This girl has a backbone and a moral compass. She was definitely in the right. I would have done the same. Cheating is disgusting, and cheaters get what they deserve, being alone and miserable.
It amazes me that so many commenters are siding with the cheating, incestuous couple. Just gross. I guess society is permanently becoming "looser" all the time.
@@darnelltucker9163 yeah that whole family is messed up. Glens too. Then matt turns out to be first cousin thrown away bc another member was just like ella and had a baby but threw hers away like a dirty secret.
Wow. It's really clear that OP was the scapegoat of the family. And her sister Ella is the golden child. Poor OP...........She's essentially being disowned and thrown under the bus, all because of a disgusting family secret and trying to do the right thing. 😢 I actually agree with the first top comment because yeah, OP was in a difficult situation and her friends were enabling Ella's cheating behavior. Not to mention Glen was cheating too. Sure the timing may not have been right, but you should always call out cheating because cheating is wrong. Period.
@@loyalgenix I'm in agreement as well. That's one really ducked up family. They reward the bads and punish the goods. Wonder how OP came out honest, because clearly not even her dad put value in honesty. For my understanding, they raise their children's to hide the truth and pretend the lie to be the truth and feel pride in it.
Any judge who would allow OP to be sued for any of this needs to lose their license to practice law...that lawsuit needs to have the sister as the defendant NOT OP.
Anyone can file a lawsuit. But chances are ones that actually goes to court. It will be dismissed out right. They are suing the wrong people, they need to sue, Matt and Ella.
@Don’t come for me unless I send for you 🤷 she was a witness to admission of infidelity. She didn't lie, or break any vows or gaffing order, so on what legal basis is she responsible for this?
Jesus Christ that whole family is an absolute trainwreck. OP getting involved with someone else's mess and not caring about the outcome it creates. The parents enabling the sister and that family secret. The sister....oh boy the sister. And poor Glenn just getting steamrolled by it all. Good lord this played out like a Jerry Springer episode. Smdh.
Wasn't "poor Glen" a cheater too though? I agree with your other comments though, family is crazy and sister is a piece of work, sleeping with your first cousin, gross, having a baby with them?? 🤢
AGAIN THE BUSINESS THATS MINDED BEED TO BE UR OWN!!! She just stikes me as a jealous sister 🙄 but this a Reddit story and this channel has been known as fake asf
@@arleneclark6369 yeah he did. They both did. How a couple handles that is their buisiness. It just seemed to me that he just got sucked into all their crazy, and obviously considering his mental break had some serious underlying issues.
Yeah, this whole family is toxic as eff. I wouldn't have blurted out the sister's dirty laundry in the manner she did...although it was funny as a story. Instead, I would have tipped off Glen on the DL. Keep in mind that the wedding was probably already paid for when the sister "confessed" re: cheating. After informing Glen, I would have just backed off. I can't help but wonder how things would have gone if OP wasn't so public about this. And no way a judge is going to let the lawsuit fly. As someone said: blame the sister. Lastly, it appears that this is a narcissistic family w/ the sister as the Golden Child. OP probably had enough and was pushed over the edge when the wedding came about. I can seriously relate to OP, but I would have taken a different approach.
Op is way worse. Op gets told he is okay with cheating. Op get mad and makes a bigger scene. Then goes- how come i can't break them up. Op just wants drama. Notice - Op was mad her sister's wedding was about her sister.
So letting someone know they are being cheated on is the right thing. But OP did it in a way to generate drama. She clearly did this to hurt her sister. Her word choice basically proves that when she called Glenn pathetic for breaking down after losing his wife and daughter after learning he was being cheated on in relatively quick succession. Not to mention she only announced it because she was expected to be supportive on her sister's wedding day which is a normal expectation. If she wanted to help Glenn she would have told him in private before the wedding. Not publicly pronouncing on his wedding day he was being cu*ked by his now wife. Bad news needs to be given tactfully. What she took from this is that she is a victim for doing the right thing instead of do the right thing the right way, not in a way to maximize drama and hurt for the victim. She should have learned compassion.
@@lilsstrunks no the sister deserves no reprieve. The betrayed husband did. Well not really he was cheating too. If OP wanted to help she would have told the husband before the wedding that his fiance cheated on him in private so he could determine his own course of action. It potentially could have saved thousands of dollars and a great deal of trauma. No OP did this in a way to make a scene and hurt her sister and embarrass her sisters betrayed fiance.
