Single at 38 & Rejected By Matchmaker But Everyone Else Is The Problem 

I feel bad for the therapist. The only choice they have is to say "yes you're right".

Exactly.

Well said. If Therapists told female clients what they needed to hear (accountability), they (Therapists) would go broke. I'd bet all this "type A" harpy's Therapist did for 10 years was let her vent and then happily cash her checks.

So trueeeeeeee

The "matchmaker" Sells a false IMAGE to her MALE CLIENTS. Real MEN Do Not Get intimidated by what the Woman said, but everybody goes into relationships these days; With a MASK that this Woman is Not willing to Wear. My hats off to her for THAT.

Agreed 😵‍💫

I'm a lawyer, and when I see clients like her coming, I duck and cover. And I've had some pretty dangerous sociopaths and BPDs in my office

​@@devilsadvocacyoh shit I bet a lawyer could see it plain as day. Thinking we need to hire a lawyer when you go dating, would really breakdown the dating/relationship/marriage and child raising. Probably save about 20 years into a 20 min consultation lol 😂

@@yanbaihuzxzxzx My #1 piece of advice is not to sign that contract. Do not get married. Everything else involves a lesser degree of risk which you may or may not want to take

The matchmaker? The bigger red flag 🚩is the 10 years of seeing a therapist and behaving this way. Does the therapist feel this woman is a success story?

And then she says she wants a leader... I can only imagine how much drama there would be...

so called "type a" .. specially Leaders.. would never have problems socializing with people or attracct a lot of people... look how old she is.... wait... 38 ?????? hjahahahahaha how the f that hag is 38... :DDDDDDDDDD ffs im 38.. and im 61 year old mother looks younger than her.... well it makes sense... if she's 38... and looks so worn out.... pretty red flag for most men.... cant have children with her and ,ooks 20 years older ... than biological age...

She is not a dating coach ,she is a matchmaker, there is different ,not her place to give her advices until she actually finds her a match

​@@fatisummer9106 It is her job to make sure the people she works with are set up for success. The matchmaker would've done this woman I disservice, allowing her to get rejected by any potential matches.

@@fatisummer9106 You're obtuse. This woman needs a matchmaker to find a matchmaker.

BINGO. She is an agent of chaos. Honestly, nearly all of the mare. But 5 seconds in, was really all I needed to realize this female is a psychopath. I could totally see her in the Eminem/Rihanna video for the song "Love The Way You Lie". I wager my life and my mama's that this is the type of female who thinks arguing, clawing and disrespecting each other constantly is "love". She is literally a drama major...with a minor in batshit crazy.

I work with a woman like this its all about control and headgames you can almost smell it.

Yeah, this lady really told on herself. Stunning. True relationships require work - inward and outward.

She’s ALSO 38! She’s yesterday’s newspaper! 😁😆

This woman has probably moved around and exhausted the pool of guys available to her. She is a HARD AVOID.

​@grahambrown1980 Yep, too little too late.

​@@grahambrown1980you think a 38 year old is yesterdays news? That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Talk about being mysognistic

Well said.

Sadly, there are so many like her

Shrill, entitled, unlikable, cold, combative, very masculine (yes she is Courtney), vindictive, vengeful, annoying, self righteous, insufferable tyrant that looks like she’s 55 even before 40. I can’t imagine a crueler sentence for anyone than being stuck with someone this.

Totally. She is nasty. So glad I'm alone. No Serial Killer.

Kinda like how I imagine she thinks she is the table 😂

Instant put off

This woman said she’s been in therapy for ten years? No wonder her dating coach turned her down

Whoo is a personality trait that speaks to your propensity to draw people in, captivate, or be relatable. Someone that says I have my walls up by default won’t have much whoo.

@@kpeggs82 "Shields up, Captain!"

And calling the matchmaker dangerous, while saying that she should lose her license for something she didn't even say lol.

All the matchmaker really said is “you are not compatible with anyone in the pool of men I have”.

@@ElMartilloBlanco There's no licensing for matchmakers.

@@polymathica "I wouldn't inflict what you're doing to me right now on my clients."

@@aluisious That's fine, but my point is the woman calling her matchmaker dangerous is also saying her matchmaker should lose her livelihood just because she doesn't agree with her. It's blind hypocrisy.

