Servers Share Their Biggest Pet Peeves 

I love that name

LMFAOO

Ugh that is the worst 🤦🏿‍♂️

Yeah that is the WORST!! I am a 16 year old busser girl... I help the waitresses set tables and get drinks.... I hate when they do that or when I am busy and they are busy on there phone and won't tell me what they want to drink.. 5 MINUTES LATER THEY SAY I WANT WATER NO ICE AND 7 LEMON WEDGES

😂😂😂

Yeah but when they’re practically falling out of their chair, gesticulating and waving with both arms (after just having sat down), it’s a different story

Someone didn’t spend a majority of their shifts tryna escape for a cigarette and flirting w the cooks lmao

Anna Woodland wow, I wish we had cooks worth flirting with. There must be a special sort where you work

The part that’s gets me is when a guest wave me down and I am not there server,,, or I drop off another servers food and they ask me to get them every thing,, I’m like your server will be right over

Lea Oversteegen GIRL I UNDERSTAND YOUR STRUGGLES. being a server is a job only some people can accomplish

I FEEL YOU GIRL!!! My biggest pet peeve is someone, especially if it's not my table say can I get a ___,____,___,___,____ when I don't have my notepad 😭

Lea Oversteegen yassss girl I. FEEL. YOU.

I think kinda got lucky because i was a server for a buffet but i was also a cashier so ya i feel your pain

whyjordie “the white guy” Atleast try to explain what he looks like before you say their skin color?

adhswift09 he looks.. like a white guy? like?

lol there's only one white guy

There are two white guys. The Italian guy is still white.

Harpfrmhel that guy actually looks middle eastern

Michael Whitehead lol true

She said "servants"

I know I thought that was a bit outrageous too! However, maybe he works at a high end restaurant where people spend hundreds, who knows?

miss L day Sure they're glad you aren't too.

Toni-Ann well at least I live in a country that pays their servers right

Food would be way more expensive if “tips” were not an option.

I live in a country where tips aren't a thing, so I was surprised too. I've always thought that $2 ~ $5 is sufficient enough.

Annoying people exist. Asking for something is fine. Servers only really get annoyed when people ask for more than the average person and then tip less than the average person. There are high maintanence people at my bar. If they tip 20%, IDC if they ask for anything their heart desires. But if theyre high maimtenence and tip 10%, Im gonna remember that, since I have to tip out bussers 4% of everything sold, drink runners 4% of drinks (including refill costs, despite making nothing on them, food runners 5% of food, and bartenders 4% of drinks. If somebody tips less than 10%, I literally lose money by having them. Dont fear asking for things. Just dont go out to eat if you cant tip a server for the best service of your life, because one day youll get it, and people who stiff then are remembered for years).

Same 😶😶😂😂

haha thats so relatable

Same

I once had a panic attack because I felt pressured to have a steak remade because it was overcooked 😂 I was fine with how it was but I had it remade anyways

Katie Runyon we just want the nod not a sentence and if you really want to verbally respond then put your hand in front of your mouth like a civilized human being

I just tell them, 1 sec, then I finish chewing my food, then I reply..

it's better than them coming over asking how my food soon after I start to eat

Or don't chew with your mouth open??

@@samanthahillshafer you didn't get that,,,, they're trying to speak while chewing cuz of the waiter and not just chewing with their mouths open

DIET COKE

Stfu

Excuse me?

hailey rae why though

ITS TOO REAL THO

Or when you just locked things up and they come pounding at the door, and beg endlessly until they give up, and leave bitching and moaning, or you give in and havr to stay there for two hours until they leave.

AND GET THEIR STEAK WELL DONE!!

xocheerle6 i work at a fast food restaurant so i just tell people “that’s gonna have to be to go :-)” if they come in at about 15 minutes before close lol.

My dad

I'm a cashier. Trust me, you're not alone. They do it to us, too, and they'll even show up after the register is closed down. "Hey I'm gonna get this and that and a couple of those." Through the glass: "Sorry, we're closed." "%^%$&##$#$%&!!)!!)@(@!!!!" "Okay, have a good night!"

WearyStrawberry especially if they are walking by

It doesn't bother me as a server at all but I suppose it can be bothersome to others during really busy shifts

Just wait till they pass ur table...I promise you you’ll only wait no more than 5 min

Exactly, like wtf else are we supposed to do if they havent come back in so so long???

I'm not going to stop waving. Sorry. I smile while doing it and say thank you!

TheBobtheturtle lol why would anyone remember their servers name, its weird af to call a waiter by its name lol, and the waiving thing i think its perfectly fine, i think its a way to make the server know that you have already chosen the food or that you want the check. Usually in my country we only waive when we want the check and commonly waiters will know that u are asking for the check so they will automatically go to make the check. Anyway sometimes they take a really long time and literally end up forgetting

My dad does that and it’s so weird and the servers are sometimes taken aback.

This! How are you suppose to flag a server down if you need something or a check? I thought waving was the most polite thing to do.

Shade Empress yeah i didnt like when my dad did that but now i just don’t care tough i don’t do it lol

My dad calls some severs by the name but we have been going to that place every week for as long as the place has been open which is about ten years

Daisy Brianna lol

I worked at dominos and they had gluten free pizza bases so

I almost spit out my food I laughed so hard.

😂😂

So many pizza places have gluten-free pizza bases now, i didn't quite get that example.

lifeisablessing. They tip well I guarantee

lifeisablessing they are the best guest another server can have!

The EASIEST customers and BEST tips

I've been a server, and as a customer I am patient if the restaurant is busy, tip very well unless the server is being exceptionally rude, and always try to be nice to them because I know the stress that comes with being a server

We usually are the ones that tip the most. Even when I eat at the restaurant I work at I tip well beyond 20%. I even clean up and pile dishes to ease their job.

