"... depictions of a safe, but prison-like, nature of a complex." Could also be extended/ extrapolated to, "safe, but prison-like, nature of societal strictures." Granting that societal strictures evolve, over time, and appear to be (hopefully) gradually becoming more healthy - many aspects of societal strictures in my youth (late 1950s through the 1960s) often felt like a form of (illusory) safety only when fully capitulating to those strictures.
@@theimaginariumso, societally we've gone from everyone having overly and overtly restrictive behavioural norms - heteronormative only, far more "New Testament" biblically based roles (or so we were told), strictly structured with wealthy white males being the rule makers (rules apt to change in a moment and on their whims) and everyone else hierarchically arrayed beneath them (with few options for breaking out of those restrictive molds/ models), to... gradually breaking out of restrictive molds/ models and figuring out where to put our own feet in our own time? I'll agree, as someone born when Eisenhower was da prez, that there have been uncomfortable and confusing moments - many of them. And, as a woman working in engineering (Oilfield manufacturing as a Mechanical Designer, bc on the Texas Gulf Coast Oilfield that's largely what we have) I can tell you that I appreciate various of those strictures loosening - and many older males employed by the same company did not, complaining openly about, "A woman! We don't need no women here!" And this pattern persisted well after the year 2000, which definitely seemed a bit much on holding onto old societal strictures. Societal strictures have never been, or felt, particularly safe for women? "Do what we tell you and you'll be safe. Oh, wait, changed my mind - and it's your fault, you made me do it. It's the way you dress/ look/ sound so obviously everything wrong is on you." That's the mindset that was predominant in the 1950s & 1960s - and I'm deeply grateful that it's no longer acceptable.
as someone who was driven from my father's house (split custody) at 13 by a step-mother who attacked me with a knife, I find this relatable. it's interesting because I've always understood that injury through the lens of my relationship with my dad but this illuminated a new perspective on it. in fact, part of why I thought of it like that may be the bias I developed in personally connecting more with men than women in general. it wasn't conscious and I've had important female friends, although the closest one ended up getting a sex change lol so how is that for some thematic cohesion? 😆 great video 💓 thanks
I realized how much safer I feel with men than women for exactly the reason he mentioned. women are dangerous in underestimated ways and it's scary. I know because I am one 😂 but I've come a long way bringing this to consciousness and healing that wound with progress to show for it ☺️
Yup, the problem is, at least for me, every male "best friend" I have had pounced when I was at my weakest. Betrayal seems to be a theme in my life. Wish I knew why.
