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I know a lot of people probably wont like hearing this video, but you made great points. I am guilty of spending way too much time online, and slowly letting the toxicity of the internet consume me. My attention span is horrible, so I think I too need to get off social media more. I would rather be having a happier life, living my own life to my best, than just not knowing an internet meme that will go away in two months tops.
Yeah really look up that about social media harms and also FB and Instagram really went shady of November 14 ,of this year and stopped working on certain parts which I had to do the hardest thing and fast delete accounts and have to go through the withdraws. Anyway may have to do the same.
This is so relatable. I use to be so addicted to Twitter and constantly thinking about how many followers/friends I can gain, what’s trending, and how many likes I can get on certain posts to make me feel happy. It’s been about 1 month and a half since I’ve been active on twitter and my self esteem has improved plus I’ve gained 4 irl friends.
That good and even more bad news as of November Instagram and Facebook are not working in certain parts really Google all about that and had to do the hardest thing for addicts of this delete accounts and fast.
I logged off of twitter recently primarily to avoid potential spoilers for the Legend of Zelda: Tears of the Kingdom and it has actually made me feel better mentally and I’m more encouraged to do other things more often. I still need to get my fat ass off the couch but I’m working on it.
Yeah and it's going insane and really had to get off certain parts since I used to have and FB account but as of November 14 of this year it stopped working and is dead in parts along with Instagram and also just yesterday had to kick it out. Really is going to be tough.
i haven't deleted my socials and i have no plans to, but i did stop consuming political content recently. i used to be the type of person to constantly be up to date on all the breaking news and literally everything politics, i felt like if i wasn't up to date on everything all the time that i was missing vital information and was a bad/uneducated person because of it. i realized that not only were those things not true, but also that keeping a news feed glued to my eyeballs 24/7 was causing me to fall back into depression and worsening my anxiety. i felt hopeless and trapped, like life wasn't even worth living. i came to the realization one day that i didn't NEED to look at these things at all, and it was all just a warped mindset i had developed for myself. it wasn't super easy, but i did it, i stopped engaging with political content online and it was the best decision i've made in a long time! not only am i much happier than before, but i've also been able to use my time to engage with my other interests that bring me so much more joy! now instead of feeling hopelessly depressed because of politics, i've been vibing by playing Animal Crossing and watching Scooby-Doo. now don't get me wrong, i still plan on voting and such in the future; when i say that i don't engage with politics anymore, i mean political commentary and online discourse. voting is important, but driving yourself to becoming depressed and installing a news feed in your brain is not.
“You don’t even know what you’re missing out on” that hit hard. I keep going on social media thinking I’ll get SOMETHING, but I don’t know what. And you’re right, you CANT get time back, and I think I’ve lost so much time from social media. Thanks for this, Den. :)
This made me realize how much different my experience with social media is from everyone else's. I started social media (outside of RU-vid) with Amino in... 2017, I think ? On there, I started a few of my first creative projects and it was awesome, I made a bunch of awesome online friends I'm still in contact with to this day. Over the years I joined other social media either out of curiosity, to stay in contact with people who left Amino because it sucks now, or because school made me. But now I'm inactive on Amino since my tablet is old and the app isn't compatible with it anymore, and not only the app isn't great now, but the site is worse. And since then I haven't been active on online communities at all. No matter the social media, Instagram, Twitter, Reddit, Tumblr... I rarely post or even look at posts. The only social media I'm active on nowadays is Discord, and I spend most of my time on it speaking to the friends I made all these years ago that I mentioned earlier. As for RU-vid, I'm obviously a lot more active on there, and I even post more too. I'm trying to show my creativity but even the people who subscribed don't seem to care that much about my writing. So as you said, being on there affected my self esteem in a bad way. I just want to do what I love but I apparently I'm not good enough. My creations aren't good enough. But right now I'm fine, I don't feel like that. And personally, I'd rather watch longer videos that required work and research than shorts, so I suppose I have a longer attention span. As for TikTok and Facebook, I just don't have them. TikTok isn't exactly known for having the most interesting and relevant content out there. And the only reason I have Twitter is to upload images and videos from my Switch on there and then go on it with my tablet to download and use them for my content. My lack of presence on social media isn't great to advertise my content, but I can't convince myself to post regularly again due to how high my anxiety and lack of self esteem have gotten since then because of how much my life sucks right now... Now that I wrote all of this, I realize it's an even more complicated situation than I thought it was.
Even tho RU-vid is a social media, it’s more of an app you can use to know things. And if you don’t spend all of your time on it, it isn’t a big deal. So I think he quit all of social media except yt.
