So You Want to Lose Weight? Binge Eating Recovery

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SO YOU WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT? BINGE EATING RECOVERY - For many of us, the desire to lose weight runs deep. We also have some awareness that focusing on weight loss can lead to more bingeing. We are in conflict. Is it possible to recover from binge eating and lose weight, or are we supposed to let go of the desire to lose weight forever?
This is an area that hampers many people from breaking free from the cycle of binging.
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@vanessaburdine4865 Год назад

"I don't know if my body will change or not, my only job is looking after my body today."

@alisonterry1756 Год назад

This brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sick of being in the monthly cycle of "I'm going to do better" research a new way of eating for 3 days, plan diligently, eat that way for a day or even just a few hours just to relapse.

@melissal3383 4 месяца назад

I’m RARELY hungry during the day. So here is what I say to myself to make myself eat. “Eat NOW, when you have ZERO hunger. To prevent yourself from overeating later, when you have ZERO CONTROL!!”

@toasttime9266 Месяц назад

How has that worked out so far?

@carolynjaynes9094 5 месяцев назад

Today is all that matters, and I really love this way of thinking. Body acceptance, compassion for myself, and knowing that my disordered eating was a way to survive in an abusive family. With no contact, I am safe from harm, and I no longer need to cope with fear and hurt in this self-destructive way. I added new hobbies that I love to replace over-eating. Coloring, painting, swimming, walking, photography, dancing, gardening, and playing with my pets.

@skooshy621 4 месяца назад

I know how hard fought and hard won this is. I just want to say that I really admire you and commend you for achieving this true liberation and triumph. I cried with relief and joy for you when I read your comment.

@henryoliva1153 Год назад

After 40 years of eating and not understanding why I am having a whole different conversation with my therapist now. It almost feels like you went inside my head to write this book.

@buddyneher9359 5 месяцев назад

"Just because something is true for you today doesn't mean it will always be true." Ah, good nugget to remember. Thank you!

@MiracleAngel20 3 месяца назад

That's the danger of Overeaters Anonymous.

@marilynharris4118 2 месяца назад

When I consider how MUCH the various truths that I believed at different points in my life have changed... very helpful!!

@alexlindstrom555 5 месяцев назад

Oh wow…the people pleasing! That’s me!!! I didn’t realize that could play a role in my own eating issues.

@ludwigzebrauskas8675 Год назад

Love that quote where are you say people pleasers are always running around and checking on others needs and taking care of them and taking responsibility for them. Unfortunately, us people pleasers don’t take care of ourselves and don’t take responsibility for ourselves. That is a game changer quote! That hit right in my gut! And that we are not irresponsible. We are too responsible just in the wrong places. Love that.

@janjohnson5209 2 месяца назад

This is me. Been like it since I was 6 or 7. I'm working hard at looking after me.

@CuriousSomeone 3 года назад

Cannot imagine this chanel not going viral at some point. The way you articulate the inner struggle and then clearly show a way forward is immensely helpful, inspiring and reassuring. And for me, these are the aspects by which your videos stand out from the rest of the creators and content on this topic. I've ordered your book already and look forward to more of your content! Thank you!

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

CuriousSomeone Ahhh, that’s very kind of you to say. I’m really pleased to hear that my content is helpful to you ❤️

@regenacollins7236 4 месяца назад

You made it possible for peace today. ❤

@amyhox 4 месяца назад

I am currently going through cycles of Binging and restricting, especially when I’ve been focused on weight loss and not seeing the scale go down or it goes up, i tend to give up or even if it would go down even slightly like a pound or two i felt like “rewarding” myself and then goes back up again. I had no idea i had binge eating disorder until i realized i had a problem. Taking a step back and looking back at my toxic patterns, i’ve implemented just being more conscious of my eating patterns and emotions. I haven’t weighed myself, I am trying to eat slower, chew my food and stay hydrated throughout the day. Understand feeling hungry vs craving something (very different) and just listening to my body and just trying to understand my emotions instead of suppressing them.

