No the reason it’s harder is because no one teaches how to manage their real hair. The elders lived by Eurocentric standards and taught them to their kids and grandkids and now ppl are just learning to manage their own hair.
@@mayowasworld I’m thankful for this computer age cuz we can learn so much from each other and re-educate ourselves about these things. I’m realizing it wasn’t that our hair was “hard to manage” we just didn’t know what to do. Now that we know, our hair flourishes the way it was intended to and it’s the most versatile and beautiful hair of all. Thank you for your content mamas. I don’t think ppl realize how ingrained a lot of these ideals are. ❤️🫶🏽
Yes like honestly if You follow these 6 hour wash and go routines you'll be feeling crazy out here. It should be 2 hours max unless you just have tons and tons of hair to dry. Also i dont have the kinkiest hair but it's def type 4 and I like the way My wash n go looks at the end if the week. It stands up more. It's frizzier. If You want your 4c hair hang down and be super defined, you're gonna have to do wash and go's every other day. Yeah of course that seems super hard and unrealistic lol
@@t_ylr6 hours is already crazyy but 2 hours?? Now I’m wondering if I’m washing my hair correctly bc I just washed my hair today and it took about 10-15 mins max. with finger detangling and twisting afterwards, it takes an additional 10-15 minutes😅
When I first went natural and my 4c was 4c-ing…the number of well-intentioned Black folks who volunteered “solutions” to “help me”. Girl, this is what it gives, leave me alone!!
My own father keeps talking about asking aunties from the home country for "creams" and "oils" and "treatments" unprompted. I keep telling him my hair is doing well and I've got a routine leave me alone. He actually thinks he's helping my in a "struggle" and keeps talking about "good hair" (often straight or loose curls). Try talking to a boomer/gen x Dominican dad about colonialism and anti-blackness lol My mom was more resistant in the beginning and has not let go of the creamy crack herself, but is supportive and one of my biggest fans in terms of hair and support. She happily tells me when she saw someone during the day that had hair like mine and compliments them
Same. I have had my microlocs for 6 years now and I wish I would have gotten them sooner. I really struggled with natural hair for 10 years before I got them. Looking back now...I wasted so much time washing, conditioning, flat ironing, stretching, braiding, parting etc. Never again.
I've always been scared of getting locs even though I really want them because people said it would be so hard to maintain and require a lot more upkeep. I never should have listened to them.
I think another reason why people's haircare routines take so long is because people focus so much on getting their hair longer. People buy all these products, do all these processes so they can have longer hair. Because even if they're not trying to change their hair texture, we all know that society associates long hair with femininity and beauty.
I've been wearing my hair natural for most of my adulthood. I totally agree with you; the idea that it is difficult to manage is a myth. What I will say is that many of us were not aware of how to manage it and that is also a consequence of centering European beauty standards.
I agree! 2 years into free forming from loose natural hair. I do miss having a big afro lol but I wouldn't go back. So much money and time spent on curling products just to make it look acceptable to others. The pressure is much worse for fem presenting people. Free forming and dead stretching has been one of the most liberating experiences for me. Now that my hair is getting longer, people are starting to treat me better.
Personally, I would wear my natural hair if I didn’t have chronic migraines AND a very tender scalp. That combo makes it really hard to sit down and do my hair. I think everything else would be easier if I could get past that problem. For now, I just cut it
If it wasn’t for the panorama I’d still be getting relaxers. I got my first when I was 14 in 2004 because my mom couldn’t do my hair in its natural state and my hair didn’t like the creamy cracke. My hair would revert as soon as I’d get one put in and I should’ve taken it as a sign that my hair hated those chemicals. I’ve big chopped in 2021 and it’s been 3 years since I’ve worn my hair in its entirety. I love that I can wear my curly fro or put it in a pineapple and I’m going to an event next month so I’m looking for a cute style to wear 😊
I think the interpretation of hard is what needs to be clarified. It’s hard as opposed to other hair types. Hard in the amount of time it takes to wash and style without adding heat. Hard in the amount of money needs to be spent on even the simplest group of products to wash and moisturize. Hard as in the time spent to refresh it every morning after sleeping. I don’t think “hard” is a bad or misinformed thing to say it’s what the person interprets as hard.
To me: 4b and 4c hair should be the only hair that should be considered natural. Other types before 4b don’t have the stigma attached to it like 4b and c does.
I’ll be honest.. it’s harder to do than type 3 hair. It’s not propaganda. It’s the truth🤷🏾♀️. With that being said I do my hair every 3-4 days. It takes me an hour to do. So in the grand scheme of things it’s not hard to do. But type c is easier. But I love both. I have 2 siblings with type 3 hair. I love it. I’m 4c and I love it.
9:46 what they dont realize what they actually mean is its not that straight hair itself is easier, its easier to move through this world with straight hair. And its sad
There's a noticeable level of whitelash on everything Afro. Then the algorithm just picks it up and you'll have 12 shorts of silk presses, I hate my hair, or pro mixed race content on your time line. It's all do to money tho, so follow it . Didn't someone just launch a haircare line? Wasn't a community favourite hair oil just sold to P&G? There's licensing, education, product, hardware on and on. The Industrial Texturists Complex is over a trillion dollars a year. It can't have the continent or the diaspora not buying or whatever petroleum oil based snake oil they're attempting to sell us. Love the look the colours compliment your complexion! ❤♠️😻🪮🌻🐈⬛🏴
When my daughter was 2 she saw me with a straight wig on and said "your hair looks so pretty mommy" and that burned my soul so bad, that was the last time I ever wore a wig.
I can relate to this because it happened to me as well! Trying hard to break the generational curse for my babies. I refuse to let them hate their hair because I did for so many years. Thank you for your transparency🙏🏾😊💜💕
When it comes to the wigs, weaves and lace fronts, I suppose my question is "if ur taking too long with ur natural hair and you just want to get up and leave the house, why is it always straight/wavy Asian hair? Why not an afro wig? Kinky straight?"
Yep. My thoughts exactly. Since last year I have moved away from straight wigs (well, wigs in general). I figured, if I choose to wear a wig, why not get a wig that matches my 4c texture? I legit have ONE go-to wig that I probably won’t wear for a while but it’s very close to MY 4c kinky texture.
As someone who may have to wear a wig in the future because of hair loss I want the wig to look like it is indeed coming out of my scalp.. So texture and no lace showing at all. I don't want those dots. I don't want a middle part. I don't want laid edges. But texturee coiled hair that isn't silky.
