You're right when I met my husband I visited his place of worship and he saw me and when I was in my car driving away he ran out to my car to get my number ..we been married 21 years now so it's TRUE that they approach if they want u..he called me that same day when I got home. Love your videos
Last time I tried to pursue a man he told me I remind him of a 12 year old and there are prettier women out there. I'm not doing that ish again lol. I will be single until a man pursue me, period!
@@m.d594 her point is to get the word out... This is my FIRST time seeing it. She's beautiful and he obviously had issues...as a lot of these men do. It will help keep women from making the same mistake.
Tony got jokes. “A double amputee can roll the wheel chair and approach the woman. Fact: I know a double amputee and he does just that... “never pursue the man”. Amen
I don't care what he looks like, don't have, do have, smell good, don't smell good...if he want you, he will pursue. He will pursue you whatsoever he want from you. Whether good or bad intentions. Whatever he's intentions, he will pursue. You "ladies" have to found out why he's interested. What's his intentions. Take your time with these men. Don't ignore your intuition. It's never wrong.
If he wants you and is confident he can provide for you he will pursue. A man can want you real bad but his confidence level isn’t high enough to pursue you in the way he wishes to. Women are doing their thing and men are intimidated. A lot of these men are online dating because it’s easy to meet, date and hookup without having to provide for her. Unfortunately modern women have made it easy for men to conquer them. So they remain in a lazy approach to dating…they don’t want to date they want access to free sex.
Your client is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. Ladies now a days are so DESPERATE that they are more than happy to pursue the man. I’ve had the men say exactly the same thing to me many times. “Well its a two way street” that’s the end of that.
You ain't lying about males being wired to chase what female they want: my friend's 7yo great nephew had his eyes on a little girl at school, he told his aunt that he had to be there by a certain time because another boy liked her also! He had processed the arrival time for the 3 of them and knew he needed to be there before his competition!! He also named his pet puppy after her! If a 7yo can make a plan and figure out what needs to happen for him to be with the one he wants, why can't these adult males do the same thing? "Because they don't want you! "
If a man pop out of his mouth asking me for money I’m leaving... I never ever in my 30 something years had a man to ask me for money nor have I never pursued a man but I noticed that military men always approach me in which I run 🏃♀️.. My parents didn’t raise no fool.. Ladies stop doing so much when it comes to getting a man.. God will send you your husband
I remember one guy asking me to buy him a new bedroom suite, come to find out he had been not too long released from prison... I ran for my life lol 😁✈️✈️✈️✈️
Tykitta Hunter The ones I know are liars. Many of them are married due to the extra pay they get. But they operate like their single. I run as fast as I can from them.
I met a man in a grocery store. He said I was beautiful. I thanked him and kept it moving. He eventually stopped me and asked if I was married. We exchanged numbers. He took days to text me. When he did I didn’t respond. I blocked his number.
I have been told quite a few times that I am too old school, need to change my way of thinking about dating, and will end up being alone if I continue to require more from men. But, I realize that when I have God in my life, He will never let me be alone. And He will send me the right man who will love me like Christ loves the church and meet my expectations and standards. Too many women with the new school of thought; then we don’t understand why there are so many breakups, broken hearts, and divorces...smh...Living in UNBiblical times, but God will reward those who don’t lose faith in Him-period! For now, I will just concentrate on pleasing God like Paul said about the true purpose of single Christian men and women! Can’t go wrong there!
