As an African/Black person alive today- teaching your kids to not question things, to not have a voice, and to not trust their own opinions is setting them up for failure.
Exactly. I mean saying no outright is somehow, but as one grows he/she must make their own decisions, which most rational parents realize. Given, with the advice of others, but it is up to him/her to decide where to work, who to marry, their children, etc. It is more of a problem when the parents' decisions backfire, rather than having such embarrassing situations, I'd rather open up to my children's insight so I can also make guided decisions as well. The dogmatic behavior is too much, that your offspring are your children does not mean they are kids forever, they will be grown ups just like you.
You can disagree with your elder but how you say or express it must be respectful in terms not shouting or using harsh words. Disagree with my mum all the time but have learnt to say it in a respectful way.
Exactly the young man was trying to explain but the lady kept cutting him off. She wanted him to say what she wanted to hear rather than understand his point.
I feel this HEAVY. I’m an older Gen Z and this is still the same with my parents. And after asking them repeatedly to let me finish, after I get my point across, they disregard it anyway.
"Dont fight the system" ... thats crazy. In my opinion Aunty talking about the past affecting how she would deal with the youth is exactly how generational trauma moves down through generations.
Precisely. The how the rich and political elites treated the masses anyhow, and our parents didn’t do anything about it. I’m glad our generation are standing up for themselves.
Not questioning the presidents policy or the fact the expresident bought his adversaries g-wagons instead of giving aid to the citizens . Do they still want to respect that, then how is that wise?
Respect authority it's true an elderly person might say something you don't agree with but you can still Respect their opinions as an older person and make your own decision with the information that person has given without being disrespectful if you keep up with those claims that the demanding Respect is oppressor We will end up with a society that hate authority and unruly and broken as we see that's where we are heading We might claim God is an oppressor to since he demands Respect and to follow his commands and doesn't matter what God you believe in everyone's demands Respect
@@shibahtash4700 Well said. The commenter's statement is one of the example of moral decadence we are talking about. They copy an illusion of the Holywood and the internet and the immoralities of the western world, which a lot of westerners ever frown at. The authorities in the western world are now even getting a grip on this unruly behaviour of the younger generations.
I've brought it up to my mother many times but I just realized she never actually responded to it. Meanwhile she will spam "the bible says you should honour thy father and thy mother" like bro...
They were contradicting themselves! So if there is an elder doing bad, I must not rebel. I should not provoke the leader but to let him be, prostrate, and say a prayer for grace. Yet I am expected to lead a movement to make a change due to my youth? Nonsense advice.
These boomers are just doing what they are accusing the Gen Zs of doing. Using questions to answer questions, insinuating that all Gen Zs are bad but not all boomers are, gaslighting and manipulating these guys yet they are talking about respect. What an Irony 🤣🤣🤣 I think these Gen Zs are even acting calm.
My blood pressure is rising listening to this. The elders are blind and can't see anything past their own perspective. It's basically "I was abused by my elders, and now it's my turn. Or just be quiet and survive"
Not their fault, in forming years their brains were traumatised and forced to stop thinking critically and challenging what they personally found to be wrong in this world. Cognitively today, that's the only way they know to process a challenging idea. Shut it down, regardless of the outcome. I think slavery and colonisations found a fertile terrain in West Africa because of these ingrained societal behaviours. Other cultures and civilizations fought and continue to fight oppression very harshly and very often through violence. Not that we didn't do so too but African civilizations overall particularly West African societies, demonstrate to have been trained across centuries to be docile. From the inside. Perhaps for needs of a rural economy with small villages and necessity of hierarchical organisations. These psychosocial dynamics have helped foreign powers and authorities to impose themselves too easily. And it's time to change it for good
I felt sis pain when she cursed. The AUDACITY for the elder generation create a crappy economy with there non effective policies then call the young ones lazy. Everything is at an all time high and we’re barely getting by. The absolute nerve
I’m a younger Millennial and I think what parents fail to realise is that they are raising children based on a world that doesn’t exist anymore. Culturally, I will always show respect to my elders, but if you talk to me in a way that is rude and unwarranted, then I’ve lost my respect for you, sorry. I believe when you value your child’s thoughts/feelings and learn to take accountability (cause parents aren’t perfect) then your child will automatically respect you. My Dad is very strict but very fair - he always listens to my brother and I and acknowledges our personhood, our feelings, emotions, and thoughts as young people navigating this world. That is true respect. We wouldn’t dare disrespect him because he has never disrespected us or talked down us - and that can’t be said for a lot of parents, sadly.
