Single moms you need to hear this || STEVE HARVEY 

Video hasn’t even fully came on and I’m tearing up. I’m a 21 year old single mom with two girls and this shit is really hard. On top of that trying to be a human, be a happy mom, and have a separate life and continue on with the pain of not being with their dad. It’s a lot. To all my other single moms, just know it’ll be better and easier one day… Love y’all. ❤️‍🩹

Yes,. I'm a single mom and he is right. Single moms must expose their sons to positive activities where they can socialize with responsible men too. There are things boys go through and questions they have that only a man can understand and answer because they can relate.

I had put my son in boxing as a young kid bc as a mom I needed him to learn how to defend himself, discipline, and surround himself around motivated men .

My DAD made me go to church and taught me that hard work pays off. He also taught me respect and honesty. I will forever love my DAD .

Spent 7 years with my significant other only to become single before the baby even born. It’s hard because I tried by best all my adult life to avoid this and walked straight into it either way. It hurts because my pregnancy was so physically tough as I was hospitalized numerous times, gave birth alone, doing everything alone. I still love him but he prefers the bars and clubs and young girls. Doing this alone while being heart broken is not easy! I break down so much during the day.

I am not a single mother but boy i need this raising boys is not easy even with a good husband

Seek God in everything. Thank you heavenly Father for guiding me to raise my children.

There is no book that can replace a father. I can't imagine growing up without my dad. He encouraged me all the time and I SAW his masculinity at work that brought our SUCCESS.

there's no such thing as raising a perfect child , nobody's perfect

It's not just a black thing, in some races/ cultures women are taught to stay and turn a blind eye to bad signs in a man who they have children with and/ or are married to.

I love his energy. I want to do something like this for girls.

I love my DAD so much thanks for all that you did for me. All the encouragement and guidance to keep me on a successful path. I will always love you!!!!!

Im a single mom to a 5 yr old son and let me tell youuuuuu...its definitely tuff

this is so true. being a single mother is tough, and i never chose this path. sometimes the mistakes that we end up having to deal with makes us stronger. i want a better husband for my son, and my son biological father just isn't what i thought he was

😭struggles with my teenagers led me here! Prayers for all the single parents and all the kids that think they know… and have no idea 🙏🏽

Mothers baby their sons and be tough on their daughters and make them responsible..

Dads need 2 hear it 2 im over the single mom bash

Shout out to the single Mothers that are able to raise their son's. Many Mother abort or give their child up for adoption, system, or another person because they do not have the help or support after the father leave or die. Being a single Mother is difficult, so if you have custody of your son and doing YOUR BEST to raise them to be productive citizens of society!! Pat yourself on the back....I salute you!!!

My DAD was a ARMY veteran now I am as well. Thanks DAD I love you!!

I am a 50 yr old mother of 2 men.. I have to learn to be supportive of these men.. I didn't get that support as a child.. but I know that I can do this.. Lord help us..

He a fine older man

It takes a village to raise children.

When I was small and got over a cold my dad would cook my favorite meal for me. Fried chicken french fries and yellow cake with chocolate frosting. Thanks DAD.I love you!!!

When I small and caught cold and a headache my DAD gave me cough syrup and headache medicine until I got better. Thanks DAD. I love you!!

Putting boys in sports is one of the best things any parent can do for their child!

Comments here are toxic. Everybody who is not a single parent and who never got lied and manipulated by somebody doesn't have a right to judge.

A lot of comments on here bashing single moms. My sister is a single mom to one child. She was in a serious relationship, engaged to him. They were together for 3 yrs. Both worked hard, she worked up to 1 week before delivering the baby, doing 12 hr shifts. Only to find out that her man had been hiding a drug problem the whole time. Now, my sister was quite sheltered and naive and figured his mood swings were due to his job, her long hours away from home. Some of us wondered, but didn't say anything cause we didn't know for sure. To shorten the story a bit, she ended up leaving him with baby in tow. He doesn't see his daughter because all his money and focus is on drugs. My sister did try to help him and waited 2 yrs for him as she really loved him. She always welcomed him to visit their child as long as he wasn't high when he came over. He promised that poor kid for 3yrs every weekend and wouldn't show. I felt bad for my niece as it broke her heart everytime. I agree that children need a father, but in this case, my nieces father would have done more damage living with them as a drug addict. I don't see my sister as damaged goods. I see her as a hard working person and loving mom. She has never taken a hand out from the government and also manages to help look after our grandma. Any guy would be lucky to have her. My girlfriend and I have tried to set her up with friends, but she is happy living the way she does.

