*SERIOUSLY!! WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU BRING ON NOBODY'S LIKE THIS DISGUSTING VILE INDIVIDUAL MAHDI!!!* I say this as a GUY!!! THIS GUY IS THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE OF WHAT OUR BELOVED PROPHET ESPOUSED AND STOOD FOR!! *LOST ALOT OF RESPECT FOR YOU MR Ali!!*
What sort of conversations are these? Is this a joke? Why do we need to debate about this? After watching your video, the men who actually do cook or clean, might not do so because of the negative influence and corruption you are spreading by these useless conversations. If a man doesn't clean his plate after he has finished eating, thats a child, NOT a man! You need to stop giving an illusion that all muslim men are tyrants at home. Where is the mens ettiqutte or good manners in islam. Men cannot walk home and demand things, this is not islam! It is common sense to clean up after yourself and good manners, and sunnahs of prophet. He was the most busiest man, and worked so hard during his prophecy, yet he still mended his own clothes and helped around. And you men work from home and say you are not lifting a finger. Shame on you'll. Also why is the term 'feminist' thrown around all the time? What does it even mean these days? What are you trying to achieve with using that term? Not one of them women on that panel are modern days feminists. Most muslim women are not modern day feminists. Stop throwing it around. Your videos are really painful to watch. You're not even having these conversatioms around the context of islam, but just on the basis of how you and some other men feel. Also stop bringing "I provide and protect so you have to cook and clean in return" in this debate. You are told directly by Allah swt that you must provide and protect. End of. You cannot hold that as ransome. You men defend women in islam by telling non muslims that women are highly respected in islam- but your conversations are giving the impression that women just clean and cook and thats the only reason she is married to a man. Phrase your debates better and make things clearer and do not lead people astray. I do not get a peaceful vibe from your videos @Ali Dawah. I don't know if its the way you speak, structure things or apply your own perspective into things... but its very negative..and doesnt make my imaan stronger, which i assume these videos should and that's your aim. Wallahi i need to stop watching your videos for my sake and Allahs sake. May Allah guide everyone to goodness.
@@mrsuperflyhigh1exactly sister... my blood is boiling with the sigh of this man, he makes me physically feel sick because he is a nasty man! Lost respect for Ali Dawah for bringing him along! ALI DAWAH what are you doing this man, is he a scholar? He is a sexual predator who loves promoting his haram marriages... the way he talks about with no respect... look mohammed hijab MashaAllah such a talented educated man, yet he is soo soft and respectful with women!!
I would help my wife. But, she should not have the expectation that I’m going to help her. I will do it because I love her not because it’s my duty. My duty is to Provide for the family and to help raise the kids.
Yes, my Dad never did anything! I was surprised when my husband was cooking and cleaning. I try to get it all done but I stop by the store and get home late so he cooked dinner. Is there a way to stop him?😂I work part time cause he sent the children to his home country because US has a bad influence on kids.
Married 5+ years with three kids, I think I am entitled to have opinions. My wife is main cook. However, when I am off from work I do house work and cook and look after the kids when she goes to university. It’s all about corporation and understanding and communicating. She makes my life easier and I try to make her life easier. There is no competition rather corporation. Don’t listen to outside noises rather solve your problems and make each other life easier. I love my wife. Stop this fake red bill and feminist ideology and treat with each other with respect and kindness and selflessness because the end of the day it’s about the kids.
yes, this is true . also pitting women against men is the treachery that ruins many people . Accept to get up before the dawn for your ibadah you need to put the basics of the deen and iman of the Quran before all this don't completely give up your entire religion . This said Ibrahim after going to sacrifice his son did not because it was wrong . Your family often takes president .
@@kojo2773 it's not necessarily about expectation but rather support for one another. If you love someone, you will be happy to support them in their role if they are struggling e.g. financially, if a husband is struggling 1 month, a loving wife will help cut costs, she'll cut demands not because she's obliged to but because she wants to help you when you're struggling. That doesn't mean you never spend on her anymore,never buy her gifts or clothes, but its that out of her good heart, she tells you not to ignore that stuff for now. Similarly, a husband should be willing to help his wife in stuff he is able to do. If he can't cook, then at least show support to clean sometimes, out of love for her and to help when she's struggling.
I grew up in a traditional household but I still saw my dad cook,clean, iron clothes, paint the house etc… not all the time but especially if my mother was doing a lot. Having a wife doesn’t equal becoming disabled and not being able to do basic life skills. We also had a timetable of chores both girls and boys had to help out. He literally told us that he doesn’t like how our culture only makes mothers and girls contribute to the house, my brothers have hands too
Is ur mom paying the bills? Is ur dad ur slave? He spends hours to make money for u to enjoy n then expect him to contribute in the meaningless job at home. Why did your mom not help him to provide and protect? What's a wm's role in a relationship? Are you an egg?
Hamdulah my husband is not like YOU guys ! I had 2 complicated pregnancies, cesarean section, postpartum, 2 tornado children, 2 years of breastfeeding, 2 years of lack of sleep. Fortunately my husband was there for the household chores, he does it himself when he sees that I am overwhelmed, I cook, but sometimes a pizza in the oven will be enough. so it has to be fluid and natural and don’t dare ask for help. We are not superhumans. later when the children are at school it’s easier to organize.
I used to sound like these guys when I was a little boy before i was married with children. Before I've seen my wife breast feed 3 babies, seen cesareans, plus cooks, cleans, teaches my babies and gives her body to me. Sometimes we are truly selfish and disgusting and I'm truly ashamed of who I used to be. Me building my business and making money is nothing compared to what she does.
Brother, it’s the fact the you realise shows how far you have come and have matured. These lots are still immature no matter how many children they have.
MashāAllaah thabarraak. This is growth in marriage from the male perspective. May Allah SWT Allow us all to appreciate our spouses, both husband and wife.
@@lamomahmood694 bro I'm not comparing. We're all powerful in our own way, male and female. But if you see a woman go all out that's when you learn to respect women deeper. You'll understand when you meet a sincerely devoted woman, that gives all of herself to please her family. The reason it's admirable is because no matter how much I try I could never be as selfless as my wife.
@@1090shaz Alhamdulillah. I have to keep it real, my wife is on another level in her sacrifices. I could never sacrifice as much as she does. But it's her selflessness that makes me go even harder, because if she's going all in then I'm going all in too insha Allah...
I'm not married but there is nothing wrong with a man helping his wife to cook, clean, look after kids. Helping her is part of the relationship, this is love.
I think the problem arises when one party is putting more effort than the other. If both spouses are appreciative and acknowledge the efforts that each has done i think marriages will be more successful. Also not being critical of the spouse. As long as the effort is there the outcome doesn't matter.
Hebr 1,2 Hath in these last days spoken unto us by his Son, whom he hath appointed heir of all things, *by whom also he made the worlds;* as everyone can see the term Son of God refers to the Word of God = god himself! For through that God created the worlds! *what a mistake in the Qur'an!*
@@khadsykoo2528 yes 100%. Some times the husband or wife may be tired and it's understandable if they have not got all chores done. They are people at the end of the day not robots. Marriage is a partnership or takes both parties to make it work and be understanding and lenient for it to work.
This is exactly why we need to take our knowledge from scholars! La hawla wala quwwata illah billah. It's scary how confidently some people espouse such ignorance. May Allah subhanahu wa taala guide us all, ameen.
