7 Signs They Are "THE ONE" 

Thank you.

Thank you so much for the summary. Very helpful

This should be taped in every home. 😊

"apologies without excuses" sounds fine but some excuses are valid. I think what people mean in general when they scornfully use the word "excuse" is actually blame shifting.

These people talk and talk instead of listing the reason they are presenting.

Good for you. I wish I had this info 40+ years ago.

You are AWESOME for educating yourself about relationships when you're only 17! Most of us only start in our 40's after one or two divorces LOL. You are going to make your partner VERY LUCKY someday!

me tooooo

I'm 18!

That’s so cool to hear :) I’ll share my own two cents from what I’ve learned and wished I knew when I was that age. In short: Whether you believe in ”the one” or not, the person you might spend a large bunch of your life with will have flaws. It’s important for you both to aknowledge their and your flaws, compromise, and be better. To show we care we can show effort and patience by listening and communicating around these issues, and you can’t usually make things better instantly. But keeping that in mind, know your value and stand up for yourself when you feel things could be different.

Hi wife! Thank you! You're always so good to me! I love you!

This is so wholesome 🤧

Awwww this is so sweet

God bless you both ❤

You are so cute May Allah keep your relationship good and amazing as it is

Too true, Friendships came to mind

I agree

Yes!

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I agree and after watching this video I realized my child just wasn't the one. Found him a nice foster family last weekend.

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My heartfelt condolences!!❤️‍🩹🙏❤️‍🩹 I, too, am here doing the same! My hubby has been beside me in spirit for three years, now. I'm *just* now getting to a point where I can imagine, *one day!*, being interested in letting a new person in. Lol. And I absolutely wanna be more prepared this time around. Our relationship wasn't "bad," but there were plenty of areas it could have been better. So, before I go dipping my toes in the "pool of potential parners," I wanna make damn sure I'm an *excellent* swimmer this time around! Lol. Bc, after all, we're here for a good time, not a long time.🌟💖🌟

So very sorry for your loss. ❤

I love to read your message 🤩

Sorry for your loss..It is Such a gift finding the right mindset in a partner! I finally found it, 7 yrs after getting out of a marriage with an emotionally Immature/Stunted partner. They're out there! Best of luck on your journey 🙏

thanks so much!

helpful thanks 🤲

Thank you so much!!🤗

And enjoy

Could 100% be an actual album's tracklist, probably reggae or some conscious hip hop

That is EXACTLY what I always say! Love is an action... Well, many actions❤

No love is a descriptor, which embodies types, actions and phycological intent. As such in the English it malpresents it's true nature friendship, charity, family, lover, husband, wife and the one that can not be translated with one word Is Agape an unconditional love. Yet in English love is abused, to tell someone that they are your friend specifies the type of love but to tell that friend that you love them can be misconstrued and make them recoil, yet it is the same thing. So love and it's type is put in a single box and only let out at specific times

The version of José Gonzáles is beautiful too, worth a listen.

Aurora sang it soo beautifully

Love this song :)

Agreed!!!

So agree!!! Great great great video🙌👏🙏

So true, been there done that😢

Do you feel like a relationship can work if you have different political opinions?

imo...if that are fanatical and that is a huge passion of theirs and they get upset about the opposing view...um; no and everything inbetween is highly nuanced imo two people can have opposite views on politics and respectfully agree to disagree; if that's not possible then ...um; no @@randomfandom2516

I agree!

No ​@@randomfandom2516

It depends how important politics are to you and how it affects your lifestyle

I can promise you- all of that will get worse if you marry him.

@@meghanviola3037 get out my friend

Marrying for physical attraction is not good. It is important to have emotional, temporal and spiritual support.

Girl, the writing is on the wall. Do not let your youth go to waste.

I came from this exact situation, and now I’m in a relationship with the exact opposite. Please leave. Yes. It’ll be painful. But you’ll have peace. You’ll heal. And that opens up space for someone who is healthy, safe, and emotionally available to come along and love you properly. Life is too short to be treated that way.

