How To Completely Lose Social Anxiety - It's Quite Shocking

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Bestselling author, Noah Elkrief, explains why you have social anxiety & how to completely lose your social anxiety. It's shocking
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Do you want to lose your social anxiety or social anxiety disorder? If so, this video is meant to help you to completely lose your social anxiety.
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Noah Elkrief
This is video is about how to lose your social anxiety or social anxiety disorder. The video first explains why you have social anxiety or social anxiety disorder. That is, because you have a self image that is impacted by others' opinions. When someone has a positive opinion, and you believe it, that improves your opinion of yourself, which gives you please. And when the opposite happens, you feel hurt or pain.
You have social anxiety or social anxiety disorder because you fear the impact that others' opinions will have on you. Others' opinions can worsen your opinion of yourself, prevent you from improving your opinion of yourself, or actually take away a part of your self-image. The effect of all of these is suffering.
How to deal with anxiety and get anxiety relief? How do you lose social anxiety or social anxiety disorder? By recognize that your self-image, your story of who you are, is not actually real, true, or who you are. Social anxiety or social anxiety disorder, is created by confusing the story in your head (your imagination) to be who you are. Then we fear the worsening or loss of that story, the same way that we lose the fear of our body (fear of death).
In order to lose your self-image, this video provides 7 questions/exercises to help you discover that components of your self-image aren't real or who you are.
I hope this video about how to lose social anxiety or social anxiety disorder is helpful.
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@belleax2166 7 лет назад

i can't even understand what my personality is because of social anxiety

@johnhalim7462 4 года назад

bellea x I FELT THAT

@Grinix 4 года назад

same here

@rajammajohn6060 4 года назад

I feel you

@lenalee5516 4 года назад

Omg i thought i was the only one, it sucks

@avgelii 4 года назад

me too 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️

@Fustro 5 лет назад

Social Anxiety + Shyness + Depression + Loneliness = a nightmare 😢

@emh8861 5 лет назад

Force yourself to get out! Even just to the store.

@user-ef5nd3ho3n 5 лет назад

:'(

@newtoniantime8804 5 лет назад

Today I went to the store and bought the birthday present, but couldn't go to the party and hand it over. It was my own sisters party, but still failed to attend due to the anxiety. My life is garbage. Has been this way for far too long.

@lolololyouaregay111 5 лет назад

=suicide

@judahsfinest1860 5 лет назад

@@newtoniantime8804 I feel you bro I couldn't go to my 3 yo niece's party because of this social anxiety shit😔

@el544 4 года назад

Does anyone else also feel like they have more anxiety around some people than others?

@going-easy 4 года назад

Sure, especially with cluster B folks who tend to have the same toxic energy like family

@steveportillo1717 4 года назад

Yup

@ST5RZ_ 4 года назад

I have it more around pure evil people.

@22mbz 4 года назад

Yep

@meyssounebakkouche7883 4 года назад

I have it towards people who I think they're extroverted and confident

@dbzvsbleach10 4 года назад

It really is an awful disease that has held me back so much in life: 1. I’ve never had a girlfriend because I’m so scared of rejection from asking women out and what people will think when they see me approaching a woman 2. I’ve lost what little friends I had because a voice in my head which keeps saying they don’t like me so I avoided them and they in return avoided me 3. I can’t have lunch with my coworkers because I get so scared they will judge me as the quiet boring loner 4. I have no hobbies or interests because of my low self esteem which leaves me scared to try new things 5. I obsess over one sentence I said to someone for an entire day replaying it over and over 6. Constantly feeling like no one likes me so I feel anger towards others for rejecting me and angry at myself for not being better

@punkeyengineer 3 года назад

same here man. same here . all the points checked.

@kian6484 3 года назад

same here

@mjk934 3 года назад

it's tough bro , I went through many lonely years cause of the same problem , not alone, I met my wife through dating site, she is pretty and prefers quiet guys , so always a girl out there 👍

@stefanschmidt3984 3 года назад

Same here

@lukabeast1150 3 года назад

Same here brotha. The worst one of all is the relationship one. I feel like if I could just get a girl for once I could start to rebuild my life.

@arbividz 8 лет назад

When I'm at home, I watch a lot of RU-vid videos and read a lot of posts and i finally get the confidence . I'm like, "F*** it, I'm gonna do it," but then the next day, I just get all nervous again.

@JolinHard 8 лет назад

ahh same

@Arvy565 8 лет назад

exactly like me :(

@sopheakchey6137 8 лет назад

like me

@arbividz 8 лет назад

+OhmRepee I don't really think so. He's trying to get us to believe that our thoughts isn't real. It's just our imagination. Ugly isn't real, it's based off something you seen on TV or something. Like he said on the video, touch your nose, now touch stupid. You can't. I do realize that the thoughts aren't real but still got this damn anxiety keep returning.

@turkanvalizada 8 лет назад

exactly😑😞

@3680269 6 лет назад

People talk about social anxiety like its a problem that prevents good times at parties, but never mention grocery stores, traffic, elevators, literally everywhere else except a party. NO ONE WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY GOES TO A PARTY.

@missbeauitful4696 5 лет назад

Facts

@manenenggal5383 5 лет назад

EXACTLY

@matinajazmine 5 лет назад

Exactly

@SamantaGothic 5 лет назад

true

@elyneviana8829 5 лет назад

except forced to come along

@husseinalraisii 4 года назад

Hardest part is when you're late for class, because as soon as you open the door you're the centre of attention, I avoid getting late because of this, I can't stand people looking at me let alone a class.

@katenka_ana3997 4 года назад

has anything changed after watching the video ? Did you manage to get a new perspective and free yourself (at least partly) from your self-image ?

@talalalamri4835 4 года назад

Specially attending wedding or gathering

@guts3866 3 года назад

fr fr this is me, i even bunk the class if im late, i feel so pathetic at that moment

@natouch71 2 года назад

God. Same.

@tjahangon7286 2 года назад

Me different. I try to come late just to avoid people talking to me before class starts. LoL

@subatomicparticle 4 года назад

1:45 Understanding social anxiety 3:20 what creates social anxiety 5:00 understanding self image 7:10 the reason we care about others opinions. •The 3 fundamental reasons 1. 17:10 your happiness is based on others opinions 2. 18:23 your afraid of losing who you are 3. 21:58 you don't feel good enough 26:08 why having a self image is bad 32:18 how to overcome social anxiety • The 7 Exercises/Questions 1. 33:25 you're not who you think you are 2. 38:11 you are you no matter what 3. 40:22 Question your thoughts 4. 42:40 everything is subjective 5. 44:17 your actions don't define you 6. 45:54 you're the observer not the thought 7. 47:12 you have no free will 52:42 conclusion

@jpcash8012 4 года назад

Randy Villeda thank you

@subatomicparticle 4 года назад

@@jpcash8012 no problem. But the reason I wrote this comment was to help myself because I found this video very helpful but to long. But I'm glad I was able to help u too

@Kira-zz3el 4 года назад

Ohh thanks 💙

@subatomicparticle 4 года назад

@Raven I understand why you would believe in free will. I personally dont. However, don't let that one thing stop you from taking the great advice of this video.

@subatomicparticle 4 года назад

@Raven my beliefs on free will doesn't come from any traumatic event. It is simply my belief that peoples actions are entirely influenced by the external world and genetics. I do appreciate other peoples view on the matter though and I always have room for a change in my beliefs given enough evidence.

