Sex and the City - Why No One Wants to Be a Samantha (But They Should) 

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Please explain the Mustache Twirling Villan

What is your take on "physical"?

What season was 41 in?

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Not everybody can... not all women not all men can

I don't get what you're saying, what's so hard about being a samantha?

@@radhiadeedou8286 that not everyone can be in that lifestyle (or not for long), without an emotional connection when it comes to sexual encounters... I have known people that have tried (me included), but ended getting hurt or feeling drained in the process... romantic, sexual encounters can be fun without that emotional connection, but it later feels, like being with a wall, and talking to it... But I have also met people that have relationships, but with more open aspects in it, so, you could have a relationship with someone without compromising totally to a monogamous lifestyle, but, communication is the key in that case and accept that everyone you love won't accept those aspects you want and feel you need

Yeah, I thought the same thing. I would be a Samantha if I could.

Agreed i wish i was samantha strong successful fabulous and i also dont want to be carrie i dont like carrie

so true, carrie's lifestyle gives me stress. i'm a hardcore miranda.

agree - i saw the title and was like "speak for yourself"

Exactly ! The episode when Carrie judges Sam for the UPS guy ( or whatever he was, lol ) pissed me off so bad, because when Carrie was screwing her married ex & cheating on Aiden, Samantha was supportive & nonjudgmental, & she couldn’t show her the same respect ?

​@@SharonBoo0305 imo its more about knowing/learning what you want from life and pursuing those desires, no matter what society says, it doesnt have to be sexual, it could be lifestyle, or career choices for example

Main character syndrome. Plus, Sarah Jessica Parker had a bomb body and could get away with being cutesy in a way many women her age couldn't do. I think it was part of the reason why, at the time, we couldn't see her flaws that clearly.

A HOT mess

So, does Samantha stick the landing and get herself a top-of-the-line husband?

@@Angrybogan She gets the young guy by the end of the show.

@@michaelf7093 That happens a lot: In La-la land.

Yes! And it showed her self-awareness. She realized she was turning into someone she didn't want to be when she was with him, and she didn't accept that.

Amen

Agree! In that moment I became a “I love me more” woman.

Can be seen two ways. Either: "I want to remain true to myself and I prefer my singlehood to a long-term relationship" Either: "I love myself too much to love anyone who isn't me"

@@alrune8 It's "I can't put myself through the wringer for a man who may cheat, I respect myself too much."

@@alrune8 I choose the latter

@@smartbunny Can be said too indeed.

One of the best lines in the whole series

Well said

She was the best character on the show 💙

true! she is a superhero

That's EXACTLY what I thought! Like, I wish I was a Samantha but I'm just not that awesome! And ya have to be honest on a buzzfeed survey, otherwise the whole world just goes crazy!

@@ruaoneill9050 You don't fell that awesome yet. :)) But I think all you , and I for that matter, need is a bit of courage and self love and we'll be on the right path. Her courage and adaptability were amazing on the show!

In the same boat and I feel ya girl

I relate to this, but this past year, at 35, I’ve suddenly realized that maybe all the stuff I thought made me a mess or my 20’s awful actually was interesting and made my life a fun story. It’s disorienting to see it this way, but I feel truly hopeful for the first time in a long while. It also came after I spent ages 28-33 figuring out who I really am and believe. TL,DR: YES to your sentiment, and YES to life NOT being over in your 30’s and 40’s!!!

@@abbyabroad came here to say basically what you are saying lol. I'm 35 as well. On the week of my 30th birthday, a group of 30/40 something's who worked at a boutique I was in all pitched in and told me, and I'm summing it up here, "they say a lot of things on what a blast your 20s are. But trust us, the best time is your 30s. You're still young, but with a bit more wisdom from lessons in your 20s. You'll embrace it" I spent all of my 20s suffering anxiety and depression and not wanting to be in pics or go out because I was too fat, or sad, etc etc. Making up for it now ❤️

@@meghanwebber4977 That’s wonderful to hear!!

And 50s!

Yet she moved to England ... for some reason?