Yes! The whole "the wig needs to look like its coming out your scalp" foolishness is crazy. It's NOT MY HAIR! You know it. I know it. So why is it a cardinal sin that you can see the lace? I gave up on the wigs. Black girls would crucify me and it was too much man. And the wigs just gave me an excuse to not take care of the hair underneath. So it's not for me. I'm a natural//braids girl all the way. And don't get me started on the edges thing. I never subscribed to it and I wish other people didn't either.
I actually love laying my edges lol but that’s just style to me. I only do that for an occasion just like when people wear updos. Nothing wrong with styling hair but hair does not always need to be styled. I have no problem with my edges just be what they are but like I said for a special occasion if I do a natural hair style I will lay them.
It makes me so sad to hear people don’t like their 2 toned lips 😢. I have them and always loved it. I never met anyone that didn’t look good with them. You’re beautiful and I hope that you come to love them too ❤
This is so true. Imagine if people with straight hair were expected to wake up early everyday to make tight curls with all the expensive products they bought, attempting to force their hair to do somethinfg it just doesnt do naturally and damaging it in the process. In this hypothetical scenario, "taking care of" or "managing" straight hair would of course be "difficult".
We don’t have to straighten our hair. Even just washing it most of us need to have a designated “wash day”. Obligated to put hair in sections just to wash it without it getting tangled and matted. Even just washing our hair is a tedious process, forget about styling and standards after the fact. Not everyone feels comfortable with locs. I need my hair to be able to be free when I want it to. Locs would personally give me anxiety.
the way people silence you, especially on tik tok for saying the truth. a lot of black people don’t want to acknowledge their own internalised antiblackness.
💯. There needs to be a bigger conversation about internalized anti-blackness. We complain abt the "oppressors" who have already shown who they are, yet we fail to acknowledge our own anti-blackness that many of the diaspora has that is internally rotting us. I can only imagine as the US becomes more racially mixed. 😑
"Oh you say everything is anti-black..IT IS" Lol😂 I just started the video, but I had to say I just saw another post the other day saying natural hair is hard and some comments saying they're "miserable" while doing their hair because it doesn't stay stretched or defined. Oh yea and whenever someone suggested that that's problematic they called them a "natural hair warrior" 🙄
OG stylists be like: "You sure you don't want a relaxer?" I saw a RU-vid video the other day of a stylist saying she keeps her 4c client's hair short so it's easier to keep healthy...they tryna keep us bald
The hypocrisy of it all is this. ...The hours blk women spend styling, melting, bonding the wigs. Could've been well spend styling their natural hair. How can one wear protective styles permanently? They have all this confidence when the eurocentric hair is on; and seem almost ashamed and shy when they have to wear their natural hair on camera or out in public
I mean.... 😅some of us just wear regular wigs that can be styled in 2 minutes, and walk out the door. Not everyone is doing the melt down, glue on lace front wigs....but I do get your point.
@@StarlessTerracemy headband wigs take less than 5 minutes my natural hair takes way more time to detangle and style and wearing it in a fro causes allot of breakage for me so wigs are definitely my preference
Black people have a different hair, so it'd different for Asian or Latinas who have the standard of hair that is deemed acceptable. Blk people are different due to our hair texture being different from the world
Everyone has to wash their hair, that’s basic. Most 4C people have to dedicate a day to washing their hair, putting it into sections before hand so it doesn’t get matted and tangled. We are not expected to do that because of society. It’s just our hand we were dealt.
Natural Hair isn’t harder to manage , it’s harder for people to digest. Texturism is embedded in our culture. As a gya BM, when my hair gets wet it curls. Both of my parents are AA and I’ve had other BM ask me what I’m mixed with. It’s very off putting and sad to me. I’ve stopped dating completely and got a cat 😅😂
Agreed. I find the statement, "what are you mixed with?" insulting to me and to my ancestors. I'm black mixed with Black b*tch. Move on sir - I'm not interested in that brand of self-hate.
I wear a lot of protective hairstyles and I was dating a guy for a while and every time you saw me my hair was in a protective hairstyle so one day I just didn't put my hair in a protective hairstyle and I wore it up in a puff. When I say he put his hands directly in my hair and massaged it for about 10 minutes the moment I got into his car… We are no longer dating lol
I'd even say solution to blackness cause that's the real problem, we don't just don't wanna endure texturism WE individually do not want to BE black anymore, we proud of skin but ashamed of hair...
🎧 Listennnnnnn all this. I loc’d my hair and have kicked myself for not doing it sooner. No salon visits, no burns, no trying to figure out what to do with it ever. No regretting give Asians my money for hair products and fake hair. Rose water and caster oil from Walmart or Amazon. Wake up and go!
@@NOLAqueen504A Exactly...so easy.I use the same, minimal expenditure and all from Gods earth, not from those that don't even like us. As a result we become even more beautiful. We take back control. We stop working against nature but Work with it and for ourselves.
@@sinceresong9907 For some reason I don’t like the idea of being by trapped in a particular state that is not my natural state if my natural state isn’t going to be somewhat easily accessible to get back to. I also don’t like the idea of wigs, I need my scalp to breathe. I get this same anxiety with braids sometimes but it’s not that bad because they’re easy to remove. For some reason my mental clarity is the best when my hair (thick 4C) is mostly detangled and in its fro state.
Our hair loves water! Water everyday if possible, which is why I cannot do these braids and weaves and what not, I always need to have access to my scalp. That water be healing
I don’t add water to my 4c hair everyday, I leave them alone and it works fine. If that’s your preference to add water everyday, that’s ok but it’s not a rule.
I grew up having to hide from water and rain cuz my mom always heat straightened it. Now that I'm natural, I can dance in the rain and it actually enhances my hair's curls! ❤️
Plus lace wigs are NOT easy. I’ve got three in my closet I can’t cut the lace my head small it won’t stay Lies you need two certificates and a degree to put it on good. Over $500 in my closet just sitting there. 😢
This. I tried using wigs as a "protective style " and it was way too time consuming to get it layed and then taking it off at the end of the day (otherwise it ceases to be a protective style cause I cant access my scalp daily) I prefer box braids/twists, preferably on my own hair or even a twsitout, since it ends up taking about the same if not less time.
No literally i bought so many wigs and for what?? I like wearing my own hair more. Oh wait Ik why it’s bc I had big chopped my hair and wanted to wear protective styles to grow my hair out bc I wasn’t gonna wear my hair short- but majority of the time I wore braids or twists bc wigs are hard to manage. So I wasted my money fr
@faith1614 the difference is not in difficulty, it's just tighter coils and more shrinkage. But it's the same steps and routine as each other type 4 type. 4c is not more difficult than 4a. It's just less loved and popular. But it's not more difficult. And this is coming from someone with 4c hair on their head.