The forehead tap by CR was hilarious.

Ouch ! 😂

I would have done it for a 6pack of Coors.

This is the problem with the current job market, people willing to work for less than they are worth. Charge market rates to out the obnoxious.

I’d do it for free.

More like type n. N for narcissist.

@@byteresistor yep pretty much.

Anyone describing themselves as "Type A" better be a USB.

My mother used to say “I’m a Taurus!” She used this as an excuse for literally every single time she was too stubborn to listen when I tried to get her to take steps to change her life for the better. She lived in a government housing walk up. She started having falls that caused her mobility issues. I tried to get her to move when the falls started, because there was no elevator and her mobility was declining, and I knew it was going to get worse. Finally she fell and broke her hip. She was a shut in. The waiting list for assisted living is years long. She started whining about being stuck inside most of the time. I kept reminding her that she could’ve started the process of moving when I suggested it and she might have a place to go to. She was taking physio for her hip. She would tell me these glowing reviews about how well she was doing. I would talk to her therapist and he would tell me that she refuses to do stairs, and she refuses to do this, and she refuses to do that. She would get pissed and yell “I’m a Taurus.” I finally realized that I couldn’t help her, and I had to give up for my own sanity. Women will use anything as a crutch to get out of accountability for their own actions.

@@ThatGuy182545 yeah astrology is another example for sure.

I can never hear those terms without thinking of those Omegaverse fanfictions...

They can use whatever language, but bottom line is this is actually how women think. You can keep being in denial, but you tell me how many of you have dated a woman that's taller than you or made more money than you. It's not by coincidence.

@@joschmo4497 I don't want to dignify this more than it deserves, but since you ask: I've dated a girl taller than me, and I've dated a girl who was a trust fund baby. The woman in the video has obvious problems, but not all women are like that. Sorry.

@@urbino-o5s Imagine being such a bad liar you'd claim both. A skilled liar would not get so greedy with a lie, they'd claim 1 to stay within the realm of possible. Statistics suggests this is extremely unlikely. 1/720 couples have a taller woman. Let's say it's Germany, because Germany has highest percentage of relationships where woman makes more than husband (6% of relationships). I'm being generous here. So 1/720 x 1/16.7 Do the math man, there are better lottery odds than the odds that you dated both a woman who was taller than you and a woman who outearned you. Math says why the f you lyiiiin

@@urbino-o5s Right on, Dated an Astrophysicist who was not only taller than me, she made more than I did at the time. This didn't bother me in the slightest. Dudes like the one you're replying to need to learn to heal and move on over their old traumas involving women.

Yes! Lots of male energy here.

I don’t want to confuse Male energy and hate. That is just pure disdain for the weakness of a broken person.

@@philipreasons3298 it’s more of how she is saying: catty, vein, and mean natured. And sort of in a tone that it would be a turn on to a guy. I’m willing to bet that’s sort of the mindset she looks for in a guy, and thinks that’s what men look for in women.

@@Tgogators I think we are pretty much in the same place . Just focused on different aspects . It’s like saying there’s a big project do you want windows or floors?

@@wanda520 No? I'm confident in myself but I don't go around talking about how I'd chew up and spit out romantic partners. That's kind of sick in the head.

"Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me." - Matthew 25:40. The way a person treats the most gentle people says alot about them.

This is a very good point, @heatherstacy2976 What this clueless woman fails to see is that the matchmaker identified poor character traits within her and chose not to deal with her because of it.

Of all her red flags, I didn’t even notice that one😂

I think it's important to note that in regards to men - seeing as this is a woman who's upset with her position with men - being gentle does *not* mean you are weak, a doormat, or willing to be mistreated. I've come to learn I'm probably considered "gentle" - meaning I'm quite reserved, speak when necessary, and overly respectful of boundaries (I won't force an encounter if it hasn't been made apparently clear it's appropriate to do so). However, I'm also not afraid to walk away at the first sign of mistreatment. I'm not keen on being aggressive, rude, insulting, or forcefully dominant over my girlfriend, so if that's what she's looking for - goodbye. I think most "gentle" men would do the same. That's probably why she's still alone. She's confusing abuse with masculinity/alpha-ness.

Well said!