I think they could take a leaf from a court of law, you cant just go off of one persons opinion or feelings, it needs to be backed up by facts and evidence, proof, they seem to think grey hair warrants respect😂 Now we know damn well grey hair means absolutely nothing. They just sit and spew opinions that just don’t amount to anything, respect is earned & lost depending on that persons actions, respect should not be blindly given.
There’s ho new world my dear. There’s nothing new under the sun. That’s a lie of the enemy. Everyone when they are young think something new and wonderful is happening. And when we are old, as I am now, we are trying to redirect you guys because we made the same mistake.
@@marizechevo1843 I think you’re misunderstanding. Things will change/evolve with every generation, it’s just a normal and natural part of life. The way my parents grew up is very different to how I grew up. My Dad was born and raised in Senegal in the 1950’s and I was born and raised in Australia in the 90’s. He could not raise my brother and I as if we were living in the 50’s in Senegal, but he did make sure to teach us Senegalese values and cultural practices. As long it’s not something destructive or bad, then humans should retain some of the old, and learn to accept some of the new. Change is inevitable - you either get with it or get left behind.
In my opinion, the issue lies in our elders' reluctance to accept accountability for their actions, as they tend to believe that age should exempt them from responsibility. Also, as an African child, I see this conversation as evidence that elders often prioritize asserting their own views over listening to different perspectives. Disagreeing with an elder is frequently viewed as disrespectful. Regarding modesty in dressing, I believe our generation sometimes goes too far in the pursuit of body positivity by exposing too much skin.
“don’t fight the system” is a colonizer mindset. That’s why Africa is in the position it is in today, change only comes from challenging the current status quo’s.
Love my African sisters and brothers as an African, but you are right. Submission is in our culture. Stuff like whooping too. They have been in fear for so long, they cant even rebel, which mind you, is the way the world changes. Being afriad of change, being in "fear" of God instead of having a relationship with Him, its crazy. The day they choose humanity over religion will be when they are 6ft under
At the beginning of this conversation, I was already annoyed by the elders. Contradicting the whole point of the video, already starting off on a egotistical high horse. The elders were not "listening to understand" they are listening to be right and argue points. They behaved as though they already came with their own agenda; to put the youth in their place.
I disagree, yes the elders did speak from a place of privilege, but they were able to listen to the genz, rather the gen z boy with the dreads was the one who was rude and condescending
@@theweepingangel8393 abi, from the first prompt, they couldn't let them Gen z complete their points. It's like they shouldn't even speak. The girl was giving her own experience, but they were trying to justify why she was treated badly, "maybe you were arguing?" 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
The problems with elder is they don’t want to be held accountable for their actions, they believe with age their behavior and actions should be excused
That's the same for young people! They make excuses for doing dumb stuff, then blame it on their young age, which is why they take no responsibility for their mistakes. They don't like to listen and think they know everything. The elders are the reason why you're here.
Accountable for what exactly, what evil have they done that needs to be punished? And whose job is it to punish them, the children, the state??? I want to understand the full context of what you are saying, because what you are saying is way too broad and can be interpreted in many ways based on people's feelings and experiences and everyone is different and feelings are not a dictator of what is right or wrong. Do you think parents should not have boundaries when it comes to their children and what do you think would be the consequence of that?
