The fact that they are talking near a woman who has been in a coma from abuse is COLD. They should all be ashamed of themselves. Especially the men…who’s abusing you for real! Shat ap
This is a reason domestic issues never get resolved. It is this naivety that men don't get abused. Until society begins to probe the triggers, na so we go dey talk am even in 1 million years. I wonder why those inexperienced children are on stage discussing a very serious issue like this. It's gonna get worse now that single parenting is the norm with fathers completely shut out of their children's lives. Society deserves what it gets, ultimately.
To the woman in green, you have my heart, even after telling your story you were ridiculed and judged….i hope you get all the happiness and joy you deserve you made a beautiful decision and no one should put you down for it ❤
I am so embarrassed at the woman in orange saying the lady in green was abused because she married young. May God save her from this backward mentality
@@makungumand they kept speaking over her when she tried to speak up. Honestly very disgusting the way they were trying to tell her and blame her for all of it.
I'm a Filipino and please pray for us to have Divorce legalized in our country! 🇵🇭 The fight towards those anti-divorce is exhausting. Edit: Divorce is for those who badly need it. We shouldn't prohibit someone from getting what they need just because we don't need it and don't experience or suffer the same abuse that they do.
@@b_fermin so those trapped in abusive relationships can finally be free. We need you to practice humanity and empathize with those suffering from abuse.
My heart goes out to the older lady that had to sit there and listen to a bunch of idiots belittle the abuse she suffered while also telling her she was wrong for finally leaving. That little boy is truly scary. Saying things like “divorce won’t help your situation, because if a man wants to kill you he’ll do it still. So you might aswell stay” is BATSHIT CLINICAL CRAZY.
That boy was really undermining what she went saying “how do you know divorce would have helped “🤦. I feel like slapping him . Talking about data from Forbes. Wetin Forbes sabi for Nigeria
I think divorce helps but I understand what he means by if your husband wants to kill you, he still can, even after the fact. A divorce cannot stop a psycho. And it is because there has been many instances like this. As long as he has access to you and your children. It depends on how bad the people in question are. Just be careful out there people!❤
Mama in the orange… She is the type who would not believe her child would as abused all for the sake of remaining married. That is very scary. Just to claim being a married woman.. she would accept any and every form of bad treatment and abuse
@@kasmirsdaughter6211 Is she not a mother? I’m not going to disrespect her because I don’t agree with her ideology. Mama.. aunty.. woman.. lady..whatever. You knew who I was referring to.. so that’s suffice.
I thought the same way. I really thought everyone would have the same thinking to at least separate. But no they wanted to stay, and STILL let the child be around the abuser.
My dear, I couldn't watch it. I don't believe in divorce either but I also don't believe in abuse of any kind. Whatever way a victim can be separated from an abuser, it has to be done. If she's separated from him and he stalks her, then more actions must be taken like jail and divorce
No, she will definitely report him, because she will not be able to stand the trauma at all. Her child is the person been violated, so definitely and truthfully, she will report him.
@@chikarobinson5032I feel like she just said that to save face. Asking if it is true when your child just came to you with something like that is crazy!
The man wearing the hat in the anti-divorce group is honestly very sick for saying people who get divorced should be stigmatized. Most people who get divorced honestly try to work things out before calling it off. You can never know what some people have been through in abusive marriages unless u live it yourself!!
@@glubasuar7554that was honestly one of the worst things he said not that he talked much he was mostly agreeing, but I don't get how you can have that mindset and just walk in the public like you're normal
Cruise TV, please tell the woman in green that we love her. She made the right decision and she should NEVER regret it. Her life is more precious than people’s opinions. Sending love, joy and God’s blessings her way!
Dear young African girls! Just because a woman is older doesn’t mean they have the wisdom to advise you. Let this video be the example. No wonder she keeps saying Dievorce she really wants to die for her husband 😂🤣
These anti divorce people made me SICK!!! Putting your child's "financial future" (or so they say) over their SAFTEY! Worrying about getting help for the partner that abused your child??? I am disgusted! Another reason why I am SOOOO grateful to have the mother I have in my life because how could ya'll not protect your children??!
