Setting Boundaries & Choosing You 

Saying ''No" makes you a stronger and more purposeful person...

I wasn’t taught boundaries by my parents. I was such a people pleaser and always found it so hard to say No. (Even when I wanted to scream NO) I’ve learned the HARD way and don’t wish that upon anyone. Heal, Love yourself and Always Choose You.

love your soul & how still and wise you are 💕 a role model in so many ways!!

A friend once gave me one of the most powerful lesson ever when she told me that its ok to say NO, and NO is a complete sentence, no explanation need, just put a period to it.

We have to learn to set boundaries to guard our hearts from people who like to take sweetness and kindness for weakness. If we dont then people will use, abuse us and take advantage and take us for granted. Nothing is wrong with not being a people pleaser or a yes man. Word up Alicia you've got the Keys. #kolussus

As a FORMER pleaser, I needed to hear this. To know that saying “no” doesn’t make you a bad person

I cannot be the only one that wants to sit down with Alicia Keys and just have a conversation with her about life and literally just anything.

Boundaries. If you don't set them, people will cross them and you will, at some point, over-extend yourself. I've learned this the hard way but I've LEARNED

Her voice is so soothing

“This is what I need to be happy, healthy & to be myself.” I love that

"No" is choosing yourself.

I needed this at this very second. Thank you.

Yes ! If I don’t make the boundaries, I end up feeling resentful and used, tired , no creativity because I’m always doing for others. As an Aquarius woman, I need time alone to recharge for my own sanity. Thank you 🙏 for sharing

Felt this . As an “ex people pleaser” the most powerful word is “No” .

Can’t let people drain you if you don’t feel elevated then you have to say no. If people don’t like it then it’s their issue oh well.🤷🏽‍♀️💜

Whatever you send into people's lives comes out into yours. Whatever you want or dreaming of, wish it for someone else. Pay it forwards

I'm sorry but I just love her... she's so inspiring and beautiful😍

Wonderful! By the way, always remember that *NOT* every choice is a lifetime one, and that you can simply play by ear, using your soul's guidance system. Do what feels right *AT THAT TIME* , and if it won't give you a good result, you'll amend it. It's an evolution process, not a quest for perfection. . PS: if you're reading this, I hope you're having a good day 🙏🏼 . Thank you, Alicia ❤️

Setting boundaries is very important even the one you love. They will start to respect you more and not take you for granted.

“This is what I need to be happy, healthy, & to be myself” I love that! lol ❤😂🙌🏾💯

Being able to say No is a important part of self care, and being true to oneself.

Boundaries are good. They are needed They protect self from being used and abused but also from self from using and abusing others 😜including our own selves.

“A better Alicia “ The tone when she said that .I felt it

I don't know if you'll ever read this, but I have been praying, meditating, and asking God to show me the role of an eagle. To show me examples of other eagles to model after. And He told me to study you in this season. (I thought He was just calling me back to good music lol). But now seeing this clip, I see exactly why. You have always been a woman who rises above and soars. So grateful to have you as an example in such a pivotal and significant season of my life! 🙏🏽 cannot wait to get this book!!! It's going to be so eye opening, I can already tell! 🙌🏽 thank you for just being you and always so willing to share with us 🙏🏽❤

Alicia is one of very few artists that I genuinely have respect for. Not because I personally know her, not because I'm a huge fan, but because of how she has solidified her pure positive imagine in an industry that thrives off demeaning women; she never gave in. Even in her own personal relationship, where it could have gone all sorts of negative ways, she maintained herself in a beautiful positive way. I hope she knows how much she inspires women all over the world.💗

Finding the courage to say "this is what I need to be happy, and to be myself"

'I let go of the belief if I stepped away nothing will be there when I return' I felt that.

Yes, the disease to please is a stronghold. May we all have time of solitude and Selah. NO is a complete sentence and we can never pour from an empty cup. Thank you Alicia for your wisdom. Bless you and your family. Be strong and courageous as but in it all just BREATHE!!!!

Wow, i felt a weight lifting off my chest hearing from you. I'm a fan. Nairobi Kenya is also a wonderful place to come.