@@Michelle-uh7qi A lot of elders are reckless whether it's with words or actions, they alienate their kids or the younger generation because they are quick to judge and to anger. If they are the wiser ones they need to prove it within their actions.
I feel like with many older african ppl they say they want respect, but what they really want worship. Respect is reciprocal regardless of age. Worship isnt. Its absolute.
@@bibahmawutor9959 Respect is reciprocal as it involves mutual consideration and understanding. Treating others as you wish to be treated is a manner in which respect can be reciprocated. If I greeted you as a form of respect and good manners I would expect a greeting back, however if you just look me up and down and ignore me that is disrespectful making respect only one sided. Even in the case of the video,actively listening to someone's opinions even if you disagree creates an atmosphere where both parties feel valued and acknowledged. Whereas occasions where one of the debaters is cut of by the other side without at least attempting to genuinely understand fosters negative emotions resulting in the other persons feelings not being respected or valued.
@@Oaties_55 hmmm interesting.. I now see how people say respect is reciprocal. I personally respect my parents and people of age and authority regardless of their behavior. I just accord it to them. I respect my father whatever may happen I can’t undo it, but if he reciprocates then it’s fine, if not the onus is on me to still show respect.
@@bibahmawutor9959 I think I do that too...kinda. When my parents do some bad things I don't have any respect for them at all but I still have to show it. They don't care if I don't respect them deep down as long as I'm worshipping them they are fine
The GenZ were articulate and willing to LISTEN to the opposing elders, however the Elders were so DEFENSIVE and lacked humility. The refused to listen, not surprised. This was an opportunity for wise counsel, they were so over bearing and seemingly ignorant.
Because it doesn't benefit them in any way. They said in different words "elders treated me like shit so is my chance now to do it to the younger generation"...is all projection and entitlement
The elders are so infuriating. They're not listening at all and are simply listening to respond instead listening to understand. It was difficult to get through this video without being incredibly frustrated.
Honestly dislike the fact that this channel basically brought the same 1 type of person, in different fonts. There are so many older people who do not think this way, so why bring only the same mentality on, no diversity of thought whatsoever
What shocked me the most was “don’t fight the system” how can you as an elder day that? Our ancestors were enslaved, you think they gained freedom by showing respect and obeying mindlessly like zombies? They fought for freedom. The system is designed to hold you back. I don’t know if they experienced trauma or they had bad guardians, but you can’t unload on a youth because of your personal experience and ideologies, sometimes it has 0 meaning to them and your just wasting your breath.
@@God-Tcause it is foolishness 😂. Your elders are your elders, whether you like it or not! You owe them respect. They shouldn't provoke you, for sure, but even if they do, are you going to kill your parents because they "provoked" you?!😂
@@bilongmarlenepetiniasahran1734 if they are truly wise and deserve respect then this show should b a live-stream with gen-z & elders talking & people around world asking them argumentative questions, like the "Whatever show" for modern girls thing, put there wisdom where mouth is. enough with th ignorance & old equals wise silliness.
@God-T you didn't answer my question boo-boo. Will you kill your parents because they "provoked" you?!! Plus I didn't tall about being wise. I spoke about the fact that they will always be your elders, whether you like it or not
In my conversations with my parents i observe yearnings for the years gone past, the times when i adored them, when i didn't have my own money, when i didn't analyse everything they said.... Years when i was under the age of 10. I no longer trust their definition of respect, because what i was doing at the age of 10 wasn't respect, that was psychologically, glass eyed baby chick follower behaviour. My disrespect is the developmentsl milestones that i have gained in the 20 years since i was 10. I don't think most parents realised they were raising future adults with autonomy.
This was a painful watch. These "kids"showed a huge amount of restraint. The supposed "elders" in this video are airheads, especially that aunty that was trying to drag every discussion spiritual
She literally proved herself wrong when she talked about how she chose to not treat her kids the way she was treated by her mother. Actual proof that the elder is not always right.
