Sex After a Spinal Cord Injury 

This is the most raw and honest information on this subject that is out there. Very educational. Thank you!

my husband just got paralyzed from the chest down he still in the ICU and your videos are helping me thank you

I have SO much respect for you for not being afraid to tell your personal stories to help other people.

My son became paralysed aged 3 because of cancerous spinal tumor. Even though we continually hope for a miracle I have been watching all your videos. You enable me to look forward to a bright future for my son. For that I thankyou very much. As soon as my son is old enough to understand I will watch them all again with him. You seem like a top guy and I wish you all the success with your future endeavours. Keep posting mate.

I am an occupational therapy graduate student and we were learning about spinal cord injuries this week. We had to research intimacy and your video was shown to the class. It was enlightening, and allowed for a broader understanding of what individuals with spinal cord injuries go through in regards to sex. Thank you for sharing your story.

Well done for posting about a very touchy subject - very straight and very helpful. Thank you for a job well done.

I have been with a double amputee for 26 years. We have a 20 year daughter in her 2nd year of college. We all have struggles and when you love someone you make it work. Your videos are so honest I hope they inspire others. Never loose your honesty it will help someone. Wishing you the best.

Dude.. you are amazing.. I cannot imagine the challenges and psychological/emotional trauma you've been through.. You are much more of a man than me. Thank you for sharing this. I know it's helping a lot of people.

Cheers for your honesty mate.

I appreciate you for not shying away from the more sensitive subjects and your straight forward talk is well done.

THIS IS HIS NEW LIFE, YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE PAST TO MAKE IT RIGHT, ATLEAST HE'S ALIVE AND THRIVING, GLAD TO SEE YOU WORKING THROUGH IT.

The education you provide is awesome! Very adult, raw and incredibly informative thanks for being so candid!

Thank you. I was really curious about this. It’s great that you can openly discuss. You’ve helped a LOT of people.

That takes guts... bravo. Also incredibly informative.

Hey, just wanted to say thank you, my son who recently sustain a spinal cord injury told me about your channel. I Thank God that you are proof that someone can still have a quality life despite this issue. I am maybe a little overbearing at being a concerned mother, but I want to support my son in every way possible. I am glad you are so candid about your life, I would love to hear from those that love and support you...

Thank you for all your videos. My boyfriend is a t5 paraplegic and when we first started dating I watched all your videos to better understand everything he goes through. This was years ago and here I am still watching them when questions come up. :P Thanks again!

So glad to have found your videos! I am a newly graduated Physiotherapist and I feel that in school, I did not learn enough useful advice/knowledge to pass on to someone who is new to living with an SCI. Thank you for being so informative on a variety of issues, and your personal perspective is very valuable as well.

Thanks for being so open about the subject. I know it's not always comfortable, but I think dialogue like this is important. Not only for understanding disability, but sexuality as well.

You've nailed it, the best explanation about sex after injúry, I've heard.

I've always wondered, but would never ask, thanks for your honesty. You learn something new everyday. 😊

I admire your ability to speak out, about these very personal subjects. You’re an amazing person!

It has been a tabu to talk about this subject for decades. And it needs people like you to inform. I found it very interesting.

Hey mate, you have already given so much help and knowledge to other SCI people/families etc, and continue to do so. Thank you so much for being such a great help and inspiration to all of us. I am a T7 complete and I'm only approaching my 2 yr anniversary but you have given me so many tips and have made my life so easier…Thank you for sharing and keep up the fantastic work….

Thanks for discussing this topic, finally someone does this

I'm a lady with Incomplete Paraplegia and Cauda Equina Syndrome (absolutely no feeling at all where you sit on a horse) and it was informative to learn info about this from a man's point of view. OK, some parts of this made this grandma blush! I pray that you may have all the children you want. This is a different life for us, not one we'd have chosen, but we just have to deal with it as best we can. Keep your sense of humor, and keep enjoying life!

thank you I am a c4 threw c7 incomplete cervical spinal cord injury, and I'm really enjoying your videos.

Thank you for such honesty. I’m sure you’ve answered many questions people have asked themselves.

I experienced almost the same exact accident in October of 1993 and am paralyzed from just above the belly button on down. It is great to see you letting people know what it is like to be in a chair although everyone reacts differently to hearing the words" you will never walk again". I think I almost took it on as a challenge as I always loved a good challenge. I know that if your life is like mine (which I know it is) you get tired of hearing the words it is great to see youletting people know what it is like to be confined to a wheelchair and that life is not at all over just because you are in a wheelchair. Anyways good to see your video's, I may have some of mine up soon, take it easy brother!

Thanks for getting so personal with this. It's comforting how down to earth you are. Keep making the awesome videos!

You are so humble to be talking about something so personal. Blessings

You know it's funny, I laughed at the thumbnail and title but I'm leaving here feeling well informed and educated. Well played, sir.

God what a nice guy. So nice to see you so upbeat although I know you must have your bad days. You're amazing doing these videos you really are. They are priceless for some people who need that bit of inspiration, bless you.