Marriage between first cousins is not unheard of. OP needs to get away from her toxic family. BTW a frivolous lawsuit can cost Glen and his parents a lot of money.
This poster is weird in many ways, either its fake or the poster is in serious denial. People do screwed up things, but they keep telling dark secrets and then surprised about people being made she shared information. Even this post, dear God, stop sharing.
@@sashwing7726 because she's a narcissist. Her behavior is atypical of one. She wanted to make her sister look bad while portraying herself as a victim.
I agree 💯. My mom's brother and his narcissist wife are very toxic. He tried to play the family card to get my great uncle to talk to him when one of our cousins passed away. My great uncle never talked to him and my mom's brother got told off that just because he shares blood doesn't mean he's family. And he's NOT family after everything he's done.
Also what kind of wimp Glenn is? I mean he was also cheating on her. Then wanted to raise another man's child. And that another man is none other than his wife's cousin. I have no respect for men like him
Bro that family is the absolute WORSE!!! No wonder they keep blaming OP for being honest. They had their own secret to hide. WHY THE FUCK DID THEY NOT COME CLEAN ABOUT THEIR DAUGHTER SLEEPING WITH HER COUSIN?!?! HOW IS THAT OPS FAULT?!! JESUS
A friend from college strongly warned me: if you catch someone cheating on you, NEVER take them back. They will continue and they will never change. I will keep that warning close to my heart for life.
That was my thought when it came out that they were mad at her for saying something. She was out of the loop and that's how she wanted it... why drag her back and then disown her for something that at its core was not her doing. smh 🤦🏾♀️
He knows she's the scapegoat. He says he didn't want her to tell anyone, but he knew OP was the only one who wouldn't keep her mouth shut, and for good reason. My question is, why didn't they stop their daughter from seeing Matt when they knew he was their cousin? Yes, they would have outed the daughter as a cheater, but as we've seen, the two newlyweds have already danced that tango. And why is everyone blaming OP for TELLING THE TRUTH when literally everyone else knew a secret or two? These people are toxic af and OP should just go no contact. She's only sane human being in this cluster fuck of a mutual circle.
So she would leak it, pretend he didn’t want her to leak it to cover his ass when shit hits the fan. So he’s the real leaker and wanted this shit out, but didn’t want the blame or consequences to fall on him.
It sounds like OP was in fact thrown under the bus by her own sister who was just married and was also cheating on her husband before they got married and OP should have told her parents that way they couldn’t be held accountable for Ella and Glen getting a divorce because of her infidelity as well as Glen’s infidelity.
@Don’t come for me unless I send for you 🤷 Agree that OP went to far for meddling and publicly exposing the dirty laundry. However, I can relate to how OP feels...I would have taken a more discreet approach and let it be. I can't help but wonder how things would have turned out if OP didn't expose the business in the manner she did. However, the fact that everyone is so tolerant and forgiving of the sister is just messed up. She was the one who cheated, so did Glen, and having a baby with the cousin...clearly this yet another narcissistic family w/ the sis as GC. OP was probably at her wits end as the BS and the wedding pushed her over the edge. I can absolutely relate to OP.
As for the lawsuit Good luck to Glen parents I doubt any judge on earth would punish someone for speaking the truth + plus trying to blame OP for all that happened without taking any accountability for their son, his ex and themselves
@Don’t come for me unless I send for you 🤷 she was her sister That usually includes, be bad or good a relationship. Also what wicked reasons? Unless you see telling the truth and being honest as being wicked and bad? She has principles, something you clearly do not. By your comments, you're the type that supports lies, cheating and turn the face to the other side and pretend you didn't saw nothing Well there's still in this planet people with principles, honest and with values. But i guess you couldn't ever possibly understand such since you clearly do not share such honesty, principles and values.
@Don’t come for me unless I send for you 🤷 have your opinion, I'll have mine. What you can't accept is that i don't agree with your opinion, but hey, nothing you can do, I'm from a free country. Want force others to agree with you move into a dictatorship, i think you will be happier there
I was laughing all the way through this. The truth will set you free: From your family, your friends and your money. It's not clear how this could be anything in court but dismissed as a frivolous case. Honestly. How stupid and selfish can people be?