Ishan Ali Mm sureee

Ishan Ali I see u literally everywhere

Ok, wanna save SOME likes for us? 😕

Or they’ll spit in your food

My dad told me that because he said they might poison ur food or do something weird to it

You shouldn't. I promise you not all servers are this extreme about their pet peeves. If you're nice to us, I PROMISE you, we will respond with the same amount (if not more) kindness. We LOVE sweet customers. We adore patience. It's perfectly okay to flag us down or raise your hand as we're passing by (at least for me it is) If you need something. It's our job, trust me we don't care.

youre the one that searched it

Don’t feel anxious at all!! All we ask is that you’re polite and respectful. Even if something is wrong please don’t be afraid to let us know. We will always do everything we can to make sure you have a decent experience and as long as you’re polite everything will be fine!!

If you tip well (20%) and try to be polite servers wont mind you. Mainly, order off the menu, don't complain, be quiet, tip well, and leave at an appropriate time (1h 30min). Servers will be happy. If you have a good server, tell the manager. You can ask your server for the manager, or ask another employee. Always preface it with "I'd like to compliment you/my server to the manager. The manager will walk out shortly excited to hear from you. If you have a complaint a manager will begrudging approach you.

Just be respectful leave a tip we would love to have you back if you do that

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Elie K. Lol

that happens to me every time 😂

same

I hope your saying women just complain because obviously a man would like it

Owen Brookshire i’m guessing you’ve never been sexually harassed? because it is not enjoyable whatsoever

@@Liftedpeace61 Man would like it? You are so ignorant and fool. NOTHING FORCEFULLY IS ENJOYABLE.

@@nataliew.1206 Someone attempting to flirt with you =/= sexual harassment

@tjašikaThen let them get mad. If you don't want to get hit on at WORK then maybe don't WORK at a crowded public place filled with drunk guys specifically looking to hit on women in a job that demands interaction.

Maham Hameed yes

KatKMeanders I’m in the UK and we definitely do tip over here. Not as much and there’s no rule regarding percentage but in my experience most people tip at least a bit

KatKMeanders people should do more research on where they are going. I feel like some people just don’t care to know how other people’s systems work.🤷🏽‍♀️

@@francesca1687 where abouts r u from? I'm from Birmingham and ive also been London and Oxford a lot and no requirements for tipping anywhere...especially as much as America where it's like a 20% tip

eseudeo tea Outskirts of Birmingham. And yeah, there’s no real set rules or anything but most people will at least leave a token, more out of social pressure from not looking like a stinge in front of your family/friends xx

@@francesca1687 I live in Japan, they will chase you to give you the money you left behind. Even if it is 50yen ($0.50).

I can’t understand people anyways, if I had them clicking at me I’d be fired at every server job going

Why do yall even tip the get fuckin paid cause it’s a fuckin job

@@ivikpetersen8477 Because tipping is basically their salary.

Arctic Ivik because they make a lot of their money from TIPS you idiot and don’t get paid much besides their tips!!

Artmiese 💋Elizabeth we live in nz we don’t get tipped at alll

£100($127) isn't a common tip in America at most restaurants the largest you'll get is about $20. $5-$10 is the average here too.

The tips here are typically 20% of your meal cost.

I don’t tip at all in the UK, they never ask for it. Also, why should I? You’re supposed to be paid by your employer, I’m not responsible for your salary. If they have a problem with that, mabye they should get a better job?

Cookie K Ig it’s just different in the us. Yes, the employers should pay better, but they never will, that’s why we tip. It’s just how it is 🤷🏼‍♀️

TheUglyDuckling If you can’t afford to tip, don’t go out to eat, it’s as simple as that 🤷🏼‍♀️

And then they start asking you questions like, they weren't ready at all

As a server I honestly don't have a problem when people have allergies. I get it, you're gluten intolerant but you like pizza, that's not a crime. It pisses us off when people change around every single aspect of their meal because of some diet trend. If you have an actual medical condition, that's actually pretty refreshing and (good) servers won't get upset at you for that.

Nix Levencheen THANK YOU

yeah no like that dude who was like complaining about it??? like??? i have a severe milk allergy i’m so sorry that i just wanted to eat out...

I hate it when people with fish allergies come to our sushi restaurant, it's like they have a death wish, or they really want an excuse to sue someone. Trust me no food in an inner city sushi restaurant is more than 1 metre away from fish. We cut the fish in front of customers, we cook it in front of customers, it wheels past customers on the conveyor belt, everyone else at the table will be eating fish - it is not a safe zone!

It's not your fault tho

Rene' Craig Yes please!

Put your hand up and make alot of eyecontact. If its a good server, it'll work.

wait.

I think they were talking about people waving excessively at you when you are clearly busy with another table. People with be leaning out of their chairs and waving aggressively at you, or even calling for you when you’re in the middle of speaking to another table. People even grab or tap you, it’s crazy.

I am a server, eye contact or just smiling or a little wave. I think that's totally ok and not mean at all or annoying Edit: also if you have empty cups at the end of the table or menus, etc it's easier to spot when it's busy- i try not to be annoying by asking y'all need water all the time, so I can easily refill and take away plates or check if I can visual see what's up- if not then it's like a guessing game for the servers but good servers can tell when's the right time to ask how's everything doing, more water, check, etc :D

They will be back....don’t you worry!

You don't rralize that the average quality of service would drop because they would still be getting paid the same if they're not nice or smile. Look at a lot of customer service jobs that don't get tips i.e cashiers.

also, you shouldn't always tip. Tip accordingly to how good service really was. I'm a server btw

In the UK, servers do just as good of a job and we aint tipping nobody!