“Be a better Alicia” I love that. I’m striving to be a better Ashley everyday 💪🏾💪🏾

As a Rotenese girl... I always said yes to everyone because it means respect. I can't say no ...no matter how educate I am , even I make my own money... It is a big NO to say no ... I have no right on my own body ... I feel bad if I can't please people.. this is a wonderful massage for me... I Will learn how to set boundaries and stand up for my self... Even it means I gonna lose them.. but I found me... Love from Rote, Indonesia

Yess we have to show up for ourselves before anything. If I don’t show up for me first, I have nothing to offer anyone or what I do present to them will not be from my full potential but what I have left.

💯 Boundaries are huge and not put in place enough, collectively. I've actually started to get better with this. I have come a long way in my journey to being a better me. Thank you again for your light. 🙏💜✨

My father just passed away from covid a week ago and it really put things into perspective as you are explainging it. I feel as though prior to his passing all of our lives were just gogogo and we never stopped to think about ourselves, him included. I wish I would have given him a break by maybe paying his rent one month so he could relax from work and have time to himself but I never got to do that. I need this time to breathe, to exhale, and to find the strength for ME now. RIP to the most beautiful soul I've ever met 🧡

No is the Shortest and the most Powerful Word! The Power of Self Love!❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️

Currently learning to set boundaries so I can be more for me than I am for anybody else. The root problem is healing the inner child and the best way to do this is to feed your dreams; break away from toxic relationships and feed your dreams.

Thanks I needed to hear I'm so broken hearted 💔😢 my aunt died from covid 19 I hope God heal all broken hearts

She’s just the girl and she’s on fireee Love from Turkey

Yes. We need to set boundaries otherwise people will not know what you stand for.

I needed this so badly..I have such poor boundaries..I went to make a sandwhich and this was on when I came back..God is a miracle worker..even when it feels like everything is crashing down he calms the storm in me somehow

Love her so much... she's an angel i wanna give her a hug :(

My advice would be four words, "you just do it!" As for an example if a person is drowning in your hand reach would you ask yourself if you should reach out to help? Or would you without thought just do it. Well, imagine that person being yourself. No question about it, you would just do it. Why, because you want to live and not just exist. To live is being active, actively contributing to one's self; fulfillment, health and longevity and spiritual growth. And on the otherhand to just exist is to be inactive, unmeaningful fulfillment (a mundane form of life) and dull and leading to oppression and or depression, so forth. Every morning, that the FATHER allows you to see, choose to make room for you too, daily. You're worth it. And in that place you will finally 👂 and 👀 what you've been too busy to hear and see. My hope is that a whole new world will open up to you ❤that you didn't know was there, tranquility, harmony and inner peace. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN ALWAYS ❤

Very Much Needed,Boundaries And Reflecting on Who You Really Are to Self And Not Feeling guilty About wanting Space, Self time from Everyone to Regroup,# I had to learn that Me was the important person to Self. ..Exhaling each day with Breathing Exercising,Rejuvenate, And Allowing Myrself to Understand my feelings for Self instead of Always being constantly being available for others. Start taking better care of your spirit, heart, mind, physical health And not neglect You ✍🙏😇Thank You for Sharing Your thoughts Queensista Alicia, You'll be Okay, God got You💃🌹👍💒🙏

It's unbelievable that I come acrossthatvidéo now... my ex girlfriend and mum of my beloved 7 y.o daughter broke up last friday may 1st. Yet I was the one who would answer the other's whole demands. I was the provider. I tried to lift everybody up in the house but never could find respect & thankfulness from them. I could not understand her behaviour and her 18 year old handicaped son's from a previous relation. I finally stopped talking for a long while but continued doing things for the family specially during this quarantaine.. last Friday she finally came to see me after months without speaking to each other. I thought she at last wanted me to recall her what was wrong. But instead she said it was over. Then I left. She called to tell her friends I had left and that she never asked me to leave. She actually needed me to stay there to take care of the "kids" until quarantaine is over... it gives an idea of how so many today's women consider men : as providers, the ones who pay for everything, the ones who ensure the house is clean.. I should have set up boundaries !