I've deleted all social media on my phone for about half a year now, I'm only allowing myself to watch youtube for an hour every day on the website version instead of the app. My attention span is a lot better, I'm feeling a lot better and I'm overall more 'living in the moment'. Would recommend to everyone.
actually, I can relate. What you said about the attention span is what I'm struggling with right now. As a youtuber who wants to make more videos in order to get audience I always forget what spending 1 straight hour on one activity without being disturbed with a new message or without taking a "food break"
When people ask me why I don't have TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp, Telegram and I keep my Twitter in private, I'll send this video. Also I like how you explained EVERYTHING. Do you know what? I'm sharing it! I know a couple of teachers that can use it as a resource (and I'm also a teacher).
I agree with the amount of the time we consume social media, including if we are not socializing and utilizing these platforms to improve our lives. That is why I balance my time with my internet usage by following mostly artists and news accounts, while also doing brain training games on my smartphone. I am also reading more books at least an hour a day and change my routine so I am not glued to a computer or phone.
I quit social media too and it was the best choice I've made. Now, I do get on RU-vid but only to catch up on my favorite RU-vidrs and that's about it. The only other reason I use my phone is for my best friend who is long distance. I checked my phone and I've only been on here for an hour. (Btw this is only after a week of having a phone. I literally have my phone away.) Ive been free for 3-4 months. I actually got a phone to message my friend and cause I do need one cause I'm home alone and need some 911 thing as my mom says. I also have started reading so much and I've read over 9 books within a few months and that was my new years goal. I've accomplished a lot this year and I'm much happier.
I love this!! I deleted tik tok in February because i felt like it was very negative and putting a lot of negative things in my head. Not a lot of people feel the same way but I’m glad I noticed it. I’m not strong enough to get rid of all my social media yet but maybe I’ll get there one day. I’m so happy that you are doing better since deleting social media! And I’m in awe because i understand it was definitely hard love ya Den!!
this is why I avoid using social media (outside of youtube at specific times, and recently reddit STRICTLY to ask questions I can't find anywhere else). I am 20, never liked the idea of social media, and I avoided it at all costs. best decision I have ever made.
I get what you mean. I like using social media but somedays I reflect and I think, when did I let it take so much of my soul? It does feel good to unplug sometimes I am definitely working on it. I am personally more into the art community and seeing all sorts of awesome drawing talent but, I do get into sucked into random vids/posts. The good, the funny, and the sad. Oof.
I'm literally having this problem. I think I've used media to distract myself from my anxiety and depression. It's really messed up my concentration. Trying to improve that, but it's a struggle. Thank you for sharing. It's nice to know others are in the same boat. Makes me feel less alone.
I more or less quit social media 4-5 years ago - I dabbled a little in Insta, but nothing hooked me. I also just read news articles instead of having it served in a bite-sized video or meme format, so I actually retain at least *some* information.
this actually was really helpful and motivating, ive been trying to do similar things myself but I found it very hard and ended up getting back into my normal social media routine. i will legit put on youtube with every single task i do and sometimes get headaches from just taking my eyes off my phone. this has really motivated me to try limiting my interaction with social media. Thanky you Den :D
Ive been limiting myself on social media as well, and hard agree. It's been much easier to get regular housework and day-to-day chores done. Haven't had this much motivation in a literal decade.
AGREE 100% Sometimes i don´t understand how is that i don´t have time for anything. Being on social media and playing short games just consumes a lot of time.
"Cant even do a three step task." Erm, I have inattentive ADHD. You just described my life, except with me I either never started the task in the first place. Or I failed at step one!
I find it so interesting that tiktok and reels has become the new WebMD but for mental health disorders and neurodivergence. i see a shocking amount of reels saying stuff like 5 signs that you're ADHD, and its stuff that every person does. they don't acknowledge the actual reason why people with certain disorders struggle with those things or how it isn't something funny and quirky. it makes everyone think they have some kind of trauma or mental disorder because they relate to these very normal things that are being typecast as neurodivergent or PTSD or whatever.
I get it, I really do! I've cut down on social media a little bit, but I don't want to cut it out completely because I use it to encourage athletes (most, but not all go to my favorite college). I also use social media in other positive ways. But I don't spend all weekend on my computer like I used to. I go for at least one walk, and I have a few other projects I'm working on.