@razer0072073 8 лет назад

My comfort zone is my home, when I leave my home it starts.

@eliaslundman 8 лет назад

we should be friends

@badgirlgigix3 8 лет назад

+Mas A I know how it is. When I stay home, I feel guilty. When I leave home, I feel worse.

@annib.4060 8 лет назад

+Lady Pain same

@hakim6933 8 лет назад

+Mas A I feel you home is like a universe within a universe.

@darcy3784 8 лет назад

my comfort zone is my bedroom, when I'm not in it I'm so drained and it starts.

@Fleeped 9 лет назад

I have Social Anxiety and for the people who don't have it, you are lucky. You hear someone or a group of people laughing, you think its about you. You make eye contact and look away immediately and feel embarrassed. You talk to people quietly almost mumble like. You overthink things you would say more than you talk. Your opinion doesn't matter as much as the other persons, so it is never spoken. You almost feel like its rare when you're not blushing. You can't go a day without showering and if something is wrong, like a haircut looks the smallest amount weird or different to you, you become depressed. You don't want to see people and make conversation. You use excuses to hide the truth of whats bothering you. You almost just want to break down and cry, if you weren't too scared to cry. Social Anxiety is a horror and I live all of this in an everyday life. It's very hard and our minds are very complex. Now, for people with social anxiety, what I did to help overcome anxiety was to start designing. Even drawing or sketching can help. Instead of talking to people about problems I just draw my feelings out and I almost feel like a normal person. Don't let it control you, live your life as much as you can :) I hope this helped describe what it's like to you guys

@Fleeped 9 лет назад

Kind of

@tenoritaigauchiha4826 9 лет назад

***** a very hardcore one. It's like feeling shy even when you're alone because you think about that time ten years ago in a discussion with friends when you said like something and you were kidding but someone mocked you or felt offended for. Now it's 3 in the morning and your brain remembers it and now you feel like hiding, which is stupid because you're like in bed alone or something.

@Fleeped 9 лет назад

That was a perfect description

@Fleeped 9 лет назад

I feel you

@hannahhaben 8 лет назад

ily this is me.

@alexandrelecuyer9937 5 лет назад

Systemic exposure therapy. You can't give yourself the rule "my heart shouldn't race, I shouldn't be anxious", it'll only lead to cognitive distortions, disappointment, frustration and a sense of ineptitude. It's really okay to be anxious; in fact, it's a sign that you're facing your fears in a social setting. It's hard, but the best way to overcome anxiety is to keep being exposed to the experience(crowds, social situations) without the negative stimuli (self-attacks, magnification of faults, disqualifying the positives, etc). Once it clicks that the negative consequences of social encounters aren't devastating or catastrophic, your fear will slowly go down and you'll finally have room to breathe, grow, and think clearly. Keep facing your fears, and prove to yourself that you're okay as you are, you're lovable, and the social encounters you have aren't half as bad as you think they are! Wish you the best.

@couchpotatoshredder8445 4 года назад

Thank you for this insightful comment, I know you are right and I have to expose myself to the situation, always.♥️

@shayan5886 4 года назад

@@couchpotatoshredder8445 we must face our fears to get rid of them

@EnlightenedCarnivore 4 года назад

Turns out that is not the case. I thought so too, but I'll just give you this clue...That which you resist persists. By fighting it you're fueling it. Acceptance is the answer in the beginning. Check out Dr. Thomas A. Richards's Recordings and Handbook. Peace.

@Oreocakesters123 3 года назад

@@EnlightenedCarnivore Thats exactly what hes talking about accepting it exposure therapy is literally accepting the anxiety

@KaoriKino 5 лет назад

"You're not afraid of death. You're afraid of the end of the story of you."

@virginiagamez6299 3 года назад

Isn’t that the same thing?

@dirtysewerwater26 3 года назад

@@virginiagamez6299 no not really it’s like, what are you gonna be at the end of your story, what did you accomplish, what kind of person, or is anyone gonna view as just a awkward person when I die .. idk something like that

@eeurr1306 Год назад

@@dirtysewerwater26 Thats true, but it is aswell, the death of your personality that youre afraid of.

@TROYCETV 8 лет назад

anyone watching while having anxiety

@AmareshAsmara 5 лет назад

TROYCEEEE

@subhamchoudhury1610 5 лет назад

I am having panic attacks while watching these !

@Sexystudkoolaid 4 года назад

Yes it's crazy my heart was racing through the whole video.

@Meddio2 4 года назад

Crying too

@ST5RZ_ 4 года назад

Yep I think this is my second time watching this video 🤦🏻‍♀️

@YumiOnline 8 лет назад

I just want to say to all the people who have social anxiety, I give you a huge hug. Because it's horrible to always hear the 'it's all in your head' or 'just stop being shy' or 'just go out more'. It truly is like a prison, but I promise you're not alone, you're not 'pathetic' and it's not your fault to be feeling this way. If you try your best, you'll get better, slowly but surely. /hugs/ ♥

@ankitgiri5373 6 лет назад

Thank u so much . Appreciate that

@PgTrAxX 6 лет назад

Thanks but.... hugs scare me 😆

@Josee1994haha 6 лет назад

I've been fighting through it, and its gotten a lot better than whatvit used to be. Just that somedays i get that social anxiety attack and all goes yo shit for the next couple of days.

@NorthGermanic 6 лет назад

Yumi /Hugsyou

@Badboyifier 6 лет назад

yeah, acceptance is first..i felt shameful today though, but its all good..just do your best to get out of it, in every step of the way, and dont expect anything just do your best, i believe this is gonna be healing

@fendi8854 5 лет назад

Everytime i go outside i feel like every people hates my presence

@naty1012 4 года назад

Why?

@NeruKuroNyan 4 года назад

I don't feel that they hate me but i feel like they are looking at me and trying to judge me

@svetkonti 4 года назад

It's because you yourself do not like yourself enough and you judge yourself too hard. Stop. Start looking at yourself and admiring not judging! Be nice to you! Talk nice to youself! Smile in the mirror! Work on loving who you are, forget others! Let me tell you something - you are a great person! Now you say it to yourself :)

@GospelOfTimothy 4 года назад

That's because you don't smile and say hi.

@TitanFormEren 3 года назад

Avoiding social situations is actually worse than trying to make small talk and being completely rejected

@zazimazee6171 5 лет назад

I’ve been watching social anxiety videos because I’ve been trying to get rid of my social anxiety. Watching this makes me cry. It’s so hard to get people to understand how severe this is without them telling you to shrug it off. I feel so alone

@indimist390 2 года назад

Ur so pretty

@AA-px4dm 2 года назад

@@indimist390 both of you are so pretty :)

@indimist390 2 года назад

@@AA-px4dm aw ty

@timmyvan6378 5 месяцев назад

I'm a CBT therapist and someone who's dealt with ADHD oriented anxiety my entire life. You're not alone. It can't just be shrugged off. It can be managed though! You can change your view of yourself and those around you and how they impact you. Be patient throughout the change process. It may take as long to learn to manage as it did to develop. But it's a journey, appreciate even every little step growth you take. One day at a time. At one point you'll realize you have made it, and you will be stronger for it. Best wishes and good vibes.