All things considered, she took it well for a narcissist -- it must be her self discipline.

Yes, especially the fact that she hears something completely different than what has been said. She hears much more hurtful stuff, instead of "hey, until you change it's not likely you will have succesful relationship", she hears "you are not worthy". This makes her reject the idea. This is how narcissists operate their whole life and therefore are unable to change their pattern unless you treat them very, very stoically and tactically.

She will be still single 10 years from now and so on

JFC. This has nothing do with narcissim.

@@Mezaph people just love to throw around words and labels without fully understanding what they mean

Type A men and women are the absolute worst personalities to work with, hands down. Can't stand them. They are not team players. They are too combative and just sabotage teams and/or projects. And they destroy their families over time.

That matchmaker was merely protecting her client base as no man who is paying her for her service would appreciate being matched with her. It wasn't bravery but common sense that made her reject her.

kudos.

That's why matchmaker was asking about meditation, it's basically an exercise to vent your inner anger.

They don't have childhood trauma. They have childhood entitlement.

Accurate 🚩🚩🚩

FACTS

If a woman says that, it means her worst IS her best. 😂

Wish more girls were like you world will be a better place for single guys😂😂😂😂😂​@@CourtneyRyan

its more like “if you can handle me at my worst you never get to see my best”

FACTS and I do not have a sister

My condolences

Drop your sister off in the middle of the woods, stranded without food for 3 days. Then ask her if she needs a Man.

Remember to buy her cat food and toys, she'll be needing those eventually.

She should date women instead😂

Years ago it would be seen as a mental illness to be so paranoid but these days its just seen as a personality quirk.

I mean I get it. The woman isn't stupid, she knows what the matchmaker really _meant_ was, "I'm not going to risk harming my reputation as a matchmaker by associating itself with someone like you." Hell, I'd be mad if a matchmaker said that to me. But after I calmed down, I would have the proverbial "talk with Jesus." This woman floated a tiktok to fish for compliments instead.

@@cisium1184 Why would you be mad that the match maker pointed that out to you? The only person you can control is yourself so she should be seeing it as a good thing b/c she cant control what other people do. She can always change her behavior if she wants to.

Just imagine

"Type A" is code for disagreeable and unreasonable, just like "free spirit" means selfish and aloof

And when have you heard men talking like that? This is female phenomenon, they get their heads filled with all sort of junk thoughts from TV, music, their hyena friends etc.

One of the most insightful comments on this video

This is an excellent comment ✨️

yep, I agree.

So insightful, wow

Yes.

More like one minute

She's the kind of woman I'd talk to at a party and say "excuse me, I just realized I need to go do my taxes."

I had this exact same thing happen to me, except, she was a friend of a girl my buddy was trying to do his thing with. I tried my hardest to wing my buddy but, my god, it was soul draining. I told her that I found her utterly boring and walked away. Was one of the first times I really draw a line and walked away from a girl. Still feels good, even 15 years later.

She is just trying to justify her own negative attitude.

It’s probably true, though. Lady has zero self-awareness.

Because in her opinion, she doesn't have to work on herself. It's take me as I am.

Exactly, the matchmaker's comments likely were intended to be "In your current state & attitude, many men won't be interested in you."

Coz they interpret it with their emotions, not with logic. Feelings first over facts.

THIS.

Have fun storming the castle!

it's like, way to completely miss the point and then proceed to volunteer letting us know just how you really feel. yikes.

So imagine this being your partner. Can you imagine how the smallest little thing will go from zero to thermonuclear in about two sentences? “Oh, sorry I forgot to ask for extra sauce packets.” “You NEVER respect my needs! It’s clear you’re thinking of someone else! You’re the most useless person on the planet!!!”

Well she appears to be 48 already.

She is abusive

Don't worry about it. That's the main reason there are more young men that are in shape than young women. Is it unfair? Yes. Does it yield results? Yes. Should everyone be held to the same level of scrutiny that men are subjected to? Absolutely yes. Complacency/over-acceptance do not yield healthy results - just comfortable ones.

