Some Narcissists future fake themselves. Narcissists can pull you into their delusions of grandeur 

Day one zero contact again but for the final time so binging on narc videos. Thanks for the empowerment.

I am so grateful I happened on your site. Future faking is so helpful to understand. 1. You can have any wedding you want. Didn't happen 2. Honey moon in Tennessee. Didn't happen. 3. Buy a house in upper Michigan. Didn't happen. 4. Start a nonprofit. Didn't happen. Now I know what the hell was going on. Thank you

Everytime I tried to break up, he would always tell me, that the good stuff was just about to happen. When I finally broke up with him, he compared it to "training for a marathon, but then when you get to the marathon, you just quit" Always trying to manipulate me into thinking, good times would come

Finally!!!! I thought only my ex narcissistic partner did this. He's been future faking himself for a decade that he's gonna be a super successful businessman. Before I knew he was a narc, or had any knowledge about narcism, i supported him. But nothing happened. He didn't work hard for it either. Hell, he didn't work at all... Even when we had a baby that needed a roof above their head. He still doesn't. He lives on his mommy's dollars and lots of loans from family and friends and different banks. He's still delusional. So happy I left him! Meanwhile I've got a job and a house and most importantly, I'm free and independent again.

Does it sound weird to say that each time we get discarded we become better at handling it? 🍒

I’m soooooo glad I got out of mines!!!! The best Christmas gift ever!!! I started my healing process and haven’t looked back since. He’s still going through his own storm!! Karma stays at his coat tail!!!

Yeah they try to sell you their dream. Only thing is their dream isn't always your dream especially if you're not as shallow as them

They sell you a dream n deliver a nitemare. But ya know what Lee? The codependent shares the same trait when we're love starved n unhealed.

Wonderful video as always, Lee. “Always needing to look forward to something big”, you hit the nail on the head. You and Ben are lifesavers. They gaslight themselves, while selling the dream. Keep sharing the truth out here!

The face when you had the breakthrough for this subject was priceless , good shit brother ,God's grace is with ,I hope you know and appreciate that

My NEX is a scam artist with hidden women and kids. Yet, now he is billing himself as a motivational speaker and financial counselor on Tik Tok. Giving out advice on women too! Lol. I hope he wasn't serious, but he used to always talk about entering the ministry or politics. Always asked if I would help him to give me hope of being closer. Churches and political groups have enough hell to contend with, they don't need him too!

Great video, as always. I appreciate your authenticity and honesty when you spoke of your own attempts to future fake yourself. 😅 Thanks for keeping it real.

I love it when you laughed about the ring dude I also laughed too

Thank you brother. Ur the only narcissist I'll support. U keep it real. N I'm thankful for that. I was stupid enough to finance all the delusions of grandeur of the now ex-husband. All of his Hobbies from backpacking, to golf, to camping, to trucks, to disc golf. All his delusions of grandeur with his career of being a famous rock star in the recording studio, a famous wood worker, all the guitar and pedal and amplifier equipment, tools n equipment, storage space etc..... Even getting him a tour with nickelback, and his furniture into the Robert Redford's Sundance catalog, in which both he declined . And all of that money into his invention. Oh the freaking great invention of a guitar stand he drove everyone ouuta their minds w their money too. Then Into his shed business as the man cave business. Into his flipping house business. You know who was flipping house? I was flipped outta my freaking mind's house for being so stupid and financing it all. What I didn't finance, turns out, he was stealing from the till the entire 22 years. I was paying for sometimes a lil bit of love bc even the cheek clapping stopped from him. I ain't dumb no more tho. I'm dun. Dun dun dun dun ... Done.

My ex future faked us buying a house 🏡 and getting married although I wanted to get married first he convinced me we should buy our house first but then got angry when I would bring up setting a timeline for buying the house and getting engaged 😂😂😂

This is great and you are so entertaining! You lift my spirits for real. Future faking I heard: "I'm going to buy multiple properties and be a millionaire with airbnbs." (His mom bought his only and current house) "I'm going to be a pilot in January!" (Uhhhh.... what?) TONIGHT: "I'm going on a trip to Colombia in 2 weeks with some people I just met tonight at dinner." (Uhhhh... what?) "I'm buying a boat and going to live in it and tow it with a brand new truck." (After or before you become a pilot? 🤔) "We're going to have a house on the beach with lots of kids!" (WHAT?! He never even met my parents!) "I'm going to open a gym and bring in UFC fighters to train with." 🤣 Me: "I'm going to brunch with my girls for my birthday 🎂 " Him: "WHAT?! RAWWRRRR. I PLANNED A WHOLE DAY AND GOT A HOTEL BLAH BLAHH." Me: "What?! What hotel....?" Him: "OK I DIDNT BUT RAWWRRRRR HOW DARE YOU NOT TELL MEEEEEEE." 😑 and then I walked out on him at the restaurant we were at. I learned to say "that's awesome 👌 " 🙄

Mine would tell me I was delusional. Then one day when we spoke in phone he said it again. I said stop saying that, he said you have told me that also! It all makes sense now...... He has passed recently. He was a business owner, helped PTSD patients but was Il and depressed. With me he was so bad!!!!! And all I was with him was Empathetic and good. He was always saying he helped the community and did great things yea but now I get it. Noone knew how bad he really could be!!!!!!.

