Guys remember that Zay will read these comments. Most of them have to hurt a guy who’s been through a Lot. Don’t give up on him, God works in mysterious ways His wonders to perform.
I was raised in a Christian home and I ran away at 17. I thought my life was boring and restricted and so I just left with no plan. I got pregnant at 18 and my life changed. I needed God. I completely turned my life around and it wasn't easy but it was worth it. Now that child is 22 and in vet school. God blessed me. Thank God my parents planted that seed for the Lord in me because when I cried out to God in desperation he knew me. And I knew his voice. My prayer is that the seed in Zay grows and he knows Gods voice in the chaos.
I'm so sorry Zay is leaving. So very Sad for you Peter,May God guide you as a parent and hold your heart. May God protect Zay and May he realizes how good you were to him and how much you loved him.❤🙏
For whoever is confused by this video, let me just explain the whole situation simply with facts. 1) Zay travelled by bus from Peter's home in Charlotte to visit his mother in Virginia near DC. He did not give much heads-up to anyone about this trip. Apparently he was talking with his mom via phone calls recently. His mom is a recovered addict and works currently as a nurse. 2) Sometime during the trip, Zay tells Peter that he won't be returning, so Peter packs up Zay's stuff in the closet. 3) During Zay's trip to visit his mom, his mom apparently made him work in manual labor (doing gardening work), and she bought him a very expensive ($400+) ring, which he now wears. He also dyed his hair to a teal colour. 4) Peter + kids travel to pick Zay up from his mom's city 5) They all drive directly to Zay's new home to drop him off. So, Zay never returns to Peter's home after leaving on his trip to visit his mom (!). 6) Zay's new home: he is staying in Raleigh with his friend, who he met online 4 years ago, and the friend's mom. The friend is 17 years old and dropped out of high school 2 years back. It appears his new home is in a low income housing area. Apparently the friend's mom is a fan of Sabaton, which is a heavy metal band with dark and gruesome lyrics. 7) When dropping off Zay, Peter gives him a new phone and orders him a new bed. Because the friend's house has no extra bed currently. 8) Zay makes some statements like "this will be the last time you see me" and "you won't see me again for a long time" and "I won't be able to visit often". So it seems like he is practically gone forever 9) On his Instagram, Zay claims he left Peter's home because he thought Peter's mindset is too traditional and conservative, and Zay thought he cannot "be himself" in Peter's home. Sources: 1- mentioned in previous video 2- implied, see below 3,4- mentioned in prior video 5- because they are wearing the same clothes in this video as in the last video 6,7,8- in this video. Also Peter replied to a comment with the details about Zay's friend 9- Zay's Instagram My opinion is that this is a strange and sad situation, but not entirely surprising. Since Zay is already an adult, Peter cannot stop him from making an obviously bad decision. Zay only finished 11th grade, so he is not even a high school graduate. Since Zay is spending most of his days playing video games, probably Peter insisted that Zay should finish school and go for college or vocational school, and Zay doesn't really want to follow this "boring" path. So, Zay chose to move in with his gamer friend, where he can game all day long. After all, the gamer friend's mom already allowed the gamer friend to drop out of high school at age ~15 and do nothing productive with life. On his Instagram page, Zay mentioned he thought he didn't want to continue to live with Peter because Peter's household is too traditional/conservative. On one hand, Zay mentions on his Discord (the one in his IG bio) and Instagram that he is LGBT, so you could speculate that maybe he doesn't feel comfortable expressing that identity in Peter's household (this is just pure speculation, it could be totally false). But on the other hand I do believe Zay's primary motivation to move out is not really related to the LGBT thing, but more just because Peter imposes a lot of rules and structure in Zay's life to mold him into a responsible adult who will finish school and get a good job, which Zay is not interested in. I remember in prior videos, Peter always try to get Zay to follow some good habits, like less energy drinks and less sugar consumption, so probably Zay got tired of this nagging. In Zay's life, he has been in multiple foster families, so he is already habituated to temporary living arrangements, and if something is not working in the household then his solution is just to switch foster families. So he probably didn't bond all that much while living in Peter's house, so he doesn't see any problem with just leaving abruptly, because that's the life which he is used to. On his Instagram, he is already referring to his new cohabitants as his "new foster family", "sister", "brother", despite only knowing them for a couple weeks really (except his friend, for four years). We probably just find his departure jarring because we did not grow up in this kind of environment.
