The difference in parents n children looking after each other point is right . But we Indians are emotional extremes , seriously we need to speak more about this. Personally the people who are in 50s or 60s are sandwich gen ,the last gen who is still looking after their super senior citizens and 1st gen who listens to children
I agree with everything you've said and I've been getting some of these thoughts now a days ever since I've reached my mid-30s. I have an idea that for every old age home, an orphanage should be present in same campus or adjacent campus so that the old ones and the young ones interact on a daily basis and revitalize each other.
I have been thinking over the subject for a long time. Being childless couple, me and my wife wish to settle in Senior Living society few years hence. Senior living is a fairly new concept in India. There quie a number of such societies in various places. My take on the subject is as per following: 1. Seniors require company of like minded people rather than Shanti. 2. Senior living could be in big cities or Tier 2 cities where decent medical facilities are existing or will come up in due course. 3. People in 60 to 75 years of age will have great time. Aspects of taking care of people who need advance medical attention and management of finances needs to be taken care of. One way out is that among the society younger and active people take care of others who need assistance. Purely in management of resources I.e. controlling of support staff, medical attention, finance etc. An Eco System needs to be developed in which younger member take care of elders. There could be nominated Care Taker who keeps track of a set of people. 4. Legal Assistance in management of will, finances etc also needs to be taken care of. 5. Government on its part should also formulate Senior living friendly policies and incentives. 6. Senior Living is the future for most of us. I am expecting positive developments on this.
Really well experiences shared. We are Thankful for better advice to young and older generation who think differently while purchasing properties and also thinking about the concept of shifting to old age homes.😊
Sir - You are without children so your thinking is of one type. What is your observation of seniors who have children yet who live in senior citizen home (old age home) for whatever reasons.
Ur views are correct. I feel govt or a trust should be set up with reliable people to help senior citizens like accompanying them for shopping, movies doctor banks etc other daily chores of lives and bring them back safely. Seniors also need a person to be kept 24 hrs of the day. But when either of the spouse expires it is still more difficult to discuss matters. So a good lawyer a good doctor immediate hospital near by such facilities should be set up for senior citizens for a middle class families. Now so long they stay at a particular place and are familiar with people around and now they find themselves in a situation where they find difficult to cook move around fast for daily chores like paying bills etc. so such organisation should come up with help all under one roof, so senior citizen can call them and the office can attend to the queries, some may need immediate action. Even staying at senior citizen apartment it has its plus and minus. Some may like cosmopolitan atmosphere, even same community people may or may not follow all festivals, over the years one must hv formed their own lifestyle, but at senior citizen places we have to be time bounded as food is served at particular time but if in their home one goes as per their liking. Like this several aspects are there. One has to think clearly and take decision. For this also need help, if near and dear ones take advantage of situation Big question mark???
Very deep and intricate subject Sir. I think exclusive senior citizen living is not feasible and has a lot of problems with existing ones without proper regulation and accountability of the operators. Solution might lie in integrating with existing housing colonies. Also working young gen might need a lot of good child day care facilities where these senior citizens can pitch in and live in a sort of mutual cooperation.
Hello Sir, this is regarding Shanthi. I totally agree with you that living with mixed generations is a good idea because when a senior joins a younger group, the mind, and emotions will be that of a youngster. Senior citizen homes must be a mixed group of all ages, giving the bottom 4 or 5 floors to only seniors.
Very timely video. As correctly summarized by you this product is more appealing to parents of NRI children who need to be in convenient as well as accessible place. I am nearing retirement from central government and have been for past 8 months visiting and researching the good senior citizen living complexs from major builders. However I have been unable to invest and go ahead due to the following major issues- 1. Their distance from the main city therby compromising our accessibility to specialized medical care. 2 Complete lack of access to CGHS facilities 3. Complete lack of access to outside life like nearby movie theaters/ malls etc. . 4. The long distances from Main city making it impossible for friends/ relatives to visit or you to plan a visit to them. All these above points have been well covered in your video. Excellent content and research done by you.!!
Very important issue for Sr. Citizen,, there are so many questions , to look in to the matter, In detail,if one partner is passed away, there will be more difficulties, for such Sr..person .. they required love, peace, company service, attachments, even they have sufficient property, money, but, they required,.family love,, ...Very typical issue , we can not think about this future events... God help every body...
Very interesting video. I totally agree with your and Dinesh Kudwa ji, s comments that solution lies within in the existing societies. Only thing is to explore this aspect while launching new projects by builders to accommodate such flats with facilities required for senior citizens. Your views for development of eco system is worth.
