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Sarah😢 praying for her baby 🍼

The disabled mom with the dog- There's definitely two sides to that story. My fiance's parents wouldn't be allowed in my home because of how they treated him growing up- which I won't explain for reasons. But if he explained to others that I didn't want his parents in my house, he likely wouldn't divulge the details because he wouldn't feel like it's anyone's business. He would feel like 'If she doesn't want them around, that's between me and her'. And most people would fill in the gap with the fantasy that the parents are always innocent. I wouldn't be able to explain without invading his privacy, so I would stick with the ol' 'You don't know me and IDGAF what you think'. After all, I don't have to worry when the truth is on my side.

unbehaved rottweiler in my youse with my kids? common sense dictates an untrained dog can threaten a childs life. there are ways to communicate that, but point a) the mum not Training her dog and the husband demanding she hasnt have to so it in a but still move in. have you ever watched its me or the dog? untrained dog can stay out. ahes not denying the mother

untrained means it doesn't listen. if it aint listening it may run in front of a car.. a child could follow it.. i am sorry that father is a complete ass and demand that she takes property damage and a risk to her children lying down.

So she lied to pretend she was supportive n make it “your fault”why you didn’t have a pet

Rats are gross she was right

Rats are not gross. What are you saying 🤨

@@JoseCastillo-dv5zu they are actually like a mix of a dog and a cat, they clean and groom themselves like cats do, they can be trained to use a little box, they bond closely with their owners, and can be trained commands like dogs! Remember rats don’t actually cause people to get sick, infected fleas and ticks that ride of rats get people sick, the same fleas and ticks that can ride on dogs, dogs just aren’t as good hosts has many of those diseases also affect them. And your car doesn’t work well when you kill it.

@@emilyjohn2034thank youuuuu, i was about to write a comment like this myself before I saw your comment. Amazing

Yup. I also came from upper middle, my mom bought me stuff prolly to make up for all the abuse and CSA thay began young. I've been financially on my own since 17. I was possibly spoiled but only for a few years during horrific abuse lol.

You can be spoiled with things other than money

​​@@RepubsWannaMarryKidsya that doesn't count (meaning you were not spoiled)

@@RepubsWannaMarryKidsheyyyy same. I cannot believe the people who say we don’t know suffering. My dad started raping me when I was 2. It didn’t stop till he killed himself when I was 24. I guess that’s not suffering?

Thissss exactly. Rottweilers need to be trained or you are asking for a terrible situation to occur with young kids. Wife is absolutely in the right.

Exactly she isn’t refusing the mother in law a place she is refusing that big ass dog. I was but by a Rottweiler when I was 13 and one chomp and you could see the deep tissue under my skin was broken wide and you could see part of the bone in my forearm. I understand the fear completely I DO NOT do Rottweilers at all or any untrained big dog.

You did all that? That’s amazing!

I'm so sorry that happened to you. However I want you to really give yourself credit for doing all that to achieve a goal at such a young age. Please please never loose that mentality it will take you so far, hopefully far away from that mother of yours. Sending lots of love your way from a fellow victim of a shitty mom.

I understand what you mean. My mother did the same to me. I was forced to start working at age 13. I did the same as well by maintaining all A's. I was charged rent, too. There's NOTHING like your oarent renegging on an agreement. Your trust is DESTROYED for life. Your parents are the first in line to teach you and protect you. Then, some become the first to lie, to hurt and deceive you. I'm SO SORRY you went through that. My heart goes out to you.

Oh that is just so sad and infuriating. Your mom was cool when she motivated and inspired you to be responsible and a model student. I’m not sure why she destroyed what you worked so hard for.

I’m meat eater lol tbh she sounds like an immature annoying child. She can make fun of him but he did the same she turned like that.

Honestly I thought that was hilarious. 😂 I'd like to add that it really sucks when you're eating something and someone next to you starts saying it's gross and foul. Anything I make with any kind of peppers in it, spicy, bell, sweet, even paprika my brother always says "Eew, nasty". I don't tell him his food smells like ass when he cooks, I just go outside for a while. Rude!

Definitely needs therapy but there are some eating disorders that make it nearly impossible to eat outside of your comfort zone. ARFID can present as the intense fear your body will have an allergic reaction to food and in some cases can make you vomit when you ingest or smell those foods. It's something you need therapy for but it can be a life threatening illness if it progresses and you stop being able to eat the foods you used to, like chicken nuggets.

