Social Anxiety. Having no friends. Low self esteem. 

True. I use to daydream all the time but reality hit me after High school. I will never live like my fantasies world. I kinda over it.

Like maladaptive daydreaming?

@@kezimathew8149 I wasn't that extreme.

Daydreaming can be good if you channel it into something creative in the real world. Like writing a book or making art.

@@SuperSilverJay Definitely. I could've written some great movies in my day but alas I didn't.

Sorry youre experiencing all this Aman, definitely affects our quality of lives. Im hoping that youve been able to find some healthy ways to cope....and you have some support!!! Praying for better days 🧡🙏🏽☀️

I feel u on all that especially eye contact. It’s so hard to keep eye contact for me but even when I do make eye contact I’m not even listening to what the person is saying because I’m too busy thinking that they’re judging me or thinking about how I look

@Andrews cool its the porn lol

Andrews cool ive seen commenting on SkippyJessop videos

@@kevinduran9763 on some real shit

👍

I read this in your voice, you make great videos 💚

I can relate. I've been experiencing trembling while at social gatherings (like, family gatherings or at uni). Sadly, I think the only way to overcome social anxiety is socialising more and just pushing through it.

BlackySpeakz? wtf are you doing here bruh? 😭😭😭

Lmao OH shit it's Becky?? Brah you have social anxiety too? Damn nice to see you here mate ☺

For reallllll I’ve done that all my life

Yup, imagining of having fun with friends or other people, but in real life you can't do it... I hate having social anxiety.

Maybe we all should create a place for ourselves? Like a small Group chat?

We should do that like it's hard to make friends but I always wondered why isn't there a chat for people that are introverted and have social anxiety @@ujnas3757

@@e.p.753 after commenting here I realized I made a mistake. But I think it's a good suggestion for everyone lonely out there. The only problem is I won't be in that gc. I left all social media except WhatsApp where I'll get good morning msg every day from dad and won't be seeing any much friendship or love related posts. Last month I search about an app where ppl with hard time can open up and make friends, and I found true life and guess what, it's the worst situation there. Alot of fake ppl, Pedos popular people. I had to leave that app after using for only 3-4 days. I met one person there, we bcm pretty close and I legit thought I am saved. But later I got hurt by that person only, and as a last post it was too much for me and I said I'm doing something bad to myself to get that sadness out BCS I got it from that app and leave form once and for all, i got a new msg saying they will be there for me. But....last week I came to know that it was the same person who first hurt me texted me seeing the post saying I'm doing something bad BCS ofthat person, with a fake AC saying they will be there for me :(

I had the same experience

i wished more people knew this... And if youre thinking about it do it for real there are NO disadvantages!

Yeah right social media is destroying people's brain its just leads them to depression that's all and everything on social media is fake

@@abhinavsirohi2197 i knoooow btch and only when u quit it u realize at what point its fucked up! These followers and this showing off smh

@@everybodydotheflop4342 iM GOING TO DO IT. STARTING NOW. I NEED THIS RN. I WILL GIVE YOU GUYS UPDATES!

Joseph Chaney that’s exactly me. I don’t bother looking at pretty girls because 1. Many complain that guys that look at them are creepy. 2. I don’t wanna boost anyone’s ego because girls are complimented like a thousand times during the day and so they’re used to being stared at and complimented.

Christopher Josef fr man

@@christopherjosef5164 amen bro, some real shit

facts

@Christopher Josef Wow, what you wrote is what you call beautiful! If only everyone was like you! Thankyou for saying that! I have so much respect for you Chris 🙏🏽💖

Hey Sarah 🥰 What you said was so beautiful, and I agree with you 100%!! The picnic idea actually sounds awesome, if only we all lived in the same place!!! You seem like such a lovely soul, I hope you are doing well girl! 🧡

@@anitha_kannan made my day:) thank you for your reply💕

it's not like that in real life. when people ask "why don't you have friends" or "why don't you do anything for fun" and you can't give an answer then they think you must be one of those crazy chicks and stop talking to you

@@kite6864 idk, maybe we all have a bit different experience.

"interesting" Even people in online chat (where I can truly let out my true self) found me to be pretty boring lol.

Not a pleasant place to be ey!!!

Same

Especially when people know you spent your time over there.

It's also my case, and I do feel pretty ashamed of this

I thought I was the only one who spent lunch in the bathroom stall. Im glad to know that this is actually a thing.

Hey hey! Im so glad you were able to relate to that, I hope youre doing okay and that things will get better for you sweetheart!! Sending you nothing but love 🧡🥰

@@anitha_kannan dont think you have to be able to have big converstations. at the end of the day, the soul is deeper with more thoughts and theres a beauty in not always feeling the need to socialize all the time. tthats how you have power in your life, and inner life.

All you need is more practice. Get comfortable being uncomfortable for awhile and you will gain confidence. Don't hide from it

Everyone else is also preoccupied with themselves, they won't remember that moment of tiny embarrassment that you believed to be detrimental. We're humans, don't worry about it. Most people are more accepting of others than you probably think. Most people also forget the nuances like when you pronounced a word slightly weird, I pay attention and remember the flaws in other people but I don't let that change my view of them, I just find it fascinating that try so hard to be perfect, let the energy flow freely and you will feel so much better. :D

Same...it’s hard esp during job interviews.