This was well written in detail, thank you. I wish I can liked this many more times. These young adults just don't understand. Unfortunately, when life hits them hard, they blame you for not guiding or supporting them, which is typically never the case.
Thanks for the summary. We wish Zay the best is his future. I personally don’t think he is making a good decision and I really wish his real mom or someone responsible could tell him this. But I think the mom has something to do with him leaving anyway. He is NOT a grown adult at all😢He still needs guidance and direction.
This is so very sad after all that Peter has done for him. Seems as he didn't have any appreciation. I saw Peter packing up his clothing and wondered why he was not there to help or do it himself. Now it make sense. I really feel for Peter.
I sorry, but can you please help me. Zay keeps talking about his IG account on the website, but I can't find it. Could you please give me his IG account name so I can follow him? Thanks
I think it’s a combination of he no longer wanted the structure you obviously provide. It’s not going to fare well for him if that’s the case. He just went from a loving structured environment ( in a beautiful house) to what looks like party central. I do think it was wrong that he gave you no warning, no heads up, not even a hey can we talk? Just decided he wanted to leave because it’s attractive to live elsewhere, and didn’t even want to come home to pack his belongings? You took him in, gave him a stable, structured, healthy environment. I’m sorry Peter. Give extra hugs to Anthony and the little kids
Broken people hurt people... No matter how much someone is loved they have to make a choice... What he moved into was not a good situation... Hopefully he sees the difference between what Peter offered and he what he is in and makes choices to change it...
As a kid that's been let down so many times, has learned, good and bad, from so many people, it's not odd that he wants to learn who HE is. And teenagers are unpredictable no matter what. He needs to stretch to grow.
It's now January 2023 no word from ZAY maybe he is not to good ZAY had PETER pack his clothes and take them to him WHAT I hope he thanked PETER AND ANTHONY AND LITTLE ONES
Zay will realize one day all that he gave up. He chose a sad, hard road. That trip to visit his bio mom changed everything for him… he looked different, he looked unkept on his return and now he has nothing. Incredibly sad.
Peter is nobody’s fool this guy is a former street kid, believe me he knows what’s up , grew up in the hood of hoods , and education is the number one thing in African families it’s the way out of poverty and it stops the cycle . And it works .
Lets just remember that without Peter's support God knows where Zay might be now. Peter provided the perfect bridge for him. People make their own choices in life and Zay knew 18 was his life line to do just that. My son experienced me and his father splitting up when he was 6 years old. My son lived with me. His father lived very far away, he barely saw him over the years. His Father was very difficult and never helped us or supported my son. Two weeks after leaving school my son basically told me he was going to live with his Dad and was leaving tomorrow!!! Also didn't tidy up room or pack things away. Later on I found out he'd planned it 6 months before but he didnt want to hurt my feelings by pre-warning me. I'm sure Zay also pre-planned it but felt the same. He knew he was in foster care for a reason but children have an innate desire to belong to their parents whatever has happened.
Peter just be careful when co-parenting with the lady as she may ask for money for Zay, hope that Zay is thankful for the many times that you was there for him.
The amount of entitlement Zay has… Oh, Peter was supposed to give me MY bed anyway. Sure he’ll buy you brand new bunk beds. 😡 And never a word of thanks to Peter. I can’t believe he made Peter pack up all “his” things too. I would have said, “you want them? Come pack them yourself!” Peter is such a selfless and caring man!! Truly a rare soul. ❤️
I've watched a lot of the older videos including the first one when Zay ( then he was Kai) was so arrogant and sarcastic.. ALOT of people commented that he seemed distant amongst other things. I continue watching the videos and I still see the same Zay. arrogant, sarcastic,entitled and selfish.
