Relationships in the Philippines/ Are we Really Legally Married?@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 I recall the ups and downs of the process to get married in the Philippines
We had a civil wedding in the USA and had a Catholic Church wedding in Philippines last February. Baby May is right, it was a lot of requirements, we sent lots of paperwork, never thought I’d need to find my catholic confirmation certificate . In the end, it was terrific, but anyone who is considering should give themselves plenty of time.
@Her Expat Retirement we originally planned on having the wedding and reception done at the reception venue because we were less than confident that we’d be approved to have the wedding in the church, but after several hours of searching thru boxes in my garage, I was able to locate my first communion and confirmation certificates. Credit to my Mother who kept these items together for me until I was an adult and for me keeping them thru several moves. Prior to my final search, I contacted my childhood church but got no response from them. We were indeed lucky to find them on our own. My wife didn’t have her confirmation, but was able to join a class of adults the week of our wedding to complete that requirement.
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My wife wanted a Catholic Church wedding. I'm Lutheran and was divorced. I told my wife the Catholic Church requires you to go through annulment classes and they charge for it. She said she didn't think I was right. She made an appointment with the bishop and he said I was right. I told my wife that annulment through the church was to keep couples together and I was divorced and there was no chance of me getting back together with my ex. We ended up getting married in the Lutheran Church in Cagayan de Oro. My wife was shocked when we met with the Pastor when she asked him how much money to give for the ceremony. He said to give what you want. She said the Catholic Church tells you what to give.
I went through same scenarios ( in ustates ) exactly I’m Lutheran she catholic - she chose to break up after things didn’t go “ her” catholic way ! To this day I thank them for vetting her for me and her inability to compromise … best thing that never happened to me 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@bert671 it's customary to give the church a donation when getting married here in the Philippines. That's any church by the way. We are getting Married in our church the joyful assemble of God here on Samal Island in Garden City on Saturday and we are giving 10,000 php to our pastor.
The Catholic Church office will likely have a list of fees for weddings. In our case, we found it to be like a menu, and there was a “fee.” Ours was I believe about $300. We also chose to add air conditioning as that was optional and an additional cost. They’ll likely charge for a choir, flowers if the provide them. We chose our own flower provider. Since we live in the USA. We’d sent a family member who was local to get all the costs and requirements. They helped establish our expectations and complete everything in advance. All in all, we loved it and are super happy with everything, but there are definitely cheaper ways to go.
Hey Paul my dear friend, you and the beautiful Baby Mae are truly the best. I love you both. Thank you for sharing brother. God bless you and Baby Mae always.😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
wow😂 benefits of this video: 1. you paved the way for those watching who want to get married there by revealing all the potential hoops and delays that can happen and ways to improve and avoid delays 2. A good example of keeping your sense of humor as you adapt and accept processes in the Philippines. I don’t even know how you remembered all these things; my head is still spinning😅
I have a Canadian friend that got married in CDO in a civil ceremony about 6 years ago. I was his best man. I remember that he used a local agent to accelerate $$$ the process including sending the documents to Manila. Paul you were lucky to get the marriage class in English. Most married vloggers had to sit while everything was in local language. Congratulations to you and Mae
Holy cow, that's insane! You two have been put through hell. I'm totally impressed with your patience Paul. And Mae didn't look like shes even phased by this whle process! I hope it gets done soon and thank you for this eye opening, jaw dropping, beyond crazy Philippine beurocracy. On second thought you have my most sincere thoughts and prayers.
Oh, Paul and Mae, what a SNAFU! Fingers crossed it will finally be resolved, completely and absolutely resolved, sooner than you think. The only thing that seems to be missing from this story is the trio of Larry, Moe, and Curly. May you have a long, happy, OFFICIALLY MARRIED life together, Mr. and Mrs. McGill! 👍👍
my friend took a 3 hour flight to Malaysia to get married to a Filipina, due to the administrative nightmare in The Philiippines. They got to have a honeymoon in a foreign country as well.
