Yes and it can take years to repair yourself afterwards and in that process you may end up with another one 😩😳 I hope more ppl get educated on the signs and find the strength to get away
For anyone who thinks that this video is exaggerating what the narcissist does... its spot on. They are evil. They look at you as prey. Love yourself enough to walk away
Mind isolated me all the way in Alaska. I’m leaving him for good ❤️ it’s been 5 years and I am absolutely committed to leaving now. I did my research & figured it out in a couple of years. Knowledge is power
Sound's like my boyfriend every time I try to leave he acts like he care by not letting me leave he's 6'6 438lbs and he'll stand in front of the door crying. He also creates arguments and then say I start them. I lost myself in this relationship. One of my biggest regret is letting him stay with me. He was living with his cousin and his cousin wife and kids. I should of known better. He doesn't care about me til I'm ready to leave or when I cry cause I'm just so fed up. He's the type if I leave he'll make it it as if I'm the bad guy to people. He's a scorpio and scorpios are very big on holding grudges and also very good at manipulation. I sometimes fight myself In thoughts because I do question myself if I'm going crazy maybe it is me but it's not because I wasn't dealing with this or feeling like this til I let him stay with me and he started showing his real true colors. I'm only 23 yrs old with a beautiful son who I share custody with my son father. My boyfriend is very childish and immature about me and my son father co-parenting and as far of communication with him. He's always noisy asking about our conversation and what their about. I would just like some advice I don't have friends I only have 1 and he doesn't like her because she sees what I see and when I vent to her he gets very angry and says I pick her over him I'm just tired of everything with this man.
@@Mitch03-d8m oh my goodness. I just read your comment and wanted to say I am so sorry you have to deal with that. I'm so sorry any of us have. The more I look into this personality type the more I see how awful it truly is and can become. I relate to a lot of what you said, my ex shared a lot of those characteristics. Love to you sweetie hang in there you're incredibly strong ❤️
The TRUTH comes out eventually ! It is bad enough when it is from a " false" relationship..(significant other) ...even worse when it comes from your OWN family !!
Wow, what my dad (who has passed) told me "never make any man more important to yourself then yourself " was very telling". He was trying to protect my heart.
I remember the Narc I was with would call me crazy. When I completely mirrored his actions but then blocked him on everything , he tried to contact me by any means necessary 🤣He was a freaking trip but I became the vacation!♏️❤️
Narcissism is sooooooo real and so dangerous for the one in the relationship with the narcissist. They are evil and will make you think you're crazy and convince others you are. Run! Run! Run! You'll thank me later.
Exactly, I took my husband back...I mean he said he had changed and put on an Oscar winning performance for two years to get me back....TWO years! Listen to me carefully, it was even worse the second time. We are now separated again, getting a divorce. Of course now he wants to get back together again....Nope, I learned what a ‘narcissist’ is, and that he is one...They are the worst... DON’T MAKE MY MISTAKE!!! RUN!!!!
The healing process is brutal.. don't try and heal them ..just run🏃🏾♀️. and pray for them from a distance. If you notice the signs earlier in the relationship please 🙏 leave right then. The longer you stay..the harder it is to leave..and your self image..self esteem just keeps deteriorating. I'm so thankful that I got out and I'm back to being me.
@@ashleysays3389 if he finds someone else then he will treat her the same bad way that he treated you. She won't fix him trust me, as you cannot fix them. My dad is one and as a child of them, the damage he has done to me mentally and physically is way too much. As a child of this growing up I can tell you 100% to take your kids and keep them as far away from him as possible. I'm now 40 years old though he still punched me in the face over the Christmas and tried to break my arm. It never stops ever only gets worse. Stay away and don't ever look back. I wish you the best ❤
love is love this video describes my ex to the tee I mean everything. We were together for 20 yrs 3 kids 2 sons 1 girl she’s 3 . Lost my mom 9/17/19 then he cheats again I’m so hurt .
