Shunned Amish Woman interview-Mary 

Haha agree

lol yes 😂😂😂 I was like markkkk noooo

Yeeeesssss

Knitters as well❤

"Knittas stick together" 😂 I love the look she gave him too. I love her. Please bring her back for an update.

Please tell Mary how much I appreciated her voice and story. Love and Light to her.

Tell mary she is SO brave, i am sitting in denmark, listening to her story, and learning so much🙏

She is amazing 💖💖🌸🌼 A true inspiration 🙌 Sending my solidarity and gratitude to her from NYC ✨✨✨✨

How lovely it must be to have this beautiful soul Mary for a friend.

This lady's strength and courage is awe inspiring!

Sending love to you and your mother. May you both find healing and peace.

Lots of strength and love, shine your light ❤

Man, at 27:00 she caught another gear, lol.

well yeah its pretty easy to tell when shes being dishonest or like picking and choosing what she wants attention for idk her eyes tell the story of someone that doesn't interact with truth very well

@funny2xUS Hey look, I found the psychic who thinks they know what people are thinking. Youre the type of person who says someone who was brutally sexually assaulted probably 'wanted it' because they arent showing the exact body language you think someone in that situation should have. People react to abuse and traumatic experiences in different ways You are obviously a judgemental person whos had a pretty good life and has never known anyone who has suffered severe trauma.

Inherently Inherently Inherently

And for what? Some kind of space lesbian?

@@DestroyerOfEvil_69 It is deeply upsetting that you could have so much hatred in your heart for a complete stranger you don't even know. This woman has fought and earned the right to dress and look however she wants, especially as a victim of a culture that fights to keep their women submissive, obedient, and "plain." Your words are ugly and immature. Do better.

You may consider yourself a destroyer of evil, but you're only an enforcer and encourager of evil. Not to understand the overwhelming evil of abusing totally helpless, totally dependent on adults children is a grave moral failure. I hope that you will gather the strength to make the decision to open your mind enough to mature, and allow for wisdom and growth, it will benefit you in the first place.​@@DestroyerOfEvil_69

@@DestroyerOfEvil_69yea, only thing worth than child sexual abuse is dressing unusual or being gay…ya loon

💯 I teared up as she described her dress. Such freedom in making this dress!!

Her dress is gorgeous.

And her hair!

The grin she had when explaining the stitching. So much purpose put into every detail. Love it.

Yes! I agree, inspiring.

A work of art.

💯❗

Bravo Beautifully Done👏🏿

Yes, the best.

Absolutely agreed. Strikingly eloquent, in it's brevity.

Hi Mary, good to know you are now safe. Thank you for enlightening englishers. I'm sort of part of Michigan community. Very arbitrary, vague and verbal, even unspoken expectations/ordinance @ district.

I've seen on just the subject of visual art, many newcomers to our are are offended by the liberty in our area to paint and draw. Old order Amish from Byrne Indiana feel that drawing is verboten!!!

Hi there, I am wondering about some Mennonite people, a few families that were in a documentary about how they decided to pack up one day, and leave America to go to some jungle in like Cuba or Venezuela I'm not sure, maybe someplace in Asia where they had bought land, but they had to clear the trees to be able to build it was so undeveloped and isolated. This really blew me away because they looked like the last people who would ever be willing to take on such drastic and difficult all encompassing life changes, let alone they wanted to do it, they were not forced . But to go from what looked to me a very outlined and habitual life of routine to an uncertain surprised filled life of risk & chance. Like they were last people on earth I'd expect to find were I trekking threw that jungle . So is this something Mennonite people all do? Like a way to spread their religion to new places? Or do they usually stick within their established communities all their lives ? And have you heard about them within your community, some sort of update on Mennonite activities outside the states? This was the 1st of two part documentary and I never did get to see the 2nd and it would be so fantastic to learn they are thriving and healthy & to see their progress. I think about these people often and pray they are all well & alive.

are you jewish?

Shunned when he was a toddler?

I agree 💯 An intelligent, experienced, compassionate interviewer. ❤

Mark did an excellent job of allowing her to express herself and tell her story.

Mark's style of letting people talk and speak their story in their way uninterrupted is great. Certainly my favorite style. If you let people talk ... they will tell you their truth.

