So Tamar basically said that her exes were better in bed than Vince but she prefers Vince as a husband. Interesting.. also she has mentioned that her exes were very bad to her and one even used to hit her. So she's basically saying that sex is just a cherry on the cake and you should look for someone who treats you right first and foremost... wise woman.
That was well said. Very true and good advice. Please check out my channel. I do open topics for people like you to share thoughts and opinions. Would love to hear what you have to say.
+Yasmine Xo Not that wise if you're gonna put your husband on blast like that in front of the world. That's how you end up losing the good man you have; running your mouth all day long about his business. You don't put the man you love on blast like that.
I commend you for sticking by her at least your emotional relationship is worth staying for smfh these people who saying she getting it from outside that's just crazy
People act like sex having sex is the end all be all to everything life. I mean there's so much more than that. Be with people who love you for who you are and who support you through through thick and thin. Also, why are people acting like being bad in bed is a curse or a disability or something? Anybody CAN get better at sex. As a matter of fact, the majority of people are just hooking up, there's not making that GOOD love, you feel me? Having good sex is SKILL that ANYBODY can master, you just have keep it real, tell your partner what turns you on and what you like, and vice versa! And BOOM, getch'yo life! End of the story!
+Sava My goodness, you are a very wise person. Lately, i have being watching other cultures and to be honest, i got to see why so many relationship failed. I can't believe that nearly all those ladies believe that they would end a relationship if sex is not good. So after the act, what is left? What do we see in that person? When two being became one, they brings out the best in each other. Although, it's clear there is a difference between sex and love making. That's why in some society today, sex causes a lots of suffering, unwanted children, sicknesses, single mothers and fathers. Some people spent their lives having sex but never experience the joy of love making. That's why i will never blame society for how some relationships are today, i'd rather blamed the people. I am in my 30's and is married for almost 19 years and everyday, i learn, i tried, i receive and willing to offer and listen. Either i am weired or unique, but there a very few people i can relate to.
+Aldora Addy look I wrote to and that's what the hell I meant so thank y'all now once again go pick up a grammar book and go correct some1 else I have an education I'm done with school so bye
Really? The sex can always improve, what happened to working out the kinks or communicating? When I first got with my current girlfriend the sex was okay but not great, a few months and communication later and the sex is great. No Adrienne not all men think like that, I remember my flatmate had a girlfriend who was bad in bed after his previous by his account was a freak in bed. He stuck it out and she got better, apparently they watched some porn lol. Bottom line if you are both willing then it doesn't have to be a deal breaker P.s Tamar did not shade Vince, so what if he isn't great in bed, it's not the same as being bad in bed or saying it's okay. I actually gained some respect for her in this segment. You can always get better at sex, but you cannot always find someone who truly loves and cares about you. Give me a girl who loves me and we can work on the sex after.
UnexpectedWonder Hell will freeze over if u waiting on a female to take any type of initiative. Sex is no different. The man gotta get things rolling and if she decides to put in effort great but if not then take over. No big deal. Imma get my nut off one way or another!
BeautySyndromeBaby because people think sex is everything. I'm not generalizing bt I noticed, in the West, people get divorced over the pettiest things, things that can be resolved.As it is there are a lot of douches out there and if someone wants to end a relationship just because sex isn't great, wow , what a waste...when they could actually work on that issue...esp if the guy could be a great guy. Maybe it's my upbringing here..us in the East..in Asian culture, marriage is really something that you learn how to compromise and really work through till both parties find a way to b happy. Of course, cheating , abuse and anything of that sort are non-tolerable though, well to me at least. So yeah :)
Not all men think that way... I've been with my man 4 years LONG distance and we aren't having sex. We are getting married this summer. He has told me multiple times he would still marry me if we couldn't have sex. Don't lower your standards ladies. There are men out there that will treat you like a Queen.
Sometimes we can't have it all (good man, great sex, respectable man). Although some do, and what a blessing that is !I totally agree with Tamar, after experiencing the things in my life. I would rather have a man who treats me with the upmost respect, loves and adores me. Yes sex is important, but you have to work with what you have. Be blessed somebody loves you for you. Life is short, sex is good but a good man is better!!
If you are not satisfied with your sex life with your partner, then you can always leave because there are some people who think that bad sex is a deal breaker. But if you love your partner very much and you are willing to make things work you can always teach your partner to spice things up to have a better sex life!