@@joshy2joshy thank you a lot thats really good advice bro much love

@@johndouglas7213 youre right no more hiding thanks for the advice much appreciated

Do you have any social media? I’ll be your friend :) I need new friends

@@jenluvzya Yes I'm on twitter @JP1186 :)

heey im the same... i had friends before but i stopped communicating with them after my social anxiety had worsened!!! dont give up though!

jay p research pyroluria. It's a genetic condition that causes lifelong, severe social anxiety. And, it's treatable with vitamin supplements and detox. It could be life changing for you!

I'll follow ya!

Yeah that's exactly how I feel! I mean, I tried to lessen my social anxiety before I left college but I still feel the same. People have even asked 'don't you speak' and that just makes me feel even worse! But it's the social anxiety getting in the way because if you know me like my immediate family and friends, they'd tell you that I'm loud, funny and outgoing because that is my true personality but I'm completely different at college bc in scared I'm gonna get a negative reaction. I don't even make eye contact with anyone I'm constantly just nervously smiling to the extent where you can tell I'm always nervous around people. I'm the most nervous around people my age group but not around older people it's so frustrating bc it prevents me from making friends. Everyday is a task for me honestly. I always feel like there's something stopping me from talking and socialising. I just need help man.

Hey beautiful!! Firstly thankyou so much for expressing your story, it takes alot of courage just opening up about SA in any form of communication- so be proud 🧡 and both the comments you wrote I actually cannot even begin to describe how accurate your deseiption of your situation was to mine, its insane. Even the tiniest detail that you mentioned about feeling super anxious around people your age but not older people I FEEL EXACTLY THATS AS WELL OH MY GOODNESS! I swear i thought i was the only one wow, im so suprised. I know exactly what u mean with the whole trying to say something cool.... i used to always think what was wrong with me and why i wasnt fitting in... i thought i had to always say something cool or funny to keep people around me... which was way too exhausting and unnatural for my mind... just got sick of that. And holy wow, the part where u said like youre super loud and funny and YOURSELF at home but completely different the minute u step out of home, that is exactly what i go through. I feel like i have 2 different people living in me sometimes hahaha, like im so freaking loud and bubbly and crazy fun at home, and then im like this statue when im around people, and i hate when everyone is just chatting, like i want to escape but at the same time i die to be a part of the group and laughing with them. Its a battle. Im so so sorry you are going through this hun. But as they say things do get better with time, mine has improved alot since i posted the video but i still have bits and pieces left that may take years to improve.... its a complicated thing ey... and i know it sucks more that youre in college having to go through this because college is supposed to be that time were you create even more new friends and full of fun like they all say... but mine was literally just like high school... walking around alone, maybe 1 or 2 people i sit with in the classroom, but the minute we leave the classroom , im nothing to them and all alone until the next class. I feel like it will be a lot better if you try to accept and be kind to yourself during this battle, never blame yourself or doubt yourself . Just remember none of this and i mean NONE of this is your fault. So keep loving yourself, treating yourself, have fun with yourself, im not saying its easy, but thats what im doing right now, im being my own best friend and trying to be postive. At then end we are left alone with ourselves so why not just be our own best friend until opportunities come naturally... this may sound weird but it really is working... speak to me whenever u need to chantelle. I appreciate you telling me your story and i pray for you 🧡 Youre a beautiful soul! Lots of love!! 😇 Anitha

I'm so glad that I'm not alone and I love having people to talk to who are going through the same shit as me because you guys understand me! Yeah I agree with what you're saying, I think that I need to be my own best friend and focus on myself. I'm just too busy trying to fit in etc. I'm glad that your social anxiety has improved and I hope that you continue to stay strong. Hopefully, I will be following in your footsteps and my social anxiety will decrease too. You truly are an inspiration Anitha! Thank you so much for the support. Chanelle x

and yeah its such a shame that I don't have people like you around me because I think that you and Mel seem like really cool people! I think that it's important to keep in touch with each other xxx

i relate :(

Heyy hun! OMG DONT CRYYYYY! That seriously breaks my heart 😞 you must be in a really difficult situation, and yes i know exactly what u mean, its even harder when theres no one who understands!!!! Aww i would love to be friends with u as well, you seem like such a sweetheart ❤️ if u need to talk to me, you can message me any time and ill give u my email ☀️🧡 i really hope youre OKAY. I feel terrible knowing that you cried :/

Me too 😭😭 I think mine is from cptsd I hate my life

I don’t know who I am

I’m a 25 year old man and still fell like a scared little boy 😢

Ekene Anamanya I so relate to you guys

Because here, we’ve all come together, but in real life we’re all spread out in the world I wish I could meet at least 1 person just like me. My case of social anxiety (I have selective mutism, BUT also social anxiety - both similar) is so hard to understand sometimes...

Exactly. It's heartbreaking. I'm so much like her.

I just created this channel on discord with the name Anxious Peeps, if anyone is interested, lets come in contact with each other and create a friendly community for ourselves. You can search the name of the channel on discord, or join using this link discord.gg/Yd6UH7qS although idk how long this link lasts.

Same here. Luckily I had a teacher who would let me sit in their classroom during lunch.

@@Ali_delightful that’s sweet

@@trahadbad It really was. It was such a huge help then.

Bro I swear I thought that was only me, it’s such a painful feeling

Same

Can you share the wealth I'm about to be homeless because of this condition.