They want you to pick them up, call them first, send them pics, do things for them, pay for the date, AND even come up with the ideas for the dates for their approval, don'twant to spend time or money. They act like chikdren
The men.. Want this is gross, a lot thrn come from poverty and single mom homes seeing their moms work n dating al types of different men in n ut house
These men track women on Instagram too and they always want to know “what do you do for a living” this question is designed to Set you up to be scammed
K.M. Ardrey really sorry to hear that, I don’t share that info, my response is “I don’t do nothing for a living” then they say “how do you support yourself” then and only my Blocked game is activated and I report to Instagram it’s a Scam page and days later Instagram reports back to me as confirmed that it’s a Scam and the page is removed, I’ve seen where the same guy creates a new page with the same pics and I just Repeat the process 🤗
@@michellelogan9177 Idk if the men I met were scammers, but I've had men & "love" interests that I knew personally ask me the same question and never thought anything of it until now. I thought it was just to make sure I can take care of myself, and that I was independent & building my own etc. But the more I see it's setting yourself up to take on a masculine role & be a provider for someone you're ultimately seeking love, security & protection from. So in reality, it doesnt allow space for a real man to exist & I was emtertaining men with other motives in mind. I still have a lot to learn though but glad I never ended up stuck in relationships like that. I was starting to think I was crazy & hard to love when in reality, I wasn't meeting quality men. But your take is interesting. They were trying to scam me on the low to be the provider 🤣. I need to work on my response for questions like that & stop believing everyone has good intentions iust because I do. Smh
19Honey87 M Amen! Never answer any questions, unless you’re saying “I’m doing well” bottom line it’s not their business because you’re both are strangers to one another
When Tony said the man called him mother to check the phone.. I was crying. These dudes do that. I must admit, I was once thirsty and shot my shot at men. I will never do that again! Thank you Tony
Met a nice guy in grocery store yesterday, he approached me he was very respectful, we talked briefly and exchanged numbers. He text later and the subject of work schedules came up, he asked mine and I told him 7-3 I asked his and he said none at the time but he supposed to start work next week, after that there was nonthing else to talk about end of story lol
LISSEN. There is not enough sweet willy or sweet talk in the world to make me give a man 2THOUSAND dollars you got to be plum crazy. 2 THOUSAND?? You crazy slap crazy
These men have game lol .. never say never...I have never gave a man money .. but some of these man this is a job for them lol and they date for a living lol
im on 2 diff dating sites but i never give out even my actual name or email address let alone my number! just typing until they realize they cant get no where with me lol what kills me is i state CLEARLY on my profiles that i will never meet them or will give or accept phone numbers, yet they still reach out to me lol. i suppose they fall into 2 groups: those that dont believe me and think that they can change my mind and those who do believe me but dont take me seriously
it feels uncomfortable because as women we aren't wired to do the pursuing. We are meant to be pursued. I swear I cringe when I see videos of women actually proposing to men. I'm like nooo please stop. It's scary how roles are reversing.
I don't pursue and have simply learned to reciprocate interest. I made it a policy to never reply to text a guy sends me after ignoring mine. It's rediculous how men think they can disappear for days after you text them or even weeks after communicating then text you out of nowhere with a "hey, how's it going?" They would NEVER call with that nonsense. Texting has really changed the dating game against those of us who are seeking meaningful relationships.
One almost got me Tony. I talked to that man daily. He claimed he got stuck in Indonesia and the bank was holding his money because he didn't have proper documents. I swear I believed him. I didn't give him my banking info like he asked. He got mad. I blocked him and moved on.. But it's definitely a thing. I almost Got GOT.. Be careful ladies.. Its real.
My thing is....if women have never seen or met the man ..and even if they have met .....however if they have never met ..how do they send money to someone they have never ever met when they wouldn't do it for a friend or family member ?????
I ended friendship due to on line FOOLISHNESS Young lady drove all the way to my house over 85 miles for me to read documents copies man's passport Note she had been on line dating this stranger for months and lying about it sending him money and his so call attorney money to help him was fake the passport had over nine errors his Facebook only two pictures It was an Nigerian Group of African man that sit back and get money from vulnerable women He told her he was gonna visit her in a helicopter there he worked for oil company and needed to get him out of prison it was crazy He would scream her on the phone talk to her so badly I witnessed this with my own ears and eyes She told me she would leave him alone I looked in her phone only to find that she had been sending him money for months All be called she wanted love They prey on women which tell them all their business ones that say I was abused as a child ,marriage. Women you will be surprise I tried to show her on RU-vid how it's done she still believe him I dropped her as a friend/business partner because if she could believe a stranger I wouldn't want that stranger somehow find out where I live And/or connecting me to her. Another incident happened where some young adults were visiting in town met these men wine and din one girl went with the man went to hotel because she didn't feel being" loose booty " luckily her friend track her cell phone went with the police got there Note coolers over 8 labeled with all that would go in each container kidneys ect. This young 24year old woke up in tub of ice this is an true story my family went to school with her. Note things happen every day that never make the news. For the love of God be careful everyone. BLESSINGS
I’m just so sick of women and their desperation speaking for us all. Like how hard is it to respect yourself and require that from those who you choose to share moments in life with. It’s frustrating because the loose bootys are getting higher in number and men notice that so even the good one’s are on the fence ugh . I’m not even interested in being with someone right now but I honestly feel the pickings will be so thin
Haven't dated in 20 years. ooooooh its rough out here. These are some new types of men nowadays...well grown boys. But, I'm old school and know what I did to get married the first time. I kept my legs closed and made it super hard because I am hard to get. Stay strong ladies. Stop falling for these tricks. I just turned down a guy today to send pics of my body. Almost cursed him out. I wasn't going to text him back...he messaged see that's why I like you. You are a good woman......look how they act. Keep your legs CLOSED!!! Good luck and be blessed.
Righr ...so much games ....and for what ....sex with these guys probably only last a few minutes anyway ...and once they get that what else is there ....
