Soooo, about parenting. 

This feels like I’m sitting across the couch from you. Sipping my tea. Listening to you chat. Really enjoy this intimate type style. Thanks for the wisdom. :) ❤️

I’m not a parent but this BLESSED ME differently. In so many ways.

“God loves our children more than we do” . I don’t have any kids, I’m 18. But when that statement was made, I could literally feel the love of god come over me 🤷🏽‍♂️ I know my parents love me very much, so I can’t even begin to fathom god’s love for me!! Powerful statement.

I really love that you addressed the talking back vs. expressing yourself. It’s important to teach kids their feelings are valuable and valid bc for so long in the black community it has been taught kids thoughts and feeling don’t matter. This was a very insightful video! Thank you!

"I don't want Beautiful to be a new song to them..."

I’m 20 watching this like I got 3 kids😂 but no matter what the basis of the video is from the Perry’s, there is always something to take away. Love y’all!

That part when they said “ God parents us and He helps us parent our children”🤯🙌🏾

Who else noticed the "Go back upstairs!" and the "Eden, you gotta go back upstairs sweetie" 😂😂 Both are necessary!

Damn. Preston makes you want to intentionally partner with a poet. “He said I want you’re beautiful to be an old song to them”🥺.....Lord I’ve seen what you’ve done for Jackie, it’s me again😂😂😂😂 Great content Perry family🙌🏾🤸🏾‍♀️

This literally spoke me! So many times growing up as a child and even in church we don’t have the permission to feel... Jesus. “Don’t quench how God has made your children, shape them.” So true, growing up they don’t know how to distinguish on how children express themselves... Help them process how they feel. Whew! “I don’t want beautiful to be a new song to them..”😭😭😭 That was powerful! Y’all... these are straight gems. I appreciate all the wisdom you both consistently pour out! Everyone needs a safe place. Thank you! ♥️

I sincerely love you guys! I’ve been checking RU-vid to see if y’all made any new videos and finally y’all came through! and I’m happy it’s about parenting because I was just yelling at my 1 year old last night for crying, being dramatic getting on my nerves! I was basically yelling at my 1 year old for being a 1 year old 🥺 🤦🏾‍♀️. I’m 23 years old, not married and not with the father of my child.. so looking at my life and trying to accept it for what it is has been tough. But watching you guys video makes me feel good! It’s because of you guys that my perspective as a WHOLE has changed 🥰😇❤️🙏🏽

I appreciate you guys so much! Great content. Jackie’s ‘Amen’ at 12:55 😆

As someone who looks forward to (prayerfully) being a parent one day - THANK YOU for sharing your wisdom with us! 😁👍🏾✍🏾📝

“And if you keep talking crazy we gon lay hands on you.... in Jesus Name” 😩😂🙌🏾

Oh my!!! I was just asking God to help me balance my parenting bc I grew up in the “shut the hell up” generation and the “because I said so” generation and my son is inquisitive and likes to know more and no why. I want to teach him how to be respectful but to not silence his voice!!! I want him to be confident but not arrogant. My husband does well with this but I struggle. This video really helped me!!! Thanks love you guys ❤️

Thank you so much that is really where I have been. My husband and I have 6 children 3 girls and 3 boys and thank God he is showing us these things now, our oldest is 14 and unfortunately I was so caught up getting my Master’s that I lost sight of what was really important and although it was necessary but not more important than my babies and now God is helping us deal with ourselves and our own upbringing so that we can be the parents HE called us to be. This was amazing thank you so much.

Everything Jackie said! Not just being close to slavery, sharecropping was STILL slavery as far as I'm concerned. My great grandpa is still alive and we all see how his sharecropping history has affected us all. Tough love is counterintuitive and perpetuates cycles. Home should be the safe place to heal the wounds the world may have given you, not a toxic battle ground. I think some people say they're preparing their kids, but really they just don't know how to be nice. It hurts when you realize the flaw in the logic or how it continues. I'm glad God is showing us these things. Edit: the gap anecdote got me in my feelings for some reason lol

Jackie, I can relate to how you feel about your gap and I still think about getting my closed, sometimes. I love how Preston immediately said, that your gap is beautiful! Gaps run on my dad's side of the family. Thank you both for sharing.