Nah, you're the entitled one. Zay was a FOSTER child. Just because Peter provided for him doesn't mean he Zay has to stay with him forever; he's an ADULT now, so he can do whatever makes him happy. Peter knew what kind of person Zay was and welcomed him into his home anyway. That's the unconditional love every foster parents should be
@@1958BUTT In one of the earlier videos Peter talked about Zay having trust issues and that one of the first thing he told Peter was how he's done a lot of "bad things" (probably to test Peter), but Peter still accepted Zay. It's infuriating when people don't understand the trauma foster children go through and that it's hard for many of them to feel loved or show love when they constantly move from home to home.
I’m really surprised by how cold Zay seems here towards the little kids. This children have been through so much, why would he say “this is the last time you’ll see me and you probably won’t ever see me again.” I’m sure he’s going through his own thing and probably has trouble getting close to people because he kept moving families and what not, but still. It’s sad.
On the other hand it would be worse if he made promises he knew he might not keep. He probably has had enough experiences to feel like that's much worse.
He's at an age where he wants freedom. He doesn't know he is prey for the soul snatches and how they come in so many forms. I hope he goes to school and steadfast to his goals. He has an amazing mentor and parent figure in his life. He will look back at it when he is an adult and hopefully graps what it means to have structure and guidance in one's life.
Oh man. That boy where he moving in with has big problems I can look at him and his attitude and whole vibe and see it. And his mom has no control I can tell that too. God help Zay.
@@krzllc2520 Amazon has bunk beds and mattress. Its gonna be a hot mess that boy he moving in with is no role model yikes..I pray to God he says no to drugs.
I was amazed, that Zay seem to take it for granted, that Peter would supply bunk beds, it sounded like the lady didnt have enough beds for Zay, very strange. And her son was quite rude too to Peter well thats how it came across. I do hope Antony an the 2 younger ones, will be ok Plus the dogs will miss him too. Zay the grass is'nt greener on the other side as they say.
Wishing Zay the best! However this is a little concerning as a viewer. His abrupt exit shows a distinct lack of maturity and makes me think this is not the best decision. I hope I am proven wrong.
Wow. He thinks it’s gonna be fun? His life is about to change so drastically. I can definitely see him crawling back home.. and this isn’t independent Zay. Those people will soon see you as a burden. Not being negative, Ive been there. I wish you well on your journey and please stay in touch with Peter. From the palace, to the hood… I can see that lady begging Peter every damn month.. I’m kind of upset.. I’m sorry..
@@brenzi8872 everyone doesn’t think like you obviously do. Perhaps you need to self-evaluate your penchant for greed if you honestly believe Peter is only in it for money. What I saw was a man obviously heartbroken bc one of his children has decided to leave home.
Zay should be packing his own bags. Peter you did the best you could as a parent. Hopefully Zay will practice the lessons you taught and keep in touch with you. I pray that Zay makes wise decisions moving in with his friend.
@@FosterDadFlipper My eighteen year old also wants to move out, and figured out the spreadsheet of his finances. He realizes that he can't afford to move out, so for the moment he's staying put. But he's my youngest. ..as the mother of four, I know it won't be long. The hardest part is allowing them to fail, and pick themselves back up....without asking for your help. Remember, they are God's children, too, and He's in control. Don't worry, Peter, cuz Jesus is with all of your family ❤️
@@FosterDadFlipper he’ll be fine. You’ll probably see him a lot more than anticipated... he is not too far away. It’s hard to let go... but it’s inevitable. Stay positive 🍀🍀🍀
Not gonna lie. Seeing the young man he got dropped off with made me nervous for Peter. And teenagers don't quite understand. Living INDEPENDENT means providing for yourself without anyone else. So this isn't that. But he definitely is 18 and needs to figure out life on his own. Praying for him is the best any of the viewers and his beloved foster family can do for him. He has been through so much and I know Peter just wants to protect him. Such a great kid. Hope God directs his path even though he is planning his own steps.🙏
When my oldest son moved out and I was emotional, he draped his arm across my shoulders and said,"Mom, this is what you've been raising us for: to live on our own. You did good!"
