Signs You Have UNHEALED TRAUMA & How To Heal From It Today| Gabby Bernstein 

Overcoming childhood trauma should be the priority for many adults before getting into a relationship and becoming parents. The cycle should be healed and stopped.

You really are an incredible listener,it’s such a profound quality for anyone to have,but modelling it for men to see what that looks like and for women to see that it does exist in men is really changing the face of our generational curses for lack of a better word.thank you for all you do.

I completely related to his trigger regarding his word not being heard, believed or acknowledged. This has happened to me as well. It can be so incredibly frustrating and difficult. It makes it so hard to trust people. Especially the ones closest to you.

My childhood trauma has and is still sabotaging my relationships, every step is a great difference, I'm not giving up neither should any of you. Thanks for the content

The timing of this is amazing… I am having trouble letting go of my ex (we were married 35 years) and the trauma how I found out is still haunting my dreams and daily life. Rejection and all the triggers have caused a lot of damage to my finances and relationships…

Trauma is the inability to be present - OMG 😣 yes when my trauma was re-triggered for the first time, I spent the next 2-3 years completely looping in repeating thoughts and barely present for life. This was sooo frustrating and hard!! Never found a therapist able to understand this 😡

This is one of the most beautiful interview you have ever done Lewis and Gaby,I am in tears. Thank you!

Gabby adds her voice to what others have said over time: Peter Levine, Bessel van der Kolk, AA. Hearing about what she learned is a great thing even if we already knew about these. But the key is *our* experience, *our* journey, *our* body, not someone else. We are all human beings, where "being" is a process of unfolding. Our mind and body needs the unfolding. We can't skip it and it takes time. We each must remind ourself with regular practice and attention to turn intellectual knowledge into automatic subconscious knowledge. Regular daily practices help us. If we tell ourselves we don't have time, then perhaps we haven't suffered enough. Life is the school of greatness...thanks, Lewis. Regular daily meditation practice creates in us the skill to observe or witness, with increasing objectivity and detachment, the content of our body and mind. It gradually reduces judging of other and self. It's shocking to realize that less judging lifts a heavy emotional burden we were carrying all this time. Less judging = less negative feelings in our body. Like self-cleansing. We can only understand this by practice and experiencing for ourself. Journaling after daily meditation chronicles and bring clarity to our impressions across time. Chanting right before a meditation session prepares the mind, even for those who are convinced they can't meditate (i.e., many people). A chant that energizes the body and settles the mind facilitates deeper meditation. Nick Keomahavong has a couple of karaoke style chant videos as examples. Listening to a chant is the first step. Reciting with others is the next step. It's the difference between playing versus listening to a musical instrument. Different neural pathways are activated. Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score) talks about his observations of chanting in unison with others alleviating sorrow and anxiety. Abstaining from: killing, lying, taking what isn't offerred, using mind-altering substances, sexual misconduct... Eliminates our emotional baggage. Regular daily practice elevates our mind set, how we feel about ourselves. We won't always be perfect, but it's a day at a time, without judgment, guilt or shame. Journaling at the end of the day brings focus to our internal evolution. It reminds us of our ability to create inner strength and self-confidence and what we are able and willing to do for ourselves. It creates gratitude. Gratitude is one of the most important regular daily practices. We can easily be grateful for 25 things in a day. We can practice gratitude while we drive to work. Examples: having shelter, food, health, family, friends, happiness, learning a valuable lesson, challenges that foster growth in ourselves and others, a park to go to, life purpose, insurance, good food and water, a clean bathroom, time to spend how we wish, personal freedom, coworkers, good transportation, healthcare, ability to help others. The greatest gratitude may be in reflection on how we helped someone else...altruism. Then there's gratitude for humility.

This whole thing is gold. I'm only 48 minutes in - and I'm listening in like ten minute intervals trying to internalize everything, and then I'm listening to each interval at least one more time before going forward. I've come soooo far, but know I can be so much happier, and more importantly at peace. This gives me hope that one day I can be at peace. I didn't tear up at all yet while listening to this, but now I am. Thank you!!!!

