Shopaholic Could Lose Her House to Her Addiction | Spendaholics | Only Human 

Wishing u all the best on your journey

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure your mum would be proud that you're paying off your debt. Take care, Merry Christmas x

I'm very sorry you lost you Mom, good for you paying off your debt! Your Mom would be proud, have a merry Christmas xx

deborah gate thank you so much ☺️

Karen Lawler merry Christmas to you ❤️

So true

Jan Upczak at least she's doing something.. It will likely help at least a little

Agreed. She needs to do herself a bigger favor and stock up on Nicorette instead.

Jan Upczak I was just thinking the same!!!

You are not judging, your telling the truth.

Well said 🙌

Yes or they think they can only be happy with lots of things

I was one of them and it’s so true

somebody who uses a display pic as strange as yours shouldn't talk about others..

It's also a way to cope with anxiety even when you feel happy with your relationships and your life in general. There are people who are anxious because of childhood trauma and they know exactly what the problem is, but shopping gives them a momentary distraction.

I think it happens to alot of moms. The postive experience of spending time shopping together is mixed up with the act of buying things.

I would agree, some people live a very superficial life and can be shallow in certain ways but extremely compassionate and generous in others. Sometimes people just really don't see that the behavior of consumer culture is not healthy. That the life they are living through their superficial habits (expensive products, makeup, convenience, perfect or trendy appearance etc.) is not sustainable and can never lead to long term fulfillment or deep rooted joy, contentment and happiness. If the standard for fitting in and being welcomed is being up to date on every new trend, that's a miserable time. It isn't authentic human connection. The only way to fill our hearts with joy and to feel a sense of purpose, clarity, and direction... is authentic human connection. Expressing our emotions and perspective to others and having them listen and shows us they understand, they care and relate and that it doesn't make us weak. One of the most powerful ways for an individual to heal from a tragedy is to share their emotions with someone who understands or even gone through it themselves. If it werent for one choosing to be vulnerable, both miss out on a powerful opportunity to grow and heal through human connection. Also when someone asks "Whats your hobby", and you say shopping....then its kind of obvious there is a problem. You might go to the shop every once in a while to pick something up for your hobby but if your hobby is literally shopping... someone had to wake her up from the fantasy. Those two did it so gracefully and humbly, they were gentle when necessary and a bit more in her face when they felt she would be open to the message they were trying to send. I could see how they actually cared and listened, wonderful documentary. 5 stars, share it with your grandmother she will love this material.

@@HolographicCathawk Her mother has the same problem, except she can likely afford it.

And with the rise of pay later services like Klarna!

Marykris Uy. As a teenage i wasn't thin, but my mum always said it was puppy fat and i would lose it when i grew older, which happened. I would never win a beauty contest have a big nose and big ears, but do have confidence in myself.

especially as he probably wasn't paying rent

I really didn’t understand that whole thing. He was severely disabled, so they put him in foster care? I wonder if foster care is the same thing in the UK as it is in the US? That part of her story did not make any sense to me at all.

​@shastac1396 if his care needs exceeded what Mum can provide, he may have been surrendered to state/institutional care

It is therapeutic! I lived in a messy home due to the people I lived with. Now in my own space, I keep everything tidy and my anxiety is way down

Kria v true. Tidy house , tidy mind and it’s so true. When my house is a mess it stresses me so much x

Me too, everytime I buy something new I get rid of something old. I can fit all my personal possessions into one large suitcase.

I’m so happy for you!!!!

Smoking ànd anti ageing products, better involve móre Doctors!

Your right..those friends are just spongers..they don't seem genuinely concerned

You are my hero. I wish I could do that. That is encouraging.

Younger people are not as obsessed with makeup like back in the 2000s. A lot of em go with a pretty natural look.

Thanks for sharing this, albeit one mascara and a lipstick once in a while would hardly run anyone into credit card debt so Nicola just needed to find a few products that would work for her.

It's not a bad thing.We want to get the best for our money.

From time to time I love window shopping even in if it's in a store if they have items I know I couldn't afford because less chance of walking out with something.

I had a good friend that always said that she couldn't afford a holiday and I calculated how much she spent on cigarettes and she realised that she could go twice round the world each year !

@@TheFiown so she spent 7k on cigarettes?

@@jenjones90 A slight exageration but she smoked 40 a day and her husband smoked 60 ! thats almost 36500 a year or 1800 packs at about 4 euros ( France ) make over 9000 euros a year ! they didn't believe it when I tr'ied to tell them, people like that are in denial.

Stephanie Murray Wow! That’s amazing!!! Cigarette companies are exploiting us!

Stephanie Murray I wonder how much ppl spend on coffee an energy drinks

Yup

Help me with your number, you sexy red head, you..

Just change obsession to a saving mindset. Eventually the benefits will be your reward.

I like this idea, thanks

Every morning when you wake up you are looking at the future. I hope you have a long fulfilling life with a big savings account by 70!!