Yeesh, the only sane one in this story is OP and Ella's a psychotic golden child. How the hell did everyone just condone/enable/rug sweep cheating after telling on themselves? Something is seriously wrong with society when they don't condemn cheaters.
Yeah and the fact there's people bitching that OP was mad the spotlight wasn't on her and just brush off the cheating like it's nothing? I thought redditors believe all kinds of cheating was evil.
@Digitalfairy Those people who were bitching were probably the people in the story lol But for real, anyone who looks past the fact that someone is a cheater is a massive enabler and a self proclaimed cheater themselves. I think that's why EVERYONE in the story was angry with OP.
No contact is the best solution for these ridiculous people!! Never reach out again! Because these two people are responsible for everything that happened! Not someone exposing them! Dysfunctional deluxe!!💯🤦🏽♀️😡🤡
A long time ago I was told that two can keep a secret if one is dead. Then I added that sometimes both had to be dead as people I knew would just have to tell someone and then looked shocked when the secret was no longer a secret.
The messenger is always the one to catch the flack. If she had kept all the secrets then she still would have caught flack for keeping quiet. It is a "can't win for losing" situation. As far as I am concerned the OP of this story is "not" the A-hole. Secrets always have a way of coming out and when there is a child involved, that child's future needs/wants have to be considered.
No it’s how she chose to tell the secret that made her the AH. Had she met up with glen and spoke to him privately this would probably be a different story. OP was trying to be nasty and got burned.
She's the scapegoat. Either way she was screwed. You can tell when her family forced her to be in the wedding and were the ones to force OP to give a toast to her sister about the "happy childhood" they had. Also, Glenn is a punk ass simp to go back to his cheating wife TWICE! I can see why the parents are angry
OP should have bought a burner phone or set up a fake email account and told Glen anonymously. If she didn’t tell Glen before the wedding, she should have just sat on the information forever.
I agree with you except for the sitting on the info forever. What if Glenn found out later and learned that OP knew about it? He would've been understandably hurt that OP never told him.
You can't be forced to attend a wedding if you don't want to. "We're family!" Family schmamily, if blood related people are toxic, but them loose. Fancy weddings are mostly money down the drain, better to just elope.
I agree that OP should have had a private conversation with Glen and Ella before the wedding so they could decide if they really want to get married (especially since we he was cheating as well). However everyone is acting like this is all just OP'S fault instead of putting the blame where it deserves to be on Ella. If she had not been cheating in the first place there would have been nothing to expose. Then after she gives birth, and finds out the baby is not Glen's but decides to keep that from him and let him raise another man's baby (all the while not telling the real father either) shows how truly evil she thinks. This, just like the cheating, needed to be revealed sooner rather than later. Now Glen has had a mental breakdown because of Ella's actions but somehow OP is facing the blame for doing what was basically the right thing. Glen's parents should actually be thanking OP for trying to look out for him. They should be suing the solution that caused all this, as well as the affair partner. Hopefully this is eventually what will happen. Any good judge should see that what is happening is because of what Ella's done, and that OP exposing her does not make her responsible for the consequences as this would have all come out anyway.
They blame anyone but the ones that screwed around. Don't admit to things you don't want aired out. The parents are ridiculous too! I would also tell them I didn't F Ella to have a kid. Why are you blaming me for this? Put the blame where it belongs!
@@SCOOBYGD exactly, plus how is OP responsible for the actions of these two people when they created the mess themselves? That’s the kind of logic I don’t understand that the kind of people sister’s ex’s parents have. The Bible says that people are accountable for their own actions and what happens to them so the sister’s or the ex’s actions are their own.
So essentially what the whole family is trying to say to everyone is that "It is ok to cheat, just keep things quiet at all costs, and damn whoever says anything. As long as we all keep quiet, everything will be alright. We will definitely punish whoever says anything."
This mess is what happens when you keep secrets. Initially I thought OP was an a-hole only because she chose the wedding to disclose the affair. I agree that that bomb should have been dropped before the sister and groom walked down the aisle. However, the 2nd time is definitely not OP’s fault. If dad didn’t want her disclosing secrets why he tell her. It’s clear by the eventual fall out that OP’s moral compass would not let her keep her mouth shut. I believe dad set her up and then wanted to be righteously upset later. Hypocrites! The lot of them.