@@marajones1828it is not the same steps and routine. My natural hair has multiple textures. My curls are much looser in the front than the back. If I want my curly to pop in the front I have to do a different routine than the ones in the back. In the back I can put some custard and oil and the curls just pop, in the front I have manually curly it more.
I’ve been grappling with this! I have 4B hair and it can get frizzy but I realized my hair likes staying in twists, shrinkage and all. But everywhere I go, it does seem like black women aren’t wearing their natural hair out anymore, only lace fronts or weaves or if they have 3A-3C hair types. And I’ve felt the pressure to be “chosen,” or to fit in by wearing wigs again, but I remember what it did to my edges and how expensive it can be over time. Anywho, thank you for this video as a reminder to me that my natural hair in twists is enough.
Girl might be time to look for more like minded people. There is nothing wrong with your hair. If it is a struggle pay natural hairstylists on how to care for your hair.
I've been natural for over ten years now. I wore my afro for about 8 years. I did fall for the "it's too time-consuming" messaging because I was detangling and flat-twisting every other night. I thought my 4c coils needed to be stretched to be an acceptable version of an afro. "Shrinkage" and humidity (life in FL) reminded me that I was the one doing too much, not my hair. I have had locs for 2 years now and I'm seeing the same messaging about loc maintenance. The messaging is so anti-just exist as you are... Like just being my regular black self is never going to be acceptable no matter what I do. SO *deep breath*... I'm doing the work to decolonize the views I have of myself and embrace a more pro-black way of being, especially when it comes to pro-black and Afrocentric standards of beauty. When I view myself and other black people through these lenses, I can see clearly how beautiful we are.
You’re right! It ain’t hard at all. I’m 4c and it takes me 10 mins for my everyday look. The secret is moisture. I use water, conditioning spray, oil and a cream. I normally wear it in a fro and then I go. Now if I wanted to braid it up or do twist outs that’ll be different. Those girls are lying. It doesn’t take 5 hours. I wash my hair in the shower. That takes about 10 mins and finger comb it. I use a detangling brush on non wash days. That takes 5 mins. I can run it threw my hair from root to end. I did notice most women with perms are anti black. It is what it is. The more who returns the harder it is for us to wear our natural texture in the workplace. The crown act has loop holes. We shouldn’t have to make laws to wear our natural hair.
Exactly I have a method, that works on my type 4b hair. I also learned of different products to use prior to and after shampoo to quicken the process. I always say our ancestors had their methods, but due to ingrained generational texturism and loss of knowledge we think our hair is harder to care for than it is
This also largely depends on the length of your hair as well. As someone who had 4b hair to my waist, it definitely took longer than 5-10 mins to finger detangle. But it’s a mental thing too… if you see taking care of your hair as a self care thing instead of a chore, it’s a different experience.
It's never taken me less than 30 mins to shampoo and condition my hair 😅 But 5 hrs is definitely a stretch. It only takes me that long if I take a 1-2 hr break _and_ if I'm also not sure what hairstyle I'm gonna do.😂
@@earphbound720Same i have long hair. But all I need is a pre-poo or conditioner with great slip and wash day is a breeze. I detangle wet hair with a slippy product only.
I agree, I've been wearing wigs for years and people seem to forget that you still have to look after your natural hair when you're keeping it under a wig, so in a way it's double the work, not less.
Natural hair is only hard when we force it to do what it isn't meant to do.........exactly!! Our hair in its natural state is meant to be clean and left alone. I love my hair in its most free form❤. It feels so free and amazing, albeit it's an Oxymoron of today's society........my hair IS done when it's considered" undone" by today's standards. ✌🏾
it literally took me so long to understand this concept but im 21 now and i wear my hair curly everyday and just do different curly hairstyles with it literally the easiest thing
Black people are the only people who aren’t allowed to try new things with our hair. A shrunken Afro everyday is boring. Why do you think we have so many styles that survived slavery and are still worn today ?
I don’t know how they do it. I always put skincare on my face. When I wash it off, the water wets my hair line. A wig wouldn’t last a full day. I see these wigs on women. They look so fake in person. Especially, the BABY HAIR. 😆
UGH! This is so real. I get suggestions all the time from my students saying that I should get my hair pressed, or relaxed, or comb it out etc, and I just have to be like "I don't have time!" There just so many more pressing issues happening in life than what my hair looks like and I just can't be bothered. I'll wash it, keep it moisturized and pick it out- and on occasion I'll wear braids- but otherwise I really would rather not spend that much time on it!
That's my thing. I don't blame people for opting out b/c I understand how hard it is in society with kinky hair but we have to be honest if we want anything to change.
Agree a thousand percent!! I am THE LAZIEST natural you will ever meet 😂 it truly is not difficult to take care and wear 4c hair. Slightly controversial take, the relaxers and wigs are harder! I am a wash and go girly OR ill stretch with plaits. After the one day of stretching, I don't have to touch my hair for at least for a week. I get up, spray it with water/moisturizer and go. Applying and caring for a wig seems to take a really long time. And relaxers require monthly maintenance and a whole wash and blow dry. Plus you have to wrap it every night or risk chaos in the morning. I would bet money that overall I spend less time and energy on my hair than people who wear lacefronts/relaxersa. And I constantly get compliments on my hair (as a dark skin, fat woman at that).
Definitely wearing your natural hair is so much cheaper than wearing wigs getting silk presses weekly etc… I know some people go crazy and buy way too many products, but you don’t need a ton of products. And the thing is I don’t even wash my hair that often 2 to 3 times a month so it takes me a long time to go through shampoo and conditioner. The only thing I really need is a twisting cream a leave in conditioner, some mousse, maybe a nice oil. I don’t know. I don’t find myself buying that many products, and it takes me a long time to go through them because I’m not styling my hair every day.
"take care" "manage" "do" is code for 'style into socially acceptable appearance'. The further you are from your goal, the more work you'll have to do 🤷
I genuinely loveeeeeeeeee doing my hair, spending time learning it and enjoying it all the while. I love how my hair looks, it suits my personality and style. My natural hair in it's natural or twist out state is wonderful and not a burden.
Taking care of hair is a skill. The idea that coils are more difficult comes from the lack of knowledge about how to care for them and the unreasonable standards people hold coils to. You don't need 10+ products for your hair and you don't need to spend 3 hours finger coiling to be "presentable". P.S. Shrinkage is beautiful, it shows that your coils are healthy.