That narrative being fed to men was done so to intentionally demoralize, for some it has yielded incredibly positive results that they might not have gotten otherwise, but what she said is true in the sense, that the size of your chequebook, or how much you workout, should not dictate your opportunity to find love. Sadly while they were feeding men the demoralizing messages, they were feeding women, the you are perfect as you are, your beautiful no matter how fat you are, no matter how repellent your personality is, men should be banging down your door. So now we’ve got perfectly good men who think they can’t date because they are not good enough, and some 3 with a horrible personality thinking she deserves nothing less than Prince Charming, it was all by design and it’s a complete disaster exactly as it was intended to be.

​@@ladidaohoh3168The ruling class of the western world has done just about everything they can to break the spirit of free men here. Sending them to slaughter in world wars, weaponising women against them and 100 other things. It's worked pretty well so far but the consequences long term will be extreme for anyone stuck in those countries. Those consequences or blowbacks are just beginning to emerge a little right now.

​@@ladidaohoh3168"Exactly as it was intended to be." Exactly correct!👍👍👍

You beat me to it.

Presuming that got dropped by her beautician too.😅

Most women do not look good with a rouge, softer colors work much better for 95% of them, but somebody keeps telling them they look like baddies or something.

I'm 38 and I thought she was closer to 48

even with makeup wouldn't smash

@@Hawtload and still has zero self reflection... sick broad

Imagine waking up next to this angry ‘38 year old’ every day. Oof. You’d be in trouble constantly.

I don’t know what the first point is about? I’m 22 and people think I’m 25-26 all the time

I was about to say, she needs to fire the therapist not the match maker.

Therapy is garbage.

That's why therapy is useless. Women only use it as a venting session, not what it's intended to be used for.

Yes, I have seen this a lot. @@stb-pk1fs

@@stb-pk1fs Therapy can be quite useful to help people through the hills and valleys of life. This woman however is the sheer rock face side of a mountain with the mountain goats laughing at you. Therapists can only help those who want to be helped. I pity the therapist.

"You just need to find a better way to channel your personality traits to your advantage" 👏👏👏 THIS.

Unfortunately, given how presumably she was pretty good looking earlier in life, no one would have kept her in check and reminded her that selection is not a one-way street but that she needs traits that would cause men to choose her too

People? Women

Ah yes, the Husband Store analogy.

He got it right using the term "people". Some MEN as well as some WOMEN are this INSUFFERABLE.@@ShaunHensley

A lot of women.

🥹🤍 so glad to hear it. Thanks for the kind comment!

@@CourtneyRyan Oh, you sweet summer child. Let me quote you: "if a matchmaker turned me and my thousands of dollars I was ready to pay her down, that would be the biggest wake up call in the world for me!" You have too much common sense, intelligence and self awareness compared to that 38 yo woman. She might realize this later in her life, but odds are, she won't. Loved this vid, and I see how this makes you upset! And a great Thank You for emphasizing, these are the exceptions, not the norm.

@@Sekir80 yeah and I also think a matchmaker is actually a good thing… Especially for women in their mid 20s that are actually serious about getting married, but you have to be prepared to be a wife… And I was watching a video by Kevin Samuels vid the other day and he explained it perfectly well.

Yea she helped me also that's why I watch her alot. Made me realize alot about myself as a man

Eloquently put, Pete.

I am sorry for your loss (my hubby and I are 25+ years) and absolutely horrified that you have to hit the dating scene at 50+ years. That is literally nightmare fuel and I wish you Godspeed my friend!

Yes the only guys she could possibly attract would be the "door mat" types, but we know how she feels about them

100% accurate. I was just saying to my mother the other day how insufferable and awful young women are today. Aggressively dominant and rude.

There are no “high value” men. Just men with higher paying jobs. The modern “high value man” is a man just as likely to have zero sexual restraint as any “regular” or “substandard” man. All men want the same thing in a “wife”. Which is they don’t actually want a wife, they just want a housemaid with benefits.

They have their own PREFERENCES, too.

Yeah but it's normal to be offended by that also she's a pretty woman who's very highly successful I understand she isn't the type to be easily abused by a man which is what a lot of men want

@@steph678 lol

​@@steph678Only in fmnists fantasy. Btw, isn't she the one that said she'd step on a beta type man? Which one is it? Does she want a dominant man or a passive man? You want a dominant man, then turn around and call him abusive when he takes the lead or asserts himself. Btw, I happen to have relatives of my family who will not listen to me unless I become agressive physically, or start yelling. I hate dealing with them, because they cannot be talked to, they have to be coerced. Then they turn around and act like a victim.

