It hurts a childs soul to hear negativity about either parent.It's going to hurt her in the long run no matter how you slice it.Toxic is stressfull keep it private and stay classy.❤
I went through the same but never trashed the dad in front of my daughter. A wise counselor told me "To shame the parent is to shame the child". Your daughter is so sweet, truly sorry this is happening to her, she definitely deserves better.
I learned a long time ago, you can’t make people love you. The hardest part about walking away from someone is the part where you realize that no matter how slowly you go, they will never run after you. Go forth and be great Jolie. ❣️
Kelly you and Rick have done a great job raising Jolie and supporting her , the best way to handle a narcissist is don’t feed into their gaslighting BS because they love getting a reaction just ignore him and cut him off don’t give him the satisfaction. Wishing Jolie all the best on her Paris journey shes a wonderful young woman with a fantastic future ahead of her. A testament to you both .
Jolie will succeed in life with or without his help. The fact that she is successful without him is the proof that you are a great mom. Let her know that we are proud of her too.
I’m so sorry that Jolie has had to endure this. Parents that divorce NEED to remember just ONE thing…you need to love your children MORE than you hate your ex. PERIOD! My ex has seen our daughter since our divorce when she was 8, 3x’s & is now 30 with a 5 year old. It’s disgusting. When you divorce, you divorce each other NOT your children!
A professional told me long ago that parents should never discuss adult things in front of children but behind closed doors because kids should not feel they cause fights..I get Rick cares for Jolie,but, he has an ongoing problem to work on with his own daughter first..this should be a priority,right? Why not use part of your divorce settlement for her education? Airing all this in public where Jolies friends etc can see I think is probably embarrassing also..better said privately for her..
I’m 57 and I still get triggered from my parent’s bickering. It was a different era and that shouting, screaming, swearing, physical fights were in front of us. Not surprisingly they divorced and my mum to this day, when I mention my father, she sometimes reminds me of when he did this, and when he did that. I don’t really want to know. It gets on my nerves and I don’t know how to tell her to stfu. I wouldn’t express myself in that way 😅 but, you are right. Not in front of the kids.
You’re wrong Kelly! Stop publicly trashing your daughter’s father. Now that Jolie is an adult, let her make her own decisions about her dad. Every time you speak badly about him (and Rick chimes in) you’re hurting your daughter and setting her up for more anger, hurt and pain to relive all she’s gone through these past few years with him. Please let them figure out their own relationship. Step back and away from their lives and let Jolie see things with her own eyes…you don’t need to keep pounding how horrible he’s acted, she knows this and I’m sure deeply feels it too, and its public knowledge. Jolie is a big girl now and she can clearly see things for herself. Your anger towards him and what he’s done/and NOT done for his daughter is out in full display. Your constant resentment and bitterness towards Dodd is only adding fuel to the fire. Maybe you should consider going to therapy to work out the anger and frustration you have towards your ex and help yourself and your daughter overcome the toxic emotions and resentments. There comes a time in life that you want to heal and close up old wounds, not keep reliving them over and over again. What truly matters here is that you have come through for your girl every step of the way and you’ll always have that great and loving bond with her. Sincerely wishing you (all) the very best.
Excellent points here. I understand this is a “public family” but the choice to keep additional conflict private is an option I think ought to be practiced!
@@brunymunoz3369 I disagree, she has every right to say what she thinks. He should be shamed publicly for how hes treated his daughter. If it bothers Jolie, she can talk to Kelly and ask not to be public about it.
YOU ARE NOT SMART @brunymunoz3369!!!! My dad never paid child support for me and i SUFFERED ALL MY LIFE!!! I wish my mom shared to the world what a horrible father I had because then maybe he would feel shame for being a horrible self-centered person!!! SHINE the LIGHT on dark EVIL!!!! MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!!!!