As a single woman this video makes me cry, I'm already traumatize all my life serving the man in the house including my dad, brothers and uncles, to the point they could never know how to do the dishes. And when all of these man failed at work all the burden of providing for the house all end up to the woman, and I feel terified by these notion that a woman value is being a maid in the house with no voice what so ever 😢
@@abdullahnizar6784 some houses do make the women cook and clean and take care of them while they just sleep but i feel like taking caring of your father isn't a bad thing but your uncle you can do few things once in a while but unless your brother has a broken bone he should get up and help around
This is so sad treating marriage like a business, value here, value there. When you love each other you’ll do what it take to make the other happy and find compromise instead of fighting and forcing each other! I am not married yet, but I will not be against doing the houseworks as much as I can, even if I am working, and it will be really nice to see my husband imply himself in them too.
You don't make any sense. The girls wanted the husband to pay 100% of the bills and do household chores. They're pretty much saying the husband should shoulder 80% of the workload and receive 50% of the credit. Teamwork is 50/50 at all times.
@@DestroyerOffofc not I wouldn't be made if my husband payed like 70 or 80 percent of the bills and I would pay like the 30/20 percent of the bill just like I except to do that why font my man help me a bit not alot but like at least the dishes that's it !!! Or at least like one/two chorse in the house
Instead of viewing your relationship with your wife as a boss-employee dynamic based solely on a contractual agreement, it's better to consider yourselves as a team, with a strong sense of empathy towards each other.
Watching this made me internally rage. I do not think I could ever get married because I have next to no respect for men at all anymore. They actually disgust me as a woman and I think I might be single forever because of it. I can work and provide for myself and maintain a house on my own without waiting on anyone. I am so tired of toxic masculinity and catering to men's ego's and pride that I want nothing to do with them.
I had to stop watching. It was just the men complaining and the women sitting there not being heard. This disgusts me and gives me a bad impression of Islam or at least the men in it. Im actually so repulsed.
What I can say is how muslim people behave is not always how Islam teaches us and we are all humans and its perfectly normal for us sometimes to go astray hopefully we will find the right way In islam men and women are different and hence the difference in responsibilities Allah knows best so I believe in Allah's assignment in responsibilities
As a muslim man, I'm ashamed of what they are stating here. My mom raised me such that she never let me cook, I never ever polished my shoes till I started going to college. We are three brothers and have no sisters. We were good at school so she made sure that we don't get distracted. Then I went out for higher education and had to leave my city. I was alone then because my mom wasn't there for me and I learnt many things on my own. From youtube etc sometimes asking my mom why some things I made were not tasting good. Even now when I go back to my city my mom does everything for me. I have a huge respect for my mom and all the women out there. Especially, our Muslim women take so much care of us. Nikah is like getting into one team as our great teacher Prophet (S.A.W) showed us and set a good example for us. There are no hard boundaries in team. Everyone has each other's back whenever its needed. I don't see anything wrong in helping your partner.
Aisha, the wife of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), was asked, “What did the Prophet (ﷺ) use to do in his house?” She replied, “He used to keep himself busy serving his family (كَانَ يَكُونُ فِي مِهْنَةِ أَهْلِهِ) and when it was the time for prayer he would go for it.” (Bukhari) The word used in the hadith is mihnah (مِهْنَة), which is translated as ‘busy serving’ here, also means in the Arabic language ‘work’, ‘job’, ‘profession’, etc. This implies helping your wife in the house is a full time job as well. Whether it’s helping wash the dishes, cooking, cleaning, raising the kids, etc., is all part and parcel of being the ‘man’ of the house. The notion that it is somehow degrading for men to help and work with the wife around the house is foreign to Islam. In another report Aisha is reported to have said, “He did what one of you would do in his house. He mended sandals and patched garments and sewed.” (Adab Al-Mufrad graded sahih by Al-Albani) In yet another report it is said that she said, “He milked his goat.” (Ahmad) Hence, he did not find such things too ‘womanish’ for him to do. It is no wonder that he said, “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Tirmidhi; Ibn Majah)
@@coolerthetyrant7923 he's talking about a different word..check the spelling brother. The word the brother referred to literally means profession (which is another name for a job)..the word you're referring to means the explanation you've provided above. Avoid name calling Baraka Allah Feek
This is the only thing that need to be said on this matter. So thankyou for using proofs to make the most valid point! These guys have so much arrogance it is sickening astaghfirullah! May Allah Guide us all towards humility.
It is obligatory for a woman to take care of her husband's house, and serve her husband and his children in Islam. It is not obligatory for a man to help around the house
My greatest experience alhamdulillah is seeing the birth of my child. I was holding up my wife’s leg and telling her to push in the labour ward. That experience allowed me to appreciate mothers so much more. Alhamdulillah
That's how it should be. Some males want to act like the victims when the woman is the one going through the extreme physical pain. Have you seen those videos where males whine/scream when a period/contractions simulator is put on them? I pray there is a special place in Hell for males who don't support, appreciate and help their wives through this process that kills many women. Bringing a child into the world is worth more than anything they can do.
Brothers idk why it's so hard to relate to u guys who are born and bought up in the west. This whole thing about seeing the birth of your child is completely a western notion, it's not in any of the other places around the Muslim Ummah. In the old times or even recently in places that have not been westernised, the woman in labor will accompanied by midwife and her mother. That's it. That's how my parents and grandparents were born. The men wouldn't allowed inside until the baby's born. Even right now, most of my male family members will never be present during childbirth or rather they would be highly preferred not to by their own wives and mothers. I live in a place where there are people of other religions, and the strange thing is that this is not just a muslim thing it's practiced by everybody. Maybe it's a culture thing, maybe the western culture has permeated in your mind and religion.
@@dearrationals nobody's downplaying physical pain that a woman have to suffer during labor. Rather it's about this western notion of the husband being present during childbirth that is in question. This is a foreign practice that has never been mentioned by the prophet or the Qur'an. There's also a special place in hell for those who will twist or make up something that's not in Islam for some kind of an agenda.
@@Aamirmhmd99 you dont need to be present in the birthroom but at least have the human decency and show that you care and are excited and thankful. She has one of her most critical and emotional moments in her life and this shaytan faced dude is talking like he couldnt care less went to sleep. She could die or your children could die or want you to be around when the child is born. What kind of antisocial behavior is this? What are you people? People like you only bring fitna. You people act like you never learn social mannerisms and dont know how to be a spouse.
@@Qwertyuiop-xz3kj i get your point but we don't know the situation. His wife was giving birth at his home, a mid wife was present there maybe he just dozed off for sometime. For instance when my mother had me, my father was outside. It took like 6 or 7hrs until I was born. U can't expect him to stay awake for all the time. He could've dozed off during that time. And my mom didn't have a problem with that, she understood it naturally. In fact every birth in my family has been like this. The process of birth takes hours and the men will be present outside. Once the baby is born a nurse or a midwife will bring it outside, will give it to them and then take it back. And then after a few mor e hrs only will the men be allowed inside permanently. In fact people other faiths also do this in my country. Maybe this is a western problem, not a muslim one. But if he didn't care about his wife, Allah will punish him for certain in this life or in the here after.
@@Unknown-mi9xd nope i don't wear tight trousers nor jeans, a traditional shalwar that covers my ankles, poor attempt at throwing blame at someone else
Guys trust me i swear, helping your Wife, Sister or your mother in the kitchen or anything, dont be ashamed to help them, just asking if they need help or trying to help them, makes them Respect you even more, Help your wife, Sister or mother guys there is nothing to be ashamed of.
People seem to underestimate how hard it is to watch after children especially those with special needs. A regular job seems like a holiday next to it let’s be honest.
What is a regular job? A special needs kid is an awful lot of work, but so is majority of jobs. All the men in my family died early, bcs of scarred lungs, basically suffocating to death, bcs of the work they had to do for their wifes and kids. Bad backs, rough hands and dried out skin. Most men don't work in cozy offices with coffee and whatever.