Unfortunatly that's unrealistic. The system has been this way for far to long. You have to factor in food cost and waste pay for cooks, dishwashers, prep cooks, bakers, host, managers etc. Etc. Not everyone would have the same mind set ethier. If a pasta dish that used to cost 13.00 suddenly cost 27.00 (which it would HAVE to increase that much in order to compensate for the now higher wage every server in the restaurant is making) people would be outraged. Resturant would close and be a thing of the past. Paying servers 2.80 an hour is a big part of how restutants stay open

I lived in Europe (Germany) for 3 years and I realize that it seems that literally every other developed country pays their waiters and waitresses enough that they don’t need to be tipped.

and they cant either hence why they should get other jobs

I would like to that I am a server and yeah, some people are very unpleasant. But, most people are nice and fun to talk to. Going out to eat is a fun experience and it is absolutely amazing to help make their time even better. It's not all bad and we don't hate it. Hence, why we're servers.

lovemyslowee most ppl don't get a choice sometimes

I thought the same exact thing. Now I am one! There's awful people everywhere. The experiences that I have had with some customers are really nice, it's not about just giving a plate some food and not talking to them but making them feel welcomed and have an amazing experience and good conversation. Besides mean people, it's actually really nice to have conversations with people and almost be like a friend. :D

serenityq26 they are here to show pet peeves. 😑 Everything they said seems totally reasonable to get annoyed at

i know its insane the way they are in the US!

Amen!!

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It started during the great depression, I believe. Restaurants couldn't afford to pay their waiters so they shifted blame to customers if their waiter went home with barely enough money for essentials like food and clothes. Nowadays waiters and waitresses are allowed to get paid as little as roughly $2/hr (depending on what state) and tips are expected to make up the difference to equal minimum wage. While it is unfair that service workers arent paid enough, and while service workers and employers are trying to fix legislation its not immediate. In the meantime please TIP YOUR SERVERS!

I'd never get it too

ThatOneGirl97 he listened but obviously didn’t understand because he never got hit on

PERIOD POINT BLANK 💯❤️

Gold C men don’t really get it on. Or at least I don’t get hit on....

************** you’re absolutely right we don’t. Women are too scared or shy to hid on a guy.

im a woman. getting hit on is a compliment. dont be such a snow flake.

i would like this but it’s at 69 likes do

I feel your pain. I had to deal with a customer that got snippy with me when I made her what she asked for

I've never been a waitress, but I have been a cashier at a McDonald's...near Columbus Circle...during rush hour...with customers that knew little to no English. The flashbacks, yo.

When I worked in a grocery deli people wpuld just point at stuff and get mad I couldnt see it. My general response was "I'm sorry my mind reading powers havent fully developed. Professor X has been to busy fighting crime with the X-Men to train me. " that usually got a laugh and diffused the situation.

My personal favorite happened to me the other day (I’m not a server anymore, but I do work in food) customer: I would like the pico guacamole sandwich me: okay would you like beef or chicken customer: yes

I feel like that's something Gordon Ramsay would say XD

this is honestly rly rude tho :/

My step-brother has Celiac Disease, my family always make sure ahead of time to make sure he has something to eat. Sometimes it sucks but its common sense.

Suuuuuper rude to be upset with someone for having an allergy. Most of the time pizza restaurants will advertise gluten free pizza or say they can accommodate an allergy that they can't.

the only reason i liked the video 😂😂😂

just smile at your server and it always works

When the server passes, and it wont take long for them to pass you, say excuse me and ask them for what you want politely.

"Stranded" they aren't leaving you on a desert island. Wait a couple minutes. Patience is a virtue.

Smile at them?

They’ll get to you lol

Malaika Tah just treat people like you want to be treated

Malaika Tah just be nice and leave a fat tip. Trust me you WILL be remembered and prioritized

imagine the insecurity about depending on the kindness of strangers for your income.

RooFooChoo oh that has to be bad.. But u have to agree the allergy comment was very rude.. I'm allergic to gluten I can't always force my friends to not eat at a certain place because of me.. And I'm not mocking you for not having gluten free... How can u be irritated by a person Asking if u serve gluten free

Oh hell no!

When the parents let them throw food everywhere too😭🙄

Oh, cry me a river. Work with youths who've attempted suicide and much worse and then we'll talk about your terrible day.

A B Oh shut up. Why the hell do people complain about other people complaining? That’s so hypocritical! Also, nobody wants to be a waiter as their career, you chose your own career, so if you want to complain, please feel free but don’t put other people down because of it

Kathryn McCallum Just say “excuse me” when the get close to your table.

or you can wait until they come to your table again after dealing with their other tables

Mariah Jones I don’t get why people think “waving” their hand is necessary when you can just... I dont know... leave your hand up and be still? Servers are not blind...

If you need a drink refill, place your glass in an easy reach, easily visible place.

Kathryn McCallum I agree with you so much. They may think it is really rude , but I kinda feel like it isn’t? You are just signing that you need a waiter. Maybe you need something fast? Do they think that just sitting there is going to help? Like no.

he was frustrating me every time he spoke

MTE. She was basically saying she doesn't like being sexually harassed by customers and he thinks she's lucky to have that.

you actually think getting hit on is the same equivalent as being sexually harassed?

In a workplace environment, where there is a power imbalance (such as when a service industry worker is assisting a customer, which is literally the subject of this video/comments), yes it is. Also, "same equivalent" is redundant.

Racist

Jade Thrasher I understand exactly what you mean. But as someone who has been a waitress and bartender in the past. It’s not workers that actually are annoyed by it. The customers get on their high horses and have a go at the staff for allowing them in. So the worker doesn’t necessarily get annoyed at the homeless person but the don’t want the conflict at the same time. Xx

Jade Thrasher a homeless person can also come in smelling like butt ass when they sit inside a restaurant with the aroma of that smell and thats one of the reasons customers come at the staff for that

Cesar Sanchez Sounds like an entitled customer problem. Shame on them. I've worked in food and at a laundromat so I've had my fair share with the homeless, if I can handle them, so can Karen. I'm not here to discriminate against anyone (especially when they're not causing an issue) and neither should that restaurant. Also, there's plenty of homeless people that take care of themselves. The ignorance of people who think like that is astonishing. I'd push some people off their high horses if I could.

Jade Thrasher im saying the aroma of the smell is what ticks people . I mean come on you’re eating at a restaurant and have a homeless dude sitting a table away from you smelling like the devil’s asscheeks while you’re eating . you’re gonna get disgusted stop fronting 😂😂

No front, sorry you weren't raised to be polite.