Thank you for sharing this. Wonderful comment!

Thank you for sharing this. I have anger problems, and every time I call my elder at church angry, his first question is always “What is the most gracious interpretation of these actions.” Not co-signing my BS is the best thing other men have done for me. On another note, the best therapist I ever had was a gorgeous young woman who terrified me. I’ve had stuff happen that has left me scared of women. Aimee somehow managed to coax me out of my hiding place; now that I’m out, I’m never going back. I’m grateful for her.

This is a truly constructive comment. The point about anger and depression because they know they need to change really reminds me of family members. They were so arrogant with their very strong ways when they were younger, but as they got older and didn't change, it really hit them in the face that people do not like them. Sad, but as you say - they made their own bed.

@@SurpriseMeJT my father is this way. I disagreed with him a few months ago and he got nasty with me and made it explicit that he doesn’t care that he and I have almost no relationship of any kind. That’s pretty much been the message my entire life, and now every time I go in the house, he refuses to even acknowledge my existence. I admit that my disagreement was that the “authority” argument is an indicator of a poor argument and that I had presented facts that he was unable to refute. I have had to make the choice to serve my father while maintaining healthy boundaries. In my therapy and talking with good friends, I have begun to feel sad for my father. I think it is universally true that at our cores, every man is a scared boy who needs a hug. What makes me sad for my father is that he can’t see how freeing it is to admit it. He works so hard to stay angry that it’s impressive. I can speak directly to him and he won’t even look at me, but will respond when my mother speaks. I can’t say it feels good, but hearing him tell me he didn’t care gave me the closure I needed to serve him well. As insane as it sounds, I’m glad he did it.

A​@@SurpriseMeJT

Rhymes with punt.

Type A = pain in the a$$

Type A = Tyle A$$hole 😂

😂😂was the witch really necessary?

Heavily cosmeticated.

There are plenty of A type personalities that are married and stay married.

@@KristaAndersonPhilipps Is it because they're Alpha in one area but cede some ground in others? Usually there has to be some accommodation.

@@Selvarin It's because they both bring strong points to the relationship that the other lacks. Nobody is always in charge of everything.

❤

I'd bet this woman does NOT see qualities like humility (or being humble), wisdom and compassion as ways that a "Type A" woman like her would ever have. Her loss!

But calling themselves bold and strong willed...

Sad. But they learn from the hot boys all thrir lives. And then ... And now you have to deal with all that mess. "I call myself" a MGTOW for at least 10-15 years. I dont talk or help women I dont know. I would offer help to a guy 90% of the time. Today I stopped to help a guy, but I would never stops for a Woman. I am sorry. Call 911.

What a weak “man”

Totally agree

This is what happens when you tell a generation that they are "fine the way they are"

Watching too many KDramas I assume. We love those types of guys, CEO's of huge companies by 25 and super cold until they meet the right woman... but, it is also fiction, written by women for women. That being said, I have also met men who essentially want a girl that looks like an anime character, cute, innocent and caring during the day, and a porn star in the sheets. Same logic applies.

The woman has never met a Type A venture capitalist. Those guys pump and dump women all the time while having a trophy wife at home that likely signed a pre nup to put up with him

Has she also spent 10 years in therapy that obviously isn't working?

These guys do exist, though not as boyfriends or husbands. A weird kink among some executive types is to be into being dominated or puppy/baby play. They pay professionals for that and go home to their normal wives and girlfriends.

@@thirstwithoutborders995 I totally agree with you, the problem is it’s way easier to fake being a cute anime girl then it is to fake being a 25 year old male CEO. Lol I’ve dated a few “anime girls”, all just as broke as I was, but never really an anime girl. I’ve never met a 25 year old handsome male ceo 😂😊

That's what social media do to your brain, it makes it delusional. Especially if you are a woman.

In order for a marrage to survive, there needs to be 100% love or 100% commitment to each other. You have both. Well done and congratulations to you both.

Unfortunately men only care about looks. And definitely can’t be 20 pounds overweight

Loosing weight is easier than gaining height.