Good on you den, unplugging from social media seems like it was hard but you did it, I don't think I'd really want to since my attention span before I even had a phone was bad so my phone helps keep me busy and distracted but I still get my work done, I'll still sit down and read a book I read a lot actually and sometimes I read webcomics, social media isn't all that bad but yeah being stuck on it a lot isn't good, I'll probably just try to not be on my phone as much as usual. Good to have you back Den
I kinda want to quit TikTok because it keeps putting all the worlds issues right in front of my face all the time and I can't do anything about those issues, but at the same time looking away from those issues feels so selfish even if looking at them keeps making my mental health significantly worse
I used to be big into doomscrolling and being on social media for more than ten hours a day. And that was when I was in school, too! It got worse when I was pulled out. I genuinely got away from social media two years ago. I still have Discord, but I consider it more of a messaging app since I don't join any servers. Two years since then and my mental health has skyrocketed upwards. Social media is so toxic and draining, even if you manage to avoid the horrible things from it. Great video, Den.
I literally couldn't quit social media even if I wanted to. Not necessarily because of addiction but because all of my friends moved from my state to across the USA. Quitting social media would literally cut ties from my best friends that I've had for nearly a decade. That and I'm in a long distance relationship, I don't need my boo thinking I'm ignoring her on a daily basis. But honestly, I'm not even into social media. I watched RU-vid because my room never had cable, I use Discord for friends. That's it. Don't touch Twitter, never installed Instagram, I don't even bat an eye at all the cringe apps. I can safely say I'm not addicte- oh, what's that? I've been playing video games for 20 years? ... Well I guess I'm still addicted to my TV screen.
It really sucks because I stay off my phone and iPad for a lot of the day, but my parents and brother are on their iPads and phones all the time watching TV. For example, when I ate dinner last night at the dinner table, all of my family were on their iPads watching TV except for me I was just staring at the wall. it’s pretty sad. Because of this I stay in my room all day (except for when I get food) because what’s the point of even going downstairs when my family isn’t even going to interact with me?
My experience with toxic drama in social media pretty much led me to step away for a while. My original plan was to take a year-long break only for me to be away from social media for nearly three years, only going back to check once every couple of months for friends n family.
Its easy. Tried it twice. After around month for me- all the urges disapear. Problem with me not using phone tho: is either i get into books ( which is basically just as addicting as phone) but if i dont have paper back books rn, only other thing i can do is sleep, so no thank you, dont wanna become depressed, not contacting friends and atleast watching SOMETHING rather than sleeping out my days.
You are absolutely right. It's really time consuming and often really just drags you down. I've got to admit I'm not the most social person either and as a writer social media is a great excuse (or not so much) to procrastinate my work but except for keeping contact with people I can't see often or watching content creators I've subscribed to (instead of checking on how to fix a hair comb and ending p wtaching a giraffe get dressed for a wedding). But there's really much more to see in the real world.
I am someone who has grown up with the internet for most of my life and have grown attached to it to the point I made it a full time hobby and spend most of the day researching it ao I personally will never leave it.
One day, about 2 years ago, I just decided to cut out all social media and was surprised on how little I missed it. I never looked back. I just noticed that, _at worst,_ I was arguing with a stranger or a group of strangers with mob mentality.(Didn't happen too much, but it did happen. Hence why I never got twitter.) Then, _at best,_ I would be mindlessly scrolling for about 20min until like one meme made me churtle maybe. Rinse and repeat. I just decided to be honest with myself and that truth was, social media never added anything meaningful to my life. It felt up a void in my life with filler. Worse, it stunted personal growth with algorithms and made me angier at the world. I noticed that naunces did still exist too. Outside the internet, when everyone is out if their echo chambers. I also learnt the value of being bored. That it wasn't the enemy. But a calling to get creative, try something new, or go on an adventure. The best part, I got back more time in my life. More time to work out, create art, give the people care about more qaulity time, and with time to spare. My life might feel more like a slower pace. But that is because I got off the treadmill that kept me preoccupied, but emty inside. I am happier and I took back my life and sanity. On social media, I remember feeling chronically nostalgic for better and simpler times. Once I got off, I realized it was still here.