I am big on respect especially to elders …you don’t have follow a bad advice and even if you think an elder is wrong ….respond with respect and keep going and sometimes too much intelligence is a problem especially to Gen z but what y’all lack is wisdom
@@trishapatrick8363funny you talk about wisdom when all you old fucks have left is corruption, poverty and misery, believe me you’re not one TJ talk about “wisdom”😂😂😂😂
The elders remind me so much of my mom. I had to remove her from my life and let God take care of the rest. My mom still has the “because I said so” and “You’ll obey me because I’m your mother” mentality so no matter what I had to say or express, she demeaned, belittled, and was very condescending. She never heard me, saw me for me, or was a true genuine mother. She never provided answers to anything but expected me to understand and expected me to follow anything and whatever she said because she was older. Ontop of that she blamed me and my sisters for her past experiences that she had with her parents and during her childhood and always made it seem like her past was our fault. Respect goes both ways. Idc how old you are or who you are. Respect is earned, it isnt by default. Not amongst human beings.
And it’s just so baffling how the elders are acting as if they were brought into this world as an elder with all this knowledge. That mentality will continue to separate us amongst other ways people choose to separate themselves from others. All this separation is crazy and is RUINING us. We all need to STOP. Come together. And Love. That’s the world I want to be part of.
The amount of disrespect the elders gave to these guys and the amount of restraint they must have had to learn through out their lives. omg it was hard to sit through
nope they were very rspectful, at a point the elders were just speaking off point, wrong facts and information but they still let them speak and held back.@@chidude6616
@@chidude6616no they weren’t. They were trying to talk and get their points across which is the reason of this debate bot the elders kept cutting them off.
GEN-Z consistently presents logical arguments, while the Elderly often let emotions cloud their judgment. Just because the elderly ones expresses themselves clearly doesn't guarantee intelligence, and it's a fact that some refuse to accept. I mean just look at how calm GenZs are compared to these so called adults. I’ll love to be on this show someday, I love debates like this and I would love to make a lot of these illogical people look stupid.
How are you going to say older people let their emotions cloud their judgement but then you go and judge them and call them illogical ? And say you want to make them look stupid?
@@celestea_. Are you slow? You just proved why they're illogical, because they let emotions cloud their judgement. If you're an older person as well, then the irony is massive.
I just view it as a difference between being kind. I will give you grace, and be kind/courteous to you. But that doesn’t mean I respect you. I can’t respect someone I know nothing about. But kindness is given until one proves they are undeserving of it.
There’s a serious case of fear crippling the mindset of the older generation. The main reason why they follow leaders and religious leaders blindly, and they’re very scared of questioning authority in hopes that they’re not going to be questioned.
Just wanted to say this channel is a gift. I was raised in a very conservative white home, so I ended up being racist. I’ve rejected that and am trying to undo what damage it has done to my mind. It’s gross that I even have to do this, but just listening to people from another culture another place have conversations has probably been the most useful thing for me to untrain my brain from bad biases. I don’t know how to describe it, but the conversation allows you to just empathize, relate to many things (authoritarian parents, along with the necessity to listen to your elders). It allows you to break down the illusion that one group of people necessarily think a certain way. While I’m sorry that it’s necessary for me to do this, and I realize that’s not the main purpose of this channel, just know that for some people it allows them to break down barriers that never should have been there. My respects to everyone involved.