I would love for @Mrskevonstage to interview yall on #TheLoveHour on this topic. This is golden.

This is so random but y'all skin is so healthy and clear lol! Awesome conversation as well!

Although I'm not a parent, this video blessed me. When Jackie said God basically told her cousin, "CALM DOWN I LOVE HER MORE THAN YOU DO" literally made me shed tears..... I've been praying for a friend for years and I've felt like I hadn't said and/or done enough, but those words jumped from this video to my ears and spoke in volumes I've never felt or heard!! Those 9 words help to put a lot of things in perspective for me. I thank you for sharing! Blessings to you all!

“Trusting God to parent us as we parent.”

I LOVE THIS!!! So rich! Your girls are so blessed to have yall as parents 💯

I initially clicked on the video to hear you both talk about your beautiful girls BUT God had me click to hear him to speak to me through you both. I have an adult daughter and she is currently expressing herself honestly about my parenting skills as of late. I’ve apologized and ask for forgiveness. I told her I am flawed and mommy’s make mistakes too. Long story short, I didn’t deflect her feelings back on her but received how she felt and accepted it. A work in progress... I loved it when said, God loves our children more than we do. I’ve had to learn to let go of my daughter when she became an adult and give her back to Him. It’s not been easy but it’s allowed me to give it to my Father who knows what’s best for her more than I do. Apologies for the long comment. Thank you again for the vid! It blessed me!

This was excellent! Love Preston’s perspective-we as black parents tend to “tough love” so our kids aren’t shocked by it in the world at large. This conversation is so rich and needed for young black families.

Word!!! I love everything about this! Especially the talk back part! I felt like my mom would shut me down all the time and tell me I was talking back because she didn't want to hear what I had to say but I legitimately was trying to tell her why I felt or did whatever I did. And over time I stopped trying to express myself and I did shut up and shut down and this became the way I expressed myself as an adult. Praise God those chains are being broken. I had an amazing mom don't get me wrong but this is the way she was taught as well. You guys are point on.

bruh Preston from the side, shows how much Eden favors him, CRAZYYYY

Not even married yet but y’all BLESSED me!! 👂🏾

"Maybe she's not talking back; maybe she's trying to gind a way to express herself."... Such grace.🙏

I really appreciate this video. It was much needed and made me tear up as a mother with 4 kids, and my husband not always on the same page when it comes to me being a Godly parent. Please pray for him if anyone is reading this. Thank you guys. I admire you both.

Preston's prayer at the end tho🤣🤣🤣🤣❤

I have one daughter who is now 18 and its only by the grace of God we made it this far lol cause this parenting thing ain't easy! This was such a great conversation. So many good points! So encouraging.Thank you ❤

I have 3 girls ages 17, 14 & 2 and when I tell you that every single thing you guys are saying, that is exactly the direction I went in my Parenthood because I remember that my parents did not let us speak at all growing up. They never said it but it was basically a children should be seen and not heard type upbringing, which never sat well with me as a child and I always thought I was crazy for wanting to say my piece until I grew up and realized that holding things in is unhealthy and my emotions and my feelings should be nourished and not silenced, yet there are those times when you're so fed up with your child you can't speak or you don't want them to speak at that moment which is totally understandable. I gave my girls every opportunity to come to me with no judgment and still they have a hard time doing so, so I'm not trying to be negative, but I guess it just didn't work for me and I'm struggling with raising two teen girls and a 2-year-old. My 14-year-old won't tell me things until 2 years later and I'm left asking her, what do you want me to do with that??? She's got saved at the age of six which is the age I got saved and the devil has really been after that child because she had so much fire in her for the Lord and all of the sudden she shut down, so it's also important to know that regardless of how you raise your children, you will have those times where you have to literally go to war with the enemy over your child. I think my mistake was, I was so caught up in raising them and making sure that they were heard that I didn't necessarily fight for them when things were okay...fight for them in advance which is a big mistake as a Christian because we should always be in fight mode spiritually. We're constantly at war with the enemy because his main goal is to seek, kill and destroy and that's exactly what he's been trying to do with my girls. I feel like I kind of in a way got a second chance with my 2-year-old because I'm now more mature in my natural and way more mature in my spiritual. To anyone who is reading this message please make sure that you keep a balance with your kids and understand that your children are God's first so let God work in their life. If you see that they are doing something that you completely don't approve of yes you correct that with love but don't correct so much that God doesn't have an opportunity to step in and take control. That is key!!