This is the way to interview a person on a serious subject like this. Ask a few questions, let them answer in their own words and time.

She's very calm when she speaks. She's beautiful and I love her dress. It was good listening to her story. Very informative.

Yes!!

Deeply insightful.

Thank you for this comment

I’ve heard people use the expression “he/she died from depression” instead of using the word suicide, and that has also help me a lot to gain a different perspective about my trauma and others, we struggle with a disease and without the proper resources, as she said, is incredible hard to overcome

Agreed! The way this woman walks through all these scenarios and ideas is so leveled headed. It makes my heart happy because it is very obvious that she has gone through a LONGGG road of healing, learning, and understanding. My heart goes out to her.

Some might imply that adversity in her youth is what defined her as an adult. That would be a mistake.

@amaure216 I loved that part! She burst into bloom. It made me so happy!

@@violetxoxoxme too! I’m so proud of her and in awe of her. Warrior.

People who are desperate to affect an appearance of excessive colour and extravagance generally betray a feeling of insecurity, emptiness and rottenness on the inside.

I’m sorry to say I’m cynical enough that I’m not even surprised. When *havent* victims been blamed and shamed thru history? Emphasis on HISstory.

Because she is a woman. All women are punished for asking for their equal rights, freedoms, safety throughout the world. Mary is a voice for millions of women.

@@edvh88Absolutely.

@@edvh88 Why is most women's s*xual fantasy r*pe? The way you write "history" has nothing to do with males, btw. It's all in your head - like that fantasy. You know how I know? I'm male. And most of us wouldn't ever r*pe a woman, because we had good mothers. Does it matter though? Of course not. You'd never mention the skincolor of the perp, because you are "tolerant" enough to be r*ped by someone 2 shades darker than you. What? Crime stats suddenly disappear in your "grey vision"?

This is common practice in all cultures if you pay attention. ❤

Yes. This. ☝️💯🎯👍

Mary Byler rocks. I just hope, that she will get a job and a place to live.

Heritage means you are from something, meaning some aspect of you participates in something. That being the case, how can you do heritage "in your own individual way"? Heritage isn't individual

ok, *interpret their heritage. happy? Lol how unnecessary comment.@@manlikeJoe1010

and also heritage can be anything. Like cultural heritage can be a football pitch. I've studied heritage studies on Master's level so yeah. I have an exam in that.@@manlikeJoe1010

The whitewashing is real.

🙏 💗

This is why I detest the word “r*pey”. As in, “He’s kinda “ra*ey”.

What does that mean

@@paidovi4717 I imagine it means religious people can be overbearing, like seems to happen in any group that has lots of power over others. All that seems to do is cause people to overcompensate to the other side. Notice how the lady here basically joined the opposition.

Hope you stay safe and strong, sending you all the best wishes 💜

Just don't let it lead you to the low hot place. Just because Mary may have experienced injustice doesn't mean jumping from the true center group, the bible / love, over to the left or the right side is the answer.

​@@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats that is the exact opposite of what the OP was saying. And yes it should lead anyone astray when you realize religion and those stupid books are just tools of men to control the masses. Selling hope to the hopeless.

This was also the exact moment in the video when I felt the need to pause and comment. Mary is an unbelievably strong and inspiring person.

​@@blueberreez?

agreed, that was a refreshing comment.. when i think armish people .. i think of god fearing people / christians / farmers who live off the land .. it just goes to show - we can find creeps anywhere we go in this world .. god bless mary hope all is well & peace onto you all

English language is racist tho... along with math!

​​@@jaystat6545English is a bastard language. Math is the language of the Gods. Math is the only thing that is UNIVERSAL!

@@jaystat6545What? Who TF said that? You? 😂

I agree, she is a great speaker and relatable.