I mean really!! I’m cringing as he is spelling out his calling card! It’s like the criminal who inserts himself in the investigation to help find the killer when they know it’s them😮
@@giselemartinez6461 To continue to think about this unworthy person is still giving him power over you. Think like you are a person that is worth so much more than what you got from him. He already has occupied enough of your time, soace, and life. Do you think about your trash after it is picked up, do you miss it? Do the same for this unworthy person. Pray that the Lord remove the residue of him completely from you.
"Your jealousy is ruining EVERYTHING" that's what he said to confuse me. So while I was trying to find a way not to be jealous he was cheating on me 🤦♀️
Exactly what's happening to me. Gaslighting about my jealousy 😔 while he acts shady and all. He told me it was all my fault our relationship's going down the drain. He has been more agressive, violent,cursed at me and told me not to ask him questions anymore if I want to save our relationship. Ive been in and out of the hospital due to anxiety and panic attacks 😔
WHEN YOU FEEL IT,,,LEAVE,,,HE WILL NOT CHANGE,,,ITS NOT YOU,,,ITS HIM,,,,LEAVE THAT MESS ALONE,,,,IF YOU FEEL SOMETHING IS UP,,,,,TRUST ME...THERE IS,,,LEAVE,,,,,,YOU ARE MISSING OUT ON MEETING A NICE GUY,
Narsiccists are loving ppl. im a narcisisst man. And I didnt even know I was. It was how I grew up around women. I hurt my gf my sons mom so much thru out these past 2 years and I just want to be better. I want her to be happy all the time, Im willing to do anything, cut my arm off that type of dedication. I love her and need her. And i just want her to be happy she neeeds to.
Signs: 1) denies accountability for his actions and shifts the blame on you for why he behaved the way he did; 2) isolates you from others to increase your dependency on him. This is so he can control you; 3) treats you likes he hates you but needs you at the same time. THERE IS NO MAKING IT WORK WITH A NARCISSIST 👌🏾
SMH. My family dont even comme to visit now my daughter dose heron c her fiancee but my son he does not care for him but he respects me ,but won't come like he use to.
Narcissists initially deploys the tactic of “Love Bombing” and then they tend to do something called “discarding” or withholding attention they initially bombarded you with.
MsLaBajo that happened to me and then I would end up apologizing for the abuse I received from him. He withheld sex and attention, lied, cheated, flirted and then said I was crazy. Other times he said he cheated because I was not woman enough for him and I didn’t know how to keep a man like him.
That happened to me recently. My narcissitic ex tried to get back together with me, lead me on and ghosted me. Honestly, I don't blame myself. He did me a favor. I'm glad I'm free from his emotional abuse and mind games.
@B. J. OMG! So true, my daughter us going through this bull s*it and now in counseling...thinking that she screwed things up. I tried explaining to her it's not you...he has issues and insecurities. They use you until they get back with their ex. Men and mine games so sad, I wish they would grow the f*ck up.
The third point where they disregard your feelings and everything is the other person's fault. Never takes responsibility for his actions, flips it on you and turns it into a fight where you were upset with him but then it becomes he's upset with you for being upset with him...
Feeling some type of way after hearing this. My mom told me about a man she new that had this issue. Figured it out real quick and was done. 🚫 block in everyway.
C Burnett watch as many videos as you can on RU-vid if you haven't done so. Had I known what I was up against I would have documented/recorded way more than I did as proof of his insanity played off by manipulation tactics. You've got this.
YES IT IS! I WAS JUST SAYING THESE THINGS TO AN EX... WATCHED HIM GO FROM MAKING 120K A YEAR TO HOMLESS JOBLESS AND BROKE! I TOLD HIM THAT WAS KARMA FOR ALL HE'S DONE TO ME! AND THIS NARCISSIST IS STILL TRYING TO MEET AND PICK UP WOMEN HOMELESS JOBLESS AND BATSHIT CRAZY! 😽😬
I was married to a narcissist. Worst 11yrs of my life. I lost friends and family everything. He even tried to make my life miserable when I left glad he finally found another victim.