@coffeeenjoyer9099 6 лет назад

I talked to 3-5 strangers today guys. Wow.

@devilsoffspring5519 5 лет назад

Be careful, you might get stalked :)

@444mviews9 5 лет назад

📡📡📡📡📡📡📡📡📡📡📡⏳📡📡📡📡📡⏳⏳⏳

@ryanballantyne476 5 лет назад

Otherwise known as 4 :L

@nicktran7490 5 лет назад

Ryan Ballantyne I see you have failed year 1 math

@carlysmith9361 5 лет назад

I used to suffer from social anxiety for over 20 years. Now after using a specific method I can leave the house and start conversations with random strangers. Learn this method here: MootSpeak.xyz

@shyjenkins2101 6 лет назад

Whenever I hear someone laughing around me, I'll become self conscious and start fixing my hair, brushing my outfit off, wiping my face, etc. sometimes when I'm hanging out with friends my mind will tell me they don't really like me and they're only my friend out of pity and I'll become awfully sad. Even when I'm alone I feel like somebody is watching me and judging my movement. This feeling feels disgusting and I hate it so much.

@9290SC 6 лет назад

Pickled Okra Whenever you feel anxious just keep telling yourself that those thoughts only exist in YOUR mind. I know this sounds easier said than done but I'm telling you....its been six days since I watched this video...his method works! As soon as you have an anxious thought, you have to train your mind to realize, immediately, that those negative thoughts are not tangible. Fear...you cant touch it, see it etc so just let it go whenever you feel it...it's not real. Same goes with worry...it exists in your mind only. You can and will overcome this. Hang in there! You have to re-train your mind. Watch this over as many times as you need to and truly grasp what he is saying! You got this!!!

@shyjenkins2101 6 лет назад

applebug thank you for the encouragement, means a lot. I'll keep trying to shake the feeling and gain control of myself again 💕

@9290SC 6 лет назад

Pickled Okra No problem! One more thing, when you first begin to re-train your mind, the physical symptoms (or gestures) of anxiety will still manifest, because that is what your body is used to automatically doing, in social situations....do not be discouraged, keep on trying. The symptoms will cease. Your body is only following your thoughts. Just remember that the core of social anxiety is poor self image. We tend to automatically believe the "bad" of how we think others are perceiving us. It's all imaginary, and silly quite frankly, when you think about it. But we're going to stop those "bad" thoughts right in their track. I'm happy i could help you! :)

@Brayan3666. 6 лет назад

applebug hello I just came in y'all's conversation but I need help so when I'm in large crowds I get social anxiety like my eyes start watering for some reason and I Begin swalowing alot but I'd I'm even with one friend I feel normal like I could embarrass myself on purpose and not care it's like nothing but what's weird it's that my eyes water alot some people come up to me and say 'are you crying?' but I say no and then makeup some excuse I really hope this helps thx for your time

@9290SC 6 лет назад

Brayan Medina The eye thing has happened to me a couple of times. It sounds as if you're unconsciously hyperventilating and air swallowing, that's a common symptom of anxiety. You are not alone. Hang in there!

@kimluv2422 5 лет назад

It was so easy socializing when I was a kid but now it’s damn to hard Since I care about what people think of me. My whole family is out going, while there is me the odd one :,)

@damn_longhead6938 4 года назад

Literally how it feels,it gets to the point where u seriously doubt if your fam loves u it sucks alot

@DennisRay99 3 года назад

Yep

@R6n1c0 3 года назад

@@damn_longhead6938 hey man just wanted to let you know that they care and love you

@elefont100 2 года назад

Trust me I feel the same

@shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад

@@elefont100 Practicals are important. Join public speaking courses even if you feel uneasy. . They can transform you. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. When taking a walk, at office, at home, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.

@maesadventure27 5 лет назад

Anyone watching this in 2019 ? Having a social anxiety is like being trap in a cage.

@wishscone7661 5 лет назад

lovely and pretty mae me !

@maesadventure27 5 лет назад

@@wishscone7661 i give you a hug 😥

@EnlightenedCarnivore 4 года назад

Get Dr. Thomas A. Richard's therapy package; Overcoming Social Anxiety Disorder: Step by Step. 20 Tapes/Audio files and a booklet of handouts. It'll change your life for the better forever. Nothing to it but to Do It. ;)

@steveportillo1717 3 года назад

@@EnlightenedCarnivore where can I purchase?

@inesalexandre2955 3 года назад

2021 xD

@delestonbrantley5274 8 лет назад

I just want my life back. I know my behavior is irrational, and tell myself this. That is what is troubling about social anxiety and what makes it more demeaning, knowing you have a problem and being unable to do anything about it. A perceived sense of hopelessness. I just want to not feel judged by everyone. To not feel awkward talking with friends, family, and strangers. I want to be able to answer questions in class without my heart beating uncontrollably causing me to not speak up. I want to be able to talk on the phone with strangers, set doctor's appointments, etc. I want a sense of optimism. I want friends. It seems unfair that I should have this disorder sometimes, but it is what it is. Never giving up though, someday I'll be over it. much respect to those with SAD trying to do something about it.

@Love_1slam 6 лет назад

Deleston Brantley omg u are me!

@pawchristensen109 6 лет назад

Georgy Patov No. He just has the same issues. You are both unique individuals. With the capacity to lose the crippling issues.

@MooseM3 5 лет назад

@@filipemartins1850 No.. the only person who has the power to "deliver" you from social anxiety is yourself. Sorry, Jesus can't help here. He would have helped long ago.

@AuthorMorganaSinclayr 5 лет назад

I feel the same exact way. Today I have to go to a party and I'm feeling very nervous atm. My thing is crowds, especially people whom I don't know

@808_dream 5 лет назад

“I just want my life back” this shit made me tear up bro i relate to every single part of this, truly a mental hell and there seems to be NO ESCAPE I’ve tried EVERYTHING

@tishaunagibson185 7 лет назад

i have social anxiety and the thing about my anxiety is that im not afraid to go places or to do things alone its just the fact that i think people will judge me for doing this or doing that. I always think someone is bad talking me or making fun of me and it prevents me from being myself. Most times im afraid of talking to new people because i think that they'll respond with one word answers and ill look like an idiot

@NoahElkrief 7 лет назад

Ask yourself "What would be the worst possible thing they could think of me?" Then ask yourself "Do I believe that about myself?" Be really honest about your answer. If you believe it, then question whether this "trait" or "adjective" actually describes who you are. Good luck!

@jesuscardona853 7 лет назад

Tishauna Gibson i fell exactly the same

@tishaunagibson185 7 лет назад

Thank you so much

@TheZimulator 7 лет назад

i have class in the mornig after a month of relaxation, i'm freaking the f out

@mtorres723 7 лет назад

I feel ya. But what really makes your anxiety worse is when people are actually takin shit about you.

@thirtyacres7504 5 лет назад

The 7 Questions 1. Who are you right now? 2. Are you, you in every moment? 3. Can you think of a few reasons or examples of why the opposite may be true? 4. Could somebody else think the opposite? 5. Were you you before you had whatever you think you are now? 6. Who is aware of the story of you? 7. Are you to blame for whatever good or bad you think you are?

@TMo__o4188 3 года назад

I love it when people say to me “oh your so quite everything must be chill for you” and in my head I’m like no it’s hell.