Yea you and the rest of these dumb ass fake loner videos

Same.......... are you me? Because literally same

Sebastian Darko shut up you’re probably depressed and hate life

I'll be your friend😥

I know exactly what youre saying, all those missed opportunities... thankyou so much, i appreciate that, i also prayyy for you to get through this and for you future! God bless you bro 🧡

Hey Joseph!! Im sorry about my late reply, i just saw your comment but i think youve deleted it? I REALLY appreciate what you wrote to me!!! Im so sorry that you had to feel like that in your first relationship, i actually went through exactly the same thing and it was so nerve racking!! I really hope youre alright!! Sorry if i offended you by not replying sooner... and thanks so much, that means a heck of a lot to me☀️☺️

Yeah i think i just got a little embarrassed.Om really not the type of person to share my feelings with the public and no you did not offend me in anyway.im just a really shy person.

I completely understand Joseph, when i had social media back in the day i used to comment and feel so weird (dont know the perfect word) but then delete it! So i feel you! You seem like an amazing and kind person, i appreciate that you shared such a personal thing with me! Youre super brave 🧡

@@extrashotofespresso_ I think maladaptive dreaming is helping us because we feel powerless creating the world we want in 'real life' so we go into our own head. It makes complete sense why people would stay in their dream world if they are not getting their needs met in real life. I think the next step is for people like us to figure out how to get (or create) what we need in the real world, which will take courage, trial and error, and connecting with other people that have needs we can both meet (mutally beneficial emotional connection). We are doing the best we can from where we are at for the time being. :)

Me when I had acne

I 100% get what you mean. I’m constantly having to tell myself it’s the lies we tell ourselves. Bc I have had close friends who in a moment of strength, I would ask them if they noticed something ab me whether my anxiety or whatever and they’d look at me so surprised and confused as they hadn’t realized anything. I truly believe that we are our worst enemies. My own negative thoughts want to bring me down and everytime I tell myself that, and even on hard days tell myself to push through it, it’s not as bad

@@myaaisha3147 same but even with my acne basically gone, and only a few pimples here and there that aren’t that bad, I somehow mentally treat them as this big deal and still feel like they’re judging me. The mind doesn’t make any sense😂 I know my negative thoughts aren’t real but they don’t seem to leave

Yeah that's my problem. I ask people if I look scared and they say yeah it's not even that they don't tend to notice anything.

I've been trying to improve my eye contact with people as I work in a shop. When I look into others eyes usually the only thing I'm thinking is that they have nice eyes.

Feeling you up until last sentence. Animals are the best companion... cats the best spirit. Thou personal taste differs. Really share your couch with a soul in need. Shelters are full. They'll give you 100% back with no ugly deeds. Compared to sucky humans they are best of real friends. Only problem they die way to soon.

Don't worry, you will find a great companion for life. Just send out love and positive energy and you will receive the same tenfold. Thirty three is still a very youthful age. Just volunteer wherever you can and give to others whatever you can. The Universe will reward you in return multifold and in abundance. Don't overthink and imagine unnecessary stuff. Just smile a lot. Do the Ho'oponopono meditation (available in the internet) and see miracles unwind. You are a beautiful woman and an extremely lovely soul.

Same here so don’t feel so bad , I’ll tell you what helps me is, I hurt my knee so I started basic calisthenics, they have program or regimen here on RU-vid, and I noticed the exercise made me feel so much better, I started doing them right after work, then during my break at work, now I exercise as soon as I get to work, some time at break n after work 3 times a day different exercises, it helps with me feeling like crap , and excepting of being a lone wolf , and I’m friendlier, and the opposite sex is starting to look at me more so that is really cool , but yea maybe you can try exercising, it’s the only thing that helped me! Nothing else came close, but I am still depressed every day so that’s why I do it

Nobody, NOBODY, wished me a happy birthday last year. Nobody... literally.. except my home room teacher who had a record of all our birthdays at the front of the classroom Made my self esteem even worse... I know it’s just something small, but what if I were to say.. ALL my school life nobody has ever wished me a happy birthday? I also remember my 5th birthday, nobody was there except for my mom, younger sister (who was still 1 at the time), and my auntie, and grandma. Oh well..

@@beanhead7632 happy birthday but consider urself lucky , see how much ur family loves you !!! Now you be good to you’re little sister

Heyyy hun!! I completely understand what youre saying!!!! I hope youre okay, i really appreciate that you shared this! Im glad u were able to relate to my video, i personally felt a heap lot better when i watch videos of other people sharing their story!! I really hope youre alright though, social anxiety is a serious thing and i would suggest telling someone you trust and how its impacting your life. It makes it a tiny bit easier! Sending lots of love your way ❤️☀️

Exactlyyy, and when I try to make friends and talk to people, I'm nervous cuz I'm afraid of saying stupid things, so I'm quiet most of the time and everyone think I'm weird

start reciting this word " Ya Baiso" meaning "O the giver of life" you will become confident, further contacts me on fazli subhan138@gmail.com

Very positive comment, bless you man

I feel like people with social anxiety are really kind people

@@Luuth peace and blessings to you, as well.

@@grey027 I agree.