Jazzy Buxton I was in my marriage for 10 years he physically abused me along with the verbal mental and emotional abuse. It for him to almost choke me out to leave after 10 years of marriage and we have 2 children together but they're legally grown now.
Jazzy Buxton I married and divorced a Narcissistic Sociopathic back in 2014, only to fall in love with yet another Narcissist. But, I'm doing my work and I've detoxed from those toxic relationships that broke!! Life couldn't be better! ❤
Jazzy Buxton ...stay strong ...I was married to one also. He flipped everything on me. It's my fault I divorced him. Lol. I'm happy now ..reinvent yourself Jazzy and have fun doing it
High Def Diva Take them to court, it'll be a lot to deal with but safest way is through the system. Tell them everything about the abuse, it's best! Don't try to save them.
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The worst ones are the covert narcissists. No one will believe what you are going through when you are with one. They seem like the perfect gentleman. Since they seem quiet and shy, everyone will think the problems are your fault.
Omg.... I'm dealing with one. 2 years later and I've just begun opening up to ppl closest to me and they cant believe it when I reveal who he is behind closed doors. He's charming, intelligent, God-fearing, and extremely giving to people. He would literally give the shirt off his back to a stranger. If he sees you struggling or having a hard time, no matter the place, he'd stop and pray for you. But in a relationship with me, psshhhhhhh I get none of that goodness. I don't get the amazing guy I met. Instead I get the evil, I'm going to make you suffer and punish you for walking the wrong way, saying the wrong thing, etc.
Oh my gush that is my husband, he is a very dedicated church member and to all the parishioners they think he is the most wonderful man in the world. He even told me one of the older ladies told him she wished her husband had been so kind and considerate. Let me tell you how ruthless he is, we got into an argument one day, I told him that he really hurt my feelings. He admitted that he might have made a mistake but he refused to apologize, even after he saw me crying badly. He sat there and made up in his mind he wasn't going to say he was sorry he didn't care how much I cried. Now how messed up was that someone that's suppose to love you.
Sha Thomas. OMG, thats exactly how my just now ex is. He is very sweet and loving and kind to everyone else but me. He was very condescending and cold hearted towards me, nowhere near how sweet and kind he was when he was trying to be with me.
Patricia Campbell narcissists dont LOVE!! Its an act!! Only thing that matters to them...is what they want...what they feel...and what they can get out of you!!! Sick uncaring, unloving people!
Married to a narcissist for 25 years. It destroyed my physical, emotional, and mental health. This is not to be taken lightly. It is difficult to recover from a short term relationship with a narcissist but devastatingly difficult to heal from the long term abuse.
Married 10 years to one... Separated for 3 years now.. And im still not where i need to be.. Its an evil that i can't explain...public humiliation... financial abuse... Verbal abuse was extreme....my self esteem plummetted.. I still tense up when he comes around...
a Narcissist will try and drive you insane and have you believing he a god send at the same time. And will play victim when he at fault Most Importantly *a Narcissist will not stay with a woman he can't manipulate* When he dump you pop popcorn and watch him go and bask in the peace of his absence.
Melisha Naidoo I feel you girl... But once you begin the healing process you will feel a sense of peace and reassurance. You'll begin to realize it's definitely not you or anything you've done. Anger comes with the healing process but we can't allow it to consume us. We must let go and let God take control. Narcissists are very miserable creatures that have not only tried to destroy the lives of past partners, but include family members, friends, co workers, and even clergy. I would suggest no contact whatsoever with this " person", and why I refer to " person" is because I refuse to even speak their name. I'm not giving them that much power, let alone respect.
Melisha Naidoo Your life isn't ruined, you're reborn. Meditate , pray, and ask for God's help with your healing. Trust me, you will rise out of the ashes like a Phoenix!