Congrats on what you’re trying to do it pays off. I’m currently 17 and my parents raised me similarly. At home my opinions and feelings ALWAYS mattered and I’ve always felt comfortable to talk to my parents (when I don’t that’s my own shame and not because of how they are). This way of parenting has made hard situations in my life easier than it is for most people!

This was a necessary and amazing dialogue. Millennial parenting at its best. 💯🙏🏾 Eden, Autumn, and Sage are covered and blessed.

"... I hope that encourages y'all ON TONIGHT." 😜 ISN'T THE SUN SHINING through that WINDOW??

Wow.. m Jackie when you talked about how your cousin prayed for you and she felt like her prayers for you weren't enough....tears this is too profound🙌

Umh umh!!! Amen, what a word. In the black home anything a child say when I was growing up was talking back....when they really may just be trying to express their feelings Amen....knowing that God allows us through prayer to express everything to Him.

God loves them(our children) more than we do. Powerful!!!

The videography, the wisdom, the parenting put on display... I’m here for all of it. Love y’all, thanks for sharing your nuggets!

So good! Thank you. I often fear for my teenager and whether God will save him, and I shouldn't because I know God is in control, but I do try to sew those seeds and pray for him constantly. It's good to be reminded that I can't save him! Trust God 🙏🏻

“I don’t want beautiful to be a new song to them.” 🥺

This was excellent! Love Preston’s perspective-we as black parents tend to “tough love” so our kids aren’t shocked by it in the world at large. This conversation is so rich and needed for young black families.

Thank you Perrys for sharing how you are being parents to your beautiful children through Christ. God is such a good good Father! ❤️🤗

I love how Jackie always says "When I was in the world". I love how so intentional but subtle ,natural yet simply exemplifies that we aren't of the world!! It always reminds me how Good God is and I love it when she says that!

In Africa, particularly, in Ghana, gaps in teeth are a mark of distinct beauty. We celebrate it; and musicians sing about it in love songs. If people even had their way and the money and the craziness that is in the West (lol) they would have had surgeries to create one in their teeth, especially our women. Lol

Me and my husband are 5 months pregnant and I am rewatching this to keep the jewels y’all dropped shiny. ✨ Thank y’all! 🙏🏾

I'm a single mum and this blessed me to remember it's not all on me. Praise God I have a heavenly father who Co parents with me and parents me.

We need more on this subject. Expand on "mean mothers". It is a thing.

Elisabeth Elliot had a gap! My son has a gap and he didn't want braces. He said God made him unique 😍

That portion in “talking back” was so good, I tried explaining this to a friend and I didn’t articulate well. Now I can send them this!

Wow...that piece about never wanting to not tell your daughters what they have longed to hear their entire life🔥🔥🔥. I felt that 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. Thank ya’ll for sharing this much needed information.

That “excuse Jackie...but you know, she’s flawed” part 😂😂😅. Y’all are so silly.

I had mine closed....didn't like it at all when I was growing up...but I luv how it looks on other people! Strange!

This is so good. I have 3 girls: 14,12 and 9 and a boy who is 7. This stage of parenting is THE HARDEST ONE YET. All of the hormones and attitudes and fighting. Help me Lord. I have no sisters and I err on the side of "suck it up, you'll be fine. " I grew up in a somewhat volatile household so I think my need for everyone to "be ok" and "handle themselves" is showing itself REAL BIG lately. The loud voices and feelings stress me out bigtime and I am desperate to shut it down or escape immediately. Thank you for the reminder to lean in. To be a safe place. I hope I haven't messed it up.

My daily prayer has been for me to be more affectionate and understanding towards my 4 year old son because I was also raised on tough love so that's been my parenting thus far, minus the beatings! But I'm also in therapy for it now, at 33 so, yea. Nevertheless, this message was so on time... Thank you both!