@barbaram.6220 11 месяцев назад

The subject of taking responsibility for others, for the past, and for the future- but not for myself in the moment.....that hit hard. I didn't realize the extent of my desire to please others, or my avoidance of taking responsibility for myself in the moment. Thank you, dear one. Thank you!❤

@a-terrible-fate532 Год назад

I've had some physique goals, and I have been on a caloric restriction for close to 3 months I've got to a point where I'm sick of the tracking and weighing of food, it works for physique goals, but it's mentally exhausting, and I'm sick of restricting myself and restricting myself from the things I enjoy and want to eat. I'm leaning toward just eating more and something I enjoy versus the food I know will get me results but that I don't really want to eat. I've always done cycles of cutting fat and then wanting to eat in a surplus to gain muscle mass before rinsing and repeating, but Im not exactly a bodybuilder, and I am coming to the realization that I should focus on health and lifestyle over vanity. I still do want to work on my physique and body but I don't want to resict anymore or yoyo diet from cutting to bulking. Its just way to stressful and makes me obsess over food even more and binge even more. self..... just eat the damn food you want self ! and stop worrying about how much calories are in the food you eat ! 😡

@_Freddy_Plush_ Год назад

Very insightful but not popular enough. The world only want a simple way to lose weight no matter how many times it fails. I love your videos, very good.

@anna_i_love_living Месяц назад

🔥

@pimpuskanarek3874 11 месяцев назад

Hi, i just wanted to say. I've been struggling with ed for 9 years, since I was 13. Never had a binge problem, but recently in a period of couple of months it just started. I wasnt familiar with that. And i was loosing my sh*t. It frustrated me a lot, because i knew how the circle worked, but couldnt convince myself not to starve after a binge. After watching this video i spontaneously decided to stop hurting myself, focusing on the numbers. It isnt easy at all, having my whole life and brain structured for fullfilling my ed. But I think i've had enough and for the first time i really want to pick up where i've left off- before the life focused on food, numbers and measurements. I dont know if i will beat this, but i just want to focus on living, experiencing freedom. I just want to stop distracting myself from living by thinking of loosing weight. Thank you for being here, for me. Wish you the best

@Aa-ll1sy 7 месяцев назад

i hope you find freedom one day ❤ i know exactly what you mean about wanting to just live life. i feel the same way and i am still figuring out since age 12 and it’s been over 10 years. it really helps me to say to my self, “you are enough. you have always been enough”

@Heartbreaker1999-o5s Год назад

You really make wonderful videos . I once recovered from binge eating, but it definitely was a slow process + I wasn't so desperate to lose weight. I think that's the key . Focusing on health , just keeping patient and letting those urges pass , rather then act straight then and there .

@fj-fe7lw 2 месяца назад

I'm 31 and since I have cptsd and my parents moved with me to completely different countries during my childhood multiple times, I've finished university later than usual = I had to repeat some classes because of the language barriers. I now work with people younger than me (beginning their twenties). I also have binge ED and am in long-term therapy. I HATE going to the office where my young colleagues are. I'm absolutely not saying all young people are like this, but I happened to work with a bunch of soul sucking, insecure, self-centered, validation and attention needing "children" to varying degrees. I am a huge people pleaser, even though I must admit that through this first therapy year things have changed quite a bit and I don't please as much anymore. I am at least able to set boundaries now, but I don't set them as much as they're needed. I don't intend to say "it's these people's fault I binge", because that's not true. I am overeating to survive. But because of my pleasing tendencies and many work hours, I am always attuned to these people and almost never to me and my own needs. It bothers me. I need to set clearer boundaries and differentiate myself from them and focus on myself in the moment. I want to treat my body well today everyday. I also think the desire for weight loss will never completely leave me, I've seen it in my mother's whole adult life and she's still dieting at almost 60. I'm also having a job interview for a better paid job with more responsibility and more mature colleagues next week! I hope I like what they're offering and they accept me!

