1. “It will be easy” 2. Don’t respond too quickly/ don’t show too much interest 3. “Just follow your heart” 4. “Just have fun” 5. Going on a “test drive” 6. When you meet the one it will be love on first sight 7. “Never settle” 8. You need to be completely healed and mature before a relationship 9. “Don’t be so judgmental “ Bible says actions can be judged as wrong etc 10. Figure out if you are completely compatible in the beginning
So I. Am being judgemental for having an opinion. And I'm pretty good at reading people . God gave me k owledge discernment amongst other things just not with or for myself I guess.
Thank you for exposing the lie about being completely healed before going into a godly relationship. This is the first time I heard about it being a lie.
I thank God for answering one of my prayers. Before I asked God if He knows if I am ready for a relationship the man who wants or likes me will court me and he will be clear to his intention why he will court me. My prayer is Courtship to Marry. This is way back 2020 and last year some of my childhood starting courting me since last year. I'm still praying if this is God's will. Please pray for me also to have wisdom from God. ❤
I'd advise you to limit the romantic dates & get to church ASAP. A healthy one. Get into scripture together. It's important your foundation be in Christ. In my case, all that kissing & making out got us stuck in our feelings and flesh. TROUBLE! The Lord lead you.
@@danilaroche1156Thank you for your advice. As we go along the courtship process we do respect limits and boundaries. I trust God more than anything else. And before I accepted this man's courtship with me I've been seeking God everyday, until today, if this is or not God's will then let it be done. I believe that everything has purpose. ☺️☺️
I'm in another group with another relationship coach who is not a believer and gives advice based on worldly dating. There are several people on there commenting on how important it is to "test drive" as you said. They're worried about being sexually incompatible. I told them there's no such thing. You have to treat it like any other conflict in your marriage. If it's not good, it can change, as long as you are both willing to put in the work and communicate your wants, needs, desires. Example: if someone is not a good kisser, you can change that. Don't judge someone based on that.
Wondering if someone will be a good sex partner is not a realistic concern. If you love someone and marry that person and it is in God's will, sex will be good because of the passion you will feel. Psychologists say that the most powerful sex organ is your brain. It is more important to bond with someone. You will develop a closeness that will see you through the rough spots. If you stick together in the tough times, you will know that life will be great in the good times.
I have found that in this day an age. I was never purposely waiting until I was older, however when I was in my early 20’s, there weren’t many men serious about Christ and were more into partying. I myself was emotionally immature and needed some time to grow up otherwise I wouldnt have contributed positively to a marriage. These were deal breakers for me. Secondly men and women who were in Bible school or church that did get married young, many of them wound up divorcing. Unfortunately we live in a time where many people are deconstructing, and turning their backs on God. I rather be single than with someone who doesn’t want Christ in their lives or as an integral part of their marriage and life. Honesty. It’s hard to date at any age, especially in a liberal country where Christ, marriage and family are frowned upon.
What a great video, Mark! I’ve been working on myself, in discipline, bad habits, fashion, and conversation. This was a much needed reminder of the sneaky tactics Satan likes to use on us. Especially the last one. I’ve been guilty of that in the past. Thanks again for your God-centered content! God bless you and your family!
True love is not painful or abusive. When a woman has a manipulative, abusive and adulterous man, that's not God's love. Yes, it is true. Godly relationships are easier in the sense that there is no abuse. Are there disagreements, yes. But not continual cheating, lying and abuse. There is a clear difference.
Thank you Mark. I do believe I will probably be single for a while as I am still trying to get my life together as a man. It most likely will happen in my 30s as I am not ready for marriage nor do I know anyone either. I just ask God for happiness in my single season.
Yes!!!! #3 is a major pet peeve of mine! And I totally agree with #6! Great advice!! Thanks Mark! Ouch! #8 is really a tricky one for me. That’s definitely personal for me. I’ve been so abused in many ways and I’m in process of healing from narcissistic abuse.
Thank you for making this video Mark! Number 8 hit me hard as i have been told that and believed it wholeheartedly... All the points you mention, are exactly what we are flooded with and, sadly, the church does not talk about this... so people look for advice from other places to end more confused and stressed out than ever before! I thank God i met you and your videos as i was going through a very painful time in my life❤ I now share your videoa and what i learnt through them with others ❤
#8 just set me free AND speaked truth into my heart. Others tried to get it through to me, but i didn't trust that they had right information. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been interested in someone but knowing I’m still imperfect/ healing in a number of areas has been a huge discouragement to me. I’ve felt like I have to be perfect to date/be in a relationship but that’s completely false. I’ll never be perfectly healed / healthy before being in a relationship because the process won’t ever stop until I die. It also creates space for both of us to depend on God and not ourselves to sustain the relationship because He’s the only one that can do so. ❤ It’s also really beautiful to know that we’ll both grow together on the way, all the growth won’t happen before the relationship/ marriage. ☺️
Thank you so much Lord Jesus 🙏 And thank you Mark. The Lord has used you to help so many people, and today, this video was an answer to prayer for me. May God continue to guide you in speaking into many Christians lives 🙏
I literally just experienced a situation where the guy I was in a relationship with was applying things, referring to tips that Satan will use to keep you from a Christian Spouse. I watch your videos all the time and I thought I found the right one. I'm still sad about the break up but it's so crazy how the tips you just went over were things my ex suggested or tried to apply.