@@kevinbergin9971 the new show did Samantha so dirty

I'd like to add to that sentiment about how much of a professional Kim Cattrall was that she could pull off such a seemingly genuine bond with Sarah Jessica Parker onscreen while not being close at all offscreen. She was so good at her acting that she sold me on their connection.

yeah Samantha would never stop talking to her friends over that bullshit. Very weak writing. It seemed like a jab at Kim

That's what I love Samantha for--loyalty to her friends.

Honestly they could’ve dropped every character except Samantha & Miranda. They truly were the best.

Yeah... but 90% of most Women wouldn’t act like her, they don’t have the guts...

@@marsuvesblack9645 that's because acting like Samantha irl will get you disrespect. Society wants babies but frowns on women having sex or having confidence in their sexuality.

@@weltschmertzz true, but that is a society problem. And we only fix those problems when we fight against societal norms.

Meh, idk, Miranda always rubbed me the wrong way. I appreciate the intelligent career woman thing, but she grates on me. Samantha is awesome though.

Yes I agree!! Samantha was such a good friend she always had her friends back!

Same! That is the best Samantha moment! She doesn't share her friend's values, but she fiercely supports them! And is always accepting

Exactly!

well, I think that in this particular moment she only got a chance to call her former rival a bitch, but maybe both)

Remember that while you may not have a friend like Samantha, you can always BE a friend like Samantha

Good for you I wish I was like samantha

That’s a straight unintended compliment

I’m rewatching the show and it’s nearly all she talks about. When they’re having serious conversations, it always comes back to sex with her

yes!they wrote her sooo poorly! she was an extremely successful business woman but its only sex all the time

That would've been so interesting to explore, especially because I think it's implied she comes from a working class background and was able to become rich and successful all by herself

Her job was also an interesting one. I love Miranda who's also successful, but I personally think I wouldn't enjoy being a lawyer.

This is the flaw of sex and the city in my opinion. I know the show is about their relationships but I wish it wasn't. They spend so much time talking about men that all the other great aspects of these characters are drowned out. I feel like their great careers ,independence, great friendship and emotional growth could have been focused on more but their personalities were always reduced to a relationship status. I feel like most shows about women do this honestly.

she doesn't judge because she can't, that's the only reason why

@@alrune8 But who can? 👀 I'll wait...

@@montrellferguson8156 Everyone does. Samantha simply chooses to keep her judgement to herself but she still judges, however, since she would like to have people stop looking down on her, she acts more accepting so she can receive acceptance in return, that's all.

@@alrune8 Yeah. I got that. Everyone DOES. Your statement said "she can't". It seems like you were implying that others CAN. My response is no one really has the merit to judge. Everyone does things that someone else would judge as unacceptable. So, no one CAN really judge others. I just want everyone to see that they can be Samantha. Just don't care what others think of you, be true to yourself, know your worth. And understand that no one is without flaw.

​@@montrellferguson8156 That's very nice but not everyone can be a Samantha. Too many preconditions to fulfil for it to be a generality.

I laughed so hard at this for some reason 🤣

The gospel truth!

Absolutely!!! I am a living example... Although I have to admit , I still have to work to live up to her standard. :)

@@user-wv1yt I am gay and just last week i fucked with a random guy i met in a disco like 2 minutes before the sex in the toilet. Why my comment here ? Because we talked shortly about Sex and the City characters (where we both said we are a Miranda but we dream about Samantha) after we did it and we just wished ourselfs all the best in life without getting strings. And we both nailed a Samantha. It was a healthy fun with no regrets. (And i myself was a prude for my whole 20s). So there you go, try a Samantha. It's fabulous. 🔥😊

Well you can't be a "strong independant woman" and ask not to be held accountable for anything you do.

@@alrune8 Huh? This makes no sense. If you're a strong independent woman, why should you be held accountable? For what exactly? Samantha never acted as if she couldn't be held accountable. Just that she shouldn't be judged. Why should she be judged? Unless you're jealous or a prude.

@@jbjacobs9514 If you demand not to be judged for anything you do, then you believe yourself beyond accountability for anything, it's only logical. Everyone judges everyone, even you. Samantha judges too, the only thing she does is that she doesn't voice it. Judgement is inevitable in somebody's mind. The only thing you can do is not say it. But you still think it. Plus, if you're a "strong independant woman", why do you even pay attention to other people opinion/judgement of you? Let them judge you, it's their problem, not yours.

