True but most hooks have bait. I'm trying to learn the wife's perspective & sexuality so my wife will open up to bedroom leadership. Easy way out is wrecking my marriage with wild sex with a female fan.
Hmmm…I’m going to agree to disagree with her on the “anything is reasonable” part. There are things I just wouldn’t ask my wife to do, just as I would set boundaries around certain activities. If say, my wife wanted to bring in a third party to the bedroom or wanted to “p3g” me, sorry, ain’t happening. As a general rule, if it’s not something I wouldn’t done to me sexually, it’s usually something I wouldn’t expect of them. “Control” really has nothing to do with it. Neither does being a “good man” 😂 as I’m not exactly a Boy Scout where sexual matters are concerned. It’s more about not being able to enjoy the experience if one or both of us is uncomfortable. That said, there are definitely women who are gatekeepers and control the bedroom; I just think she’s oversimplifying the situation here. I’m normally pretty much 💯 with most everything she says, but I’m not feeling this episode.
@@tristankiddie1710 Agreed, but it would not be surprising if a woman viewed a man who was assertive, authentic and generally just not validating her every whim, as “disrespectful” or “toxic” or “abusive,” etc. Just my $ .02; I have been known to be wrong on occasion in the past.😂
If you watch a few more videos you will see that monogamy is paramount to her beliefs. I believe the context is that women have a tendency to label sex. With shame, guilt, feeling of inadequacy, not being very creative, and quite frankly not thinking about or putting some thought and effort into sex.
I feel like my husband is more closed off to trying stuff even basic stuff he’s never let me do 😅 it is annoying to not be able to experience certain things or give them
@@strawberryme08 First off-serious question; no trolling here. Can you be (somewhat) more specific? Without going into too much detail? What are some of the things you want to do/try/experience? Oral? Toys? Role play etc.? Did you and/or he do these in the past and he no longer wants to? Again, not trolling; this is a dynamic that I usually see in the women’s situation, although I do know of the husband of one of my wife’s friends who was very inhibited after they got married, and he was not previous to the marriage.
I have a really hard time believing this post. I’ve been married a couple of times and NEVER heard this attitude not have I ever heard a woman express your sentiments. I wish it were true but hard to believe.
I don't know about control. There was a time when "good girls don't". My hustler adopted father told me, because he had experience. Things don't change with a good girl because of marriage. "no" has been conditioned all of your life. "no" stays conditioned that way. See Trish Leigh for a headband. Do some yoga. .
I really wish you would listen to experts on hormones perimenopause menopause and fluctuating hormones during and after pregnancy and or surgery. This affects desire for sex. And should not be dismissed. If there is compassion for what the wife is dealing with. Instead of thinking that a woman s lack of desire is to punish and emasculate her husband.
For the sake of argument let's say that's true. Should a wife seek treatment and/or options from her doctor to deal with that or just let her marriage collapse?
@@loverofgolf Many women do but are told ''your hormones are normal, menopause is normal'', etc. This is why women complain about how they're treated by medicine-there's little research unless it deals with having a baby. There are Testosterone pellets but I'm not sure women can continue taking them long term. Besides which, women's hormones are far more complicated as there's more of them to balance.
Just to be devil's advocate, how is this any different from problems and desires men face that are driven by hormones and some actual medical concerns, like depression, ptsd, etc. and how does that play into a man's expectation to provide and protect??? I am genuinely asking because as a combat veteran, and yes I know that is a bit of an outlier, some of these very same things I'm asking about were very real and tough to deal with, and I got NO QUARTER from ANYONE!
Yes but these temporary conditions morph slowly into becoming permanent, or the woman does not have enough interest to take the medical steps to get back on track. Women have at least 100 plausible excuses to allow frigid behavior