My 2 cents: - many elders demand respect not because they uphold it as a value, but because of their own ego and resentment. They couldn’t stand up to their own elders, which caused anger and resentment. Now they’re taking that anger and pouring it out on the generation after them. It’s an “if I suffer, you too must suffer” mentality - I agree that the younger generations can be extreme sometimes, especially when it comes to morality. But there’s a reason for that - many of us watched our parents and elders suffer in silence, in the name of “morality”. Many of us also watched our parents twist and bend morality when it was convenient. Like the Gen Z girl said, many elders have a warped and hypocritical view of morality. For example, a man is physically abusing his wife and kids, but the wife is expected to stay with him because “a good woman keeps her home”? That’s an extreme example, but how about when our parents tell us to lie for them when they don’t want ti see someone? “Tell her I’m sleeping” “tell him I’m not at home” Or when they act respectfully to their own elders but talk badly about them behind their backs? - Sometimes, what the elders call morality is just fear and people pleasing. Their reasoning for doing or not doing something isn’t their conscience, but fear about “what will people say”. They need to acknowledge that sometimes we don’t uphold morality because some of us didn’t have great or truly moral parents, so we didn’t see it modeled for us correctly. Their morality was built on shame, and our new generation is a shameless generation - Age can bring wisdom, but age alone does not determine wisdom. Even the Yoruba culture acknowledges that with the term “agbaya”, which means “old fool”. You can be old and foolish; they’re not mutually exclusive. Btw what many older people call “wisdom” is just culture and tradition
25:38 im not sure if this is an editing issue, but the older generation didn’t really answer the prompt. The question was whether the older generation caused the nations current problems, not about whether the youths are doing something to fix it
Yes, you’re right! think it’s ego and resentment too. If you’ve been a horrible man or woman your entire life, then you don’t deserve my respect. I’ll respect you based on your actions towards others. And ‘elders’ seem to be claiming that title younger and younger, because I definitely wouldn’t classify either of the women on the panel as elders. Seems people just want to be in a position where they can finally tell others what to do, act how they want to act, and not be accountable for it.
@@dijonay971they are in their late 30s to 50s, more middle-ages. To me elderly is above 59. The entitlement that comes with them demanding respect at the same time mistreating the younger ones seem more common these days
It's giving boarding school mentality. When I attended FGGC, my classmates claimed they had the right to do what seniors did to them to the juniors coming. They even dealt with some naive SS1 who just came 😂😂😂. It's the entitlement to claim something from people who don't owe you anything because some people took something from you before. Especially in today's Nigeria, you can't tell me at 22 that I've done something wrong and you as an elder is clean😂😂😂 whatever you accuse me of , I learned it from you.
@@Philosophical_Recommendationsoh ok, that makes sense, and that is true though that with access to sites like google which serves as a gateway to exhaustive results of informative web pages you don’t need to get help from an elder - just use the internet
I kept watching Zia's face and I truly see and feel the composure that she was trying to keep while the elders kept shouting. They were so respectful in the face of disrespect from the elders.
*They are African. If those young people raised their voice, they would have received physical punishment. They must keep themselves in a calm manner. African upbringing.*
This showed me how similar black/African American elders are to African elders. We have the same issues in our own communities amongst different generations especially when it comes to the “respect your elders” mentality.
"They are embracing a European way of life." Said by people wearing European clothing, speaking a European language, practicing a European religion, while preaching European customs that didn't exist in Africa until relatively recently.
@@TheDestineyy no, they didn’t choose to have western culture imposed on them anymore than we did, but they often fail to recognize that they’re influenced by European culture and trends the same way we are
I am an elder woman, and as a child growing up I did not understand when an elder does something wrong, and a young person tells them they are wrong, the elders will say (do what I say not what I do) that is nonsense, ñow I am an elder I see some of the elders live on tradition and culture ( I am not saying culture is bad but most of these saying they make up and it passes down, so now the young generation find out these saying does not make sense, some of the young generation today, have more sense at their age, than when we (elders) were their age, also tell those women Ito put their phone away. 😅
An elder once said to my brothers “if your father killed a man you must still respect prostrate and humble yourselves before him. There is nothing he could do to not warrant RESPECT”. I can’t I can’t I can’t. The madness.
@@keithmutamba1395 there is nothing ethereal about treating people with respect. That's why prisoners have rights. I don't have to be rude to an older (or younger) person because they did a bad thing. Instead, I'll focus the energy on making sure they face actual justice. It's important to be able to manage emotions.