I didn’t talk to someone from old generation, I screwed up on your presentation, and found it absolutely genuine and prudent. Thank you for sharing this wonderful initiative.
Really thought provoking video sir.. Discussed in detail.. But i think your ideas shared in previous videos like staying nearby and taking care of parents sounds logical.. People can choose to stay in same place or same building in different units and live happily.
Your suggestion about such facilities should be in big cities having specialized medical care is real valid suggestion. I had not thought from this point of view. Thanks for your wisdom.
100% correct. Need senior citizen homes like normal homes in big cities itself. Big cities have already become extremely convenient. Definitely much more convenient than tier 2/3 cities
I am observing 70 years plus people from 2002 onward in Janakpuri, Anand Niketan, Shantiniketan a over hundred farmhouses in Chhatarpur, Bijwasan & Rajokari areas of Delhi. Your analysis is good. Some aspects need more attention. Delhi's demography suggest that UP wala population in Delhi is over 60% and prefer Noida- Greater Noida - Ghaziabad over Haryana location for residence. 4th or 5th generation people who are NRI and whose parents are residing in posh or super posh colony of Delhi , they prefer Gurgaon over UP, similarly 20 % combined population of Delhi, whose origin is either Haryana or Rajsthan, they prefer Haryana. Remaining population has mixed thoughts. Recreation and Dispensary play a great role. Near by CGHS Dispensary attracts central government employees, nearby insurance empanelled hospital attracts creamy layer of Delhi population. Old age home clusters in periphery of Delhi and other mega metro will be required more to cater 74 years plus people in coming years. Currently it has scope in thousands but after 20 years it will be in lakhs. After demise of old people, how that property will go to inheritance and demography will be maintained in old age home.
I am 35 and a single mom. and yes I will definitely buy myself a flat for my post retirement. we are the generation of mostly 1 child so we should plan for our old age, scary for me 🥺🥺. Also from haryana.
Very well explained. This would be future and written on the wall. I foresee and echo the same views. Your bring 30 years ahead things and discuss such pragmatic issues.
Sir , I always look upto your no nonsense , balanced and logical views in our Indian context. The old age homes need to be economically viable also . Sr.citizens also should not expect ALL their expectations to be fulfilled. Baki you have covered everything.
There are a lot of assisted living facilities around Coimbatore and they are in good demand in the south. As you said a lot of parents left behind by NRI children are opting for these. if you move there in your 60s, you can make friends and fall into their routine. They also have programs for fitness and in house temple etc. But as you said I don't know how people over 80 would feel living in such facilities.
You are absolutely right,on each and every aspect,be it retirement home,psych of senior citizens and so on.Being a senior citizen myself, I am 68 yrs.old, I can relate to all that you said here,in this vlog.Thank you so much.
Excellent presentation on retirement homes. You have a comprehensive vision on this topic. I would like to add one aspect regarding buying the property. I really don’t understand the concept of buying a retirement home, instead it should be a rental one, so that the one who runs the show will have interest in serving the seniors living there. If one feels that the atmosphere/ service provided is not good, they should be able to leave with due notice. I’m 65 years of age and feel that ultimately such facilities are very much needed. Keep updating on this subject
Thanks for details sir.its v eye opening.reality is v different than fantasy.life is becoming v difficult which we never thought in our Young age.the society has changed so much.no body has the time for Sr citizen.suddenly to face isolation v depressing.now I have to rethink about my future being lady alone.thank up v much sir.
Your view that old age home should be in surroundings which you are familiar with is absolutely true. People are fooled by brochures stating Doctors on call. Ideal thing for a labour intensive society like ours is to create a new career path for youngsters of geriatric care and companionship.
sir is talking the realistic issues, really long life is a suffering, especially the single elders in next 10-15-20 years is very much realistic, nothing matches the luck of those who have family and living with them, takign care of their needs, running their errands etc, the funny reality at the end is right - "pahaad par rahne ka shanthi"
Best solution is, to keep ground floors in buildings for senior citizens with provisions of wheel chairs accessible and hand railing in bathrooms etc….
Hi excellent analysis. Appreciate the time you have taken time to educate people looking ahead for their old age survival. This is a very important lesson for people already in their 50s and 60s. The ideal situation is for a mixture of normal and senior citizens living in a complex.
I agree with you points. I would like to add that any one above 40 years of age should take care of there physical health. I'll be most important investment they can give to there future.