RIGHT!! Another thing-the over-detangling which isn’t good because over detangling (which is what I think people who complain about how hard it is to de tangle their hair does) ruins the natural coils/curl-pattern. Type 4 Afro-textured hair is naturally coily already trying to over de detangle is just another part of manipulation to the hair that doesn’t need it🤷🏾♀️
Same. And straight-haired people have all sorts of products catered specifically to their needs developed over centuries. In the West we have had our (4c) hair care needs and culture suppressed, so obviously people have had it difficult. Despite all that, we are thriving and you’re right it’s easy once you know what to do. We’ve come too far to regress just because “a wig is more convenient.” It’s not if you know your hair.
How can something we are inherently born with become do difficult? Like that is our norm. Ive never seen a different race of women complain so much about their hair like black people. Me personally i have had natural hair since i was probably 15, and im 27. I have never felt the edge to return back to relaxers because my 4c hair is difficult to manage. I think i would have a hard time with relaxed hair because i don't know what I would do with it. But i can understand the woman who feel like their hair is hard to manage.
I know that in our community, say “perm” when we talk about straightening hair, but it’s actually a relaxer. The perm is what’s used to make straight hair curly. I think the distinction is important because it’s an example of how the language is used. To say that our hair has to relax is WILD. Same for texturizes… our hair is already textured. The most textured…. But the language implies that curls are texture and kinks aren’t.
Perm is short for permanent. It is referring to a chemical treatment that has a permanent effect so you would have to grow it out or cut it off to get rid of it. So a relaxer is a perm. There are relaxer perms and curly perms. Some dyes are permanent while others are semi and easily washed out.
I loved your take on natural hair. You are spot on. I stop using combs and brushes for several months now and I feel liberated. All these years I had been forcing my hair to go against what it's naturally supposed to do. I don't feel the need to detangle every strand. I wear twist all of the time now and totally dropped the multiple hair products. I have a short pixie wig and I wore it during the cold winter for protection. Lol everyone knew it was a wig because I told it when asked. Natural hair isn't difficult to care for once you accept what is growing out of your scalp. Black women are the largest consumers of hair products and that's fact. Our white counterparts throw their hair into a messy bun and go for it. I believe we as a people have the most unique hair on the planet. Why are we trying to tame the very thing that makes us unique as a people. Love your makeup, I do the two tone lips as well. Keep shining my beautiful young sister ❤️❤️
I didn’t use combs or brushes for years, just finger detangling, and I’ve been natural for over a decade. But I recently got the unbrush and the tangle Teezer, and they are game changes for me, they detangle, my hair very gently and very quickly. I don’t detangle my hair every day. I usually just do so on wash day. I normally wear my hair in two strand twists and I just put the twists in a bun and go about my business. If I want it styled I’ll just untwist my hair, and wear twist outs for a few days maybe do a slicked ponytail or pineapple on my old twist out. The way I manage my hair I’m not having to do it every single day or style it every single day and the styles I do usually don’t take me very long. So I find it to be very low maintenance actually. My wash days can be a little long but I only wash my hair every two weeks or so and I usually detangle my hair the night before I wash that way my wash day goes a little bit faster.
I iron my clothes the night before. If my hair is in a wash in go all I have to do is fluff it out in the morning, otherwise it's in a bun, curly puff, or cornrows (easy maintenance styles). So all I have to do is shower and put my clothes on and I'm out the door. I don't wear makeup so that isn't part of my routine.
Buy a wig, bleach the wig, pluck the wig, buy glue, install the wig, cut the wig, do it all over again next day. Yeah of course natural hair is difficult🙄🙄🙄
I no longer work and am not in a lot of social interactions that require me to have my hair look "presentable". As a result, I just leave my afro as is... condition, wash and go. I am allowed to leave my hair as is, because I just interact with friends and my husband. Its amazing 😂
So what do you do for a special event? We shouldn't have to give up work and outside socialization to experience the liberation of leaving our afro hair as it is, just condition wash and go. We need to show up at work, school and events with the same freedom. At least, that's what I'm doing. It is very liberating!
Thank you for this! My mother is over 70 years old and I’m now showing her how to take care of her natural hair. It always starts with the mindset. She kept saying “it’s so hard to style” or “too hard to manage”. It took everything in me not to roll my eyes because she has very fine and soft hair (maybe 4a at best). but when I showed her how to wash, detangle and condition it, the comb glides through like butter and it’s easy to style. After perming her hair for over 50 years, she’s just now beginning to see the beauty of her natural hair. I think that’s so sad.
aww that's lovely! my grandmother has the same mindset, but I don't live with her anymore and just try to talk to her with love and understanding when she comments texturist things about herself or my family members. Also, people (older generation) have to want to change our see the error in their ways and sometimes pride is mixed in there as well.....
I remember doing my hair in a gym locker room after a work out and shower. This elderly black woman watched me the whole time then asked about what products I put in my hair. This reminded me of that. Was happy to tell her and show my routine
It really is mindset first! So proud of her. Before i learned how to look after my 3c hair, you couldn't convince me i didn't have the most difficult hair in the world. My mother would detangle my hair root to tip so that experience made me think ohh its because my hair is hard and not bad hair care methods. When i ask my mother about this she said she just did what she was shown. So many people have a poor view of their natural hair from bad experiences like this and worse
I think we should leave black women alone. If you have a lifestyle where it’s more manageable to straighten your hair, do it! We face so much adversity and if putting a flat iron to them roots provides the peace you need to navigate through life, do what works best for you and your life. Who am I to police someone else’s experience with they own hair.
This!! Everybody is the hair police specifically and only to fully black girlies. It’s like other races get badges and titles to do their ‘black girl hair policing’ job. If straight hair is soooo wonderful, why don’t everyone with straight hair focus on themselves.
It’s actually becoming so extreme the level of policing black women are getting from OTHER black women on how we choose to style our hair. This has to be a mental illness at this point. You never see white, hispanic, or asian women demonizing and policing each other on perms, micro links or extensions, coloring and bleaching, heat styling, etc. Everyone likes to try something different with their hair! First we’re self haters for wearing extensions and now we shouldn’t be using gels, heat, or braided hair!? Like when does it stop. This idea that only free form hair is a representation of self love and everything else means you hate yourself is absolutely ridiculous.