Thank you for this. In the past 48 hours I’ve been in the rabbit hole learning about IFS. This conversation is perfect timing. I have been following both of you for years and recall the interview on your podcast where you tapped into the thing she was hiding because you always felt a distance. You were the friend everyone needs and she was safe with you. I remember it well. To hear you both now in this moment, and at this point on your individual healing journeys and your professional growth is inspiring. Thank you for being honest and open. I believe you ✨

I was ghosted 4 months ago and totally decompensated.. it brought to light terrible memories i must have pushed down about my parents abandoning me to my siblings to care for me.. and then making/causing my siblings leave the house . ( some ran away some were kicked out of the house) it all makes sense why this event caused me to go to a very dark place. Im going to talk to someone since im functioning again..( though mot well I admit)

It’s so gratifying to have somebody talking about internal family systems. Between that approach and healing your nervous system with body based approaches we all have this covered.

This episode is so beautiful! Sending you both so much love and gratitude for who you are for yourselves each other and the world!

Such an excellent podcast..i'm dealing with trauma from a recent narcissistic relationship and it's hard to deal with..i've never experienced such loss within myself it's exhausting,watching this is a breath of fresh air and has really uplifted me thankyou.

Really great interview. Potent. Sending Love and compassion to you and your family, Lewis. Bless your father's soul. 💜

This was a beautiful interview! My little trauma from childhood became a bigger T in adulthood. My new priority in life has been to regain inner peace and try to maintain it as much as possible, so I'm glad you touched on this. So grateful for your podcast when I have no friends or family to talk to about this...I'm currently reading judgment detox but can't wait to buy this new book Happy days.

Love this! I am going through my own journey to heal from trauma and I used to keep people at a distance. I also used drugs to self medicate in the past, I went through homelessness as a child, had to change that scarcity mindset. The mind is incredible and it's endlessly fascinating how just by changing your perspective you can change your life!

Hey, congrats on 2M. I've been following you for a year. I just discovered Gabby Bernstein and listening to her interviews, audiblebooks. This is perfect timing and great conversation.

Thank you Lewis - your vulnerability is palpable and is helping many of us. I am pausing the video and doing the questions 🙏🏻

Enjoyed learning from two liberated souls. Bless you

Love this interview Lewis!! Great job and I admire your strength, resilience, and your passion towards helping a society in much need of this. Your interviews help me a lot! Much love

I love this video so much! Learned so much from the two of you! Thank you Lewis & Gabby! 🙏🏼😇

This discussion is so helpful. Gabby breaks down the healing process into easy steps. I love the simple suggestions she gave about breathing, placing hand on heart and getting centered in the body, also tapping. Thank you Lewis for all that you do, introducing us to incredible guests, to help us in every aspect of life. You Rock! 🙏

Wow! I have been wondering how to heal from this forever- will buy this book and listen to you more! Thanks!

Absolute TRUTH. I have been working extensively on a change support process. At the core of my training, we are burrowing a path to the unhealed parts to speak to them what they need and to give them what they lack (nurture them) so that they can grow and flourish to a greater feasible outcome

I am relating so much to so much of this. Thank you for filming it!

This is incredible, I love that we are able to watch the process. It helps me to understand in a way reading it would not make the same impression or allow for the same level of understanding. Thank you for your vulnerability!!

Oh I just loved this interview! Both of you have such beautiful energy... and I am sure this helps so many people. Much love 😊💖

Woooow!!!!!! Her explanations are amazing! Extremely articulate woman!

This is huge. I was abused as a child by a male teenage cousin, and the reality of it didn't hit until I was in my late 20s. I really just suppressed and denied it all until that point, until I saw him in person at a family event and it all hit me like a train. I'm 37 now and just started dating someone. Like you, I've done SO much work. I really thought I was good, that I was healed, that I'd reached a place of acceptance. And yet I've found myself triggered. I totally wasn't expecting it, and it led me to your channel. I just wanted to say thank you SO much for sharing your story, and being open, and for posting this video in particular. It's really so hugely valuable.

Just ordered the book. I feel this will help with my happiness research ! Thanks !

This is a great video. I understand every emotion so far. I feel just as he does.