@tehjokur7041 7 лет назад

This is incredible. I never thought that it could be so easy. I have had social anxiety for approximately 9 years without even knowing what was wrong with me. It ruined my social life and made me miss many oppurtunities. I watched this video 5 days ago and I lost 70% of my social anxiety. I can walk freely on the street, go to the supermarket and even go to parties without the feeling of crippling anxiety. I have never felt so free. Thank you so much! The only problem is that now I expect myself to master every situation perfectly, which creates the fear of failure. I will try to work on that problem. Besides I have to practice starting conversations, telling stories and small-talk.

@9290SC 6 лет назад

Teh Jokur SAME HERE!! Amazing right??? God bless Noah for making this video!

@JonBeDoinThings 4 года назад

hey dude i'd like to know how it's going and if you could say what you do to help yourself

@DennisRay99 3 года назад

Take it slow. You're doing great

@ishworshrestha3559 3 года назад

@beeoh2576 9 лет назад

I dont know but I find this touching , i have social anxiety , I lose my speech when talking, am always carried away when am among people, I feel down on myself, I let people show me who I am, I weigh myself down, I run away of little things that hurts me, I make mistakes, I feel no one cares and love me, I feel I have no friends, everyone thinks am crazy, some think I have a bad memory, I keep thinking and feel sad each day, I just want to be happy, you made my day, although I cried, because the depression and anxiety has been with me for a very long time , I still dont know how to get it out of my head, while I was a little kid , my grandmother beat me and I start ed growing hatred for her and people around me, but my mum says she loves me but the feeling can come off , I need help, I want to forget these things, I want to be a new person , I need someone to talk to and I think friends help with anxiety or depression, we need to surround ourselves with people who can build up our self esteem, say positive things to us, overall you did a good job, thanks

@kud_allie7692 9 лет назад

coco late i have been seeing myself while reading your comment. that's 99.9% me

@cttrailers5055 9 лет назад

coco late it's all me

@errorglitch6191 8 лет назад

coco late I feel you. I have lots of friends but when I get told something negative, I feel that nodding and smiling will help... but it doesn't. I express myself when I'm around close friends but cower behind curtains when I meet people who I'm not close to... Sometimes I feel I want to be alone, but once I'm alone I get mad at myself because I feel like a loser who everyone hates. I never fully understood how some people say random crap and easily make friends without awkward conversations and express there selves around anyone... When I'm put in a awkward moment in which I feel powerless I just try to smile, when that awkward moment is over I sulk and think about how embarrassingly stupid and speechless I was and I start to look at my future self and think, "Wow, what a lonely loser..." Its so bad. Even with friends around I feel lonely and hollow inside...

@kimberlyjredeemed6113 8 лет назад

god can make you new

@IzzeyIce 8 лет назад

You took the words right out of my mouth. I Feel like I have no one sometimes :( but I'm here for you if you ever need a Freind!

@kingvic2015 3 года назад

I feel like I'm getting closer and closer to finally getting my break through. I always think deep down that I don't believe in myself, but I feel it changing day by day.

@micaela5461 4 года назад

So true. Anxiety stems from perfectionism which is why we feel so validated by positive opinions and so torn down by the negative.

@enerjiCS 8 лет назад

his voice is so damn calming

@ChrisJimenez2010 8 лет назад

his face ain't bad either, haha

@KlajdZyla 7 лет назад

But that's not a fact. That's only our perspective, our opinion. :P

@mundoinvisivelxd1936 7 лет назад

his voice is not theirs ,this are just thoughts in his mind

@shotgun1739 7 лет назад

but his voice isn't calming, what is calming? can we see calming? No!, cuz it doesn't exist !

@AceGoodheart 7 лет назад

lol. Too calming.

@jamesony 8 лет назад

I'm nervous of not being able to finish a story or half way through I'll lose track and look bad. Or that my stories aren't interesting or boring to others... My conversations don't flow well, so I'd rather not say anything at all.

@elenalda98 8 лет назад

+Bazzington James when you are telling a story put some feeling in it, ''impress'' them with facial expresions,shaking your hands ets.and have fun! ;) :D

@CHEWYFILMS 8 лет назад

That's exactly how I feel!

@partsofone 8 лет назад

+Bazzington James Hmm, if by stories you mean things about yourself, then how much satisfaction do you get from listening to others talk about meaningful personal things, especially things that you're willing to take the risk of asking, that you're truly interested in knowing?

@jamesony 8 лет назад

I see myself as a listener - I take a lot of pride in listening to others stories or conversations, but when it comes to telling my own i see them as being lacking when compared to their stories. Though I have had a great life full of stories so far... I'm just no good at telling them.

@partsofone 8 лет назад

Well I'm happy at least that you enjoy listening! You know that's providing real value and I hope you get tons of appreciation for it! And I also hope you don't stress out too much over your so-called bland self-narration. If you've had a great life as you say, I'd presume that to matter way more than anything else.

@olliesfave6967 5 лет назад

I've become such a recluse and rarely expose myself to situations I deem uncomfortable that I forget I even have social anxiety, sometimes. It's great. 🙄

@user-yn4mk6qr5s 10 месяцев назад

My family has played a major hand in my anxiety and depression. I've had to stand up for myself my whole life to them only be made out as dramatic, mean, angry, etc. So for me, not putting up with mistreatment from family is what has caused a lot of my issues.

@TheRaGiTe 7 лет назад

I watched this over a year ago, and a lot of my social anxiety has been resolved due to watching this. Thank you so much!! It truly opened my mind, and made me realise that I should NOT be stressed about who I am and labels in any given situation.

@NoahElkrief 7 лет назад

Wonderful. Thanks for sharing.

@insertusername7172 8 лет назад

I used to have terrible social anxiety. I never said a single word in school, and only expressed myself through an anonymous account on a writing site. Now, I still have social anxiety. But it's not even close to how bad it used to be. I talk with friends, and can even be loud at times. I still feel anxiety a lot, but I'm enjoying my life, and I get anxiety attacks less and less each day. Don't give up guys.

@TamilBullet 8 лет назад

Not everyone is the same especially when you're good looking it helps a lot

@musiclover5664 8 лет назад

I'm so proud of you, you can do this

@jamesmaverick1293 8 лет назад

jhpj0 in

@that1guythattellsukys327 8 лет назад

I need help 😪 no one understands me and I just feel like dying schools almost starting and I'm so quite but people try to talk to me I try to be polite but it always comes out as a whisper and they don't hear me

@jzeeder 7 лет назад

+That1GuythatTellsUkys Hey pal, if people are coming up to you to talk to you, that means that you are interesting to them. Also, they are coming to talk to you because you are polite and genuinely kind to them. Remember, that it's not about the volume of your voice, but the content of your words, which I think you're great at :)

@kailuno361 2 года назад

I know this came out a while ago but if anyone in the comments see this you arent alone I understand it and I know its hard. I cant even go to the grocery store without thinking someones watching and judging every move, or that I have to fit in to be liked and alter my personality. Take your time getting over this I believe in you

@donaldjohnson3565 4 года назад

after 30 years of disabling anxiety, this is the first time that i can actually seeing myself overcoming it enough to atleast leave my house and get my mail. thank you so very much for putting it in a way that makes sense to me ,

@theavastark6463 4 года назад

Have you gotten better?? I'm a teen w social anxiety

@donaldjohnson3565 4 года назад

@@theavastark6463 Hi Ava, yes, yes I am much better, I have learned that one has to be patient with their progress, it's not like you just wake up one morning and it's not there, but if you put some of your time and energy into getting better and the biggest thing that helped me out the most was to learn that almost everyone has anxiety about certain things in life, us that have anxiety from the time we wake until we go to sleep and always wondering what people think about us, well it just takes a bit of time learning what it is that is causing it, and I found that whenever I listen to videos like Noah says, and I know that we think that no one understands how we feel, but the core that he talks about, it's so true if you spend time working on it. I am sure that you are going to be fine. Thank you for asking me.