You know Paul you hit the nail right on the head, ADJUST, ADAPT, and finally you must ACCEPT. You might think about doing a video on those three words. Thank You so much Paul your better than a "SHRINK"!!! God Bless 🙏👌👍
This is why you hire a relative of the mayor to take care of everything. Pay their fee, sign all the paperwork and get the government document on time. That's just how it works.
Bless your heart Paul, you are a real trooper for dealing with all this and not losing your cool. Wishing you the best as always. I'm glad you have adjusted to the Philippines way things happen.
Wow!! I admire your patience and determination to get through the unending process of waiting to get your paperwork back. Hang in there both! There will be light at the end of the tunnel. I'm learning a lot from you both about the beaurocracy in the Philippines . Thank You , Paul for the three A's I will for sure remember those words. God Bless You Both 🙏.
Hello Paul & Baby Mae - I'd like to say that all that beauracracy is lost on me but I come from Chile and although not as bad as the Philippines, it is still bad that is why I live in Canada. Thank heavens you two love each other and have the patience to endure it & go through the hoops. I am very happy for you two that you got married, you both look very happy💖💖
Getting married in the Philippines is a nightmare. We are getting married in December and it is a pain just to get the proper checklist of what you need. It's shameful how hard they have made this process.
I experienced this in another country but you’re absolutely right. It is a sin what they are doing to people nowadays. The stress of it all can kill your marriage even before it has even started.
@@edgregory1 because there are still people who care about marriage and normal traditional life something that has been demonized in the West unfortunately!
I accept. Love that statement. Going crazy over things you can not change will only harm the both of you. In time this will be only a crazy story in a long beautiful journey for the both of you. God Bless.
Our first marriage was performed by the mayor of a town outside Cagayan d'Oro. If you know the right people and pay them, you can get whatever you want printed on paper in the Philippines. I went back 6 months later and we had a Catholic Church wedding. All the clothes were rented, including my barong, and it was beautiful.
Just a couple of things for guys to consider. Just an opinion. 1. If you have moved to the Philippines permanently. And if you have established a solid relationship. Go for it. Filipinas are wonderful wives. 2. If you are intending to bring her home to the U.S. use a fiancee visa. Takes less time and you can see as Paul has shown, less complicated. 3. If you have not established a permanent relationship, divorce in the Philippines is very, very difficult. Things to ponder.
I admire your tenacity. This would have severely tested my patience and I would have been tempted to go back to being a couple without the marriage papers. I salute you both...
I really admire both of you! Love that you guys are taking this ordeal with a great sense of humor. Hopefully, it will all work out in the end! I love that Mae is frugal as most true filipinas are…she’s a keeper, Paul!
Dear Paul & Baby May, WOW! I understand your feelings and frustration. Thank you for your time, patience, and explanation the two of you are going through. God's Blessings
The bureaucracy in the PH has never change. It was very frustrating for me to get my birth certificate. I misplaced my birth certificate and I couldn't find it. I requested for a new one. It took me almost 2 yrs to finally get the certificate. So, I understand where you are coming from. Absolutely nuts.
That's nuts !! = As I have gotten older, my patience has improved enormously, but I would have had problems trying keep my cool in that much Bureaucratic Ineptitude = Kudos to you two for keeping your cool !!
Great story Paul..I like the way you ended it. ..Adjust/Adapt/Accept And I love Baby Mae's discipline with money. Thrift skills...awesome. May God bless you both more. 😇
Best part of the whole video was ???......... Ta da playing and being frisky non stop with Baby Mae😄😄 what a wonderful little puppy you all have. Love it.
I really appreciate and respect you and Mae. I haven't seen your videos for a while so congratulations on your marriage. You and Mae are a excellent couple.
Paul and Mae always great to see your videos. Real people no sugar coating. You both are lucky to have each other. You have a good wife Paul practical and knows how to save.
Good morning Paul and baby may it looks like I’m your first view this morning. This is cool. I enjoy watching your channel very much hopefully maybe one day within the next year or two I will shake hands be able to buy you a cuppa coffee. God bless.