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Very apt treatment of the sensitive subject. It’s time that nuclear family now turns to associate families - like father and son families in different flats but in same society. That way most things can be taken care.
I agree and another thing in USA and other countries, senior citizen homes are rental and are expensive, as manpower is expensive there. In India the concept is new but more communities (existing) should have associations who can provide assistane to convert a flat into senior citizen friendly , like providing paid services to regularly get attendance of senior citizens, their wellbeing , in case of emergency thier kids are informed and sent them to hospital, one ambulance in each society, camera emergency buttons in each room, antiskid tiles , camera in drawing room etc. this will not isolate senior citizens. And someone suggested , senior citizen homes should be next to orphanage and gaushala where those who can , can help those in need , it will be mutual affection , in return will get positive energy.
I agree with the critical examination of the subject and views expressed. Keeping in view the size of the family it will be difficult for the child to look after his old parents even if likes to look after. There is no option but go to sr. Citizen homes which may provide all services for assisted living of course on payment basis
Excellent thoughts which are very practical. We do not want to disturb our children's career. They are facing so many issues in their life. I am also looking for a senior citizen apartment in Thane, Maharashtra.
Thank you very much. I like the way you explained the difference between parents taking care of children and vice versa. It isan eye-opener. Please tell me the way to make my daughter understand the importance of my wishes to live in assisted living senior home . They don't agree to that. They are talking good care of me but i don't want to be a burden on them.
One aspect that needs to be considered is that when the older generation passes away disposal of assisted living property becomes a problem. Most such communities have a minimum age requirement for residents hence choice of buyers is limited as compared to a regular apartment complex. This is mentioned in many studies of such properties abroad. In fact they recommend renting so that the hiers are not burdened with the problem of finding a suitable buyer. Also a couple may take a larger flat but when only 1 person is left a smaller place might be better. So some communities give the option of moving to a smaller place when necessary. Another aspect is that as you say far from the city can also cause problems- medical, lack of various facilities close by and you become totally dependent on the staff of the community. This loss of independence can also be an issue for some people.
Sir, I highly appreciate ur opinion, I'm a senior citizen myself, yes we Indians r emotional n do require our children as we can't be detached fm them after a bond of so many yrs, Hence it's advisable for children to understand exactly that we only require their care n concern for us.
I have been caring for my parents and many of my friend's parents whose children are settled out of India. Seeing the potential of assisted living, I have decided to build an apartment for seniors with all the facilities required. I have also realized that one day, I will require such a place to live if my children move away from home. So, I'm building this Assisted living apartment with most of my friends as buyers for our own future. But still, your thoughts are quite deep and very helpful to work on the process. Thank you.
Hii, I'm retired govt officer, my name is Shashikant Barot residing with my son in Mumbai, Andheri. I'm 65 yrs old my wife is 55. Hum sab happily bachcho ke sath yahan rahte hai. Mera apna Ghar hai virar me jise maine rent per de rakha hai, Muje pension mil Rahi hai ( 50 k ) aur Ghar ka kiraya ( 15 k ) + native me bhi city me ek makan hai aur encestor house gaon me hai jise marammat kar ke Naya banane ka plan hai. Hum Miya Bibi ye soch rahe thei ki ab hum apne flat me rahne chale jate hai, akele rahne ka bhi Anand uthate hai, aur gaon ka Ghar bhi hai, ate jate rahenge, samay pasar ho jayenga. Aaj apka vedio dekha aur suna maine phir thoda soch me pad gaya, kya bete aur bachchon ko chhod kar akele rahne ka vichar kahi galat to nahi hoga. Beta katai nahi chahta ki hum akele rahe. Bahu shayad khush ho sakti hai ki Hume bhi apni life indipendently jeene ka mauka milega aur bachchon ke saath age tarakki kar sakte hai. Aapke vichar sune aur achcha laga. Aapki Rai agar de sako to Khushi hogi.