I’ve been doing just that during this time at home! I’m breathing and thinking so much deeper now. I need to make changes in my life and it scares me but I’m keeping God at the forefront because He is bigger than my fear. Thank you Alicia for that reading. Every time I come across something that aligns with what I need to do it makes me stronger.

I wish she gets her own talk show I will definitely tune in everyday, We definitely need more positive show on the air Now in these times instead of negative tv shows being broadcast on the air! Thank Alicia love you God bless your family

I choose some years ago to choose to say no to pleasing other people and doing things I didn't want to do according to other peoples agenda. When I learned to say No! They pushed back and still try to use their manipulations and so I choose to separate myself from these people who don't respect my boundaries. I'm in a better place mentally, physically and spiritually. Gardening during this pandemic has taken on a more even paced spirituality. Growing fruit trees , medicinal plants ,and fresh vegatables. Experimenting with different new plants has made me more in tune with creation and myself.I don't seek anyone's approval or acceptance, learning how to give myself time to be creative ,to just be me and enjoy living my life.

Amen Alicia Keys! God bless you we love you so much! All your fans love you! My first song I ever sang on stage was when I was 10 and it was Fallin.. you put a lot of soul into my heart with your words and music. I would not be as good of an artist..I am learning to finally say NO! It’s me time... and I can’t put aside time to waste rubbing shoulders with those who do not care is I live or die tomorrow! It’s totally the roots of the trees not the branches ..

It’s so hard to say no sometimes. I still, even at 45, want to be the one that always says yes. But it’s too much and takes so much of my time. Same with delegation. Although I’ve been better through the years, I need to set those boundaries and say no more.💗

This woman is so holy. Love this content.

Her energy is so pure🙆.

Stay on this path . It's ok and necessary to set Boundaries and don't let people manipulate you or tell you your taking them for granted .don't take crap from anyone .I know what I deserve

As a giver, I really needed to hear this message! Saying no feels so strange to me but I have learned that ppl will take advantage of that loving part of you and leave you drained... saying no is freeing it gives me time to recharge and practice self love which was an element that was missing in my world... thx for the validation sis stay blessed...

I frickin adore you; so humble, wise, soft-spoken and real (vulnerable)... that takes courage as well, the greatest form of strength. Thank you for sharing and being You!

Say no as a pleaser to say yes to purpose. 💯 Keep boundaries to show up for you. Be happy and healthy!😊

Thank God for that sister , give the great God all the Glory all the praises and all the favor, Amen 🙏🏾

Excellent! CONFIRMATION! Thank you. Spoke mountains into where l am, where l am going and how much l realize, next to the Spirit of God that leads and resides within, l am first. I am somebody and l am of value. My heart is full of the love of the Lord Jesus. l am strong, kind and desire to "Grow On" in life and opportunities to help myself and OTHERS.🙏🏽🥰✌🏾🙏🏽 Thank you dear one, thank you.

This girl got a good heart ❤️.

Once I start saying "no".... I'mma start hearing it...u get wat u give...saying no doesn't make u less human....it actually make u less super human...u lose ur power wen u lose ur soul...I would never trade a heart for breath...that's wat nature do!!!

Boundaries should be something taught in grade school. We are not provided that guidance ( at least I wasn’t). Now in my late 50’s I am literally just learning. But thank you!!! Beautiful and grateful for these thoughts.

This was medicine. Just what I needed to hear, exactly when I needed to hear it. Thank you seems not quite enough.

I LOVE HER :) Somehow she is always glowing and natural :) She inspires me to make more videos :)

I’m not sure what algorithm RU-vid smokes but this was all I needed in this very moment and the first video I saw when I opened my app. I’m not even subscribed to her channel! Alicia, I’m deeply grateful you shared this. Thank you!

Doing your best to set and maintain boundaries has become so important as a grown woman. So many things come for us on a daily basis. Prioritizing our personal goals and interests is just as important as serving and being there for those we love. They co-exist. Thanks Alicia for the reminder.