This video is so damaging to the Muslim community. As a Muslim, I am so embarrassed that non-Muslims now have a peak into this lowly and degenerate problem that we have: men who are unable to look at their wives as human beings who deserve compassion and empathy. Here we are, calling our wives as “maids”, inviting a man who has restraining orders from his ex-wives and children due to abuse to give advice about marriage. And we wonder why people say Islam oppresses women. You heard it here from their own mouth. Wal iyathoobillah
Unfortunately I was shaking my head every time this brother guest in the middle spoke.. extremely embarrassing.. Allah has given us sisters so much beautiful blessings being Muslims.. the sister who spoke about the reward of looking after her husband, beyond what is expected of her, is the type of view we need to share to both Muslims and non Muslims.. but this brother who speaks of his wives as purely what he gains, as if Allah has made a wife's life with no enjoyment or beneficial to her life outside her responsibilities to her husband and children isn't islamic.. his mouth is why non Muslims think Islam is made for men..
I agree. They should not make such videos that make the religion look terrible. Representing muslims the wrong way and this with so many views, people will get really a bad idea. May Allah protect us. Protect us for showing things like this for RU-vid views…
There’s a brother in this video who was abusive and has abandoned at least 2 of his children. The ummah hide secrets and ppl like him are in these positions giving out terrible advice.
@Olivia Silvera I don't understand why he was brought on to even talk.. a conversation without Islam being the foundation, is damaging to us as Muslims and feeds into the negative view non Muslims have about us.. 2 of the brothers being divorced, but talking about marriage subjects.. very disappointing, when there could be good knowledge for us on this large platform brother Ali has..
This is extremely heartbreaking 💔 why is it so hard for the man to help the woman out? It baffles me. We both work...I work 50 hours a week, cook, clean and handle all duties while he sits around doing no household chores. I'm exhausted and he still doesn't care when I shut down. I'm completely unattracted to him because of his laziness
I felt really sad watching this video, because our Muslim men have come to the point of making going to work such a big thing. All I heard was "if I go to work...blah blah blah". When I was growing up, men of my father's generation went to work and didn't make a big issue about it. I never once heard them say "i go to work" because they knew that's what they did as men, provide for their families. And they worked very very hard! What has society come to? So sad!
I understand what you are saying, but men back then was proud to go work and it was a normal thing because traditional roles existed and was the normal thing. The men would go to work and would a have wife to come home to who looked after the kids and cooked and cleaned. Traditional roles is frowned upon todays society unlike before when men used worked like it was normal and didn’t need to mention it. Men are starting to mention it now specifically because they are still expected of being the traditional providers and working but when they want a traditional wife who cooks and cleans it is frowned upon. Therefore they must mention “ If I am going to work…..” then they want a wife who will play her part of the traditional dynamic between husband and wife. If it was still like the old days when men would have traditional households by default then they would never need to mention the fact about working today. That is the difference between your fathers generation and this generation. It’s the same as saying women of your mothers generation cooked and cleaned the house and didn’t make a big issue about it. It works both ways and the issue is double standards that causes these problems. Women want to marry a traditional husband who protects and provides but get offended or upset by the idea of being the traditional wife.
And they worked harder than any of these podcast wife be*ters do... none of these men could even bare a day of the hard work that my father did b4 he retired and still does work part time. He would also help with the household chores as much as he cud...and as I live on my own, he even helps me out with bits and bobs though I've told him not to...alhamdulillah proud to have a real man as my father... these kids... including Ali bro who invited an actual ab*ser... can't hold a candle to my father... all bunch of drama Queens that need to clout to hate on women...
@TheNiaz55 you keep deluding yourself with that bro... Women, especially in our ummah are still brought up with the idea that they will be doing the housework and looking after kids... in most households... even in kafir households women still do major amount of the so called traditional feminine role... difference is that many have to work now cos one person working is not enough... yet men will still expect to not be the ones who shud help out in the house cos its not their role... even though they hardly work as hard as our fathers did...in much more difficult conditions and actually used to do a lot more in the house. You are probably someone who is still fed by their mother or sister...yet is thinking that your future wife will not unfortunately replace them... cos she will know that she will get stuck with the double burden to support you financially cos your job isn't enough to keep up with the cost of living but still find time to cook and clean for u... up your game in supporting her...and she will happily be the "traditional wife" And even then don't forget that your job will be limited to 40hrs tops .. hers will be 24 hours 7 days a week...with no weekend or holidays especially after birthing your kids
Husband here: I never do dishes I never cook unless its for fun and enjoyment. My wife does everything in the house. I do nothing but chill at home and earn money outside and fix things in the house .
"Happy marriage leads to a happy life. Husband and wife are like hands and fingers; they work together as a team, helping each other in all aspects of life." 💯💯
I understand why Shakeel stayed quiet the whole time and said he feels like none of this is conversation is applicable to him. That’s because a man who is of high value who thinks of his wife as a person he genuinely loves and respects (not a literal maid, as one of them said) can not even imagine having these kind of lowly discussions about her. The 2 with the most angry things to say both have the most trouble with women - it figures. Please bring men with happy family lives only into a discussion like this.
his entire point was she should be cleaning and cooking and he shouldnt have to have a debate with her when hes doing his part and you completely missed the point lmfao you're just dumb he agrees with the other 2 on everything, you just let ur feelings control you. they havent said a single thing Shakeel didn't agree with, in fact, he was always joking with them and nodding at their points lol
I thought the brothers were saying nothing wrong, its there thoughts. I think our sisters appreciate the men their lives, we too quickly think evil and bad of them rather then make excuses for them, at times we are very petty and drag a issue too long
You men were BORN from the suffering pain and blood of a woman, so how dare you ever disrespect any female in your life? Where's your humility & gratitude? God commands men to be responsible for all wife's expenses. She is allowed to work & keep all her money herself. Why? If you had to go outside services to pay for sex, pay for pregnancy, pay for breastfeeding your child, pay for cooking, pay for cleaning ... all that adds up to more than your salary if you had to pay an outsider for this. Your wife does all this for FREE, yet you're ungrateful to her?? You can't repay your mother or your wife for all the good she has done for you. The best men are those who are best to their mother, sister, wife, and daughter.
My father works 44 hrs a week and he still cooks, cleans , do laundry and tutor my siblings and I. He doesn't complain at all. He taught us how to clean in certain way and what ingredients to use for cooking. At the same time make sure we did not fail at school.
Sister with all due respect what does your mother do the if your father Handles everything, sit an look pretty. Allah has set the roles what your father is doing is asinine to me. Please educate me if you believe otherwise.
@Mirror she does everything around the house and taking care, managing the household. She took care of my sibling and I. She doesn't like anyone to disturb her while cooking or cleaning that's when my dad help. And she's working too.
I work and also help my wife with the house chores. Specifically, the 2 toilets in our house and all the other parts of the house, vacuum/mop the floors etc. My wife helps with the laundry and cooking. She serve me drinks and food when I came home from work and when we have lunch and dinner. I am lucky to have my wife and of course she is lucky to have me as well! :)
you are a decent and good man. My dad is same way as you. may Allah guide others to not be so selfish and transactional with their partners regardless of man or wife.
A also pray to Allah to protect us (men) from women who prioritize their careers over their family, who refuse to fulfill their duties as a mother and wife. Amin. You say Amin too.
I agree, and from a woman's perspective, seeing the men's opinions about certain things, I was like "Woah, is it really necessary to say that?", some of the things they said were just really badly constructed. Like I get where they're coming from (kinda) but still really embarrassing as a whole.
