Sorry for all the comments, but yeah vlogmas has also made me feel weird. I also feel the fomo of not participating, but my mental health could not handle it rn.
I don’t get along with my sibling. He’s favoured by my parents. So I’m the daughter that is not important in their eyes. Holidays are when my family gets in the most arguments since I was a child so holidays don’t make me happy anymore. Too much trauma. Thank you for this video. It makes me feel less alone.
I’ve been feeling the same, I even considered getting a dog to help with feeling lonely. Something else that helps me is the quote “if you want to find happiness , find gratitude.”
I think it’s great that you’re opening up the conversation in ref to Christmas 🎄 blues. It’s true- many feel lonely , blues during holidays & it’s not openly discussed. It’s healthier to express these feelings - rather than suppress these feelings .
Iam feeling lonely for sure. It's been a struggle trying to find anyone to talk to that won't leave etc . Thanks for this video .I like your background. It's nice to hear others talk about there feelings and sharing there not okay and talk about there loneliness together.
Thanks for this video Zoe. It's a very refreshing change from the commonly uploaded pampered vlog and life reflection videos. Tbh, most people probably feel the way you do, even with friends and a relationship. People can be very lonely even with friends and a relationship, as their connections can be often be quite hollow. What people display via social media is very, very rarely reflective of the reality, even if that is hard to remember when comparing oneself to others. Your rawness and honesty is highly refreshing and should be praised. I highly respect it, and it takes much courage. I wish you a happy holidays and New Year!
The pandemic has changed things & forcing people to adjust. We’re between filling ourselves with distractions and wanting to go deep & feeling cut off. I usually love 🎄 but this year it was scary. It makes sense not to feel jolly because people are dying, people have lost jobs, people are going to be evicted from their homes! You’re emotionally intelligent and perhaps unconsciously empathetic towards what’s going on around. Thank you for expressing what so many of us feel! We got this 💕... maybe that’s really the Xmas spirit... connection 🎄warmth...☕️ understanding 🍩. So glad you made this video! 🍻
Loved that you were able to open up about the struggles of having divorced parents and the challenges that come with that around the holidays. Your content is relatable! I hope you have a lovely holiday season 🥰
Zoe, thank you so much for sharing. I came across your page on RU-vid browsing through videos about feeling lost at my 1st/last consulting job because I was working 80 hour week without a life and hated it. No one at my work or in my life that I know who also worked at consulting complained about it so it felt very lonely thinking I was the only one. I’ve seen all of your videos since and appreciate how raw you’ve been. Thank you thank you for showing and talking about REAL life. Stay strong and keep pushing!
I completely understand! This time of year I always miss my grandpa the most 😇 and this specific chrismas I feel guilty... Because of so many people sufering that lost a job or a loved one... I live in a third world country and the pandemic has been devastating! Thank God I have a great job and my family is healthy but I still feel sad and guilty when I see everyone else. Thank you for keeping it real!!!! ❤️❤️❤️ I love that
Thank you for this video! It’s been tough not seeing anyone and haven’t been able to spend time with my parents. Comparison is really the thief of joy, it really makes you lose sight of what you have. It’s better to just stay in your lane and focus on what you’re doing, if you have to unfollow people that make you feel bad about yourself then do so. Hang in there! Thanks for opening up these sensitive topics, not a lot of people in this space do that and authenticity is really comforting right now.
Thanks so much for sharing this. As I'm getting older and a lot of peers are getting married and having kids, this year going home for me was tough because I was constantly thinking of how I wish I was starting my own family to make new memories with - and here I am still single. One day! I generally love this time of year and seeing my parents and siblings but was having a tough time this year too.
Thank you for being so real as usual! It feels weird celebrating Christmas during such a grim time for the world. My boyfriend and I have been doing long distance for a year now and Covid has made it 10x harder. Trying to stay positive this year has been a full time job!
I don’t have a single RU-vidr I follow that does vlogmas. Everyone I follow is like over vlogmas especially this year. Thanks for the honesty, this is why I follow you and not them.
omg i love this video so much because i’ve been feeling the exact same way about the holidays this year . i’m so happy someone is actually talking about the struggles of the holidays and not acting like everything is perfect
You’re spot on in this video & you’re such a gem with a big heart. That’s a lot more valuable than anything other people may own that’s bigger or better than yours. As long as you’re healthy, and try your best to be happy, that’s really all that matters. Look I’ve been on a downer since November because I am recovering from knee surgery and still can’t walk. I’ve been basically in my bed every day and I’m single so I’m at an all time lonely right now especially this time of year. But I learned that at this very moment that’s just the reality and I have to accept it. It will get better.