+Ktaressa I feel like the only people who can't be taught are those who are unwilling to learn. As a guy I always go into every new sexual relationship looking to learn and it has stood me in good stead. All too often guys thing they re the sh*t and they just aren't and from my experience women think that they have no role to play beyond just laying there and taking whatever the guy has to offer
+MsBrooklyn11232 I feel like relationships should never be judged based solely on the sex and I'm sure you all know that. Relationship is a two way thing that is influenced by many factors. And like most things, sex is a skill that can be learned. If you just talk it out then you'll both do fine. You may have a good man or woman with you who is honest, loyal, trustworthy and all that (also rich tee hee) you got all that good going for you..so just talk it out. Your next one may be good in sex but he may also be doing it good with other women/men. So I'd take a good man who sucks at sex over an eight timing man who's good with sex. Sex is a skill that can be taught...but who am i kidding I'm a virgin who's never been in a relationship sooooo
Ktaressa That's sad. Have you tried achieving your own orgasm? Is he unwilling to go down on you and why are you still giving him oral if you know where it leads? It sounds like you are in a marriage which makes it more complicated but you cannot just accept this, while sex is not the be all and end all it is still important in a relationship.
I think Tamar was really saying that she doesn't need all that extra rough and tough type of sex, when she said mediocre is fine I think she's saying that normal sex , nothing too much is ok with her, I don't think she'd do Vince like that.
I agree I don't think she was saying that Vince is bad in bed. I think she was just saying that regular sex with your partner is fine. I agree with her. I'm older and mediocre is fine sometimes, but AMAZING is what you want occasionally.
I dated someone who was not good the first time and his package wasn't that great to be honest. But i didn't give up like some people. He got better every time. He asked questions, he asked if i wanted to use toys and asked if i could masturbate in front of him.. I think the question is does he/she want to learn to work it out. I would leave him if he thinks his fantastic and wouldn't want to learn what i like. But i believe it's immature to leave someone just because the sex was not good the first time..
So if the sex is great but he's broke and has NOTHING TO OFFER YOU, you females will still stay with him ???? But the sex is not great but he could offer you the world you won't stay with him ??
Tovah Thank u! these female are bottom feeders mentally. Thats why we got 24 million FATHERLESS homes all across America. The sex is good but the relationship is toxic.Never thinking long term and home improvement but always short sided by instant gratification.Anything worth greatness and honor MUST Be BUILT.
Welllllll no one is born an expert at sex.. that comes with experience lol. There is so much more to a relationship than sex. If he is a good man, you show him what you like and how to satisfy you in that department - but make sure this is a man who is satisfying you in ALL areas, not just when it comes to sex.
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You shouldn't lie if you're not satisfied. But if there is a way to work with what you have, then by all means do that. It's not bad being the teacher. That could be fun.
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Y'all remember on Tamar and Vince when she lied on her lie detector test and said she fakes it , and on BFV when the frogs was going at it and Tamar was like Vince needs what the frogs need lol
BOOM! BC most woman have had a guy or guys who've blew their back out but their no longer w them. Why ddnt it last is sex is so important? It matters if it ain't good lol
I have heard that as well. So because of that reason, I would say yes, you should break up, but not before you try to work it out. If there is love, respect, and you guys were hot and heavy at one point, I think you could get back to that.
Tamar should have just kept her mouth shut in this segment. The side eyes I was giving her👀 She was shading Vincent so bad 🌴🌴 Jeanie and her "quickie" ass need to have several seat and "make love". Lonie kept it all the way real.
Jeanie said quickie in response to Tamar saying she has stuff to do.. she didnt say thats all she is in for. I cant understand why you have complaints this segment was bomb!
madeyoulook Yes they can have different opinions. I just felt like what she said didn't paint her husband in the best light and if Vincent was to say something like that she would feel some type of way.
If all you're focused on is sex then you should sign up for a one night stand membership. Relationships matter and take work. As Tamera says "it's the icing on the cake". And Tamar said she'd have a good man over that any day. And you can always learn what each other likes if you talk.