Thats so sweet of him to think to say to you, and so very true as bitter sweet as it is 💖 you clearly taught him well so have such mind set! I hope my kids say something as such to me one day to make me feel better because i dread this day to come mine are 15,17 now so i know one day eventually before i know it will be here 🥺💖
Seems like zay wanted an excuse for you to come to get the yellow bag. He said "because that means you have to come back". Also she said "You know what, you can always help me out w him". He's 18 & chose to leave so there's no reason to help support him in another household. Something doesn't add up.
He's not a man, in the way he chose to treat YOU ALL. What really happened on his trip to his mom's to come home and treat everyone like this. I know how broken your heart.
My oldest nephew left home right after graduating high school. His parents were so surprised! My nephew knocked about for a few years and found his niche in life❤. He now builds electric guitars & carves beautiful images on the front of those guitars. He's so artistic and has grown into a fine young man❣️
Zay I hope you realize that peter surely provided a loving and stable home never forget Peter. I hope you have plans to further your education and don't get to comfortable and stay to long where your going because things can change, people change. Your really not on your own yet your just living in another household. But when you decide to move out and be on your own it's a big responsibility. Remember whatever happens you'll always have Peter.
@@BellatorNyc do you not remember being 18? This is what young adults do. We move on from the safety of our parents homes. We test our wings. Sometimes we come back and sometimes we don’t. Let it go. It’s not ungrateful. It’s just his age. Perhaps you never left home but a lot of people do.
@@BellatorNyc I agree with you. He was very cold at the end...and I fear he can't wait to get out of there cuz he wants to smoke weed and play video games with that other kid. Hope I'm wrong.
I am so heartbroken that Zay is leaving age is a number and he is still just a baby to me. Zay, at anytime you feel scared or unsure you pick up that cellphone and call Peter right away, don't let anyone talk you into making wrong decisions.
That just felt weird when she kept saying she was mama and even Zay corrected her. His friend looked like he needed rehab not Zay to mooch off of. Hopefully Zay finds his way back home SOON!
What kinda bothers me about all this. Aside from the fact he pretty much dumped this on Peter with no warning, and is trading a beautiful house with a structured environment to one that looks party central. He really seemed unconcerned with how this would affect the little kids, especially the lil girl he seemed to have bonded with. Hope he at least calls every once in a while since it seems he has no real interest in visiting them
Hi Peter, so proud of you how you handled this...You helped him to get to this part of his journey.. Time to let him fly as he requested, I know you will be still watching over him from a distance.. You did an Awesome job..Blessings to you and your family as you continue on Your Journey also!!!!!
I hate to see you so sad Peter, I would have loved to have you as a father growing up. If I lived closer I would love to have you as a friend, too. Your love for these children and your dedication are truly a gift to God’s kingdom, may He bless you and your family.
Sometimes things are for the best. Maybe him stepping onto his own new journey will open up a new journey for another child who needs you more right now. Sometimes it's just for a season. My parents also had a lot of foster children and the majority of them went back to their parents, some went into independent living and we keep in touch with almost all of them. They have all made my parents so proud, even the parents have thanked my parents and have done better. We say it's the last time but we always see them on Holidays and Father's/Mothers Day💞They say they're gone but they end up calling and still coming by when they see how good they had it. Prayers and Blessing to Zay and His new journey in life. Blessing to Peter and you guys' new journey and the next new adventure for you all. I have a feeling Zay will have a very popular RU-vid Page and He will do very well. Great Job Peter, he will always keep in contact trust and believe it 💞🙏💞
I wish Zay, well But that family he moving in with gives me creepy vibes. I hope he’s making the right decision something seems off & add with that other family please do not start giving financial aid to them.