U too? I was helping my dying bro and friends who got 4 grand kids and helped til I was broke. Consolidate bills and have 4 more to go. Used stimulus to pay off 3 yayy

Me too😎

Minimalism changed my life!! So much happier

Your present and future will love you for it

Me too !

I'm proud of you. Good mindset.

She looks like Marion Cotillard

CHloE748 you’d think she’d make more than 30,000 as an IT supervisor no?

@@LuisaD93 it's also an old documentary though.

@@LuisaD93 yeah thats a lot over 20 years ago

Thought she was an it account manager, that can be it sales

The "Blood Sweat and..." tv series was a series that really opened my eyes to over consumption. There are many series now in the same vein. I think children should be shown them in school routinely. We can shop, spoil ourselves and have a good time but we need an awareness of how best to do it. I also think young generations need to be schooled on "global debt". It's far easier to have your debt wiped than it has ever been. Going "bankrupt" used to be something people actively avoided. I have watched a doco about young people having debt written off and their attitude was quite cavalier. Their philosophy was it was so much fun until it crashed down on me, I'll be inconvenienced for a time but I'm young and I'll recover. Not quite sure who they think is going to be responsible for the debt they didn't pay ?? Banks will just recoup by raising fees for everyone else. Teaching responsibility is key and kids need good role models in their life

Was it a big step for you?

Idk. My mom's spending made me into a cheapskate. 😭 Even though I love going to the store with her, I help (pester) her to not spend as much as she would if she was alone. But now she has figured out the internet... 😭

The deep crows’ feet in her 20’s accentuate it.

Charli May Thank you for your comment... thought I was the only one.😅🙈

I too thought that her ‘friends’ are enabling her- I mean genuine friends would sit her down and support her to address this problem that could potentially cost her the roof over her head and potentially her emotional and mental wellbeing if she can not address this issue.😟 Instead they sat there chucking about opting to change at her house because they know they can get something new to wear from her wardrobe...🤔🤨 #really

I thought 2 was enough 🤣

1 you only need 1

2 bikinis are plenty.. especially if you can mix and match..

Exactly

yeah and the tv and the quality of the doco

2005. Showed year in end credits.

this was 20 years ago and noone is going to buy a $5 top plus postage lol

Mish_ elle yes they will lol I buy stuff like that all the time on eBay lol 😂

Or give to a charity shop. You won’t get any money for them but you’ll be helping others out.

It's definitely helpful to be realistic and seeing things from the other persons point of view, not always putting them down or shooting down everything they consider buying for fear they will just impact your own spending habits... I've had a complicated relationship with budgeting and wanting to afford a life that I couldn't. My partner was helpful in showing me what was realisticly affordable and what wasn't, and I helped him to see what is 'normal and practical' spending that I shouldn't be scrutinized for as long as we're transparent with each other about our finances. It's helped me not to hide practical everyday purchases from him that i started being paranoid would agitate and upset him... he acknowledged that this was not a healthy way to treat our finances and we've both been able to be more honest and work on ourselves. We have a MUCH healthier and trusting relationship now. ❤️

You're right

Fat Mama Slade LMAO I didn’t not expect a big al reference here!

Omg 😂😂😂

My fellow hayders!!

😂

Hahaha

You are better off investing than savings. Bank don't give enough interests. Your money rotts at the bank.

Christmas shopping gives me so much anxiety.. I literally get hot and start sweating just thinking about it and I know it’s really stupid to feel like that

Ditto

I’m all out of enthusiasm for Christmas. I lost my beloved mommy last year and it’s just not the same plus it’s all same old , same old now. So much pressure and money and food and stress for one day and a Sunday lunch basically !

or just stay at home thats what i do

@@loulou7963 so sorry and sad for your lost . I will light a candle for you .

I think he is just making excuses for her.

He's a psychologist

@@cassieoz1702 to my knowledge, he didn’t have formal training for that

He’s a trained psychotherapist.

🌼I agree. I found their remarks about her being too young too use anti aging products baffling. Prevention is still better than the cure.🌼

I felt the same... 😂

YES! Finally! I was thinking this too!!

I totally agree. These experts seem a bit out of touch.

Until she heals herself she won’t be able to help others.

2005

Diana Fronsdahl you’d be surprised what women think are good looking eyebrows. Sometimes I wonder wtf my gf is doing with her upside smiley face line eyebrows lol

@@casedistorted i think part of it is once you do that to them, they take a really long time to grow back...lol. Even if you want to fix them, you can only draw in the missing bits! 😕 But that look just ain't it!

Eyebrows are not the be all and end all.

I was wondering if this comment would appear. To be honest, I believe this was filmed in the in the late 90s to very early 2000s long before eyebrows were "on fleek".

@@B_Bodziak yes, it was... Back when thin eyebrows were in... 😬 But it's not just that... It's those "arches"!

Watching this before I go Boxing Day shopping lol

Hee hee, thar's like me reading a slimming magazine while eating a Mars Bar!

Probably they slow down footage of her because she doesn't stay in one place long enough

musicfan2511 why does it matter?

I think it's called "batting"

No.