Thank you for your videos. They really do give me the strength to leave him. He talks about our future all the time but I know its all bullshit he just telling me what I wanna hear.

My husband swears once he makes more money or gets where he needs to be he will treat me better , he will stop drinking and we gone be good but we are in a better financial situation than we were two years ago but guess who is still hard to communicate with ….. yes him !

Thank you for the advice & video. It’s refreshing. If you have become self aware, you may have a handle on narcissism now, good for you!! 😊😍

They future bake and include you and you believe it! Is hard when they discard you and the future they planted in your head is gone with them! Very cruel!!

Thanks for being honest, very affirmative.

Hi Lee, I know a bloke who went back to where he was brought up. He got CAUGHT cheating with his old teenage girlfriend (who had then been married about 20 years.) A POLICEMAN CAUGHT them "rocking," in a van, down an old dirt track road. With his torch. Clapping those cheeks👋👋🤣 The scandal!!!! That Gossip travelled around the town for weeks...... So he laid low.... The gossip even travelled miles and miles back to were he and his own partner had been living together for 10 years. And she found out too! As soon as he got back, to her. He presented her with the most expensive diamond ring I have ever known.💍 It worked because, she still show it off today. But they never got married.......That was about 8 years ago. Any thoughts Lee?

That can also be applied to friends and potential business partners. When I was a cake decorator at K@@@@r, a coworker was trying to future fake opening a bakery with me. I turned down other opportunities with the plans to open a cake shop with someone, and they ended up moving to another town.

It gets really comical when the narcissist discovers spirituality and believes they are actually changing their mindset and behavior, when in all actuality, they are thinking and behaving the same way they always have. I know one who talks about how he has stopped speaking negativity and trains his mind on peace at work. Funniest thing is that he doesn't display those changes at home. He thinks he's actually improving!

On one of our first dates he was saying that he wanted to put a new mobile home 🏡 on his property (run down 1960's trailer in HORRIBLE disrepair) with the "right" person....lol. Dumbass me thought that was ME! So you can probably tell the rest of this story. I left my home town at 46 to chase this dream to the Coast of Maine. Every time I brought up the "dream" and asked when we could research & look, he would start something with me to show how I probably wasn't the right one. 5 yrs later, with two 8 month breaks & a new supply thrown in the mix (probably 3) I realized it was bullshit and wasn't ever going to happen. The week of packing a UHaul, he called in his contractors and completely renovated around me. I was laughing 😂 inside at his piss poor attempt to pull me back in. Well, at least I felt a little less guilty for leaving him since he had some new digs. Lol. I ran into your channel and other Narc experts making my new life so much more doable. It's been a little over 1 yr. of living apart I relapsed with him when he called two months after I left to tell me he had lung cancer. That was devastating news and we had been together most of the nine yrs I'd known him so I was there for him thru it all. I don't regret that because he's well today, one less lung but cancer free! He ghosted me after he realized I wasn't going back to him. It was a weird ending but I'm glad he did because I didn't know how to end it with someone still so sick & weak from the winter cancer treatments & surgery. God took care of it. Amen

Lee, this has been an absolute struggle for me!!! Have many of your clients had to change their number to move on? This is like.. omg! Just don’t know what to do.

So you know this is really been a ride for me you know I really didn't even know anything about a narcissist until about 3 years ago and that's when I met the one that I met and has it been a journey but I am so blessed to be out of it what an experience

I feel sad for the narcissistic persons in my life. They don't realize that they can't possibly do for themselves or others what only God can do. A relationship with Jesus is the opposite mindset of narcissism. He is the hero. I'm 70 and see how much He has blessed me in all areas of my life - I didn't do that. If I achieve something, that makes it all worse...because then I think I have to do it again. And if I think someone else can do what only God can do in my life, then I'm deluded. Al-Anon helped me so much. If anyone has had alcohol or drug addicted people in their lives growing up, that person qualifies for Al-Anon (not AA). It's free and anonymous. This youtube channel is telling it like it is.

Oh Lordy... no source of income... lazy sloth... had me going to look at million dollar homes, promising to retire me whole simultaneously trying to financially ruin me. 😤

this was a powerful message. go no contact with 'hope dealers'

My ex had my bff looking at wedding rings and venues

Yup thats exactly what my soon to be ex husband still trys on me and it's laughable because He'll say things like yeah im about to start a restaurant it's going to be so nice then 5 minutes later he's like yeah I'm really thinking about Buying a house in the Valley but the only problem is he has no money I mean not enough to do those things and the fact that I've lost so much money in the past funding these future faking scenarios makes me feel so stupid because now I see clearly that he has no real intentions on doing that just using it as a tactic to keep me around. Im so glad I left!