Total disagree with the breakation is the sex is bad. Just like Jeanny said teach the person what you want to do. You know what's funny people says a relationship is based on the sex but you're not sexing al the time.(I know that relationship and marriage is not for everybody) Think about it, do u sex ev'ry day,every hour of the day 24/7? It's not logical right?... My opinion is that you don't love the person at all but you love only the sexual behavior, that's is why many people this days does not know what real love is.... We are living in a era that everyone is like a sexual objects, just like animals that in the mating season. Sex and that's it, it very said -_-
Ya'll really be some hypocrites in this comment section. Had it been Tamar saying she would leave because of bad sex while the other hosts talk about staying and making it work for a good man, I'm sure ya'll would've called Tamar the WORLD of things. Hell, even goody two shoes Tamera was tryna hint that sex plays a big role in marriage and she would probably leave too if the sex was bad. Where are all the bible thumpers now? If Tamar had said that, ya'll would be up in here quoting the bible that sex is for procreation not enjoyment. I'm not saying any is wrong for their opinion (although I do agree with Tamar) but the hypocrisy is REAL.
***** you missed my point. I'm not talking about what people are talking about. I'm talking about what they WOULD HAVE said had the opinions of the hosts been switched.
I believe that some of what you're saying is true. Sex does play in relationships and it has always been that way since the beginning of time. Some people may be lying on themselves too, but it's really about what a person prefers. Like me, I prefer connection and history with a person over intimacy, because that what I always look for in a person.
If bad sex will make someone break up with somebody, then we all really need to question are selves. No wonder why the divorce rates are so damn high, because people don't know how to be in real relationship now days. What if you find a amazing person who is a potential spouse, and leave them because they aren't good in the bedroom department? Then your gonna miss out on true happiness. Thats why I personally believe you should wait until marriage, since it will allow you to learn about your partner. And this will form a strong relationship. People need to stop living in the moment, and actually be wise and cherish a good thing when they see one. Get out of lala land and stop being superficial.
28 December 2017: I know I am late in my reply, but I just saw this show. This is an easy answer. From a man's point of view. If the couple are Not yet married and the sex is Always boring, dull and lacking, after talking it over a few times and still one partner is not hot then split up and move on. Sex is very important in a relationship. On the flip side, if the man/woman are already married and the sex has become dull and boring, then that bad or boring sex is Not a real valid reason for splitting up and divorcing. I know because I am living in that situation now. However, if there are lots of other negative factors plus dull boring in the bedroom then after talking about it and still nothing has changed then move on and find the right person, spiritually, physically and mentally. Life is too short to be in a dull boring long term relationship with no romance and no good sex. If it's more hot and passionate from both, then there is no reason to look outside of the relationship or marriage.
THANK YOU! Seriously it’s starting to get really annoying seeing people break up over this. Sex isn’t that important. If it’s important enough for you to leave then your values are all sorts of wrongs.
hanna said Even though he gave her a ring, that man did not want to marry her. Thats why she left n married Israel as soon as he asked. she was desperate to be someones wife
I whether be with someone who isn't good with sex but treats me with respect, doesn't abuse me,etc. than be with a sexual man who is sexist, rude to be, and abusive. just saying. even tho I am a virgin sex isn't everything.
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@@staceyplusjonathan9420 I checked it out. That's interesting. I never struggled with being abstinent as a woman. Maybe it is because sex doesn't really cross my mind
Lmao I'm ....look ...uh....hmmmm.....I don't think Tamar has a choice but to like mediocre cuzzzzz you know and poor thang probably do all the work. No shade no tea . IJS
Was it just me or did y'all notice that the people at the table who said to leave are the single ones? And it's not surprising that y'all would shade Tamar (and Vince) for her saying to stick around and work on it. God forbid somebody truly loves their mate to do so.....
+1douglagyal right!! But had it been the other way around and Tamar was the one saying to leave but Tamera saying a good man is worth more the comments would've been entirely different.
I had this exact convo with my bff about a boyfriend.. she said leave.. I ended up showing and telling him how it's done and now we're great in that area ! lol
of course sex is an integral piece in a relationship. but to say that its a deal breaker is ludacris. There will come a time when you reach a certain age where sex falls by the wayside, and the icing becomes how well you can connect with your partner on an intellectual level.
In my honest opinion I don't think u should break up. All cuz the sex was bad, it just sounds like you're in it for the sex and that's it. That's why u communicate and be mature about it. Be honest with ur partner and just tell them the sex wasn't good at all. Try something different and then everyone's happy
I agree with Tamar. I spent most of my time to do other thing like life, work, loving and everything. Sex is like half hour per day. Well i want me a good lover to fill that 23,5 hours instead of that good fella who gives good sex and then be totally useless for the rest of the day.