You know, when mean nasty people go out of their way to ruin people's lives just for fun nothing ever happens to them. I don't get that impression from this OP. She may have been mostly indifferent to her sister, but she also seemed horrified by her sister's actions. It's no surprise the sister married a man exactly like her. Or that the friends they surrounded themselves with were also lacking in character. But to be sued by people for the actions of others is just an abuse of the legal system. The lawyer who took the case lacks character and any judge who allowed it to progress without dismissing it out of hand for no merit should be dismissed. In fact, all those pushing this case should be disbarred.
It’s a backwards half butted way of thinking! OP did nothing wrong! If she didn’t want everyone to know she shouldn’t be sleeping with his best friend! Ella is to blame!
OMG OMG OMG if she kept her legs shut their wouldn't be a problem. And why is it Ops fault. She's not the one messing around. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. If I was OP I would go as far away as I could.
I honestly can say OP did nothing wrong. I would tell the 2nd commenter to shut up because it didn't matter when OP told the truth because the outcome would've been the same. If she confronted Ella about her affair, she would tell OP to stay quiet but if she told Glen, he'd be mad. Speaking of which, he was such an idiot and didn't have the balls to call Ella out for not only cheating on him with his best friend, but also trying to commit paternity fraud. He's a coward, so he then goes to blame everything on OP when his ex-wife was the perpetrator. Ella should've gotten sued, not OP.
So the innocent bystander was blasted for an accidental alabama moment where two cheaters got married and uncovered a dark family secret. That whole family except op was the asshole. Glen deserved what he got in the end
OP is not guilty.. NOT the asshole. She's became a pawn in a mess due to her family's secrets. Glen's parents are the AH. But glen is a serial cheater now. let him have a breakdown. and if the courts get a good wind of Ella and Matt in OP's case, I hope they demand Ella and Matt return to the country to give a testimony. Then Glen's parents and OP's parents and OP herself can sue Ella and Matt. When Ella and matt see this, they'll put their baby up for adoption and run for life.
Yes let take it out on the one person who told the truth they wanted to make believe life was ok and things where ok wow thank God you got rid of those toxic family values
She shouldn’t be sued . Ella should b sued . Sister shouldn’t have mentioned it at the wedding but It should have been told that Matt was a cousin. I have 2 that got married & I don’t approve. If my 2 aunts had been alive, they would have put a stop to it. That’s incest. It’s been said that it can cause children to b mental. She was probably pregnant when she got married
These people and the commenters on that post, seriously, they need their heads read. Op was drunk and all kinds of stuff go wrong. I knew they were all sleeping around with each other with just their reactions... only op there has morals. Nothing to do with jealousy.
Agree with comment 1. Glenn's family is incredibly foolish, they blame op for something that may have been potentially worse at a later date. For all the ways they're acting, you can tell that if the little girl was 5 and in need of blood or something similar and the only match was Matt? They'd have stopped treating the child as their grandkid and cause severe mental trauma to said child, as well as causing the divorce to be 10x worse as Matt will want to be with his child and ella would come to accept her love for him over Glen there by causing chaos. Glenn would then be in an even worse state in which he may have even just committed self harm or worse to himself and ella wouldn't care since she'd be miles away, and everyone else would get the blame for not trying to say or do anything for it to lead to this. In the end They'd all blame everyone but themselves or the main culprits.
I don't believe anything is going come from that lawsuit. There was no malicious intent against Glenn. I would call fake on this story if this lawsuit pans out.
This really angers me. How is someone going to do something wrong and then make someone else pay for it? Op was clearly the scapegoat just because she opened her mouth. Ella needs to face the consequences of her OWN actions. Op shouldn’t be facing them for her. Glen’s parents should also be suing Ella, not op. Her friends and family are a bunch of assholes for enabling Ella’s behavior. Cheating is a choice, not a mistake. Ella and Glen chose to cheat. Can we please quit normalizing cheating? More importantly, quit covering up cheating? A lot of people lose everything if they cheat. But why does Ella get to keep everything when she’s in the wrong? Big deal Glen had a meltdown, but to hold OP responsible when Ella caused it is BS. Those people are ruining OP’s life just to cover up multiple cheating scandals. I wouldn’t be surprised if the story suddenly when viral like it already did. I also wouldn’t be surprised if the scandals and everything started to go downhill for those people. Op is the victim, not Ella and Glen.