Gloria is probably the only elder that was willing to at least try to listen to what the younger people had to say, but even then she wasn’t understanding the very much valid reasons and explanations the young people are giving
@@nikkie4314 how though, one of the younger dudes made a great argument. We should do what are elders say within reason and not blindly follow their every word. If your elder tells you to kill someone are you going to follow through with that just because an elder told you to? NO!
It's crazy to say it's now my turn to be respected because I respected the older people Everyone deserves respect every time 💁💁 from a baby to an older person
Bruh, we need a part two. Bringing elders that did not follow the norm of their times. You'll see the dynamic of the conversation. It would bring about more understand
@@bilongmarlenepetiniasahran1734 last time I checked, the set of people brought on this episode are good kids...the fact that they didn't "disrespect" any elder in this video proves that. If you're really a Nigerian/African you'll know what the "disrespect" mean.
Do you get... They are saying something else .. culture is different from demandimg respect.. can you pls earn my respect.. this is why I get it hot with my elder siblings and mum
11:19 that’s the problem with the older generation…they’ll pass down their traumatic experience to their kids and expect their kids to endure it. It’s time for our parents to humble themselves and get help through therapy (there’s no age limit in getting help). It’s not okay to say we can’t fight the system when we can clearly see that this system is causing a degradation in our mental health. This is a psychological illness and it needs fixing.
As a younger millennial, I used to just agree with boomers when they used to chastise our generation for being “lazy”, “impatient”, bla bla bla. It wasn’t until I graduated from university and realised that they don’t have any leg to stand on because their generation inherited a functional country from their parents who fought for independence, and they ran the country down with their greed and indiscipline. The facilities that they inherited from their parents are the same that we met without any improvements. They had a healthy currency exchange rate, insecurity was not nearly as bad, etc.
No. This generation (millennials, gen z) are lazier and entitled. They want something for less work. This generation has it much easier in terms of access to information and education, amenities, etcetera. I thank the elders for getting this far and instead of complaining the younger generations should be grateful with whatever they have and build some more. Then when they are elders, they will understand deeper the hastiness of their past juvenile ways and wish they had elders to snap them out of it much sooner, only to worry for their youth with the same urgency. The elders can be harsh, but it is up to the younger generations to teach them how to heal and live lighter but first they must heal themselves and gain wisdom in the process.
@@kickrocks71 Lazier yet its reported that people most people in our generation work 2+ jobs, have higher interest rates, house value has increased 3x more than it used to be before the millennial generation. Alot these so called "Elders" are not even as emotional concious as millenials and genz lol. New genrations are new generations for a reason to put quite simple we are the smarter than the last and so will be the new generation. The disconnect happens when the older generation is unwilling to cooperate and understand. Some these elders dont event deserve to be parents, still acting like children.
Guy with the braids never told NO LIE straight FACTUALS!! thank you brother for speaking your truth, I was getting heated the gen z’s didn’t stand for you.
@@WillCenteno1 im not in anybody world , im in my world , old people dont own the world if they do well i think it will create huge clashes world wide 😂 we'll destroy their world before leaving and they wont be anybody else if they die 😭🤷🏾♀️ they should humble themselves and realise were they are , cause if sum happen they'd be the most affected regarding the fact they can't be parent anymore chill chill chill and conform when your time is over
Yes, I wanted them to bring that up. Also lecturers (of that older generation) who are trading s3x for grades! Are we to prostrate in front of pervs too? This is the injustice that their line of thinking permits..
The modesty prompt is interesting because before Europeans invaded Africa, we basically dressed half naked. They say that we're losing our culture and following Europeans but the way they are saying is a modest way of dressing comes from Europeans.
Europeans have perverted our cultures, our bodies were not historically sexualised until invaders and Abrahamic religion came. Even our traditional dances are sexualised.