I'm just starting to date a guy with t4 and your videos are such a good help for better understanding of what it's mean for him being in that circunstanses. Thanks u for being so open!

There are so many ways to have sex, I don't get why most people only think there's 1 way and if you can't do that way its not good lol. Props to you for not giving up and finding a way to have sexual relationships and enjoying it :)

Thank you so much for your honesty, It helps to know things like this before I talk to the doctor. My husband if going home after a tbi and t1 fracture that happened on 1/18/17. Intimacy and affection are super important to recovery & confidence. I hope you are well, and continue to make videos like this!

"You rub at it and it gets happy." Awesome line. hehehe

Lot’s of respect for your honesty that I’m sure will help a ton of people

I've watched a lot f your videos. God bless and you're amazing. I'm a Testicular, Prostate & Bladder Cancer Patient from 24, 26 & 28 years old. I'm partially paralysed done to top pain from the 70 surgeries done to reconstruct my Internal Urogenital System. Good luck. You're amazing. God Bless, D. G.

A smart and brave guy giving a smart and brave explanation. God bless you brother , hope you get improvements

thank u great video ive seen videos from organazations that not only not helpful but disastress so keep doing the good open hearted job and looking forward for the next one

OMG! I am overjoyed about your videos content. How honest you are! God bless you!

What I liked the most about this video is your candor. You were honest about everything. I came upon your vids because I take baclofen but I don't have a spinal injury.....I took it as part of a program to withdraw from narcotic use but watching your vids helped me to understand how some people deal with and overcome spinal injury. I loved your proposal of marriages....very nice. Thanks

It's awesome that you were comfortable/open enough to put this up- I'm sure it's really helpful for men who it's relevant for, and their girlfriends! (Eventually I'll post one for women in chairs, because I apparently it does not exist yet; I guess women are just more shy about it!)

You are a gift from God by sharing your honest experiences, which are definitely helping to educate. I hope You Tube is only your beginning.

Watching older videos that I haven't seen before, it makes me smile because you didn't know it yet you will eventually have a beautiful little girl. ❤ Such a wonderful thing to have and share with your children.

I really like you attitude, thanks for picking up an intimate topic like this, wish you the best!

I am new to this and I really appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share!!! looking fwd to learning more from you!

I love that he called it a "dick" I'm glad he didn't say the "proper" way to say dick. haha. refreshing.

Brian Ty for your honesty and openness. It's refreshing to know that sex is emotional for you. So many ppl only meet other ppl so they can use their bodies for their own enjoyment. Then they detach from them, and onto new meat. So glad you found real love in this sex obsessed world. You tell your wife I said she's very fortunate to have you. I hope you guys get a bambino soon.

This question is still asked often to me when people find out i have sci. Your explanation was ace! I sought help from a sex councillor who specialised in sci sex which helped. Unfortunately although i can stand for very short periods i have no feeling either. Im now working my way through your videos as im 3 years post injury and only really recovered in the last 12 months. Looking forward to the driving videos ;)

wow. great doctors I've got. Been paralyzed for 4 years from a car accident (t10-t11 complete) and never new any of that. Thank you greatly!! Got some good news for the first time in a long time.

Thank you for being so transparent and educating us.

thanks for this info on a sensitive topic, man. nice job.

My new.boyfriend is paralyzed and I needed to know some things that he wouldn't tell me and yr videos helped me out a whole lot ty

thanks man...this video was encouraging. like what you said about sex also being an emotional experience. that is something I think us guys take for granted before injury...C5/C6

You are not alone!! We all have experiences to tell! Thank you for sharing... Much love

I totally appreciate your honesty. This video was very educational to me. Thank you.

So I think you're one of the best people I've ever heard on RU-vid thank you so much you're the best

Wow! This is so raw!!! Thank you for your bravery.

Thank you so much for doing this video! It was extremely helpful to hear you describe very candidly this extremely important topic.

Great looking out with the video Blackpearl - You answered the questions that i had written down for my doctor - Much respect and keep doing your thing with the videos

these videos have been helpful, my husband became paralyzed from chest down after a head on collision in Jan 2017.we as partnership have been learning alot in the rehabilitation center, and also been learning alot from here too. we have been trying to find any information on my husband spinal cord injury.

Hey Brian I'm also paralysed from waist down from a back surgery about 3 years ago. My main issue is I'm having a hard time getting little man to stand up... none of the pills work...the doctor gave me this liquid thing to inject, that doesn't work either....can you please give me an idea about what I should ask the doctor because I don't want to keep putting my self and my wife through thinking something is going to work and it doesn't which is depressing. Thank you for all your videos. God bless you my brother!!!!!!