Right? That was the stupidest thing in this video. Being annoyed because people have allergies.

i have a milk allergy and like i don’t know why servers get so annoyed? like i’m so sorry that i wanted to eat out...

Please, that's not what he meant. Obviously if the place offers gluten free options it's not a problem, but the example he made was more like a vegan going to a steakhouse and expecting to have countless options to eat.

I think it was misconveyed or whatever. We get annoyed with people who have allergies to the biggest ingredients in our food. Like don't go to a pizza restaurant that's flour cheese and bread if you cant eat any of it. Dont make us create a new dish for you. Go somewehre that has steaks and soup and salad . or people who say they are allergic just because they dont like something. Just tell is to take it off lol

It's irritating AF!! People coming to a seafood restaurant but allergic to damn seafood. WTF!!!!

I am not even a waiter and I agree.

MumbaiGlutton ughhhh my dad is always very kind to servers and tips extremely well, but if he needs someone’s attention he snaps and it drives me crazy!!!! Just know that not everyone is trying to be rude :(

My dad does that sometimes at restaurants and I can’t tell you.... HOW EMBARRASSED I GET THAT I LITERALLY TRY TO HIDE MY FACE WHEN THE WAITER COMES BACK 😂😂😬

Daniella Marsam omg I can totally imagine 😂 I get so embarrassed I feel so bad for the waitress !! If I ever need anything I just try to make eye contact with them or if they pass by I say excuse me __etc etc..

i am a waiter myself and i really don't mind. I do think that there is a very big difference between snapping your fingers or just putting your hand up. If someone just puts their hand up because they want to ask me something I find it actually quite helpful because i now know they need something.

TheSesime exactly what I thought

TheSesime who ever you are, could you please help me get to 150 subscribers? 😊🙏

i work at cheesecake, for a server you have to take a 5 day course just to memorize the menu and drinks

TheSesime truuuu

There is a difference between servent and server, but even if I had a servent, I still wouldnt snap because I would still treat them like a human being

Server or waitress or waiter. But not servant. Idiot.

Server, waiter, or waitress. Not servant. Idiot.

I’m a SERVER i SERVE you YOUR FOOD but i am not your servant...

Servant: a person who performs duties for others, especially a person employed in a house on domestic duties or as a personal attendant. Server: a person or thing that provides a service or commodity.

I don't mind the wave down either. The snapping is kind of bothersome. But at least they're letting you know that they need something so you don't have to guess and waste time walking over there just to find out that they don't need anything

Trust it’s not easy to get attenti9n for a bill if the waiter forgets

How else to do it ?

Waving or the one finger or raised hand I never minded especially if I had a full section and it was hard to get my attention snapping or yelling is rude

Shan Parker right... never bothered me either.. some days it was appreciated It gets busy

Dana and while they’re pondering you go “I can give you some more time, I’ll be right back!” And they’re like “no no we’re ready” and then 10 minutes later you’re finally done

and you feel your other tables staring at you the whole time

Omg that is so true!

I’ve never related to anything more in my life

Dana and then they finally decide what to order and you ask what they would like for their side and it’s another 10 minutes of hmmm

It's cause if minimum wage. Some get paid like 2 dollars an hour(way below minimum wage) cause they really on tips. You kinda have to tip. How will they live off if that.

It's total bs and a lot of servers are very entitled.

American dining out is probably cheaper tho cos the restaurants cut costs by not paying their servers properly. Servers make 1-3 dollars per hour. Just imagine earning that wage. It should be criminal.

@@DawnKellyMedia let's see you make 1-3 dollars an hour as your wage honey. Servers are not entitled. You are just cheap.

10 dollars is standard, if you where there for about an hour and spend 65-85 dollars, a general tip is about 15%- Also generally speaking middle to upper class restaurants have cheaper food prices in America than in Europe which help balance a tip, I.E. let’s say 4 people went to dinner for an hour and the total is 65 dollars, 15% of that is 9 dollars each person is responsible for about 2.25 of a tip, it’s not expected that each person pays a individual tip its collective, if your there for more than an hour/ hour and a half, it’s appropriate to tip closer to 20/25% because the longer your at that table the less people they can wait on. But 2.25 is not a big dollar amount for going somewhere, having someone serving you for an hour or so....

Eliza h. Don’t feel bad, as a waiter myself as long as you’re kind customers every tip contributes, no matter how small😊

If you have a special occasion but don’t want to tip a server, then order catering and stay home. It sucks but as a server, I depend on others for my income. That server is probably working their butt off to make sure your family has a good time, and to say you “honestly don’t have enough” to give a good tip is nonsense. If you can afford to eat at that nice restaurant, then you can afford to tip your server.

Robin Trevor you cant always afford tip. Maybe they need to save more money for something other than a tip

Robin Trevor they didn't say they don't tip they leave a tip but not as much as desired. They can go out for special occasions, that's rude af to tell the, they shouldn't come out😐

Robin Trevor well I mean if the costumers don't wanna tip the server, they don't have to

Brianna Fure fact

So true I’m seeing these people saying snapping at people isn’t rude, or working in a restaurant isn’t hard. Clearly you haven’t worked in one or you would know the disastrous people you have to work with, like have some respect seriously, when I worked in a restaurant I worked very hard and snapping or waving is so rude, Trust me I see you, I just have other people to serve other than you so if you can just be patient I will get to you. These comments frustrate me so much

Dealing with the public is always difficult; however, you knew what you sign up for when you decided to be in this line of work

Zack's Channel if you eat out, you owe them 15% regardless.

Zack's Channel last time I checked

YOu should watch a documentary how tips are supposed to be made.... Here in the states tipping is actually supposed to be done because the servers dont get paid hardly anything hourly.

Eric Wininger no it’s 20%

Why do Americans tip? Servers get paid

Colonel Lemons he’s saying basically “if you’re lactose and gluten intolerant, don’t eat at a pizza place; instead eat somewhere that caters to your needs.” By your logic, those friends don’t sound like friends because they don’t take into consideration their friends needs.

Ellie McHale Okay, but there is gluten free pizza sans cheese. So asking if a place has that option isn’t really a problem.