@@alrune8 Held accountable for WHAT exactly? Did she make false promises to any man? Did she cheat on any of her boyfriends once she committed to being in a relationship with them? She was even careful to have sex with her secretary ONLY after she fired him .. What accountability does she need and to who?

yes but hey no, people have to judge each other constantly ....how humans are

I love Kim Cattrall!! It's so messed up she was bullied by SJP for years while on the set 😒😒 Kim/Samantha was a HUGE audience favorite.

@@ambriaashley3383 completely agree. She had the most demanding scenes, and truly gave the show the sexual exploration angle and most of the hilarious moments, yet she wasn't paid as much as SJP, who had a less interesting, and somewhat annoying character.

it didn't take long for it to become samantha and the city for me ... samantha was the reason many watched at all. kim cattrall is ~ and has always been ~ glorious.

Yes! She is so gorgeous and confident.

Agreed!!!!!

That line hits deep.

Yes. That's why no one identifies as a Samantha, she's aspirational. We try to be as well adjisted and confident as she is, but few people probably feel they're at that level.

That line is so iconic. It gave me the words for what I had felt in sooo many relationships up to that point, but couldn't describe. It's okay to be alone, it's okay to choose sex over a relationship, it's okay to be different. I aspire to have Samantha's attitude for sure.

Depends on how you look at it. She's either unswervingly true to herself or she just loves herself too much to actually love anybody else that isn't her.

@@alrune8 the latter seems eh idk more believable somehow

Yes samantha was always true to herself

😂😂 lol

yessir 😭

There are so many Carries. I think the reason she gets so much hate is that she’s a character who embodies the traits people hate most about themselves.

@@SadieDLdn until I started watching these videos I didn't know there is so much hate for Carrie's character😳

@@SadieDLdnI don’t know many Carries in real life. I see more of the other 3

As well as Miranda.... They portray her as a feminist but everyone except Samantha is so judgemental

Carrie was trying reeeeeally hard to sound cool. She wasn't nearly as independent and adventurous as she wanted people to think she was. In my opinion, her slutshaming stems from envy.

They are americans in the end. Puritanism comes with that label.

@@kutlumzrak2689 Except in New York as it's not real USA.

Carrie in the pilot seemed a bit more open minded than the rest of the show. Wish they would've stuck with that instead of making her so judgemental. Her attitude towards sex doesn't at all fit with her job.

That's what my father says: being overconfident and uncompromising leads to loneliness and you have to be ready for this. This is where I am at.

Well said

True but not in New York City . There’s many people with grandiose confidence and talents, making it the best for being who you are there.

No, it's just because her confidence has too many preconditions to be applicable: A/ She's Hollywood-level good looking; B/ She's a wealthy and successful businesswoman ; C/ She has a close-knit group of friends who are not business partners nor co-workers; D/ She lives in a city large enough for her to be promiscuous without major consequence on her reputation. How many women actually live exactly like this?

@@anthia1156 So does that mean that people want us to be insecure and not brave? No wonder why so many of us are stuck in this self loathing cycle. Or find It hard to not compare ourselves to others who have It better in any particular aspect of life. Money, beauty, health, material things. It is practically programmed into our brains. To be confident and follow our own path leaves behind the ones who don't dare try and do the same. They continue following the same herd, a march to no where. The ones who stray outside that line are the lone wolves. They are judged and mocked. They are taunted, belittled. Some march so far away from that miserable line that they eventually can't hear the berating. I wish I could feel this way....

Preach! Samantha was the one that you could tell literally anything to. And she would go to bat for her friends. Like that time that that's snotty woman at the baby shower stole Charlotte's baby name. Samantha didn't give a damn about baby names but because she knew her friend cared she called the woman a b**** and right in front of all her snooty friends and left looks put was a power move. It was jarring and hilarious at the same time (bc who calls a pregnant woman a B*TCH to her face in public at her own baby shower) and I think Charlotte just felt like her honor was defended and that's what she needed in the moment. And there was always some tension between Charlotte and Samantha because they're perspective on sexuality are Polar Opposites but Samantha didn't hesitate even a second to protect her friend. She was also the only one that carry could talk to when she was cheating on Aiden. Not to condone what she was doing but just to say that Samantha was there for her. She also gave pretty good advice and she had short patience with people feeling sorry for themselves for too long. When big left Carrie at the altar, Samantha was the one to try to cancel that expensive honeymoon that carry had booked. And when that didn't work she's the one that turned it into a girls trip to cheer carry up. Samantha was gold. And hilarious to boot.