I'm sorry you went through that. I went thru similar behavior from my exhus too. Take time to heal. It's a different type of healing if you recognize that you were with a narcissist.

@@kTorres007 I don't believe he is a Narcissist although he was behaving like one. More DPD than NPD. In his eyes I was responsible for all his feelings and thoughts. Either way it was toxic. I am continuing to look within and hold myself accountable for the fact that I saw all the red flags and reasoned them away. I am 100% responsible for beginning every conversation. I never left him responsible for his communication because it was too uncomfortable to wait for him to address something that he never would. I am healing. Though at 56 I doubt I will ever enter into another romantic relationship. I have yet to see a benefit.

What made you stay in that relationship for so long?

#1 the first 1.5 years we're great. #2 he took a toxic job and became depressed #3 his dad died and he became further depressed. I was trying to be supportive and hold space for him during trying times for him, and decided to give it 1 more year for him to pull out of the funk. The last 7 months were when he finally got into counseling and I wanted to give it a chance.

@@krystleklarity it’s hard to help men who are depressed and insecure and won’t see it…

You and me both.

You are a wonderful husband. A good spouse realizes that there is room for improvement.

May I ask what made you start looking into yourself? And how was that at the beginning? I’m super curious :) also: high fives!! Sounds like you’re on a great path :)

@@lockenkopfjulie referring to me or original comment?

@@lockenkopfjulie I have always blamed my childhood trauma for behaving erraticly. I wasn't a monster but with that reason I thought that I can get away with having a bad mood or two. Then my partner would always say that it hurts when I act that way which I didn't understand before. My partner repeated that for a number of times and I didn't understand because I thought I should be the one hurting. Then I realized that some things should stay in the past to no longer hurt the present. I realized that with the childhood trauma going nowhere, it only hurts my partner when I have it. So I started forgiving my past and confronted my childhood trauma. I looked into my actions and evaluated them as a third person. I realized that my childhood trauma should've been only haunting me, and not my partner. It's a work on progress, on myself, and my partner gradually became happier. My partner has always been very patient and I have always asked myself how come I can't be like that.

Same 😢 3.5 years of empty words. It’s making me feel unworthy and ashamed. I know I deserve more. But it’s so hard to walk away when promises never happen. It’s becoming mental torture and so toxic.

Do it at two years and 3.5 years, don't invest ten years ...

​@@CoralBalmoral I'm 20 years in .. i can't get out.

Coral I’m so sorry 😢 love can hurt beyond words! My best girlfriend died before Christmas but I know she would be screaming at me to leave him! Love should be patient, kind and gentle. Not toxic, controlling, manipulative and full of lies and broken promises.

@@charlieann6321pls get your ducks in a row (quietly, don’t say anything to your partner), and pls get out. If your bestie would scream at you, you know what to do. My sister saved me. Sending love. 💙

I feel you. ❤ And what I have learned through these years is that boundaries has to be set from that person to whom are crossed to. We that have problems with boundaries are tend to wait people to see for themselves that they are ceossing boundaries. Well.... that's not gonna happen. WE have to set them. For us. WE have to learn how to protect US from somebody or somebodys behaviour. Rooting for you. ❤

I am so so sorry you had to go through that, hope you don’t take offense but I’m glad you divorced him, seems like he was a selfish and horrible human, I’m glad you were able to see that you don’t need him. You are a beautiful person and you deserve to be loved and cared for. Wish you nothing but happiness! 💕

@@isabellaa.4643 Thank you for your kind words. Happily divorced and actually doing better on all levels with my child . I wish you nothing but success and happiness ❤️

So sorry. So glad you are free from emotional abuse.

@@kathleengainor8532 Thank You ❤️

Lovely lady.

This comment is so good. Sometimes people listen to the videos and feel personally attacked.