Cleodel But there is also no guarantee that it didn’t come in contact with anything gluten. My sister has celiac disease so pizza places are on our top so not eat at places because those happen to be one of the most celiac unfriendly places ever, even if they do have gluten free options.

Nope. If they have internet connections or the restaurant is clearly for food that caters to specific foods, google a place that might serve you. I worked at a southern bbq place and people would come and ask if anything was vegan, gluten free, healthy. NO. Why would it be that way? The question only made sense when we got foreign customers because they probably weren't familiar with the food. Or I also worked in a bakery. So many angry folks that were mad we weren't making healthy, sugar free, gluten free, vegan friendly cakes and pastries. Google it and find the bakery to cater to you. Those types of recipes might be in progress, but it's hard to make good tasting food recipes that caters to certain diets. Especially sweets.

Colonel Lemons I was going to say the same thing. I have celiac and can't tell you how many times my family or friends really wanted to get pizza and I ended up just ordering a salad because I couldn't eat anything else. I used to be a server, well before most places made accommodations for allergies. I get how difficult it can be, however allergies are allergies and can kill someone

How's that bad? I consider that a compliment.

@@JTmaxx your not OK in the head

@@JTmaxx you can tell his remark had good intentions behind it. However as a woman, unwelcome and persistent interest can feel threatening very quickly. We are used to “watching our backs” so to speak. Whereas men aren’t in many cases. So the idea of someone flirting with you on the job probably is nice for a guy

sam M I agree it is hard work, but where I live chefs/back of house get paid more hence why servers get tips to make the rest up

The kitchen usually gets paid more hourly and also gets a percentage of the servers tip at the end of the day. In some restaurants the kitchen will also get free meals while the servers don't.

horselover1904 I've worked in both positions. For my jobs servers got all tips, but were paid less. The cooks worry about the food and making sure everything is stocked for the next day. Servers are in charge or dishes and doing most of the cleaning. Free meals for both of us. If it was a to go order the kitchen got the tip. It pretty much evens out, I mean both of you are going to always have something to do and work hard. Either way you gain respect for everyone that has done the same

I've worked both jobs and I honestly prefer to serve tables, being a cook near the stove heat for so long is rough. You get sweaty, greasy, and easily pissed off if the kitchen isn't running at a good pace. In my last experience as a cook the servers where I worked were the laziest and had no idea how long it took to cook anything. The servers are a cooks annoying customers lol.

sam M I always tell the server to thank the chef for me, it's a really nice thing to do, and I recommend you doing it as well. 😀

redspirit17 I personally don't I'm so busy and I often forget to check back on tables. this is really polite

redspirit17 I LOVE miss/ma'am. It's polite, and you get my attention. PLEASE keep doing this.

redspirit17 sometimes they get rlly busy ... and don’t worry someone will come round to you .. this one time I was busy and I gave a customer some water and a wine list .. I was busy making drinks then .. they come up to the bar and was like “CAN SOMEONE TAKE MY DRINK ORDER ?!!” I said I’ll be with them in a minute .. they got up again and did the same thing .. customers don’t understand that we r busy sometimes.

LovatoLover22 judging by their attitude it sounds like they think they’re entitled to it. And also no one should be paid so little that they need tips to survive. And I do tip when I go out for food because I don’t go that often.

Ideally yes, but that's now how the system works in America. Please keep that in mind.

Sahara Anne Burns they have other tables to serve plus they might be doing other stuff in the back

exactly, clearly nothing is good for them. they have tables, waving and snapping is not a bad thing. why would they yell across the room? i hate when servers complain about everything. it’s literally their job to cater to their tables.

Usually eye contact is a basic human way to let someone know you want their attention. Make eye contact, smile, maybe a quick gesture. But don't be pissed if they can't come to you straight away. Priorities are a thing.

I'd just raise my hand whenever they're close to me. I think waving is also fine but the finger snapping is kinda rude

NAOMI VDB Instead of waving them down, say “excuse me (name of server) “ and don’t call them when they are at another table.

Say "Excuse me, (name)." and if that doesn't work, then a quick wave while saying that as well is better than snapping significantly. I definitely won't help you as quick as soon as I hear a snap from you.

I would have died of thirst by then!

Until your waiter disappears...

@@kaylamwalker1 it also isn’t that simple either, you don’t know what it’s like to be quadruple sat on a Saturday night do you? Having a party of 10, a 4 top, and 3 2 tops? I want you to go in on a busy night and eat one time at a popular restaurant and take some time to actually observe the servers and see how many things they are expected to do at once. All of y’all think it’s all about you and y’all are the only ones that matter when I got about a total of 20-25 other people I’m waiting on as well, and little things add up, “oh I don’t like this I want it off my bill.” “Can I get some more ketchup?” “Can I get a refill?” “I never got__ is it coming soon?” “It’s my sons birthday today and I have a cake so when we’re done eating can you__?” “Okay we’re ready to pay but we’re splitting the bill 10 ways and we’re not all paying card we got 5 people paying cash” Picky eaters who want to create their own dish, so on and so on. Do you think you could handle all that at once? Just you by yourself? It’s a lot. So y’all gotta be patient when you go out to eat in busy days, expect waits you’re not the center of attention. Often times your waiter isn’t inattentive, they’re just weeded. “In the weeds” is a sever term basically meaning I’m fucked rn..

American waiters only make 2.13 an hour, when minimum wage is 7.50 averagely. They need tips to feed their family. The reason they are paid so low and live off of tips is so restaurants can keep Food prices lower. It also encourages waiters to be more friendly for that extra money.

Lort in Israel tipping is a very common thing and everyone leaves a tip because some waiters don't get an actual salary and make money by tips only

Epsilon oh well I've never been to Africa or Asia, I'm basing my knowledge solely off of trips to Europe and South America.

Lort regarding Asia, I think you're right because as an Asian myself and seeing others, they aren't one to leave tips, but here they try every now and then to do so

That’s because in most other parts of the world gratuity is included in the bill

If there’s an obvious error or your server rung it up wrong then why can’t they be upset about it?