@freespiral Год назад

I'm having a really really hard time to stop trying to lose weight. I can think of at least three valid reasons for why I absolutely have to lose weight. I have listened to half of your audio book twice now (listened two hours in and went back and started at the beginning again) and watched this video a few times too but I'm having a hard time to let what you're saying, sink in. My desire to stop eating and lose weight runs really deep. I have to lose weight for work (I'm growing out of my uniform and can't afford a new one), I can't climb the stairs to the second floor of our home anymore, my marraige is suffering because of it... Not all reasons for wanting to lose weight are tied up in society's beauty standards and I don't know how to not want to lose weight based on practical reasons.

@alexanderreynolds6018 10 месяцев назад

I know this comment is pretty old but just from one person trying to figure this stuff out to another: is the only solution to your problems to lose weight? Could you put the weight loss on the back burner and try to figure other ways to tackle the problems without putting all the pressure on the weight loss to fix them? On the work uniform: trust me I totally understand financial stress. But buying new clothes is something that everyone has to do for many reasons throughout their lives so would it really be so bad to just budget for a new uniform? What would you do if it got ruined or lost? Or, alternately, what if you lost so much weight that your current uniform didn't fit anymore? You'd still have to buy a new uniform. I don't think losing weight is going to prevent you from having to buy new clothes in the future. On the stairs: is there a type of movement that would feel good, enjoyable, and fun, and at the same time help strengthen the muscles in your legs, so they can support your knees up and down stairs? I'm a huge fan of yoga and there's lots of inclusive yoga instructors online, my favorite is Yoga with Kassandra. Or maybe calisthenics or weight lifting or cycling would be more your style. Or, if it's accessible, maybe working with a size-inclusive physical therapist would be a good option. I just think that would be a more proactive solution and much less mentally taxing and bad for your mental health as seeing weight loss as the only way. On your marriage: I'm not married but people of every size can be happily married so I don't think your size is the actual problem and therefore losing weight is probably not the solution.

@ksollmann4294 6 месяцев назад

I agree with this. I also suffer from the desire to stop the eating and wanting to lose. I recently heard a quote from James Clear in Atomic Habits that goals interfere with habits. I feel like the last couple videos I have watched on this channel support this quote. A quick goal of weight loss will encourage unhealthy habits to get the weight loss as quick as possible. If you focus on stopping the habits that promote binge eating and focus on the habits that will make you healthier, then weight loss will come. Not as fast as a crash diet, but the crash diets weren’t working anyway. Thought I would share because this quote/thought/idea has been so revolutionary for me in next steps.

@VeganLiving247 4 месяца назад

@@ksollmann4294wow thank you for wording it like that! I’ve screen shot your comment to mull it over as it resonated with me. Thanks. Best wishes to everyone watching these videos!

@VeganLiving247 4 месяца назад

⁠@@ksollmann4294to continue on with that, for me ‘focusing on habits that will make you healthier’ I believe to be keeping my kitchen space tidy, meal prep, have easy healthy snacks available, good sleep routine, make time to do exercises I enjoy instead of so much screen time.

@nsalv3155 3 года назад

This was so insightful, the whole “letting go of black and white thinking” that you encourage in your message is really helpful. I’ve started applying it not only to my eating (I follow a specific diet for my Crohn’s but being flexible and kind to myself when I can’t follow it as rigorously). I also apply this “grey thinking” recently to other aspects of my life, which helps immensely with procrastination! A lot of it stems from self compassion and kinder beliefs about myself. Anyway, thanks so much for all you do Sarah!! Natalia

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

N Salv 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 That’s exactly it! 😍 It doesn’t work to only change your way of thinking in one area of your life. The way we do one thing is the way we do everything ❤️

@allpowerfulmitochondria759 Год назад

I think this is particularly hard for me because as someone with borderline personality disorder I see almost everything in black and white.