@@sundown6748 black dudes love fat girls.

"fun to be around" is extremely subjective.

Maybe a mature man. Or that's what they say they want. But too many men looove a second mommy. Nagging, nice on the outside but very controlling, treating him like a child. Actually these were the first women to marry from both my school and college classes.

I don't get why she would falsely mention 10 years of therapy because it's not something a date would want to hear really. Of course for some people it might be beneficial but a third person that meets them can probably see in a fairly short time whether that therapy worked. It appears that she wasted a ton of money on therapy.

Or some high-profile, low-skill therapist with few appointments milks her out by enabling her shittiness. By probably recognizing she's a lost case and best used as a wallet. Sorry.

Clearly all selling points for any guy lol

I've heard that there are therapists that are more trying to set up a life service than actually trying to help their clients

@@laverdadbuscadorunlikely to be lying. More likely she just shopped around until she found on that would flatter her ego and she has simply paid for a sympathetic ear and lovely platitudes for ten years.

Very true. Plus, if this harpy was, really, a Type A, she'd have realised this point herself. I'm assuming she has some kind of business job. The fact she hasn't and continues to blame the matchmaker means one of two things: 1) She's not a Type A at all, just some broad with a fat mouth; or 2) She is a Type A but her ego won't let her admit there's something wrong with her. Instead, it's far easier to blame someone else - the matchmaker. I'm not sure which is worse.......probably the second option.

I think the matchmaker is protecting her male clients. She wants women who will be attractive to her male clients. This lady would damage her brand.

Yes!!! The body says : do not ever think of disagreeing with me because I am always right ( even if I am not ) and… she has such an aggressive energy .. wow

I find it really weird the trend of talking to the camera while applying makeup.

Should she add music?

@@boot2themoonThe Imperial March: Star Wars

@@howardkip99sameeeeeee It annoys the hell out of me 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

She looked younger before all the badly applied and wrong makeup. The false eyelashes definitely didn't help her hard look either. Too many women cake it on, w/ all the fake this and that, until they look like old school trannies now. It's an odd trend.

agree, it's the whole notion of "growing together."

I mean, I’m a man, but I think this is too much of an absolute take on this. Yes it has been WAY too commonly thrown around recently and distorted beyond recognition. The “worst” the quote initially refers to is something like “when I am going through a bereavement and/or have a breakdown”, not what it is mostly used for now, which is “I’m not going to commit/I’m going to gaslight/I’m going to be abrasive and rude deliberately”. I agree with the original quote - my wife and I have both recently lost a grandparent and been through the emotional wringer. In both cases we were both emotional all over the place. Unable to think straight, emotionally volatile, the slightest thing upset us because we were emotional. THAT is what the “at my worst” actually refers to, thinks like that, and I agree with it. How it is used TODAY to excuse blatantly toxic behaviours? That’s not “at your worst”, that’s you being a terrible person, and it’s a whole different thing.

The therapist probably just gave up and reinforces her while collecting their fee.

A narcissist will never be humble. It's always someone else's fault.

it was the 'therapists' fault.

I thought so too. It wouldn’t surprise me if she fired any therapist who dared point out the areas she needed to work on

She probably chewed them up and spit them out. She seemed pretty confident in saying that like it's happened before.

What makes you think she wanted to get married at 28. She's obviously more of a career person. Are you married, then?

@@neutrino78x I am engaged and it's not possible for most modern women to be a CEO of their own 6 figure producing business and still marry at below 28 in the West. You can't have a high flying career and be a wife at the same time when you're young, unless you're someone who grinded it early through like Jeff Bezos' relationship which is rare.

@@searklarak "it's not possible for most modern women to be a CEO of their own 6 figure producing business and still marry" Maybe not in red states. "You can't have a high flying career and be a wife at the same time when you're young, " Why does it have to be when you're young? People tend to get married and have kids later in life these days than in the past.

People? Women.

Could you tell us more about what your uncle said? And what happened since, did you work on yourself and find a good relationship? Sounds like you are self aware and open to change

You absolutely have not seen men like that and I'm tired of this "both sides" garbage. Women are the problem. Period.