@@clarkclarke literally had this convo with the guys at work. I work with all men. They want me to give all these losers a shot. But I was like you wouldn't tell your daughter or mother to do that if they were in my shoes. Smh black men don't even want to cherish their own no more. That hurt the most that they want to see me potentially dogged out.
This is the whole truth. I didn't believe it until I saw it for myself. My friend's son is posing as a WOMAN and catfishing men out of thousands of dollars a month.
Whatz good yall👋🏼👋🏼I just told a man on fb a woman is not suppose to chase a man. He was so happy a 21 yr old was hitting on him being 40. I knew then something ain't right with him.
Thank God you know what a red flag looks like. 🙃 I met a guy who expected me to drop everything and meet him within 15 minutes at a store we met instead of a proper date #1.) 😕 #2.) He cared nothing about my time and what I could be doing, and actually told me he was mad because I didn't show up .. SMH ! 😖
Listening to u speak on red flags and such lets me understand that I have never had a healthy relationship. It's all always been nothing but games. I have been dating for over 15 years and I'm not bad looking at all. So many situations where I was in love in a relationship but turns out I was the only one. I was married once and have been single for going on eight years with no luck. I just stopped worrying about it cuz I could have went crazy. To be worried about things u can't control is a recipe for disaster.
This topic reminds me of a conversation I had with a good friend! I believe its EASY to meet men. There EVERYWHERE, give a honest respectful compliment & see who falls for the bait. HOWEVER I truly perfer a Man to approach me, to see a genuine pursuit & how a guy views you. Old fashion way! Yes! So I agree with Tony! It is free game!
Ladies, never pursue a man. A man should pursue you and if he doesn't he wasn't God's best. Always be willing to walk away and keep your dignity and integrity. Peace and Blessings🙏❤
I’ve been saying that these men are spoil today...too spoil to be exact...My dad even said that it’s women fault (in general not speaking for every woman )for the way men treat us because women been spoiling men, letting them have their way. Don’t know how to use the word NO or too scared to. I’m old fashioned when it comes to love so, my MAN needs to be old fashioned too..Period 💯
The book we Live by say “He that find a wife find a good thing and obtain favor of the Lord”. Let your husband find you! He should be the aggressor and you be the responder.
Queen ofHearts 💯😩Happened to me too. After the second date this guy was like “I’m planning dates and showing you interest. What have you done? The only thing you’ve done is shown up for the date!” He was terrible. Always counted tit for tat. Only treated for 3 months hoping I’d start giving him money and being a fool for him. Smh
tab2go Yup. That’s what some of them do. It’s not going anywhere good after that. That’s a man who wants badly to be a woman. He doesn’t know his place. And he’s broke and will gladly spend all your money, drive your car, give you a hurt back from bad s$x and will leave you as soon as he’s bled you dry. No thanks!
“He can roll that chair to you” 🤣. Literally lol’d at work listening to that. Tony you are so smart and have taught me SO much! I know the information is going to serve me if I ever find someone ☺️
I never get approached, Lol. And it's not my style to ever approach a man. So it's frustrating for me because it leaves me with zero opportunity. At this rate, I might as well buy that rocking chair and get me cat.
Hey Tony!! I just LOVE your videos. So much wisdom and humour to go with it. You are so right when you tell ladies to let the man pursue. This is something i practice as well. Lately, quite a few men have been pursuing through social media. This is usually how it goes. 1. They request me as a friend (FB or IG). I pray first to see if i should accept along with looking through their pages to see what they are about. 2. Once i get clearance from the Lord or if i feel he's ok, i accept. 3. They usually ask for my number. So instead, i conversate with them through messenger. This allows me to stay at a safe distance and see how their mind works. 4. I keep conversations casual yet to the point. And i always mix it up with Spiritual things to see where they are with their walk with Christ. 5. I kid you not, after this has gone on for about two weeks, they usually drop off. Mind you they pursue in the convo, but what gets them is when i ask them what is their purpose? They say usually say something generic. Then i talk about my purpose and what God showed me. Crickets. Then i dont hear from them. Then i know they werent the one. Because the man that God has for me will be in tune with God's Spirit will know his purpose. Or at least have a goal that he is working on that is greater than him. Even if he doesnt know how to articulate it, I'll know.
Anytime a man ask you for anything RUN!!!!!!! It's true Tony, these men today are lazy... They don't want to put in the effort, but want you to go to bed with them. I'm glad this young woman asked this question, and for online dating HECK NO, I NEVER GAVE A MAN NOTHING, 2 THESSOLONIANS 3:10.