You realise men deal with narcissistic women MORE then women deal with narcissistic men? This guy described a narcissistic guy as someone who posts selfies, licks his eyebrows and fishes for compliments? THATS WHAT SO MANY GIRLS DO Ok and a guy that wants you to chase him and wants you to do all the work to prove you’re worthy of a phone call? THATS WHAT WOMEN DO PLAYING HARD TO GET but when a girl has to deal with these kinds of problems it’s the end of the world Pathetic sexist idiots
I finally ended the relationship after 4 years with my narc. I couldn't deal with the BS anymore... Sometimes when you break up with them you go through the "crack head" phase because you are addicted to them.... Understand that you deserve a real man. Love yourself enough to leave. The grass is always greener on the other side when you're not with the narc. Something that helps me is writing down all the terrible things he did. When ever I feel like I want to go back or I'm thinking of him, I look at what I wrote.... I never had a guy treat me like he did. I wasted a lot of time and I lost myself. This year is about getting my life back. Stay strong ladies💪🏾💪🏾
OMG it's like I was searching for this comment cause I'm in the crackhead stage right now...I'm married to one now...had to leave North Carolina and move to FL just to get some space to think clearly and now that I'm here all signs point to leaving him. I know he's already latched on to another victim cause he usually follows me but now for some reason he can't leave NC and we don't even know anybody there like that. Whoever she (or they) is she's in my prayers. I changed my number so now he keeps video calling me or he calls my mom and friends tryna get a hold of me. This comment got me running to go file divorce papers now thank u
I dated one. Took me about 3 yrs to get over it. I was just that damaged...But the good news is prayer, counseling will help you through it. Be strong everybody😍😍😍😍
I think there’s a spiritual component to the which attacks you when the relationship is over. It’s unlike any other relationship I have experienced and do not ever desire to
Same here they really mess with your nervous system if you are with them long enough!! I thank God I found strength to let his vasaud go. They mirror you.
Exactly! This is not funny but scary! Any woman should be very cautious before starting a fling with him from here on out. He is capable of alot of shit with no remorse
Some are so skilled at it that you don't even realize you're in a toxic relationship until you've gotten out. When you start second guessing, questioning your self worth and sanity, alienating people who actually care about your well being...time to GO!
DFSdiva IT BEEN TIME FOR ME TO GO. . AND EVERYTHING this man is saying is TRUE. I feel that this is or should be categorized as DOMESTIC ABUSE. . it is mind and emotional control💔. And you DONT realize until its too late and he's doing everything in his power to make you leave. . then when he see you leaving, he pulls out all the stops only to do something else to make you feel MORE SHITTIER THAN YOU DID AT FIRST.💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥im hurting so bad. I have been reminded through actions, behavior as well as people telling me what he has discussed with him, that i am a rebound. I have been with a man for 32 years and i am now realizing i was NEVA supposed to be here this long😥😥😥. I allow him to treat me like this apparently because im still here. His disrespect of me, his consideration for me is right down knee bending, i mean, it hurts mean so bad it drops me to my knees. I cry. I have begged. . 32 years. . .
Athena K. Oh their words will let you know too...with their arrogant, ignorant, cruel words! Derrick gave a couple of examples of things a narc says....Here is another one from a guy to his girlfriend: “I need to find a younger woman.” When discussed later, the narc guy stated the female should have said “Go get one then!!”...not realizing that would not be a JOKE to someone who cares for and respects.
The very FIRST sign: Love bombing. A narcissist will profess their love for you within days, maybe even hours of spending time with you. They will shower you with gifts and attention, be forcefully and overly affectionate, and annoyingly persistent until they are able to wear you down. Once they think they have you, the mask comes off...and it doesn't take long for that to happen!
BluDrop5 I found that to be a key indicator in my situation. He rarely said my name, I was always "Baby," even when I asked him not to call me that. Then he would "mistakenly" call me someone else's name and claim it was accidental...I nipped that in the bud by doing the same thing to him and it magically stopped. It didn't take me long to realize that he called me "Baby" because it was difficult for him to keep up...he was seeing so many women at once, he couldn't remember my name.