I’m sorry. It is harder and requires more. I kept my hair in a bee hive bun and never straightened it. My signature hairstyle. Very LONG! I dreaded WASH DAY because I struggled to DETANGLE. So one day I got so pissed off, I chopped it all off on wash day!!! I have done several chops since then and it again happens when my hair became longer and I struggle detangling This is a REAL struggle and I’m tired of naturals saying it’s made up. It’s not! It’s real! What has saved me is NOT listening to some natural hair advisors. I now put oil on my scalp and I notice it conditions my hair while growing from the scalp so it doesn’t get as easily tangled. I REMOVED THE DUMB DENMAN BRUSH. I got a UNBRUSH ( which is A LIFE CHANGER!! Thank you to the inventor) and Paul Mitchell pro tool 407 brush! The Afro pick I use has double rows of teeth instead the one row. Investing in hylauronic acid products. I use Kenya Moore hair care line! I Henna my high porosity hair to help fill in the cuticles so that moisture is easier to retain which in turn lessens breakage! I literally decided to stop limiting my hair advice to black naturals and now my hair is easier to maintain! Sad to say that other races have actually helped me understand how to take care of my hair without making it feel like a burden. It should feel like a beautiful ritual that you enjoy. The natural community is either gaslighting and shaming me about my struggles by making me believe I suffer from an internal racial conflict, obsessed with texture and getting there curls to pop, or obsessed with showing you how LONG there hair is as a black person. ITS ANNOYING and TOXIC! Hair should be seen as FUN and beautiful. Stop boxing us! Some people prefer to wear SHORT hair, but is being shamed and called bald headed if they can’t prove they can actually grow long hair! It’s ridiculous! Everyone is different and has different desires with there hair! We expect too much from each other. The RU-vidr naturals DO indeed ADD to the burden. They make natural hair HARD to even THINK ABOUT. Watching someone tell you they took 10+hrs on wash day is crazy work. The truth is black people STILL refuse to show there hair… even when long and straightened! They do not want to be bothered with upkeep and prefer or-styled wigs and weaves! The prefer hair styles the cut down on time! Always have and always will! However, it DOES require more with our hair UNLESS you have it loc’d or braided ( which is what black women do under that wig or weave). But everyone does not want those natural hair styles permanently! Our hair is more difficult than other races. It is TRUE! We require more maintenance!! Everyone doesn’t want to be an expert hair dresser in order to do wash day. However I am now an expert! I am skilled at natural hair and can style it straight, kinky, curly, extensions, wigs… I can do it alllllllllllll! And I’m not sorry for feeling how I feel and wearing my hair how I want! I don’t know why we do this to each other. Why we can see the beauty in all of us. No one should feel ashamed to wear there hair however they choose. Stop policing hair period.
My father started perming my hair when I was 3/4 specifically because “I had too much hair and it was too hard to take care of.” So I fully agree with EVERYTHING you said in this video
You keep saying "society" however you failed the name those people. Non black people compliment me the most when I wear my hair in natural styles while other BW scoff and say "Couldn't be me" or "You got that good hair, my hair too nappy"(I have 4B-4C hair 😵💫) Then y'all will raise a fist and say well those non black people fetishize you and I'm like 🥴 damn Lee, Brad and Punjab can't compliment my hair without it being a secret fetish? From my observation it's mainly Black people that have an issue with how we wear our hair. Sure WS started it but it's Black people that have kept it going for generations. There are now laws and I think about 20 states that prohibit hair discrimination so nothing is stopping us from wearing our natural hair. We've been conditioned to think that straight hair is better and it will take multiple generations for us to undo that.
You nailed it. IMO most of the hate comes from our own selves… we have internalised it to the point where we are keeping the self hate alive and still at this rate.. It is up to us to make the conscious decision to unlearn and love ourselves and own our hair we cannot look towards other races to uplift us and reverse the damage.
Gurl preach! You are speaking truth. This is a discussion we need to have. It all comes down to self love. You are not pleased with the way the All Mighty God made you. I have nappy hair and I remember having a conversation with someone who apparently was trying to give me shade about my nappiness. I basically told her that the reason she was so uncomfortable with MY HAIR was because what she saw was a true reflection of herself without the weave. This is more about you than me.... complete silence. When you are wearing someone's else's hair and no one know what under that wig or weave....there is a deeper problem. Or hear the illogical comparison of that white people wear extensions. Yeah they do, BUT IT's Caucasian hair...not Afro hair. There's no comparison. We even got parents putting extensions and weaves in babies head. What is going on???. As a natural I'm not hating perms, weaves or whatever, I've done it all, but I'm also honest about the reason I was doing it. As just as stated it wasn't because my hair was too hard to take care of, I didn't like my nappy hair and I was trying to assimilate to something that I was not... A straight hair girl. Eurocentric ways. I wasn't protecting my hair from anything except for being seen! That was a hard pill to swallow. I actually started crying. It really humbled me. I had to sit in that space and free my self from societal bondage. I am now at my most happiness, living in my truth, being happy nappy 24/7 and proud!
I’m sorry, but no natural hair IS harder to care of than straight hair. coils and curls are just more prone to tangles and getting matted thats just what it is . If that’s not the case why does it take black hair 3-6 hours to get done and sometimes more and someone with straight hair could roll out of bed and walk out the door?
Someone with straight hair cannot just walk out the door, they also have hair upkeep. I've seen SO many white girls having to flat iron their hair and brush for hours and cake it up with dry shampoo to get their hair to look pin straight. The only difference is that people with straight hair are allowed to go out with unfixed hair without being called "unkempt" and "dirty." Edit: also, my natural hair does not take 3-6 hours. It takes an hour at the most. The problem is that people don't allow the hair to look the way it is; they have to manipulate it to look a specific way that isn't natural to their hair texture. People do wash-and-go's that take forever because they want their 4c hair to look 3c.
Curly fro that’s my go to the process of detangling , washing and defusing takes me a good 5 hours on a good day and my wash and go’s last about 5 days
And that’s okay in your case your hair could be less prone to matting and tangles. the time it take to do natural hair also comes to play with many other factors like your length and porosity but I have seen many girls that struggle with their natural hair not because they don’t want to wear their natural hair but because it’s just a lot of work period. And every head of hair needs upkeep but I believe people with straight hairs upkeep is nothing compared to upkeep of natural hair.
You literally just verbalized the very thing I realized 4 years ago when I started locs. The reason that natural hair is time consuming is because we don't allow our hair to be in its natural state. We're literally fighting what our hair does. That's why it takes so long. If we just let it be how it is takes virtually no time at all.