You sound like someone that would never stand up for their child. If Jolie has an issue with it she would say something, also Kelly wouldn't talk about Micheal if Jolie asked her not to. If Micheal doesn't want anything bad being said about him then he should act accordingly. You don't get a free pass if you're a trash human. Thankfully Kelly isn't weak and she calls him out on his BS
Kelly, why did you not pursue child support for Jolie? You said you didn’t want to deal with him. That was your responsibility to advocate on Jolie ‘s behalf and that money ($100,000 - $200,000) could have been saved for her college. Parents are not required to pay for college in California, unless it is in their divorce settlement, or they do so voluntarily. It is you who dropped the ball in not getting child support. It may not be too late for back support owed if it was in your agreement. These little rants are also completely for you, not Jolie, because to don’t want to deal with him. Imagine telling the world, Jolie’s dad didn’t care about her, doesn’t support her, doesn’t give her money, etc. That is also emotional abuse from you to Jolie to say that about her, and that dad feels that way about her. If you cared about her, you would have seen to it that she received the child support she deserved and that you protected her from anything lacking on the part of her father rather than announce it to the world. You act so tough, but then did not advocate on her behalf. To a child, saying their dad doesn’t love them, means to them that they are unlovable. You are hurting her much more than her dad has.
You are completely off-base. Jolie is a smart and articulate young lady. She knows the truth about her Father. He is an absent father, who could very well be involved in his daughter's life both financially and in a loving way. He is a self-absorbed and selfish individual. He needs serious help. The TRUTH IS THE TRUTH. He is completely in the wrong here and should be ashamed at his behavior to his daughter.
Mr Dodd, you are the adult and Jolie is the child. If you want to be involved in her life, then it’s up to you to step up and be involved. It’s not her job to have to beg you to be involved. And Jolie, us Smashers are here for you, even if he isn’t. Love you guys.
I feel bad for Jolie she's the nicest very respectful girl and doesn't deserve to be treated like from her dad. Thank God for Rick I had a wonderful step dad too and his name was Rick as well.
My ex husband is the same way. He's so selfish. He's got a new fiancee and has been totally been ignoring my 21 year old daughter for the past 2 years. He hasn't responded to her texts and hasn't helped with her college at all! I'm a single mom and have had 3 surgeries and the only way she's been able to go to college is Pell grant and student loans. 😓🤬 You're a great mom and you and Rick are her stability. She will be ok, but it's very sad.
Greetings from Caroline in the UK , I felt so strongly about todays show re Jolie, My Niece emancipated herself from her Father at the age of 17 because he treated her exactly like Jolie's Dad is treating her, My Niece and My sister gave him so many chances to be a part of her life until the time came for her to go to college, enough was enough, she was sick of all the abuse, heartache and disappointment he caused her, Her life now is so much more peaceful without him in it, she came to the conclusion on her own that she did not need or want his support, at 28 she is now a very accomplished adult and has a very successful career, whatever Jolie chooses to do re her father I hope she knows that she should come first in her life and that she deserves to be happy and accomplished and if her own father does not recognise this, he does not deserve her! Love and Blessings to you all and have a safe trip to Paris this week. I hope Jolie has the time of her life in Paris, I can't think of a more fabulous place to be as a young woman, meeting new friends and having great new experiences.... Oh to be 18 again and going to college in Paris, You Go Jolie! ❤
Malice narcissist will do that to their kids. The best thing i did was to go no contact. With my ex. I have 3 wonderful, caring,loving,well behave,smart ,brave,hardworking emotionally mature ,well rounded humans being. After my divorced, he took everything and never helped or asked to see them. We won i freedom, our peace of mine. He just disappeared. We wish him well, and to stay away, is the best desicion we have all made. No contact. Narcissist is a real chronic illness. Have fun and enjoy it your daughter. She is a wonderful young lady. Don't let anyone robbed her brake her spirit, no one can take away her joy. Make sure she knows the red flags,for her not to get involved with another narcissist in her life. God bless, have a fun time in Paris. ❤
Poor Jolie Seeing this all play out publicly must be devastating and embarrassing. 16:36 You just called his wife Laura White a loser This is getting too toxic and below the belt. We the public don't need to know his new wife's name.
I never comment nor have I subscribed but watch consistently and Ricks new look has compelled me to say how young fresh he looks now. You’re aging really beautifully like Kelly lol
Breaks my heart. Can't imagine Jolie will ever forget this round of interactions with her father, as she goes from childhood to adulthood. This is one of the most exciting times of her life and she should have both parents supporting her. Hoping somehow he will step up. Prayers for her.