Not to mention she always gets whats she in business and pleasure

@@princess1peach She gets what she wants because she fills a laundry list of preconditions that 98% of women don't and just can't.

@@alrune8 not really bc not all women are the same. Some are doctors, lawyers, judges etc. I don't know where u got your propaganda from.

@@princess1peach propaganda? stop being a cliché, it's just observation. Samantha fills all the following conditions in order to live her life without major hurdles: 1/ she's Hollywood level slim and beautiful, no woman who is VERY ugly (not plain, really ugly in the face) and out-of-shape or obese can attract high-value men like she does, they don't even notice women who are less good-looking than she is; 2/ she's an accomplished professional working a high paying business, it takes time and dedication to achieve this; 3/ she has a close-knit group of ACTUAL friends as opposed to mere business partners or co-workers, which is her support network and this has no price; 4/ she lives in a city large enough to avoid negative consequences from her promiscuity and a hefty supply of high-value men and good-looking men; 5/ she has titanium skin and really doesn't give a shit when people call her a whore, she even owns it; That's a lot of things to gather for just one woman, just saying.

same

I can totally relate. I discovered the show when I was an out bi teenager, and I admired Samantha's sexual confidence. I think that's why I am today.

Also, though the show was immensely biphobic, Samantha's "I'm a trysexual, I'll try anything once." was empowering af. I'm more of a Miranda on the streets, but Samantha in the sheets. At least ideally.

Not even just her sexuality, she was certain of who she was in everyway. That's why I love her, she loves herself unconditionally. More women, heck, more people, should want to love themselves that way and explore themselves, desires and needs. Easily the best character, especially in the scene where she admits she loves someone but she looks herself more.

Same!!

She's also the best friend out of the four. Her loyalty is incredible.

Exactly

Yes, such an iconic quote, Samantha is DEFINITELY the best, most legendary SATC lady! 😇♥️

@@trinaq Also, don't forget about Miranda.

That sounds kindah Sus

@@kaleahcollins4567 WDYM?

@@Mrchair-bk5ns lemme guess. You don't have a lot of gay friends?

Not me but I respect and admire Samantha and have no problems with who she is. My respect for her grows as time goes on. As a gay man who's not really a fan of Sex and the City I wish I was Miranda though truthfully in real life I'm a Charlotte.

Although I do want Samantha's open-mindedness and immense loyalty.

@@Nehmi What did they said before he/she deleted their comment.

@@Nehmi they are 3% of the population everyone who has less then 15 friends is unlikely to have a gay one among them

It's actually not oke for men to be commitment phones. It's a myth. Guys still do get the "when are you settling down" lecture. Do you know how much shit Leonardo DiCaprio gets for his lifestyle? These matters don't have much to do with gender. I get that it may seem that one gender has more expectations than the other but it might not be the reality. All I'm saying is let's not be too quick to make general statements.

@@bellam7546 Actually it does have to do with gender because women are absolutely under more pressure to settle down then men are. Leonardo DiCaprio is seen as a highly desirable lothario who dates super models. Women of a certain age aren’t seen the same way. There’s actually several episodes of Sex and the city that address those very issues.

@@cristinarivera5707 That`s your opinion. I grew up in a culture where both genders are pressured to settle down and given a lot of shit for being promiscuous. I think society should remove gender binaries. It`s because of gender binaries abuse of men is ignored.

Also while I really disliked carrie at times, She and Samantha being so adamantly childfree makes me so happy because it’s such a rare representation even now.