They said nothing wrong. It is obligatory for a woman to take care of her husband's house, and serve her husband and his children in Islam. It is not obligatory for a man to help around the house - If anyone has a problem with this go learn and study your religion instead of speaking from feminism and your desires. If a man has a good wife that fulfils his rights, by default he will be more inclined to help her, though it is not his responsibility. So if you want a man to help you out of love, then fulfil these mandatory rights like being obedient to him, etc.
Most divorced women I have spoken to have told me the main reason their marriage ended was because they were doing everything while their husbands did nothing. They were fed up of being treated like a maid
As chef for 30 years who loves to cook I have also teach my wife how to cook when she didn’t know, also when she was pregnant with my kids I did all the cooking, shopping, school which made her life much easier, I’m sorry but these guys are using 1800 methods to justify their toxic behaviour by treating their wife’s like a second class citizen smh
I've been married for 6 years now and i always help my wife with chores. This is sunnah btw. I married her because i love her not because i wanted someone to clean my house. I would have stayed single and gotten a maid in that case. To each his own i guess.
This is why marriage scares me. Growing up with a father who wouldn’t even clean up after himself, let alone do housework (bear in mind both my parents worked full time), I really thought that was the mindset of the older generation. I’ll stay single forever thanks.
It is obligatory for a woman to take care of her husband's house, and serve her husband and his children in Islam. It is not obligatory for a man to help around the house - If anyone has a problem with this go learn and study your religion instead of speaking from feminism and your desires. If a man has a good wife that fulfils his rights, by default he will be more inclined to help her, though it is not his responsibility. So if you want a man to help you out of love, then fulfil these mandatory rights like being obedient to him, etc.
@@shadowstorm5261 I don't think anyone said otherwise. I'm a wife of 26 years and have 4 grown children. My husband is amazing works hard and we run our business together, and I work with him just as hard as he does, I do it to help my husband as he has no family here. I still am a wife and mother though and still run the house hold. My husband is the leader and I do the cooking and cleaning aswell, he treats me like a queen, because he appreciates it. I don't have to help him! I do! Because he is my husband and father of my children. He wants a coffee, I make it! As I expect my husband to protect us! It's not an us verses them. Both men and women need to stop this angry your job, his job stuff. We do everything for Allah! We need to be nicer. Man and woman should complement each other. That's why we were created differently. I pray Allah swt keeps us away from the fitnah of this dunya, and keeps us on the straight path. 🤲 May Allah bless you.
Every man should learn how to do housework and cooking because there were times where your wife might not be available and it's a skill that is necessary
I enjoy helping my fiancée around the house because she does so much for me that it leaves me wanting to find ways to reciprocate and make her life easier the way she does for me and if all it takes is 20-30 minutes of cleaning the kitchen after dinner and hanging up some laundry that’s a cheap price to pay to keep the positive cycle going.
I grew up watching my mom do mostly everything around the house because my dad is all day at work, but still, my dad used to make them both breakfast if he wakes up before her, if he see's that she needs help with him around he would get up and help, and he did all the physical stuff around the house (pipes, electricity or whatever), i wish i could get half the happiness they have and imma be fine, also i think most importantly they never slacked in helping eachother or complained, also mom never asked him to do any cleaning or cooking EVER.
@teaspoon Mashallah bless your beautiful parents and may Allah give them shifa and long life. Marriage is about being caring loving supporting and protecting each other. thank you for shearing your amizing family story.
Maashallah that is beautiful. We have hadith of the prophet muhammad peace be upon him would work around the house and help out in household. Why is it so difficult for men to understand?
As a very traditional wife/mother who contributes financially to the family (for extra things that would be considered luxuries) AND happily manages the entire household by herself, these male guests disgust me. It’s not what they’re saying it’s their attitude and manner, with such lack of Adab especially in front of females. I will go above and beyond for my husband because I RESPECT him. If you want a woman to treat you like a king, start with respect. If a woman doesn’t respect a man she will never be happy to serve him.
For context I’m Australian so I don’t know any of these people aside from br Ali (whos mannerisms I respect) and I hope this is not a representation of men in the uk.
@Zeedan of course as soon as a sister don't agree with the nonsense she is called feminist or being emotional, plz we can control our emotion don't treat us like idiots 🙄 Apart from Ali dawah yes i agree with the sis these men are disgusting, their message their attitude literally everything, they think they are better, they think they are smarter and somehow with the perfect reaseaning, no that's not how msridage works, no wonder why Mahdi tidjani got divorced 2 times and have restricted orders done against him and his kids, the way he talk says it all and the others laughing like it's a comedy show it's even more pathetic and childish, can't even talk like mature adults men, can't deliver an idea without actually making fun , just a horrible episode
@@bintermanno idk anything about mahdi, but whatever those guys said wasn't disrespectful or disgusting. What they said was as men we will help our wives willingly, but we must not be expected to do so. Rather we do it because we want our spouse to be at ease, get comfortable and be loved. There are a lot of issues that men face, such as the brother who's afraid to get married but those issues are not being addressed properly. This will cause a lot of men to go to other places, it's only happening in the west to all the people who reside there, not just muslims. Eventually all the women there at the panel agreed, so do u have problem with them too?
@Zeedan the WAY you say things matters a lot. Things can be taken out of context easily and in Islam we have to be careful with our tongues. Yet here you are being harsh and generalising women. Islam teaches us to be careful what comes out of our mouth. The sister is correct in her point and you’re getting emotional over what she’s said
@@zalyworld1904 They are right if wife don't wanna provide anything for family why would a man marry woman just for having sex and making babies ?So don't get mad when anyone says women are baby making machines because that's what most Muslim women now days want to do they don't want to anything else........
The most sad thing I came across the internet was a young Muslim man calling a sheikh a simp because he said the truth about how Islam told us to relate with our wife. And Muslim young boys accepting when a man cheats it’s not cheating and a woman cheats is cheating 😭no wonder the prophet cried for this ummah. Love each other with no limit respect ur spouse do what makes each other happy❤️😭am saying this Wallahi while crying because the things happening is scary Wallahi😭😭
I think the Muslim youth are going woke on the obligations in marriage. It’s not black and white, it’s about having empathy for each other and helping each other.
It's muslim women who started the gender war of rights and obligations. It all started with women saying they're not obliged to cook and clean. Now men are also saying we're not obliged to do this and that.
And regarding this matter, I want to say that: Do you knon what else the majority of scholars said aside from the wife not being obliged to cook and clean. They said: 1- The husband isn't obliged to pay for her medical treatment, doctor's fee and her medicine. 2- The husband isn't obliged to answer his wife's invitation to bed. The wife only has right to intimacy once and only once every 4 months. 3- The wife is only entitled to two garments of clothing each year. 4- The husband isn't obliged to oay for his wife's funeral preparations.
My dear brother Ali, my sincere advice to you, may Allah bless you, is that please don’t bring people on these platforms that could be a harm to the people by giving their own opinions which is nothing based on islam. Many youths might be listening to these shows, please only bring people of sound knowledge, learned men who have spent their lives studying these things, not any person who has a platform on social media. It could do more harm than good and you would also be held accountable. Also another advice is that I think the people here (mainly brothers) should speak a bit more respectfully and a bit more formally rather than speaking a lot of slang. Nothing wrong with slang, just not on these platforms. Let’s set a good example and standard, especially for our youth. Barakallahu feekum.
Super heartbreaking!! Three muslim men, thinking that muslim women are only here in this dunya to cook, clean, and taking take of their children. Super DISRESPECTFUL!! THIS IS NOT HOW ISLAM SHOULD BE.