@@animatorstanley Agree its not something someone should do out of respect. Although, I i do think if the smell is so bad it messes with, your stomach speak up lol.

@@rigby.walabee definitely correct, which is why many people with those conditions are not AH and make fun of people. My aunt has that conditions, she is respectful to use even if she wont eat the food we are. I also cant eat everything all the time. There are times I cannot eat the same thing I ate the meal before. So I completely understand. I would 100% had told chick about the baby chickens too. She did too much lol.

Clearly she never bought it up before so it might be a made-up story to not let mother in law in..

She didn't use the "it's my house" argument but she did use the "I'll divorce you if you don't obey me" argument which means she's abusive

@@MizutamariVThell no. I’d want a divorce if my partner brought my biggest fear into the house I live in. Y safe space. Her entire life is in that house. She works from home. That should be reason enough. There is no way having boundaries and not letting them be stomped all over is abusive. I’d say it’s the other way around. He doesn’t care that he’s going to retraumatize his wife. Add to that rotties are not dogs you let live around small children. It only takes a small misstep for that kid to be dead.

Exactlyyyy I might have a biased viewpoint but to me he just wants to be mommy's boy and make excuses for his full grown adult mother who can't even maintain housing clearly. If her dog is a priority she can prioritize the damn dog somewhere else instead of burdening his wife in her own home. Despicable behaviour on husband and his moms part

Agreed, the mom can’t be that worried about her housing if the dog is more of a priority and she hasn’t even trained it. A large untrained dog is a nightmare.

Also, the wife is working full time from home plus handling childcare, adding another (disabled) person and a dog (that she's afraid of!) to that, is too much to ask.

Plus if the dog is 2 years old and untrained, the MIL is a terrible owner and needs to rehome it to someone who can train it. By 2, a dog should be trained.

While I agree with you, I think you’re definitely going off the deep end a bit with all that emotional labor, saying she’ll have to train the dog, maintaining a relationship, etc. But overall, the wife doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to do, and she has very good points with the kids, the dog, and her trauma.

I didn’t like the fact that they constantly kept calling the wife an asshole for her trauma with dogs when her stance was very reasonable. Mom can come, dog can’t, and they’re constantly calling her an asshole for setting very reasonable rules and reasons why. She has trauma, Rottweilers even when sweet, are notoriously rough and can easily knock over a small child, she’s looking out for her kids.

@@MegaMyown Her stance definitely is fair. That whole situation honestly just made me tired at how ridiculous it was being made when solutions were simple. The simplest being that they find someone to take the dog.

@@sydneyps they definitely let their bias towards dogs get in the way of their judgement towards the story, “iT’s JuSt A dOg,” definitely lets me know their stance, and lets me know they think banning a dog is a horrible thing to do because god forbid someone doesn’t like dogs. They think she’s the asshole and ridiculous for it when the solution is simple, mom can come, dog can’t, stop fucking asking. And she’s not allowing the MIL to go homeless over a dog, MIL is *CHOOSING* to go homeless over a dog.

Ya'll need to come over to Charlotte Dobre.

@@uprightcitizenx sounds awful, I’ll stick with Rslash lol he ain’t much, but he’s doing honest work 😆😂

Yeah i'm hoping she herself wasn't homophobic, but if that was the case she should have texted or called him asap to apologize and explain.

Homophobic is a over use word.. it can be as simple as it's not apart of their faith life in God. No hate at all. Just because you don't expect someone's life don't mean you hate them..

@@morganmore6 no that is homophobic. Using religion as an excuse for discrimination does not make it not discrimination. It's already been WELL noted that texts such as the bible didn't even contain the word homosexual until the 1940s, people using that as an excuse are doing just that, using it as an excuse. Remember it wasn't so long ago that people were using the bible to justify slavery and racism, and in some cases they still do to this day. Discrimination is discrimination. It doesn't matter if you try to use religious "beliefs" as a crutch for it, it's wrong.

@@morganmore6 homophobic is not an overused word when so many members of our community are still being murdered for being gay, denied jobs, denied housing, discriminated against when out in public, raped, assaulted otherwise, etc all for being gay.

@@morganmore6 I don’t think so. It’s one thing to be religious and perfectly happy with being straight, but another thing to treat other people as lesser than for being gay. Let’s just say she cancelled because her parents and not because of her own ideals. She would have had to have expected them to have such a negative reaction to the OP’s parents being gay that it would have been more acceptable to effectively stand them up at the last minute on dinner than to have them over. Acting like that simply over someone else’s parents being gay is homophobic. Homophobia doesn’t have to be some massive display of downright hating gay people, it can be smaller things that add up to show that a person values their peers less on account of said peers being gay.