I feel you! I also just got out of a 6 year relationship, and when I found Jimmy's channel it was like a huge hug I've been needing. I don't blame my ex anymore, because I see so much of what I was doing wrong, as well. This channel makes me want to be a better partner, friend, and co-worker. So grateful other people feel the same 🙏🏼

I agree. This stuff should be taught in schools. Hopefully Jimmy gets an opportunity to get these videos into a school curriculum.

Absolutely agree! It should be part of the core curriculum in public schools, along with basic life skills that many kids don't get at home.

Blessings! You got dis.

If you do not figure out that the issue isn't that you were with a narcissist but that you attracted one, you will soon start seeing the same trends in your current partner when you were/are the problem all along.

@@joetheboy04 Oh no doubt, I have no one to blame but myself. But he was the first and only narcissist I’ve ever been in a relationship with. My first husband was nothing like that. And my current boyfriend is nothing like that. Several years of therapy has definitely helped, too. Narcissists are really good at what they do he convinced me to keep coming back for 14 years. Until he finally left me for another woman. I really feel sorry for her too. But yes, I chose to believe his lies, I chose to keep going back to him. I was the cause of my problems, because I knew it was never going to get better, no matter how convincing he was.

​@@millypooh3996DON'T EVER blame Your self to staying with the narcissist... cause as You say and that's the truth - a narcissist are MASTER's of Manipulation who-ever-they-meet 😒 I know and even the every one who is professional psycologisth knows that! Why I know it? Cause I had several normal and healthy relationships and had also been married with a healthy and normal man for 21 year - but we divorced. 1 year after the divorce I met a covert narcissist and of course I didn't understand that he was an NPD ... that he discovered at the beginning as narcs always do - they are experts of manipulation. So it took me about 10 years until I was strong enough to discard him and left that toxic relationship. But ... I did it and by myself 💥👊👍 After that it took me a couple of years to heal my self, built up my self and my boundiries (again) and today 10 years after I left him I'm in peace and harmony. I have read a lot of litterature of NPD, co-dependency (me as an empath) etc and all of Read Flags. I know today how I NOT gonna to be snared into a toxic relationship again but it isn't easy to find a normal and healthy partner... I am singel (still or should I say: yet!?) because I feel comfortable in my own company even if I do not gonna to say No to an partner. Love comes if it is ment to bee or otherwise - it isn't ment 😅 But I NEVER EVER feel that it was MY fault that HE (the narcissist) chose me or it that is MY fault that HE abused and manipulated Me. No Way. The guilt is his and only his what he did to me or too other of his victims. And it will always bee that! **Last year 2023 in february he died. 55 years old only. Alone in his flat in multiple diagnosis caused by his alcoholism. I am still aliwe - 64 years old for now.

They're out there.. you concentrate on getting yourself to the level you want your partner to be at, once you're there & practicing these methods, you will feel it / notice it in others. I found it after getting out of a marriage with an emotionally immature partner. It did take some time, but I finally found a man with all of these qualities & more! So very thankful ❤

@WfweDcrf yes, why? Lol

Proud of you for owning it. :) Owning it is the first step for improvement-- good job :)

This👆👆👆!!! Listen to someone caught in this with 4 kids and 17 yrs of a difficult marriage… Listen to this advice above. I wish I had and not jumped into marriage and healed so I could recognize red flags and work on my issues. I grew from them. My spouse keeps going back to what feels safe on a vicious cycle. Our kids see it and I hate it.

The first question is IF they want children

What are some of these values if you don't mind me asking?

Really sorry to hear this.

Though it’s no reason to give up on this. Also don’t just accept a relationship with which you’re not happy and fulfilled. I wish you success and hope and power ❤

You might want to consider that you are better off alone. I had to do this. 22 years of marriage and I left. It was so toxic in the last 10 years. I felt myself dying inside. I had physical problems from his negativity. Back surgery, double knee surgery, stomache issues, sinus trouble. Sleeping was difficult, my nerves were frazzled. 7 Months out and my stomache problems gone. I am working and going to the gym. My legs are strong and my back is strong now. I am getting mentally stronger too. I pray you can find a way to live in peace. It wasn't easy, but it was worth it. ❤❤God be with you.