This is a debate also within the Christian community. Gender roles are being screwed and twisted especially in this generation. Honestly, the way these men responded was very insensitive and outright selfish.
Watching this made my blood boil, its really sad to think his wife gave birth alone instead of being by her side supporting her. I hope these young men soon realise how wrong they are!
That so sick 😮 ! His wife was in labour pain and he didn’t come to room to hold her hand?? I’m polish my husband it’s Pakistani born (Jhelum city) When I go to hospital for to delivery room he was there holding my hand,pass megas (air oxygen to reduce my labour pain and even cut umbilical cord (of course my midwife ask him if he like to do so) 😊 with our second child unlucky he can’t be in delivery room he was working in another city so boss won’t let him close outside stall to come to me because there was no other worker available and driving motorway take another 40,45 minutes to reach our city but his sisters was there he was calling asking if I’m fine if baby is fine, our third baby born 6 years later even we fight ,disagree about lots of things I remember he asked me if I like he come to delivery room week before labour day I said yes but we fight few fays later and in angryness I told him to no come to delivery room even after this hurtful words he hear from me he still make to come over hold my hand in hospital during labour support me and sleep on chair till morning even we are from 2 different country’s he still try to make it right way and yes that right some Pakistani man don’t to house chores my husband working all day he no pick up his plate after finishing food he no do washing by him self and he won’t do hoover around house either 🤷🏻♀️ I’m at home all day what other work I have to do than hoovering cooking washing look after kids ?? He helping from time to time with our boys shower’s or make them sleep it’s still better than man who sit after work and just wait doing nothing because no all European boys are helping either and them wifes partners need to go work 1 person can’t manage all these needs unless he is well educated and have good paid job specially in UK so all this things depends on man character and how his mother or both parents taught him if he wasn’t taught this things as kid or teenager how can aspects he will do those things as adult 🤷🏻♀️
Is it an Islamic obligation or something? In my community men aren’t even allowed around when women are giving birth. The mothers and midwives take care of that. Her Mom and my Mom are much more empathetic to her situation than me.
As a british muslim man, i think this content can do more harm than good to the youth, as adults we kinda know how things go, marriage aint easy for sure, but you have quotes like "lucky i was broke then" when a guy is getting divorced twice, with no context on what or how his marriage ended up, what message does this send to the youth? Be broke just incase it doesnt work out? Man are talking about wife(s) when as a nation we cant even fulfill the rights of one, we need to focus on the real topics here, cleaning our hearts and being good believers And belittling nations based on a stigma is wrong, and creates disunity, not a moroccan but think that was a bit harsh, go there, spend time there, their women aren't waiting for men, the men there are real men. Agree with a lot of the points on rights of husbands, working, providing, but we also attach this roadman approach, if this is a dawah page and a none muslim stumbles across this, theyre gonna think wow, these lot dont know whats going on, but also could think that okay we are similar. But still, unity is important.
I live in Morocco and I'm here to say, Moroccan people aren't waiting for a WesternMuslim to save them by marrying them. In fact, most cases the ones I've met or know of that married someone from the west doesn't practice outwardly. So basically, they want the total Western lifestyle.
Subhan’Allah- it’s nice to come across a brother with similar thinking. I’ve been saying this for a long time to a few lads of mine that want 2nd wives, when there isn’t even stability with their first one. I think this desire is an illness. Living in the west and with how finances and the environment works here, multiple marriages is extremely difficult - but this desire isn’t being pursued for the correct reasons. Men that want 2nd wives are doing it completely from a sexual and shallow perspective, which shows they are still eyeing women and haven’t matured in their purpose here. One who is living for his purpose knowing that life is temporary is not going to be fixated upon sexualising pretty vessels, this is a sickness and stems from ignorance of purpose. But I mean being ‘in the west’ and living amongst kuffar, it’s hardly a surprise. Women wanting complete freedom and similar to men lifestyles in that they want to dress how they want, go where they want, are arrogant and are pursuing careers - don’t marry such women. It’s as simple as that. There’s no point complaining about such women as they have to learn the hard way, once they’re older and realise why no decent man wants to marry them, they can either change or fall further into their illusions. But men really need to think larger than just their private parts. I think the largest problem today is arrogance, ego and ignorance. People are very uneducated about Islam and are full of ego and arrogance, and that really isn’t helping the state in the West. I know of practicing people that inhibit such bizarre levels of ego and arrogance, it’s really quite ironic.
Thankyou for your comment. This is a disease of the heart these days. The way these men are speaking to these women also is so disrespectful as if every woman is Now a "man hating feminist".. This is not the case! They are muslim sisters! They should have some respect and lower their gaze and stop show boating and talking complete waffle! There is too much disrespect from Mahdi and Ali and the other bald headed road man directed at these sisters and they have no right to speak to them in the way they are!! It is appalling to watch. Mahdi brags about the low down way he treats his wives.
These men are a shining example of why it is important for women to join the workforce - to call men out on their bullshit when they make it seem like their work is a lot harder than taking care of a home or that they're doing something women can't. Also, her money is her money. There needs to be an acknowledgement that if she is contributing to the household, thats a charity on her part.
When you are doing anything good for the sake of Allah, you never lose. No matter the gender or what the “chore” is. Help for the sake of Allah, do things for the sake of Allah and at the end of the day you’re the one who’s winning.
It is obligatory for a woman to take care of her husband's house, and serve her husband and his children in Islam. It is not obligatory for a man to help around the house - If anyone has a problem with this go learn and study your religion instead of speaking from feminism and your desires. If a man has a good wife that fulfils his rights, by default he will be more inclined to help her, though it is not his responsibility. So if you want a man to help you out of love, then fulfil these mandatory rights like being obedient to him, etc.
To hear that brother say he would just replace his wife with a maid really shows me how men really just view us as disposable maids...really discourages me from seeking marriage..so disappointing
@@sarahj-hc5uc I guarantee that most jokes dont have much truth in them and Mahdi (the guy who made the joke) knows a enough about Islam to know how to respect women furthermore your first comment only refers to some men so you cant say "shows me how men really just view us" because most actual men would never view their woman like that.
This is absolutely disgusting why are they acting like they will be doing us a favor if they marry us i would rather stay single than marry a man with this sick mindset its not about feminism its about marriage is about sharing you cant just expect your wife to do every single thing if she isnt tired you also live in that house which means you should help around without her asking without her being tired and all that its just basic human decency and the dude saying most women want to be “put in their place” like what? This is absolutely sick fix your mindsets please marriage is not about a woman serving you its about sharing and love
It's ok sister, inshallah you won't end up with a mama's boy. Pray to Allah. And tip, if you ever need to dodge one, just ask him what he thinks of that one hadith they discuss here. Also, don't fall for the pseudo-religious type, with the misbaha in hand in public and prayer callouses. Just things that I watch out for
Bringing a child into this world is straddling the line between life and death - for both the woman and the baby. It is the greatest miracle one can see in life and it is also immeasurably painful and traumatizing. Any man who loves his wife would know this is THE moment she needs him most. I don’t care if women midwives are better able to know what they’re doing, yes of course, they’re the professionals - but my husband is my rock and I need him there beside me to share this moment. Ali, you did good by being with your wife, don’t let these fools make u feel anythin else
All men should strive to emulate the Prophet PBUH and follow his sunnah. Did the prophet do this when he had his children? This notion of husbands being present during childbirth is a very recent western concept. It's highly likely none of our ancestors did this nor did their women demand this practice. This practice became common due to the destruction of joint families in the west. I get that u want your husband to be there, but u know sometimes some men do not want that or they're squeamish about blood. Doesn't mean that they don't love or care for u.