I never understood why folks used relaxers after studies showed cancerous substances .. really sad and says a lot Your lippie makeup and outfits is very cute ♥‿♥ ! Love your realness and keep uplifting the community
Natural hair is hard to manage. Let’s just keep it real lol if we all have 4 type hair. We know it’s hard to manage. Idk why black people act like relaxing and popping on a wig means you hate your hair lol Personally, my formula is silk press, braids, Afro throughout the year. My natural hair takes 30/45min to detangle alone…this natural hair is no joke…. Straight hair is easier to manage. Black people talk like this as if we are the only people with thick and curly hair.
Yep never understood this concept that natural hair is “difficult” people spend hours in the salon, wrap their hair every night, and avoid water like the plague then act like it’s “low maintenance”. You’re 100% right to call it out for what it is. Don’t say that straightened kinky hair is “low maintenance” when it’s not! If you want to do all that fine go ahead but it’s not low maintenance. I wear my hair in 2 strand twists most of the time and that’s pretty low maintenance for me. I can even wash my hair in twists. Yes it takes time to put them in but then I leave my hair like that for weeks and I don’t have to do anything at night nor do I have to avoid wetting my hair. I used to do wash and goes all the time and I mean a true wash and go where I would wash my hair and go, not sit there shingling and trying to make curls and definition. But that was when my hair was shorter but damn this video is making me wanna do a wash and go on my longer 4c hair.
Low maintenance can be subjective. I wear my hair straight only because for me it is super low maintenance compared to when it’s in natural state, and because it helps me retain length. I can wake up and not have to worry about my hair for weeks before washing and straightening again.
@@tssx11I'm assuming you're heat trained/damaged? Cause no way your silk press can last "weeks" unless living in a dry climate . If either or both is the is the cases, then I guess it can be easier. I think straight hair is easier overall, at least when its not thick, but definitely don't think it's prettier on black people... Just my opinion though. Mainly cause I do take issue with the idea that the hair that naturally grows on one's scalp isn't the most suitable for that person. I have met Asians that that get perms because they feel that way about their straight hair though so it's unfair to only call out black woman for it...
@@iateyursandwiches Fair points. And I live in the uk so weather is a lot less warm/humid. As for aesthetics, I guess everyone has their preferences. I like the way I look with straight hair which is just a bonus along with the low maintenance. So it all works out 😊
The cognitive dissonance here is deafening.. Personally, my type 4 hair IS high maintenance, textured hair is high maintenance and by that logic “harder”. Lets not use rewording to try and erase facts. My type 4 hair requires detangling, lots of water and even product, butter/oil, to make it even possible to comb through. Yes, everyone has a different standard of what is “done” hair. My standard is when its combed, hydrated, fully dry, and styled. I cannot wet my low porosity hair every day or else i get sick because it takes alot of water for it to absorb hydration. I cannot do “wash&go’s” because they dont last, my hair gets matted, and eventually gives me a headache because of how thick and dense it is. Can barely keep a press for long because it doesnt last. Cant even fit a scarf over it when its fully out. My hair being “done” is apart of my physical health because i suffer from migraines, will get sick from excess water, and my hair is so dense that my scalp cannot breathe when my hair is fully out/natural/unstyled. So natural police can go on somewhere with “saying natural hair is harder to do is sourced from eurocentric standards of beauty” if i had type 1 i wouldn’t have these issues, period. I literally either have the option of going through the work of doing maintenance on my hair, or shaving it.
Yes! I remember when the kinky hair styles were kinky hair styles. I had someone call my bantu knots messy because they werent blow dried, slicked down, and filled in with extension...BANTU KNOTS BRUH.
a lot of ppl feel that the effort they put in for straight hair is worth it, and the end product of doing ur own natural hair seems to be not worth it for some. laying a wig to today's girlies standards is anything but simple and quick! but at the end of the day do what u want (except getting relaxers, grow up lmao) i just want people to be honest about their intentions.
I think it's okay to acknowledge that running a wide tooth comb through 4c hair on an early Monday morning when you've got to get your kids ready and get the dog to the vet and be out the door ASAP, is not as easy as running that same wide tooth comb through a looser hair texture. I think glossing over that is gaslighting that the "natural hair Community" is well known for. Listen, as a 4c haver, who has gone through the different stages of grief with my hair and am really in love with my hair now, it's not all propaganda. I'm not a lace wig wearer, so don't come at me. Texturism and all the other isms are real. I get that. Laces wigs are not the one size fit all solution. I get that. But this message that thick 4c hair is nothing compared to looser textures, asides from it being gaslighting, it can really, really be heart breaking for the girlie's out there who really want a different look from the wigs, but still struggle with their hair. Yes it is a struggle till you figure out your own routine and even then, it can still be work. No, not every 4c girl wants to loc her hair or keep a standing or short fro because it's just not the look she's going for. And that's fine. No it's not all eurocentric reasons, some of us just like to be versatile with the hair on our own heads. Key word "own". And I'm not saying relaxers are the way either. And I say that as an African woman who lived most of her life both on the continent and in the Caribbean where the locs and braids and fros and threads on 4c are properly represented. Acknowledge that it can be a difficult journey to get to the point where you have your routine on lock down that it becomes a breeze and that it's not all about the white man and masa, because trust and believe, it wasn't that for me and tons of other girls I know. When it's all politicised and propaganda-d you stand the risk of othering a huge section of the community who cannot identify with the "my 4c is a breeze". I'm almost 30 and I still need to section out a whole weekend a month to care for my hair because I can't just wake up in the morning and pour water through it and expect it to be well and fine the rest of the week. The breakage, the dryness, the etc. We can experience these things and still love our hair. It's alright to acknowledge that. I wear my hair mainly in cornrows and mini twists that I do myself. That's as natural as it gets as I don't want locs as they get heavy with length. Sis, it takes time to get into that routine, and even with that time, some days can be testy. And it's normal. And about this line, "It's not your hair that's difficult, it's styling your hair to look like something it's not is difficult", without going to the extremes of excessive manipulation, this is just not all the way accurate. I can see how it would be the case for you personally because with your style there's literally no manipulation, but going by that who's the authority on natural hair to say that the way my natural hair is supposed to look is free form locs? And there's nothing wrong with your hair, it's beautiful, it really is. But in my little mini twist corner where I have to make sure that it's wet enough, but not too wet and it needs to be sectioned in so and so and it definitely does not take 30 mins as some of the commenters here are laughably stating, is that also a natural hair taboo as I'm finding it a little tedious because I'm choosing to comb? To any natural 4c havers who find it a bit tedious every now and again, it's normal. It's not all propaganda, it's not all the man, it's not weird that your hair takes a bit longer to tame. You'll get into a routine and you'll come to love that routine as part of your self care process. The laces can destroy your edges, the wigs can give you headaches and simply might not look like you. Be patient with yourself and your hair. On the off day when it's a bit more tedious than usual or you're short on time, slap that headband/closure/glueless wig on and go about your day. But learn to love your 4c because at the end of the day its all you really have. Take pride in it and try to love your journey. There are so many girls our there going through what you're going through. You'll live.