@melcklik8188 3 года назад

Hey Donald , ure amazing on ur own beautiful way..never forget that 👍🏻

@davis6439 3 года назад

hey donald, how did you even make a living with that disorder

@sharonsettle9079 Год назад

I've had it for 45 years.

@Baudelaire928 8 лет назад

"Nobody is afraid of death. People are afraid of the end of the story of themselves." OMG that is so freaking postmodern.

@TamilBullet 8 лет назад

Yeah the only thing I fear is torture

@nickymarch2914 6 лет назад

公孙徵羽 Yes, that blew me away because it’s so true. That’s what I’m afraid of...non-existence.

@thirtyacres7504 5 лет назад

I"m actually not afraid of death or the end of my story. I guess that's why I'm here.

@paulheinrichdietrich9518 5 лет назад

Im not afraid of death; Im afraid of life.

@jadawilliams2657 8 лет назад

My Social Anxiety is probably the worst because I can't even be around a baby... I can't go anywhere without my Sunglasses on.. I can't work ... I just can't do anything... It would be nice to get support from family but I can't be around them.... smh... it's like a prison....

@risk2193 8 лет назад

+Jada Williams We're all the same.

@Noname-di3yz 8 лет назад

Man I know it's hard and yes I have social anxiety so I know what you're feeling, I've been trying to get over it and I feel like it's getting better bit by bit anyway think about it this way, all of us are humans we are all the same (mostly).. Like I understand u and if I were to be living where you're living in, I'd try to be friends with u and help u out so if I can understand u there's obviously a lot mote people that can understand the way u feel.. Idk I'm really bad at explaining things and shit.. But all I'm saying is just fuck everything and try to be social, that's what I do and yes it's hard but what's the worst that could happen? Right now all I do is stay alone in my room and be alone at school and feel like shit so I decided to just TRY to talk with people as much as I can cause why the fuck would I be afraid? Obviously just being afraid and hiding didn't help me at all.. Cause when I'm alone I feel like shit So yea my point is just keep practicing to be more social,👍🏽

@risk2193 8 лет назад

What Up Congratulations man, keep getting better and better. I myself am still slowly getting better bit by bit too, but I'm going to continue to try and do everything I can possibly do to get rid of this. It will take time, but you'll get through it if you try your best

@jadawilliams2657 8 лет назад

Thanks you.... I'm a chic

@Noname-di3yz 8 лет назад

Jada Williams oh sorry lol😁

@keyboard8173 2 года назад

Does anyone else feel like social anxiety makes it feel like you have 2 different personalities?? The real you and you in social situations? I just want to be myself, and hopefully by the end of the video I can! Only people with social anxiety can understand how hard it is... It's hard to go to school and I have no friends and feel like I'm constantly being watched and judged but I need to get myself to understand it's all in my head.

@bond7565 6 месяцев назад

🙋🏻‍♂️

@angelholmes2631 5 лет назад

I have social anxiety, and I'm trying like hell to beat this. This video is a good place for me to look at some things differently. Thank you all for sharing because as you all know SAD makes you feel all alone, and to hear that others go through it too helps a lot to show it's not just you!!

@herbsonthetable8251 3 года назад

How is it going?

@ammachar 2 года назад

It's been 2 years how is it going ?

@shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад

Angel, Practicals are important. Join public speaking courses. How are you now? To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, at home, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.

@cain3895 Год назад

After 4 years, I hope you beat it ❤️

@justinc6819 6 лет назад

I tried this yesterday at work, and I felt so much more clear headed. I was actually able to focus on my job and worry less about others around me! thanks

@sandyg1838 6 лет назад

Wish I knew this guy personally, he's amazing.

@ludaheracles7201 4 года назад

Ooh yeah I'm with you girl

@LilMissUmi 2 года назад

Thank you to everyone who responded and shared their story, even if this was posted 5 years ago. Everyone doesn’t know, at least for me how important and comforting it is to hear other people’s story and how SAD personally impacts their lives. It’s hard to remember sometimes that we’re truly not alone in our pain-stories and with SAD it’s difficult to remember that when you feel like the entire world hates you and is judging your every move. You feel so alone and rejected by the world. It can feel like you can’t do ANYTHING right, you can’t even get being yourself right😭so hearing everyone’s experiences reminds me that there are people out there crying for the same reasons I am. Seriously reading these comments feel like some type of therapy, it sort takes me out of this black hole that I can find myself in sometimes and it’s like, what a minute I’m not the only one going through this shit!?? 😂thank y’all so much🥰🥰🥰

@nataliegarcia1765 3 года назад

I'm watching this before my first training shift as a waitress tomorrow. I woke up already sick to my stomach and knew I had to do something about this. Its been 15 minutes now of watching this video and my stomach is settling and the fact that I'm actually breathing at a normal pace completely distracted me from the video.. ❤ thank you!

@mikantsumikii 2 года назад

How are you doing now a year later? I hope you are feeling better, remember that you are amazing and deserve the world

@whackoization 9 лет назад

Letting go has been probably the most powerful thing for me. I always tried to find explanations etc but it only brought more stress. Instead, let go and try not to control your surroundings. What ever happens, it's ok.

@NoahElkrief 9 лет назад

whackoization Glad you found something that works for you

@AlexCananC 7 лет назад

love this! i think when we focus too much on our anxiety and trying to "fix" it then we make it worse coz it's reinforcing that there is something wrong.

@Sim_Flix 7 лет назад

You make an unbelievable amount of sense. I've never look at social anxiety like this before. Mind blown.

@captainfantastic87 7 лет назад

Agreed

@9290SC 6 лет назад

Absolutely

@aimenfatima570 4 года назад

@@filipemartins1850 I love Jesus but i wonder why Adam couldn't help me afterall he was born without even a mother.. or why mosses couldn't help me while he was able to split the sea and God has granted him with so much power.. what i think is that All of these prophets came to connect people to their only one God and their teachings got fabricated with time and people added myths and stories to actual accounts.hope that make sense to u.. ☺️

@22mbz 4 года назад

Yep dis how it feels

@Obamnaz 2 года назад

@@aimenfatima570minor errors account for 99% of Bible mistakes. The theology has largely been preserved over time.

@itsme.sarapely31 5 лет назад

My social anxiety is the following: I’m super open in the first meeting but afterwards I just get close and believe they will find it “ who I really am” and reject me. At home I heard a lot - you are this - you are bad - you are dirty - you break everything- So I was like how can people like me? Ow if they find out how I really am (words of my mom) they won’t like me and reject me. That’s me scared of deep connection. This shit is holding me back for years.

@lovesunshine5069 4 года назад

Sending you a hug.

@AboudASalam 3 года назад

Same here , when i think “ if i don’t get support even from my family , how would foreigners accept me” i just keep calm and cry .

