Science with Sue, Episode 2: Changing Channels during Conflict

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In this video, I’ll talk about how holding onto one’s emotional balance can help shift couples from being caught up in their own emotions to stopping the blame game during conflict.
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In this video, I mention:
- Negative patterns in conflict
- Distressed couples and repair of conflicts
- Hold Me Tight
I refer to these studies in the video:
Regarding outcomes in our studies, where we help folks change channel from conflict:
Conradi et al (2017). Effectiveness of the Hold Me Tight relationship enhancement program. Family Process, 57, 613-628.
Wiebe, Stephanie et al (2011). Predicting outcomes in EFT. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 43, 213- 226.
Salvatore, Jessica et al (2011). Recovering from conflict in romantic relationships, Psychological Science , 22, 376-383.
Regarding the repair of conflict:
Gottman, John, Driver and Taberes (2015). Repair during marital conflict in newlyweds. Journal of Family Psychotherapy, 26, 85-108. doi: 10.1080/08975353.2015.1038962
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Dr. Sue Johnson is a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue’s received numerous awards acknowledging her development of EFT, including the APA’s “Family Psychologist of the Year” in 2016 and the Order of Canada in 2017.
Her best-selling book Hold Me Tight (2008) has taught countless couples how to enhance and repair their love relationships. The book since has been developed into an interactive relationship enhancement program, Hold Me Tight Online. Her newest book for clinicians, Attachment Theory in Action (2018), delineates the promise of attachment science for understanding and repairing relationships.
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@HudSouza 5 лет назад

Thanks for all your teachings Dr. Sue

@grdovwd1589 5 лет назад

Thank you very much for sharing your knowledge Sue. One of your videos (the test of connection-disconnection with the baby) really has helped me be a much better person, and understand how connecting with the little ones is so important FOR THEM. I now always present a smiley face, and avoid using my phone when i am around babies in public places, hoping that subconsciously it helps them a tiny little bit to see people care about them and they matter. At least, it is always rewarding to see a baby smiling back at you and connecting :) I am specialising myself in Social Communication and Relationships since 2017 (while still working as a Career & Personal Development teacher at a University in Shanghai, China), and any time i see fit, i share knowledge to others so they can develop and enjoy better, deeper, stronger, healthier relations in their life. So thank you again for sharing ! 4:40 - "The repair of conflict is a key factor that can make or break relationships." I don't really understand how repairing a conflict can "break" relationships; that it would appease relationships makes more sense: not meaning that the 2 people become friends or continue seeing each other regularly, but at least there would be no bad feelings when being around one another, and they still feel ok to talk to each other without holding bad grudges. Then, about changing channels, would there be any examples in future videos? (because the variety of channels in communication can be enormous: clothes, appearance, vocal tone, eye gestures, hand gestures, touching, distance, vocabulary type, etc.)