I had the same situation with my dad my whole life. He died in 2021 and I still have scars from it. It unfortunately lasts a lifetime. Hopefully he will come around and heal the situation.
What's crazy is that when Jolie is a huge success, which I am sure she will be, then her father will go around bragging, saying that's my daughter, as if he had anything to do with it.
My dad is very similar to jolee , birthdays are not important to him or holidays . It's so strange some people have no nurturing bone in their body , thankfully my mother is an angel and makes up so much But it still hurts no matter what a girls relationship w her dad should be so different. Keep your head up jolee your father is missing out big time .❤❤❤❤
Kelly, I've gone through it and am still supporting my daughter alone. My ex-husband doesn't pay a penny and hasn't done so since 2012. She's 20 years old now, and she's an amazing fashion model whilst she studies 🎉
I agree with Rick ... On everything ! My opinion she is 18yrs old and off to Paris as an Adult... Going forward, (Hard 4 you) but just let her deal with him at this point in her life... Bc the last thing you want is her turning on you for intervening as she gets older and wiser. Father Daughter relationship is wayyyy different than Mother Daughter. I know you and Rick have supported her but that is what you should do. Now let her make up her own mind and make mistakes. Every person needs to make mistakes in life. It make moments sweeter ! RICK and YOU now can spend quality time together looking for a HOME ... not a House ! There is a difference.
I'm sick about this - what an A-hole M Dodd is!!!! There are no words. There's a place for a person like this....I am so sorry. Thank god you have Rick to help out. Best of luck to Jolie.
Kelly, first I want to say what an obviously great job you have done being her Mama. She is also sooooo very blessed to have Rick, as everyone can see the love he has for her. You mentioned someone saying he will get his Karma. I divorced 16 years ago from a 20 year marriage with three wonderful sons due to him cheating. He treated my sons so bad with emotional abuse and name calling for years after divorce. THAT made me furious and was only reason I could not stand him for years. I always used to say “he will get his Karma”. Well just a few short years after divorce and he married the mistress he got his Karma. He is now blind due to glaucoma. Cannot drive or work or do anything. His mistress, now wife, told my daughter in law that she told her “I guess this is my karma” because she has to bring home the bacon and do everything. I don’t take pleasure in his circumstances but it is what it is. I forgave him a long time ago and he has repaired his relationships with my sons. That’s all I wanted for them. So as a Christian, and I know you are, pray for his soul. Try and not let him bring you down and I hope Jolie can eventually get there too Best of luck to your precious girl going to study in Paris. I know she will do great. Safe travels and I can’t wait to see videos and pics of the two of you moving her to Paris You are a great Mama!!
I could maybe see if Jolie was a bad kid, didnt make good grades, didnt work part time, stealing the car in the middle of the night to go out to wild parties.....that is not Jolie, she is such a good nearly perfect kid. He will regret it one day, and sooner than later.
My ex did the same thing to my daughter. It’s the new wife that is making him do this. The new wife is insecure and jealous of Kelly and Jolie is her whipping post. Your ex is a poor example of what a great Dad is ….. one of love , inspiration , integrity and one who provides emotional and financial support during the 4 years after High School. Thank goodness you have Rick who exemplifies all the qualities of a great father, so that Jolie realizes that all man aren’t bad and one day when she meets her forever man he will be the opposite of her biological father.
So happy for your bright future Jolie! Any healthy parent would be very proud of you. Please keep in mind you are not alone in your experience and pursuing a healthy connection to no avail is common with narcissists. I have learned that attempting to heal traumas with these type of people is a waste of energy. I encourage you to heal through the positive relationships you have and let the toxic ones go until they are mature enough to deserve your time and energy. Please remember narcissists generally don’t have the ability to connect and grow healthy relationships so please don’t take any antics/misbehavior personally. Enjoy this next chapter of your life and be grateful for your wonderful parents that have guided you. Take care and safe travels! 😊
Best advice for Jolie, people don't change. I relate to the absent parent and it's more damaging for children to expect change and not get it. It's healthier to accept a parent isn't around and they never will be.