I’m pretty sure they don’t even care about the “financial future” of the child, it was a lie to make them not look bad. Even if the child is 100% guaranteed to have a financial future, they will find another excuse, and another, and another. These people will never leave criminal spouses no matter what. Disgusting The fact that they had to lie, is enough proof that they’re wrong, but dumb people never accept they’re wrong
The fact that lady in orange said "If you are saying you have passed through beating, maybe you have not passed through the one I’ve passed through" to the lady in green when she said she was abused by her husband. But later blamed her for marrying at 19 when she herself married at 30 and got the same treatment. May God protect any girl with a mother like this.
Beautiful mother in green they’re saying her marrying at 19 is the reason she got abused , but the one who married at 30 sat up there and said he beats her but loves her. This is too much
Really, a man can hit you once, twice, then you think deep and ask, do you think you can still stay, if no, just leave for a period, have a retreat, live your life, meet different people who will tell you good or evil things, weigh them, then tell yourself whether you want to continue with the marriage or not. Have a dialogue with your partner, and find out from your partner if he or she is ready to make amends.
Notice how they raised there hands up to say people change after marriage but they were also saying that marriage fails because you’re too young and you didn’t see the signs of a bad partner…..
Yeah and also the logic that “you were too young” “you married a wrong person” is just crazy as an anti-divorce argument. I mean I think all of the people on this panel would agree that you should choose a partner for marriage carefully and responsibility, but what if you make a mistake? What then? You should be able to correct that wrong decision. “You shouldn’t have married at 19” BUT SHE DID. Such an idiotic argument.
After consuming American content my whole life, I know that Americans have said the most stupid things you'd ever be unfortunate to hear in life. Case study: Theo von, Joe Biden.
I was looking for this comment… I really disagreed with his opinions. Especially when he began to comment on the case of when a child is sexually abused…. It’s easy to sit down in front of the camera and talk about “staying because you’re choosing the child’s future” The reality of abuse is more serious and nuanced than few sentences in a focus group discussion.
The woman in orange said she married at 30 which speaks volume why she wouldn't divorce her husband no matter what, because she was desperate and not ready to loose what she taught God answered her prayer for
@@BrookEmisikothe woman in orange was so wrong for that . Regardless of your age a marriage can fail. Marrying young or old doesn’t affect your chances of getting abused. What that woman in green went through has nothing to do with the age she married. The anti-divorce section are wrong for undermining what she went through especially that boy with his annoying accent
Don't mind her. Saying teenagers should not get married. Did the other lady say her husband was a teenager too. I'm thinking he was even way older. So her point is useless.
“Teenagers are not supposed to get married, you’re supposed to get experience on marriage”, madam please shut up. You married later but they still beat you.
But also it’s the description of some ideal life. “You shouldn’t get married young” “you should marry the right person” sure, everyone can agree with that. But what if you do?? You can’t correct the mistake you made, you should just live with an abuser?? Also they treat it as “take responsibility of your actions” well so maybe an abusive partner can take responsibility of their abuse in a form of divorce.
Exactly. Like your takeaway from her telling you all that her husband continuously abused her, put her in a coma multiple times, almost killing over the span of 25 years, was that that she got married at 19? Borderline insinuating that it was her bad judgement of getting married young that put her in that situation? Also Alvin needs to stfu because why was he even there
Alvin is so ignorant about life it's shocking. His accent makes things worse because people in Nigeria like to think people who have such accents are more exposed and likely more intelligent. I don't think this debate inspired me in any way, I left utterly disgusted by the thinking of the anti-divorce crew. May God help them.
May God help the American guy. He really has a way to go and has life experiences to go through. The lady in orange who believes in marriage till death no matter what must be lucky in hers (or enduring some horrors and is under immense denial). The uncle with a hat, I don’t even know where to start with him. He wants people to judge divorcees no matter what which is just scary! Let’s be human
Why would the lady in orange do everything but get a divorce? 😭 She'll leave, she'll take her kids, she'll send her husband to jail, she'll never speak to that man again but divorce is out of the question???