Great perspective of social anxiety. Chewing gum really does help when going into a situation that increases your anxiety. I read somewhere that When you’re eating, your brain thinks there is no immediate danger, otherwise you wouldn’t be eating, tricking it helps. Sometimes I even have to chew gum when taking a walk or going grocery shopping. Man, anxiety can be hard to live with.

May Allah grant you ease

Oh nooo:( If you lived in Prague I’d give you a hug

Honestly try tinder. You will be surptised

lowkey relatable

How do you feel being around people who are exactly like you?

@@stoopidnametag pretty much the same. I’m just don’t like being around people. It bothers me pretty bad

@Return of The Green Elephant I was. But she cheated and I left

You're not alone. I don't like being in crowds either especially since my symptoms are noticeable. I get mistakened for being scared and I mean scared I guess because anxiety has a look you look like normal that they can't guess so no body expects me having anxiety. I can't even imagine walking past a group of " friends or people familiar with another". I would freeze up.

Sorry about the grammatical and spelling errors I was in my feelings and I just typed it fast

OMG THIS WAS SO AMAZING TO READ especially first thing in the morning!! 🧡 this was seriously such awesome advice, and i feel so freaking HAPPY to know that you have overcome your social anxiety- youre probably the first person to say that- so proud of you ☺️ i love the part about how you said to look an old photo, thats actually such a beautiful way to help me to stop torturing my mind. You are seriously an inspiration, god bless you ❤️ Hahahahh it all made sense at the end, stuff grammar haha! This was some real stuff, can tell its from the heart! Appreciate it so much 😘 hope nothing but happiness for you!!!!!

The Real you couldn’t be any more correct , I love this thank you. I always get that negative second voice in my head ... but I don’t catch myself quick enough to question those thoughts .

Best comment ever! God bless you too.

Good advice

Oh my goodness, I UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING YOUR WROTE ! I feel your pain so much 😓 those exact words “rude, weird, uninteresting....” always run through my mind when interacting! It drives me nuts! I hope there are atleast other things in your life that bring positivity and happiness, i really do hope love 🧡🧡 i am so grateful that you shared your situation with me 🦋

I'm the same way. First start to build your confidence.

I feel the exact same way sometimes! Hang in there, if you ever need a friend I’m here. 🤚🏻

Same story here

start reciting this word " Ya Baiso" meaning "O the giver of life" you will become confident, further contacts me on fazli subhan138@gmail.com

Are you okay? I hope youre doing alright!! Its new year over here, I hope 2019 will be an amazing year for you 🧡

Anitha Kannan Yes I’m fine, one day at a time 😊💗 happy new year too you, hope this year is your best one yet, just keep going you got this 👏🏽

Please DO NOT merely give up and succumb to despair and ennui. You WILL MAKE IT THROUGH THIS SHORT AND UNPLEASANT PACE. :)

I'm 18 and I Fantasise so much 😩😩

Keep fighting

you will get through it

Ditto. No idea how to change this. I feel like something awful is going to happen all the time. I'm scared ALL the time . Nothing has helped, meds, counseling, alternative therapy . This is NO LIFE

We can all get through this together. Let’s just encourage each other and give everyone hope.

@@Grungefan2018 I feel the same way. It’s died down a bit as time has gone on and I find it’s helped to remind myself that I do have friends who care about me, and to pay more attention to how good the world seems to naturally be. There’s been so many situations I’ve been in in public where someone could’ve taken advantage, stolen my stuff, been angry at me for something I did, etc and 9 times out of 10 they were nice and respectful instead. Reminding me I dropped my wallet/returning my phone, letting me know I left my gas tank open when filling up, not honking like a mad man for a small mistake made while driving.

Hey beautiful ❤️ Omg, you are soooo lovely & so kind girl, thankyouuuu so much! You seriously made my day! I would love to be friends with you too, you seem so geniune and warm hun, wow, need more people like you around! Things are definitely better than the time I posted this, I hope you are okayyyy, i dont know what your situation is like but I just hope youre coping okay with any struggles you may have love! Sending you so much love and an ENORMOUS HUG xoxo 🤗🤗🤗

Hey Isabel! 💕 Thats awesome girl! The love and support of everyone here is INCREDIBLE and just something else! We're a family!

You and everyone here are so relatable. I makes me feel better :)

same 🥺

I thought I was simply not the verge of going crazy, thanks for sharing this

Nan it just means your defent so stop crying and move on

i know what you mean about not feeling human around aot of people!!! i become hyper aware of my strange human form!!! and operating it feels like im a fake person!!! its hell!!!!! and being overly optimistic and cocky is very tiering and fake!!! walking around confident makes me feel foolish because ultimately i really have no real control in this galaxy!!!! im just apart of it!!!a slave!!! a cog in the machine and pretending to have achiop on my shoulder because im a master at a few things isnt enough to truley mean it!!!!

At my job when I go to male restroom during breaks I frequently hear sobbing from stalls. There are so many people going through this.

Hey girl! The fact you got bullied makes me so freaking upset, i dont know how people can be so evil! im so sorry you had to experience this! YOU are beautiful and SO STRONG- you look like a queen in your picture 💕 I hope youre coping okay love!

@@anitha_kannan Thank you so much!! I don't have any friends. The one friend I have is myself. You are a beautiful person. I need more people like you in my life. ♥️

We must be twins if everything in this video reminded you of you! Im so sorry you had to also experience these feelings, youre so strong love! YOURE A FIGHTER! I hope youre doing okay! Sending you an incredible amount of love and a big hug 💜💜

@@anitha_kannan Hello Anitha, your experience is touching and I commend you for sharing. How could I contact you? I'd love to converse and share some experiences with you.

