Thank You, Lord, for this! Barekhmor abuna’s, from the Netherlands. You are a blessing to every one of us. Also, Paul, man you’re a great interviewer! Keep up the good work!
I am learning a lot from coptic orthodox answer's God bless you Abouna gebriea wisa and Anthony murad and all of the media staff's. from Addis Ababa, Ethiopia
I do not appreciate that a few times in this, it was mentioned that this was more directed to men. Women struggle just as much, sometimes more. If sex is a gift from God, and more women are living a single life now more than ever - according to your definition of receiving vs taking … what do you do when you have no choice? What if “taking” seems to be the only choice.
Hello Coptic Orthodox Answers! I have a very important question that I haven't found many direct and clear answers to for a long time and I really hoped some type of answer would be given in this video regarding it yet either the fathers didn't have time for it or it seemed too explicit to answer... The question is about the different types of sexual intercourses that have been 'normalised' in mainstream media and pornography! Is the vaginal intercourse the only non-sinful and blessed sexual act allowed in marriage? Or are other types of sexual intercourses (oral, anal, hand-given, body-given) also blessed and allowed in marriage? My heart's conscience has always told me that these other sexual acts are evil, sinful and unnatural! I would like to hear the Coptic Orthodox Church's answer to this!
I thank the Lord for this beautiful podcast. I myself have some issues relating to this and this podcast helps me understand the things that are good and bad. Barechmor abuna's also from the Netherlands, and yes I have committed myself to multiple sins stated in the podcast and I want to ask for people to pray for me and for the rest of the people in this wicked world. (Also asking you Holo)
What about compatibility when it comes to sex? What if you get married and you find that you don't want to be intimate with your partner because you don't enjoy it with them for whatever reason? Also, can there be a topic about divorce and sex? Especially if the divorce is due to domestic violence. It's extremely difficult these days to find a decent man to remarry. And how is it expected once you've been married to stop wanting a physical connection with someone after divorce?
Sexual compatibility isn’t described as a concept in the Bible nor is it important to the higher virtues of marriage which brings to people into a spiritual, friendship union for salvation. If sexuality is an expression of a physical love, then would not the compatibility not be expressed in the sexuality, but in the love itself? People desire to be loved in a relationship, their mind, body and soul. If one can love the mind of the other, take care of that mind, love the emotions of the other, express their desire to want the other to feel safe in them.. wouldn’t that also extend to physical intimacy? Sexual intimacy and the emotional, spiritual intimacy are not distinct, for if the emotional and spiritual are first and foremost, then the sexual love would follow from the same expression. Partners may not enjoy it with their partner for several reasons, but as a generalisation, every problem with intimacy in the bedroom is due to an emotional, spiritual need not being fulfilled that ought to be worked on. The Bible permits divorce in the case of adultery, however perhaps with severe domestic violence, some cases may be allowed but should be discussed with the priest. Yes it’s an immensely difficult topic, but remember this is a reflection of the union between Christ and His Church, where Christ gives Himself fully to the Church and the Church submits to Christ as She follows His vision.. which is why there should be significant premarital counselling to ensure that this union is stable and in Christ. It is very difficult to find a good man these days but don’t worry, if your heart is pure, God will give you the man who is also pure, for your salvation and his. Even then, sister, why is it you must get married even if divorce happens? Is there an expectation on this, an idea to fulfil? It may very well be it may take a woman extremely long to recover from the trauma of domestic violence, but if she does not feel safe to commit to a new man, and finds her peace in living single, as Christ her only bridegroom.. why fret? I think also even asking how to deal with the desire for physical connection after divorce also implies a gap between the physical and emotional, but the physical desire, as an expression of love, is an extension of the emotional, since first, one must feel safe in their emotions, vulnerabilities, to give their heart to someone, before giving their body. If our bodies are what experienced shame after the fall, this was a result of the disunity that happened first spiritually. The desire for physical connection after divorce would not just appear if one’s heart does not yet trust someone, and if one’s heart yearns for a new emotional connection
So much perversion for humanity in this matter, one of the most immediately pressing matters for mankind. May God have mercy, and help us abide in Him as our guide.
Catholic marriages that are totally dysfunctional and couples that are living together that actually seem to love each other, so in essence what you're saying are these Catholic marriages they shouldn't be having sex because there is no love
There is a degree of self-gratification in a marriage the only way you'll get your needs met is through your partner,and yes by using their body and they yours ( explain to me how else it's going to work?)- and I hate to break it to you father but not every sexual experience in a marriage is not going to be woohoo experience where the clouds break and the sun shines through and where as the trumpets Blair. sometimes it's a quickie in the bathroom. Sometimes sex is just sex.
cope harder. just admit the unmarried and non-monastics that are struggling in an ineffable way are cooked. don't spew some pseudointellectual nonsense like this. "Express sexual through brotherly love..." "because you are a celibate, you have a role to be a healthy sexual human being even as a celibate without you having to express it physically through the physical intimacy of sexual act" bro what is this
i'm still thinking about how insensitive and wild this is to say. sexual is sexual. to say every human is sexual, but that the unmarried, non-monastics are to transmute sexual to others around us in a non-sexual way? no you suppress it or you act on it, you don't convert it or whatever weird thing you're on about. "The narrow way is difficult, and it can be very lonely." - Archpriest Konstantine Feodoroff, Narrow is the Way don't be obtuse. tell it how it is. people will respect you more for it. unsubscribing.
I will respectfully disagree. Human sexuality is not limited to the physical drive. Rather it involves the psychological, physical, emotional, and/or spiritual feelings and behaviors. I would agree that as per the Christian faith, physical expression of human sexuality is reserved strictly for husband and wife in the confines of holy matrimony. But to suggest that all other expressions of human sexuality don't exist is simply not true.
@@franthonymourad5870 Abouna, can you please give examples of what the non-physical expressions of sexuality/eros are? And how they are distinct from aghape, philia, storg? God bless your service