Boarding facilities are really expensive

I’m so late to this but yes! Or, they could find someone to temporarily take care of the dog, a foster family or a friend… something! Especially if the dog is untrained, I absolutely 100% understand why OP’s wife in that post wouldn’t compromise on the dog coming with the MIL, and double-especially since they have small kids in the house. Rottweilers can be TERRIFYING and do a LOT of awful damage even if they are well-trained! My best friend growing up was attacked by her own Rottie that she raised from a puppy (they grew up together) when her dog had puppies. She called me one day to come over to help her give the puppies a bath, but my Dad said no since her parents weren’t home and he had a bad feeling. I still remember being SO mad at him, but I’m incredibly grateful he did say no because my best friend wound up in the ICU with deep gashes all over her body for over a month after her dog attacked her. It was incredibly scary for a time and she almost didn’t make it. She still has scars all over her body nearly 30 years later. All that to say: I completely understand why OP’s wife put her foot down on the dog coming with MIL to stay in her house, and she’s definitely NTA in this story. MIL should figure something else out to do with the dog for the time being if she has no other options for housing, and the husband/OP of that post should do some research regarding Rottweiler attacks and look at some pictures of what just one bite could do to his small children.

Boarding facilities are filled with illness and you cannot guarantee there will not be injuries due to other dogs.

@@Leviatiemily what about the damage the untrained 2yo Rottweiler could do to small children? That’s the crux of the issue in the story.

@@laurabee9788 uhm...I was only commenting on the boarding thing? That's all I was commenting about. She's valid in her opinion about the dog. They can put her up in a pet friendly hotel/motel while she/they figure out housing vouchers.

Agree. Everytime I see someone who is 'brutally honest", they can never handle it when someone is 'brutally honest' right back. They excitedly call people 'weak' or 'snowflakes' for being upset over their opinions, but they'll be the first to cry when someone pulls the exact same attitude back. I think the OP in the story was amazing for making light of things.

As someone who doesnt like dogs. I cant imagine my partner thinking id allow a dog in my house for his mom. His mom loves that dog. I dont care. I dont care how much youve hugged with it, how much its family. Its not. Its an animal, and not my problem.

Somebody with a chronic pain condition and have an animal lover or animals but especially dogs and cats. There’s two things. The first one is that I can absolutely see the valid points from both Jalen and Ellie, so I can definitely understand what you mean however, dogs in particular, but cats as well are very therapeutic animals. They used as therapy for a lot of people with chronic pain conditions as these conditions can be socially limiting, they can affect your mental health, quite seriously, and Direct for a proven science that if you have a dog or a cat or any animal that you can/really that is domesticated are you just seems to be in the home does actual evidence that proves that be able to sit with say a dog on your lap for next year, depending on the breed that stroking its fur releases, the phone feel good hormone which also acts as a kind of pain reliever, so there are a lot of people that have chronic pain conditions that used to have therapy animals as they can contribute so much for your life. They can sometimes also improve your condition in the sense that if this is OP’s mum. Obviously OP is married with kids so she’s going to be a slightly older lady having an animal with you basically sometimes gives you a reason to keep going when things might be getting on top of you in regards to your condition because you’re always aware of the animal needing your care and attention in order to survive. (obviously I’m talking about domesticated animals and in no way shape or form and no animal deserves to be abandoned, so any rehoming of a pet must be done properly, so that they are safe and well looked after) So that being said, I can completely understand why the mother doesn’t want to give up the dog, as it may actually be a huge beneficial therapeutic tool to help her even potentially around the house, depending on the training that the dogs had obviously if any as Opie didn’t make it clear. Ha ha, as Ellie said she’s not an animal person know what you typically want an animal dog or not in the house. The one thing I would say is the OP didn’t actually make it clear as to whether or not what he was suggesting was that she moving permanently. Oh, what’s the weather not she moving temporarily . If it’s temporarily then I don’t really see why some sort of accommodation couldn’t be made to help temporarily, and so she is able to get back on her feet or at least offered even if this means some minor concessions on both parties, i.e. and the dog isn’t left alone in a room with the children, and that’s only if it have a history like nothing in rupees story, suggested that the dog was problematic at all. Or they could come to some of the sort of compromise where you know she takes the dog out and the dog it’s her responsibility as it would be if she was living at home or around and that the dog is to stay with her at all times if you get what I mean, but again like I said, I do see both sides to this, and if you’re not a cat or a dog person then having somebody to stay at

The mom is the ah h e puts the dog over the safety of her grand children cause she knows her son will stick up for her, so she's not about to compromise. The son is doing his best his wife too since she is ready to compromise and take the mom in. Animals might be therapeutics but there are other ways and it shouldn't go over her grand children

Literally. I'd never allow a dog into my home. Plus if you haven't been able to train a dog by 2 years old, that dog needs to be rehomed to someone who can.