@makeupland26 3 года назад

Fantastic video Sarah. Love the way you covered this topic and especially what you said about not having to get rid of the desire to lose weight completely. Because I'd be lying to myself every day if I said that I could. Great content, thanks

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

makeupland26 Thanks for the comment! I’m very glad you liked it ❤️❤️

@anna_i_love_living Месяц назад

It's brilliant! Thank you! God bless you for everything you do for the struggling people!

@lemonyblue2437 8 месяцев назад

For me, on weekdays i eat normal, i find that rice make me hard to lose weight, most of the time, i choose low carbs food, and i practice IF, so that my body wont go to heavy side. These routine help to maintain my weight, on weekend, i know i will indulge with family, i eat rice, noodle, cake, dessert. But now due to long vacation, my body feel and is heavier. In progress to return to routine eating.

@evadebruijn 5 месяцев назад

🙏 Yes I do because gaining is a negative for my joints and I really need long distance running to stay somewhat level mentally. The idea I could not run anymore because of injuries because I am running when overweight is like a nightmare to me. ✌️

@wren5876 Год назад

I don't think i've found anything that has resonated with me more than what you've said in this video.

@selentezerr 3 года назад

hello, i had a really hard time back when i didn't know how to deal with binge eating. i used to want to lose weight and restrict my meals or tried to follow diets which doesn't contain "bad food" like junk food and fast food in it. and it caused binging, obviously. after that, i realised that i'm mentally exhausted and decided to stop thinking about all these losing weight, eating, eating disorder stuff and I ate everything i wanted. I can say that it felt super free and relaxed without thinking abt food all the time. but while doing this, i gained 4 or 5 kilos and now i want to lose weight before school begins. i know it's not a healthy type of thinking but like, in general, i don't know how to stop stressing about schools beginning(not abt the academic stuff, abt my weight) and how to lose weight. and i don't know how to learn that. it's really hard to live with eating disorders 😔

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

Thanks for sharing your experience. I think we can develop the skill of managing our minds (not controlling, managing). Finding ways to tame our minds so that they do not drag us all over the place. Things like mindfulness or any practices that encourage you not to identify with your thoughts is a good place to start. I have done a video called Manage Your Mind that you might find helpful ❤️

@Jennifer-us9oz 2 года назад

This is easily the best, most helpful, insightful and REAL conversation I’ve ever come across on this topic. I love all of your videos (and the podcast) but this one resonated on a whole new level. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and for keeping recovery expectations realistic & manageable but still hopeful/attainable ❤️

@casper2598 8 дней назад

I tried putting it on the back burner and loved eating so much that I gained 12 pounds in a month so I can't do that. I will always have to keep my eating in check

@t3mptr3s 25 дней назад

My issue is... I'm morbidly obese and for my health I need to lose weight.

@H0NEYBRE4D 3 года назад

i just discovered your content and am so grateful that you speak about relationships with food in such a candid, truthful and compassionate way 🥺 this video is especially pertinent to me right now and i look forward to learning more from you!

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

honey menu Hi, thank you so much for the kind words. Welcome ❤️❤️❤️

@jay6817 8 месяцев назад

100% me. Been watching your vids an listening to your Podcasts, but this simple question. Wow!

@vickismith3290 8 месяцев назад

This also makes me think it is just like I had to admit I have anxiety. It is probably never going away but I know it is there and I just live with it just like the desire to lose weight.

@MindyZielfelderArt 2 месяца назад

I've decided that you're truly amazing.

@bikrchikie 2 года назад

Sarah, another thoughtful video from you, I can't thank you enough for your honesty and providing this so valuable information and making FREE! It has been nothing short of quote life-changing" for me. Thank you so much💖 .

@mzwandilemkhwanazi2882 6 дней назад

I am scared I hope someday I will be strong enough. I wish to focus on the present and be kind

@61chihugs Год назад

I will focus on asking myself, 'Is this food choice nutritionally dense?' This video has encouraged and given me hope.