Besides the false sabt(Sunday),and teh wide spread of spiritism(yog, karma, ouiaj bord, reiki,hipnosis), last final decie wil be ,atht satn himslef wil come as Hrist, sayinghe changed teh day of rest! And this decie wil be poerful for al those who dont read teh Bible for themseles,as it wil be flowed by great miracles and healings,everywere he wil apear! But teh Bible dosnt live su without wraning to this and cleaerly says aht when Jesius coems " All eyes wil see Him" ,so everyone on earth, wilse satans fake only here and there! -read Mathew chaoter 24! Another direct warning to teh spirit f the anthirst is in 2 Joan 7" anyone who says atht Jesus doenst coem in flesh/body, is teh spirit of the anthirst"! And i would sugest you get abook caled " The great cintroversy" by Ellen White, is ana mazing book, wich depicts the war betwen good and evil,from Lucifers afl til teh very end,and in the last few chapters, is everything about what we live, and whats toc eom, pure undiluted truth, with valiuble insights! God bless you all!​@@sugaredviolets2085

She's a survivor ❤

Can you imagine walking away from the only life you ever knew? Your family,community,church..your entire world! Mary is so brave,refusing to be controlled and abused. It's an honor to listen to this remarkable woman. Being from Pa. amish country myself I promise you none of this was easy for her

Why is abuse in Mormonism so common?

I grew up in a wonderful Mormon household. Zero abuse.

two households. @@unitedstatesdale

@@unitedstatesdale Why do you feel the need to comment that? I'm glad you didn't experience abuse, but this just feels like you're trying to undermine the above comment.

I mean, it's hard not to see her. She's got the camera focus throughout the entire interview.

Crocheting really is living whacky 🤪🤣

Agreed, Exactly my thoughts on this interview. Incredible woman.

The bonnet gets to me. 😢

The way she lit up though! So beautifully!❤

Why? Why is it brave to live loud and in color and not just a choice among many choices?

I have been to Amish "parties" where the males and females didn't even mingle together. I've seen the young Amish men tie the horses outside, and then go into the bar to buy eight-cases of Budweiser each. I've listened to my brother's apartment cleaner, Sarah, as she spoke of her Amish life, and how she will be an "old maid" forever, because she'd already had sex, and no boy would ever want her as a wife. Northern Indiana was a terrible place to be as a "regular" American citizen. The thought of being Amish there is repulsive to me. Them busing in the Pennsylvania Amish for breeding purposes was/is disgusting to me. I'll never forget Sarah's despair. She had no hope of a future. I wonder if she's still alive.

She pretty much stopped her crochet from that point forward. Her demeanor completely changed!

I was about to comment that, it was a truly special moment in this super interesting interview. My fav so far.

​@@julydanielavillalobos9349, yes 💯 agree. A very eye and heart opening interview to say the least. I wish her well in life.

@@ljunodHer posture changed as well. She went from the tight submissive posture she demonstrated to a more proud upright position. Brilliant interview.

@@ljunod I noticed this too. She didn't need her coping method, she was on a roll! I was just listening to the video, so it actually shocked me how suddenly strong and upbeat she became.

This was a well rehearsed monolog

@@yonikki?? what makes you think that

​@@yonikkii think ur right

Terminology is changing, thankfully, b/c "committing" sounds like they did some criminal act - just insensitive & inappropriate. More commonly used now are expressions such as "Died by suicide" or "died from..." or even "died due to mental illness,"

⁠@@norriskpeverything is politically incorrect nowadays. Why is there such an issue with saying committed suicide. Just because we also use the word committed to state a murder had taken place. Does not mean that word has a negative connotation associated with it. If you look up the word committed it actually has a positive definition. “feeling dedication and loyalty to a cause, activity, or job; wholeheartedly dedicated.” Committed has a positive connotation too, like I am in a committed relationship. This word is only trying to imply that an individual was 100% dedicated to performing such an activity(suicide/murder). if you want to kill someone or even kill yourself you have to be in a certain mental space for you to carry out those activities. What other word would be best fit to describe that than committed? Devoted? Nahh, that doesn’t sound right. I have no idea why we as human beings are knit picking terminology we have been using for years. Although I don’t agree with some, I really don’t see the problem with saying committed. All it means is that a person has set their mind and is 100% willing to carry out an action, or has already done so. It truly seizes to amaze me that we are this way.

She has been on cults to consensus a few times

Well said, even tho it's the Amish who need to be held accountable

That is very well said. Shame and silence are pervasive among almost every culture in the world...where dominance by a few over many who are considered marginal...women and children...face degradation and threat to life everyday.

Amen ❤🎉

What do you mean by “woman’s story”?