Help You Co-Parent, we Co-parenting Now? I have been following your journey Peter all interviews you have done and because you from East Africa Made me attached to this channel more. Peter from a place of love and to protect you do not allow to be used Financially. I loved Zay here his personality stood out, he was sweet esp to the little ones and for him to say he will not be seeing you guys probably not for a long time, not comforting the little one who was clearly heartbroken was Cold. His demeanor Has Changed, the energy is different, distant and from what I picked from this vlog he never came home when you picked him up as it seems to be filmed the same day, which explains why he was not able to pack his own bags. You had to go back Home and do that how Insensitive after all you have done. Moving to a new Home I remember you included plans for him there , gaming and all.All the 3 kids did not get time to process all this, the feeling of abandonment is something these beautiful souls including zay have dealt with, this should have been a smooth transition so everyone is part of it gradually, goodbye dinner , family packing moment. He could not have the courtesy to come Home one last time? It is not right how this went down.His mum was able to buy an expensive ring but she couldn't get him a bed? Of course she knows he is moving out. If he is old enough to Move out he should be old enough to pack his Bags, ensure he has a place to sleep including bed and survive . This environment does not look of good influence am sorry to say. I hate to judge but that young man with no shirt, the attitude . Zay better be careful out there, finish school , get to college stay away from people who do drugs with no direction. Zay has planned so many things behind your back or hitting you and the kids by surprise and no time to process . This is not what you do to family . He has gone ahead to call the others his new foster family what were you guys? Was he kicked out? I can only imagine how you feel Peter when some of us your viewers feel this way. We sending all our love, you have 3 children who need so much love and attention. Anthony became a bit withdrawn always sitting at the back we hope to see more of him and the cute stuff he used to do for you like on fathers day because one thing he really loves you and so do you. Am wishing your family the best and to take more kids in who need love and a home. Sometimes it's ok to love and offer support from a distant, don't allow to be used and protect the children left behind from and negative influence. While children must get their wings and navigate the world independently this move with no financial plan, is he going to school and work at the same time cause am sure he will not be hosted and eat for free. Anyway Zay has his mom too so we hope he will be ok no matter what.
Based on this video you take very good care of him. He is going to miss that. The fact that he asked u to pack and he is not even there shows that he relies on you. I hope he stays close to the family. I don’t understand why he can’t visit? Why “not for awhile”? He wants to be independent but is moving in with a friend and his mother….that’s not independent. I’m so confused. I just feel for Peter…..he is such a blessing.
This old lady suspects it’s not “goodbye for good”. It feels like Peter will be supporting him still, just on a different level. Which is something all parents should try to do. Let’s all be cheerleaders for Peter & Zay. 💕
How can an 18 year live on his own? There's no way he can make enough money to support himself. He should have listened to his "daddy". Maybe he will realize soon it isn't so much fun being on your own.
Zay is too immature to move out😳 how is he moving out to be independent when he is just moving in with another family? Peter you are the father I wished I had growing up. Will be praying for love and success!
Zay I have been a social worker for 35 years, and this is a bad idea. I can't tell you how many kids like you age out of the foster care system, and aren't lucky enough to have a Peter in their corner. Peter offers stability, and I'm sure would make sure that you went to college, or a trade school. I'm not going to sugar coat it, I think that your mother, and her friend (your 2nd mom) are using you. I pray that I'm wrong, but I have experience in this area. Everyone on this page wants what is best for you, and this new living situation is not it. You can be closer to your biological mom without moving in close proximity to her. Also, the new brother? Where is his shirt? Mom's shirt? The shirt new "mom" is wearing, Sabaton, has been connected to white supremacy. I'm a heavy metal fan myself, and they are garbage, dark lyrics. Peter, you are smart man, please don't give these women money on Zay's behalf. Not saying that is what they are after, but I wouldn't be surprised if they had him ask you. Fist thing that woman says is, "You can help me co-parent, I'm a single mom, and I could use the help."
I didn't want to think this was about race but that was my first thought when I saw her and her son. Then the attitude change when Zay returned. I bet they told him, 'that black man can't take good care of you'. It sickens me that race is such a big issue still.
There is something underneath that really bothers me about this with Zay and I question if someone has been talking to him about where he has been living with this wonderful dad and giving him some bad advice. I do wish him the best, but it’s concerning.