Guess we all speak like that due to the sadness in our heart and the lack of frequent conversations

Oh man, Im typically a lurker but I just felt like I had to comment cuz I hundred percent feel every word you just typed. Especially viewing others as "gods". This comparison we do with others is toxic I just don't know how to break it. I'm turning 28 too and feel like I haven't lived. Big time inferiority complex. In social situations I just turn into a mannequin. I feel like I can't add anything of value to a conversation. Do you feel the same? I wish you the best and hope you continue making progress. We are valuable in ways we may never understand or believe but somebody out there needs us.

Sameer problemen here tnk god people r like me are there i always thought I'm the only one in this world living like thisssss😢😢😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭😭😭

27 and in a similar situation, but do not lose hope. Focus on getting out for walks in places with a fair amount of people. Find hobbies you enjoy, whether or not they involve people. I would recommend at least forcing yourself to go out to a park or a walking path in your town or city where you can pass by folks and just get used to the energies of crowds, then work your way up to conversation. Exposure therapy is what I'm currently doing and it's helping, so long as I don't flake on my goals. Find a craft or career skill that tickles your fancy and do whatever you can to practice that skill at home. Then look into the trades or in forest ranger jobs. Do creative and practical physical things on top of your exercise regimen. Just some random suggestions, take it or leave it. Your not alone. I sincerely pray everything gets better for you soon.🙏😊

Hey Rennell!! 🥰 First of all I just wanted to say thankyou so much for writing a bit about your struggles/story.. I really appreciate it!! And Im so sorry youve been experincing SA since you were 10 years old- 28 years of feeling like this is heartbreaking! I actually understand every single word you wrote here, especially when you said you feel "dead" inside! It hurts me so much to know you feel this way, especially when you still feel alone even with a partner- i completely understand!! Things have gotten better for me, my SA hasnt just magically disappeared, but through gradual exposure and meeting genuine people it has gotten better!! I think meeting people who have a very similar mindset and who are truly "good" and genuine and kind hearted just helps so much- its so rare to come across people like that but when you do you can talk about actual things/life, deep topics and somehow SA is not in the picture! Im still working on it, but at the same time the feeling you described of feeling "dead" inside did really get to me, and its a type of apathy, so Ive been trying to always do something different every day and get out of my bubble or else I will go back to feeling like that- so Im keeping myself busy, even if im on my own! You have such a beautiful smile (seeing your picture) I PRAY that your situation does get better, YOU ARE SUCH A STRONG PERSON, youre a real warrior Rennell!! 💛 Sending you lots of love!!

Therapy ?

@@anitha_kannan I feel your pain Anitha and Rennell. Imo, taking ownership of your flaws is key. Whatever you fear that people will know or think about you (like being awkward and socially inept, fragile and nervous), you must learn to "humbly" take ownership of that, and accept that about yourself. When you can accept it, you will no longer fear people discovering it about you, and eventually you won't fear awkward social interactions much because you learn to fully accept that awkward social interactions are truly [ok]. You don't need to say the right things, or to have a smooth social interaction. It's ok if you're the only one around that's socially awkward. They are ok, because they are something real that you experience, and you deserve to honor yourself with the dignity and respect of accepting yourself, of whom has those experiences. Anxiety is a part of who you are. That's ok. Own it. It's likely to be a long journey to reach complete social liberation, but when you begin owning that which you fear.. the fear begins to lose its grip over you. It's one step forward at a time. Just begin to move forward, (at your rate), and you'll get to whereever you get. You'll be moving out of fear, in the right direction as you put one step at a time out of comfort and through the firewalls of your fears. Willingly, walk into the fire to melt those chains. Humility, dignity and taking ownership of that which is feared, are the essential tools that I find most helpful. Learn to accept about yourself, that which you fear others will discover. It's ok to be socially awkward and different. Just, in gentle steps, stop trying to hide it, or avoid it. Don't focus on what other people think about it; but rather, focus on you accepting it. Do [you] accept [you] with anxiety? The more that you do, the less it will hold any grip over you.

I feel for you, man!

@@Alovedhuman Therapy is always on the table but sadly its just bad timing especially when working 6 days a week and building a business in between.

Hang in there

*once you learn how your mind works

Hey hun! OH MY GOODNESS! This comment honestly made me happy cry (when I was reading it in the bathroom during my work break) YOU have NO idea how much this means to me! You made my day ❤️ Thankyou so so much for your freaking amazingly kind words! You definitely boosted my self esteem today☺️ and I cannot believe you go through the same thing, you’re the first person I know who has this horrible self esteem thing, I’m so sorry you have to go through such a shitty thing 😞 I know that it’s mostly in my head, but I just find it so difficult to stop all those negative thoughts about the way I look... if u don’t mind me asking was there a particular thing that happened to you when you were younger to constantly think that everyone thinks you’re ugly? I went onto your account, tried to see if you had any videos, but you don’t !!! I’ve subscribed to you! It’d be awesome to see videos of you, I can barely see you in your picture! And you always have my support with anything, I’m so glad you found my video, I feel like if we lived in the same city we would be such close friends because of the same thing we are going through! Hope you are okay ! Hope to hear from you soon! You’re an amazing person just know that! 🧡🧡☀️☺️