@@Aamirmhmd99 the Prophet pbuh also did not drive cars, does that mean we shouldn’t drive cars? Please leave that argument to religious matters not something as simple as being a hospital room.
@@alaweeezy What is a car? It's a form of wheeled transportation. Before cars people travelled on animals and animal driven chariots, caravans, carts etc. The predecessor of cars are animal driven transport. These kind of questions are not very bright. The Prophet's sunnah is there to followed to your best of abilities. When it comes to matters of major importance like marriage, family, justice, war etc we must follow what the prophet did and said.
That is more realistic and practical...scholars give laws and rules and ideal situations. But these young people talk in practical sense and daily cases, and what they feel. They dont give fatwaa but talk what is on people's mind in reality. That helps ppl form an opinion. Whoever is a good Muslim, will remain within shariah.
@@abyzayd2022 well in that case you should take advice from people who have had a successful marriage at least not the ones who failed because of their sheer ignorance. Besides, what makes you think scholars have no practical experience?, in fact they have more since they usually advice and meet a lot of people with different backgrounds, situations and problems, and most of the time scholars are married as well. You sound desperate bro.
@@primeminister1040 why do u make it personal? I sound desparate? How do u know that? Dont use ur emotions. Nobody said, dont ask scholars or their opinions dont count. Why cant we have conversations among each other and should always be with a scholar? As I said before, scholars talk formal language and formal cases and general advices. Young ppl exchanges their experiences and feelings feels more natural and ppl get connected easier. Not every conversation should be about fatwaa and rules. Besides, if u only invited successful ppl, then it will give a wrong image of the reality. Nice ppl talking nice things and give advices that will not work for many others. It is a matter of personality and difference in character.
Nowadays, there's a dishwasher, robot vacuum cleaner, and washing machine. Why would they discuss it? I'm married for 20 years, and my husband didn't cook for us even once. But he invites me out to the restaurant twice a week. It's all agreement between two.
the ummah has left its scholars and now the uneducated, uncultured Islamically, have taken over. Always learn Islam from those who have a high level of knowledge and good character, May Allah guide us to his pleasure.
“Just do the damn dishes?” - Is this how this brother talks to his wife or any human for that matter? I'm embarrassed for him - Did his parents not teach him how to talk to people or any manners? Clearly not. Also, I get that everybody has their own personal preference as to whether they should be there at their child's birth but it's actually sad listening to these brothers' responses. It just goes to show they haven't matured yet know matter how many kids they have. Wallah, this makes me so grateful for my husband. May Allah swt preserve him.
@@ijustwannacommentnotmyreal9814 Sister, none of us are perfect and there is no such thing as a perfect spouse or marriage. Pray tahajjud and make dua to Allah. These men are the perfect example of what you should not be looking for in a spouse.
@@ijustwannacommentnotmyreal9814 other than prayers and basic ibaadah, I think someone who's kindness and honesty stands out is really important for me
Why do these men feel so entitled? Do they think they are better than the prophet s.a.w? He used to serve his family and himself when in the home and also protected his wives if need be and he had 9 of them! He never spoke about women like how these guys are speaking. Frankly they are not men, they are little mamas boys who want to get married to a woman to mother them, sorry that's not how it works.... Just like I said to my mother in law once "auntie, he is your son and you love him, I also love him, but I am not his mother, I am his wife"
As a man, it is important to cook not just for myself but for the family also. The woman has to cook, if she’s can’t.. then you should teach her. You should treat others with respect and equal amongst them. Yes, men should cook and clean as well as women. It is fair. Men should look after their wife. Personally, if I had a wife, we would be cooking, cleaning together, and respect each other’s opinions and boundaries. I’m just 18 right now
Reading the comments I have, it is great to see people recognise that marriage is a partnership, a collaboration. We are micro-managing here and most of what's being said sounds very tit for tat -- e.g. if I work, you do 100% of the house work or I will only contribute towards the house IF you do this...what is this? Where there is mutual respect and compassion?? you'll, without any complaint, will contribute for the sake of your partners relief. The best way to judge someone is how they behave when you can't benefit them in any way.
So many of these men view marriage as: Marry Have a wife to be intimate with Have many children Food served & clean house Financial control Wife is a housedecor/robot whos only there for your needs or to raise your children Like women are only there to please you and dont have a life, feelings and friends. And putting mehdi in this podcast is absolutely disguisting as someone who has admitted to abusing both of his wives and can’t see his eldest child because he abused the child too. Is this someone we want men to listen to and take advice from?
@@Melakii_1you are just strawmanning Muslim men because they expect the wife to do majority of the household chores, no normal person is calling the wife a robot maid.
My grandmother widowed young and my dad, 4 uncles and 3 brothers all are comfortable and happy to do housework, cook even when they worked and my nephew has been taught the same. My husband wasn't allowed to lift a finger before we got married as his mum said it was shameful for her sons to do housework. Alhumdulillah he had my dad as the role model, and when I became ill the first time, he stepped up. He cooks, cleans, hoovers and does it all and never complains, he's extremely proud of it too. He helps me change bed sheets as well and has never complained, Ma'sha'Allah tabarakallah. We both work full time and live in our house, we know our responsibilities and are fluid with whats needed where. It beggers belief there's ppl who don't think men shouldn't do housework when it's a beautiful sunnah of our Prophet PBUH. 16 years going strong Alhumdulillah because we don't care for ppls opinions if it's in the quran or sunnah their voices are muted for us.
@@Biekoea husband and wife can have teamwork by doing their rightful duties. They don’t have to do the same duties as one another. The man should go out to work and the women should stay home taking care of the house. The women should not have expectations of her husband helping her with the housework. But if the man wants to help then that’s his choice. In regards to raising children it’s both of their duty.
When i gave birth to my 5th Child, my Husband may Allah reward him, he did everything, watch after the older Kids, clean , i just cooked and afterwards he did the dishes, we dont have any family near us, so there was no other way. Normaly i would never want my working husband to do house chores.
Allahumma barik. It's great that your husband helps you out of his own will. May Allah reward him. But it gets problematic when the feminists who believe they got ZERO responsibility for anything, turn it into an obligation on husband's part by misquoting hadiths out of context. This is a violation of the rights given by Allah.
Well done for not wanting your husband to do house chores. You are in your feminine and you will succeed in thjs manner. Husband and wife should stick to their biological natural roles.
Me and my wife do the same. Whenever she gives birth I have to step up and take care of my family and that includes washing dishes, cooking, vacuuming and taking my older kids to bed.
@@JH-lf4ql yes it is exactly that and my wife loves my masculinity and I love her femininity. And my other wives will be the same insha'Allah no bs feminism just feminine
Gender roles are clear. What we forget in these kind of debates is we talk about rights and obligations. As a Muslim we should push for Ehsaan. Because that's the next level. If a husband willingly helps around the house may Allah accept him going out of his way to make his family comfortable. Similarly if a wife can help ease husband's financial burden then she should do it if she can. This is the attitude of a Mohsin. We should aspire to be that rather than doing the bare minimum in rights and obligations.
"We should aspire to be that rather than doing the bare minimum in rights and obligations." Love you for this. You are entirely right. At the end of the day we are faulty humans who have bad and good days. We always should pick each other up, moreso in a marriage.
I 100% agree with the fact that there are gender roles. But let’s not compare the wife contributing financially with the husband helping with cooking/cleaning/other chores. A husband islamically should help around in his free time if both the wife and husband have had a lot to do that day. However there is no encouraging in any shape or form that the wife should help her husband financially if she has a reasonable income. IF she chooses to do so however may Allah bless her. The difference here is that one is encouraged and one is not necessarily encouraged.