@@bellam7546 There are definitely different cultures where men get more pressure to settle down. However, this video and the context of this video is definitely around american culture and general western culture. & i would add that in other cultures where men also get that pressure, women have even more pressures put on them again. I was previously engaged to a bangla guy and when he started cheating on me i realised he wasn't really in love with me, he was using me because he was pressured to settle down. He certainly suffered for the pressures he had but settling down & impregnating someone else was p much all that was expected of him. By contrast, his sister had already fulfilled her parents' wishes to settle down & get married to someone she barely knew....but was given the additional pressure of sorting out her irresponsible brother's life all the time and giving birth to a baby asap and doing all the housework perfectly (and i mean perfectly or she would be spoken badly of) and cooking amazing food and managing all the family's problems & of course, looking beautiful too. She also had her own personal desire besides doing everything for everyone else, to have a good career but she dropped it for her husband. My strong intuition based on what i saw, is the reason she couldn't get pregnant was because of all the burdens placed upon her. She was an incredibly beautiful intelligent resilient person who should have been absolutely thriving in life.

bro i recently rewatched it and i dont understand at all why carrie was referred to as someone "who knows good sex" its utter bullshit, shes extremely judgmental and prudish. Their roles should have definitely have been reversed

I am also rewatching. Even in episode 01x10 Carrie calls Samantha "insecure" and compares her with her friend Leyni. Samantha was totally authentic. It was not a sexual adventurous to get the attention of men or to get a husband. She wanted to experience everything in life. trysexual. Her words. Also, if she had problems of intimacy, she overcame them and still chose herself. Carrie wanted to conquer the city through Mr. Big. Samantha was all the time her own Mrs. Too Big. Also, I loved her style chic and sexy.

Being good-looking doesn't help, it's absolutely necessary to be Samantha. No truly ugly woman would have that many men looking to bang her.

@@alrune8 Now you know that's a lie. Women can get it any time they want it . And no I'm not a red pill bitter man...I'm a woman that is a realist.

​@@pistachiosandpopcorn7146 Truly ugly women can only get it from ugly and/or obese men that no other woman wants. Dusties as they're sometimes called. Samantha only deals with high-value men who have a lot of options, so I'm sorry but good looks aren't optional here.

@@pistachiosandpopcorn7146 Your average woman can get a lot of sex, true, but not with the handsome and successful guys Samantha dates. You need a hot bod and a hot personality for that! That's why Samantha is such a pistol.

girl! i always clap 😂

Yesss!!! That was my favorite line 🌟🌟🌟

Same. I saw this as a kid and I was mind-blown at the statement. I felt that prior to that was love was always doing everything for your partner, but this made me realize that hey, I come first. I wish I had used that more and I would have saved myself some heartbreak.

Very well said!

Agreed samantha is open remember when carrie judged her when she was dating a woman or bitching about bisextuals carrie is my least favorite. She is weak and selfish and immature

Agreed, it's unfortunate when the lead character of a show is also the worst & most annoying one...

@@Qu33nMary444 Even more unfortunate that the actress that played the main character became a producer and had the audacity to pay Kim Catrall less than herself

@@jk4351 Ugh I know right?! But I love that in the years since the series ended, Kim has proven herself to be a hundred times classier & more talented than SJP in her career choices & general personality ❤

Honestly

Exactly

we do, but we just don't have it

exactly , because the real challenge is to accept yourself and have confidence without validation, but once you achieve that, it's really the ultimate freedom.

Would it work if she wasn’t a white straight woman though?

There are too many preconditions to her confidence my dear. Not that many of us can gather that many conditions: A/ Excessively good-looking; B/ Wealthy and successful businesswomen; C/ Have a close-knit group of actual friends (NOT business partners); D/ Live in a city big enought to anonymize us and not expose us to public shaming (inevitable in small towns) and provide wih a hefty supply of good-looking men.

You go girl

let's be honest here - you didn't marry your dream man. You married someone who didn't come even close and who doesn't want to make your dreams come true, only wants his to come true. So many women settle for much less because they are told that having high standards is selfish, that having your own dreams and goals is selfish and that in the relationships you have to sacrifice. So you did and I am so sorry for you. But hey, it sounds like you found happiness after all!