Can ya'll adopt me? *asking for a friend*

20 year old me appreciates this video. these are words i hope to remember if i ever have children, thank you 💛

From your social media and hearing this, I see why God saw fit to bless you all with children. Y’all are graced for this! Great reflections.

Can you do one on how you guys came to their names?

Praise God for this! I am not even a parent (just an older sibling, who often feels like one because my mother passed away while I was young) and this very sobering and comforting. I often worry about my siblings but the reminder that God loves them more than I do feels like a most soothing balm for my anxious heart concerning them. God bless you for sharing! May more grace, more wisdom, more of every goodness of God be granted unto you and all your family in Jesus name.

Did Jackie just start singing Lianne La Havas during the prayer??? That’s my jam right there 🙌🏼🙌🏼

oh wow. look at The Lord and not at what our parents didn’t do. LOVE. I do this daily.

Hello here listening I was strong will so you are so right yes keep God first and keep doing what you all doing thank you for sharing this great video God bless your all and your family and by the way I have a big gap 😂😂

Jackieeeeee!!!! Your gap is soooo beautiful!!! I am so happy your father and your husband reminded you!!!!❤❤❤

Excellent points; raising my current 4 year old going on 40…I am challenged and stretched every day…creating the environment for her to be fully and authentically herself and to truly walk alongside her as “footprints” in the earth just as God is my “footprints!”

I'm white and was raised in similar fashion. Feelings are weakness and the world will eat you alive if they know your weaknesses. Kids have no say so in the house, we were just taught to stay in our lane or get that a#$ whooped. I raised my daughter the same way. 9 years later started raising my son different. Letting him express himself, talk about how he feels, show more physical love. You can definitely see the difference between my kids and how they respond to their own problems in life.

I really needed this one today. I have a two year old too and I felt really overwhelmed today 😭😭😭 Thank you and God bless you and your entire family

Simple wisdom, simple wisdom. I can't go back (I have 4 grown children), but it helps to understand and also to share. God bless you both and your family. Your realness is also refreshing. ❤

Guys... I love this chat. Though my son is only 2 I am learning these lessons. The mirror of my relationship with God and the grace, patience, love, discipline given to me to that of my son is what is guiding me. Pure truth. Thanks for sharing.

What original content this channel is very good, it will become one of the best channels of youtube

Post traumatic slavery disorder: You are a blessing to all of us in your love for Jesus and your clear eyed perspective.

This was really good... I have 3 children that adults now. Wish this was around during my time. I bless the Lord that this encourage and help the young parents

Wow, the part about parents not be able to tell the difference between talking back and a child asserting/ expressing their self, I felt that! It really has given me a different perspective on how to deal with my 5 yo son because you’re right. How is he supposed to know what he is saying is taking back unless someone teaches him, because ultimately, I do want him to feel that it’s okay to express himself but in that, there is a right and wrong way to do so, This video has really grown me up as a parent. I thank God that I came across this video! As you continue to fill others, may God fill your cup so that you may overflow!

Wish I had heard this as I was parenting my kids in their formative years.I just keep praying that I did my best. Your wise advice is appreciated though.May God bless and direct you in your parenting journey.

Lol that moment when they were like: “Pause, Eden go back upstairs”🤣🤣🤣 You guys are really doing a nice job parenting wow ❤️🥺

It's the prayer at the end for me though. Too real 😊

I soooo needed to hear this!! With tears streaming down my face I want to say thank you!!! I was being so hard on myself thinking I was all alone and messing up everything. But I'm not...I have God my Father!!!

I’m the same age as you both, and my daughters are 4 and 5. This is EXACTLY how I try to parent them. I’m in the process of divorce and it has caused me to develop this insecurity about parenting them because I know that they are starting out in a broken home. Their dad can’t even articulate his own emotions, how’s he going to help them process theirs? Will he tell them they’re beautiful and make them feel special? I have no idea... they witnessed abuse and I don’t know how it’s affected them. But this video was so encouraging to me. It reminded me to continue to parent from a place of gentleness and with intention. (Something I just talked with my therapist about yesterday!) God loves my babies more than I do, and I need to trust Him. I appreciate the emphasis you put on being aware of our children’s emotions, especially if it appears that they’re acting out. I haven’t spanked my kids in a while because most of their behavior is explained once I stop and sit down with them and reassure them and let them speak. It’s amazing how much insight you can get from a child if you just take the time to hear them and acknowledge the fact that they are each individuals, who have the desire to be known and understood. Thank you both so much, God bless you and your family.