@Tayyaba12345 I think you’re the only one with brains. The western norms have rubbed off too much on these Muslims, you can see it in their foreign Aqeedah and lack of authentic Islam in their Adhab. These are the same people wanting to discuss ‘modern Islamic’ issues but watch hours and hours of Netflix or scrolling through social media while knowing how much poison it is for their hearts, minds and souls - which reflects massively in these attitudes they have cultivated. 2 people living for the sake of their Purpose of pleasing Allah and cultivating peace aren’t going to be demanding unrealistic western kuffar expectations in a union or marriage that was done for ‘the sake of Allah.’ Let’s be real, most people DONT get married for the genuine purpose of getting closer to Allah. Let’s not beat around the bush, most modern western Muslims can’t wait to start having sex and have a fairy tale illusion based on Netflix and social media on what marriage is truly about. Every friend of mine that got married truly for the sake of settling in their purpose is happily married today. Any person that married for sex, looks or on the whim of ‘I just wanna be married’ have ended in biter divorces.
You can see with their mannerisms and language that this red pill has influenced a lot about them to the point it’s deteriorated to a men vs women in elementary school kinda argument like it’s a rivalry. If you see marriage as a rivalry then you got a lot of emotional maturing to do inshallah.
If a wife does not work outside home, she can do most of the house work. The problem is when kids are very young (0 to 10 years old), they need constant attention. This is the most difficult part of being a house wife not cooking, cleaning, etc. Fathers definitely need to have more share in child raring. My father when he came home at the end of a work day, work was over for him. He just sat in front of the TV reading his news papers. He never cared to talk to us. As a result, I have a very week bond with my father. I respect him. I can't really say I love him because we have no personal relationship. He took good care of us. He spent for us. He worked for us. He never cheated my mom. He never disgraced the family in any way. But that was not enough. Dear fathers, if you will do one thing at home, be it talking to your kids and spending time with them. Your wives work around the clock, you too just do the same thing. When you come home, spend time with your kids. This will take a lot of burden from the shoulder of your wife. It will definitely be counted as a contribution towards housework and you will also be bonded to your child.
@@wrestlingjudoms1302 you didn’t understand. In order to build respectable homes with children who are fully capable and understanding of their positions and their responsibilities in society and their Deen, fathers NEED to have a relationship with their children. They need to bond with them and model the behaviors they want their children to have. Otherwise they are only providing the financial and not the social.
As a rule I think there should be a student of knowledge to clarify issues and things regarding Islamic law and rulings etc. Because without quran and sunnah its just withering ideas and opinions.
That does not pay the bill and put food on the table, nor does it provide security and stability for the whole family. And if you can't do that much nowadays, regardless of how much you love, trust and understand each other, as man you can't keep a wife in the long run. Same goes for women if you don't cook, clean, look after kids and willingly submit you won't keep a husband in the long run unless he is a simp or a cuck. In fact, everything you said in your comment is true but that is not enough to make a relationship work in reality.
@@mk-ld8ih this might be true. but it doesnt mean the man has to be a pig and have the wife go after his every step cleaning after him. Most house-wives gladly do the necessary chores on their own perfectly but when the man doesn't respect his partner by continuing to make her job harder again and again he is still violating the factors for the successful marriage like the og comment said. She married a Man not a Child. it will be the same as the woman taking and spending the "living expenses" on her own and making the husband's job harder, worsening his mood and not showing any respect towards him.
Brothers should make decisions based on the Qur'an and Sunnah not their own feelings and opinions. Also, it's not just about financial aspect, but also the emotional and spiritual aspect that needs to be taken care of.
I am surprised the amount of views and jokes based on their opinions and feelings are so misleading. what they were uttering was far away from our propher teaching.
Im a revert. Honestly, Its been many years and I have seen many muslim men and their dominant personalities. Its really disheartening to look at such men. I heard about prophet and sahabas and now I see muslim men in reality thay they aren't good. All they know is 4 wives, or else they are superior. I agree they are superior but just dont think that you all men are angels. Its not that.. Allah guide you and me.
Honestly I'm disappointed in Ali for even bringing them to this and letting them make some the "jokes" and brushing it under the carpet. It makes me feel scared to even get married in the future.
How is bringing home a salary equivalent to a woman giving up part of her beauty and putting her health and life at risk to birth your kids, breastfeed them, cook, clean raise them, take care of herself and still offer herself to you? 💀 And since when has marriage become a competition of who does more or less??
I was watching for sister Ameerah but I really can’t anymore. Honestly the man in the middle is very representative of the toxic culture I grew up in, we shouldn’t let him spread this shameful behavior to such a large audience, pushing young women further away from men when they hear this and leading them into hardcore feminism thinking it would help. This is the men we’re supposed to be led by ? So immature its sickening.
I am not married but i have seen my friend's husband, how he helps her wife, how he cares for her children after coming back from a 12 hours' job, how he cares for her parents.. (MashAllah MashAllah.. May Allah protect their relation from evil eyes). He even do massage of her foot to alleviate her tiredness before going on bed, also change nappies of her babbies.In return, my friend cooks delicious foods for him, cares for his father, regularly visits his close relatives in a weak, also try to manage all the works of home that should be done by man like renovation of home, Buying some daily-used food products (Because of hectic routine of her husband) ... So guys i want to say that it is a very beautiful relation if you put your arrogance aside...Give respect take respect give love take love...
Allahumma barak lahum. May Allah protect your friend (from unintentional envy from your part). Also, you only see the good parts, no one shares their arguments
@@lipsme1673 What do you mean by unintentional envy??? All the things that i have written here about him have been told by my friend herself.. I am not here to exaggerate the things. Secondly, you said about their arguments then yes they have some differences that i have not mentioned here but they are nothing if you have good understanding and alhumdulillah they are doing well in this regard..🙏..
@@StriveforJannah2 Why are you all girls getting so offended here??🙏🤣... Is it not enough that he goes out and works for whole day so he can give a better life to his Children and her wife...I am nit the one who is admiring him.. His own wife, his sister-in-laws and Mother-in-law all say that he is a wonderful man..Respect it if is so much caring for his family..But you are taking it personally.. 🙏💔...
WOW! it's 2024 this was posted just 10 months ago and as a progressive Canadian, i feel like I've tuned in to a 1950's conversation. Can't believe this is still needed to be debated.
Why are you proud to be a progressive Canadian? Doesn't have much to do with the conversation. Or, do you think they believe these unislamic ideas just because of their ethnic background? Either way, free speech
A good marriage is hard work. But striving for mutual respect and understanding, caring for each other, and working together through life’s joys and difficulties are all important parts of a successful partnership. collected 👏👏👏
Marriage is not a partnership, it is a exchange of values. She exchanges the right to her body and servitude in exchange for your promise of taking care of her financial educational psychological needs for now and the future. Partnership implies a equalitarin Liberal anything goes relationship which always leads in divorce because everyone is lost.
Marriage is not a partnership. Partnership is when you are equal partner. Men and women are not equal partner in Islam. Husband is the head of the house, he provides and protects. The wife obeys. We have this term "marriage is a partnership and understand and mutual respect" only in comment sections where men speak on their rights from their wives.
Brother Ali I had so much respect for you and your dawah but I’m disappointed you gave a person like mahdi a platform to speak on these topics when he holds an abusive and misogynistic record. May Allah guide us all to the straight path Ameen
keep on hating, lol, what mysoginistic points did mahdi make? so its offensive when mahdi claims to not do the dishes , even after working 40 hrs a week but somehow its empowering when a woman neglects her household duties. wow , trash like you are the reason why men get bashed whenever they have an opinion, and get slammed as mysoginists whenever they raise their voice.
