiwe hadi mshangae 💕

i have several talked abt them in my channel too. 1.He treats you like trash 2. Communication reduces 3. Giving excuses for not doing things 4. He starts random fights 5.Switches situations on you when he is on the wrong last but not least he just doesnt care

Being single has taught me to learn what my non negotiable are, having talking stages has helped me point out what I want in a partner and its been very informative journey

No one: Jules:These streets have shown us dust 😂😂😂

😂😂😂😂Julz with the eye roll. Hahahaha.... Congratulations to Lorna on her new level, it's a big step to get married. I wish you nothing but love. I have a suggestion, could you guys talk about how this channel has affected your relationships, with parents, spouses, children, friends and work colleagues

Shikies earrings😍😍

Lornzie is literally glowing!!!

On a lighter note: Akianza kuongea vibaya kuhusu Avocado. Run my sister, run! 🚩🚩

Love that you said that you have to stay true to yourself. We need to not loose ourselves in relationships.

Can I say you all look so damn pretty this morning❣️❣️. And to our new Muhiki💞💞 congratulations.

Lornzie congratulations on your marriage🎉🎉God bless your union.

A wifey is glowing ...sending lots of love,lornzie

21. Measuring your worth by how much hustle you take your partner through to make sure you are pleased. Then the envelop keeps getting pushed further till they don't care anymore. ADD TO LIST

To Jules....focus on how the guy makes you feel...more than what he has to offer...you get my point?

I agree love is a skill people need to learn

loved this episode! Red flags should not be ignored...

Me: sounding like Jules advising my siblings Me also:🙊 gosh I sound like my mother Me also also: guys live your life 😆🙌

Congrats Lornzie, you will be having twins🤗🤗

Fighting/ Conflict can also be toxic if you never come to a resolution. You just fight, then you walk away because it has become too heated. Then you remember you didn't finish the fight then you fight again and it's always just a perpetual fight! With good conflict, you have to come to some sort of agreement afterwards. My two cents.

Congratulations Lornzie! This video was much needed, thank you ladies.

Lornzie, I loved your smokey eye during your wedding. Very bedroom eyes manenoz.

I really love you ladies, you've no idea how you've helped me. Things I go through ave realized uve gone through some. Congratulations to Lornzie

I need to rewatch this at home again

Definitely more complicated than the list but your "non-negotiables" should not be negotiated on. Be flexible ONLY about things that you can accept on a long term basis...

Feels like 'The talk' from big sisters with so much love and care.🥰

Lorna!! Congratulations 🎊🎊🎊👏🏽

Am I the only one who did not want this conversation to end?? currently @ 21 and single, if I do say so myself and you guys feel like that elder sister that I clearly do not have .

Lornzie the body goals is coming thruuuu😍😍😍😍 I'm in love.

You guys are so beautiful.. and today lornzie is looking extremely gorgeous

Thank you over 25, awesome content as usual. Congratulations Lornzie, God bless your union. Just an observation, the sound keeps flactuating. Kindly look into it. Thanks.

Hi Jules...remember yiu could also br jobless and have to relearn to rely on someone else without jisdging yourself harshly that you are 'kudoeaing' someone else...

Am I the only one who struggled with the audio? Even with earphones, the volume was still too low.

Hi guys😀 Mimi I run for the heels whenever I encounter red flags usually between 3-6months nakuanga nishaona hakuna mahalo tunaenda😅 but tbh I don't think I'm ready for a relationship I want to take my time and grow me love me be the best me. My non-negotiables> God fearing (I love my spirituality and God is a big part of my life I want so badly to share that with my partner) confidence, financial stability, goal oriented, kind and generally good vybes 😍

I feel like your videos on love, sex and relationships catch more of my attention 😁 kudos guys

Congratulations Lorna 🥂🎉🎉

Hearty congratulations to Lornzie Praying for Jules as well Her dawn in marriage is now almost

Congratulations to Lonzie... Aki can't wait for harusi ya Julez

I always find my self being requested to give advice to both singles and married but am still single af 😂😂😂. But am happy to help when needed. Am able to detect red flags from a mile..and most important advice.. try not to get married because of circumstances rather marry because you 2 are compatible and you choose to be life companion. At this day and age don't let society expectations pressure you to unhealthy marriage.