I don't really understand why he would move out of Peter's house and move in with a friend and his parents.....its odd. He said he wants independence, that's not independence - that's moving in with another family with new rules.
It was also odd the abrupt way he did it, giving little consideration to Peter and the kids. It seemed out of character for the person he appeared to be. In this video he appears indifferent, almost angry. I wonder if the bio mom has influenced him some how. One will never know. I just hope he does not take advantage of Peter in the future.
This is how kids learn and grow. It might end up being a good decision for him or maybe it won’t. Either way he will learn from it. He’s a 18 so it’s his decision to make
💔💔 sometimes it takes not having something to realize how valuable it is. It Breaks my heart he is walking away from the treasure Peter and his foster family are
Yes she will miss him. So hard when little ones have so much loss of the ones they love! He will come to visit hopefully! Good luck Zay on your next chapter!
I hope moving out is not a bad decision. Good luck to you Zay. FYI Peter you might want to change the locks on your doors to be cautious, you do not know these people and their background.
actually i agree + think that's a good idea. not b|c he should worry about Zay but in case the keys are lost or stolen; or taken? 🤷🏾♀ sometimes it's the friend of a friend or associates of a friend you don't know//can't trust. 🤷🏾♀
exactly thoughts. For the safety of your family, please be extra cautious Peter. Change the locks. 🙏🏻 You did and gave more than enough. We wish him luck but let him be responsible for his decisions and please do not be a human ATM when it gets tough for him. He needs to take responsibility. 🙏🏻
He is 18, he made his decision. You did the best you could. He won't forget the lessons you taught him. Good job and I hope the best for Zay. One thing though Zay, Peter is not "supposed" to give you a bed, honey. The bed is a gift but you are not obligated anymore. Learn manners because they will take you for. Accept gifts but with no expectations.
He’s not living on his own but he’s experiencing another side of a living with a different family setting. I hope he doesn’t misuse your kindness for the next ongoing years. “I need…you give…he takes!”🤔
I’m sorry Zay And Peter you always promote honesty. So here I go I wish this beautiful soul to be happy healthy and safe!!! Having said that I don’t see that happening he moved into a government project home!! I hate this so much!! My heart is broken !! Also you want to meet his parents! Their is no dad ! This is not going to go well!! I love you Zay ! You are known and always will be! Please call Peter if you need him to pick him up and go back to your home full of love!! I miss and love you so much Zay!🧡🧡🧡😘💯
@Joanne Clark There really aren’t any disclaimers you can put out that lessen the blow of the negativity of your judgement. Yes it looks like the family he is moving in with is less financially secure then Peter - and yes that can be a harder boat to row - but why put energy into forecasting failure? He is loved and has a safety net of a solid father who is just a phone call away. He feels the need to spread his wings and learn about himself - just as we all do at some point. Hindsight is a tool only won through choices and he is a brave young man choosing to set out on his journey. Capitalism is a curse - but money has nothing to do with the heart.
You have given your all to Zay ! Anthony adores you and you are his heart, please do not forget him. You have more love and time to share with him, soon he will be an adult, please max. your time and love with him - now. Make your memories. You are all he has and you him. Praise God for this time - NOW.
"Today will be the last time you guys see me" That breaks my heart that that's how he framed his decision for the younger children 💔 Sending you a gentle hug, Dad and family 🫂
He's still young, so he spoke in absolute and doesn't realize that just because you are 18 years old doesn't mean that mentally you are an adult. I join the Navy at 17 and as soon as i turn 18, I got married. I was so immature even after having my first son. In the last 2 months my eldest moved to NYC for a job. Did I think that was the best decision no, but I knew I had to let him figure it out. He at least has a good job and always wanted that lifestyle and he graduated from college and does have friends there because he did an internship with NBC a couple of years ago. My youngest just turn 18 and is going to college 3hrs away and I wasn't happy with that decision but I knew I had to let him go too and let him see the world. As far as Zay, I will admit that I saw this coming when he went to visit his mom. "The friend" painted an awesome picture for him. Probably telling him that his mom is cool and will let them do whatever they want. I didn't get good vibes from the lady or the friend. I don't think it will be a good scenario for him. But Peter had to let him go so he can see for himself. I just wish that Zay realizes that if it doesn't workout that he can come back home and know that Peter is there for him. I wish him the best! Also, was I the only one that felt the lady was throwing ut out there that " it's only her, no husband etc" for Peter? Lol😏🤔
After last weeks cliffhanger this was exactly what I was hoping wouldn't happen🤣, but like you said...he is 18 & able to make his own life decisions. Zay it was so nice of you, that personal moment you had thanking all the viewers/fans. I will def miss you. Wish you the best & I hope you make a few cameos in the future visiting Dad, Anthony & the lil ones. Best of luck on your journey through life Zay!!!!!