Just bought and read your book, "Christ Centered Dating". I also enjoy your daily videos. Thank you for your encouraging, biblically based words and advice for Christian singles.
God bless you my brother! You truly know what is love, you truly know what is the relationship between Adam and Eve. May God give you more wisdom to teach people who are suffering In Jesus Mighty Name Amen and Hallelujah
I see this alot. Christians saying he did this. She did that. She's a bit vain . He is a workaholic. Discounting someone for human flaws. Outright sin is sin but if someone loves Christ and you...dont discount them.
True, I see this too often. Especially from women, who give up or end a relationship that actually looked good or had potential all because someone has a quirk, a habit, some confidence issue or something petty when everything else was going well.
So much of what you said is so true Mark. Nope, the old saying of "love at firsr sight" is so untrue. There is lust at first sight, but not love at first sight.
Tip 8answered my prayers. I wanna ask this girl out, but i feel like there still some parts in me that i have to fix. So I prayed to God if I should wait and keep working on myself, or go for it. And he just answered my prayers with tip 8. Thank you!
The truth about how it gets harder the older you get past your 20s find someone to date and marry was like a sword to my heart. Either i was not confident/brave enough to pursue women in college (and shortly after) or I was not encouraged enough. Either way, I regret not doing more in college and my 20s to date and get into a godly relationship that can lead to a possible marriage.
Ha how timely is this for me just got done meeting. Some gentlemen are actually he met me and anyway in the end I had to kind of let him know about our behavior. Our children are watching and anyhow this fits into here. My comment is that that acquaintance friend of mine was saying girl that’s too early to bring upyou know and seeing someone and I said do you know that’s how this world got to the place we are now because people don’t speak up say or do what we should do for the betterment of everybody thank you. I’m gonna finish listening.
Important question is does God have a spouse for you? A spouse isn't a promise made by God. Some people receive the gift of singleness. I have a desire to meet the woman God has for me as I want to pursue marriage. God's plans can't be thwarted and they always prevail. He's sovereign of all things.
I'd be careful about texting back too soon, because a lot of people had the same bad advice. Also, you want to pace the relationship. Finally, if you respond right away and you're doing something else, then you're doing everything on his time. There go your boundaries. I'd feel it out with each person. You have to play a little bit of games, unfortunately, which was a tough pill to swallow for me. I'm not attracted to games. Otherwise, this is excellent. Some of this advice is given to people intentionally, especially Christians, to actually ruin your life.
Nope. You don't have to play any games when it comes to anything pertaining to the word of God. That includes in who God intends you to marry if marriage is God's will for your life. Responding to someone's call/text in a timely manner doesn't mean that you are not respecting the boundaries that you set. I pray your strength in the Lord in Jesus' name. AMEN.
Sad part my 32 yr marriage is ending as he decided to reach out and younger girl with 3 kids. And we aren't even divorced yet, and he basically threw away our own 39, 27, 18 children. And our marriage. But unfortunately he also moved in ..but he already and she literally portrays to preach out of the Bible, maybe she doesn't know whole story, but she will
For "Love at first sight" it's not just physical attraction, it's when you see them for the first time you feel a certain connection even though they are not your type. Like you don't understand why you have feelings for that person when they are not your type, suddenly you will realize he or she is all you ever wanted and needed. Just like you mentioned from your other videos God sometimes allow confusion to come up, like you're confused why you feel a connection to someone at first sight, something we need to pray for and get to know that person before you proceed. My Christian Teacher, I don't know if it was love at first sight, asked God for a spouse, someone who is an Indian Beauty Queen type, plays the piano, God-fearing, has a car, etc.. Then he wondered why he got a Chinese girl that has a 14 year age gap, different from his type but has all the traits he asked for. But both are equally yoked and happily married until now. Satan will be the one to tell you how it is impossible for you to be with that someone because "x, y z" but God surely will make a way. Somehow He doesn't just allow two people to fall in love but also helps them change their perspectives. God can be weird sometimes because we don't understand some events but when we learn the purpose we will see God is amazing! Like so amazing! You're videos are so blessed it's usually on time!
It is definitely harder as you get older. They look great 'on paper' but they have incredible baggage. And they expect sex right away. Christian or not. However I have a friend who finally got it right at 72 y.o. !! Third marriage but this one is very real!
It’s hard for me to watch these videos because of all of the cutting and editing. I am not sure if they taped and pasted this video together to fulfill the title. It also bothers my eyes from the frequent jumping in the video.
I found a great guy who matches me in all respects after years. He showed me he fell madly in love for me. But now he wants to force sex on me. After I refused he turned cool. Its so painful!
Because it sounds like he was just attempting to use you. This is what people mean when they advise not to settle. God allowed it to happen so that you could see that he isn't the one for you more than likely. Yes. It can really hurt. But it could have been more painful to end up with him and basically would have been living a lie. I pray your strength in the Lord IN JESUS' NAME. AMEN.
I had teacher call me racist cause I didn't believe in blm then lied to my friends costing me costing me girlfriend Then guys show attention to girl so she dump me then leave He laugh in my face so I almost broke his jaw After that I heard demon speak as he tried break my neck
It's never too late with God. Stop putting a timeline on God's blessings. His ways are higher than our ways. Be encouraged, don't believe the lie of the enemy (devil).
"he comes to steal kill and destroy" is what the bible says about the devil. I'm sorry he stole a normal mind from you as he stole it from me. Our bodies in eden were perfect. We all will be made perfect again.