Honestly!!! I don't usually comment but I genuinely don't understand what she has against that word 😮 she'll do everything but divorce including separation and jail so why's she so against divorce?? It's baffling.
@@AkireMaruhow? rubbish statements like “if he hits you he likes you” plants the seeds for men thinking abuse is ok and women learning to put up with it
@@AkireMaruhow different? It’s the same. And the man mostly won’t hit you till he traps someone like the woman in orange who won’t leave him. Because he can and you will stay
That trashy quote was often said whenever a little boy bullies a girl,which is why many adult males become domestic abusers if they don't change their bullying behavior in childhood
@@tyronelorenzovalentio3414I don’t why people act like homes with married parents are also not broken and toxic. “By there fruits you shall know them” and in many African counties the homes are toxic and rotten, so the people are dysfunctional and toxic.
@@tyronelorenzovalentio3414not true. My friend has parents that are still together and she and her younger sister are currently in therapy because of their parents toxic relationship. Her sister was literally cutting herself at 14 years old, she is in an abusive relationship that she refuses to leave.. I’m waiting for the day I receive a call from the police about her partner unaliving her and her older brother is gay/trans (he hasn’t had the surgery though and goes back and forth between genders). All of these issues stem from their parents toxic relationship. She has a little cousin whose parents separated when he was very young though and that boy is doing well as far as I know, he was accepted into the university to study psychology and started first year a few weeks ago.
@@ReleDeepQueenI think as a society we need to stop referring to divorced families as “broken homes”. I know people who got divorced and they are living amicably. Still in each others’ lives, their families are still cordial and friendly with each other. Sometimes people are better off divorced, doesn’t mean anything is broken, so I get you
Notice how Alvin is the youngest, least experienced, and never been a husband… yet he’s the loudest & most passionate…. Some men need to learn to listen😂
Simply because he isn't doesn't mean he has nothing to give. We don't know what he has experienced that has made him that passionate. He is respectfully disagreeing... Abeg.. you that is married and older haven't you done worse in a situation you are passionate about...
@@belindatumwine358 I’m not married or older than him, that’s why I came to listen to experienced people. Too bad he talks over everyone with a real perspective.
Young women please avoid that young boy in the blue sleeveless jumper. His views are scary! Also the man in the blue shirt invalidating the lady in Greens lived experiences! A woman that has been married for 25 years is explaining to you the reason she couldn’t continue with her marriage and you who has only been married for 3 but in your own words “separated multiple times” is saying you need to correct her becasue she’s wrong! Absolute madness
You can obviously tell he is the problem in his own relationship and I hope his supposed wife sees this video and start filling for a divorce soon. LMAO
Where did they bring these anti-divorce set of people from? Ahhhhhh😮 they shock me ooo. I think they are just making/speaking their points based on acting just as we did when we were in primary school. Because what the f***!!!
*"Oh yeah, he hits me but yet he loves me"* , that auntie never heard of STOCKHOLM SYNDROME. Her life is basically an average Wattpad story written for fun by a 13-year-old immature teen. This is what she was taught, and this is what she believes. Can't imagine how horrible it is that she will teach the same to her children. *"Will you still stay with your husband if he sexually assaulted your child?" Her: "Yes"* What the actual f***? I hope her child doesn't see this video. *"You ignored the signs before, continue ignoring them"*, *"I've been 3 years in marriage now. Within that time, me and my wife have separated countless times."* 35:39 Yes sir, it sure is VERY visible considering your opinions. I feel bad for his wife. He *'thinks'* that it would be better FOR HIS SON if his son lives with him (that's just his assumptions). Did he consider that he and his actions might be the reason of his son's dilemma? And I have nothing to say about that immature boy questioning that woman about her trauma and abuse. Literally everything he said was a bunch of BS. Why are they normalizing any form of abuse in the first place?! This is absolutely horrifying to know these kinds of people exist and this is what they'll do, and this is what they'll teach other people, especially younger generations. Unbelievable!
A mother that got pregnant with her child, 9 months or more. Your child comes to you and tells you that her father, your husband has been assaulting her and the first thing you’ll ask her is ‘is it true?’ That woman wearing orange… wherever her children are, I hope they are healing.