​@@Dani-Elle-Psychopath... 🤢

The bite did not break skin, nor did I have to get rabies shots, but the dog but me over the fence.

Yep. It's a shame so many people seem to lack the critical thinking skills to see that vagen propaganda is also a thing

True, but I believe they do grind up the male chick's when sorting them.

Goldies are such clowns. The pups to look out for are the tiny ones ... I have been attacked by tiny dogs, big dogs, no.

​@@amandagarcia2848 as an ex pinscher owner, EVERYONE was shocked when I said he only ever bit me once while he was having a nightmare, because they were all bitten by other pinschers, pomeranians, chihuahuas, Yorkshires etc 😂 my poor boy could have never been bothered to muster enough energy to bite someone else if his life was on the line

The most aggressive dog I’ve ever met was a rottie- broke through a window to chase kids getting off the bus. The owner was lucky and the dog didn’t get them before they got in the house, but he had to get bulletproof front glass windows to keep him from breaking through to get the kids. He had to replace the glass several times before getting the bulletproof glass because he would break it to chase vehicles and bite their tires as they rode down the street. You had to be super careful of any movements you made around him when you were in his house, or he would bite you. Just because you haven’t met any, doesn’t mean they don’t exist. I have met sooooo many goldies, I’m a house cleaner so I’ve been in many houses, the ones where they have rotties they’re guard dogs and can’t even be out when I’m there. The ones with goldies are my favorites. I’ve met tons of goldies and all of them were the sweetest dogs ever. I’m sure there are aggressive goldies, but they are bred to be family dogs. Regardless of the breed, the wife expressed that she has dog related trauma and doesn’t want to get one. Let’s add in the fact that dogs are smelly, they need monthly flea medication because they go outside and can bring those fleas inside, they shed, they lick their privates and then lick your face, their paws are dirty from running around outside in their feces and dirt so you have to mop more often, they can cause damage to the house, they bark and are loud, they can be unpredictable as with any animal, especially with kids, they could require surgery or have a lifelong disability or problem that requires expensive medication or treatment, they can cause damage to items or furniture, and they’re A RESPONSIBILITY, they have to get exercise and go on walks, you have to pick up their poo from the yard, you have to PLAY with them. The disabled mother isn’t going to be doing any of this. If she’s saying she’s not going to take on the responsibility of caring for both, that means the husband isn’t doing it, so the wife would have to take on the responsibility. Let me just throw out there that the trauma ALONE is enough to say no. The rest is just the cherry on top. Her trauma is valid, and people who haven’t been bitten or chased by dogs don’t understand the trauma that goes with it, or how it can give someone a full blown panic attack easily. Everything OP’s wife said was valid, and OP invalidating that is infuriating. He clearly doesn’t value the way his wife feels about the situation.

Ever since a golden was reactive with my poodle. He's been reactive to them and dogs with similar coats. I know he's not fixed and blah blah they're aggressive with balls blah blah. The dogs who are super reactive to him. Don't have balls. Overall he's a good boy and is getting better at not reacting. Ateast when I'm walking him.

Here In Denver a couple moved in a nice neighborhood with fencing around each yard and the couple had a 7 and 4 year old. The elderly neighbor next door had a rot that tend to get loose often but because the neighbors who always found the rot where adults and knew how to approach it they never seen it get aggressive. One day 2 months after the new couple am their little ones been living next door the dad in their backyard just put in a sit spin jungle gym toy in the back yard and the 4 year old was playing on it the 7 year old on the swing set and the dad just went inside to grab the phone and I guess the 4 year old spinning was driving the Rottie crazy because it jumped the fence mauled the side of the 4 year old the 7 year old trying to save his sister was bit in the face and died the 4 year old needed a lot of surgery and was on life support for a week. Rottie are temperamental as hell super sensitive to nervous reactions and are known for turning on their owners, plus untrained the wife was far from being an AH. I’ve seen more aggressive Rottweilers than I’ve even close ever seeing aggressive Pit Bulls and ive know a lot of pit owners through my 35 years of life and all but 3 of the well over a dozen had super friendly pits, but I’ve never met a friendly rot that their wasn’t a bunch of rules to be around it.