Aprils World I pray you make it out! I don't understand why they even want to get married; they have no intention of staying nor of being good spouses, and everyone has a breaking point so what's the point?? My ex Narc proposed to me while he was already engaged to someone else, then he gave me her ring. He got me pregnant, cheated, proposed to the side piece, then got the side piece pregnant. To me, it doesn't make sense to tie oneself to someone permanently if you just want to use them, yaknow?
@@Julimango I believed in astrology. It does have strong implementation but we can't judge people based on it. Forget astrology and look more at how people grew up.
He never took accountability for anything and everything was my fault. He drained me financially, emotionally, spiritually and I nearly had a nervous breakdown and died. I was suicidal. He was constantly throwing other wine in my face and the verbal abuse was extremely,extremelyex horrible. Being with him was pure Hell! Oh and everyone around me saw it. I was brainwashed by his isolation and warped way of thinking. God saved me...he was the only way out
You sound like me. It's very hard to deal with. It's like the person isn't even there. Like no heart. When I try to say how I feel on anything he instantly freaks out and attacks me. He is perfect in his eyes and how dare I have anything else to say.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I went through the same thing and I'm actually trying to remove myself from this person's life. I found myself at one point almost killing myself because I felt alienated, I was financially drained, lost my success, absolutely everything. The more I read up on narcissistic behavior is when I woke up and gradually started to wake up to what was happening. Everyone in my life saw what was happening, still does. I hope you heal and find peace because I'm sure that may have been a traumatic experience for you.
Look in the mirror and you should see a beautiful woman who deserves to be loved. Remain single until you are strong enough to take a stand for your happiness.
If possible, look into counseling. My daughter went through a similar situation. She truly believed this guy loved her. She is getting therapy. It will take time for her to heal. I don't understand why people purposely hurt others. What type of enjoyment can that be? Stay strong hope all works out for you🙌🏽
"Another thing that a narcissist will do is make videos of himself sitting in his vehicle outside of the house of the woman he's messing around with behind your back and give you signs to look for in guys to show you what to look for in a narcissist. When you start seeing a pattern of this, that is a clear indication that you are dealing with a narcissist."
My ex is now an alcoholic since I ended the relationship and blames me, he cheated on me I stupidly forgive him for a while then he slips up saying if I ever cheated he would leave that was my wake up call to how foolish I was being , now I’m stuck living with him and he is always playing the victim , he is perfect the lies are ridiculous he lies about everything even when I see him do stuff he says he didn’t , and says stuff like I didn’t give up on you it was you that gave up on me , they twist everything to the point that you start thinking the problem is you and you need help
My ex asked me I am an alcoholic even though he drinks more and always have alcohol in his place and handed me drink right after I said I don't t want any. I just take it and place it immediately on the table without drinking from it. Once he realized that I would not drink it then he drink it. I think that he was an alcoholic. The beer sometimes would take about one third to half the space in the refrigerator and he always had alcoholic beverages at home unlike me. I don't have hard licor and I don't always have beer at home.
Wow... This is deep. I think I may be with a narcissist because every time I bring something to his attention that bothers me he makes it seem like it's all in my head. Not to mention how angry he gets he cannot have a discussion it's always an argument
The narcissist will not listen to how bad he makes you feel, he will shut that conversation down, then will continue to ignore your needs, then constantly let you know he will get rid of you because he knows your tired of the mind games, and you being ungrateful when you have this so called god's gift to woman in your presence.The whole ideal of the relationship is fake and one sided, they cannot love you, in other words they view you like a toilet, they only think of you when they need to use you!
I have dated a narcissist, it was one of the worst physical-mental-verbal abusive relationships I have been in, but of course he is married now 😕....Thank you for this video ❤️🙏🏽
Great! He's her problem now!! And, trust they don't get better, they don't have a sudden change. They are personality flawed individuals! He's treating her, just as he treated you or worse!! Hang in there! ❤
YES I TOTALLY AGREE IT INDEED HURTZ BEING TREATED THAT WAY BUT DA BRIGHT SIDE OF IT ALL IZ U HAVE YOUR POWER BACK NOT TO BE TREATED THAT WAY ANYMORE😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
Spot on. I’ve dated a narcissist before. He broke me down emotionally and mentally. I had a lot of healing to do. Now I’ve learned and never gonna make this same mistake twice.