As in I can't even imagine what her children must have gone through living through trauma just because Auntie wants to keep her "Mrs" title... Pathetic.
as a child that was sexually abused by a "parent", I have a large resentment for the parent who knew and stayed. i would've rather been homeless and had that person out of our lives then grow up feeling like my abuse wasn't "important" enough to do anything about edit: thank you for the love and concern. Yes i was abused as a child by "parent" and although this statement is angry, I do want it known that there is another side to that anger. I am in a position where I am not overcome by that anger and sadness of being betrayed by not only a parent who abused me but also a parent who found out and chose to stay and act like it never happened. That choice was made after enduring 5 years of abuse at the age of 9 and I continued to be abused until I was 16, and once more at 19 before I chose to put myself first and leave. As a child who endured this life, I cannot understand why a parent who said they loved me and wanted me to live a good life would do that. Please listen to your kids and remember that they are your responsibility. No one who has endured this abuse is responsible for it, the abuser is. They took advantage of a child and your willingness to overlook their crime. Please hold them responsible because the second you decide to give them another chance, you are now responsible for the abuse your child has endured and you have altered that child's life forever. to all those who have met a similar fate of abuse; I am so sorry you ever had to and my heart aches for you because I know and understand a lot of that pain and betrayal. i wish nothing but healing and love your way because that should've never happened.
"When my father and mother abondon me, the lord will take me up." Psalm 27:10 I too have been sexually abused by a relative (uncle) but my mom made me apologize. She and my dad abandoned me in my greatest time of need. But know that God saw everything.
These anti divorce people are scaring me !! I mean what’s wrong with them ??? Staying with a man( or a woman) that sexually abused your child?! Are you mad ???
- Somebody should help us and deck that Alvin dude. It is like that accent is clouding his judgement. Shuooooooo. - Uncle with the hat lacks empathy; he is giving, "I have been abused, and I survived, you too, you should survive". - Aunty in orange and black, God will preserve your children, especially your daughter. Please say Amen. - Mummy in green, you are badass and brave. We are so proud of you! We love you! God bless you! God preserve you! God bless the works of your hands, ma!❤❤ - Oga Fisayooooo🙌🙌🙌🙌 It is God that will bless you ehn!🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 - Our able young man who is asking the hard questions, THANK YOU!!!!! Because that question you asked early on helped us to see the kind of people we are talking to here.
The guy in the hut gives me an abuser vibe, the way he was talking about being separated from his wife. And when Alvin was talking about abuse he was like “it’s not everyday” like abuse is not okay anyday. It should never happen.
If someone sexually assualts my daughter I wouldn't even think twice about divorcing them. The dude that said "Will divorcing them remove the trauma?" NO! It won't but it will prevent more trauma from happening. If I stay married to a man that sexually assaults my child, 1.) I'm letting a person that committed a heinous act around my child, not giving them any chance to heal. 2.) Me staying married to that man will give him an idea in his mind that "oh, since she still stayed with me after sexually assaulting her child, she will stay with me if I keep doing it," basically making this man think that I am allowing that to happen without any consequences. If a my husband sexually assaults MY child, what's gonna stop him from doing it again after I stay with him? And, 3.) If he continues sexually assualting my child after a stay married to him, my child would not be able to trust me with anything and not tell me that they are happening to them. In conclusion, divorcing them will not remove the trauma, but stop it. However staying married to them will infact cause more trauma. (The fact that these "people" even questioned this is insane)
When I tell people that I HATE the deep rooted christian patriarchal society in Nigeria, this is EXACTLY what I am talking about. It is MADDENING to see how many women are mistreated but are/feel forced to stay in those relationships because of status, wealth, entrapment, etc.
Yeah, it's quite heartbreaking. The problem is the misuse of faith when the same faith is actually against most of the things people use to back themselves or their actions. Ignorance is no joke.