@angelamaloch515 6 месяцев назад

Excellent insights

@sarahsmusicals Год назад

The better question is why is is not loose weight or binge. Why can’t you understand that it’s not just a desire. It is a health requirement in many cases including mine. I know that I need to loose it as I had been fibbed off for years due to my weight. Turns out I couldn’t feel my legs and was heading towards being paralysed because I needed neurosurgery. I would likely ah e ended up in a wheelchair without the weight

@sn281076 Год назад

Sarah, you're amazing. Your videos are the most realistic & helpful resource I've come across. I've felt such an energy, mind shift since "binging" (pardon the pun) on all of them. Love your Podcast too. I consider you the voice of reason in this space & obviously your painful journey was delivered bc you have a real gift to help others. Thank you x

@Niekard 21 день назад

I'm really scared, I came here because I can't take ozempic for weight loss anymore (as it should be, I'm sorry for being selfish). I'm scared everything will go back to the cycle. I loved not thinking about food every 30 minutes. I only have two modes, punishment after eating too much or just... eating too much. So 'letting go' sounds horrific. I gained 20kg after I decided to stop restricting. I don't even want to be a super model I just want my old self back. I just want to tie my shoes without my tummy pressing into my ribs so hard. Or being out of breath after doing the cat litter. I'm so scared, but I'm trying.

@melissal3383 4 месяца назад

Read any of his books or listen to Michael Singer on RU-vid. Teaches people how to transcend human problems. How our thoughts about our thoughts are the root of most issues. I’ve often wondered if I’m addicted to my addictions. They are not severe but annoying enough that I get pulled into them constantly. It’s the perfectionist mindset. 9 out of ten days I eat well. Then one evening, usually bcz I’ve not eaten ENOUGH that last day or two a night binge will kick off followed by a miserable night of sleep.

@Huda-ve4qi 5 месяцев назад

Thank you.

@gilliansharma2548 3 года назад

Thank you SO much, yet another video from you that hits it on the head. I needed the reminder that when I focus on weight loss,my eating is chaotic and upsetting (thanks January diet triggers). But also thank you for the body acceptance comments/intuitive eating purists. My internal conflict between trying to be body positive and still in the back of my mind wanting to be 'thin' has been yet another thing to beat myself up about! Love your content and can't express how much your words help.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

Gillian Sharma Ah, thanks so much for the comment Gillian. It means a lot ❤️❤️

@allisonn4527 3 года назад

I am so glad I found your channel everything you say I can relate, thank you for being there for everyone who is struggling .

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

I’m very glad you found me too and that my content resonates with you ❤️

@jenniferjer3332 Месяц назад

It's hard to abandon the desire for weight loss when I've been overweight most of my life. Now my health is taking a toll and it seems vital. Some healthier ways of eating or some people may call them diets, help me for a while. I get good results. I feel better and healthier and then the temptations come in. Then I cave and eat foods that don't make me feel very good. That aren't on my plan and then it all just seems to crash and burn. And I'm back to eating unhealthy foods and my motivation is gone to do better. It just is a vicious cycle.

@bryanmatthews8917 Год назад

Still really enjoying your video content and have listened to the podcast as well. Alot resonating with me. I have read a book called Fierce Self-compassion by Kristin Neff. Although the orientation of the book is for women, I found the content really useful. It is still hard for me to accept myself where I am. Meditation practices have helped.

@marciamorrow9710 6 месяцев назад

Thanks!

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 6 месяцев назад

Thank you! That’s very kind ❤️

@gilbertonino5703 3 года назад

When people are talking about realising the desire to lose weight. More realistically, I think they mean to ignore or agree that it is not fair to live in lust of the desire when it does come up. Personally I agree but I also believe that it is fair to desire it. It is totally fair that we do. It is for good reason. We must give or ego that; that It is fair. But we must also let it know that we need love. And that the desire to lose weight is accepted. It will not be ignore; we understand why. Come into constant agreement to see what we can do to pay our egos desire respect in return for acceptance for our issue: befriending your ego; Not to try and kill it.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

Gilberto Nino I agree. Making friends with our egos is the path to peace, not trying to destroy them

@kamilawilkosz4525 15 дней назад

Thank you so much!