I live alone and feel the same way. It's been a huge challenge. My family and friends live in different cities so this year has been hard to get through. I'm already planning how to spend Christmas day alone that's going to be full of things that bring me joy like a simple workout, chocolate chip cookies, Christmas movies, calling my family, whatever I need to do so I don't go too crazy from the loneliness.
Hey! Don’t feel bad. You seem like a beautiful young lady and and have a lot to look forward too :) no matter where you are at in life we can all feel Lonely just search inside of yourself to let go....I have kids a wife etc etc and struggle with this this as well.... I realized that i can’t make everyone happy until I am happy I am making a point of living closest to then things that bring me the most joy, music performance, my spirituality, my wife and kids and my exercise and diet routines. Also staying away from anything negative including the media and negative people. The biggest thing that made the difference is defining my core values and NOT straying from them.
at this point of the year, I don’t feel anything. I feel like I got used to it and I am not sad or bothered anymore. I am going with the flow and hopefully a light comes at the end of this long long tunnel.
I can always count on you to feel identified. Something about hearing other people talk about something I’m going through makes me feel less alone. Thanks :)
Well it's nice to see that it truly is a feeling everyone goes through when we don't even know it. But you're a woman and woman tend to have someone sooner than most men. However, everything happens on it's own time. All we can remember is to have comfort and peace. Know that God is always carrying you even if you don't speak to him (or even not believe)🌟. So we all are covered and all we can do is pray for our self- control.
First I love you sweater! And thank you for making this video. I lost my mother and grandmother two years ago. The holidays still make me sad and it doesn't feel the same. Plus add the pandemic on top of that And not being able to see family or friends
I resonate with a lot of the feelings you're experiencing. For me, I find myself comparing my life to others that I follow on social media so I made the decision to unfollow almost everyone that was not actively in my life and it's helped a lot
I totally feel the same way ! I'm lucky I'm able to go see my family during week-end, but (first world problem) the coast of it ruines all my financial plans for this year 😕 I am so busy that I didn't even have time to buy my family presents (I still have 2 days though). But I am also not in the mood for Christmas. I can't even realize it's this time of the year ! Thanks for you videos : they truly encourage me to know that I am not alone feeling this way ! ❤️
Thank you zoe for talking about your true feelings. It is totally resonate with me, especially the family part. It is hard, and to make it worse, no one really address these facts. Thanks you again for sharing and let me know i am not alone ❤️ Merry Xmas and Happy new year to you
TY 4 KEEPING IT REAAAL you put so much of how i've been feeling into the right words💖i constantly go back & forth between trying to ground myself in gratitude & feeling down on myself lately. but this made me feel a lot less alone in that loneliness HAHA✨you're amazing!
I’ve been feeling guilty for working when I should be spending the time with my family. Also Seeing what everyone is getting up to on social media is hard when it seems like they have perfect families, friends etc. overall I feel okay though :) thanks for sharing this video it calms me down and helps with bringing social media back to reality :)
Hang in there. I always got down around the holidays for no reason. This year is is especially hard lost my wife of 8 years to cancer. Will push through and live through all the good memories. Wish it wasn't Covid either hard to grab coffee with friends just outside of NYC.
I also live alone, work from home, work long hours and am an only child of divorced parents. I didn't want to decorate or put up a tree either, just like you, wanted to hurry up and get the holidays over with and get out of 2020- it's been so rough😞. I get winter blues anyway but this year is different level and its ok to feel how you do. It wasn't until I turned on some UPBEAT holiday tunes and decorated a little that I started to feel a little better tho. So maybe, hang a wreath or sting some lights and possibly that will help you too. Either way sending you loads of love and company, from one lonely girl to another😌💗!
Holy shit whyd i just cry being so relatable to this🥲 sending you love and warm hug! I’m moving to montreal soon and I’ve been watching your RU-vid channel the past 2 months ❤️
I think you feel like something's wrong because there totally IS something wrong! It's a pandemic! I feel like I always forget this and convince myself things are normal so why do I feel so bad, but even though you have all those amazing things (friends, family, job, etc.), we're living in crazy times where you can't enjoy any of them. There's nothing wrong with you. You're reacting normally to a wilddd situation. Don't feel crazy. You're so not. We're all there with ya.