Dearest Gaby and Lewis, this touched me so profoundly. Thank you, thank you, thank you! What I wouldn't give to have friends like you in my life. You are both so inspiring and healing. Loved this! Lewis, thank you for your work, honestly....I mean....please be proud of yourself. And thanks again 🥰

Powerful video. I am peace, clarity and freedom was mind blowing. So Powerful.

Couldn't have had this info anytime than now! perfect timing. thanks again!

My dearst Lewis and Gaby I love you so much it is my first time healing my trauma and it feels good I accept you much love

That’s exactly how I feel. My word is honored wow. I feel you Lewis

Just over an hour in. Incredible. Thank you both for opening up so much 🙏🏽

Wow, this is so real and open. I'm just learning to take care of myself after years of childhood abuse, spousel abuse and trauma. I needed this.

IMO our main personal challenges are: 1. Negative emotions. 2. Meanings: - Core limiting beliefs and the rules we adopted from upbringing 3. What we focus our attention on. 4. Conflicting inner parts: Always guarded, protective, distrusting and cautious yet 'self-sabotaging'

I love her sweater 🌻😍

Whoa, I’ve done so much work in the past 5 years but this just got me crying. Inkling that there’s much more work to do. Thank you both for your help with healing 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

OMG!!! I'm crying and feeling so much of the love that you too emit in this interview!!!! Thank you for sharing with us your journey, for helping us feel that we are not alone!! And for putting out to the world this treasure !! Love 💕 love love is all i feel.. Cada día es más fácil sentir el amor de otros hacia mi. Cada día es más fácil entenderme y comprenderme Cada día es más fácil quererme gracias a lo que pude comprender de sud pláticas Gracias por traducir el universo Gracias por ayudarme a poder quererme a mí misma un poquito más cada día !!! Love ❤️ love ❤️

Became completely immersed in your dialogue with each other and took 4 pages of "notes" with book titles to purchase happily. I happened upon your podcast by divine intervention at this (perfect) time and place and stayed in the "flow" the entire interview. 🙏 So powerful you both, I haven't been so present in a vlog/podcast in a very long time. Too much out there barely scratches the surface for me lately ...this was just the DEEP I needed in ALL the ways, I related resoundedly and I appreciate you both with great gratitude. Continued blessings to you both, Lewis and Gabby, -Kimberleigh

Thanks 🙏 I appreciated & needed to hear this and watched the video on happy days book 📚 u both are so giving in your knowledge thanks 🙏 ❤️fifi

Grateful to hear You both who have worked through OUR traumas🙌🙏🌈✌️💞

I'm definitely willing!

Mr.Howes your transparency is a bravery that gives my inner child permission to feel healthy about healing as opposed to wrong.

Thank you, that was one of your best shows!

*What a brilliant Sharing!*

This one is just good , been listening while working and love it.

Amazing episode Lewis and Gabby 👍🏻

I watched you from the show talk you did with anas and i'm sooooo prouddd of you💜 that's all want to say.

I can identify with your trigger when someone says u r feeling something different than what u saying u feel. It's a reminder of my childhood when I was told u r feeling something different than what I said I feel. Till today I remember it

Loved ,safe and protected.

My dearst Vishen today I meet Lewis and Gaby and started healing my truma and it felt good and I accepted them I love you too much

WHOA! Thank you both. 🙏🏻

This interview came at the right time I want to buy this book Thank you so much

I truly resonate with Gabby Thank you Lewis Howes

excellent timing. on my recently departed Mom's birthday. raw day. Thanks Lewis and Gabby.

This was a wonderful interview. Lewis I adore you . You are such a good listener and very handsome too 😁

Validating your words. validation by your significant other that they trust you as an individual. Men are generally are protectors and they want to fix, help the situation, since your little boy was not protected as a child. I am sorry I van relate on so many levels! Thank you.

Love Gabby!

Man, you are one of the strongest individuals I have ever come across - it takes a lot to bare it all like that. I have only done this twice in my life, to the public. It felt amazing but I also know the effort and courage it took to do it (and coming so close to not doing it). And you do it on such a large scale and so many times. Well done! Chapeau! (It's french.. and no, nothing to do with "chapo"!)