Honestly…the religious abuse is so deeply rooted in them..my God i wish mental/sexual/abuse education was easily accessible for them. This shit is sick
To the lady in the green that marriage didn’t fail because she got married at a young age, not at all. The marriage failed because the Husband FAILED to keep his promise and his vow. Marriage is a covenant and it’s between, 2 people and God. The husband absolutely did not fear God to have something so sacred and beat on another Child of God. God is a God of love and grace and to be honest I feel that He understands this sister and He is not condemning her. If she is alive today, it is because God has a plan for her. Had she stayed in that marriage it could have also altered her relationship with God because a lot of people feel like God has forsaken them when going through something like that. She chose solitude and got away and for her children too. She’s selfless and a warrior. A survivor and God loves her. All she can do now is pray for the exhusband and build that relationship with God trusting Him in all things
I really hope the lady in green reads this! Please Please Please know YOU DID THE RIGHT THING- Your ex-husband Failed, NOT YOU!!! If you are religious, you know God cares for ALL of His children and what does He say about those that harm them? He says it would be better that a milestone would be wrapped around their neck and they be thrown into the sea! It is never okay to beat on your spouse- NEVER! God is also very clear about the grounds for divorce in the Bible and you were well within that right! 25 years was a lot, too much- you are a Gracious WARRIOR! I am SO SO SORRY about the people on this panel that were totally disrespectful towards you, shutting your voice down and talking over you!!! They should have been listening at your feet to the wisdom of this Matriarch. I am SO Sorry, seriously I couldn’t watch any more after that disrespect!!!! I am SOOO Sorry for your sorrow, I truly believe like the above commenter stated that if you will serve God He will crown you with Glory and protect and preserve and heal your children. We come from different cultures, and I know divorce is more stigmatized where you are from, but please hold your head high- You Deserve to!!!
Imagine. His data must be fake that was why he just said forbes and not the actual study that forbes cited. Never heard commitment as something higher than DV. Finance, infidelity and abuse are main issues leading to divorce and abuse can be physical, emotional, financial etc.
If the child's future was in mind he should have divorced and separated. The fact that if the child would have spiraled into taking their own life (I just think) they won't have a future n he'd probably still be in the marriage mxm
He's just speaking grammar. Went to browse Forbes list before coming. I'm not for divorce, but it can be the only way out sometimes. And that's the main topic. Phonetics without sense.
The fact that people can hear stories of abuse and still say they should not divorce but stay is insanity to me. I hope Nigerians can be freed of this mentality one day.
Auntie Jane is scary. Please young women don’t die in marriage. Empower yourselves. Work hard . Don’t stay with a monster because of financial support. If you’re with a mentally unstable person, it won’t get better. Bro America doesn’t have an idea of toxic relationships.
@@honestfriend767 please if the reason has to do with Christianity I beg you do not twist the bible because it is not a sin to divorce if your spouse is abusive, or has engaged in sexual immorality. God is not evil, He does not want His people to suffer, so why are our people enforcing this suffering in God’s name? That is sinful! The twisted teaching that in any case divorce is a sin is wrong. Read your bible please. 🙏🏾
That’s Africa for you. They will sometime use sorcelery to excuse it sometime accuse the abused the child. Some women may even know what they husband is doing to their child and start hating the child. Because they husband finds the child attractive not them.instead of protecting the child and denouncing the predator.
that woman is sharing her traumatic experiences and being vulnerable and this two people , Alvin and Lady in orange were heavily invalidating her experiences. my heart broke every time her voice broke. I would have defended her if I was there.
@@AfrogirrlI think that’s how she also felt when people kept coming to tell her to remain in the marriage. She felt trappped in that marriage again. I’m so angry for her
Alvin is forming dissident to be on camera. He never answered any of the questions posed. Never addressed divorce in abusive marriages. He was ONLY focused on marriages due to a lack of commitment, and that was NEVER the topic.