@@IrishOister He basically called me the biggest laziest loser he's ever had the displeasure of knowing (paraphrasing of course). I was overweight, jobless, had no ambition, and only ever complained rather than getting off my ass to make a change. He basically asked me: "Why would a woman pick you over all the other guys who have a job, are in shape, and are going somewhere in life?" My only response was 'because I could treat them well'. He fired back with 'so can those guys'. It was the wake up call I needed. I went out, got a job, and worked on my social skills. Funny thing is my uncle would apologize to me years later because the crown of biggest laziest loser he's ever known went to his brother-in-law, who is far worse (yet far skinner) than I ever was.

​@@IrishOistergood question

@@IrishOistervery good question, I’m interested too 😅

I got out of a relationship with a bpd with addiction almost 2 years ago. I started hating myself and my business was circling the drain. I was financially responsible for everything. I’ve been healing this whole time and now am ready for a real partnership. It took this long due to fear of attracting another partner with cluster B disorder.

@@shaynaleeI feel you. I've been involved with [diagnosed] BPD people as well. If you haven't read the book __Stop Walking on Eggshells__ by Mason and Kreger, it's one of the most recommended books on healing from BPD abuse. There's some overlap with narcissism as well.

@@dudeh9702 Thank you. Several people have recommended it to me. I’ve read one about loving a man with borderline. I noticed some narc traits too and quite honestly relationships shouldn’t be so difficult.

Did she flash you an amber warning?😂

No, not really. Not everyone is worthy of love, some people need to hear the harsh truth.

Yes this world need more power couples who can balance. Its also good for children as they see gender equality in their own family

Thank you… people in the comments are bashing her for being type A, as if it’s an inherently bad quality, when it’s not. It’s actually a good quality. It’s the woman’s attitude that can use some improving.

Didn't want to put a square peg in a round hole

Don't get a degree simply to satisfy someone else's insecurity. Your skills and attitude are all you need to find a worthy person. Don't play their game.

@@burmy1552​​⁠I agree. I managed to marry a woman with a degree in science, with IQ of 155(mine is 145) and 8cm taller than me. She never made any of it into a thing.

Congrats!@@BorisMiljkovic

@@burmy1552 thank you

University degrees aren’t worth the paper they are written on in many cases.

bruh xD

that shit is funny....

😂😅

Yep I’m 28 maybe in 4 years the 22-24 year olds will be in a better spot but for a committed relationship today good lord there’s so few options

@@reanschwarzer2187 42, never dated, never found someone who wouldn't destroy me.

Same

this is why men want younger women, they can change, grow, develop, and stay flexible, older women rarely have this ability, age hardens them and they won't change

I think this is an issue for both men and women. I know that at 33, my life is a lot more complete than it was ten years ago. That means there's more to juggle when trying to figure out if me and someone I'm dating can really fit into each other's lives (assuming that she's at roughly the same point in life as I am)...

Or, said another way, 50+ women know exactly what they want and need and who they are so that they are unwilling to bend to what others want from them to avoid being used for someone else's wants and needs. Maybe you should think more in terms of how to change yourself to please what she wants and needs for a change. Or accept that you must stand on your own two feet to live happily just for yourself.

@@virginiamoss7045 Typical female delusion. Since women at that age already have lost much of their value for men in a relationship. The two most important reasons for grown up men to even be interested in a certain woman are the ability to have children and bed fun. The first one is a lost cause at that age, actually it's more likely that a man has to be willing to deal with her children - but why should he? In one way or the other he will have to spend time and money on them, and he will always be the last in line, everyone else will be more important. Regarding the second point: most women overestimate how good they are in bed. Men are just easy to satisfy and many men are happy to even get some at all. And that gives women a false impression. Older women sometimes are also more shy because they are aware (even tough they wouldn't admit it) that their physical beauty has faded. And those who love bed fun are often either slutty or too aggressive in bed - which can be fun, but only for a short time. Also it's not uncommon that women will try to use bed fun to impose their will onto their man - which will either lead to conflict or emasculation - which then leads to loss of respect for that man (ie. failed relationships). If a woman at that age is single, and it's not because the man has passed away, then it's for a reason. And it's unlikely that she will ever change for the better.

Not really. Sometimes you hear right away from the sound of the engine that there’s something wrong with the car and it’s not safe to drive it - I admit, kinda brutal metaphor 😅