Sexuality expert explains how to deal with fluid urges in a relationship 

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Good video but hard to do when what I’m craving is loyalty and consistency. It’s why I crave both men and women because I’m not getting it from either.

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH 🏳️‍🌈 I like tuning in because you always offer -food- a buffet for thought.

6:05 It’s like how a crush is not merely love but an idea of a certain person.

All I want and desire in a relationship is a sense of care and emotional connection, but my ex did not give me that. I found it in a man, which is worrying.

This was a really interesting test. As a man who is going through divorce (wife of 10yrs’ choice to leave, but making life quite unpleasant in the process), I found my same-sex feelings ‘came back.’ I did get ‘excitement’ as a word but the main ones I got were ‘safe’, ‘content’, ‘secure’. Which makes a lot of sense, but I hadn’t made the connection.

Even though I'm happily not in a relationship, there are a lot of of good points in this segment to ponder.

I'm glad to have found your channel, I've been enjoying your content a lot, thank you for the work that you're doing :) . In one of your other videos you mentioned the reasons why you wouldn't date a straight woman and I felt a little bit demoralised as it felt very generalising and not inclusive to the straight population. I am a straight woman in a relationship with a bi man and the reason why I am here and seeking more bi content is because I want to understand and hear him better. My goal is to be able to be the best partner that I can and encourage and support him to be his best queer self without any fear in a straight facing relationship, I guess my comment has two parts, 1. would you consider making some content specifically for straight partners of bi people? (how to deal with insecurity about those things you can't provide?, how to talk about needs and desires in a safe way for both?, how to talk about these topics without the fear that you're exhausting your partner by having to explain things? -which I gathered is one of your personal discomforts-, how to nurture an environment where talking about sexuality and desires becomes more usual? and 2. related to this video: as a partner, how do you support your SO on the same-sex urges? and do you think that the method that you mentioned would work long term? thank you so much!

This is really cool! Thank you. I have always been happy being bisexual. I know it comes from being cut off from girls when I was younger but I’m ok with it. I was thinking I was looking for a fun encounter with a female. I just want fun, not love. I have never had much fun in every day life with females. For me, my attraction to women is all about connection and fun. It’s interesting that you thought about excitement and other people in the comments thought about excitement and fun. Thank you! I will listen to more of your channel before I recommend it to others. Thank you and have a great day 💜

What if that urge is not sentimental at all? If it's only about certain body parts or acts that only a person with a different gender from your partner can provide? Is this a valid urge? Also finding that core need seems a bit hard to define in this context. Is fetishizing body parts from same gender a valid bisexual mark?

Thanks for the video! U r always choosing such interesting topics! I find myself questioning the same again: Are bi urges any different from straight urges? I feel they are indeed different, but I have a hard time trying to explain it to my friends and partners...

Hmm. I've never felt bad about being like "I'd like a piece of that" male or female. It just reminds me I'm making an active choice to be with my boyfriend. It's not bad, which I think the guilt is really pushed, so you don't have to feel bad about feeling desire, just use it to reflect. Does my boyfriend have a soft kissable face? No, he's got a big beard, but I _like_ big beards. I try to enjoy what I enjoy about men in him, and enjoy the feminine in other ways. That works for me though, I sympathize for those who are struggling. If I didn't figure out how to work with my quirks and do the things that are required of me, I imagine I would be extremely distressed.

For me I've been bisexual since high school over 20 yrs ago and i married my wife bit when I told her I was bi she just straight face me and delt with it since and the type of men I'm into is the quiet silent type with a big heart and the party drag type like the characters ted and Emmitt from queer as folk now its hard to find that type with my age and I just feel numb

thank you and Happy Pride Month🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈

i what be both women and men but i have always love mens from day i was born to now what cause me to have crushs for women was storylines in tv soaps like eastenders and emmerdale coronation street and staff number in my old work who is lesbian cause me have fancy her then my mum was questioning me about it. i was getting so annoyed and upset because i didn't what come out to her and my dad in heaven so i can't really tell him that i like girls too and i love and fancy singer peter andre who sing mysterious girl so much and i got cursh on girl who i know from school but she got boyfriend and her dad knows my dad who died who 2011 from lung Abscess cause by his drinking and i got crush on girl from 90 day fiance call Erika Owens i am in problem and i got autism too so don't know what to do about it

Hello. Hello. What advice you would give for someone who is obssesed about labels and how they must identify? I just want to know how i have to.identify..

its people ...a person.... not parts ....for me

Happy Pride, Mark!! 🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧Thanks for the video!! I think we love the idea of the person more than the person themselves. We are deserving of someone, including ourselves, who will fulfill our deepest desires and emotional needs. The heart wants what it wants. It's not that we are asking for the wrong things. Sometimes, we ask the wrong people or at the wrong times. Nonetheless, love is love. Our person will understand and accept this about us!!

Urges are rare for me