My daughter is 10 years old. She and I have been going to a psychologist for a year who thinks my daughter may be on the autism spectrum with a PDA neurotype. My daughter's brain may interpret things looking, being, or going a different way than she imagines as a crisis and reacts with fight or flight. I mention this in case the information helps another parent.
i don't think anyone has ever expected a podcast to end gender expectations, but one sure can perpetuate them if my little boy ever has a bossy sister but he stays chill, i would consider it a win. kids pick up on the real world, and maybe they would have figured out on some level how to compensate somewhat for the sexism that will always benefit the one and harm the other. if i was worried about the bossy sister missing out on skills required to stfu and do what her boss has instructed, i would take her bowling, fishing, camping, or to work. if i was worried my son would become a doormat, i would either check that feeling or recognize his patience and maturity with an appropriate reward, like a bike or video game
@@d9zfnxsokod dr.becky's podcast would probably bore me less if i did listen to it on mute. but then i would miss all the exciting ways she perpetuates gender roles, pretends to be radical, and promotes capitalist realism. i wouldn't comment, but then i would miss all the replies from folks who would have been worse parents to have than my own
When a DAUGHTER is bossy to her brother, he hits and then gets in trouble for it, because he is a testosterone ball and doesn't have the words to push back and gets flooded with the "big feelings." She doesn't get in trouble for commanding him in an insensitive way because the hitting takes the cake.
@@alyssamurphy2002 i get that. Bell Hooks is a good resource to read on the subject; you are correct in observing that little boys do not have an easy time in our society, but all that means is that sexism is bad for men, too. most people do not want to be sexist, yet tons of work to undue the way we have been raised to view the world is still not enough sometimes. the way you observe your folks and the way dr.becky approaches the issue ignores the systemic, societal problems that plague us all, even when we put in the work dr.becky presents her parenting advice as radical, which attracted me to her channel. however, she mostly perpetuates the status quo and it drives me a little crazy. sorry for lashing out
@@louisaruth dats cool. Thanks. Bell Hooks. I think it's very silly to overlook gender roles as they leave people rudderless, but living in oppressive gender role stereotypes can do damage too. Coming from a fairly egalitarian family, I tend to appreciate gender differences rather than being irritated by them and want to give help to young men because women are so over inflated and supported now. Everything requires delicate balance, restraint, guidance and respect.