Amen

*Woman* She is and adult. Adult female humans aren't children. We aren't *girls*. I'm not coming for you - I just want this subtle and pervasive undercutting of the Feminine to be called out. I want us adult women to collectively no longer tolerate being referred to as children.

*Woman

​@@dhvinebeauty the ex Amish woman has Girl power. That girl doesn't read ro me as a diminishing "girl" it is acknowledgement that she didn't get to have a proper girlhood.

From other interviews with her it appears she is acting in one of them. Not for me to decide which one is her true persona.

Woman- girl Girl- woman Stop looking for things to comment on. ​@@dhvinebeauty

Mary you're God belief?

You. Stop being lazy.

@@OutWestRedDirt you stop 🛑 being a demon

@@OutWestRedDirtdamn, what a sad and lonely life if that's what you thought of to this beautiful message about someone she knew.

@@OutWestRedDirtif you love the amish so much get off the internet and go live with them

only the best interveiwers can get someone in to such a flow that they don't stop talking for half an hour!

Agree, that space between- the silence- is so incredibly powerful. What a remarkable, resilient person

Excellent interviewing.

Club shay shay

He never says anything!

💯

There are a ton of people who think they can do that, but you can't erase your ethnicity. DNA showed we are heavily Hutterite/Haban on one side. We still don't know the details. We knew the family spoke both German and Czech and had been associated with the aristocracy in Germanic Europe before the failed Germanic revolutions of around 1848. Hutterite religion had been outlawed, but maybe they were still marrying among themselves as "ex"/crypto-hutterites, I I don't know. They had been sought as tutors and administrators by the ruling families because in Europe they were highly educated (one of the founders of Hutterites was a teacher, Lehrer). All across the areas they had lived in Europe the govts and govt-approved churches had demanded they stop "being" Hutterite, and on pain of death, exile, losing all their property, etc they "reconverted" however nothing can erase the DNA. In the US and Canada people decide they're not going to "be" Anabaptist anymore, but you can't erase your DNA. It's more than just a religion, it's an ethnicity even if, like Mary said, you were an atheist, with all the aspects that go into that including gene pool, dialect, and every other facet all the way down to how you think etc. The last thing you can't erase is your genes, but maybe also some things at the farthest down level of the Cultural Iceberg (Google that).

also a false dilemma, epigenetics is one way to circumvent, some medicine plants could help her drop the bodily connection....attachment..

Happiness and sadness come and go. I know she will be healing her entire life, but she seems content. And contentment after so much abuse, is a huge burden off the shoulders, and what some people never find because they're always chasing happines.

At first I was like what the hell when I saw her appearence. But after watching her interview, and hearing her explanation for her garments, it completely changed my opinion on it and now I really like her dress sense, now that I understand it. I kinda feel bad about my initial negativity tbh

I know I love her whole aesthetic 😭

Jesus saves sinners! God bless you! Pray!

Well said

Totally agree

Absolutely ❤

I originally was just listening through headphones…then I saw her dress. 😊

I’m so in awe by the way she puts her words together.👏 very interesting story.

She seems like a pot at the verge of boiling over. I think her 'coolness' is scary.

Jesus saves sinners! God bless you! Pray!

@@gregsimmons694 I do pray!

She also shaved the side of her head. Very cool! 💕

Cosmic Amish….

Yesss it's really nonconformist to dye your hair pink!@

Some of my father's rules were no make up or perfume, and absolutely no noise afyer 7 pm. So these days I do myself up as much as I like, I have piercings and tattoos, I love perfume, and I blast music all evening long. Defiance of the abusers' rules, no matter what they were, is one of the singular joys of freedom. The abuser enjoys exacting complete control, instills deep shame in you for the slightest "mistake", and if you don't put insane levels of value and conformity into those rules, the abuser sniffs out your "rebellion" and will grind you into pulp gleefully. If you don't obey and thank them for stealing your autonomy, there is a very good chance you will not make it out alive. I hope the people that hurt her see her now and it eats them up because they have no power over her anymore. Now it's them, sitting small, and they hate that.

​@AmmoGus1 for someone from that kind of community, it's tantamount to running naked down the street. She was raised to avoid attracting any kind of attention to herself and pink hair is shouting look at me.