Wow... the whole family is nuts! On both sides! Glen is nuts and so are his parents, The truth was told and the sister was blamed instead of the adulteress wife. On wife and sisters side they are nuts too, for keeping the incest secret. What a strange and crazy mix of nutty people, on both sides! I think sister telling the truth was a good thing, but she should have told her parents and future BIL as soon as possible, instead of waiting until the wedding reception.
Yeah. That was literally the only bad thing she did, going public. I don't see why some people think she's a jealous narcissist, she might've been jealous, but that's probably because she was tired of being the scapegoat child and her golden child sister getting all the love and attention. If she did become a villain, it's probably because her family made her that way.
Op was right for telling the truth. Family secrets leading to incestuous relationships is not uncommon, and you'd think they would know better. OP is better off leaving that family circus. Gross.
I find the best course of action to remain drama free in life is "NOT MY MONKEYS NOT MY CIRCUS". That thought process has saved me with friends, family and work quite well. Life has enough surprises and drama all by itself, no damn reason to involve other people's issues in mine.
I'm not too familiar with British law, but I can't think of any way that case doesn't get laughed out of court since everything she said turned out to be 100% true and also far less severe than what the full situation was. It might be a social faux pas, but there doesn't seem to be anything actionable and she's not even the party that actually harmed him, only the one who let him know that he was being harmed. What's next, he's going to sue his doctor if they tell him that he has cancer?
The way OP handled the information she learned about her sister’s cheating scandal was wrong. It was easy to discern because OP enjoyed all of the negativity that came from her bloviating. What’s worse is that she willfully repeated the same mistake a second time because she was too into her faux righteous to learn from the first mistake. In the end OP told on herself. No one paid attention to HER. Everything was all about Ella. When you do the right thing with wrong motives, don’t complain about the harvest your hands/mouth have wrought.
OP sounded very bitter and angry, so some of it was brought on by her own actions, doing the "right" thing isn't always the best thing if you plan to do it with no tact.
So Ella cheated, boasted about it, OP, who didn't want to give a speech, drunkenly spilled the beans and everyone was mad at HER, then after everything died down, Ella, who had kept on cheating with Matt because she obviously loved him, had his baby and everything turned out great for Ella - she has her baby and his true father and the man she actually loves but Op is the one getting shit on?! WTF??@! I mean seriously, yeah maybe OP should have kept her mouth shut about the affair at the wedding (and said something privately with the families present BEFORE), but the baby's parentage? And she assumed her father wanted her to leak the info because he told her. I think she knows her father better than we do so I think she really thought that's what he wanted because it didn't sit right with him but then threw her under the bus when Ella left them all for good because the family secret came out...I'm just. I don't know anymore. I will tell you this though - OP is not the AH in all of this. She may have been for the wedding, but for the baby? Nope. No way. So Glen and his parents would have been happier about raising a kid that wasn't theirs? As for the lawsuit, I know this is obviously the UK (hen night, solicitor, etc) but I'm in the US and I know here, you can't sue someone for any of this because OP wasn't the original cause for the turmoil. They (Glenn's parents) couldn't even go after Ella and Matt because in the US the courts would just say in the case of paternity fraud, the one cheated on would just be let off the hook for child support and the divorce settlement might go in his favor. But you can't sue over any of this when it's, wait for it, THE ACTUAL TRUTH. LOL. But I don't know about the UK. I mean, the judge would look at Glenn and his parents and say 'so you're upset OP saved you from paternity fraud?! Case dismissed!' Lying about the true parentage of the child is never okay anywhere and anyway you slice it. OP absolutely did the right thing there. Why would he want to be made the cuckhold of all this drama? And why did he get the paternity test done if he didn't want to know? The judge would ask that question first thing. The judge would say he must have known he wouldn't be the father and wanted to know for sure so why is this OP's fault? He actually initiated the whole thing. But I also do wonder how fake this is as in the initial post, the OP asked if they were the AH. The story was way, way, waaaay too long for it to be an AITA post. There is a character limit. So I have no idea where the story originated from. Be that as it may, I await part 2 with bated breath. LOL.