Imam Al-Bukhari reported that al Aswad said:" I asked Aisha what the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) used to do in his house? She replied:" He used to serve his wives, and when the time for prayer came he used to go out for the prayer." Imam Ahmed reported that Aisha said:" I was asked about what the prophet used to do in his house? I replied:" He was an ordinary man, he used to sew his garment, milk his goat, and serve himself"
@@theindubitable The Qur’aan and Sunnah indicate that the husband has a confirmed right over his wife, and that she is commanded to obey him, treat him well and put obedience to him above obedience to her parents and brothers. Indeed, he is her paradise and her hell. For example, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” [al-Nisa’ 4:34] And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission, or to allow anyone in his house without his permission.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4899. Al-Albaani (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, commenting on this hadeeth: Since it is obligatory for a woman to obey her husband with regard to his satisfying his desire, it is more appropriate that it be obligatory for her to obey him in that which is more important than that, namely raising their children, guiding the family, and other rights and duties. From Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 282 Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660. Ibn Maajah (1853) narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Abi Awfa said: When Mu’aadh came from Syria, he prostrated to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who said, “What is this, O Mu'aadh?” He said, I went to Syria and saw them prostrating to their archbishops and patriarchs, and I wanted to do that for you. The Messenger of Allaah (S) said, “Do not do that. If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allaah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman can fulfil her duty towards Allaah until she fulfils her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah. Ahmad (19025) and al-Haakim narrated from al-Husayn ibn Muhsin that his paternal aunt came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) for something and he dealt with her need, then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.” He said: “How are you with him?” She said, “I do not neglect any of his rights except those I am unable to fulfil.” He said: “Look at how you are with him, for he is your paradise and your hell” - i.e., he is the cause of you entering Paradise if you fulfil his rights and the cause of your entering Hell if you fall short in that. Al-Mundhiri classed the isnaad of this hadeeth as jayyid in al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb; it was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, no. 1933. If there is a conflict between obedience to one’s husband and obedience to one’s parents, then obedience to one’s husband takes priority. Imam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) said concerning a woman who has a husband and a sick mother: Obeying her husband is more obligatory upon her than (taking care of) her mother, unless he gives her permission. (Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat, 3/47). In al-Insaaf (8/362) it says: She does not have to obey her parents with regard to leaving her husband or visiting etc., rather obedience to the husband takes priority. There is a hadeeth concerning this issue which was narrated by al-Haakim from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) who said: I asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “Who has the most right over a woman?” He said: “Her husband.” I said, “Who has the most right over a man?” He said, “His mother.” But this is a weak (da’eef) hadeeth, which was classed as such by al-Albaani in Da’eef al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 1212, and he criticized al-Mundhiri for classing it as hasan.
As a Christian I love how Muslims are still traditional. In truth, most Christians are starving for the lifestyle of our ancestors, we just don’t always know how to achieve it in the modern world.
The problem is secularism; when you remove God's laws from societies then men have to make up their own laws. And what ever laws men make will be unbalanced.
It’s EASY to achieve that in the modern world - just accept Islam and become a Muslim! Islam is the natural progression to Christianity because the message is from The Same One God. Christian scholars of the past changed and tainted the original message that God sent through Jesus Christ (PBUH) and so the essence was lost. This is why God sent down the Qur’an in the form of recitations so that the original message of Jesus (PBUH) can be carried on through Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). The Qur’an today is the same exact Qur’an that was revealed to Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and not a single letter has been changed. In the Qur’an it says that generations after Jesus (PBUH) changed the message Allah SWT sent to Jesus (PBUH) but the message He sends to Muhammad (PBUH) will never be changed and God, Himself, will protect and preserve it! Today, over 1,445 years later, the message is EXACTLY as it was sent down through The Angel Gabriel (PBUH) to Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). This is one of many miracles of the Qur’an. Become a Muslim and follow Jesus (PBUH) the way Jesus (PBUH) wanted his followers to follow him. May Allah SWT open your eyes to the truth and guide you! Ameen. ❤
this is extremely wrong... i am a male and is 13 years old(muslim) and think that men should be treating their wives with respect. It does not matter if your wife does not contribute as much, the man should treat her with respect, maybe she is having a hard time, but even if you work for the whole day and come back tired, and your wife has not cleaned for whatever reasons, you should work even harder to make her and your kids happy. exception to if your wife is just using you(astagfiruallah inshallah this never happens to anyone)
@@TheProfessionalThinker wa aleykum assalam, yeah ik, so why is a 13 year olds boy's opinion better than these more experienced men? Also the prophet muhammad SAW took childrens advice as well and even sent a teenager to lead an important mission with an army of 3,000 strong
@@SM-ly5tf I agree with that, but I have confidence in myself and inshallah a high iman, and a powerful brain so I believe I should be able to have an opinion
When the dark blue shirt guy said “brother I ain’t even lifting a finger” the way ali dawah looked at the sisters side so suddenly is soo funny 😂😂 Reminded me of the meme person who checks people’s reactions with his own facial expression. 😂
No, as a muslim woman, men do not have to cook and clean. Naturally men may volunteer to do it, if you are someone who does not look lazy and does not delegate responsibility and respectful. More you do for someone, the more the other wants to do for you. My husband pushes me aside to do dishes and snatches hoover from my hand because I very good to him, let him lead and respectful and dutiful alhamdullah, I go the extra mile, make biryanis, niharis, go help his sisters and his cousins in paperwork and show his family respect, I live within his budget and try not cuss him from of the children and I am quick to say sorry and thank him little things alhamdullah. We cannot behave like boss babes...and expect respect and love back
The wife or the baby could die during labor. Unless you are at war there is no reason to not be in the same building at minimum while she is giving birth. If you are far away you should be on your way to whatever location she is giving birth. My opinion.
@@Almay20 As a man who is very traditional, this point of his is completely ridiculous, I will definitely be there when my wife is giving birth to our baby, she needs her husband to be there with her no doubt.
@@Almay20 Temporary marriages are literally haram by consensus, don't ever be fooled by some brothers who may seem religious on the outside who try to use you like this, may Allah protect us and our women.
Right, those who refuse to be present during labour should not expect the wife to be present when they are undergoing surgery or cancer treatment. The wives can wait at home. They are not doctors, how will they help?😂
Married for 15 yrs, stay at home mom and deals with housework,cooking, kids,school and shopping. My husband works 7 days a week and I’m usually exhausted when he comes home. He’s exhausted as well but it helps so much when my husband does help like dealing with the kids at least. It helps when both are happy with each other and understand when we are exhausted, its teamwork and we shouldn’t be thinking oh I do this you suppose to do this it’s more being there for each other. I don’t expect my husband to clean and do things but it is nice when he takes his dish to the sink and make his coffee in the morning even tho I still do that, but sometimes woman have their days when it’s been so exhausting.
The guys weird. He brags about having many wives yet he’s divorced twice. He’s telling non Muslims women about his No strings attached nikkah contacts ( sex only) He finds desperate women marrys them yet he doesn’t provide for them. Search’s to degrade women constantly guys shady AF
@@piqueny8872 What you have done right now is called backbiting. You are making claims with absolutely zero proof. Do you have proof? When you make a claim, it's on you to provide proof.
This video made me pray Tahajjud and pray to Allah that I don’t end up with a man that have the same mentality as this men subhanallah! Shakeel is the only one I feel like is mature fr!