Fucking Tamar gave me life she said "I got things to do...I like a lil crazy every once in a while, I like mediocre, lets have a lil balance!" Adrienne's face at 2:12 lmfao!!!
If you leave a good relationship solely based on bad sex without even trying to talk it out or make it it better, it was never a good relationship to begin with.
Yes you should stay here's why, you should be able to communicate with your partner on what you do, and don't like. Practice makes perfect! So if you have a good man, but he's not satisfying you. Communicate that with him!
I don’t think so. A relationship is built on a emotional connection, not sex. If you think that sex is a deal breaker in a relationship, you’re just childish.
A relationship is based on alot of things, sex isn't one. My wife of 25 yrs is now going through the "change" and has went from "anytime, anywhere, anyhow!!" to "don't even think about it!" and I'm STILL with her
soo basically that guy can represent how alll men think, but you five women can have different views on the situation? i.e. women do not all think the exact same way, but men do? that's disappointing that anyone would put that message out. smh.
I'm starting to like Tamar a lot more than Adrienne. Adrienne seems to care way too much about sex and not enough about every other aspect of a relationship.
It seems like she still thinks like a 20 year old. I think once she falls in love, it'll click in her head that there's so much more to being in a relationship than that, like the foundation that started you & your partner off to begin with. If there's something that isn't the "best" & if you're willing to continue to be in a relationship, even if there are some "flaws" well damn, work on it. If you're in too deep with someone, everything will eventually fall into place and you will see what matters.
+Sasha Murua If Adrienne wants this life with a husband and eventually kids, she needs to think realistically that it won't always be HER way when it comes to her sex life & obviously things are gonna change.
Sasha Murua Right. She still believes she'll have 20-30 minute sex every night even after having kids. She's in for a rude awakening. I don't even have kids and I know that's unrealistic.
First of all Adrienne is Puerto Rican. Now unless you've had sex with a Latina woman, you can't possibly be an expert on knowing the level of commitment they have during the act of making love. They have a tremendous appetite and literally put their backs into it and triple the output if they're in love. I know because I'm a brotha who has been with my share of PR women. Don't hate. Just lending my knowledge to the conversation. Cheers.
Adrienne seems as if she is only saying what men like to hear. As u can see, sex ain't everything. If it was she wouldn't be on her 3rd engagement and she wouldn't have been cheated on. Cut it out Adrienne, no1 really wants to have sex everyday. Well maybe at the beginning. Also, she say that she don't like taking money from her man cuz she got her own. Again, it sounds like she really wants to be what a "man" want smdh
good sex can be taught if both are willing, "loyalty, respect, compassion, intelligence, strength, & stability (in all areas) are more important. If the person has those qualities and I truly love them, then we can work on the sex part. Truth be told good sex w/out those 6 attributes I've listed are unless & will get old REAL quick....
Jordan let me just say that sometimes, the icing don't match the cake. You come tasting some icing and you discover that it's cucumber with a hint of wasabi, so you leave not knowing that the cake's made of nutella. Sometimes, the icing isn't all that makes the cake, Jordan. First off, that's not how you get to know someone. The icing isn't all that makes a person. So no. THat's a shallow reason. When you turn 80, the icing will be dry but the body of the cake, is all that will be left. You cannot build a cake on an icing, you must remember. You gotta build the body well, too and often times, it's what we miss so much because we're too occupied with the different flavors of icing, but that runs out quickly.
If the sex is great in the beginning but fizzles out, but he is still a good man, I will stay with him. Its not always about the orgasms. It comes to a point when sex is really about reproducing and you need to find pleasure from things they will never get old in your mate.
what's so crazy about this segment is Tamar would of been lookin at Jeanie reeaal side eye if she spilled all her tea lk this, now Tamar usually don't share anything! concerning her relationship but she done Shared the ULTIMATE,😂 and ain't not one of them look at her lk they be lookn at Jeanie cause they fill she's embarrassing her man,.
i feel like its easy for people to break up with people because of sex but how would u feel if someone breaks up with u because u aint that good, what if its not the person but u, i get what tamar is saying, she has like 50 jobs, aint nobody got time for that always
i agree with tamar love is more important than chemistry if you have a wonderful man keep him there's nothing but garbage out there trust me not worth leaving a good thing because sex is bad sex is something u can always fix how about a class? smh people these days don't know how to value an actual relationship over superficial junk like sex work at it folks its what marriage is its work!!!!