Yeah I doubt her father wanted her to leak that info. OP has issues and she doesn’t learn from the past. If she got blamed for exposing something the first time why the hell would she think it wouldn’t happen again the second time.
@@bautistalover I agree she shouldn't have done that at the wedding and yes, she didn't learn from the past HOWEVER I think it strange her father told her about it and that Glenn had the test done (he should NOT have done that if he wished to stay the father). I feel like OP truly was the scapegoat here. Like her father wanted her to leak it out yet then put the blame on her. None of these people sound like good people truly but whatever the case may be - whether OP has issues or she fucked up and keeps making the same mistake - she does NOT deserve to have all this shit happening to her! If anyone does, it's her sister and the rest of the family that kept this secret (about Matt being the cousin). I feel like there's something missing. Like OP's sister had a thing with Matt but her family didn't want her to have anything to do with him. If the truth had been told from the start, none of this would have happened. The case between the sisters and how they barely tolerate each other (before the wedding) seems like girls who never could get along. OP's issues may be that she never wants to get married and have children and she's treated like 'other' in the family because they don't approve of that. I don't know and I'm not really sure if the father wanted her to leak it or not - I'm just saying she knows her father better than we do. She certainly does not deserve all the BS though. My takeaway here is that her sister cheated and continued to cheat and was about to cause paternity fraud and everyone is calling OP the AH. It just seems like we're all not watching the same movie here.
@@dementedqueen4392 I mean honestly sounds like to me at least he was confiding in his daughter about something stressful and family ending. I didn’t get vibes at all that her father was being two faced when he told OP. Again this goes back to her not using common sense. Why didn’t she just ask her dad why did he tell her instead of assuming he wanted her to spill the beans, especially again look at how he reacted about the cheating scandal. Nothing in the prior history leads to her father wanted her to tell. I just find it really hard to empathize for someone so stupid. ETA: no one is condoning paternity fraud only given OPs history with being the whistleblower didn’t work out and she should’ve taken that into account before she went running and telling because now she surprised but she’s the only one who is. She could’ve tried to talk her father into telling the truth, or literally just wait. Glenn was the one who requested the results he wasn’t stupid he would’ve asked for his results.
While i despise what Ella and Glen did. I do not approve of what OP did in the name of honesty or truthfulness. Its not up to her to tattle on everybody
This is to Mr Reddito, This was one of the most messed up stories so far! Like just WOW!!! But I would like to commit on how you tell these stories. You are so good in the way you tell the stories and I love the animation. Keep up the good work I love listening to you! 😊
I definitely don’t think you’re the AH, but even if you were, you did the right thing. It’s pretty disgusting how people can condone or cover up for cheaters. They don’t deserve happiness and I applaud you for what you did. 👏👏
Op's family sucks. It seems sister always got their way. Op didn't want to be there but parents made her. Op got drunk and they made her give a speech. It also seems like dad wanted to use op to spill the tea about the baby so it wouldn't blow back on him or wanted to see if op could keep a secret. We only know op's side, and it sounds like she is also self-centered to. My guess we won't hear from op again unless she wins her trail.
I was on op's side Until she said something really stupid, It's not worth being honest and telling the truth really ? Stay out of other people's mess? It's always the right thing to do when you tell the truth and you're honest, Depending on what it is about you do not be selfish and stay out of other people's messes if you know something is being done to hurt someone you Need to tell SOMEONE!! Many lives could have been saved if people weren't selfish and worried about what would happen to them for .Getting involved. Yes some things you should stay out of And mind your own business but you have to be smart enough to know what those things are.
The entitlement is insane in OP's family, I'm confused why she's the one in the wrong? She didn't cheat on her fiance with his bf and then have his bf's baby, she literally did the right thing and the family secret should never have been a secret! They shouldn't be hiding illegitimate children, that's so toxic. I feel so bad for OP she gets the blame for everything and none of it is her fault, it's ELLA'S FAULT 💯 PERCENT! OP needs to go NC with her whole family and just live a great life without them! At least her sister and any of her family that agrees with Ella.