I expected this after the visit with his mom. It somehow seemed like he was ready to move on. I wish Zay well in all his endeavors and I pray that whatever Peter instilled in him, he will always remember and use it to do great things with his life.
@@cressidarichardson1480 same with me but my hopes for him now is he would not only return every now and then but he woulds go on with his business as well
Ohhhhh I am sad. Not too sure about this move. I'll say what most people might be thinking...his friend looks like trouble. You have given him a wonderful foundation Peter, now it's up to him.
Yeah I agree with you. I come from different culture but I can sense that Zay will face some problems in the new house. However, knowing his background and his stand I doubt he will confess to Peter...may Zay be blessed
Maybe his friend just didn't want to be on a youtube video that is watched by thousands of people. Peter imho should've respected that, btw, and cut him out. Plenty of people are camera-shy or just don't want to lose privacy. (Unless there was something about him in previous/recent videos which I haven't watched yet). Hopefully there is nothing wrong about him. (Ok I just learned he apparently dropped out of school a few years ago? That's definitely a red flag... I knew a family with a troublemaker who dropped out of school, his parents did everything thy could to find him school to take him back and force through the classes, in the end even paid for a private school (a bit too expensive but better to cut down on expenses than let the child waste away their future) - not possible for less privileged people, I know). Boy is no scientist but lives on his own successfully.
I was disgusted hearing the mother talk about co-parenting with her (I'm sure she only meant needing your money) and then said she found a cheap, used bunk-bed but that she'll go your route to have you buy a brand new one - with you as a single dad with all these kids having to buy a brand new bed for someone who is leaving on somewhat bad terms. Also how Zay was saying he was going to keep your backpack when he knew you wanted it back. I'm glad you spoke up with bravery and insisted you have your backpack back! You are very classy and humble and kind. You go over and beyond. I would not give money to them in fear of it being used for negative things. I am sad at his new life style choice but I do get it. We just have to pray and hope for the Lord to use all of this to draw Zay to Him one day, in His timing.
Anthony don't seem sad at all and it's best to have to have anything that could potentially become a negative influence out of the house from around the kids
Peter, I have been binging on your videos for three days now and if there is one thing I'm certain of, it's that you given Zay two things he might not have received elsewhere, a firm base and the knowledge that "on your own" will never mean "all alone in the world". God bless.
I feel zay was very very lucky to have a dad like peter my dad passed away when i was young .. even as a 38 year old woman i would give anything to have a dad like peter and to live with him and feel loved and safe ...i think zay should have stayed while he had a loving place. ...he was very lucky peter allowed him to still stay after he turned 18 not many foster parents would do that peter is such an amazing daddy .i also feel so bad for the two kiddos and how hard this adjustment must be for them and how harsh zay came off to them but its ok hes young teen still learning ❤i wish him luck on his journey !!
As a parent, I shudder to think Zay is leaving a secure environment to 'move in with friends', people 'he hardly knows' and whom Peter and Anthony have never met, so soon after his 18th birthday!! Really seems sudden, not well thought out and probably not not the 'ideal' environment but on the other hand, I trust and hope he won't live to regret it. Really hoped he'd have stayed, finished his studies, got a job, then move on - being able to live independently. "Knowing and living with people is different." Well said, Peter! All the best Zay!!