Dear Julia Kay, I relate to your story and I am glad you managed to realise you were unhappy and break free, it takes a lot of courage to do that! I'm 35, single, never married and no kids. To the world I therefore am a failure in this regard. I don't care. I've had relationships but I won't tolerate being treated badly or taken for granted. I would rather be alone than be in a relationship that isn't real love on both sides. If I ever find that I'd do everything I could to hold on to it but if it isn't a truly loving relationship then it isn't worth the time, effort and heartache.

@@GemR38 have you bought your first cat yet

@@Ruby-dc3wp Lol :-) no doubt the unconditional love of a pet is like the purest thing ever 😍. Sadly I can't have pets where I live but I'd love a cat.

awww honey ur being tooo mean to urself

Exactly

Agreed

Samantha has NEVER lost popularity, just look at her, nuf said

Exactly what I thought

Agree with everything you said!!!

Actually her commitment to her friends is what makes her the best character. She was truly the most mature in every way. In the first movie when Carrie was dumped by Mr Big it was Samantha who got them all in the honeymoon and the one who made Carrie eat and get out of her depressive mood. So she didn’t care for a committed relationship with a man but was very available for her friends.

Exactly! She always seemed the most balanced to me

So spot on!!

Wow!

Exactly!

I think they were all good friends EXCEPT Carrie. Can't stand her.

Exactly, we need more not wanting relationship characters. Just free unique interesting individuals living their life and following their dreams.

I think if I were a very sexual person, I’d be a kind-of Samantha. As it is, while I do have a kid, I’m single and more than happy to stay that way. I nether want nor need a relationship. I have emotional connections with my loved ones, and if I wanted sex, I could easily find it (which I think is the case for most women- sex is not hard to find). But I don’t really want sex, and I’m happy with that. That being said, human sexuality is one of my personal interests. So even though I don’t personally have much of it these days, I still tend to be the person my friends and daughter seek out to talk about it. I pride myself on being non judgemental. I think there are many aspects to Samantha’s character that we should all strive to emulate. That doesn’t mean being promiscuous if that’s not for you, it means being non judgemental and accepting of human sexuality as it exists. That’s what I’ve always loved about Samantha. That being said, I definitely don’t have her confidence, and I wish I did.

Exactly mannnn !

Totally this. And when they do get together they must eventually have a kid even if it makes no sense to the characters journeys

Right?!

Because Charlotte, no matter how judgemental she may be, is just as sincere as Samantha in her ways. A tradwife like her wouldn't be genuine if she weren't judgemental, mostly because it's her way to show that she cares, even if it's not the nicest way.

If anyone lost popularity over time - it's Carrie

Unfortunately, I still see a lot of incel /mgtow people online who slut shame a lot. Though hopefully that’s just a loud minority

@@rishabhanand4973 Of course it hasn’t gone away - it’s just that (sensible) people are now aware that it exists!

Amen! The keyword being CHOICE. We didn’t have one before. We weren’t allowed to work, so we NEEDED a husband to support us and ensure our existence. Now we can choose if we want an equal partner in crime or being single. It’s our choice, and that’s what was beautiful about Samantha. She owned her sexuality, she was unapologetic, honest, a good friend. She was free. That’s something we can all aspire to be. Flawed? Sure, but who can say “I am perfect”? No one.

Yeah I strive to be more of a good friend and happy with myself and figuring out what I want. And that’s gonna be a lifelong battle and marriage isn’t really the key to my happiness.

Hear hear!!! My family is OBSESSED with me getting married and having kids. That sounds like a death sentence to me. I've evolved so far out of that thinking that it sounds like a fever dream I once had. They're actually angry with me that this is my choice in life. I don't care. Everyone I know is absolutely miserable with their spouses and kids, and I'll be damned if that end up being my fate. Not knocking anyone who's chosen that path, but I've come to realize that it isn't for me. I strive to be the cool aunt who breezes into town every so often then leaves on a whim again. The kind who travels, eats well, enjoys life and has a few lovers on tap!! Cheers to making that happen!! 🧜🏿‍♀️🍻

True true true

No kids. Your gene pool will die out

Charlotte is also the most maternal though it's Miranda who accidentally gets pregnant despite only having one ovary and has to adapt to motherhood.

I feel like Samantha is career driven as well. The sex part just overshadows it.

@@actuallyterry Yeah, she got her own company I forgot, the sex part indeed overshadows her professional side

Have the confidence to be yourself! That's enough!