During this virus outbreak, i feel like we had the opportunity to have time to realize what's important in our lives. Im typing this from my new laptop as i begin to embark on loving myself and giving to myself. We need to sit down and collect ourselves and choose ourselves too. While it's a great thing to give to others, we have to give to ourselves also. In Jesus name. God bless you, Queen Alicia!!!

*"How do I want to keep showing up for myself?"* 🔥🔥💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯

Saying no makes me feel bad and saying yes leaves me feeling worse most times. its a process, i hope i get to that place where saying no feels good for myself. Thanks Alicia

Thank you Alicia, I am from Africa living in Munich with my 9 year old. It’s so hard...without my family here. But I made this choice and your experience touched me. I am ready to make that commitment and set healthy boundaries so that I can live the best version of myself, to be a better mom and a better friend. Thank you. Words don’t teach, experience does. I shall breathe in my African roots to inspire me for the life we chose here.

Alicia you look so cozy in that turtle neck & cardigan. You're one bad sister! Peace & love. 😎✌️

I needed this word. I hear it. I know it. But sometimes you need a reminder in just the right wording. Hold the no...

Thank you for your words Alicia. You are such an inspiration, especially to young women! I've also learned the hard way. Being a people pleaser, saying no is hard, but I'm getting better at it each day. For the first time in my life, I'm choosing me. And I like it. I'm discovering, setting and accepting my boundaries. I've become better at recognizing toxic people and removing them from my life. People don't always intentionally hurt you or treat you bad, but even so that doesn't mean you should accept their behavior. Let them know your boundaries, be strong and say no. Don't do things at your own expense. Be kind to yourself and do what keeps you happy and healthy. Sounds corny, but it's the truth.

Beautiful words Alicia absolutely fantastic you took a few weeks out to go away.Are you discovered some amazing things in that awesome place which is Egypt. And I’m sure we are all going to discover some amazing things in our awesome place at home. The one of been quite relaxed because I know can’t really go anywhere or do anything. So I’ve been singing again and I haven’t done that for a long time. Even trying to attempt some John Legend The great legend that is Mario Lanza . I really how listening to how they sang there song and even they way he made the words come out of his mouth . I Kinder surprise myself because I took some time out to Breath Properly and get the right note . I recorded my voice on my phone to be honest it sounds pretty good . With this timeout it’s made me realise what is missing in my life and is singing. I have not sang in public for more than 20 years. So I’m now on a new Journey to discover my voice again . And to bring a smile back to the people in my community of Liverpool United Kingdom famous for the Beatles. So when this storm has passed I’ve got some great songs in Store .for people listen to sing along to and dance to. I have actually got three talented young adults who are fantastic singer is actually really good.. so maybe if I show them the way and maybe they will see the light LOL. Good luck with the kids I’m sure it won’t be easy. Famously Spike Milligan famous comic writer in the United Kingdom. Said he Loved playing with his children and spending as much time as he could with them. He said it made him get back to it innner child.. where he learned that children just live for the day they try to have fun and get the most out of each hour. Living in there fantasy land of make-believe. Take care x ps thanks for sharing your beautiful words it’s made my mind up I’m returning to the 🎤 😆

Love your way of thinking, thanks for sharing with us in this difficult times.....

Alicia girl, you are speaking directly to the deepest parts of my soul. So excited to purchase your book and share with my family and community. Thank you for using your platform to share this message. to everyone reading, you are allowed to say no. Sometimes saying no feels challenging and overwhelming though. Saying no and setting boundaries doesn’t make you a mean or selfish person. You can set boundaries and say no and be a positive, loving, spiritual, conscious, and kind person.

You look peaceful. You are a real queen! Blessings to you sister!

"Energy to do the work you actually want to be doing. "🤞🏾

I chose myself and set boundaries in my relationship, when my ex faince couldnt respect them I left

You are so amazing, you remind me so much of my daughter. She too is an amazing person, also with a beautiful voice and amazing charater. Maybe one day you two shall meet! Until then, I love your journey. Much Love to you!