She still wear the garb.... they haven't ever lost her.

@@TimTrOn3000she doesn’t always dress like that. Cults to conciousness did an interview with her and she wore regular clothing then. She made this dress this way for a reason

You were born in 1984 or you are 84 xx

sounds like you’ve got a fascinating story to share too - you should reach out to Mark & do an interview!

Mennonites do not practice shunning.

I want that dress!

@@beyondthedressingtableI can’t believe u said that, if he was born in 1984 , he’d be 40 not no damn 84 smfh

Me too. To watch her come alive was to feel her empowerment alongside her

The only time she stopped crouchaing

Same, she was proud of that dress, and she should be.

I know, that was almost bizarre (and I mean that in the least negative or judgemental way possible)! I was not expecting how strong her change in demeanor was lol

One could really feel her energy and strength. Impressive.

I came here to say this too. You can see how happy she is to display her freedom and joy❤

Agreed. She did.

She could write a best-selling autobiography, surely. She's eloquent, interesting in appearance and unique in her history which gives insight to a hidden part of America. I hope she considers it.

​ another biological clown whom has been unfortunately hindered from manifesting the circus existence that all sub-insect creatures strive for 😢

Was she supposed to come dead? Doofy azz

Bless you dear❤ Happy u broke free❤

What an evil woman... they were right to shun her.

For reporting crimes?

​@@kwimmsTroll.

@@kwimmsObvious bait

2nd leasing cause if death in the under 18 zone.

LEADING

❤

It does hit different. Makes it sound like someone else did the job, not the person who died

@@takyrica The conditions and environment caused the person to die from suicide. Using the word commit implies that suicide should be viewed as a crime than rather a sickness that can be prevented.

You might also like Mormon Stories Podcast. It's different, (some interruptions), but they are breathtakingly committed to listening to interviewees' whole story.

Very refreshing!

Bravo Mark

I wouldn’t say she seemed calm, you can hear the anxiety in her voice with every word she said

she still kept calm. that is impressive and admirable@@actual______criminal

In Islam, they STONE women, who have been raped. Because she is then guilty of infidelity, even though, SHE was assaulted!! Sharia (Islamic law) demands, that 4 witnesses are found. Those can be bought... This happens in Iran, Somalia, and Nigeria!

@@howardmighty6764 What are you unto?!

And so do those who collectively judge them. This woman despite all she's gone through was, nonetheless, consistently against collectively judging an entire community.

It's also important to grasp that whether one is Amish on one end of the scale or 'woke,' on the other, it is possible to be overly-rigid and insistent on certain things, and to have misplaced priorities. Human nature is human nature, no matter what one's beliefs are.

Howard. See you at the Gate! God is watching

Because of your "god" she never had a life. Freak.

We all should be more thoughtful before we speak especially our politicians

God bless you! Jesus saves sinners!

That’s a great idea!! I never know what to do with my hands and start sweating while talking to my therapist

@debmule I always have something in my hands I’m “working on” with my therapist too. I like that she understands and doesn’t mind because it makes me more comfortable.

My therapist when I was living somewhere else as a teen had colouring pages, both adult and children, ranging in difficulty with supplies from kids crayons to pencil, to water colour paints. And I LOVED doing those while talking. Made the sessions themselves less traumatic.

Same. I felt like I was watching a movie.

God bless you! Jesus saves!

She’s cried a lifetime of tears…..until she just stops. You recognize that they won’t change anything. SHE had to get up and CHANGE her circumstances…..and she did! 👏👏👏👏👏

Luke 6:22-23

Hence the crocheting. It probably soothes her.

Or stitch.

it appeared that she came close a couple of times.

Of course! It’s truly wrong to say “just leave”. Mary’s reaction to “are you in touch with your family” spoke volumes. Her pained face, her silence, her thoughtful answer. It’s not like these are just casual acquaintances she could up and ditch on a whim when things went sideways. It’s complicated.

Yes like leaving an abusive marriage ... "Just leave". Not that simple!

I agree like a teacher or something. I don't know but it's truely unique.

I could listen to her all day! Very captivating. 😊

She would do well with a channel of her own, just crocheting and telling stories. Like asmr or whatever

@@autumn3703 or audiobooks!