@seydanurbuyukarslan06 6 месяцев назад

iit makes me cry :')thx

@missesmongo5307 4 месяца назад

Dear Sarah, here is what I do. I treat it like a job. Meaning I excersise daily for 30 or 45 minutes. No matter my mood, or if I'm tiered. Like for my job I show up and lift my weights or go swimming etc I'm 59 and post-menauposal and everything is sagging. On good days I track my calories. But doing sports every day, with no excuses, has helped me loose 10 kilos in a half year. So my goal ist not to loose weight, but to get firmer. The weightloss ist a nice side effect. Greetings from Germany ❤

@ChickenDuckish 3 месяца назад

I think your missed the point.

@missesmongo5307 3 месяца назад

@@ChickenDuckish my evening training keeps my after work, home alone binges at bay. Since I do sports, I feel less lonley and bored. For me itś part of my self care and self love. Fewer binges and sports equals weight loss for me. Iḿ not over the hill yet, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Wishing you all the best :)

@kamilawilkosz4525 15 дней назад

This is extremely useful 🙏

@ayaaly2866 2 года назад

You have no idea how every single word you've said felt like a worm hug that I really needed I've been in a recovery journey for 3 years now and I was thinking it's over and the last year I loved my weight and I was able to maintain it but recently I've gained a little bit of weight and it's like the end of the world in my mind I want to lose those pounds with healthy mindset thank you so much definitely will binge watching your videos now😂❤️

@Plethorality Год назад

I hope you meant "warm hug"? Not worm? ; )

@ayaaly2866 Год назад

@@Plethorality 😂English isn't my first language sorry not sorry

@christinerizkalla7062 9 месяцев назад

You are helping me so much Sarah And I am from Egypt 🇪🇬 , yes u reached Egypt

@lunamorvran8202 Месяц назад

What if you are morbidly obese and you have to lose weight to save your life?

@allisonabante5038 2 года назад

thank u so much!!! i really love ur content. it is very helpful for me. it is realistic and approachable

@lucysnowe3571 3 месяца назад

What about every time you focus on weight you add in thoughts of other benefits of not bingeing like good noghts sleep, betterental health etc

@melaniemackenzie4432 3 года назад

Really helpful video. The thinking about how it actually affects you and also the part about allowing yourself to accept that you may still have the desire but that it is something you have to manage was very though provoking. Thank you xx

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

You are very welcome. Happy to hear it provoked your thoughts ☺️

@NatblidaAscende 2 года назад

This video was amazing. Thank you!

@Lebrook4609 9 месяцев назад

What if it is not a desire to lose weight, but a mandate to? I’m struggling with managing if both BED and losing weight to manage diabetes 😢

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 9 месяцев назад

I don’t have the answer. We know that pursuing weight loss makes binge eating worse and I don’t know a way around that. There are health promoting behaviours that help a lot with diabetes such as increasing fiber intake and moving after meals. This account shares non diet ways to manage diabetes: instagram.com/prediabetes.nutrition?igshid=MmVlMjlkMTBhMg==

@jmgsb 3 года назад

Took so many insights from this… wow! Have to listen to it again. Let it sink

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 3 года назад

Glad you found it useful 🙂

@arcadianmorning Год назад

This was sooooo helpful to reframe things for me. Thank you! I have been talking to my BED therapist and nutritionist about this concept but they've never really been able to answer me in a realistic way like you've done here. I'm super future-focused and always comparing my now to where I want to be and feeling disappointed. But focusing on the goals here and now, today, is really the only thing I can control, and feels way less overwhelming.

@jenniferjer3332 Месяц назад

Great video ❤