Thank you for this. I'm 22 years old and my daughter is just over 1. I feel the weight of practicing all of the things you two listed while my husband and I ourselves are growing up... Lord, help us. So thank you :)

I needed to hear all of this soooo much! Thank you Jesus for this timely message and speaking to so many hearts through your children and leaders.

Thank you guys for your vulnerability!! This really blessed my life and my future family lives.

This was sooooo timely!!! Thank you for being so down-to-earth and real- yet spiritual. I have teenagers still at home, and this was definitely encouraging.

Thanks Jackie and Preston Perry. This has been another confirmation of God's goodness and grace to me as his child while also being a good good Father to my son too. My son is Autistic and I am in constant dialogue with God about how to parent well as well as asking why? And how? And when? God also reminds me frequently (when I am freaking out about what the purpose is and how will his life turn out) that he Loves my son more than me and he needed him in the world at this time for his Glory and though it is difficult beyond words God is Fathering me through it. So thanks again for this. It was worth hearing again from human mouths

I love these two! Also, Ive always wanted to here Jackie’s politics. She never talks about it. It seems like she doesn’t like them. Lol. I’m the same way.

Yoooo what I miss?!?! I caught the shout out to Rev. Charlie Dates and Progressive on the Southside...Dates is a phenomenal tearcher and they are doing awesome things over there. Nice to hear him recognized at the ground level.

Lord.... Help me to be more gentle with my children as I lead them!

Being a single Mother whom overcame the absence of my earthly Father to now parenting 2 daughters whose Fathers are also not involved, this blessed me greatly! Thank you.

I'm an adult and many times I still stuggle with speaking to my parent out of fear that was instilled in me at Eden's age. My expression was often deemed disrespectful back-talk. Wow. I sometimes STILL shut down or remain silent to avoid conflict. In many ways that's spilled over into other areas where I'm required to respect authority. I constantly pray that God continues to help me evolve out of this into a stronger person who can give my opinion without feeling like I have to diminish myself for someone else to feel powerful.

I’ve 👏🏾 been 👏🏾 wai👏🏾ting for you all to make this video! Thank you for this!

My girls are in that same age range as your girls. This helped me sooooo, particularly remembering God is also sovereign in parenting. Thank you.

“Excuse Jackie Lord for interrupting me while I’m speaking to you kind of rude you know she’s flawed” 😂😂😂 so I probably came in the middle of the Perry’s journey! When I need to get up and get things done this podcast always keeps me moving and motivated in the Lord! So since I’ve watched everything from the past year or so. I’m back tracking on the things I wasn’t around to see.

I honestly am just watching this to maybe understand like my own parents better because I am not a parent, but I am far from understanding my parents.

My daughter has a gap and that sentiment from Jackie just made me burst into tears 😭 ❤ I will forever affirm her natural God given attributes and pray that her father does too!🙏🏻🤍 Thank you for sharing that

You guys are so intentional about your parenting. It’s beautiful.

That "Go back upstairs" with the LOOK while Jackie pointed the way back upstairs was key to their video.

This video is important for all relationships. Thank you for adding, especially, that the children’s voices matter. It’s important to explain why in reference to discipline rather than “do as I say”. Getting down to their eye level alleviates intimidation and fear.

I love you all 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 yessss. Loved every single moment of this and I shared this with my parents. Preston, my father is from the south side of chi town, he was gentle with me but not with my siblings. And Jackie, I once hated my gap, now I appreciate and love it. I can’t imagine life without it now, which is crazy cause I had braces for years but I didn’t wear my retainer so the gap came back lol. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 thank you for this

More grace to this couple 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. Not a parent yet , I got so much from this. I love gaps, I don't have one love seeing it so beautiful. God is still parenting parents. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

yooo I don't even have kids but this is very insightful knowing that I am around my nephews and nieces.