A strong man making a difference. I love to see that and when I do, I always try to encourage those. A lot of times, those who uplift need to be uplifted. They pour out so much, they need to be refilled!

he spoke the truth, I wish I had him in my life before my son got five years ( and he's still locked up) and NO I couldn't do it by myself, I wish I had help or the strength within to be a better disciplinarian

I will be purchasing his book soon because its never to late my son is 5 and I have a 7 year old daughter it's only so much a single parent can do within this lifetime but it's worth it 🙌🏾💕💕

Brillant man- Wonderful to see his Dedication!!

All single mothers deserve the best at what they do, it is hard!

Gosh its wonderful he wrote this book. My kids are 21,19, and 15. I made so many mistakes that lead to my kids believing I am just one of the kids. Its hard to rule the roost when your baby rosters think you are one of the chicks. I just do not have men in our lives to mentor my two sons. I feel so bad about that. Now its too late.

What about the fathers? Men empowering mothers to raise son’s. Sad!

Great job Steve Harvey for playing clip .!'

I’ve gotten manipulated by mom and it’s frustrating and it’s affecting me trying to hold a job down. I’ve made some poor decisions, bad vehicle accident that almost destroyed my career. I never had a male figure in my life, having to learn things on my own is extremely difficult. My mother, sister and late grandma made fun of me about my life and wanted to mentally damage me, humiliate me. It’s super frustrating and I didn’t see the signs of the toxic behavior til now and now I wish I would’ve had a male figure back then to show me things.

The Power of Understanding.!! Give me more of you Lord, More Grace an Mercy, A New an Fresh Anointing..Grateful is Our Faithfulness. My eyes to see more Glory, Your Glory.you've .raised me up,order my steps.For you are a just an fair God.the finisher of my faith.My strenght, an desire. My all , purpose to live a life of righteousness. I honor, Praise an Glorify you in Jesus Name.

Damn I wish I had this book 7yrs ago.😥

Steve what you doing down there with those young men is terrific. GOD BLESS YOU MORE.

My son has his father but his father is a weak man. My baby is 1 1/2 yrs old but i attend to raise him strong like my grandfather.

Sounds bit bad I think being single awesome 😍 love it alhamdulillah I love everything about it I loveeee my son too everything is great alhamdulillah alhamdulillah But I disagree don't bully ur children they are children not dog 😐 treat them with love kindness and lots patients put urself in there place u choice to have them they didn't force u

Amen, we cannot do it alone, I joined my motorcycle club to get my son that quality time, the club has a mixture of the good, the bad and the ugly, the guys did for me what I couldn't do... he is cool and a lot of single parents admire our relationship.. I thank God every day for my son, I learned to ride, now he's going for his drivers permit, next we will be learning to dive together

Excellent!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Need to go to the ROOT of the PROBLEM: SINGLE FATHERS 101: Men- How To Participate in Your Children's Lives to Help Guide Their Futures. (They need a father's participation NOT just a book for the mothers alone.) Many women are tired of trying to be both mother and father. Men are intelligent also: How about Single Parents 101: (Male and Female/Baby Daddy's and Mamma's) WORKING TOGETHER FOR the Sake of THEIR CHILDREN. PLEASE STOP PUTTING HEAVY LOADS ON BLACK SINGLE MOTHERS alone. (Then one wonders why some of them become angry so often. They are tired and stressed out). They didn't make these babies by themselves. Please teach our young men to MAN UP and learn responsibilities which build positive character for their lifetimes.

Let’s talk a bit of men being barred from seeing their kids because vengeful exes wanting to get back at him

I'm a single mom with a 3 year old who fights me on everything. I've tried so much, it's so hard. He pushes me to the Max.

Thank you.

This man is doing great cause even with both parents in the home the kids or boy is still lacking...KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK MAN🤩🤩🤩🙌👏👏

Must read this book asap amazing...

Working single mother of 3 sons 20, 11 and 6 yrs of ages.. Im trying to raised the right, ive been on my spiritual journey bettering my self so that i can do better by my children ... I realised they need my time, sit and talk with them,how was school ?,what did you learn? ,which kids at beside you in class?., 1 hr a evening home work ,sit with them ,learn what they are learning, tell them i love them before bed .. i wake up half hr early before the kids wake, so that i can get up calm and relaxed and not rushed ,because its always drama once the kids have woken...i work night shift ,i am extremely tired in the morning after work,i still have to get home ,get kids ready for school ,two different school drop off ...i found myself taking my fustration out on the kids ,being snappy ,i have rid of that habit I think it really starts with the little things

props to the single mothers who are able to see that they need help understanding how to raise men, and take the action to help there kid succeed in life

Wow! Really respect what he is saying and doing also handsome

Single mothers that do their best and work hard no matter how many kids deserves respect above all in this world it is truly the hardest spot to be in life, the dating pool is narrow, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, and raising a young man, no leading father role, truly not easy. But me being a son of a single mom I truly can honor her for doing her best, and work harder so she doesnt have to struggle anymore, sons raised to be real men will always look after their mother's above all women.

