Hello Frederike, this was such a wonderful honest film. It is great that countries are able to help people live full lives, like you said, at your own pace. I think you are too hard on yourself and you are definitely contributing to society globally through your videos. I'm happy to watch all that you do whether it be rescuing small animals, paint, or chatting about yourself.
Thank you so much, Donna. Truly! You gave me a huge confidence boost by writing this to me and it means more than I can put into words. I appreciate you so much!
Such an honest diary Frederike and it was a privilege to hear your thoughts 💭 and talking I think will help you on your journey to a better place 🙏🏼😊 Don’t be hard on yourself about contributing to society ect what you do and will do with these Vlogs has and will help so many others with their struggles 👍 My eldest daughter struggles with very similar issues as you so I do understand a little of the pain /guilt ect your speak of ( you are an inspiration) Have a lovely week ☀️ Best wishes Simon 😊 I used to watch the flintstones too 🦕
Hello Simon! You always manage to put such a big smile on my face, thank you for that! And thank you for your honesty. I hope your daughter can find the light and love out of her pain, and embrace the beauty of the world. If she's anything like her dad, then she has so much good and inspiring things inside of her to offer the world and life itself. It's always a joy to see you here Simon. And I'm excited to catch up on your adventures soon. Best wishes and much light to you and your beautiful family.
I struggle too! You're not alone. It's okay to take care of your self as you say. I find myself telling myself to ignore certain thoughts and push away what I don't like about myself. Good day to you and thanks for sharing. 🤠👍
Oh cool, Freddy... you're originally from Netherlands; I'm from Belgium on my mother's side and lived near Antwerp for about 5 years as a young child when my father passed on. I had to learn English quickly when my mother brought me back to Canada after she remarried, lol... I could only speak Flemish but have since completely lost the language Your English is very good, with no real noticeable accent. You have so much to offer... with the discipline to make this life better for us all... it's your generation that must pick up the torch and lead... we need intelligent artists, Freddy! I haven't had nothing days for a while but when I do it makes me feel anxiety... it's so destructive ... you're not alone in these emotions. "Healing through creation" it's a brilliant line... I hope I can read your book before my time comes.. your deep introspections are priceless. Please don't feel guilty about your financial situation.. it's not your fault and it's also not your fault other people around the world in similar situations don't have the social benefits you have.... gratitude for what you have is a better alternative than guilt you don't deserve to feel. Stay strong, love life You are a gem, Freddy... shine brightly for the world
Hello John! This was a delight to read, thank you so much for your kindness, encouragement and honesty. That's so cool that you're actually from Belgium! It's also strange to read such good words about myself. Most of the time I don't take comments or words from the internet to heart, because it's the internet after all hahaha but I have to say that what you write to me here sneaks in and squeezes my heart in a warm and inspiring way. Thank you so much for that! And you're very right too about gratitude: I should poor my energy into that, not the guilt. I appreciate you John and I'm inspired by your words and work! How's that poetry book coming along? I send your wife all my love and healing energies. Take care and best wishes to you too.
I think that everyone must have nothing days, but not everyone feels bad about them. But I guess we feel bad about them because we have a conscience, and because we have goals that we want to achieve. It is easy to say, but don't be too hard on yourself, because I think that you have already achieved more than you imagine. You have captivated us! You are intelligent, self-aware, talented, creative, and eloquent. It is better to have an intelligent mind that is too busy than one which does not care. And, of course, I know the Flintstones 😊I watched this before responding to a comment you left on my channel. I am about to add to my response in the light of what you have shared with us here. In the meantime, try to start next week with a 'Yabadabadoo'! With much love - Sue ❤
The whole time I was just nodding in agreement with everything you were sharing. I too have nothing days. And it's riddled with guilt... But I am trying to be kinder to myself. I try to remind myself that it's ok to rest...but I'm still trying to figure it all out. Try not to be too hard on yourself all the time. Remind yourself that you will have good days and bad days... And that's ok. In terms of "failing", I noticed that I "fail" alot because the expectations that I set for myself are too high. So these days, I make my to do lists way shorter... So that I can actually complete things and feel more accomplished. I dunno if I'm tricking myself or what, but I'm trying out different strategies to see what sticks. Maybe you can try this as well? Much love and support always~♥️
Hello my sweet friend! Gosh, I felt a squeeze in my heart reading your words again (and I've read them often ever since you wrote this to me) I think the hardest part of me is to be ok with the bad days haha and yes, you're so right: setting lofty goals and expectations really hurts how we see ourselves. I'll take your wisdom with me and make my to-do lists shorter. I appreciate you so much, and it means more than I can put into words that you share your own thoughts about these topics. Much love and support right back to you!