I need to do this 😭 I am constantly on my phone and I cannot even imagine what my screen time will be during summer. Honestly I’m thinking when summer starts, I just be off of everything for 3 hours straight at FIRST. I’ll work my way up obviously cause yk you don’t want to push yourself too fast, but I want to get into the habit of just doing things I love without being on my phone 24/7. Imma keep this video in my mind to give me motivation, thanks den :)😊
Personally I grew up with electronics, I was introduced to social media at 10 years old. So it’s very hard to let go of a habit you’ve done for multiple years now, I got to have my moms iPad at the age of 7, and I don’t remember much from before that age (memory issues), therefore it sounds weird to me to quit or minimize screen time.. over 6 hours a day for every day I can remember. I understand the consequences of having 6 hours screen time daily, but like you said it’s almost like they have you in a chokehold, especially since I get bored extremely fast. I’ve been waiting for a game to come out for a week now, literally checking the countdown every hour.. it’s addicting, almost like some weird drug. I also use social media as an escape from reality so it’s hard to let go of, it’s an extreme source of comfort to me, but this video is very inspiring, I’m gonna try to minimize it for a while and see if it’s helping me in any way. Thank you for this
Thank you for having made this video. I think the key is to get onto social medias that are better for your mental health. After 4673747338 failed attempts I finally grew to hate Instagram so much i quit it at the beginning of 2022. And i spent around half a year without ANY social media. My thoughts finally were mine again, my time finally was mine again, the content I usually create was finally mine again. It was all mine now, mine mine mine. I am a sucker for validation tho so at some point I joined Tumblr instead. Yes Tumblr isnt dead. I am on there for one year and i have almost 500 followers there now and i kick every possible bot. Tumblr has no dumb algorithm that is forced onto you, your followers all see your content reliably, you discover things the oldschool way and if you click onto one depressed post your feed doesnt look like you need therapy for the next few weeks. I am so much SO much happier on tumblr. And I love how slow my feed is. It doesnt force me to scroll 24/7 and waste my time - when i finished scrolling i finished. Maybe check some tags i follow and thats it. And then I go to Reddit and its the same game there. Reddit, Tumblr and RU-vid (as consumer)... i dont need more. I am satisfied. And feeling TONS better than before. And you know what? I don't even feel the need to go onto the toxic algorithm-driven social medias anymore :) (youtube is a grey zone somehow it doesnt really make me as addicted as Instagram did so it stays)
The only social media platform that I'm addicted to is RU-vid. It's gotten so bad to the point where I have to watch almost everything in 2x speed cause there's just so many videos to watch 😭
Den, your video was fantastic. What I am about to say is true. I have NEVER downloaded Facebook, Twitter, or any of the "social media" on my phone. In fact, I went 2 years without even looking at Facebook on my PC. I am a believer that phones are for phone calls. I don't chat with random people who try to solicit me, in fact, I block them. I take this view of online strangers, in that they are all out to get me. Ding Ding Ding Train gates coming down, NOPE! Not falling for it, my answer is, If I don't know you, I don't speak to you online at all! There...SAFE! You hit it right on the head when you said that you don't need other people to validate you. So if I want to go to Walmart in my Yoda pants and someone doesn't like it, too bad! Leave Walmart 'cause I'm-not-going-to! I like me and it doesn't really matter to me if others don't. Too bad, too, they don't know what they're missing.
I hate social media because there's so much mean toxic posts that makes no sense, and I especially hate those posts and/or comments that jerks make just because they're jealous of People being happy and gifted, and they dare try to take that away from us! :-| ...idiots... |:-( Social media is ruining in life too, but I won't let it... I encourage you to do the same by ignoring online trolls, and stuff... One time a troll tried to ruin my life, but he ended up killing himself in a car accident... maybe because he knew I'm better than him, and he's just a talentless cyberbully. |:-( *makes Minecraft villager noise* It was easy to move on after that. I love your content, especially your Gaming videos! :D
i deleted tiktok about a month ago cus i was on it way too much and it was killing my motivations to do anything else. it was really hard after deleting it but i was doing better. unfortunately i now keep finding myself on the RU-vid shorts but im not on them as long cus they don't grab my attention the same way tiktoks do.
Damnnnn might as well start doing that tbh- I rlly need for my attention span to be higher than it is now, definitely going to start doing that now Thx!!! Ilysm best RU-vidr
I started a bath for myself and went to the living room to scroll on tik tok. I LEFT THE WATER RUNNING FOR TWO HOURS!!! the water ran into my bedroom and the hallways and it flooded my bathroom.
Dear Denise, You never have to deal with social media if you don't want to! I don't like the toxicity of it either! You're nor the only one! No matter what happens, we hope that you would never give up and we always love your content so much! Keep up the marvelous work! Best, Sir Moony
Every time i try i’m like: Well wtf am I gonna do i’m stuck in my house and there’s literally nothing I can do. I have no motivation to draw and my story is ONLINE. And texting is the closest thing to human interaction rn. Quitting watching youtube won’t solve the problem. Also any time i try to read a book i get sad because it gives me the itch to work on my OWN book.
Dude. I've been off FB since the last Philippines election. I can proudly say that my top 3 used apps are Netflix, Duolingo and a game I play. Getting off social media is a great thing.