Adrienne always want someone to agree with her, instead of giving her honest opinion and just being real, it’s always a “yada yada yada, righttt *looks at audience*?” It’s not about sex. If that’s really important, your relationship not based on love, period.
I'm a man and I think that all that matters is finding a good life partner, who shares your values. You can choose sex over that, but you'll end up miserable and alone.
I have to be honest. I wish my sex life was better. Ive been with my man for 15 years so it's definetly not like how it used to be but he treats me like a queen and worshipps the ground I walk on so I am sooo beyond blessed to have him and would not trade him cause good D is easier to find than a good hearted man that's down for u. Now on the other hand if we meet and it's bullshit from.tje jump then oh hell no
If the sex is bad then you gotta go, *period*. Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship and if we can't do what it do then you gotta go. And if you don't know how to kiss then you really gotta go. So what we gon do? Lay in bed and read storybooks? Ya'll need to stop playin'.
Tamar is a wise woman. Vince may be laying it down but that's not the next woman's business. She knows her husband is banking and a man with power in the industry; therefore, women will throw themselves at money/status. A wise woman once told me to always make your "so called" friends think your man can't perform in the bedroom... that way you don't have to be concerned about a sneaky $&@% attempting to go behind your back.
I agree with Adrienne ! My boyfriend, the father of my kids wasnt on my time when it came to the getdown so I had to turn him out but now 5 years later I'm the one who's gotta keep up with him 😂😂😛
Consistent bad sex is more of a red flag than most are aware! If after you’ve attempted to guide or teach & it’s still not there. You’ve got to let it go. So yes, terrible sex is most DEFINITELY a deal breaker! That connection is undeniably important! I
NOTE: this show and its message is mainly directed towards the urban population and hence reflect the high adultery/infidelity rates of said demographic as said demographic colludes sex the primary factor in a successful relationship. Hence the perpetual downfall of urban sociostrata.
Call me naive but I just feel like if you really love someone, and you're really passionate about someone, and you have really great chemistry with that person, mediocre sex can seem amazing because the chemistry and the attraction is there.
This was a very superficial segment. If the sex is bad from the beginning there will be no relationship in the 1st place. If the sex has become bad is because he does not love u anymore.
Also did you guys notice at the end Tamar turned to Tamera and said Did I not say you would have a conversation. Jeannie basically said what Tamar said in the beginning. Teach your man the way to please you and let him know he need to step his game up in the bedroom
I may be trying it a bit when I say this: I love Tamar... BUT I don't see her as a sex goddess. Like she seems like she would be whining or complaining the whole time. Or grossed out lol and yes, I think she shaded 🌑🌚 Vince on this one
28 December 2017: From a man's point of view, I agree with you. Some women are too up tight in the bedroom and do not really know how to let go and really get hot, loud and passionate. Some women who are in committed relationships or married are only doing it in bed with the lights off and afraid to do it any place else.
I say to each their own. It's not a must to be a freak in the bedroom. I personally have medium tolerance for sex once or twice a mouth is good enough or every 5 weeks and it is just my personal preference coz it's just not my thing. I've been with my fiance for 5 yrs going on 6. It's all about communication and there are a lot of things to consider while breaking off a relationship, worse divorcing someone besides just sex.
Yes it's true that sex or intimacy is very important in a relationship, but Love is more powerful and I don't think it's an acceptable reason to leave someone just because of that. You need to talk to your partner first and learn each others technique or set for an counseling.
lmaooo! Poor Vince. It is so much to be inferred from Tay-Tay's commentary...Got the general public thinking that mane bedroom game mediocre. This clip was funny.
+kikilicious99 😂😂yesss loni don't play no favorites lk the other girls do, she looked at Tamar just how they all be lookn at Jeanie when she spilling tea
I love temar that goes to show u that she wears has heart on her sleeve and that is much appreciated ! She’s not shallow. She cares more about the person love then the sex even though sex Plays a big part in a relationship but still she’s not shallow and I love her honesty !