Rick and Kelly you are doing a great job with Jolie. How many kids in Newport work ? Jolie is well rounded, sweet and a hard worker . What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and she already has a plan to continue to move forward even without her dad’s support. She has a strong foundation 👏
You have done an amazing job, Jolie is a true gift and is navigating her path irregardless of her biological father. She also gives me hope as my daughter struggles in high school, shes a true inspiration, all the best in Paris❤
Kelly I watch this fellow RU-vidr named Lee Hammock, who has NPD and teaches about how to deal with people who not only have NPD but also about how to cope and deal with the emotional, verbal and physical abuse… rather it’s from a bitter ex, or parent. My NPD ex has done very similar things to my kids.. it’s horrible for our kids and to watch their heartbreak. Thank goodness for the two the two of you
His side ? Want to hear his side ? I’ll read you the text messages . He said I’m parenting alienation ! He hasn’t taken her on one vacation since she was 8 years an old . Didn’t buy her a gift or a card or dinner on her 18th birthday. Doesn’t pay for her college and won’t giver spending money ! What side does he have exactly !! Blames me for being abusive ? Jolie knows he’s abusive and hates his guts ! He’s a narcissist!
@@kellyleventhal6221 I think we can all agree that after Jolie graduates and does well in business her dad will take all the credit and say it’s all because he’s good in business and she’s a chip off the old block and he’s the reason she’s successful! Right!? - just what a narcissist would do. You can see this action coming a mile away. Think of how much fun they would of had if he went on the college visit with her and took a couple days off and ran around London showing Jolie all the places he hung out and where he lived etc - it would have been a great bonding moment for them. He loss out greatly by not doing such. You can’t get time back and he will have regrets at some point in his life and never be able to go back. It’s just sad. Carry on Jolie and do great things with your life girl - you got this!
Well! I was yelling at my T.V. again! I'm so upset 😡 poor Jolie! You know.......Micheal Dodd is truly missing out! Your daughter is an absolute DELIGHT! we've all heard her call you & I don't think she's ever finished a call w/o saying "I love you Mommy" ❤ in his ignorance & hateful feelings in regards to however your marriage ended, he (the adult) let it warp his feelings towards his daughter, I truly believe he thinks he somehow getting over on you Kelly by not helping Jolie! To frigging bring his step children into a conversation w/HIS only children made my head explode! I'm going to be 60 in Oct, I went thru what Jolie is going thru w/my father, the thing he married was (uggh is the B is still alive) she pulled all the strings, I put myself thru college, I bought my 1st car w/my twin @18.....no help.... he missed knowing my children, I had, had ENOUGH when I was 34, I finally told him what I thought his wife was (worst name ya can call a woman) hung up & we didn't speak for 10 yrs, the yr before he died he called me & I started spending time w/ him (w/o HER) on his death bed he cried & apologized, he was sorry for missing it all 😢😢 hugs ladies! Watching this a.m., I couldn't help but wish that I'd had a "Rick" in my corner when I was 13..-18! Wonderful man you have¡!
Me too. Perfectly stated. When parents come back at the end-What a hard thing for a child, now adult, to have to experience-opening a wound to maybe find peace & forgiveness. So sad for both. PS also, thank God for her grandma, Bobbi.
@kellyleventhal6221 Michael Dodd is truly a POS 🤡 My God 🤦🏼♀️ I never liked him much on RHOC - I found him to be weird on camera, but regardless he's putting the shit blame on his own daughter for HIS mistakes as a parent which is retarded 🙄 I can relate a lot to what you are going through and what my now 26 year old daughter went through with my ex husband / her dad almost 10 years ago.... It's not easy, that 🤡 WILL regret his actions one day!!! Trust me on that!!! You 3 keep on going strong ❤❤❤
@maryestadurtche9452 my mother was borderline personality disorder.... I asked my Dad when I was 15 if I could PLEASE come & live w/ him., huh.... his wife called (when my father was at work) to say "ohhhhh Lisa, there is only "one" Woman that will live in this house..... and that's "me" his wife.... something I thought he was a part of that decision, I told him 3 days before he died., he was shocked and at first said, "you're making that up" to which I reminded him that I was my father's daughter & lying was definitely something I did not do. Then he cried and apologized. He missed so much. For a long time I felt as though once a man has stopped loving his wife, the children are just a part of it., I have 2 children 23 & 27 and my daughter just got her own place, I miss her (she lives 6 mins away 😄) if a day goes by w/o a call or text, I really feel that I'm out of sorts a bit! So I really don't understand how or WHY, they can miss B'days, graduation, new job, college prep..... I haven't missed a thing AND I've truly loved all of it! My parents lack of "good" parenting and LOVE, definitely made me the Mom I am today! I just wish that people would take responsibility for the pain they inflict on their children.