I would be surprised if it didn't. That's why I want to create chaos on it and then be in absolute control over it as I enjoy masterminding creating a utopian online world. Or you know, just making the internet better and more wholesome, one video at a time. Oh wait, you mean in terms of how it dominates an individual's life. Yeah, that's really and honestly something people have to decide for themselves. There's nothing else that can be done for them instead of, well you know, asking them to get off and then introducing them to other activities that they could instead of heing on social media. Or socializing all together on Social Media. Which is another terrible thing about most platforms (though one exception can include Discord), the lack of things that can bring people together.
I got a wake up call this morning, already locked my socials, then I see this since I am trying to find some advice. Nice to know I might get something from someone I grew up a bit on.
I’m so glad was I never fully got into social media when I was younger. I made the mistake of making a twitter account a few years back and regretted it almost a week in, I just wanted to look at fan art man! Why does there always have to be some kind of drama going on these days?
CypherDen: "And most of that time is on a thing we call..." me: "Random mobile games!" CypherDen: "Social media!" me: "oh- uh yeah that was what i was also going to say, social media"
Its instant gratification you will feel good in the moment but bad later. kind of like when you go to the gym and your workout sucks but later you feel good. in the famous words of Edward Elrick equivalent exchange.
I never really go on other medias besides youtube and most of my friends are in discord, but years gone by and I started slowly leaving screen time, and now I am trying to learm a new language, learn and instrument, now I am even thinking about improving my maths xD and I hated maths... Once social media isnt a big part of life, than you get back to trying to do something, because it does get boring so take advantage to learn something that you always wanted to do, read books or make a book :) hope that helps for anyone
As a 21 year old, who grew up with the making social media I still personally don’t use it. My 2-3 hours spent on my phone is texting friends and work related stuff.
I was never much for social medias, personally. I have an insta (rarely), and I use Discord (mostly) to talk with friends, but for the most part I just stuck to watching RU-vid and doing other things in that time. I won't get on people who use it constantly, but I respect the decision either way. Even if it brings you joy, too much of anything is a bad thing. :)
I don’t use social media much, I use my phone for music and other art related activities. I do agree with her points, but for a disabled person like me and the present day we live in plus so much more in my life- discord and messaging has allowed me to get to talk with friends I don’t get to see. (On the attention span thing; I got ADHD lol)
I don’t have tiktok, and I usually spend time talking with friends or just sitting outside or drawing or watching playing video games. However most my screen time is just listening to music or documentaries
My problem is the reverse. Don't get me wrong, I do spend more than 8 hours a day on my phone and computer, but it's from reading ebooks and not social media. My attention span is still poop though because I've gotten into short form content that drip feeds chapters to me causing me to hop from story to story to get my story fix. That constant hopping has led me to have trouble focusing when reading a regular book or novel.
Average attention span is actually not as measurable as “its shorter then a goldfish” but being addicted to a phone is a very real thing, that can be measurable. I agree with a lot of things you said.
The YT shorts' (I don't have tiktok) algorithm is so bad when it comes to the rabbit hole of doom-scrolling, I would feel fin watching ppl eat japanese snacks and the next thing I know I can't sleep because someone unearthed some random high school trauma I had long forgotten. I started watching movies at night when I can't sleep instead of scrolling thru shorts and reels... I even picked up my 3ds and got back into some games I never finished- and now my attention span is more like how it used to be before short-form content.
Amazing video Ms. CypherDen, it is nice to take a break on social media, it does help regain yourself when doing it from time to time. I took a break on discord & RU-vid, it helped me to not be dependent on short term validation and gratitude. It made me focused more on myself will things that are more fulfilling and genuine in the long-term. 😊✨👍
To be honest I sometimes realize I cant even remember stuff I learned at school but I can remember stuff I have learned online, I also basically mesmorized the whole Pokemon Black and White plot 😭
I just Ya’ll are new to this…? Have been doing it since middleschool, ever since I saw how hard ppl latched onto it, I just disconnected off sharing anything personal My parents were mad at me at first n THEN HEEEEERE WE ARE NOT SO IMPORTANT TO “JUST SHARE MY DAILY COFFEE” NOW, HUH?! … But fr good on you for doing this experiment n actually studying how it affects you n how to improve
Outside of RU-vid, I’m pretty sure the only social media app I have is a tumblr where I post Undertale art and my Undertale comic I’m making. I don’t even look at anything else, I just post, check to see if any of my old parts were well received, then leave
Total agree its , tiring , first they don't talk , no likes , spend hours drawings, make more enemies but I'm not going to stop , I kinda like it , sick maybe , tired yes but used to it yes :) But I can now draw don't need to compete