@chilly4198 3 года назад

Damn you just made me wake up

@LilMissUmi 2 года назад

That’s exactly how I feel. First connections are the easiest but after that I don’t really know how to move forward with building a connection. At the same time I’m painfully afraid of letting people get close to me and finding out the real me cause I’m scared they’ll reject the real me.

@user-iu6ni8ks1s Год назад

That’s exactly what I’m suffering too, I thought I’m destined for loneliness for the disability of developing longer and deeper connection. Sometimes I build a nice and calm fantasy of growing old with a cat for myself cause kitty would be always by my side and never know who I am 😂 your comment really brought warmth to my day, just want to give you a hug and wish us the very very best（really hope you are doing much better now after 3 years)🥰🥰

@detectivehawk4976 2 года назад

Anyone find that when you’re extremely sleep deprived, you have less anxiety? Almost like your mind is even too hard to overthink

@equalitygreen79 5 месяцев назад

Obviously not..

@leafyplays3014 8 лет назад

im glad im not alone ☺

@brk0o0 8 лет назад

+Robyn Jimenez oh no u are not trust me hahaha there is a lot off us :D

@fbchoppedupmexikann7034 8 лет назад

Nope theres alot others.. :)

@fbchoppedupmexikann7034 8 лет назад

Hey there fire neptune

@alioubah4742 8 лет назад

+Robyn Jimenez it sure does feel good to know you are not alone

@Jimmy16 8 лет назад

hey

@PeopleCanFly23 8 лет назад

How do I get rid of heart racing before social interractions?

@pepepepepecas 8 лет назад

Propranolol

@hellothere7993 8 лет назад

Honestly, if I drink a ton of caffeinated drinks, I worry less...so yeah that helps

@noctiflorous1337 8 лет назад

Try to be more aware of your breathing. Your body and your mind are not separate, so where body goes the mind must follow (& vice versa). You can't actually breath deeply and have your heart racing at the same time.

@ben9262 8 лет назад

Smoke weed

@PeopleCanFly23 8 лет назад

Billy everyday....

@katepv275 4 года назад

This helped my husband so much. It helped him realize social anxiety is just a story he tells In His head. It helped him to be able to go to public places and not worry about what everyone else is thinking about him. We just wanted to thank you so much for sharing.

@hellachica2504 5 лет назад

I like that fact that you say “lose a piece of your self image” when you are explaining what a Guru or Mystic calls “transcending the Ego”....love it!! Thanks for sharing!! You are a gift to this world! 🥰

@sterro8054 8 лет назад

I have social anxiety such that I'm fine speaking in front of a large crowd, but one on one conversation kills me.

@feanor169 8 лет назад

+Fax same shit bro, i'm so confused, "i'm anxiety free" (can talk to people as a normal person xD) when speaking in public and sometimes meeting strangers. When i'm with friends, family, etc it's the same shit, i'm a "mummy"... wtf

@smackinnon13 8 лет назад

+Fax I suffer from the exact same thing. It's so frustrating and strange how we can make a speech and do okay while talking with people after is what kills us. You're not alone!

@feanor169 8 лет назад

I'm sure he doesnt want to torture you, he's cringing about thta awkward silence waaay more xD

@emmster2002 8 лет назад

Yeah that's exactly what happens to me, I can sing in front of a crowd and I'm not to nervous, other people around me who are really confident get more nervous than me but when it comes to making conversation or looking people straight in the eyes I have no idea what to say so I don't say anything and people think I'm weird and I constantly worry about other peoples opinions.

@sterro8054 8 лет назад

Yeah, same. In return, people don't really talk to me much and I feel like an outsider sometimes.

@alishaokeeffe7574 8 лет назад

" there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so" - Hamlet

@mariamghanem880 Год назад

Thank you very much I lost my social anxiety

@hytyttiva 3 года назад

Im here because I want to help my friend. She has so much social anxiety that she thinks that she have dissorders but the fact is she is an amazing person. Thanks alot!

@Almondstash 7 лет назад

"I hope this had an impact on you" That's a bit of an understatement... thank you for this video

@nicolezabel10 6 лет назад

This is one of the most important videos I’ve seen in my lifetime. After watching this, I had a huge realization of what he’s saying a few days later. One of the most life changing realizations I’ve had to this date.

@neveralone3044 4 года назад

Something that is helping me is exposure . The more places I go by myself the less I worry . & the more times I throw myself in an uncomfortable situation, I learn from it . Sometimes it’s embarrassing but hey 🤷🏾‍♀️ it is what it is

@iii0417 4 года назад

“If you cannot find them, locate them in the real world, they only exist in your imagination” 👏👏👏👏

@ayemonchit 8 лет назад

You are the saver of human kinds. Your video did save my life last 2 years ago and I found myself back. Just want to say Thank you.

@rupunzel12345 8 лет назад

He is the best. I love his book it blows my mind everytime I read it :)

@davidelahi7059 8 лет назад

Aye mon Chit, sorry if it might seem personal. but could you give a brief description of how your life was before and how your life changed after? I would be interested in knowing

@jippyjester 8 лет назад

15 years I have been miserable and messing up jobs and relationships as a direct result of anxiety....and you come along and, in less than an hour, remove the mental block I have had for that entire time!! I cannot thank you enough, mate.

@vvv2k12 8 лет назад

+jippyjester hi, are you still doing good?

@left4dead906 5 лет назад

I watch this same video all the time and I'm slowly grasping it

@thomasarbec7242 Год назад

I swear to you…I am 59 and I have struggled with severe social anxiety for my whole life. I’m not exaggerating when I say this video has changed my life! Thank you

@NoahElkrief 10 лет назад

Check out my new video about how to completely lose social anxiety

@TheThereallucci 9 лет назад

Noah what's your educational background?

@NoahElkrief 9 лет назад

Matthew Usitalo Hey Matthew, you can have a look at where my content comes from on my about page of my channel and/or website.

@TheThereallucci 9 лет назад

Noah Elkrief I subscribed you have great content, very informative. You articulate in a way anybody could understand.

@AshleyCooperxo 9 лет назад

Matthew Usitalo Agreed!!! Love your channel Noah Elkrief keep on changing lives x

@delusionfrag1 9 лет назад

Noah Elkrief i have to be frank with you. The first half was absolutely gold, you are addressing the root problem 100% as for the last part, well it made no sense. you cant lose yourself (your ego) you can only change it. the moment you don't have an ego/self-image you go insane and stop functioning. anxiety is the accumulation of negative subconscious believes like yourself said, so the only thing you really can do is bringing them to the surface and treating them one by one, by replacing them.

@emilygaribay2333 6 лет назад

Idk why but I started crying lol

@megascizor8275 5 лет назад

@@filipemartins1850 proof Jesus is real?

@markwilliams515 5 лет назад

I used to have social anxiety for over 6 years. I found a great resource online that lowered my anxiety level and now I can leave the house. Go here now to learn some great treatment options for social anxiety: MootSpeak.xyz

@paulheinrichdietrich9518 5 лет назад

@@filipemartins1850 What do you mean by "real"?

@zazimazee6171 5 лет назад

I started crying too..

@newtoniantime8804 5 лет назад

@@filipemartins1850 Is it a sin to have social anxiety?