He use to talk about the land that will be passed down to him from his parents. When I would talk about buying a house he would say " Oh l have plenty of land for that" but you still love with your parents. You 42 why haven't you built on the land yet? His pops be selling him Hype dreams making him think he going to be the Patriarch of the family when I know goodness well as much as he been in and out of jail his parents will leave what they have to the oldest girls and give him like an acre smh. I doubt if they leave him the house because he was a heroine addict and they don't trust him smh

"Yeah, we can do a trial to to the amusement park. Go on a Thursday and come back around that Sunday!" He knows that I love amusement parks.

Do narcissists know they are crazy?

U r face said before the breakthrough said i don’t want accept truth 😅 i never did that? So who did then

Yeah I used to be subjected to the delusional tales of how he would soon be a famous musician

What about claiming items they don’t own .. businesses.. things they obtained from there victims stating to others the purchased driving cars they don’t own and claiming ownership at the same time saying they to get there own car when they don’t have access to it

With what did he not future fake me with, is a better question to ask?! My house was not good enough, so he wanted me to look out for a big huge and expensive house, because he could efford it, but definitely could not! He asked me to marry because I got baptized and he wanted a holy life with me.He told me he could not have babies anymore, but after half a year of intimacy in the relationship it turned out that he still could make children and thank the Lord I did not get pregnant of this clown at almost 50 years of age, he future faked about his family in Jamaica, about our wedding to come and the ring to come with it and the list goes on and on. And finally at his birthday, while everything was peachy and creamy, having love and intimacy whole day and doing nice things together over the day, I was out of nothing discarded being accused of being unfaithful, while he had been playing around my back the whole time, me not knowing off. The man had been married 5 times, had 9 kids all over the place in the States, had jailtime because of reip for 2 years, was deported from the States back to Jamaica. He fooled a woman in from Germany and married he her, got her bring him to Europe (Germany) and as he arrived there just the same month while she was working, he was cheating behind her back, made even more women pregnant and down the line got with me as well. I am from the Netherlands and while he fucked it up again in Germany, probably he wanted me to get him over to Holland to live there with me and buy a house. I was already working on his stay with me, starting our own business, while he presented himself as a university studied well accomplished guy and being an account. While he was driving a forklift in a warehouse, loading trucks. Everything looked well on paper, complete enough to think it was true he said and performed, while all was a big lie. Down the line, it also turned out, him having a huge addiction to alcohol and whatsoever I do not know of. Probably involving himself in all kinds of promiscues sexual involvements as well, committing to have been in orgies etc. At that final discard, while accusing me of what he did himself, he even slapt his hand into my face without any reason, but as part of his self created drama and his complete mask which he had helt out of sight for me for approx. 6 months, came down with me looking into eyes, that black and demonical, as if he came straight from hell. And I am pretty much sure now, it is spiritual warfare which I have looked into his eyes and afterwards was confirmed by many who had dealed with him as well. Praise Yaweh, praise Yeshua for saving me from this evil just in time.

Crazy thing is my ex is intelligent and talented but this crap and his shadow side keeps him being his best self. He is a Taurus and I am a Scorpio that is a power couple . Sigh 🫤

I honestly admire the narcissist for their ability to manifest. I just don’t like how once they’ve manifested their goal they self sabotage it, they spoil it, it turns rotten. For example let’s say that your narc promises to take you on vacation to Hawaii and they manifest that! you’re going on vacation to Hawaii 🎉 however they will make that Vacay a living hell😢

yeaaaa claimed to be #1 NFL data analyst of the year & that these teams were offering him contracts 😅😂.. i’ll just leave it at not sure that’s true

Then when the narcissist gets tired of playing that little fake game that he's been playing Benny ready to run off ghost her blow her mind and run to the next one

Lmao I have that same T shirt, I wear it to the gym 🤣

Focused future gaslighting?

My sons father to a T

My handsome narc future fake about a whole life together.. Buying a house in Arizona or Utah, buying a motorcycle for road trips, going to Spain and Mexico! Having a business on our own,Working out together, making love every night! 😢😢😢😢

*how

Maybe she telling you now the female narcissist works 😭

Like the one I know who thinks hes gonna be rich in a few years off his NFT “investments” 😂

Oh yeah he future faked

Can I ask a question? Do females and males no process information different? Like i know we are all human... However ?? You saying your therapist is a female. She might be responding to you from HER POINT of view. Who knows if she is not saying something from just a female point of view?? Like sometimes it's okay to have a male point of view.....i don't understand how a girl could lead a man especially one with the npd you talk about ??