Eddie Knotts at least leave twenty percent. If you want us to serve you with a big smile and kiss butt all day and make your experience nice and wonderful, people should at least say thank you with a decent tip.

Eddie Knotts agree, we can’t always afford to tip a lot.

6LemonCupcake9 say you go out and spend 10 dollars on a meal. you can definitely afford to leave the server the extra 2 dollars. same for people who go out and spend 30, 50, or 100 dollars on food. if you couldn’t afford it why would you go out and spend money on food anyways.

also i’m a server and i agree with you. we’re not entitled to big tips. if i mess up someone’s order or forget something i assume they’re not going to tip me because i provided them bad service. i think a lot of people don’t understand that tipping is supposed to be for good service. i know people who will mess up a tables order and get super pissed when the table doesn’t tip. like what did you expect lol.

I'm not gonna lie Indian men leave terrible tips. They'll only leave 3 bucks max, most of the time its less, for a $40 check of 4 people.

There are, but as someone who's been both a customer and server throughout their life, I dealt with a lot more rude customers than rude servers.

True but definitely not more than rude customers

Nadi Mairi I don't get why people take servers not wanting to be treated like personal servants so personally. I've never been a server but it sounds so tough, especially when you hear how much vitriol non-servers have over silly thing like being expected to tip.

Nadi Mairi my elderly grandma tripped on a rib bone that some other table dropped on the ground. the waiter laughed.

Nadi Mairi STFU

THATS WHAT I WAS THINKING! IM LIKE "HOW IS NOBODY IN THE COMMENTS MENTIONING HOW GOOD LOOKING HE IS?"

Nobody is talking about it ‘cause he isn’t

who finn balor

I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT

The guy beside him is hotter imo

What about in bars inside of restaurants you can sit yourself there

I hate that!! We sat you there for a reason! There is a rotation and that will throw it off completely

FR ! Like damn y’all did not just move sections like that !

Yes! I worked at a hotel and people would always sit themselves at dirty tables for breakfast then get annoyed they havent been offered tea or coffee. Umm you sat yourself and have pots on your table, we presume youve been sorted.

I swearrrrrr

He wasn't saying their food was an hour late, he was saying there was an hour wait for a table outside, or they could eat inside and eat right away. Also, even if your food is an hour late, that doesn't have anything to do with the server, they don't make your food, that's a problem with the kitchen. If they give you good service, then they should be tipped accordingly.

I know that he was talking about an hour wait for a table outside, but I was just giving another scenario. I also know that the waiter doesn't make the food, so it is not their fault... but I will still wave them down to ask where it is. I won't be rude about it, I will simply ask. And if waiters give you bad service, then they should also be tipped accordingly (not tipped).

But they arent waving us down cause its an hour late. They are waving us down to ask for more water. Or bread. Like I am obviously taking care of my other tables , and I WILL take care of you and probably already am on my way to get the pitcher or bread basket lol

Taiya Reynolds usally it's for the bill tbh, which in England I have never had a server come up to us and offer us a bill we almost always have to wave a waiter down

***BUT I STILL TIPPED HONEYYYYYYYY***

When you're eating out, knowing your server's name and calling them by name is a much better way to get your server's attention than anything else. In general, it's rude to call someone "you," and the fact that most waiters and waitresses will tell you their name when you are seated. A server is a person, not a robot.

Rebecca Taylor true but its also something very few people can or will do. I forget the names of somr family members.

Or at least say "ma'am" or "sir."

You don’t have to, but you can at least try and remember your server’s name for the hour or so that you’re eating there. It’s not that hard to remember at least for a certain span of time, and if you’re a regular, you’ll probably remember the name eventually. Otherwise, just say “excuse me” and in addressing them, “ma’am” or “sir”, etc.

Yeah, in Mexico, it's actually rude to call out your waiters name.

Do you understand the meaning of the word pet peeve? Have you not heard of people complain about the crappy parts about their jobs? Like it's a universal thing. I'm sure CEOs and janitors have their share of pet peeves even if it's their part of the job description.

I'm also in the industry and thought the same thing

Not just you. :)

I can deal well with all of these things but three. 1) do not grab me or touch me. You can’t touch strippers why would you think it’s appropriate to touch me? 2) do not sexually harass me in anyway, verbal is included. (I had one drunk idiot ask me to bring him his drinks topless I crumpled up my the sheet of paper I was taking the order on, and told him he’s not getting anything from me and could go to the bar.) 3) do not snap at me I’m not a dog.

I agree with you.Some of these people shouldn’t be servers.

Thank your brother! When you’re busy, it makes such a difference :)

Katherine Hames same

Thank you I have severe dairy and egg allergies so eating out is a whole sitch for me. Lots of repeating the order haha, birthday parties and holiday foods are a particular sore spot. I desperately wanted to rant I just wanted to see that someone else has a similar problem. I dont want to be judged for not being able to eat what I want to. At least I eat healthier!

@@frogjasmine Yeppers, I hate it when people are like, "it's ok for you to have SOME gluten, just not a lot." And I'm like when did you start being an expert on celiac disease 😂😂

I have coeliac disease and some of the staff give me such dirty looks when I ask them if they have any gluten free foods like???

@@saraklinkosz2623 I know It's like there're annoyed with the fact that I have food restrictions, and I'm like "Would you like to not be able to eat basically anything!?!"

Kermit Marbles the type of men that hit on us like that are definitely not ones you’d want to meet

Kermit Marbles i see what you’re saying but if someone is at their place of work, they are usually nice because THATS THEIR JOB and its extremely uncomfortable when people think you’re flirting for just doing your job and try to flirt with you

When people say “you’re lucky to get hit on” they are talking about how that means people find you pretty. Many men don’t get attention like that. You might not know notice it if you get hit on a lot but men don’t usually get hit on

That same dude also complained about the homeless issue. Maybe speak to management about creating a feeding program with the stuff that’s about to turn? Or literally anything that doesn’t further demonize homeless people. I’m broke constantly but manage to carry fruit and packaged snacks (from Aldi, coz they’re cheap!) in my car when I know I’ll be in a high homeless area.