Watch her interview on Cults to Consciousness 5 months ago completely different persona!

God Bless you for speaking “pure” truth and setting bondage free. 🤔❤️

Clearly very cathartic for her. I cannot relate to her experiences except in a very tiny way. I've seen hypocrisy in church, but nothing like that. She is amazingly strong.

That sigh signals there's more to tell. We'll likely be hearing from Mary as she goes forward. It appears she still does subscribe to Amish customs. Her flat manner of speaking is how people from oppressed environs speak.

Amen

❤

typical lefty, your anger is the only acceptable anger, right ?

@@ericb6048 So, does that make you a "typical righty"? Since when does "anger" have a political ideology behind it?

​@dangelo1369 when it's aimed in a particular fashion or way.

​@@nicolekb12not with that attitude

​@@ericb6048who let grandpa sneak his ipad into the nursing home? 🙄

God bless you. Pray for the world! Jesus saves sinners!

yep

I knew if I looked in the comments I would find others who enjoyed her calm, patient, and thoughtful words as much as I do. I'm sad that she experienced what she did. I'm so grateful that she had the strength to tell the truth and share her story.

Kind of creepy too lol 😆

​@@nobueno8652Says more about you, doesn't it?

Very well said. I was thinking the same.

❤

I'm sorry that you had to give up on the idea of a mother for yourself. 😢 I have no doubt the benefits of doind so we're worth the cost. 😢❤

God bless you Mary, God loves you so much!

Having been evolved in 3 different cult communities, I send out a cheer for those persons who saw through the oppressive control and found the autonomy of living as whole individuals. I've been able to maintain a close connection with, not the god of religious dogma, but the God who fiercely loves me, who rejoices in His daughter.

​@@estherclark820why did you keep drinking at that well though ?

Good for you. Go for it❤❤❤

And no interview needed, she just interviewed herself, beautifully done

U have to see the interview of the orthodox Jewish woman. It is incredible. I’m watching this one now.

All the way up until she lied about being in the Army. She had me going up till then. This ain't the first aspiring actor/actress to dupe homie.

She's articulate thoughtful & centered ? Bet that didn't help her fit into a highly regulated clanish group scene.

Ooooooohhhhh and I just watched more of it and she pronounced Lancaster wrong. She pronounced it like anybody from outside of PA would pronounce it, "Lan-caster" yet she claims to be PA Amish, which means she would pronounce it the other way "Lancister". BUSTED!!! 😆

Watch some of her other interviews and her own videos, she seems like a sort of different person. You’ll see another side of her. She’s quite interesting. Just search Mary Byler Amish

I agree, her sadness made me cry, to be honest, and that is rare. But her joy is contagious, too.

The sadness was really deep, that was the most difficult for me.

You from middleberry ?

My grandparents were Pennsylvania Dutch and lived in Goshen, Indiana. Mary is a beautiful soul. Thank you for letting her speak - it was a profound interview.

So is Amish a religion, a culture, or both?

@@kmeeks92987both. Christian based but they have no connection with the outside world. Most of them don’t have electricity.

@@Jaime-he2neI was going to ask the same! Barbra miller is a dress maker in middlebury I have many dresses from her

Nailed it

Agreed

Baloney she loves to hear herself talk She’s a fake

​@robinrobinson8989 Why and how in the world could you say such a thing? Your coldness here is astounding. For what reason would you be unwilling to acknowledge realities of sexual abuse within the Amish communities? Or the prevelance of sexual and other abuse, and religious trauma, within human society at large? These are incredibly sad realities that are occurring at a larger scale than we often are willing to look at and acknowledge, and this unwillingness to see or take action leads to the perpetuation of suffering on a mass scale, for so many vulnerable children, women, and yes also men. How can any human look away, fail to cultivate compassion, and speak and act with indifference, or even hate?

@@kristenscheidter720 I’m in no way denying the reality of sexual abuse among the Amish or anywhere else eg trafficking And that you can to the conclusion is disturbing to me I think you want your point to come across and so you are so enthralled with this person that you missed MY point She is a phony and a fake I lived among the Amish for years and there were some that left but they didn’t go punk and they didn’t join the arm and they didn’t keep wearing the cape dress and covering This woman just likes to hear herself yapping She’s a psycho