Same-Sex Attraction Stereotypes (with Jordan Castille) 

This and last episode are critical for guys to watch. Looking forward to next one!

Good podcast! It's probably outside the HM community, but there's a stereotype in the world and sometimes in church that goes "Christian guys use 'same sex attraction' as cover because they're unwilling or afraid to admit that they're gay. Along with it comes the unspoken assumption that they're either fooling themselves or they're cowards. Like with other stereotypes, guys have to deal with more than the attraction.

I am not aware of my gaydar failing much or even at all. However if you only look for supposed femininity, that’s just very superficial.

Is it easier if you have blonde hair and blue eyes

There is a huge part missing from this. You have to iterate that there are lots of people who can only be attracted to people of the same sex and be gay and never think of opposite sex attraction and that’s completely ok. You are mostly discussing sexual attraction to the same sex as an issue that shouldn’t be frowned upon but as long as the person is in “recovery” from it. But it doesn’t always need to be recovered from when people are gay. Also sex isn’t a purveyor of sexuality yes that is true but the real reason that people are afraid of ssa in churches is because the Catholic Church is HOMOPHOBIC. End of story. There may be people who are addicted to sex but gender attraction is separate to that. Also who cares if a gay man IS effeminate? Femininity is incredible so stop being concerned if someone tells you you aren’t a man’s man or that you might be a bit femme. Feeling shame in that is the real problem. Listen you guys are deeply entrenched in your beliefs so much that you have forgotten that sometimes people are just gay or just bi. It doesn’t have to be part of an addiction to porn or attached to any trauma. It’s just who they are and it is nothing to be concerned with.