I asked in a black women group on Facebook why do black women want long natural healthy hair but don’t want to put in the work. I discussed how my man’s sister said she wanted long hair like me but when I told her my hair routine, she said it’s “ too much “. I got dragged in the comments and some people even claimed I was dragging all black women and I had no empathy for black women for simply asking why do black women say it’s too much work when it’s not ? They kept coming up excuses on why they don’t take care of their hair. Black women can spend HOURS in the hair salon getting a weave done or getting braids but natural hair is “ too much “. Also I’m a black woman with type 4a natural hair and it takes me almost 30 minutes to detangle my hair once a week and I have mid back length hair. I detangle on wash day so in total I spend about an hour on my hair once a week. I keep my hair in 4 braids, bobby pin it, and leave it alone for 5 days. I wear it down two days out of the week. No it does not take hours to detangle and I don’t detangle it everyday.
People tell me they want long hair like mine all the time and when I tell them I don't do shit but wash it; they say I must have "Indian" in me. It's not about the work because I do none of it. The only oil I have in my house is Wesson. They're just not comfortable with having natural hair themselves. I have 4c hair, It takes less than 5 actual minutes to wash and detangle my hair. I'd die if it took me 30 minutes to do anything to my hair😂😂😂. I can't sit still for more than two braids. I do my hair with lipstick and earrings.
My complaint about natural hair is if I don’t braid(plait) it at night even with a scarf it will seriously detangle and I get crazy fairy knots. The humidity in my location is going to make it shrink so it’s not even about stretching no matter the stretch.. if it’s properly moisturized it will shrink🫠 so how are yall keeping your hair set angles at night without braiding every night and wear your Afro the next day? Serious question, help me… I just want to throw my bonnet on and go to bed
AHHH it makes me so mad when people talk about how “hard” it is. It’s just annoying cause the general maintenance and conditioning required for natural hair is what people should be doing anyways despite its length / weather it’s a wig a protective style, and/or texture? As we all know, the biggest issue is accepting oneself so we don’t feel the need to over maintenance our hair in the first place… that’s that’s where the alleged “extra time” comes in. Like, if you’re doing a fresh set of twist every night 💀 you’re the one making it hard, not the hair.
Fr!! the most I do is two twists in the front for some cute bangs that go with a high puff or pigtails (two puffs), and if I do that it stays in all week/two weeks till next wash day. Simplicity is key
Who are you to tell someone else THEIR hair isn't hard to cope with? Nobody is doing a full head of single twists every night either?? In order to get respect in the workplace/at school/in public etc. they might have to do styles that are more socially acceptable... I feel like your attitude is misdirected at black women.
the first time i tried a wig it took HOURS. HOURS for a subpar result that still isn't in the means of socially acceptable. im not sure how they're easier. The same ppl who tell me natural hair is too much are the same ones who said "it takes practice, it'll be faster/better the more you learn"
I wouldnt say is Propaganda. Those who have natural 4c hair knows the struggles of it getting dry so often and if you have a tender head, blow-drying hurts. Is it easy to do than a lace wig sure but definitely not easy , compared to relaxed hair.
Supposed 4c hair struggles aren’t universal, me and other people with 4c hair who don’t have problems with dryness or detangling or blow drying have just as valid, significant experiences. And if our experiences are normal, it’s not the hair that’s a problem.
7:40 As an artist this infuriates me a lot. Reference photos are a key tool for a lot of artists. and yet so many search engines just straight up don't show photos of 4c hair even when that is what you are searching for!
I love this take you gotta put this somewhere so more people can talk about this like it might help persuade some people. I think if at least people were honest while doing their dirt it would feel better and other people wouldn't even have to judge when you put yourself first. Just say youre anti black and keep pushing. But people on the fence need to know that it's not hard it anti black and they can do the natural journey
I been seeing a lot of pixie cuts and perm videos and people saying they won’t do a pixie cut unless the hair is relaxed which is bananas to me but I have been seeing a lot of regression about everything honestly a lot of anti blackness and fat phobia has been running rampant anyway great video as always and am glad this video was almost 20 minutes 😊
Yes!! Acknowledging our hair and its benefits from our ancestors environment! The hate needs to stop. So much of it is all based on ignorance and a lack of understanding. The style options are endless once we understand our hairs needs.
Natural hair is just hard when you're afraid to wear it free as it is without a lot of products to make it look "defined" or spend hours on tecniques so it looks "coily", cause for some reason, especially on 4 hair tyoe people always be saying the hair is dehydrated, the hair is lifeless when it doesnt have the damn coily pattern, i believe is texturism
Exactly. Hair will not look as fresh as right after washing for long periods of time. That’s why people have to revisit the salon. Our is outstanding in every state if we just let it be free
The language people use around hair is actually so very wrong. From a scientific standpoint hair does not need to be moisturized. Hair is naturally hydrophobic, it repels water. This is because too much water inside the hair is damaging. I even hear people complain about their hair being low porosity and not absorbing water. That’s literally a sign of healthy hair but when hair is damaged it absorbs water quickly because there’s a lot of holes on the cuticle layer. Hair does not need to be moisturized and it doesn’t need water daily. It’s not alive either it’s dead. Hair is dead y’all! If hair needs anything, it’s oil because oil coats your hair and protects it from water ironically, the scalp produces oil to coat the hair called sebum and there’s lipids inside of your hair too. The reason your hair needs to be coated and protected is because it is dead. Once it is damaged, it cannot restore and heal itself. We all need to be educated on this. Because we are very confused.
@@yveje9720 wow i didn't knew that thanks for the information, months ago i was wondering why my hair feel so bad when i put those heavy hair mask on meanwhile this conditioner that cost literally almost nothing and it's so watery left my hair so soft and i detangle without any problem, which doesn't happen with others. Also i see a lot of videos advicing to spray your hair everyday and it seems very useless to me, it takes forever to dry, i'm going to stick just for vaseline so the ends don't break
@@1rat4belle yea water isn’t the devil but it’s not necessary to wet your hair everyday. A light oil is fine, or leave in conditioner. I “dry oil” my hair and it’s thriving. I really only wet my hair on my wash days or if I need my hair wet to style it. Wetting hair can be good for kinky coily types because it makes the hair flexible which is good if you are manipulating your hair (detangling or styling). Also you need water to clean your hair obviously. But you don’t need your hair wet outside of that, sleeping in deep conditioner is bad for your hair it stays soaking wet for too long.