Thanks for not making me think that I was only one who felt like that about holidays and couple things like Valentine's day I have been single for what felt like years I am genuinely feeling frustrated about it sometimes I think it's me but I do have high functioning autism so it's hard with other metabolic health problems as well like they say everybody finds love idk I feel like it's hard to believe
7:54 I’m American and feel the same way when I see other americans on youtube, or peers on IG going out and hanging out as if the pandemic isn’t rampant here. While I know staying home is the responsible thing to do, I definitely also get FOMO. But I remind myself that just because some restaurants and clubs are open, it does not mean the activity is safe yet (imo our country tends to prioritize economy over its people). I would 100% rather watch your vlogs in your apartment over vlogs of people going out. It’s more realistic, and so many of us are in the same boat. In fact, these types of vlogs have been keeping me grounded. I’ve found new fav youtubers from other countries, vloggers who live off-grid, or just interesting ppl who live alone. It really puts things in perspective, as there are countless and more fulfilling ways to spend our time than shopping and eating out. If loneliness is too much to bear, maybe consider creating a bubble with a friend (esp if they also live alone). Chin up! Let go of the expectations you put on yourself and the creativity will follow 💖
It doesn’t feel like the Holidays. I’m not going to see my family this year: they live in the US. I am sad but also relieved because the idea of traveling during the pandemic made me nervous. Thankfully I live with my boyfriend and my cats 🐱. To be honest I haven’t felt really good for a couple months, but I’m making the most of the situation. Edit: someone close to me has been sick in the hospital since October, so it’s been really rough. I think I’ve been really close to a burnout for a while. I made a video about self care during the holidays because it’s so important. Sorry I keep on adding to this comment, but I’m the oldest sibling as well, and I feel a lot of pressure to please too. Also I used to be a « goody two shoes » and agree with everybody but now I’m more confrontational and my parents don’t always know how to deal with. My parents are not separated, but they have a complicated relationship, they also don’t live together at the moment: my dad lives in California for work. So it’s a lot of stress. I also have three younger siblings and while we love each other and usually get along, we do fight sometimes. Thank you for making this video ❤️
Hi Zoe, I can understand your feelings totally! It seems that a lot of insecurity, comparison and the bad vibes you are feeling are stemming from your time on Instagram or social media generally. Would you consider reducing or limiting your time spent on your Instagram account? I had comparison issues and shopping addictions before, I have unfollowed a lot of accounts that triggered me and limited my time on Instagram and it has been helping me so much. I hope you are happy and healthy both mentally and physically. I wish you all the best and happy holidays ❤️❤️
we are in Tier 4 since last now, in London UK. We cant do anything pretty much ! :/ I have travelled the world and lived in several countries and spent xmas day by myself a few times, so I don't mind. But I believe in "lets be alone together" ;) XXX sending hugs x
I’m sad for you feeling blue. Sending you 🤗 hugs. People with their joy videos, how annoying. Stop helping their algorithms (at least until January?) I’m happy to be off of work for 2 weeks! Otherwise, the pandemic means lock down and no gathering. Pretty depressing. Maybe 2021 will be fabulous?!?!?!?😌
@@ZoePritchard - yessss, but you’re living in your own castle, and they don’t live with you....sooooo you could have a kitty. A kitty is better than a boyfriend! 😺😉
I think you have a problem with social media, because it seems like everything you see on there you think is real and want to imitate it. I get that you want to be a part of something, that feeling of belonging and such. But social media is full of fake things, in all those vlogmas,instagram etc.. Do you really think people is so much happy all the time and the rest of it? It's just a video, they put the best mood to do it or sometimes even fake it to look like they are great and if it's a genuine video props to them, but certainly it's not the mayority of people. So don't fall into that false expectations trap, same with people getting expensive gifts cause probably if they actually can pay it they are like the 20% of population, and if they can't they get into debt just to buy things they don't need to look like they are well enough financially, which is stupid in my opinion. You should know that debt is the worst thing ever and you don't want to be in that position just to please someone else or act like you are in a better position that you are currently in. Just be happy with what you have, because if you compare yourself all the time with people you see on the internet you'll never be happy and pleased. There is always someone better, it doesn't matter if it's financially, physically or intellectually. You have your own life, maybe it's not perfect but you can always improve and for that you need to compare to the person you were yesterday, not some random people on the internet. Happy holidays Zoe, stop overthinking stuff and enjoy life :)
So you went to MTL to party and get bum bum now you're lonely. Well, that's to be expected. One thing is for sure - once treatments come out for C19 it's going to be like the roaring 20's all over again.... lots of babies on the way