Alvin 🤮 Mama in orange is just ancient and she REFUSES to change her way of thinking That guy with the hat lied that he has experienced abuse, he was definitely the abuser, probably still is! Mxm
Many are mad...few are roaming. We need more more conversations like this to expose how deficient people can be in their thinking. Mummy Green, Guy in Green and the Lawyer...God bless and keep you all.
much love to the woman in green❤️i cannot believe they blamed her for getting married at a young age and implying that’s why she got abused. WTF??? also the other woman said “he hits me but he loves me” GIRL BYEE😭
my mom has a lot of problems in her parenting but oh my god am i glad some of these people are not my parents. specially the 3 against divorcing in the case of your partner abusing your child especially sexually. if i had a situation like that and my parent reacted like that i would absolutely despise them for the rest of my life, it means not only did the parent who abused me fail me but the other parent who was supposed to help me also failed me, both parents failed me. you would never hear from me again as a child, god forbid i’m your only child cause you will be on your own in old age, go have your partner come save you.
Alvin isn't making any sense , "prioritising" your child's future by keeping them in the same traumatising environment where they should have felt the safest at the expense of their mental health and wellness? Please crack another joke. This isn't so funny. 🙄
@@enne2106 thank God for that lawyer oh. The way they (orange lady, Alvin and hat guy) were saying help the man as if r@pe isn't an actual crime 🙆🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. Thank God he was there, he was even anti- divorce and yet.
Bro is 19 at best. The lack of exposure is screaming. Didn’t make up to 2 sentences that made sense. I wish they allowed the guy on green t-shirt to speak more.
30:55 these goats are gaslighting this woman even after she almost died. Marriage at a young age isn't the cause of abuse. An abuser does his/her thing no matter who the victim is.
Yeah, that was sad to watch. Talking about she shouldn't have married at 19. That is the problem. You were too young to know not to talk back. Bunch of cave like minds. What! How the people that put this conversation together didn't think to have someone there to make sure they are listening, empathizing, making sense, etc is what I'm trying to understand. What is even the goal here?
GOD BLESS THAT 28 YEAR OLD LAWYER FRR😭😭😭😭😭SAME WITH THE AUNTIE IN GREEN MY HEART GOES OUT TO HER AND THE BRAVE MAN IN GREEN it was soo hard listening to the anti-divorce folks, they sounded so out of touch to the reality of abuse and psychological harm. May the Lord open the eyes and mind of those other participants
Who’s this guy on green that is pro divorce - Your parents should be proud of you! Oga Lawyer- your wife should be proud of you. Mummy green - you’re brave and strong and thank you for standing your ground!!! God bless you all
Mama in green, you’re a star. I love you, your children are lucky to have you. You prioritised your children’s mental health and overall well-being. Mr Fisayo, your reasoning is amazing, you know what you’re talking about. Olatubosun, you’re a man and I commend your honesty and bravery in speaking the truth. Alvin must just be a real life chipmunk, because he’s spewing venom.
Let's first define marriage.......when did being beaten,marital rape,pedophile acts, lack of reasoning and verbal abuse,psychological torture also define marriage??? This happens when a society raises a generation that believes marriage is the only goal for a woman. The only catch to completely define one as a complete adult😢. Am definitely pro good marriage but not the nonsense going on these days. Most people see red flags but staying hoping the partner will change. SAD.
These things happened too much in these mariages and relationships. Women just need to decenter men. Men are not my God is not the most important thing in the world.
The dark woman in glasses was obviously talking from a place of great pain and bad experiences but at the same time she wasn't talking as a victim to invoke pity from the rest, she was speaking as a survivor as a victor, her kids should be so proud of the mother they have, that's a strong woman right there.
I love that she was also trying to advice. She explained show she tried it and though it would be fixed. Her saying she would have left after year 1 was so depressing since she stayed for 25 years. But it helps others understand that once you know it’s unsafe you need to get away.
And also, even if we say it’s her mistake (for the sake of the argument) so what now? “You shouldn’t marry a wrong person” yeah, everyone would agree with that, but you can’t go back in time, you can only correct the decision NOW.
When I was six years old, I begged my mother to leave my father. There was more trauma staying with him. My mother never left him, and now I'm scarred from all the fighting and violence that went on in my home. Both of my parents ended up abusive. I never want to get married, and I don't even have the desire. That's how bad it was. If you have to separate from a person for many years, what is the difference between that and divorce?
