Should I get Married If I Struggle with Shmirat Habrit | Q&A 

I have to say that I'm grateful for hearing this message. I feel like a weight has been removed from my shoulder. It confirms a realization that I came to about a year ago. May you be rewarded with the elation and euphoria that everyone who will hear this will have

Wow, a great topic. Thank you for sharing so important and well done. ;)

GREAT answer. Thank you. I listened to it twice! You are a good person, it's normal and healthy to struggle with this. You need to make fences. Getting married doesn't solve it. And overcoming it, gaining enough self-control to manage it, and win this test gives unbelievable nachas to G-d, and the experience of emancipation is extraordinary!

Thanks for drawing a line in between addiction and "just a challenge ". If the acting out is always worsening and the person does it against their will, it's probably an addiction and has to be addressed as so, and only after marriage is an option. Seek help if so...therapist can guide you to a recovery program, getting married sober is such a gift..

A extremely simple solution from the great Rambam in Mishnah Torah: The holiness of Teffilin is very great, therefore one should try they should be on him the entire day...and his thoughts will be holy...AUTOMATICALLY! Without having to work on yourself, or tricks. It's that easy.

One of the reasons one NEEDS to get married is to PREVENT a person from sinning. So whilst one doesn't lose the taava, marriage (like many mitzvos) largely channels the taava in a positive direction

Getting married does change it. That's why chazal wants people to marry at 18 .

Don't go to a liquor store? Here you can't go outside. You can't walk down the street. You can't go to an office to work. You can't go to a store.... just live. we do our best. We're guaranteed to get tripped up in this😊 and we stay happy

One of your most important videos!

Thanks!

Point is that Shmirat Habrit is a life long struggle, it has nothing to do with being married or not! change the tittle of the video

I have to disagree slightly. It is brought down in some holy seforim like the ben is chai that getting married helps. And I and several of my friends can attest to that. It isn't a miracle cure that takes it away, but it helps. The Ben Ish Chai even goes as far as tonsay that a Bar Mitzvah boy should get married around the same time. It's not practical today, but he feels strongly about that.

We’re living Torah wrong if we have this massive inclination that we keep failing to channel positively even after marriage.

Shalom

Where's the teaching of the Rebbe Rashab in Toras Sholom?

The Torah uses two definitions and categories for seeminal discharge one approach representing good of טיפה האב and זרע לבטלה represents the bad approach. If you dissect the the word of זרע לבטלה it has a few translations can be interpreted the arm that wastes, The seminal seed of waste is foreign to holiness is bad, and also meaning the wreath of bad through seminal seed waste nullifies the good. So working retroactively seminal seed waste is a restriction for goodness to flow into life and also creates a vassal for difficult unwarranted wreath punishments in life because seminal seed waste is foreign to holiness and my personal opinion seminal seed waste is considered wasteful seed is when applied physically forced such as using an arm or applied force to discharge the wasteful seed. Just like seed of land is planted through the work of the arm. I agree with the rabbi the person first has to employ the defense of אתכפיא which means withholding and delaying is also a form of אתכפיא when a person employs this tactic it will lead to אתהפכא where the person can walk in a den of foxes and not be affected by the temptation if anything he will transform to good. In summary if a Jewish person is struggling with this challenge he should work on themselves since this bad behavior plays a toll on good life force of energy being drawn into life.

Great content! But the thumbnail should say “YOU’RE” instead of “YOUR”

What is shmirat habrit? In English please.

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