I dated a narcissist who was super good looking like a knight in shiny armor. initially presented as charming, kind, wanted everything I wanted in a relationship, especially marriage. After one year and a half I started talking about progression, growth, and evolving the relationship. He did a 180 completely. I felt drained that I was doing all the work. He started gaslighting, love bombing, punishing me by ignoring, deflecting telling me I was selfish, all I cared about was looks, say things to try and make me feel bad about myself, I could go on and on. One day after praying I discovered a Video on RU-vid on being an Empath. That video led to the type of men I attract that are toxic to me. I couldn’t believed he completely fit the profile! I broke up with him and went no contact. It was so hard, and the first boundary I had ever stood on! Thank God I got out with minimal damage, just a broken heart and disappointment. I know it wasn’t me!
he was never that knight in shiny armor. He was love bombing (1st phase) and mirroring what he thought you wanted. These people are mentally ill and you cant help them.
I married a two faced, cheating narcissistic LIAR. Shortly after giving birth to our son we separated and I immediately filed for DIVORCE. As of right now he's refusing to sign the divorce papers (making it harder for me) he's extremely upset that I moved back to California and is doing so much better than what I did when we were together. I'm thankful the good Lord got me and my son out of that situation.
Salena Sheppherd not married I have a son and we leave to get I want to leave so bad I just found out I’m pregnant again I feel like Im lost and all I want is for him to just leave my life Jesus
@@afrobae9244 My prayers are with you my dear. I pray the Lord will make a way escape for you and your children. No matter how hopeless your situation may seem just remember your FAITH will create an open door for you. When I was with my husband we lived in Florida, I had no friends all of the so called associates I thought I had all turned against me due to being under the influence of his demonic spell. The Lord allowed him to leave the state briefly which have me and son the greenlight to leave immediately. I'm believing the Lord's best for you sweetheart and I'm believing you'll have an amazing testimony at the end of this tunnel.
Yes! No contact!! We have children but he is blocked and all communication is through a family member who has agreed to mediate. Thank goodness for that person in my life!
The last couple seconds of this video really got me in tears because before I met my narcissist ex I was extremely happy (living my best life & focused on me) and my self esteem was the highest it had EVER been in my entire life and then I met my ex and he completely broke me so ladies please listen!!!! Narcissist are nothing to play with!! I thank God for where I am now though but I can honestly say that that relationship took a crazy amount of time to heal from and it still to this day effects the way I see life and people in general (but not in a negative way I'm just wayyyyy more cautious of my time, energy, and heart)
QueenInTheMaking it's going on a year since my narcissist husband abandon me im getting better but still have alot of work to do mentally physically emotionally. I don't trust no one period. I had bad relationships in the past but this one here SMH. Narcissists will never be happy. They will hurt anyone anything they can especially if they don't get what they want from their supplier
QueenInTheMaking I totally feel you felt like I wrote this I had been dealing with this type of unhappy individual ....like u said my self esteem was All Good my bank account was good but now it's the opposite and I wonder how in TF but none of that matters now all that matters is he's Gone Thanking God for that bc I was headed to HELL!
While i didn't question what i did to make him act that way, I did question why I allowed such behavior. Even now my tolerance for bull shit is way too high which is why I've decided to leave men alone for awhile until i can get to the root of that problem.
Kamari Janai After dating my child father who is a narcissist my standards are very high! I will not settle for B.S. I have zero tolerance for disrespect (physically, mentally, and emotional)!
You could have merely felt that you invested time with him and hoped he would get better...maybe not wanting to start all over again with someone. However, a narc’s behavior is so terrible that you LOSE a Return on the Time you spent (your investment), because what they give you is zero!!!-just hell!!