She - " ooh yes he hits me yet he loves me" . Sent me in another dimension. Don't let her fool you if he hits you or abuse you leave IMMEDIATELY ASAP REMEMBER LOVE IS GENTLE AND KIND NOT ABUSIVE IF IT IS ABUSIVE THAN IT AIN'T LOVE BABY GIRL.
No love is greater than respect. If someone truly loves you they respect and hold you in high esteem. No man that loves a woman would want to see her drop a tear let alone beat her. I don’t know what this people think love is. Her mindset is sick and disgusting.
This! I feel he has probably been a victim of a divorced parent and that affected him and has clouded his view. I hope he heals cossss this take is concerning
I love the way the woman in green stood on business despite the silly opinions of people!!!! She really deserved to be free from her abusive relationship
Good for you. I think when people realize that till death do us part doesn’t apply to people who abuse them and abuse their children the world would have way more divorces as it should.
Sorry for what you’ve been through,i wish you happiness!! I also got married to a man when i was 21 years and him 33 years,left naija and moved to new country with nobody i know,i was abused(emotionally) for 6 years,i went through hell,i was like a living dead,till i got divorced 2 years ago,best decision i ever made in my life,am so happy now,never know life could be this good Alhamdulillah
@@ay1ismi will proudly judge and castigate anyone who will standby and watch someone rape an innocent child in the name of “anti-divorce”. You people are mad.
@@caramelgumdrop393 Where does she say she would wait and watch innocent children being raped in the name of anti divorce? You see the reason why it is important to argue with the head instead of emotions. She even clearly said she would separate from the person and have him dealt with by the law. But then, one shouldn't expect any better from a dvmb insecure person with fragile emotions like you who cannot make any constructive argument but to throw insults.
I grew up seeing my mum and my step sister being beat up. F that shit. If you have commom sense, leave. There are people that stay and die. It traumatises the kids, it traumatises the woman. Leave a physically abusive marriage. Dont negotiate. Leave.
I got married at 26. I was a victim of domestic abuse and divorced at 30. As a Nigerian woman this was really hard to watch because I remember the anti divorce brigade advising me. I almost lost an eye and my ex beat me 8 weeks post c-section. I got full custody of my children and my ex cannot be alone with the children. My kids are one of the happiest around and they have never lacked anything. I really would like to connect with the older woman in green as this is a topic I am very passionate about.
Bro she married at 30, she feels her husband did her a privilege to marry her. She was probably mocked for being 30 and unmarried before she married. My concern is her sons who have seen their father abuse their mother, and their mother has normalised it. They will grow up to believe it is normal to beat a woman and she should sit down and tolerate it.
She seems to be in a healthy marriage, hence her inability to understand the reason/need for divorce in some marriages. Ignorance comes from lack of experience/knowledge. If faced with such situations in her marriage, she will definitely be in great shock.
@@ms.Waldorf She said she has a daughter and a son, I pity her daughter the most. She said she wouldn't divorce her husband if he assaulted her daughter.
Hearing "Yes he hits me but yes he loves me" is wild!!! 😂😂😂 No be laughing matter, but I don't even know how else to respond. "Divorce is the only way out of an absuvie marriage". I guess death is another way out, but divorce works. The "think back" woman is evil. Period. As a feminist, I would like to add that a lot of women who insist on no divorce usually view it from a traditional perspective that it's the man perpetuating the abuse. Let's all be clear that all parties in a marriage can be subjected to abuse, and we should all have no tolerance for abuse.
8:20 the most traumatic thing you can do to your child who was sexually abused by her father is have them both in the same household and force her to relive the trauma by seeing his face each day. He did it once he will most certainly do it again. He already crossed that boundary.
I’m from a home where my parents fought physically since I was old enough to know what fighting is and I can tell you that I prayed everyday for them to divorce when I was older!! It only got worse as I grew older and experiencing such trauma only complicated their children’s lives so yeah I SUPPORT DIVORCE!!! Btw, Alvin and the lady in orange are not who they think they are. Is receiving beating from a man a competition ma??? KUDOS TO THE LAWYER , DUDE IN GREEN AND THE WOMAN IN GREEN! Y’all spoke nothing but facts♥️