What a fantastic discussion! I am a 61 year British - Nigerian woman with four grown up children and I have to say I agreed with a lot of the points that the young people made. My experience growing up with Nigerian ( Yoruba) parents in the UK came with all the traditional aspects regarding respect, morality rebellion etc and I have to say that I saw a lot of the elders at that time take advantage of the young ones because they were elders and were supposed to be respected by fire , by force. The abuse that some of us faced shaped the way I raised my own children - who have done extremely well for themselves; know how to show respect to others, but do not allow themselves to be disrespected, downtrodden or abused. Every generation perpetuates the lessons they learned as they grow however, time dictates agenda, the experiences/ wisdom of the elders are valuable as is the vitality, strength, experiences and wisdom of the youth. The bible talks about ‘ Out of the mouth of babes’, as well as ‘ coming to God as children’. This shows that we must all recognise the part we have to play in developing the future. I taught my children that there is no such thing as a generation gap, both generations should be able to respect and understand why each party thinks the way they do , which comes from allowing each group to communicate how things feel for them and what they understand of the other group’s experiences. At the end of the day we all want the same basic outcomes: love, respect, happiness and peace. May almighty God grant us all with wisdom and the heart to hear and respect one another 🤲🏾🙏🏾😌
It's mad that there isn't a moderator. The younger ones are being spoken over constantly and they constantly tell them to stop talking when they are in a place for debate.
As a child of a Haitian born mother, this conversation is needed but hard to have because the older generation sees everything we say as disrespect or a threat. We don’t have the right as the younger generation to feel feelings. Our job is to *obey* .
Yes!!! an elder of mine once got upset because i did not say hi to her before going to the bathroom and accused my mother of raising me to be disrespectful…
These young people did very well to put there points across. The elders in the other hand are struggling to understand that things are different and young people are questioning the “norm”.
The problem with my step father who was african was that he wanted all the respect but none of the responsibility. He clearly didnt love or care about me until it came to how I greeted him, how I addressed him, how I acted in public as it affected his image, which chores I did in the house etc. He never once actually acted fatherly towards me but expected me to act like a son towards him
This is giving me PSTD as the youngest of a Nigerian family lol I was never listened to. Most times you can't change the older generation if they enjoy being stuck in their ways. You just have to love them from afar and move on with your life as an adult.
Same, I was the youngest of a Ghanian family and I was never listened to. African and Caribbean society seems hell bent on raising people pleasers and servants instead of strong and independent people
@@jessebarnes4389 unfortunately they like seeing us oppressed so they never get challenged as parents. It's sad all the way round. Pray you've been able to break away from that environment
I'm actually glad and want to commend the producers/directors, they really picked intellectually sound people, with emotional intelligence and wisdom, especially the older generation candidates, I wasn't expecting from them. Kudos to you guys, it made the debate worth it and had a direction.
This is not just a Gen Z conversation. I’m a millennial that always got told I was rude growing up for questioning and challenging older people. Funny thing is my mum encouraged curiosity through asking questions and critical thinking but when you apply this to Nigerians outside, problem.
When the woman in red said, “we were at home praying for you during endsars”, I howled with laughter 😂 😂. How the Gen Z’s weren’t laughing about a lot of the things the older people were saying is just beyond me 😂😂
Wow! I’m American and this is exactly what the youth here deal with. Elders demanding respect without demonstrating love first. Won’t take responsibility for the mess they caused but say they want you to clean it up.
Honestly explains a LOT about why we as black people collectively are in the position we are today. Like how are you supposed to demand respect from society and when your own parents barely acknowledge you as a person who deserves respect?
I wish I could understand what you all are saying but I’m confused and I’m more closer to y’all age. I would hope that you all when you get your grandparents age you keep the same energy. I get it when we are young we don’t want to hear shit. In life you can gain wisdom. Learn to hear the good and leave the bad simple. But it seems gen z just want to rebel just because.
^^^100% exactly. Many of us millennials can’t take the younger generation seriously. Im like I’ll see y’all in 10 years and see how you think then when life gets real and you have to start making tough decisions. Bc a lot of yall just wanna talk to talk.