Kamari Janai Your a co -dependant personality type, just as I am. Do research on it we attract those type of ppl. I married to Psychopathic narcissist. An was engaged to another. Until you figure out who you really are, an build a very low tolerance for crap!! You'll continue the cycle. I've been single for about 5 yrs, getting to know & love me. No men just me. Try it you'll get better and do better. 😉
I have 2 major things to spot the narcissist: Lack of empathy and if he doesn't take "no" for an answer (predator). Finally we just have to trust our instinct if you feel something is wrong. Ask yourself why do I feel bad or have a strange feeling about what happened
Yes. He will always try to trump your interests as if his are better and the things you like to do he makes fun of or refuses to join you in them, even if it will make you happy.
Yes , but the best thing is , when he betrays you he can't use what you haven't told him against you. However , if he told you things . ...my dear you can use it... especially if you have to go to court.
This example might be bad but i remember my ex used to think that his taste in music and movies was better than anyone elses. He NEVER let me pick the movies/songs and whenever I did he would always complain or go on his phone instead. I am an idiot for not realizing this earlier.
After being in relationship with my husband for years, he broke up with me. I did everything within my reach to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so badly because of the love I had for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to my friend and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back, I had no choice than to try it. I messaged the spell caster, and he assured me there was no problem and that everything will be okay before three days. He cast the spell and surprisingly on the second day, my husband called me. was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that had happened He wanted me to return to him. He also said he loved me so much. I was so happy and went to him that was how we started living together happily again. The spell casters is : You can contact him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other Case. 1) Love Spells 2) Lost Love Spells 3) Divorce Spells 4) Marriage Spells 5) Binding Spell. 6) Breakup Spells 7) Banish a past Lover 8.) You want to be promoted in your office/ Lottery spell 9) want to satisfy your lover Contact this great man if you are having any problem for a lasting solution through WhatsApp number+2349071228097
I was in a relationship with a narcissist actually...I’m grateful i have had some dating experiences before him so i was able to figure out who he was early enough...narcissists are demons🤦🏽♀️
You're correct. If they "show" feelings at all it is for personal gain. My man is always a name dropper for attention. Everything is about his ego. I honestly can't believe people don't notice it. He doesn't even actually LISTEN to people. I can tell he is always tuned out when they talk. It's just all about him and him being liked. He kisses people's asses. It6not genuine though it's about advancing himself so he is a star to them. Ego ego ego. People keep buying the bullshit and I look crazy.
Yesss this was my X-HUSBAND he had no respect for me, cheating he did not care about my feelings. Had me thinking it was my fault with his cheating. Told me that I spoke it into existence. Told me all the stuff you said in the video. Yessssss, I divorced him, and he still with the BS...DONE DONE DONE. HE was driving by my house, I moved he don't know where I live.
Mz.Yvette J I had same issues with my ex husband too. I've had the mental, emotional and verbal abuse for 9 yrs. There was cheating through the whole marriage and other kids he had from affairs. He came up with STD's. But thank God I was wise enough not to sleep with him after i got pregnant the 2nd time so I was spared. He would always say who would want me now and I should've been grateful that he wasn't treating me like other men who just leave but he was ALWAYS gone so I hardly knew where he was. I've been in therapy for this to build myself back up bcuz we have kids and I'll have to continue dealing with him unfortunately
Mz.Yvette J SORRY TO READ BOUT YOUR PAIN,THESE MEN WILL SOMEDAY SUFFER FOR WHAT THEY HAVE PUT US THROUGH.#U ARE IN MY PRAYERZ & I ASK FOR YOUR PRAYERZ AZ WELL😔
White Rose I'm sorry that you and your children had to endure this abuse. You and your babies are in my Prayers. Just give it to GOD and let Him take control. God is with you.