Who even has the confidence of a Samantha

I tried to pull off confidence like her. But it’s not easy, especially if you’re an immigrant, colored woman. Reality is different for different people.

There are way too many preconditions to have that confidence. Don't beat yourself over the head for it. To be a "Samantha", you need to be excessively good looking (as in not average good-looking, not feminist good-looking, I'm talking Hollywood good-looking like Cattrall was in her prime), wealthy and very successful , and you must have a close-knit circle of friends, instead of business partners. Way too few women can gather the whole package.

@@alrune8 agree! She’s a fictional character after all. Not to say there aren’t women like that. I bet there are quite a few in New York City

wait were they actually? i've recently been binging the show but i haven't noticed the group hating on her at all, besides charlotte (her total opposite) sometimes speaking against her lifestyle

@@bored7148 They didn't fully hate her but they could be really judgemental at times

Especially Charlotte. She would always fight with Sam

@@nikidon99 Always!

Haters? No. They were actual friends, instead of sycophantic business partners. True friends don't just flatter you, they also call you out when you fuck up or when you're about to do something morally questionable, otherwise it's not friendship, it's servitude.

Hey sister me too. I want to be her. I will be her.

They’re going off a buzzfeed quiz which counts for nothing

Because Samantha is only badass because she gathers a lot of conditions that most of us can't have from the get-go, the main ones being excessively attractive to men and being wealthy and successful.

I could never be Charlotte. She was too delusional.

Yeah me too

Because you can only be her while you're pretty and young enough. Past age 60, living like Samantha will make you look like the female version of the old guy in the night club.

@@alrune8 Ridiculous. Older people are allowed to enjoy their sex/romantic lives however they want, just don't engage if it's not your thing. An older guy/woman at the club is regularly the person I lust after and like to take home 🤷 they know how to fuck bruh

​@@bubblegumplastic Pfft. Older how? Like 70 years old? 80 years old? Don't be ridiculous. You like older as in 40, maybe 50 but not somebody old enough to be your grandparent.

@@alrune8 No man, 60+. They're not my grandparents, I'm in my 30s. A 60 year old is a daddy to me 👀 Just because you're not interested, doesn't mean no one is. Just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't mean no one should. Judging others like this doesn't make you a more worthwhile person 🤷 You're gonna be 70 one day, I hope you'll still have fun with your partner, whoever it is and however you find them. You don't stop being a person with desires at any point, society just tries their hardest to erase that fact and force older people into this narrow sexless concept. It's not right.

​@@bubblegumplastic Thanks for proving my point: you are 30 THEREFORE you might be attracted to someone that age if they're atheltic and rich enough because I highly doubt you would go for someone 30 years your senior if they were poor, paunchy and/or sickly, don't pretend you would. Fucking people old enough to be one's grandparent is a sexual kink very few people have. Too few to make it the "norm" or something that should be institutionalized. I don't care about being "better" than anyone, I'm just baffled to see people so afraid of old age. And I'm not even that much older than you. When I'm 70, I hope to be a respectable, responsible and knowledgeable grandmother, with other pursuits in my life than my orgasms so I can spend my days reading and spoiling my grandchildren with imparting some knowledge on them, and not a sex-crazed spinster who believes she's "free" because she behaves like an old pervert.

Who was Barney? I don’t remember this character.

Totally agree, but I think that you are in the wrong video XD.

@@genzi78514 Nope. This person is talking about the part of the video where they talk about Barney on "How I met Your Mother".

@@genzi78514 lol, they compare Barney to Samantha in this video, hence my comment.

@@MissAngie25 from HIMYM. They talk about him in this video, as he’s a male, more accepted version of Samantha.

Hey, you dropped this 👑

You do realize that the show was called "Sex in the city"

@@eduardopantoja9115 Yes it is called that, but the three other characters had other things going and talked about other things. Samantha only had the one demension. I would have loved to see another aspect of her personality.

YES! I fully agree. Carrie is the most fleshed out character and I see her in so many of my close friends, including myself. The other three are easy to say “I’m like that” because they’re far more archetypical.

Except from old age as the show itself made a point to underline.

but is she really?