Ashley Rose PFFFFFT WOMEN

PrincessLuLu because as a server there is a lot of stress on our hands that you’re not seeing while you’re eating and relaxing and we have other people like you that want to be helped.

Lmao how are you gonna expect your server to sit there and wait for you to finish what’s in your mouth? Plain silly.

SilverTaco you just come when he is not having half a burger in his mouth?! How is that so hard? the reason you checkback is so you can also help them in case they want something else

Hotdog Fart Studios so what? It is your job to double check? And if you dont see it that way, you will probably never be a quality waiter

Awww you've never been a server have you?

Magnolia Starr THANK YOU

My mom has celiac disease, so I also try to accommodate people with allergies as much as I can. What I can't stand though, is when we have a big wedding reception going on (200+) and a guest comes up to me while we're already serving their party to tell me: "So... I am allergic to X... could you get me something different?" If they ask as soon as they read the menu when they arrive? Great. I'll get the kitchen on that immediately. Half an hour before dinner will be served? Okay, talking to the chef right now. But when we're already serving? And you expect me to magically conjure up food for you right this moment out of a busy, bustling kitchen trying to get the planned menu out as fast as possible? No. That just doesn't work. I'm always happy to help if they are willing to wait, if they forgot to ask before we started serving but I get seriously annoyed when they just expect me to randomly get food matching their specific needs out of thin air, stat.​

i think if you have celiac you definitely have a choice to NOT go to a pizza place, which is what the guy in the video was talking about.

But vegan Pizza and Glutten free pizza is a thing, the only way to find out who serves it is to ask. Tbh I’d ask before I sat down but like, still worth finding out.

I think they are referring to people who say they have allergies to food, but obviously don't. I had a customer who swore he was allergic to onions. Deathly allergic. He then asks for salsa. I tell him there are o ions in it. He says, that he can eat them in salsa, but not on a burger....ummm, dude you're not allergic lol

I was a server for years.. I don't get this one.. Of course customers can politely wave at you when they want something. the other option us what telepathy? But really like everything else, its all in how its done.

It's all about intent. I don't mind most waves but people can definitely wave rudely. Safest bet is to add an "excuse me"

It’s only rude when we are clearly taking someone’s order or talking to another table and the customer sits their waving... like I see you but I’m in the middle of helping someone else right now. It actually happens a lot.

Jenny Gilchrist lmao everyone tips in England unless service charge is included... You’re supposed to tip 10%

ResemeeC mate I’ve never seen anyone tip in England lol

No one "tips" in Europe, or basically anywhere else. It's already included in your bill. Tipping in the US started during prohibition rooted in bribery which restaurant owners promoted because they had a harder time supporting servers bc a lack of alcohol sales

Satinist There is tipping in Europe and it's not always included in the check. Some countries (like Denmark) do have it included and it's seen as an insult to tip and they sometimes don't even tip when they are in a country where tipping is common (like Germany).

Jenny Gilchrist Good for you

you're gay, you should know that doesn't stop cishet men :/ 😂

@@felixhenson9926 Unfortunatley -__-

they are lmao?? minimum wage is barely a livable wage? people in service have been pushing for higher wages for years.

Because they don’t want to fired

ewy3s Then tell me, why are servers still taking their anger out on the customers when it’s not their fault that their employer is a cheap bastard? It’s completely ludicrous that the public is expected to pay for a strangers income when most people are already struggling to earn money to take care of themselves and their family? People like you never stop to take a moment to think about the other side of the story. I definitely agree with C Gonzales comment!

@@steph1567 oh trust me, servers wouldn't like their managers for paying them so low, but the problem is, it's not really their fault. It's completely legal for restaurants to pay servers less than minimum wage (I used to get $2.13/hr.) People in the industry have been trying to push for that to be illegal, and some states have actually passed laws in their favor, like California. But in a legal battle between a group of servers and a huge multi-million dollar company, who do you think is really going to win there?

@@MaverickMoses That really is awful how low they pay them, I dont understand how they get away with it! Hopefully something will change soon for the better.

Sometimes, that doesn't even stop them.

I usually ask: "What do you recommend?"

And no server has time or cares about what you're eating. You're here to eat what you want, not me. If that weren't the case, the roles would be reversed. Read the fkn menu.

A better question to ask is “what’s your favorite thing here?” cuz “what’s good here?” is really up to you. Everyone one has a different taste so what’s good to one person may not be good to you.

Sometimes servers don’t even eat the food at their restaurant. You came here to eat, not me. Look at the menu.

Right like damn I wanna know what you recommend.... You want a nice tip but I cant even get your opinion 🙄

Vanessa Olmedo HAMILTONNNN

Yes but if a person goes to a restaurant that makes a specific thing and usually is not gluten free...

You can control which restaurants you go to. If you have allergies then you should go to a restaurant that can accommodate those allergies. You should not walk into a restaurant blindly and expect to have a ton of options.

Ashley Arnold Frustrating part of that is when you have a large family or people who don’t consider you when choosing places to eat. I always like to look at the restaurant’s website before I go- cuz usually they’ll have at least the menu. There been so many frustrating times though where they take me to an unknown small place that doesn’t offer a gluten free menu and I don’t even know what food they sell. So, just be kind the gluten intolerant child who gets mixed in with groups. I’m already anxious when ordering food normally. Being in an unfamiliar place and having to quiz the servers isn’t fun for me, even watching my relatives asking the questions for me because I’m too shy hurts me.

He means go to pizza places

[ Loi ] Wait until they walk by and say “excuse me”

And what if they never walk past you? What then hm?

@@pollux3685 then you get up from your backside for two seconds and complain

Yeah and then they get pissed off at you for getting in their way while they are busy serving someone else

@@pollux3685 you just said it yourself, they are busy serving someone else. if you can't stand the wait, eat somewhere else or try to be patient.

TheOscar401 separate out customers by what they order?