raySHELL IDGAF daniels thank you, you are in my Prayers. I am standing in the gap for every woman, and man that has or is going through this type of betrayal, abuse, and hurt. It takes a lot out of you. And it makes you deny yourself, the happiness, joy, peace, and love that ONLY GOD can provide. UNCONDITIONAL
10 years of my life...2 years in he completely flipped the script.... Text book Narcissist. Abusive mentally, physically, sexually, moniterally...NEVER IN MY LIFE Did I think I would be this girl...the women who survived ...But I did... Derrick, you explained this perfectly. I have been out a year... Still healing, but happier than I have been in years... Listen to this man ladies, he knows his shit!!❤
Yes so true! But ohhhh once the healing begins you regain EVERYTHING he thought he took from you...your strength your peace your self esteem and your ability to find true love ❤️
candice castro I commend you because I’m in a relationship for 6 years now and I’m still here feeling stuck and finding it hard to leave but everyday I come to the realization more that I should just leave and move out because this isn’t the life I want hopefully this will happen soon for me.
@@kimberlylove7310 you can do it cuz he knows that your stuck and he continue to play these sick mind games with you until you're strong enough to leave your hurting the most while being with this toxic person you'll hurt for a little while when you leave but trust me it would be the best decision you've ever made in your life
I went through this for 7 years. Nothing I did was right, as talented as I am...I felt invisible around him. I felt like he hated my very presence. I never ever received affection or compliments. Every little conversation turned into him yelling at me ((unjustified.) I stayed because we had a son, but when my son 6yo pointed out that I deserved better. A lightbulb went off. #
Narcissists can't stand for others to be the focus. THEY want to be the one being praised and adored, and often have illusions of grandeur for themselves. Being super talented probably just annoyed him. It took feeling like my ex was treating me more like competition than a partner to realize that he was a narc
My husband always told me that I was lucky to be with him especially since I had kids when I met him. Everything your saying is what he did exactly for 20 years. I finally woke up and got out!
Same here....left after 20 years. And didn't realize until maybe about a year after I left what this was. I get confirmation every day that walking away was the best thing that I could've done for myself and our children.
I sometimes beat myself up for not living as soon as I noticed the signs. I new my ex fiance was a narc but I thought he could get better. He was not clinically diagnosed but the signs were there. The relationship lasted for 8 years. I want to heal and move on. People around me don't know exactly what I though with him.
I had the life sucked out of me by a narcissist. Everything and I mean everything you said is true. No Contact is the only way to save your sanity. Someone who hasn't experienced the charm, false love, mental and emotional abuse wouldn't understand. I was a challenge and game to him because of my values. I'm also very loving and empathetic but an introvert at the same time. I was the perfect target. I'm no longer a victim but a survivor. I should write a book.
Same here gave 7 years of my life. I'm just trying to heal and get back to the person I used to be before I met this person. Wished I had never ever met him!
I've been told that I am and maybe I am cuz I'm very sensitive always aware of other people's feelings and not hurting others and I'm an introvert too not the best combination. We'll be fine eventually 😀 x
Serene Aura The recovery process is long and hard, but the light does shine again. The hardest part is letting go of the past and forgiving yourself. I still can't believe I allowed the horrible abuse to occur. Please write your book to help heal other's.
I have a child with him but I'm the only one on the birth certificate and I am about to go to court so he can stay the hell outta our lives but you are right. I regret meeting him but he gave me a beautiful babyboy.
You sure as hell don’t . Stay strong . You’re loved and nothing like what he’s said you are . You are beautiful . You are worthy . Your voice matters !!!!!!!
Yeah I dated a narc. It was terrible. They try to break you down to feel helpless and needy for their attention etc. He messed my mind up at that time. Never again.
I’m learning slowly but surely to stay away from mommas boys. My husband now is one & pretty much everything Derrick just talked about I’m going/have gone through with him 😢
I was married to one for 10 years, we have 3 kids together. He moved out December 7 2017, while I was at work without telling me. Best day of my life. He was another level of crazy🙆, he would literally put his fingers inside my vjayjay to check if I was with another guy if I was few minutes late from work, ofcause without my concern. He abused me emotionally, physically and financially. I'm at peace now since he left and I will never let any man treat me like that ever again.
I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m with one now for 15 years and we hv 2 kids. He’s so dam content that I know me and the kids are gonna have to leave and not him. I can’t wait until it’s over.