Bless him

SELF DETERMINATION IS THE ONLY TRUE SOLUTION...

Some songle moms never learn too. I know some women who has victim mindset but keeps on choosing the wrong guy and ended up having a child with them and leaving them

I wish I would have had this growing up. Ya got some mother's that would rather see their son's turn into women than to see their son's grow up to be men. Some women(not all) do this in order to control their son's and show some sort of dominance. A mother cannot raise her son to be a complete man and plus many women who would date a man raised by his mother would take advantage of him. Its a horrible and vicious cycle of vulnerability for a son to be raised by his mother. With that being said these youth mentorship programs are a must within the black community in order for the young men to be raised with a masculine touch and not to be taken advantage of. Some mom's want their sons to submit to female dominance an not have any backbone which i feel as though is some type of revenge against the father.

This is awesome!

Waoh, that's wonderful!

Keep up this great work......God bless you

Men need to start taking care o their kids and women need to start choosing men who actually want to become fathers.

Beautiful!!!!

hello steve am a kenyan and i love you what doing on single parenting am a single but pregnant a after a relationship going sour but am scared for its a boy like how is this done

I see a comment on here that says we need to be with men who want to be fathers.... That's ridiculous being a single mom ain't a choice it's a job... We have to do it.. Words are wind a man can say all sorts of shit n we know it

This is great. Keep up the great work for helping these mothers raise good men for the next generation 👏

My DAD bought us a nice home and cars. He barbecued and bought me bicycles evey Christmas . I love you DAD.

Amen

That is great job for our black kids

Nice looking brother 💯💜

I need this book.

There are alot of dads who smoke week and good off that their kids need to hear this

Being a single mom is hard but when God is there and you remember that a child can be broken more by having a useless father...YOU GET STRENGTH TO CARRY ON MAMA❤❤❤

I am a single mom raising a three year old toddler yes I have my ups and down but I'm not going to blame myself because I slept with his dad and he left me when I was pregnant with his son and been in and out of his life going on for years now but I'm truly am blessed to have my son and I'm going to raise him to be a king to be a leader in the show other man that's being raised by single moms did never give up hope because it's going to take me has a strong mother to raise a a powerful young man so shut out to all the single moms who's raising their sons on their own don't blame yourself trouble doesn't last always don't give up Hope our kings 💋❤💯

Yesss, love this!!

My son is 21. I'm a single mother. I am done.

I'm just now seeing this and these comments are sad.. most people on these comments seem like they are offended this is not about taking the father out of the home this is about unfortunate situations happening to people where they become a single mother... yes boys do need a father but when it's not an option this is a handy book I never read it but I sure am going to buy it.... keep the positive love.... 😍😍🤩👏👏🙌🤩😍😍

I’m 19 and a single mother of two GIRLS.. My girls need dads too but ok.

Being a step-dad is the most thankless job in the world

Happy for you cousin keep doing what you doing love you 💟

Lets start by addressing the elephant in the chat: Pregnancy CAN be prevented and we forget that! There is protection and if that doesn't work you have plan b, there's spermicide, birth control, etc. This is the problem! If a woman is against abortions knowing what risks come from sex, you should be doing everything in your power to make sure you don't get pregnant. Take proper precautions or stay abstinent! Stop having children because "I don't believe in abortions" or "oh it's my body and you can't tell me what to do with it". This is part of the problem as to why so many children are being raised fatherless and it some occasions parentless. Children should be brought in this world if both parents AGREE that are READY, and are secured in a loving/genuine/communicative relationship. Because at the end of the day, yes it's our bodies that bare children but are we forgetting that we SHARE this kid with someone else!? It's not just YOUR baby. It's a WE concept. And I've been realizing a lot of women who are choosing to keep a baby are based off of they're own( let's be honest) personal/selfish/temporary views and feelings, and really not thinking about the child being brought in the world and how PERMANENT this new life is that you will have to take care of and raise! At some point this conversation has to be had. We women have to start taking responsibility in acknowledging that we are CHOOSING to be a single mother knowing the other parent was NOT ready. Mothers you CAN NOT get mad if the man is inconsistent/not present in the child's life, if yall both DID NOT AGREE to have that commitment. It takes two to tango not one! So if you knew he wasn't MORALLY ready to be RESPONSIBLE and MATURE to raise a child, then it's our fault ladies, I'm sorry. Idc how bad you want a baby, you are setting your child's life up on a 1 sided foundation the moment you choose to keep a child knowing the other parent doesn't agree to it. You have to choose the rational choice for both you and the child. Not just yourself. Women aren't asking real REFLECTIVE life changing questions to themselves, like "Am I making the right choice for my child or just myself?" "Am I making a choice off of temporary feelings?" "How will my choice effect my child later?" "Am i really ready?" "How do I want my child to be raised?" "What foundation do I want our child to be produced from?" Etc.. This is why I can't always blame the man. If a woman is mentally, physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually ready to bring new life into this world on her own terms, but isn't solidified in a secured relationship, there's always the choice to go to a sperm bank and not deal with the stressful baby daddy drama/co parenting/child support issues! There are choices ladies! That way it's on the mothers own accord because she knows what the pros and cons are and willing to accept that choice. Because I get it as a woman(Nursery school teacher), we all have our bio clocks ticking and baby fever and want to have someone to call our own who we know will love us always. But there's a safe, unselfish, and rational way to do that.