My ex was and is the same way. My now grown up 26yr old daughter wants nothing to do with her biological dad. When my daughter was 8yrs old, I met the most amazing man who raised her like his own. She calls him dad. Jolie doesn’t need that abuse! She’s got Rick, a real stand up guy for a father figure! 🥰🥰 You guys are awesome parents! ❤
Kelly, your RHOC appearance is what turned me on to Narcissists… that’s exactly what Daddy Dodd is. This is why I LOVE that you’re with Rick. You glow now and sincerely look happy, in the eyes! The kids suffer too, worse, abandonment and lies to the core! I’m sorry for all of you and am so happy that Jolie has her Stepfather and you! The utmost blessings & success to that beautiful girl of yours in Paris ❤🙏🏼!
Dang, I feel for Jolie. However, how amazing is the love and support from her stepdad? No, it is not the same, but Rick truly loves Jolie. I remember when you all went to Mexico and Jolie asked Rick to ride jet skis…what an amazing memory he created with her. Too many hoops for Jolie to hop through to get any type of support from her sperm donor…she is not a puppy to be trained, she is a terrific young woman, who is kind and generous. Michael Dodd’s loss, but Rick has gained!
Michael Dodd should be forgotten by each and every one of you because you’ll all be better off. No attention/no contact is the best way. My ex calls his kids his “ex-family “ and will not abide by the court order to pay medical bills for my disabled daughter. We are free from him and so much happier. I wish I never wasted a minute of my life on him.
I get it with your ex and daughter, my parents divorced when I was 13 ,I was so lucky my mom remarried and eventually my dad did too and my dad was always a big part of my life and deserved to walk me down the isle when that day came, I would now just let it go on any expectations of your ex stepping up and talk less negative about him,Jolie knows she's old enough to see who her father is and it's still her father so talking negative about someone who is a part of her still has to effect her ,and at this point your not going to change him ,just keep supporting and loving Jolie like you both are ,she is so so lucky & loved, God speed! Good luck in Paris Jolie
Heartbreaking for Jolie - so sorry to hear about her dad's behavior. Let her know she has done nothing wrong. Be there for Jolie and love her and as hard as it is don't ever say anything negative to Jolie about her dad. *My ex-husband remarried had 2 more kids ( after our 3 daughters were grown ) then had a massive heart attack and died. At his funeral, my kids were never acknowledged. Our youngest daughter sat in the back by herself during funeral services and a couple of people asked who she was and why was she there ( *He died on our youngest daughter's 21st birthday )
To Jolie: You are doing an amazing job working towards your future. Stay focused on what you want to do and you'll be just fine. You have a mom and stepdad who support and love you. That's all that matters. Your dad may not want to be a part of your life because he can't take credit for anything you have accomplished. He had no part in raising such a kind, young lady. Trust me when I tell you, he is bragging to anyone who will listen about all the wonderful things you are doing and what a great person you are. Don't ever stoop to his level and someday maybe he will realize what he's done and want a relationship with you.
You can’t make him be a father to Jolie. He took his step kids word over hers without asking her, that says his new wife has total control over him…she is not let him. H s weak… when Jolie stops giving him the power he’s holding money and his selfish feelings over her head, she’s will now concentrate on herself. She has you, Rick your mom to be her cheerleaders!! Good luck to her she’s a beautiful girl and a good head on her shoulders.
New wives can be the WORST. My brothers #3 wife ruined our family & his relationship with his 3 boys from wife#2. Made him pick her over his own family. Alienated me (his own sister) over wanting to be the Alpha female in the family and he doesn’t even talk to our 84 yr old Mother. Hates #2 wife so the 3 boys get the hate too. Just horrible 😢😢😢
I like the clean shaven face Rick. So sorry Jolie's dad is/has treated her this way. Vindictive, angry and jealous is right. Hard lesson's are a b!tch to learn.