+Anitha Kannan Awww it fills me with joy knowing that you happy cried 😭😭💙💙 I really do see a lot of strength in you. And I know that one day your intense anxiety will dissipate. And all of those fantasies you play out in your head will one day become reality. Patience is key, never lose hope. ❤ I do think there were some events in my childhood that could have contributed to my low self-esteem. In 6th grade, a girl called me "retarded looking" and I never forgot about that. And in 9th grade, my dad straight up told me I'm ugly. I know these should be insignificant comments, but it could have contributed greatly to my horrible self-esteem. What about you?? You are literally a goddess, I can't understand why you wouldn't feel pretty!!! And I also think that if we lived in the same town, we would definitely be good friends!!

Lorenz aj everything you said, it’s too relatable to an extent I see the mirror in you in myself, I’m gay, people says I’m good looking, i went to the gym 7 times a week every time loneliness creeps me up. I have extreme low self esteem, I wake up everyday staring at a mirror wanting to change everything about my face, I have high expectations to have my strict gains. I am so done using social media as I have a 50 year old fashioned thinking like what Anitha said, for this account’s sake but please text me @tengyoong

Samee I hate being in public cuz I feel like everyone’s eyes are on me, judging me and thinking I’m disgustingly ugly 😢

Just remember everyone has things they are dealing with. Not everybody is perfect no matter how perfect they may seem.

That is a shitty comment to make. Why would her outward appearance mean that she thinks/behaves in a certain way?

Thank-you so much for sharing this with me love! 💙 I appreciate it! And I understand what you mean with work, Im at a job where Im able to keep SA at the most minimal! I love how you said you wont give up even though you dont have friends and feel disconnected! I also admire the fact that youve stayed at these jobs for so long, so much respect for you- i cant imagine working at a place for 23 years that's mentally destroying, youre a warrior in my eyes! God bless you love!

what do you do at the chemical company? i would like to work alone too.

Omg i was thinking the same thing. Are u on twitter?

Hey Vessey! I am so glad that you were able to relate to parts of my video ! And i cant believe that you also sit in the car during work break, i completely understand the struggles! And i used to go to the gym but at 3-4 am 😂 but same reason as you, to use the gym when no one would be there, but there always would be someone who would come in half way through, so i would pretend like i finished and leave.... And a 6 year relationship, now thats long. Im hoping that youre okay, i know its not easy, you seem like a very genuine and kind soul, i feel like when it comes to dating- it all happens when we least expect it, so dont give up and continue to be that warior that you are ☀️ I really appreciate you sharing a piece of your story, it means alot to me, and makes me feel less alone knowing there are people with similar struggles so thankYOU ☺️

Wow thank you so much for sharing this. But I have to disagree, I think everyone deserves people to be with and hang out with. Everyone, no matter how shitty they are, deserves love. And you're not even a terrible person so you definitely do!

FinTheHuman I think your mentality is what makes people weak. Why do we deserve anything? You’re alive, you out of a million sperm got to the egg and made it out ALIVE everything else in this world is a bonus, people’s worst assumption is thinking we all deserve happiness. How entitled of humans. How about working and pursuing the things we want

@@Southforthewinter not ready to have an online fight in this nice comment section so I'm just going to say that I respectfully disagree :)

I can't go to Instagram because of my social anxiety plus my English is horrible 😂😭

Ahhhhh you sound exactly like me !! Damn, the part where u said you expected life to be more fulfilling 😩 i so get you, i feel so trapped! I hope youre okayyyyy! It sounds awful just sitting in the room, i know how hard it is! Just remember that you are a warrior, and i really REALLLLY PRAY AND HOPE YOUR SITUATION WILL get better 🤞🏽🧡 sending huge amount of love xxx

Girl my anxiety so bad that college is not an option

Why should beauty necessarily correlate with having confidence/high self esteem or other positive values? Beauty is at the end of the day just genetic luck

@@liamhowgate4022 often approached or spoken to more often thus leading to more social interaction and likely to form friendships. That is the usual reason why people think like that, which is not always the case.

@@liamhowgate4022 It's not luck to be honest it highly depends on the parents, if you've noticed. Luck would be if two ugly people have a beautiful child. Beauty definitely gives you a better advantage at gaining social acceptance, which could be developed into confidence/self esteem.

OMGGG! :'( ARE U OK? u must be in so much pain, knowing u cried makes me so upset! i used to watch videos on social anxiety (not much out there) but when i connected with someones story i would just cry uncontrollably, so i completely understand what you are feeling hun! just know YOU ARE SO PRECIOUS AND AN ABSOLUTE WARRIOR! I PRAY FOR YOU, and your healing AND NOTHING BUT LOVE AND GOOD PEOPLE in your life

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Life is very tough in so many ways, I know what you mean when you say you feel like you cant handle it...and ive seen alot of people on xanax, i definitely also dont want you to be addicted to this drug, do you have any support from family Sarah? I feel terrible knowing you are in so much pain 😥 are you seeing a counsellor? anyone you trust love? I know you are a strong woman, and I know you will come out of this! I think the best step would be to talk to someone and start creating steps/ a plan so you can start making gradual progress!!! You look so beautiful love from your picture, such a kind face, it breaks me to know youre suffering, I PRAY FOR YOU sweetheart ❤️

@@anitha_kannan tbh i feel like i dont have friends, or at least anyone i can conect with and be that comfortable with, and my family dont understand cuz theyre all pretty outgoing and cuz theyre religious theyre like u have all these problems cuz u dont have enough faith in god and i hate it. ive really been leaning on the decision to seek professional help tho :) Ty for replying to me ur so kind n have a big heart.