Crazy how the stars align...... I recently realized I needed to set stronger boundaries, I watched Alicia 2 days ago and she has been a fav forever. She’s a cancer too. And now she is being a huge impact at this exact point I my life, telling me exactly what I need to do. I see my self in her. Crazy how it all comes together..... im hopeful now I’ve been depressed... but that’s another convo

I so needed to hear your wisdom, the boundaries-setting, saying No and not always trying to please, and being true to yourself. You are awesome Sister & I love you. Shine On!!

Hey girl! Thank you so much for sharing passages from your book! What an amazing way to share a bit of yourself with all of us and simultaneously working to raise the collective vibration! Much respect!! ✊🏽 sending you love and light ❤️

Love her complete energy as a whole being always ❤

That’s one thing I’m learning is to put my priorities first and setting boundaries, saying no is quite hard to having those feelings in feeling bad in the aftermath, but it’s worth being selfless and the time you could motivate yourself in doing better things and to also have a peace of mind is totally worth it especially if your a parent

My sister i am so proud of you!!! The gift we give ourselves is the most important gift of all. Thanl you for reminding me that NO. IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE. 🦋

Absolutely pretty and so influential 😍❤️💞

“The passages” videos are giving us LIFE Alicia! More please!!❤️🙏🏻🌈🦋💜💟

learning to set my boundaries was one of the best and most challenging things I ever had to do and it's paid off, living in a different world where there is a place for me. On the other hand I've been trying to show my wife how she can fully own herself and learning to draw lines of her own, it's been hard. Thank you Alicia

You are In your bag right now. You're a spiritual being and thus you can be a spiritual leader, because honestly plenty if not all of us are spiritual beings. You can let the spirit lead you, and yet you can also lead and usher In the spirit... I know every word of your first album. Perhaps we need a visual album where you take us on a journey with you. A journey across the globe, through the realm of the spiritual and finally landing on the soul to a big ol party, that can be heard across the globe. Again that is. Peace to you everyday these upcoming months.

Alicia, you’re amazing. Thank you for this!

Her voice omgggg, even if I don't understand because i'm french 😂 i'm in love ❤

Yes, setting healthy boundaries with people is very important!

Alicia’s vibe is so healing ✨ she can calm any crying baby in seconds 🍼

I loved Alicia's book and took a lot from it, but after watching this video I had to express something that has been on my mind after reading lots of books about self love during quarantine. My comment is not directed towards Alicia or to say she is wrong, my intention (as a individual who grew up in poverty like Alicia) is to add on to her message. I think we need to keep in mind that a lot of people in this world do not have the privilege to say no, because for some to say no is to say no to a home for your children, to say no would be saying no to food for your family, to say no is to say no to healthcare for an illness. Its hard to accept in this "self-care" era that there are people that don't have the power to say no, but its real. Alicia is a major inspirational figure among black female talents who started from practically nothing, but the majority of black women do not even have the resources to freely pursue passions or contemplate boundaries. And who should we question for making it so? All I have to say is VOTE! Speak up, read, listen, donate. We all need inspiration like Alicia, but we all have the power to make life better for our neighbors.

I was in a "take moments for me" phase before covid situation. It is really hard for me, to do what I want to do with at my work, and still have time to do other things that I love. The last piece of the passage really touched me. :) Thanks for sharing, you inspire.

This spoke to me. I used to be so naive. I had no specific boundaries. Pranks are no longer allowed. Letting students borrowing my books is no longer allowed. I said no to the fact that we are dating and that helped me. I said yes before. I have put some boundaries in my life.

You have to be vigilant! They'll say they respect your boundaries, but actions speak louder than words!

You are so wonderful ⭐️

Hot damn, this is an emotional day. I was watchin' "The Real" talk show, & I got super emotional from watchin Jeannie Mai's proposal to Jeezy, now I'm watching this, & I'm tearing up all over again. I'm learning to take time for me unselfishly! Thanks Alicia!😊

This is what I have been reflecting about, and making changes in my life for years, especially for the past year and a half. I don't believe in coincidences, I needed to be reminded of this message today. Thank you! 🙌🙏✨ I choose me! 💗🙌🙏✨

I feel you tremendously. I sometimes think I’m being selfish by saying no or giving my time and energy to people but I am learning how important it is to take care of myself first. Yeah, thanks for your insight Ms. 🔑