TheOscar401 lol well sorry that some people don’t want to pay for an entire group’s food, while other people in the group only have credit card/debit card on them and can’t directly hand you cash to have you cover them/combine your checks. going dutch is very common among Americans, coming from a Chinese family, i’m not going to ALWAYS let ONE person pick up the check (that’s chinese tradition)

rachael on busy nights where each server has around 8 or more tables at the same time and multiple servers share 1 register?

why would that be an excuse for the customers to have to pay altogether? it's not the customers' fault that it's busy as hell and there is only ONE register. even so, people in America aren't EXPECTED to pick up a full bill unless it's for a special occasion

It’s not so much the separate checks thing, it’s splitting up the checks in weird ways. “Yeah so us two are together and I’m paying for his drinks and her food down at the end.” Like all or nothing people. It takes a while to split your ticket up like that and we only have a couple server stations to do that.

dude we have huge signs all around our restaurant that say "BREAKFAST SERVED ALL DAY" and i still get asked if we serve it all day 🙄

I had someone ask me the difference between wings and boneless wings once, I had to walk away before I burst out laughing.

1. "What's the difference between the 2 piece fish and the 3 piece fish?" "One piece of fish." 2. "Schells Dark? Now is that a light beer?" "It's got 'Dark' right in the name."

Josh Anderson Honestly, i just think these servers were assholes.

same

If you have a polite expression (even a neutral/not-impolite expression) you're totally fine, Josh. It's often the only way to get attention (you can try 'Excuse me?' as they come past, but then you have to wait for them to come near you and they often don't hear it). The other commenters are right: that complaint is just unreasonable on their part.

I’m a server and I don’t find waving offensive at all

If they come close just say excuse me! Not that hard

Curly Cook not really actually

Carlos Smith you do though, of course you don’t need to know everything. But still general things. Because what are people with celiac supposed to do... never eat at a restaurant ever?

Curly Cook I have celiac and I will not eat out because I am to scared because some of the server don’t know they stuff.

Itz Nicole that is understandable, and is why I think servers should know this stuff.🤷‍♀️

Curly Cook they need to honestly I would feel so much safer if they know what there doing then just like oh u have Allergies I care why?

Taylor Ma sorry “ bad tips?” I personally live in a poor family and it’s hard to tip a lot so people can think we are rude please think about that we also just spent hundreds of dollars on this food

13지민 unfortunately servers rely on tips to make a living, so if you can’t afford to tip you should probably just be cooking at home. It’s all around cheaper anyway

Ugh seriously pisses me off. I get that families should get the opportunity to eat out too but for god's sake look after you children.

@@scubadiver8770 please think about servers who only earn 1-3 dollars per hour. Imagine earning that. If you cannot leave a tip order take out.

13지민 Yes... bad tips. Imagine making $1-$3 an hour.

asha ??? Omggggg exactly!! I am celiac and that was kinda rude.

Yeah, don’t worry. Even if something might annoy them doesn’t mean it is a bad thing to do.

They're saying don't go to a seafood restaurant and be allergic to seafood. Literally almost everything is cooked in it. It makes its hard for everyone in the restaurant. If you go somewhere someone where there's a variety of food and just be like hey i'm allergic to this are BLANK and BLANK cooked seperately? The server will most likely be glad to answer those questions. Just don't go somewhere where literally most of the menu you're allergic too.

in the video the guy says not to come to a pizza restaurant if you have celiac disease (gluten allergy). this may be a surprise but a lot of places offer gluten free options now so if someone comes in and asks about it why is that annoying? theyre not saying "make this specific thing this specific way right now" theyre just asking if its on the menu. almost everything contains gluten unless its made specially so does that mean people allergic to it just cant go out to eat anywhere?? i understand where youre coming from but i dont fully agree, people like him are assholes and need to let others enjoy themselves instead of making them feel like burdens

Im vegaterian (dont ask) and it was rude.

unless it's like a cute old man who doesn't mean it in the way some 20yr old would, lol. i dont mind it that way.

Down South that's very common. Not meant in offending way. At least my experiences

I would not recommend coming to the south then. I literally call everyone hun. It’s a southern thing. And I do more often now because hun has no specific gender so it works when people are transgender as well

Samantha Faye Agreed. I call everyone sweetheart or honey.

No, you're supposed to give me some respect. YOur restaurants lack of putting that information on the menu ahead of time is not my fault.

horselover1904 you have my deepest condolences. I was a barista 4 years ago and was treated horribly by some of the rudest ppl. They wouldn’t specify and then they’d bite my head off when I tried to deduce what they needed. I don’t have the fortitude for that job!

😅 sorry for you. I don’t really drink coffee, so I don’t know what the hell is latte, americano,etc... but that’s why I don’t ever order coffee- don’t want to trouble anyone

Taehyung's tongue Jimin's hair don’t be! I used to be like that myself before I was a barista. Just order a different one every time go somewhere and you will find one you like and learn what each of them are! It’s how I found out I love mochas

EXACLTY, SAME IN MY COUNTRY. ITS RIDICULOUS.

Antoine McCalla lol I don’t understand completely either, I was born and raised here in the us and I just know you have to tip minimum 15% and if it was great service 20-25%. In the uk do you tip pizza delivery person, the taxi driver, barista, your hair stylist, the doorman at a hotel, the housekeeping services at a hotel? I just figure in us we tip nearly everyone lol

Genevieve I tip my server if they provided outstanding service. No one else. You guys probably think UK tourists are mean when we don't tip but we just don't tip just because you did your job with a smile on your face.

Antoine McCalla lol, I think the bare minimum here for a tip is a smile! But really, I’ve been out with ppl that even when the service was not even good, they tipped 10%. I don’t know if I’d do that. It’s definitely taken as an insult if you don’t. I didn’t know that in Britain tipping wasn’t customary-i think I still would if i visited, I’d feel guilty otherwise lol.

Genevieve apparently it's because servers are paid so little the tip makes up their wage. With some making $2.15 an hour I get that they're upset when no one tips but the whole system should change so they are paid enough up front anyways