Dealing with a toxic parent can be unbelievably challenging. I am sorry that Jolie's biological dad is being so detestable. She needs to make it clear to him that she will not tolerate his disrespectful behaviors. She needs to establish boundaries with him for her own emotional health.
It might be good for Jolie to talk to a therapist because these are such formative years. I agree that walking away is the best advice because Jolie is repeatedly getting hurt by her father. Viewers watched this man on Bravo. He's still angry that their marriage ended (because they clearly were not a good match). So he's taking the loss out on his daughter...a gem of a kid. His loss! The only concern is that this rejection could affect Jolie's ability to trust men down the road. It hopefully won't since Rick has stepped up as a caring & trusting stepdad / role model who is there for her 100%.
@@barbe.1556 I agree. I can relate to her. It took till I was in my 40s to stop trying to please him and want some sort of recognition. Unfortunately my first marriage was abusive and similar to how my dad was. They say you marry and or choose what you comfortable and what is familiar even if it is toxic. Yes therapy was useful. A girl always wants the approval of her daddy. Shame on him.
I’m heartbroken for Jolie. I can’t imagine having a father who would treat me like he does Jolie. He doesn’t deserve one second of her time, ever. She has a loving and supporting mom and bonus dad, that’s all she needs. His loss.
She doesn’t need him!!!! I had a father and a dad. My step dad always took time with me and he is the one that I always looked up to!!! I always said” any guy can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad!!!” Jolie is so very lucky to have you Rick!!!!!(and Kelly too😜) ❤❤❤ love you guys!!!
Good morning! Rick you look smashing! Every year I witness the experience of parents dropping off their child at college. Michael is going to regret taking out the anger he has towards you on Jolie. I know Kelly and Jolie are going to have an amazing experience together. Shame on Michael!!!
Congrats on your daughter, I can relate on dead beat dads ; only person getting hurt is your kid but it made my daughter stronger and wiser and she a successful proud woman 🎉
My heart hurts for Jolie!! I know just how she feels. When I was 18 graduating from high school about to start my first year of college my father decided to tell me I DO NOT HAVE ROOM FOR YOU IN MY LIFE! It crushed me! But I was so lucky to have the mommy I had & the BONUS DADDY!! My bonus dad (I hate the word step) he was the best! He did not treat us any different than his children with his ex-wife thank God for him…. I’d have daddy issues if it wasn’t for him. So Kelly & Rick Jolie is going to be OK!! I promise you! She has you both!! btw my father, who just turned 80 had cancer of the eye, and now it has spread everywhere, even though he still doesn’t have room in his life for me I went to visit him! He told me IT IS MY KARMA ….whatever! I did what I was supposed to do
I will never forget the one time my 20 year old son laughed at something on housewives is when Kelly got into it with Emily’s husband at that party and called him a dork i don’t know what it was if it was the way she said it or what but we both couldn’t stop laughing i love Kelly doesn’t put up with shit ! Love you guys !!! Tampa fan
Michael is so bad. My mom is the same way, she hates my dad after they divorced 30 years ago and took it on me. Never paid for anything, just an absentee self center, materialistic narcisist. I alienated myself for more than 15 years from her. She‘s so toxic i cannot stand her
Jolie is such a sweet and kind young lady. She will be successful and thrive in Paris. Hopefully one day her dad comes around, realizes he messed up and he needs to step up. Hopefully it’s not too late at that point. Regardless, Jolie has the love and support of you Kelly, Rick, your mom and dad and your family. Best wishes in your studies Jolie!
Good morning! I feel so bad for Jolie, she’s an exceptional and beautiful young lady about to pursue her dreams!! I feel your pain Kelly in your voice. Her father is a self absorbed mean and ugly spirited person! He’ll get his one of these days, when he’s least expecting it! Thank God she has you and Rick by her side unconditionally 🤍 Jolie is going to rock it in Paris can’t wait to hear all about it!! Love you 🤍 God Bless you all ✨✨✨