Congrats Lornzie .... Wishing you all the best in your journey

Jules skin complexion is to die for! 😍

A great discussion as always ladies 👏 👏 Just to add on Lorna’s point about ‘don’t forget about who you are’ .. this can also mean changing yourself to fit your spouse’s/partner’s mould ie dropping your friend’s, family, religion etc just because they are not up to your partner’s ‘standard’, and before you know it you are someone even you don’t recognise! It happens more often than we think…

I used to start fights every time because I wanted this man to break up with me.

Congratulations Lornzie

Jules you pretty. I love your vibe❤️

I love Jules!!!!😂😂😂😂dust!😂😂.Congrats Lornzie!!!!!

Congratulations Lornzie And pray for Jules ❤️to find her perfect match❤️

Thank you lovely ladies...what a good way to start the week...love-love-love

Congrats Lornzie waiting for Julia's wedding

First one on the comments ☺️ 🥂 lemmi grab my coffee n keep watching 💕. N congratulations Lorna 🥂

Love is a skill..wow that's my take home.I need to learn this skills.thanks ladies

I think the frequency and multitude of fights doesnt affect two people that want to be together. The longevity of a relationship can only go as far as the two people want it.

Great job guys. The topic is 💯💯💯. You all look gorgeous. Congratulations Lorna. Have a blessed and happy marriage. Julez you'll get your person in due time.

Is it just me,,,or the volume is a bit low?🤷‍♀️

Congratulations Lorna and Dee guys you make a beautiful couple.. and you all ladies respond to my dms thank!!!❤️❤️

Y'all are looking so beauriful!!😍😍❤️

Who still hasn't subscribed! Button iko pale...

My all time big sisters🤗

Congratulations lonzie

😂😂😂😂😂 I just love Jules' vibe always

I love you guys❤️, I just relate to every conversation you post... don't leave us hanging for long again,my notification bell missed you sana😊

Blushing coz Lorna smizing 😍 congratulations!

Wow! Harusi ilishafanyika😄Congratulations #Lornzie now Mrs👏🏾🎊🎉💐💐❣️❣️wish you mob blessings and all the happiness in your marriage. Interesting topic.

I have fought enough in relationships. Not settled. I am in a space where I just want and value peace of mind. Plus trying to intentionally staying away from negative energy. I know it is inevitable in human relations but let it be a small percentage of the relationship. Not ati fighting every time over everything

For me, when I'm indifferent, I'm done with the relationship

Aren't they just amazing❤️

Lorna yawns 🥱 in every episode 😄🤣

Never been this early, proud subbie🤗

can you do a live episode so as you can answer some of our questions in relationship

Congratulations Lornzie❤

100k subscribers goal tunayo, tunayo!!! Almost there ladies!!!

Jules tupe lessons you have learnt in your singlehood....as far relationship is concerned...invite other single ladies to share experiences dos and donts..thanks ladies am loving your channel..#newbiehere

there's always that one thing for sure,great talk .

Shukran...highly insightful

Jules skintone😍😍 i love it

and the week begins👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 asanteni!

great episode guys!! @shikie kindly share the lipstick brand you have on

ya'll looking sooo cuuuuuute

🎉🎉🎉🎉the first and enjoying the topic

Could you guys talk about being in a relationship but with a guy who's got a baby mama

Always looking forward to your videos 🥳

Congratulations sis

The Jogoo was cheering Julz :)

Congrats lornzie,you gal's looking fabulous as always... loving the topic.which hairdo is shikies I really love 💕

I love the advice on here.

Transparency with money issues. Many couples don’t like talking about it..

What Jules is saying about her friend's partner not acknowledging her in a big milestone reminds me of the movie Malcom and Marie like their argument was centered on that basically. That's an issue for sure.

OMG I love shikie's earrings. Where can I get them? Or such long beautiful… Anyone?

Am atleast early today....always loving it ❤

you will never find a perfect other....

Question: What happens when a deal-breaker for one partner is not a deal-breaker for their significant other, resulting in constant fights?

6:40 thats why in a good relationship no one must ever be too comfortable. Words have impact you just cant say anything you want. Ladies also... 🙄

Loved this episode ❤️💯👏🔥

Waited with bated breathe (hand to the heart, clenched fist on the other) 🤣🤣🤣 Rolling on the floor!!

hi guys,great video but is there a problem with the sound on this video or maybe its just me