How about raising these men to be better men instead of coming down on women

I to damaged. Wish I could do better for my sweet young man. All I can do is try my best.

My life..now but god got me

Some women are single moms by choice, others are widows. many single moms are in my country,are single by choice, when you have two three baby daddies and it dosent last something wrong with the woman not the man.

What about young girls especially when they are extremely stubborn I'm a single first time mom

Is anyone else struggling to find the book online?

I need this book. I have twin boys 6 years old in chicago i know its going to be a hard road

Single mother can’t understand what it takes to be a man so how can you expect too. Some can sure but look at these punks nowadays be real. Plus some baby mamas are evil so men stay away. It’s hard. Father’s teach their sons how to fight when not to. All that bigger picture people

Damn! Where were these type of brother's in the in the 80's and 90's when I was growing up. My mother put a pigeon hold on me. She kept me from doing all types of thing's that cultivates a young mans mind and purpose. She put me in karate class one time and I loved it. I was dedicated to it. I wanted to go everyday... I mean everyday. I practiced at home and even taught my little cousin some moves but that was about it. After that I didn't do anything else until I was about 13 - 14 and started playing basketball with some kids from around my way but not on a team. Just cooling with the fellas. I feel like I really missed out on a lot on life because I didn't have that positive male role model. But life goes on and I must progress the best way I can.

I would love for my son to go.

You can't go fishing,hunting or go get a burger with a book. You don't hear old Army stories or fix a car with a book .You do all these things with your DAD. Thanks Dad I love you.

I am a never married lady with two sons. I choose the way I live for the protection of my sons. Not every person you meet has your best interests in mind. I chose to birth them so it ain't about me it's about them and always will be. I'll be single until they are old enough to defend and protect themselves.

Steve's face, though!

Has anyone been able to locate the book? I tried the website mentioned and it’s not legit. Tried Amazon and Barnes and Nobles and no luck. I’m a single mother of 4 boys, age range 6 to 20 and can really use a good book to guide me through raising boys to men. Any other book suggestions if I can’t get hold of Frank’s?

How do we order this book !!! the website is Confusing & it’s not on amazon ??

Ok so ....what if the " Father " ain't about shit to do with fatherhood 🤷🏽‍♀️. Then what? Wouldn't it be scary to push your child off on a man that doesn't want him?

Judging single parents is not gonna solve raisin kids... WTH.. People in these comments ignorant... Matter of fact why yal here ? Never know a person situation of why there single parents. Probably better than what they was goin threw..

Hi Steve I love your work, am single mum from Australia with 3 young boys age 8, 6, & 2, how can I get that book please?

I have 10 kids and I need that book

Some women don’t want sting men like this because they can’t walking all over them. Some of these women prefer the illusion they are sold by a man at that moment because that is what felt good to them at the time. But a lot of boys grow up to be the man they are not just because their father isn’t around, but because of the example of what women allow when they start dating and bringing men home. If a boy witness momma bringing a man home that is knocking her down in the room and not doing anything else, momma just taught her son what to do when he get older that he can go to some woman’s house with her kids and knock her down because that is what he witnessed being done to his momma. Keep in mind some boys don’t stand up and do or be great to their woman because if his momma didn’t get it from her man she would be jealous with her son give another women what she didn’t have and there for sometimes don’t want her son to be that for his women especially if she don’t like the woman. These are some possibilities of things to consider. I’m just saying.