Yes!!

Not if it’s one sided! which it usually is! equal empathy is key I reckon. Great video!

​@@suenorwood-evans9724❤

Here’s a big revelation: Both, because they don’t exclude each other’s existence

Agree!

Watch his shorts. A lot of specific examples.

They’re other videos that talk about being vulnerable with your partner.

So true!

Indeed!

amen I am sharing this

Should be shown in highschool. Not everyone gets any premarital counseling. And some people lie

I liked your words:....earn the bond that is irreplaceable.

No one is too far gone to be helped !! It's all about first working on yourself. The only person expected to respect your boundaries is you - a boundary isn't telling the other what you want them to do/change, but informing them of how you'd like to be treated and what you will do if it's not the case, and do it every time. There's so much solace to be found in working on yourself, for yourself, and not depending on others for kindness - it's about giving it to yourself first, then you can find people who will give it to you, and stop wanting it from people who don't.

You are not too far gone. I have experienced what you have described with all those closest to me (parents, kids,marriage, friendship). For me(not necessarily for you) I had to go no contact with everyone in my life. Unfortunately they were all toxic, narcissist or one sided relationships. (I do still hope to renew a relationship with my kids). Fast forward 18 months later I have six good friends that actually are the "fairytales" you mentioned. They love me, are kind, remember my birthday. We've had tough conversations and we are still here. It's not the easiest when trauma and old unhealthy patterns have been the norm but it's possible. Prayer for you that you find the same thing in your family and in friendships 🙏.

@@Lulu-Godsbeloved thank you so much 🌟

Keep looking - there is someone out there who understands and will love you for you. You deserve reciprocity at the barest minimum. Blessings and hugs 💙

Thank you for this!

@ilianamunoz perfectly said

You may never know how much you hurt someone until you see things from their views. I've made lots of mistakes due to emotional detachment and hearing Jimmy say all of this, I really feel more terrible than I did before. I wish there will be a turnaround and second chance to really make things work. I'm willing to put in the work to keep him, I wish he would too😢

I hate that, completely unfair

Keep working on yourself. All the best!

I have been there too, my friend. It took several years of therapy for me to undo the suppressed feelings. It's important to feel them or else you will hit a tipping point.. I wish you the best on your journey. I know that you have what you need within you already.

Thank you for the encouragement and all the best to each of you.

might be avoidant/fearful avoidant attachment style

Felt you bud, in a new relationship and trying to be more attentive rather than avoidant and nervous. I wish you luck homie, we can do this

Yeah, I have been working on making peace with myself first for years. I am a much better company to myself now.

Lovely! I remember the moment I told myself I would pick me for my team.

@@recoveringsoul755 are you safe now?

I’ve truly met my soulmate after years of horrible relationships. Some of us do find our actual other half.

@@WiltedKuwaitSalad thats simply not true at all. You just have abetter meter for finding a better partner.

​@@MochaZillaNot to mention her partner, upon meeting her, was also able to discern well. We don't exist in a vacuum.

Really like how you put that~👍

@@helenaquin1797 exactly 💯 and thank you 😊

And there are many, right? SO comprehensive!

For years, love felt elusive. I would fall head over heels, and then something would raise my anxious attachment alert. My heart would feel cold, I’d initiate a break up, then try to get back together. I dated quality men, but I didn’t know how to love without fearing pain. I carry guilt for the pain I put others through.

I think I struggle to feel feelings. I mean I love people and find joy in bringing others joy. But I am reluctant to get into romantic relationships. I never expect people to truly love and respect me. So I am stand offish. Now I'm trying to remedy that but not yet allowing my heart to open and be vulnerable.

@@desertdog8006- am at this same stage right now!

I’m right there with you! :)