9:15 he triggered me when he said respect was a right. It’s a privilege.. a right is undeniable, my respect to you can be taken just as much as it can be given
Millennial west african here. I'm so glad my parents don't think like these elders. So glad! The world has changed. Elders lack of vision and mistakes took us to where we are: bottom of this planet. "Don't fight the system"!? And the same auntie is asking the younger to be wiser 😂😂😂 Respect is a right if earned Obedience is not synonymous with respect. New Gen needs to take the lead. Step aside, aunties and uncles.
She said "he understands respect a lot" because HE WAS QUIET THE WHOLE TIME LMAO. They don't want you to be vocal about their BS, they only want you to say yes ma, yes sir. funny "adults"
Yes, THAT is very much respect. Will you want your kid to cut u off while you're talking?! Before accusing elders, remember that you're going to be an elder
@@bilongmarlenepetiniasahran1734broooo what??? The elders kept cutting them and not giving them a chance to speak. They just like him because he sided with them on s9me of their points.
As long as the elders continue to stroke their egos and continue equating utter abuse to “discipline” their grown children will always cut them off later.
This whole episode is just making my head pain me 😭 😂 Elders can never ever accept they're wrong and they have no idea what respect means. I can be doing all you ask me to do and completely have no respect or regard for you. I hope they truly learn that Respect is earned
This video really upsets me, Our “elders” act like children and refuse to hear or see how there children’s generation feels. I agree at the end of the day it’s in our hands to change but it’s not as easy when everything we try to mention is shut down and seen as “disrespectful”.
I literally had this exact conversation. They think cos they put us on this earth without consent that I owe them respect, blindly following them, adoration, labour and care taking
This video was so infuriating because you can tell the elders aren't even listening to what the younger ones are saying because they don't believe your opinion is worth a damn. Gen z are doing the best with what they were given, a broken country robbed dry by the very same generation calling us lazy. The hypocrisy stinks. Upon all their modesty they lack morality and accountability. The blind "respect" demanded from elders even when they're doing wrong can never foster a progressive working society. Thats why we're in this mess in the first place. We have to be able to hold each other accountable no matter what age. You don't get a free pass to be evil just because you managed to be born a few years before I did. Gen z refuses to suffer in silence and wait till the old generation dies off for it to be our turn. There's nothing left for us. If you like be a grandma, if you do anyhow you will collect
The Nigeria version of respect is what has kept Nigerians in the bad situation where we are. As a child u are trained not to ask questions.Just obey,is the very reason we cant protest.
I’m not a Elder. Giving someone Respect is about who you are. When you disrespect someone else it’s a reflection of your character. Even if you’re reacting. You’re not a respectable person if you go around disrespecting people. People aren’t molding who you are, they are exposing who you are. Respect isn’t Earned. Respect is how you carry yourself and how you respond.
I’m 21 and I agree that poise is important. You don’t need to be disrespectful to not respect someone if you get what I’m saying. That being said. Wrong is wrong so don’t construe my disagreement as me not respecting you. As the one guy said I have some basic human respect for everyone but beyond that everything is earned even from my elders.
@@Insidious-KI think that’s the issue. Disagreement is seen as disrespect when it’s not. I personally can’t handle someone disrespectful. The moment you are it tells me all I need to know about you as a person 🤷🏾♀️ there’s a way to respectfully disagree with someone when they are wrong and I think people confuse that.
respect is earned, and in various situations, such as educational settings, a parent may show respect to their child. However, when it comes to hobbies and other aspects, this respect might need to be earned over time. Therefore, I believe that respect is something that is earned
When elders ask you if they're lying and obviously they are lying, I'll tell them that they are lying because if you are not telling the truth, you are lying.
There was a very interesting training that had to be done in Korea among airplane pilots. Another culture with high respect to elders. They found more crashes and death because copilots were too afraid to point out mistakes made by senior pilots. They hired American firms to try to change the culture.