Frederike 💗💗💗 you are so strong and so brave! THANK YOU for sharing your journey with such openness. I know that is not easy to do! Thank you for sharing your struggles with such honesty. I have so much respect for you friend. Only you can truly know your own struggles and I'm sure it is hard to feel that others may be offended that you receive support. You deserve that support and you have a beautiful heart for recognizing that everyone deserves that but does not always receive it. I really hope that we continue to move towards a new era where we Can slow down, and prioritize taking care of our health, both mental and physical. 🙏 Ah yes, I definitely have those nothing days.. 😑 For me, I have learned to accept them when they occur and just surrender to the process. This has taken years to learn and it is still hard to accept. I know now that when that happens, my body and mind are saying to slow way down. So I do (and it is Such a struggle to do so because society would have us believe there is something wrong with us and we are failing if we are not being productive Every day..) I trust that it will pass (sometimes sooner than others) and I let myself just Be a Blob. 😳 The shawl and items from your grandma are so precious. My heart goes out to you for your loss. She was clearly so loved by you. Big hugs to you friend! I look forward to your next video! 💛
Thank you so, so much for those words Kristen! Gosh, I can't explain the relief and warmth I feel knowing that you understand and resonate with the things I said. It's such a comfort! I love that you say that nothing days essentially means your body and mind is telling you to slow down. I haven't thought about it that way before, but now that you wrote it, it makes a lot of sense. Society does indeed put this heavy load and pressure on us to constantly achieve and do things - making us feel like we constantly need to be productive in order to ''deserve'' rest. Which is really sad. Rest and peace and love should be our main priority, I think. From now on I'll too let myself just be a blob when those days occur. Thank you again Kristen, for being you and for writing this to me! Much love and big hugs.
Thank you for sharing your emotions, your life. I have days when I feel overwhelmed, confused, I doubt myself, even my happiness. The next day, I drink my coffee in front of a beautiful sunrise, and I am filled with gratitude to witness it and to be alive. Beautiful dresser, really like it 🌸
You know, it often happens something similar to me. Some days are simply wrong from the early morning, I feel like I'm not accomplishing anything (and this is what actually happens) and the further the day progresses, the more nervous I get because I feel stuck. Often these days just end like this, whether I like it or not and I just eagerly wait for the next day to come hoping for a better mood. I still don't understand why this happens, maybe because we expect too much of ourself? Maybe you need to be more forgiving towards yourself too, there's nothing bad with what you said. I enjoyed the video, the things you talked about are precious, I know many of the feelings you described :) A big hug from here. 🤗 Also, you have a beautiful voice!
Hello my beautiful friend from Umbria! Thank you for writing this to me. I'm surprised to see how much comfort it brings when someone understands and feels similar things. It means a lot that you share it with me. I think you're completely right: that most of it has to do with being too hard on ourselves. It means so much that you enjoyed the video, truly! I hope you're doing well in your beautiful place. Give all your animals the biggest scratches and hugs!!