@yesitsme3054 4 года назад

My anxiety is that bad I when I walk I feel unbalanced and like I’m going to fall over, this ten folds in public :(

@sanika8025 3 года назад

So relatable!

@jimmymcmanusjr 4 года назад

This is one of the best hours I've ever spent.

@loze5571 8 лет назад

I found myself nodding my head a lot watching this video. So many 'ahhh haaa' moments. I can't wait to watch the rest. unfortunately my social anxiety rules my life and stops me from pursuing so many things. I actually turn red so it's not just in my head, it shows on the outside. I hope this helps me to be free. Thank you 😊

@TM-rc1og 5 лет назад

Lauren Eyton I get a red specked rash all over my cheeks and chest. It’s so frustrating. I think a lot of it is in our heads. Face your fears! Don’t let it stop you!

@jackmarshall5911 5 лет назад

I totally get it. I feel so limited by it. Hopefully you’ve gotten better sense.

@starrchildx 6 лет назад

i love how he has this smirk the whole time like he knows he's bouta drop some real shit in this video lol

@ConsciousEvolution13 4 года назад

Wow! I have been searching for the longest while for some relief to my anxiety and constant discomfort. You have hit the nail directly on the head. Wonderful explanation. I’m thankful I rediscovered you.

@JR-xp1iz 4 года назад

The calm, gentle delivery is so comforting and supportive. I am very grateful.

@superlasse2468 8 лет назад

"Whatever you think, someone could think the opposite. So how do you know your perspective is some how true?" This completely struck me.

@alwaysdisney2665 8 лет назад

We should really stop giving a fuck about what people might think about us. I mean why should it matter? Are they better than us? NO! I see so many confident people that are less atractive or smart or talented than me and I always wonder why cant I be confident??? Why do I let my self think I m any less than I really am? I am not and none of us are! Let me tell you you are way more special than you think. and you deserve the world.Go out and get it!

@alwaysdisney2665 8 лет назад

george kurgansky It was a metafore my dear I am just trying to give my point

@karenramsumair2259 6 лет назад

It's hard to 'go out and get it' when you have social anxiety.

@maudiecollins8760 6 лет назад

Dreamer

@maryseal6664 4 года назад

Thank you SO much. My SA has gotten so bad recently that I can’t sit with my best friend of _nine years_ at lunch without worrying about my arm position looking awkward or my voice being too quiet. It feels like a prison where you over analyze EVERYTHING. You worry about the way you’re breathing. You worry about the people staring at you. You worry about not being able to carry a conversation. You stutter, blush, air-swallow. You isolate yourself in your room for months because you’re scared of having to make eye contact with and speak to people. I can’t even order food at a restaurant without thinking my eye contact looks too awkward or freezing up and stuttering. There’s never a moment when you’re not worrying. It’s always like this low fog of dread hanging over you 24/7. Despite this, I’m trying to change and I’m looking into therapy or medication. Reading these comments makes me feel like I’m not alone. We’ll beat this!!

@kaiidoiso644 4 года назад

How old are you?

@upperdecker237 5 лет назад

The thing about social anxiety is it's hard enough just to have it. But you have to atleast TRY to get over it, and that's the hardest part.

@YouNoub1 8 лет назад

Haven't updated my facebook profile picture in 3 years. Because I am too afraid that I won't get enough likes because I haven't been in contact with most of my friends on social media so I know I am going to lack the number of likes I used to get. Now I realise that I'm simply "not popular" and I have now accepted that fact. That was just ONE of my social anxiety disorders.

@eleosberlioz8757 8 лет назад

Cmon maannnnnn...

@YouNoub1 8 лет назад

Potato Carrot I actually did it the next night, All stories in my head is actually not true. felt so good and proud a few moments after my upload, Btw, i did get multiple likes just saying. :)

@rupunzel12345 8 лет назад

Dude I feel sorry for you if you are worried about 'likes' that's really sad. sorry man

@YouNoub1 8 лет назад

Noodle Poodle You got a point, i made it sound like "likes" the only thing i cared about. but the point i was trying to make was that the stories and thoughts in my head was not true. Although "likes" do feel good, not gonna lie. Just being honest :)

@Larapic 8 лет назад

OMG I'm the exact same!!!

@DihelsonMendonca 7 лет назад

Noah, I waited my whole life for a person tell me exactly what you just said. I searched many doctors, priests, psychologists and friends, and they never answered what´s wrong with my life. The problem is that we create a self-image so fragile, in our heads, although we are capable, we are smart, but we depend on other´s approval, we really have little self-confidence, at the point that if 1 million people tell us that we are not good enough, we don´t care and go ahead, because we know who we are. The underlying problem is that we don´t know ourselves sufficiently well. People can´t harm us, if the enemies inside us don´t hurt us first. Thank you so much !

@usernotfound232 3 года назад

Reading alll these comments made me realize that everyone with social anxiety is funny creative seems fun to be around beautiful and they all have a pure soul it’s soo sad how we don’t enjoy life to it’s fullest and always back off great opportunities in life :,) I love all of u and reading all thee comments made me realize that I’m not alone in this fight I have sisters and brothers that r in this with me too I trust in us we can do it and over come it

@allimai 2 года назад

There are so many people who experience this and it’s insane like imagine if we all got together and helped each other overcome it.

@khaisawa291 7 лет назад

You are so spot on! I've never thought about it in this way. I have social anxiety and people, RU-vid videos and therapists tell me to 'face it head on, face your fears, go out and just do it, love yourself, you need more confidence!'. It never works, in fact it makes it worse! This has helped SO much! It's so simple yet so obvious! So thank you

@privateProtection 7 лет назад

StephanieRayner its hard because every situation and location is different, but if you face your anxiety in the same place over and over again, you will get rid of it completely, it worked for me in speaking in front of a classroom but for example in a cafe or public place like that its still REALLY hard for me, not to mention i blush like crazy so thats a huge give away 🙁

@NoahElkrief 7 лет назад

I'm glad this helped you Stephanie :)

@theavastark6463 4 года назад

How are you doing now??

@Nathan_Bunga 8 лет назад

i find it awkward to look people in the eye. Even on youtube videos

@derpderpina5618 7 лет назад

Mojo Jojo you must get help

@janinecunningham2 5 лет назад

Me too!

@Stoneface_ 5 лет назад

Mojo Jojo that’s ridiculous

@Ab_someone 5 лет назад

I have the same issues

@yarnyknots 6 лет назад

Your videos have helped me more than years of therapy. Thank you for explaining like I'm five without ever being patronizing.

@elizabethmatthews7992 4 года назад

I practice Buddhism. I lived in Nepal. I go to dialectical based therapy. I meditate. My husband lives this truth and tells me this truth. It was not until I watched your videos that I believed this truth in all its fullness. I cannot explain this. Perhaps you were the proverbial 7th person for me. I had the “Office Space” moment last week after watching just one of your videos. Thank you for sharing these truths. The creation of me, of I, is the function of the brain in this body in this moment. The brain and this body is always changing and will eventually cease to exist. Therefore I do not exist and I have never existed, as me. There is no static me or I. And at the same time, my body is made up of particles of the universe, quite literally, the dust of stars that exploded. And so, my consciousness is simply the universe knowing itself for as long as my brain continues to function. When one realizes this truth, then one realizes that good, bad, happiness, sadness, pain, comfort is not forever real, and therefore practicing letting go of every thought and every emotion and every feeling in each moment eliminates suffering. There is still happiness, sadness, pain and comfort as feelings both physical and mental but letting go of the desire to not be sad, in pain, uncomfortable, etc.eliminates suffering and allows us to just...be.