What is a secure environment? A conservative environment that is stifling? An environment where you cannot be who you are? Living with people who make you feel bad about who you are? Who wants that? He knows the people who he moved in with. He has been friends with them for years. He has a mom who loves him unconditionally. And a new family that will allow him to be who he really is. And it is in a situation like that where he will thrive.
@@queennanna5595 What on earth are you talking about? What exactly is stifling about a secure, structured environment where all of your basic needs are taken care of so that you can focus on finishing school? Look at his Instagram account. He has a girlfriend! He’s not gay! And now he’s living with some sketchy people who can’t even afford to provide him with a bed! Your comment is extremely stupid and ignorant. What job do you think he’s going to be able to get when he hasn’t even finished high school? And doesn’t plan to?
@@queennanna5595 Although I feel it is Zane decision to live where he wishes I totally disagree with your assessment of his time with Peter. Did you truly know who you were at 18? I didn’t and Zan doesn’t either. I’m glad his mother is doing better but if she wanted what was best for her son she would have moved him in with her sometimes the most loving thing a mother can do is allow a child to stay where they are getting the structure they need to become a better person then they themselves are. Amy mother who loves unconditionally would have been reinstating the values Peter was instilling go to school, get your education try your hand at a new job or two before deciding to move out with a family that seems to already be struggling themselves. This lady is a single mom who admitted she needs help yes she might be good to Zan but I’m not sure she can be what he needs right now. Structure while he figures out who he is would have been better for him for awhile. I wish him the best of luck in all he does he truly is a remarkable young man but he is also impressionable I only hope he remembers what Peter taught him when he needs it most in life.
At 18 they are still at the stage of growth and development called "emerging adults" that is the stage between adolescents and adults. Where they think they know everything but are too young to realize they don't..their brains are still developing and they still are working on impulse control. Honestly if he's old enough to move out, he's old enough to pack his own clothes. Does he have a job to support himself. No offensive intended Zay, I will miss you on the videos. Prayers will be prayed for you young man.
I can see the little ones are sad. Zay's demeanor has changed. I hope he watches Soft White Underbelly so he knows to stay off the drugs, they are everywhere. Scared for him. 😭
I thought I was the only one concerned about Zay and drugs. I really feel like Zay needed a couple more years of stability before leaving Peter’s home. I hope he is ok
I’m not very optimistic about his new home and his friend… it doesn’t look like a great decision… Zay should finish the school and go to college if he wants a bright future. Peter you are a great dad!
Time to spend more time with ANTHONY, YOUR SON! GOOD! Zay should pack his own things ~ part of growing up and being a responsible human being. Peter, change house keys! Be Wise!
I think raising a foster kid is much more different. It’s funny you think you love your biological kids but the love got for a foster is more tender. your biological kids can never touch the foster. That will be the simplest example I can give
The fact that Peter packed Zays things up to take down to him 😭 babygirl wanted to have one last sleepover with Zay and babyboy wants to live with Peter forever 😭😭
He's old enough to move out but not old enough pack he's own clothes etc to move out....and the way he was treating the kids when they were being told he was moving out..smh
Some day they realize. Right now he is still a kid. I’m glad to se you and your older son are continuing on with all of the good that you do and opening up your home and keeping your heart open. As long as Zay knows that you will be there he can always reach out. ❤
@FosterDadFlipper, Peter I’m fairly new on your fan base, and very impressed by your family. I hope you do invest in personal resources for your well being🙏🏾. Parenting is a huge emotional undertaking. Blessings! I love how the younger ones lovingly say they want to live with you forever. Also love how you emphasized all the positive aspects of living with Zay! You are a gem to the world! Keep being you!
I wish the best for the young man but the company you keep can determine how your life goes. I wish he had chosen a different option. The new family he chose didn’t seem as positive of an influence as Peter and the kids. If he wanted independence the Army or college is always a great way to not only gain the independence but to also become self sufficient. Peter is a great person you can tell. He took care of him while he had him and even made sure he was okay once he got moved…by ordering him a bed. That’s the love only a parent can give.