Hello Paul and Baby Mae, I was actually thinking you both last night. That I had not seen you both for awhile. Good to see your happy smiling faces. Take care. Now I will watch and listen to your video. Lol. All good things come to those who wait. All the very best to you both.
This is the funniest (frustrating for you guys) story I have heard you guys tell us. It will get sorted.... but oh boy, what a tale!!!! Best of luck in the world, guys
Great story and having been through the application for an SRRV( special residential retirement visa), those hoops and changes required are not surprising. And each new document cost extra, maybe that is why it is called The Fee-lippines!
WOW!! Like this channel and others on RU-vid. Exposes me to different cultures and gives me a better understanding of people. Have been out of the United States to other countries and really enjoyed it. Been to Mexico several times with my husband. But he just likes staying home now which is fine. I like the 3 A''s Adjust, Adapt, and Accept. Hope to go to another country soon. Thanks for letting the public into your life there. Very interesting.
Wow! This is a crazy story. I was starting to think they didn’t want you to get married. Paul, you have a tremendous amount of patience because I would’ve lost it. God bless you both and wish you all the best.
Nice video Paul, I like how you explained everything step by step. OMG, what a process you went through. We got married in the US when my now wife came over on a K1 Visa, this went very smoothly and then we had to register the marriage with the Phillippines Embassy in New York City. So our marriage is registered in the Philippines as well. I am sure you have now saved many people from making the same mistakes you and Mae made. Your channel is a treasure trove of great valid information. I am sure your paper will be coming soon, I wish I can say be patient, but things are well beyond that at this point. Congrats on your marriage Paul and Mae cheers to an awesome life together, God Bless and enjoy life 2.0.
Such positive attitudes! Couples with great attitudes, who are flexible, and are easy going make for the strongest couples. Such a great story to tell!
I am glad you went through with it all with a level of acceptance. The whole rigamarole shows your commitment to making this happen..to you making sure mae is your inheritor if anything happens. And you beautifully added, I love my wife. Her eyes on you say the same thing.🎉
Thanks a lot Paul, I'm heading there to get married as well and hopefully we can be lucky and not go through the obstacles you guys went through. I'll let you know what happens...till then God bless and keep on with the 3 A's.
I respect you both for going through all that hassle. I couldn't go through all that trouble for a marriage certificate. I would've just flew her to Vegas and married her there. If Mae wants a church wedding you can go to the Candlelight Wedding Chapel. That's where I married my wife over 20 years ago. Hassle Free, one day event. Even with the airfare expense, we still saved a fortune not having a traditional wedding party with catering and hall and limo rentals. Just a simpler way to go in my opinion.
@@mauibuilder1239 I'm not sure, but I would think so, and it's probably a lot easier to get down there at the US Embassy than all the hoops it looks as though you have to jump through to get married over there. But I don't know, I'm just guessing bc I'm not there, I'm in Brooklyn, but I was married in Vegas. Best thing my wife and I could have done. We we're already in our 30's and set in our busy career''s, and we didn't want to deal with all the planning, expenses, who to invite, who not to invite and other b.s.. So we just went to Vegas for a week, got married, met an Elvis, had a great time, and avoided a bunch of stress.
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Got married last month in Samar and my process was much easier. Wife dealt with everything in the Philippines, I just provided a few documents. No classes, able to get priority, but family close friends with the mayor 😀. Now have marriage certificate after two weeks and it normally takes 3/6 months.
Such a process i was in stitches you must have an old fashioned stack of paper a mile high for this one ..but gotta say it just made a great video..there has to be a few extra Notorized signatures that you dont know you dont need...yet....lol😅 Some Marriages would have already failed before you finally got the Knot tied..gotta say finally got it in a frame xx Congratulations to you both ...xx 17:50
Congratulations on your Marriage. Wow you both are being put through the ringer you Love each other so that all that really matters to you God Bless you both and may you have many blessings ahead ❤❤
Wow Paul and Janet, what an adventure. I think you should write a screen play, it would make a great movie. ND the way you and Mae describe it I think it would fall in the comedy category