@Yourhighnessnona 7 лет назад

His eyes are so sweet

@0dete 7 лет назад

yes they are , his voice is very kind and sweet too, no wonder he made this Video to help us People, he is an Angel. and just came by his Videos today.

@danielnsikanjoshua306 6 лет назад

never as sweet as my ass ok sorry im joking

@stuartsmith4723 6 лет назад

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@silencieuxasmr6246 7 лет назад

GUYS............ WE CAN DO THIS

@jaygotahemi1137 3 года назад

When ever I go to the grocery store or any store and I see a lot of people or just many cars I just start to panic for some reason. Or when someone asks me a question and I’m the only one talking i start to stutter and sweat a lot it sucks:(

@shekharchauhan6567 2 года назад

Such an underrated channel. Absolute admiration for the clarity you provide. Thank you

@AppleSlicesUnite 8 лет назад

I've been in the house for months. I can't get on the bus and I don't have a car. I'm spending tons of money on delivery because I can't go to the store.

@scottminnella1880 8 лет назад

+Apple I feel for you.. Don't give up

@quantumwizard7771 6 лет назад

This is actually brilliant and to answer the question "who are you without the self image?" You are consciousness. You are the awareness that is observing all you're beliefs and self programming. You are not a personality. You are the observer of that personality. Update: I tried this for the first time today and it works great! Thank you Noah! As someone who has suffered with social anxiety disorder for years, You have saved my life. Thank you for reminding me of who i truly am.

@RobertG-uu3xm 5 месяцев назад

I think that’s equally as depressing. If we’re all just awareness and our “personalities” are just a figment of our imagination, why even bother interacting with anyone? Who are we without our identities? literally nothing

@howtognmwithlaurie 4 года назад

Thank you Noah! I have read so much about this topic, but this is the most clear explanation I have ever had. I learned something new and it will help me a lot!

@AmareshAsmara 4 года назад

God bless your heart and soul. this was an entire hour of free therapy, you have no idea how much youre helping people. this was great ty so much!

@jacquii3565 8 лет назад

I've need to doctors, I've been on medication I have tried everything and I have never felt the feeling I am feeling now, I feel so light, like a massive weight that had been holding me down for my whole life has now been lifted. thank you, thank you THANK YOU!

@HahaYes 7 лет назад

When you finally lose social anxiety and start being happy in class, then teacher starts yelling at you and everyone laughs at you.

@dannahernandez4715 4 года назад

Lol. 😂😂😂

@awangie 4 года назад

Mine literally says SPEAK LOUDER like ok miss I'd rather have a mentalbreak down than speak.

@rohhsk5560 4 года назад

Cupcake Angela lol yeah

@Rachel-pk9iq 3 года назад

@@awangie when i answer a question the kids say i dont have a voice so yh they judge me...

@awangie 3 года назад

@@Rachel-pk9iq aw i hope you're doing better :) dw, i have stuttering issues and still do till this day but it doesn't bother me too much because my classmates are very supportive and I just learned to embrace it. I hope you don't take what the kids say to you to seriously bc they f*cking don't know anything if they judge you bc of your voice.

@chrispyd603 5 лет назад

This video changed my life

@goodfairy69 4 года назад

The most caring,loving and mindful video I have seen in my life. It had such impact on me.......this is real love for humans. Thank you thank you thank you

@A93kedi 6 лет назад

I can't even walk around the people, I feel shy,when I walk I cant move my arms it really fu**ing me and also I don't know how I'm making eyes contact with other people's 😥😥

@JBEMurphy 4 года назад

Ajay Stn I feel the same way. I’m struggling with this and I’m a believer in Jesus Christ as the Lord. It’s still my faith but I struggle with the eye contact and feeling confident speaking and talking face to face. It’s awkward. My faith though in Jesus keeps me going because I believe he is the Redeemer who will make all things new and whole one day and will start that process once we believe in Him and that He died in our place on the cross to forgive us of all the wrong things we have done. This brings us the Holy Spirit who teaches us that we are no longer a slave to the lusts of the world, but are free. It does not make you perfect though in our own lives. Only with God you are made perfect. In this life we are not and have to overcome things like anxiety

@sod304567 8 лет назад

Unfortunately, I just don't know who am I. I wish I could answer those questions but I don't know if I'm happy or unhappy, funny or boring. I have no idea what I would say if somebody were to ask me to describe myself. I think I have social anxiety because I don't know who I am and I can't relate to anybody which is frustrating. I don't know how to deal with this type of SA

@iGNiTETheKiD 7 лет назад

This is what I related too. I couldn't fix SA bc of this

@TheMoo1231 7 лет назад

I can also relate to this. This is NOT a type of SA, the SA is secondary to it, whatever the loss of identity is caused by....

@DeeTasticGaming 7 лет назад

But that's exactly what this video is saying; you are you. You shouldn't be able to describe yourself - that's what Noah is trying to get us to forget. Saying you are happy does not make you happy. You shouldn't have to tell yourself you are happy to be happy. You should be you, because that's all that matter. More specifically, you cannot define "you". You are you, regardless of what any word means. You may perform actions in everyday life, but even those are considered differently by other people. If you are sitting in a room of people, and you randomly get up and start singing, people perceive that differently. On one side, someone could think you must be a happy person to be singing at such a random time. Whereas the other side might think you're crazy for doing something at that particular moment. It's all just perception of people. If you truly think of your social anxiety, you'll more then likely find that you are scared of something. For me, I'm scared of people thinking I'm stupid or that I'm weird. I find my social anxiety coming from my confidence (looks), and what I say (sometimes I say the wrong word, or stutter, or get lost for words, etc), and the whole time all I'm thinking about is what the other person must think of me. Next time you feel yourself getting nervous or anxious, just truly analyze the situation and try and pin point what in that time period made you feel the way you did. Then try to manipulate what went wrong and try it again, this time with the new mindset. Hope this cleared things up a little bit. Just give it a try!

@justinp5656 7 лет назад

Jeffyboyy I HAVE THE SAME THING AS YOU MAN! However, I'll be super self conscious and try so hard not to be weird that it backfires and I feel weird again

@dartagnan553 7 лет назад

if someone cares about others opinions so much, how can he even speak to someine he angered?if you ignore your feelings so much you will undoubtedly get lost, as i did just yesterday.but when i stop to ask "what am i feeling , what do i want to do?" and trh to just act its smooth sail.

@jay-mj3ji 4 года назад

this was really an eye opener everything you were saying was shocking for me. i never thought you would ask such questions or speak about such things. i was so used to hearing the same thing over and over about switching the negative to a positive. i would never ask myself these questions when thinking about who i am and my thoughts about myself and others. i definitely lost apart of my self image while watching this. now, i’m sure not exactly which part :D but i felt a sense of relief after listening to you talk. and also sleepiness because your voice is very soothing. i’m glad i chose to continue listening to you and really along to what you asked us to do instead of falling asleep. although that wouldn’t have been so bad but this message isn’t something i could miss out on. i’m gonna listen to this over and over again until it makes even more sense to me then it did the last time i watched it. thank you for taking the time to spread this out and help us who are struggling. lots of love 💕