I’ve been feeling the same way it’s suffocating to me. If you need someone to talk to let me know :)

This is exactly how I feel

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Hey Andrea! Thankyou so much lovely ❤️ Yes, we all got to get through our hard times, and I pray that you will be able to get through your struggles girl! Keep staying the strong & beautiful woman that you are 🤗

P.S this was incredibly brave of you, well done!

I agree, friendships can't be forced. Thank you for sharing this with me! 🤗

goooddd advice!

hey love!, when you said daily tears and missing out on early adulthood, i get you so much! i just always tell myself maybe we are the people who are gonna have the best time being in our 30s... the opposite to the "norm"

@@anitha_kannan I appreciate the kind words. You could be right about that. But Im also hoping to do at least just a few of the things I missed out on before my 20s are up. I just dont know where to start.

@@heinzketchup264 maybe take a dance class? Or start a yt channel

For anyone scrolling through the comments going through a really hard time I truly hope things get better for you no matter who you are. Please don't give up trying. There is a reason you are here reading this message, to remind you that YOU are so important to God and His Son Jesus Christ. I can only imagine what you are going through but God knows. I also know how difficult life can be and I may not understand your exact experience but I am truly sorry that things have been so tough for you. I care and want you to know that you are not alone, you have a purpose, you are worthy of so much. Please take it one day at a time, one step at a time. I am praying that God will send His angels to each and everyone of you to comfort you, surround you with His love, give you peace beyond measure, and to change things for the better. Please know that you are here for a reason and that sometimes we don't always know why we go through things, maybe to help someone else going through the same thing because you understand such pain that someone else may not. All the pain and suffering is caused by sin which we are given death as a wage for but we have a Savior Jesus Christ who loved us first and He died for you, He loves you more than you could ever know. Please repent by asking Him for forgiveness of wrongs and ask Him into your heart believing with sincerity. (Please see the book the Holy Bible for more information) He can guide you in all things. I speak from experience it doesn't matter what we have done or that we think we don't measure up He will meet us where we are, even in our lowest low. He can give you peace beyond measure, I speak from experience. I can only imagine how hard it has been for you but I truly hope the best is yet to come for all of you. Please never give up, because He won't give up on us. Please remember this when things are hard and you feel at the end of your rope. Jesus Christ has done everything for us and He wants us to be healed. Put your faith in Christ today! To give your life to Jesus Christ here is a sample prayer: Dear Lord Father in Heaven I admit I am a sinner. I have done many things that don't please you. I have lived my life for myself only. I am sorry and I repent. I ask you to forgive me. I believe that you died for me to save me. You did what I could not do for myself. I come to you now and ask you to take control of my life; I give it to you. From this day forward, help me to live every day for you in a way that pleases you. I love you Lord, and I thank you that I will spend eternity with you, In Jesus name I pray, amen...........

I relate with all of these, for two years, I've always been searching for a video that relates to me and this video described me in every detail.

I can relate to that!

OMGGG GIRL knowing you cried makes me so sad, you must be going through a really tough time, im so sorry you had to experience a bad day and going through this 😢 im so glad I was able to make you feel a little better, you are SUPER STRONG Nina, you got this.... THINGS WILL GET BETTER I promise you love ❤️ i pray for you, keep going xx

Hey love! ❤️ High school and having social anxiety is a NIGHTMARE! I know its so rough so painful, you sound exactly like me, hiding in the bathroom during classes and feeling heated walking past people etc... i had to drop out in my last year! BUT I really recommend you speak to someone you trust (counsellor, family member) and seek help! Just know it does get better but it takes alot of effort and hard work! Do you have an friends outside of school or siblings? Im so sorry you are experiencing this, this whole social anxiety journey and being a loner does make you a million times stronger and teaches you so much about life (there are a few positives that I would have never learnt if i didnt have it)! But right now, i know its HARD but KEEP GOING, HAVE FAITH! Im grateful you shared your story with us all, just know you arent alone hun! Thinking of you lovely ❤️❤️

Anitha Kannan Yes I have a lot of family that are around my age but as far as friends I just have associates mainly because i look really mean but I’m actually nice. But Thankyou I really hope your situation gets better also .

Hey hey😊 omg first of all thankyou so much for the compliments, that means a lot to me, no joke- you made my day 💎 and you are ABSOLUTELY NOT a loser at all for having no one, you are so freaking special, trust me when I say this. And I just want to say hats off to you for being able to get through life in general without having anyone/ feeling shy- cuz it takes a lot of strength xx let me know if u ever need to talk, I’m here ☀️

WOW thankyou soooo much! 💛 You are so kind, I hope you are doing well sweetheart, sending you a big hug 🤗

@livey oone bruh

I think I see that same comment on every single youtube video out there with a female in it.