@@yveje9720 Thann you for this info!! Also, that would be why we/people with Afro-textured hair doesn’t need to wash our hair as often too.(up until it’s dirty and needs to be washed again )
No, it’s not propaganda; it’s true. Afro hair is usually thicker, more prone to tangles, drier, and more fragile. Recognising that this is the case is not and should not be an issue. Sonequa Martin, who had beautiful long thick hair, cut hers off because and I quote, “When you get to the point of having to spend about 3 hours of your day taking care of your hair… it’s a lot.” ANYONE would think that and NO it’s not a problem to say so
The Idea That Hair Has To Be “Managed” Is Itself Race Savagery (I Mean Here What Most People Mean When They Use The Term “Racism”). If There Is Nothing Wrong With One’s Hair, Then It Can Be Allowed To Grow Without Manipulation That Damages It. Great Video Mayowa!🙌🏿✨
The gag is lace fronts are HARDER 😂 the wig cap, makeup on the lace, laying it down, blow drying it, cutting the lace, plucking the hairline (lmao) GLUE which rips your edges out etc. doing all that just for it to lift two days later 💀
Real. 9/10 lace fronts look awful in real life. Idk if I just always run into those women after day 2 😭. Lace fronts aren't even meant to be worn longer than that.
Lace fronts are super hard because they just don't look natural and if you care about your appearance you spend alot of time to try to get it as natural looking as possible and it don't even last I had to let the ish goooo lol not to mention the heat
The only issue i have with my type 4 texture is the detangling. That's the only thing that i would say that makes this texture "hard". No, i don't need tips ive been in the hair game since 2008 and have tried every detangling product and tool. I've changed my expectations and realized if you are someone who wants detangled hair (and that's ok) and you have afro texture you just need to allow more time and care. It is what it is. Other folks gotta watch their skin in the sun and we have an easier time with that. That's just the way it is.
I'm tired of the gaslighting... does straight hair get as easily tangled as Afro hair? It's not wrong to recognize natural hair requires SKILL. Do people with straight hair take hours detangling their hair? Do they even need to be taught how to detangle and treat their hair to keep it knotless, avoid breakage. etc? Let's be serious.
Actually they do. There is a whole white side to hair care RU-vid because if they don't take proper care of their hair it will thin out with the quickness especially as they get older and they don't like that. Healthy hair volume is a beauty standard amongst white women.
Have you ever seen a barbie doll? Or searched up depression hair on google? Any hair that is neglected will turn into a thick clump of tangled mess even straight hair. How long it takes is just a matter of prevention. Our hair is more versatile so ofc certain intricate styles naturally require skill, but this is only a problem if you want to manipulate your own hair to imitate those pictures. For ex; I'm super tender headed, the feeling of a comb running on my scalp brought tears to my eyes. Growing up my older sisters could never understand they would be like 'i'm not even combing I'm just parting!" As a teenager when they'd moved out and left me to tackle my hair alone i struggled with parting especially. on top of trying to get them straight each attempt hurt so I'd spend hours and hours. Don't even get me started on the back of my head. One really stressful day it hit me out of the blue, wait why do I need parts? Why do they need to be even? Who told me these things and why do I have to listen? Stopped obsessing over parts and never looked back. Yes some things take skill but ask yourself if its a skill you want to have or other people expect you to have. Cause if you can't do it you don't have to learn. Just let it go.
I have straight hair, and it can be high maintenance. I live in the south where it’s hot and my scalp sweats a lot, sometimes I need to shampoo twice in a day to keep my hair from matting. My hair has an undercut and and the top goes to my shoulders, so I’m pretty lucky. I have sisters that do have to spend hours detangling their hair, and they do use a lot of different products to keep their length, especially if it’s thick.
IMO most of the hate comes from our own selves… we have internalised it to the point where we are keeping the self hate alive and still at this rate. It is up to us to make the conscious decision to unlearn the trauma , heal and love ourselves and own our hair ! we cannot look towards other races to uplift us and reverse the damage. getting locs really helped to do this for me 💖 when you look at our hair and observe it’s essence it is what our hair wants to do and that can explain why detangling is exhausting.
I mostly wear my natural hair in a twist out and annually rock a lace front, and I do agree that maintaining a lace front is not easy, but maintaining natural hair is not a walk in a park either, especially if you style it. And I do agree that wearing my hair in a stretched state is more socially acceptable than a fro, but just because you have natural hair it doesn't mean you should not style it, the same way people with other hair textures style theirs, the way you present yourself matters so there should be some effort put in wearing your hair. And it's not recommended to wet your hair every day either as it dries the hair out, and constantly wetting the hair weakens the bonds in the hair. As a community we should encourage each other to wear our hair in all forms let's teach one another to love and embrace our hair in all stages.
Im sorry I can’t take seriously anyone with unkept locs telling anyone about natural hairstyling. As straighter hair types can be unkept so can coily hairtypes however there are levels to difficulty depending on hairtypes. The more coily the more difficult.
Hearing the word "tame" in a recent video to describe styling afro textured hair literally infuriated me!!!!! It's HAIR!!!!! Smh! I wore a lacefront once for a photo shoot and couldn't keep it on more than 3 days! I also got fulani braids once that literally took 12 HOURS!!! (Longest time its ever took to do a style for me). Any time I go to a hair salon, it's EASILY 3-6 hours. I am all for wigs (I prefer glueless or clip), protective styles and etc, but there is absolutely nothing more freeing and relaxing than just wearing my hair out in its natural state. Least amount of time and effort to just leave it as is. - signed a 4b/c girly who wears my hair in all different ways and styles
I feel you for fr fr! I’m growing out my natural hair again after having a short relaxed 90s mushroom style cut back in late 2022. Before that, I hadn’t relaxed my hair from 2009-2022. And the last time I officially relaxed my hair was nearly a year ago. I’ve worn my hair relaxed, silk pressed, in afro type styles, braids and weaves and wigs in the past. And I will wear my hair how I like… but the easier, most cost effective and convenient way for me to wear my hair? Natural! Each to their own, including how one chooses to style their hair… but in my own experience, once I got into my hair care grooves, natural hair is the easiest and healthiest way for me.