I understand 😢 I'm soon to be in a situation in the near future. I have two separated parents that both have fairly different but debilitating health issues. I myself, also have Fibromyalgia and other issues. I can barely get my small household to run with our income and both my parents just tell me that they're just holding on to "move in with me". Both have been equally terrible to myself and my sibling. Abandonment, starvation, physical and emotional abuse, and more. There's a reason why I don't spend much time with them. They only call or visit me for money (I don't give them) or to be their therapist for all the consequences of their actions. I have no idea what to do when this will happen. I know they'll do nothing but complain, and not take care of themselves or my home (rented)

At least nowadays there is so much resource info online. When I was 12 and began having to just care for myself, I was alone. Even at 17 the cops forged paperwork to protect my dad after he beat me and my therapist convinced me to call the police with her-mistake. This was all in the US after 2002 btw, so not even like 1960s or ST.

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This 💯 percent, the wife's trauma is a joke

The parent is choosing to be homeless. The wife is willing to let her live with them. She has every right to refuse to allow a large dog to live in her home (or any dog, for that matter). The mom can just find a temporary foster for the dog.

@Miss K The wife has a right to say who lives in her home. You're correct. In the husband's shoes, I'd respect her choice... right to a hotel or apartment with my mom until the situation was resolved.

@@Karamarika Have you lived with chronic pain?

@@1wolsk yes, for over 15 years.

I don‘t know where you are from, but in Europe (I don’t recall the exact country) there has been a pretty big scandal that they shredded chicken alive :( even with regulations and stuff, so anything is possible..

Lol um do both of you honestly think humans regularly eat this? Processed chicken is often stuff from bones, entire chicks are processed usually for pet feed. The only food I know of that is near a baby chick is Balut which is a baby duck and def not my thing. Like you can tell easily if you know about cell biology that nuggets are usually muscle, and McDonald's have even been all white meat for decades now. But even in the 90s, the dark and white meat nuggets were separately made.

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like not once did he use the phrase "so my dad and my other dad were at the..." ? lmao

Wrong, that is a big problematic breed that for one is untrained. Have you ever been around Rottweilers? Untrained and being around small children is a huge risk an even deadly risk for those kids. Rots are aggressive, temperamental and has only been around this slow moving older women not kids at all being it’s only 2 and MIL is the only owner it’s had. That dog is a huge responsibility, very costly, and a huge risk to the safety of the two small children

I immediately apologized and said “you’re probably gonna say something right? You can say it I’m sorry I don’t know why I laughed I don’t even know what’s happening right now” 😂😂😂 he was shaking like a leaf when he asked me to marry him

Totally agree. The wife is the only reasonable one. The husband is wrong to put his mother first and not his wife and kids, and the mother in law is unreasonable to think she has the right to move in with the dog. Other options? Find another place for the mother and dog. Pay for it. Go over there daily and OP YOU take care of her. Sorry not sorry.

AFAIK as I know the mother in law just rejected to move in without the job, and didn’t force her way to move in. The is wrong for downplaying her trauma because it’s just a dog(which is a very big deal to some and a very small deal to others), I wonder if any of the comments told OP that he is behavior is unintentionally wrong

I think some people are not aware of just how HUGE rotties are, they are my absolute favorite breed and I love them but they are huge and often don’t know their own strengths, especially if they’ve never been around kids, and even if besides that it’s crazy to think it’s okay to try and force your partner to allow a new animal into the house, animals are not for everyone especially large ones

YES! I was so frustrated on how Sam looked at it, as a woman who cant have kids this makes me so sad to see otherwise nice people not understanding a flipping f

I'm childfree by choice and male and even I think it's one of the most insensitive, invasive and idiotic questions to bring up, particularly given that women tend to bear the brunt of it. If someone doesn't have kids they either: - don't want to (for now or ever) and are often tired of having to explain themselves - want to but it's not happening and that can be very upsetting Sure, you're giving your honest opinion. Still an inconsiderate asshole. Shut up and accept that nobody asked for or cares about your shitty opinions. In my eyes, OP just shared an honest opinion right back