Thank you Lewis 🙏🏽

OVERWHELMED. literally...it happens often. I'm retired and feel lost much of the time. I need to take this content in small doses. Thank you for presenting it.

Wow, last year my twin flame transitioned and then my baby girl dog passed away later in the year and my world was chaotic, many stressors happening at the same time, like my father getting sick twice, home renovation going wrong, one thing after another, etc etc, it was exhausting. But at the same time I took a new part time job, escaping route maybe, and did things that I had pending for years like refinancing my homes, spring cleaning, etc etc. Now, I feel stronger and know more where I want to be and what I want to do more than ever and am excited to create the life I want and to serve others more than ever before! Thank you both for your work and you for bringing great hosts and making great interviews!!!!

Loved this interview!! ❤

Thank you

Always love seeing you two together. I am half way onto the book. Powerful 💜💜

Hi Gabby and Lewis, First of all, thank you both for being so vulnerable and sharing your stories. It has helped me discover so much about my own trauma and provided tools for me to work on when seeing my therapist is not an option. Intimate relationships have always been a struggle of mine. Can you do the inner work when your partner is the main cause of your triggers? Can you create a safe space when the other partner isn’t able to recognize their own protectors? Or is it that you need to do the inner work first before you are able to heal within a partnership? I know this question has so many variables and I appreciate any insight you are able and willing to provide. Thank you ❤ 1:14:53

Seriously amazing interview guys

I downloaded her book on Audible. I finally understand the loop

You need to BE HEARD.

Inner work!✨🙏

I needed this interview 💯❤💪🙏

Amazing interview 👏👏👏

Omg I haven’t seen Gabby in forever, yay!

I'm 45 years old and have recently figured out that I have trauma from childhood that has carried over to adulthood. I have tried to commit suicide 3 times in in past year because my self worth was non existent. I felt worthless.... I'm learning how to love myself no matter what happened in my youth and my adullt life.

INCREDIBLE

Por favor , la necesitamos traducida a español , mil graciassss Lewis

Spiritual Bypass!!! Good place to keep neutral, and great excuse to still ignore what needs to be addressed. Just opened a door for me

This is so me and I was diagnosed d.i.d at least 30 years ago.

53:30 yep totally agree... one day in my book it will have full chapter of my universal jokes, After sleeping mindlessly with more than a hundred woman I said if next one won't be the one ( I wasn't ready anyway) I'll probably become gay this break up was major and made me pill onion to 0 reconsidering my upbringing in homophobic environment, being proud of shaming others sexuality etc, so yeah it's still adventure but me and universe befriending again and reversing my given word on much more healthier terms :) I appreciate you both! great conversation so many takeaways . "I'm not here to teach you the meaning of love, I'm here to teach you how to release the blocks to the presence of love" I'm happy to love my life and keep walking this discovery path

At the 18:07 mark I can totally relate to this trigger. For me it seems like an attack on my character. I get it. I’m working on this very thing.

❤💯VERY INFORMATIVE 💯❤️

My friend numb out whenever he has triggers and I become aggressive/ controlling. We both have problems with the way we react to a trigger

Feeling like having to defend one’s character because the fear of the threat of losing love looms if perfect behavior isn’t achieved

It's always been the same, mental health isn't even covered by ins. except psychiatrists because they give you meds.

If you are always living different, and positive then you are making the life worth living :)

Wohhh I really need to go get this book .. big Ts , this is amazing , thank you both so much for being so open honest .... ohhh 😯 I'm isolating pushing people every thing away, I've up a huge wall , I can't do anything soo stuck in fear is far out of control, it's controlling me 🤦🏻‍♀️ are these my protectors ? It's killing me or I'm killing my self ... slowly , don't even know if I'm making sense anymore 🙏🏼💗 love u guys

Grateful for this video.

❤️

Loved it!

great show... If I may I would recommend Iyanla Vanzant as a guest.

Spiritual Babies 👶✨️✨️✨️

Values, Vision and Lifestyle must align along with Love, Sexual Chemistry and Best Friend Chemistry and a heart felt spiritual Connection.

I love this so much 💗 💓 ❤ 💛

IFS saved my life.

Please remind name's book ...thank you ..