I'd watch

I agree, even though I identified with Samantha the least out of the four girls, I still admired her confidence, wit and willingness to live life to the full! 💖

Gay men know the 3 C’s: Clothes Compliments & Cocks! -“Samantha Jones” ❤️

You can be a bachelorette all your life long if that's what you're looking for and if you understand the price to pay in exchange for this lifestyle i.e. the necessity of growing a titanium skin to shrug off other people's opinions (no emotional weakling can sustain lifelong singlehood, which Samantha demonstrates), all your precious belongings going to waste if you have no one bequeath it to, obligation of single motherhood if you want a kid, solitary old age etc... As long as you don't expect other people to protect you from the consequences of lifelong singlehood, you will reap the benefits. They just won't be the same as a woman who chose a different route because different lifestyles means different rewards and risks, that's all.

And it is seen as "LESS" for a reason.

@@alrune8 such a judgemental comment and stuck right back in 1950.some people may want to be married but never meet anyone so are they supposed to go...f..themselves? do you think all married people dont end up alone and old when partners die and you can leave your money to a charity or people who need it so much for the precious belongings,Mothers and families are praised and protected all the time and some of them are very unpleasant people.They are protected and rewards financially by the state.Single women who are not much like samantha and few really are..get no rewards and long term single men neither.I dont see why families should be rewarded especially in these times of climate emergency.choice is also a fantasy

@@evastar4526 what does that mean? who says families and mothers are more?again, judgemental.who says she is less? we all end up alone anyway and many peoples kids are not that great and when the tsunami of climate emergency hits them their insignificance will be realised.

@@cattyelse2372 Climate emergency is such a convenient pretext for virtue-signaling people who believe not reproducing is going to make them "good people". Thanks for proving my point: people who are slaves to other people's opinions of them aren't suited for an alternative lifestyle, whichever it is. If you can't live your life without riding the pseudo-moralist bandwagon along with all the social media addicts, the twitter mobsters and all that shit, just keep on following trends and try to make believe you're somehow part of a community that would just disappear the minute Internet and electricity are down. Families are present and tangible, online communities are virtual, that's the difference. Someone like Samantha is a product of her era and Sex & the City would find no resonance if it had come out in the new 20's, even if Samantha was the main character.

I thought of her during the video too! ^_^

Omg how I LOVE that movie!

Yes! I just rewatched Under the Tuscan Sun last week, and I love Katherine so much! She lives her life on her own terms, and I have to admire that.

I've never had anyone tell me I should be married or even ask me about it; yet on TV and in movies people bug single women all the time. Does that really happen a lot? That sucks!

@@smartbunny I am 38 and never married. I had a coworker once tell me she isn't friends with single people, that all her friends have to be married. Married women look at me suspiciously like I am trying to steal their dumbass husbands (spoiler: he may hit on me like crazy behind your back but I don't want him lady). It gets tiresome. There is definitely cultural influences pushing women into marriage. My married friend once asked me if I had ever been proposed to. I said no and he was shocked and basically made it out like I am less of a woman cuz no dude has never wanted to marry me.

Me too she’s the definition of power

@@imnotblonde670 And freedom.

Power to you!

Same ^_^

Omg Same

Thats what my dad told all of hs 4 daughters. Love yourself more than you love any man. I live by those words to this day.

Still hits like the first time I heard it.

​@@julieake3875 way to be a narcissist

@@rohmann000 it’s not about that. It’s about knowing your self-worth and what can make you truly happy. A lot of us spend our lives trying to make relationships work that just never will. And it’s honestly more cruel to stay with someone that you know you can never be truly happy with then it is to just let them go.

​@@Hiiiiiiiiieeee Obviously I completely agree, and my comment was also meant to be slightly provocative. However, I do believe that the philosophy that you have to love yourself more than other people (say, your life partner) is actually a quite selfish philosophy. Instead of saying that you have to "love yourself" I much prefer the ieda that you must know your self-worth and have respect for yourself, as you just reframed it. But I don't believe that people should love themselves more than other people. And loving yourself more than your partner is not the same as having respect for yourself or knowing your self-worth. You have to love your partner as much as you love you, otherwise the relationship is doomed in advance, in my humble opinion.