@Alan If she was ugly there would still be some lonely RU-vidr talking about how pretty she is and using words like "Stunning", "Marry Me" and "You're so beautiful and talented"

I actually admire what you just wrote about extroverts failing by not reaching out to shy people, i think that was beautifully said! 🤗 I think extroverts should definitely be more aware of the signs of people with SA and definitely help them out! I hope you are doing okay love, thankyou for sharing this with me❤️

@@anitha_kannan You're videos have really helped me to be aware of the more quiet people around me. I'll be sure to do whatever I can to help people who might have SA from now on

Yes it would help us so much honestly....I appreciate this comment.

I’m not an extrovert by any means but I’m comfortable with people and when I used to talk with people who weren’t really socially active I thought they found me annoying or just didn’t like people. But I looked at how I was years ago and realized I was like that because I didn’t have the skills. Maybe I never got to your situation but please just start by saying hi hello how are you doing to random people and strangers in stores it helps a lot and you re really pretty btw.

Hey hun! Wow, if i was to put my video into a paragraph of some sort, everything you wrote is exactly what i would have written!! Im so so so sorry that youre feeling this alone, and when u said you spend pretty much doing everything alone really gave me a tear... its not an easy situation to fix ey... ive tried a bunch of things but havent changed my situation but i guess ive accepted it for now and tried to make it a positive thing( which i can do for a certain amount of days and then i sort of think WHAT THE HELL am i doing) so even trying to fix it is not easy... i really pray things get better for you or even gradually!! When you said this video helped you (even if it was in a small way) it made me feel so happy knowing i made u feel a little less alone 🧡 thats exactly why i made this- to find people like you. God bless you hun and i HOPE things will get better- you deserve only happiness for what you are going through xx

Your a man why are you crying for man up.

@@rajakhan-yi4ei man up?😂😂 this is 2020 there's no room for toxic masculinity. Men have feeling and emotions too you know.

@@videoscool21 thanks 😁

have you tried any new hobbies or traveling, those things help you I bet

Im so so happy to hear this helped you ☺️ made my day! Im sorry to hear you have SA as well, just remember you are a warrior 👊🏽 god bless u too 🧡

Hey Razvan 🤗 thankyou so much for sharing this with me, when I posted this I seriously thought I was crazy for creating scenarios in my head about having a group of friends/ having fun! But im so glad im not the only one! Thankyou for sharing, makes me feel understood! Yess I agree music does help (but funny back then even with music I would create scenarios hahaha) but i get you! Hope youre doing okay love, god bless you and hope youre having a great day too 💜

also, stop thinking that youre not pretty enough, for me and for many others too im sure you are beautiful! and the australian accent is to die for, its so cute 😂

I have never thought about it that way. Thanks!

Hey beautiful! 💎 First of alll Thankyou so much for sharing your side of things with me, it’s so personal and for u to be so open is freaking amazing! And holy wow I can’t believe you are legit going through most of what I said, I’m so sorry you’re going through this !! And the whole self esteem thing, ITS SO ANNOYING RIGHT? like I seriously wonder how we got into this crazy thing... I hope you’re coping with it all alright, even though it’s mentally really hard. are u currently working or studying?? And do u have support from family and friends? Cuz it’s so important, like I tried to deal with it on my own and then literally my body couldn’t take it anymore, I had to ask for help and also make this video

Stop lying you clearly have never experienced anxiety it feels like you are trapped in your body and mind and you want to get out but you just can’t it’s got nothing to do with being a deep thinker being a human is to connect with other people

@@nimanixo No need to call people names, but you kinda proved my point in doing so. I get anxiety being around negative people. People can experience anxiety in different ways. You experience it in the way you described and other people might not. Calling someone a liar over it is pretty childish in my opinion.

@@robert3640 who cares if everyone is superficial that shouldn’t stop you from being your true self the only way to stop anxiety is to stop identifying yourself as having it

@Robert You are so right. I don't want a superficial relationship with someone so I don't wan to try. Plus then when it doesn't work out, I feel like a failure and been through that way too many times.

nah its social anxiety bro. nice try tho.

Sounds like youve been experiencing SA for many years, Im so sorry youve had to experience this for so long!!! I ACTUALLY HAVE DONE THIS many times, it definitely is a very healthy way to go about gradual exposure and overcoming SA. Im glad you have been able to try this.. I really do hope it does get better for you, keep staying thestrong, intelligent and hard working person that you are love 💙

Hey Sarah 🤗❤️️ Firstly I just want to say I really appreciate that you shared a bit of your story with us all! You have such a beautiful heart! You have gone through so much pain, I can understand everything you have wrote to me. When you told me you got assaulted and you had no one to talk to, I cant imagine how painful that wouldve been! OMG you are a strong woman, please never forget the warrior that you are SARAH! Wow, you are an inspiration for not giving up girl, KEEP GOING LOVE! Sending you so much love and a massive hug precious girl! 💜💜

It’s crazy how we always say the words to others that we need to hear. I hope you’re in a better place .

Oh my goodness hun, reading this broke my heart 😞 i cant believe you are suffering at this age, thats when i started going through loneliness and everything (9 years ago)... you are not weird, never think that, you are so beautiful and unique okay? And please dont think no one likes you, i remember thinking the same thing when i was younger... i know you are feeling so down, are you close with your family? Any siblings?

kongvinter33 everything is temporary

@@kongvinter33 I'm still waiting for it to gets better...