Thank you, For this video 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I was told that it was a two way street and that it not his thing to convince someone to like him there should be a mutual interest.. i was like wait what!? What he said confused me lol. But I was like If you not putting in effort then I don’t want you periodt! So thank you for posting this because it just confirmed that he isn’t about anything and my thoughts on him were right.
The bible speaks about this in 2nd Timothy chapter 3:2 people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous,rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God- having a form of godliness but denying the power. God's word is truth! People have to stop✋being desperate" period. And guard your heart ❤
@Ann E yea I feel you. Been there, done that. In these situations, the best thing I did was let him go. It's bad enough I'm struggling with money. So I let him go so we can work on each other individually. If God has it that we come together,God will decide. There's a recent video that Tony gaskin we made talking about "don't take back your ex" ... I forgot the exact name of the title but basically he gives good details on whether or not to take your ex back and if he's changed for the better for you.
I will NEVER pursue a man. You wont know if the man wants you because he likes you OR hes just going along for the ride seeing that YOU went after him and is playing you because you got at him and he didnt have to chase.
Love the videos Tony, keep schooling us ladies and the gentlemen that want to improve. Also * you might wanna fix your video header, looks like you got a typo*
Even meeting them without the internet is risky these days, ladies don’t tell all your business and definitely ask if he’s married... even if he says he’s “separated” that’s still a NO No!! Don’t do it!
@@NekolesPerspective2.0 Tony had already this...look through the videos ....he did one a couple of day ago ..A Big Mistake Women Make .... if you are subscribed to the channel all the previous videos will pop up ....just binge watch ...he has podcast as well....
Man. I gotta say this. I’m almost 45 been single for 8 years this March. And those women are more than correct. It more than baffles me. As to why these males feel I should pursue them! They will ask for my number and give me theirs and tell me to call! Or expect me to do the pursing. I think the hell not! At this point I’m just gonna have to give up on black men
I wish I would of found you channel yrs ago...uv made me realise alot of things I was doing wrong which I thought was right....I was dealing with the wrong guys...the users...manipulators...iv been workin hard on myself and I take all your advice on board...thankyou so much Tony your a angel 😇
The bible says a man that findeth a wife findeth a good thing. It didn't say a woman that findeth a man! You should never approach a man! The man should be the chaser. If he's not confident enough to persue me then I guess I'll just remain single. I've never chased a man and at age 51 I'm not gonna start now.
Sheree White That scripture puts the responsibility on the man to find a wife. So what if he is running across women who he don't see as someone he could make his wife. So now he goes back into the field to search for another helpmeet.
Yes, there are A LOT of men who kick back and want the woman to pursue. I'm not with it. It's stemming from men being tired of being taken advantage of AND "pick me" women who make things so easy for men. There are other reasons as well but these are what I see as the biggest issues.
godseed79 I think something is wrong with today's women and men, some women are not behaving like women and some men are not behaving like men. I told someone when I was growing up, boys pursued girls they liked which is the natural thing to do. What happened? It's a video with Judge Lynn and she talks about she don't know exactly when it happened or how but today's man is not like that of her husband or father.
I wanna be friends with your wife cause she the real VIP 😂 but for real you have changed my life a lot.. so happy I came across this.. it’s weird cause I asked god for a god loving man and somehow he answered my prayers not in the way I wanted but in the way I needed to prepare me for my future husband.. I have been watching a lot of your videos over several days and they hit home.. big time thank you.. you are making a difference in people’s lives and it’s a ripple effect.. thank you god for Tony Gaskins 🇨🇦
Love this...I disagree with the dating app thing. That's the world we live in unfortunately. I have 4 girls who met their husbands on dating apps. Still married. one 10 years. The data doesn't lie , it works, you just need to be cautious, do video chats, lots of communication, meet in public places, do your research, pray to god about who you're meeting. It's no different than a blind date. I have 2 friends I met online and even tho we didn't make a true love connection, I'm still very good friends with them, 4 years now.
Just because they are married doesn't mean they have a healthy relationship it doesn't matter how long they have been together. There are a ton of women who are married and put up with toxic things that they think are normal. You don't know what is really going on unless you are in their marriage.
To be honest, I have mixed feelings about dating sites. I feel it’s up to the individual as a whether they wanna try it out or not. I know from my experience I met some good people on there is some bad apples on there too. lol I also met some bad people in person for worse than the ones who were on the dating site lol. My sister and her husband she’s been married to five years mom plenty of fish. I just filled with anybody that you meet on a half line we just need to pray and ask God for wisdom and discernment to show you the red flags early.
I really appreciate this knowledge for I am 64 years old and was never taught the things you teaches us. So, I say this to say it is never too late to learn about relationship. Thank you so much and keep up the good work. My father passed when I was 12.