Very nice thinking. I am bujurg of 69 +, I am thinking of sr citizen homes like in coimbatur. Now after hearing your views I have to re think for next 15 20 years. In some places rental option exists. I think that should become affordable. I feel still, shanti chahiye. I have seen most of your vidios on relationship conflicts. 🙏
The decision to shift to such places for sr. citizens stay should be taken at sixty. Spouse didn't like the idea. however I gave her the option to agree or disagree to start the innings after visiting such place. We visited Heavenly Palace at Doraha in Punjab. She liked the place but is pending action. The place is too good. There are more than 400 rooms n 3-4 options from 25 thousands INR to 75 thousands INR per month. I have one son one daughter; son shifted to Canada with his wife n 2 sons. having own floor in Delhi; Daughter also in Delhi married. Rest You can assess. You are really helping general masses.Regards. I
@@AnkitKumar-kk3iw mai 28 ki Umar me 15k per month kama Raha hu ,shadi abhi nahi Hui hai, itta kam kamane Wale se koi karegi v nahi.mere dost Canada ja rahe the 2018 me afsos ho raha hai mujhe chale Jana chahiye tha. Yaar India me govt. Job mile tab hi sahi hai private me Kam paise milte hai and kaam v bahot jyada karwate hai and job ki v koi guarantee nahi hai. Log mazboori me India chhod kar chale jaate hai
Agreed with all your views I am 62 still working most probably will work till 65 by god grace and a divorce and have one son was always planning for old age home but realised two points maan nahi lagta and when you are really need care they don’t have that facilities
I am in this particular situation. I and husband are 61 and 62 yrs respectively, and have looked after both sets of parents through out our lives . Now only my mother is alive(96 complete) and she has always lived with us.We both our thoroughly tired of looking after her in a city like Mumbai. Our only son is 28 not yet married , and not yet settled in the US. We have started looking for old age home for ourselves but unable to decide where to go! We want to move into one when we reach 70 years of age.
I know how difficult it is to take care of aged people, when we we ourselves are senior citizens. I am 63, me and my husband took care of my mother in law, till last year. She was 93 when she passed away.... Before that my bed ridden mother was with us for a few years. It is truely tiring.
Swatiparekh, if you wish to go to a senior citizens home then don't wait till you become 70, you start looking for one immediately after 60. Because it really is a time taking & then thinking process. Me & husband visited a few near Mumbai & realised if we can live there or not! Most of these places allow you to stay there for a few days by paying there charges. So just go there, eat their food, see how things are working, how far it is from Mumbai, what about nearest medical facilities etc. If you find one, please inform us.
Dear you have beautifully discussed seniors living in details. Seniors can't stand extremely cold or hot weather. You mentioned Dehradun it appears you not stayed there both seasons are extremes in Dehradun so I suggest only 3 cities have good weather around the year these are Bangalore, pune .Bangalore is very good city having all best medical facilities and best weather conditions. There is plenty of seniors living places. One should go there stay for some time if comfortable One should opet for this place. It's true we in India wants to live nearby to our kith and kins but they are so busy in taking care of their jobs and their own families and have no time to call you or wish good morning morning. When you are criticality ill It's hospitals hospitals like vedanta,fortis, sir Ganga ram hospital,max,to mention a few .Apollo hospital is also good. I feel One should be emotionally attached to ones own self ( body) .Financial security is a must. Remain pure vegetarian, no drinking and smoking, do meditation Remain busy in reading books of your choice and subject. I am 87 still by God's grace I am hale and hearty can take care of myself. My son is most caring loving and affectionate to me but his business is of hotel and restaurant in Goa where his presence is essential during day time at least and I don't expect that he should spend some time with me. So we at this age should not expect any thing from anyone at all. Most important is Financial security. My wife was paralyzed on the day i retired. As I had great time and love for her i looked after her for 16 years none else had time though I had 6 children. She passed away 2010. I'm suffering from prostate cancer under treatment with PGI chandigarh fully Under control. Angioplasty was done on 11th February 2022 in medical college Goa .Now no problem. I planned several times to shift to such seniors care homes ,my son is very practical when tempted by wonderful vedios of heavenly palace ludhiana i decided to live there because greatest problem is getting good domestic helps and I live alone in Himachal pradesh from March till October and in Goa with my son from November till Feb. My son took me to heavenly palace ludhiana and I was shocked to see the reality. Most dangerous thing was one khalistani was there abusing Hindus and administration helpless to take any action. I found it an totally commercial institute. Very congested, only medical and physiotherapy facilities available. Anyway I suggest first select place where can enjoy weather conditions not to be tempted or dependence on vedios. When you love yourself and keep Financial security you need not to worry what shall happen when I fell criticality ill .if any senior citizen interested to talk to me on this subject he can contact me at my mobile number 93572 49407
Amazing video. All of it is common sense, but the funny thing is in today's world it has become so hard to hear someone talking in basic sense. Being out of india, i see good demand of assisted living in india for parents.