So I was in a bad car accident, and luckily my being wheelchair bound will only be temporary, but I tore all my ligaments, they have to be surgically rebuilt, dislocated my knee, shattered my tibia and fibula, which had to be also rebuilt with metal plates, I have to learn to walk and do everything again to rebuild my structure, then go into surgery again to rebuild my ligaments and be bed ridden and all again for a half a year then again have to learn to walk a third time... it’s a long road ahead of me. I stumbled upon your videos looking for ways to help with playing and watching my baby cousin, you’re great with your daughter and SO positive about your injury and everything you go through it’s really refreshing to see because I know I’ve been so negative and miserable and I should be happy that I am still alive. But I’m bitter of coarse. Anyways, I’m rambling. Basically I have no friends. Lol, and I think you’re super adorable by the way 😍 you’re super brave too for being so open and bold about shit, so thanks for the genuine good content to watch on.

Pleasuring someone you care about is what it is all about. You are all set! It is easy to see that you are an understanding, empathetic man. You are young and good looking. There are plenty of people your age who will see you as a prize. Enjoy your life. I am old and have had a lot of experience. You have what it takes. Go for it and enjoy life.

Thank you so much for this information. This was very informative. It’s hard to find out about this information.

This really helped me, ive had a spinal chord injury 15 months ago, i find it very hard to ejaculate, ive no problems with erections but i cant feel anything, no matter what we try, its weird seeing other people with the same problem but your coping well with it and have a great attitude, Thanks

Thank you for sharing this as the issue has been on my mind a lot lately. I came down with MS this year. It struck my legs and I couldn't walk for awhile. I've got that back but now I was wanting he sex back. I can achieve a partial but no ejaculation. But I'm on Baclofen also. I can't even take a break from it because I also have severe spasms. It is so frustrating. I haven't spoken to anyone about this yet. But at least I now have a little more info. Thank you again. And I hope you and your wife have success with getting pregnant!

There's so much more then sex, your honesty, humble and charismatic approach is sexier then anything else.

Most honest video ever.

Greatly informative and yes, you are a very handsome man Without being too graphic there are more ways to be sexual than the in/out kind You have a mouth and tongue which can be used to great effect and full use of your hands and fingers You seem like the kind of man who utilises EVERYTHING in his repertoire 😁😉 Keep the vids coming 👍🏽

I think this video is beautiful and will help many :) Arohanui from New Zealand.

T8 complete injury almost five years on weel chair know I see you video thank you very much ❤

Thank you for your series - I use them to help teach my SCI part of my course on Assistive Technology. Much appreciated!!!

God bless you brother. Tough to talk about! I survived meningitis but it left me numb from the chest down. I have an incredible wife and I had the same reaction to viagra and cialis, makes my heart race but not much else. I will speak with my doctor about the injection you suggested. A four hour boost sounds great! Any side effects or drug interactions your aware of? Thanks again for sharing this.

You are amazing thank you for sharing with honesty and vulnerability

This is great! Thank you for being so open with this topic.

Great way to tackle this topic.

First, I know you are helping people with your honesty and information. Bravo ! Ques : if you feel "nothing" how does having an erection feel? I'm surprised your paralyzing injury allows those nerves to work. I'm confused on that. But, I'm just curious, lived my long life without understanding and I wanted the truth. Well, I hope you are well and bless you and your partner.

Wow! this vid was informative & I had to share it on FB! u ROCK

Thank you for your informative honesty.

YES im here for the title☠️☠️☠️🤷🏾‍♀️🤣🤣🤣,im nosey👀👀🤦🏾‍♀️.

well very honest and i hope you and your wife have a great life

We are about the same level. I'm complete from a gunshot T-3. Pretty much hit it on the button. Great video man my first video got me to your video funny enough. Subscribed and will defiantly be checking ur library.

Thank you for being so candid

Thanks for the education. Your videos are very informative.

really informative, very brave to share and give hope to people, thanks,

blackpearlv6 I love your videos!!! My son is a t4 para complete and watching your videos have helped me tremendously. He is only 10 BUT I have wondered about this aspect (no we haven't had the sex talk with him but as a parent how do you tell a teenager this stuff when they are paralyzed). I know it is better for folks who "don't know what they're missing" but he is also reflexive in his aspect (his legs, toes, penis). Anyway I have found this video very informative and does let you know that there are options!!

You are so brave and frank thank you for that , you are helping such a lot of people, thank you 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

Great video! It will give hope to many people out there. Oddly, even the able bodied people.

Am a quadriplegic c5 I have a question where can I reach you from. I need the contact information of the doctor who helped you ivf thanks

YOU ARE VERY HANDSOME AND I WISH YOU LUCK WITH EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH.BISOU

I have someone in my life who lives with me that had a spinal cord injury 4 yrs. ago. But I have been with this person for 8 yrs. and he can have sex. He can walk, he can wash dishes, and even drives, take showers, put on his own clothes.

This was very educational and I thank you for sharing.

Good stuff. I'm making similar videos, only in Dutch. I wonder if you have learned to feel energy in your lower body ?

I love your honesty. Great video👌🏽

I'm glad you made this video

Thanks you so much for your truth you helping ppl a lot !

Excellent to go to science and its advances to continue with life and value physical and mental health. Boy, you are very handsome and focused, you deserve to enjoy life to the full, cheers! Greetings from Barranquilla, Colombia.

what an amazing man! he has a great attitude after having such bad luck!