Hi Frederike! First, let me thank you for this video. I really enjoyed it! I know you put a lot of effort into doing these amazing videos -- thank you very muchly
Hello sweet Alee! Gosh, you made my entire month with this comment!! You have no idea how much it means that you enjoy these videos and find value in them. It's quite scary putting yourself out there like that hahaha but your words give me the confidence I need to keep going. I love your little rant, honestly!! Feel free to rant whenever you want🤗❤🙏 It's also such a comfort to know you understand the emotion I'm talking about here. I've underestimated the power of finding people who understand and not being alone in things. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I hope you're doing well and I'm eagerly awaiting your next video!! BIG hugs to you
Thank you for sharing. That takes courage. Norway sounds like a wonderful country to live in. We live in a world that values productivity. Need to be busy always doing something and accomplishing something. Why? To escape from our thoughts and feel valued for what we do? Going within to find our peace is not valued. People who can be with themselves and do nothing and just be are blessed. I hope you find blessings.
Thank you so, so much for watching and for writing me these lovely comments. It means the absolute world! Norway is a beautiful and well-functioning country that has helped people like me stay on their feet in very dark times. I wholeheartedly agree with you: society prioritizes being productive and getting distracted, not inner work that can actually help people live their best and healthiest lives. It's sad but who knows, maybe there can be change in the future. As more and more individuals take back their power to live lives that are fulfilling to them, not getting swept up by outside unobtainable expectations. I truly appreciate you being here! I send you the biggest hug and all my light. ❤
I have found your channel recently and I am very glad I did because you speak out loud what I think about and experience all the time. Thank you for sharing your experience. I resonate so deeply with the nothing days as I have them quite often, too. For me, somatic practice is what helps me the most when I struggle with my most destructive thoughts and fears. And I have also began to draw again. But still, I feel like I don't belong to this world because I cannot fulfill the demands this society puts on me. And frankly I don't want to because more and more I believe that it's the society that is sick and needs to heal and I just need to let myself be what in my soul I know I am.
Hello my kind friend. Gosh, you have no idea how comforting and empowering it was to receive your comment. I’ve read it several times. Thank you for writing this to me and sharing your thoughts and experiences with the nothing days as well. I used to believe that I was the only one bottling up these thoughts and emotions. To see that I’m not alone is the biggest gift. It saddens me to read that you struggle with these days, but I wholeheartedly agree with you: I too believe society is sick and needs healing. And I think that by allowing ourselves to be who we are, to accept that we move at a different pace and live in a quieter, gentler way, we make space for that societal healing. We should be allowed, like you say, to live like we in our hearts know we’re meant to. I admire you for finding this understanding within yourself and living according to that. Nothing days will pass and hopefully lessen as time goes on. If you keep living your truth you do society a huge favor. And most importantly yourself! You are not alone. And thank you for helping me feel that I’m not either. Please keep drawing!! I truly believe that creation is our way to healing and inner peace. I’m so grateful that you’re here and I send you the biggest hug.
Thank you so much for replying. It means a lot to me. You are right, gentle ways of being in this world truly have the power to make space for people to heal. At least I wholeheartedly believe it. And please keep making videos because I can resonate with your perspective very intimately and they help me understand myself even better. @@ATravelerOfWorlds
Hello my kind friend. I apologize for my late reply, I'm not very quick to answer in general but know that I've read you're message and your presence here means the world to me! Feel free to write to me whenever you feel like it, I love and appreciate hearing your thoughts. Also, I adore the drawings you've been sharing on IG. It's inspiring to see you go out of your comfort zone and share your work. Thank you for that! And thank you for encouraging me to keep creating videos, I needed to hear it. Big hugs!!@@petran5062
No worries about your late reply. And thank you for your kind feedback. I look forward to keeping in touch. Have a beautiful day and I'm sending you a big hug back :)@@ATravelerOfWorlds
My dad's family were Dutch. His dad was born in the 1890s. His dad was a mason here in the US. He designed and built his house in SE New York State near New Jersey. He died of leukemia - from the radium dial in a watch. I remember the circle of the radium burn on his leg. He died in March 1975 - i was nearly 16. I remember failing my 10th grade English exam on Animal Farm. I just had a twinge od sadness
Thank you for sharing a bit of your family history! What an interesting story yet also saddening to read. That is way too young to loose your dad! I hope you have beautiful memories from your time together though. That house must've been beautiful!
I have nothing days. And they make me miserable but I can only push so hard or it backfires. My CPTSD causes debilitating panic attacks. Been doing EMDR therapy to lessen my symptoms permanently. Been battling this for 13 years since I had the loss of my only safe person 😢. It is hard hard work. But there is hope. ❤
Gosh it's both saddening and a comfort to read from someone battling the same hardships... I feel you, I'm with you and without knowing you I'm still proud of how you're doing!! From your comments it seems to me like you're working really hard and truly standing up for the life you want to live. I started EMDR therapy a few years back but then covid hit and could no longer go to my sessions. Which I'm still upset about today. If it helps any, the sessions I did have seem to help a little more each time. I believe it can be a really freeing and healing treatment. Keep going, keep standing up for yourself bc you have the power to rise from anything that has jurt you. I believe that! And your safe person observes and guides you from above, rooting for you and holding your hand every step of the way. I truly believe that too! Thank you for writing and sharing your experiences with me, I really needed that today ♥️♥️♥️
@@ATravelerOfWorlds you are welcome. Hopefully you can do EMDR again soon. I have to be in EMDR for over a year from so many layers of things. I am glad I was able to help in some way. Stay strong ❤️
I have nothing days. I try to be kind to myself then, but I have the same thoughts and feelings as you do while I have them. Have you tried a body therapy approach with your therapist (or another one before)? Or therapy with mdma ? I just saw a couple of documentarys about how helpful this can be, at least for ptsd. And of course being very considerate about it. ❤❤Please don’t feel guilty about welfare❤❤ No need to. You deserve space in this world even if you have 100% nothing days. And you with your channel and your beautiful, authentic, vulnerable and lovely self are so courageous and a true, and important, gift to this world. 💎 Do you know the yt channel “reflections of life” ? If not, I think you would like it :) It’s my favourite and I think you would fit right in :) ❤Everything you feel makes sense and has reasons ❤
Oh gosh, what a beautiful comment. Thank you so much for writing to me! First of: I absolutely know this channel and it's one of my favorites too!!! The stories are all so wise, gentle and truly bring me a hopeful perspective on life and the future. I'm so happy you love this channel too! I've tried EMDR therapy but Covid got in the way, half way through. I could know longer visit my therapist. And when I could go to her for appointments again we'd moved too far away. I'll take a look at mdma and body therapy. Thank you for mentioning it! And thank you for being so kind. It's such a comfort and encouragement to keep going, and to know I'm not alone. Sending you all my love and light. Your comments made my day! 🌞🥰❤
Du er meget modig Frederike (både fordi du fortæller om, hvordan du har det og fordi du vil komme ud af det negative)! Jeg tænker at det er fuldstændigt normalt at have mærkelige dage, og jeg er nemlig selv dårlig til at acceptere det. Men at sæt press på sig selv er værre end at tage sin tid synes jeg. Når det hele bliver for meget, plejer jeg at tage en tur uden for, fordi så ser jeg, at jeg kun er et menneske i en stor verden og at det hele nok skal gå godt. Ellers så skriver jeg eller laver et eller andet inspirerende. Håber det kan hjælpe dig : ) Elena
Hei Elena og takk for din nydelige kommentar! Du har fullestendig rett og jeg føler din visdom bak det du skriver, visdom som jeg selv mangler haha fordi jeg omgår med slike dager så dårlig. Takk for dine ord og godhet. Setter utrolig pris på deg, liker det du sier at når man ser selv som en liten del av en stor verden så forstår man at alt nok vil gå godt. Det er godt a høre! Du hjelper meg definitivt både ved å skrive til meg og ved å være den du er! Stor klem
You answered the therapy?? There are multitudes of ways to contribute to the world . I believe you are an Empath. I am an Empath. Safety is a basic human need. ❤❤❤❤
From your comments I can definitely see that you are! And yes, you're so right. Safety, comfort and love is something everyone should have the right to have.
