SPIRITUALITY IN MARRIAGE! PRE AND POST WEDDING | What the family dynamics should really be. 

So here is my take home from this: SPIRITUALITY IN MARRIAGE * The unbelieving man share from the Grace of the woman! * Stop focusing on spiritual gymnastics but on the definition of God’s love. * You should call on the Holy Spirit to guide you when your man is not able to lead. * As a single, if you do not kneel with God during this time, you might kneel forever when married. * Choose wisely when single so that your cross during marriage will be bearable, and also know that people need time to change. Don’t marry a worldly man and expect him to completely change because you have also changed within a short time. Pray for grace to carry the cross while he changes. * Roman 12:2 * Learn to submit to your husband even when you don’t have full clarification on what he wants, then ask God for clarity * Don’t submit to your husband cos he deserves it, but do it cos God has commanded you to. *

I had to pause this video at some point and apologise to my husband…Kai I think I know better now

JBUMs needs a podcast.... She is very deep. So insightful, I love her perspective and counsel

If you see the way I tapped on this video when I saw the caption ehen....I really needed this....very timely...I got the best man ever...he is not as 'spiritual' as I am, as in every morning devotion, fasting, vigils and the likes....d way I was raised ....but he is godly, he loves Jesus, he genuinely cares about people, he is homely, he is the same person I knew when we first met till now....I so love this gist. Many times I have judged him in my heart...oh Lord have mercy on me...I wanted to see my pastor father in him until when God cautioned me ... Oh boy, my husband is romantic oh, for me I was zero in that aspect and he is a wealth of wisdom....full of patience ....I can't finish it but this video will further establish my respect for him....

Spilling wisdom 🔥🔥🔥. My husband was never my spec but fam today I thank God I married him. Sometimes I’m like what if I haven’t married this man ha I can’t even imagine. This man was a gift from God to me ❤. God knew what I need not what I want

I'm not married yet but each time I watch you talk about marriage, I believe in my spirit that my marriage will work and will never fail. You guys are bunches of knowledge and wisdom. More anointing on you both, I love you guys.

You guys always encourage me. It's good to know the Word of God and do marriage the Kingdom way. In your previous video (solutions) you always speak directly to me, I was contemplating on leaving my marriage just because the husband does not pray the way I expect him to, n he keeps telling me n I also know anyways that he has a good relationship with God n he also has the fear of God in him, but just because I have never experienced him putting his hands on my head to pray for me or the kids, I was not contented n began to think so many things like even divorce which I know that the Bible only permits divorce on the premise of Adultery, then I watched (am always amongst the 1st people who watch you videos though most times I didn't think it was necessary to comment, so I usually just watch, benefit n not comment), the last video you uploaded n you ended the video by saying that " we can not end a marriage just because the man is not prayerful, the Bible says that n you also repeated in today's video that the wife's ways as a believer will change him, the husband eventually" , you also added today that we should be contented with the strengths for the moment as we wait for God to minister to our husbands, n that there's a reward for being submissive. Thank you so much 🥰💖.

Learnt so much in this video... My husband is not as spiritually sound and it used to annoy me so much and I'm trying to let go of this expectation and just put it in God's hands cuz I don't want to keep fighting my husband. He's an amazing man and I am overjoyed that I married him so I'm sure God has a plan for both of us. Thank you so much Jbums and Tolulope Solutions ❤️❤️❤️

at this point, we might just need a podcast or a consistent series from you both. The spirit-filled gems 💎 are dropping.

I need a sit-down with Jbums, Solutions and secretplacewife. I will pay to hear them talk😇

Jbums is just my gawdd may the Almighty bless her!! Such poise and grace her energy plus wisdom love her!!

I’m a single lady, but watching this video brought tears to my eyes😭. The goosebumps, the tongues uttered whilst watching. May we never miss it in marriage. Jbums and Tolulope May the Anointing never run out, but increase.

This is a beautiful and very enriching conversation. I was blessed and I am sure many others would be blessed as well. I will only like to add that people should not correct extremes with extremes. In correcting the extreme of ‘not lording your spirituality’ over your husband, do not take on the other extreme which is to marry a spiritually lackadaisical guy. Head of home isn’t just for managerial purposes. Head of the home includes being the priest of the home. Don’t lower your standards. A man who loves God not just with words but with commitment to godliness and of course godly character remains the standard. Men should continually aspire to be this. This is God’s will. Also in wanting that kind of man, be sure you are that kind of woman. Never settle for less cos you will get less than you settled for. Be discerning ladies . Life is case by case basis. It worked for A doesn’t mean it will work for B. Choose with God.

Chai. Where have you people been all my 11 years of marriage and am suffering for nothing. This is a life changing and the most productive video have seen online. God bless you guyz

I have come across this video a few times and this morning the Holy Spirit reminded me to watch this video, of course I forgot to check for it but as I was scrolling through RU-vid bored at work and looking for something to watch I saw the video and I was about to scroll pass it (because I felt like it was going to read me inside out lol and I was not ready for the truth lol) and Baba told me go back and watch it. I'm so glad I watched it. It was truly a light for me, and now I see why God wanted me to watch it. I just watched this and started asking God for forgiveness. Thank God for a merciful God and giving me a fresh start. Thank you so much for posting. This is a video you have to watch more than once. Have a watch night with your friends with paper and pen.

There's something Jbums said... When you ask God to help you touch your husband God might answer and HE might not... HE is God... HE will so what HE wants... That hit home... I say and acknowledge this a whole lot... Just hearing it come from the mouth of someone other than myself is golden... God bless you both

Oh my God! This message is for meeeee! I’m single but a guy has been asking me out. We like each other but I’m a Protestant while he’s Anglican. He’s genuinely born again but I felt he was less of my spec because of our differences in spiritual upbringing. He’s more laid back while I’m more ‘JimJim’ and I felt he was less spiritual than me or unqualified to be partner because he doesn’t love God the same manner that I do. This caused an issue for us because he told me that he felt like I was molding him into who i expected him to be instead of accepting our differences and allowing him love God the way he does. God, I’m sorry.

WOW, It almost seems as if God had you make this video for me; I don't even know what to say. Knowing all the wisdom and knowledge you have placed into this video has allowed my spirit to be at ease. To say it was incredibly informative would be an understatement because I am confident that the Holy Spirit was speaking directly to my heart. God be with you always.

I love how Jbums stated how we women create idols of what a man should be and that literally can make us miss our husbands. Great content ❤

Wow so very loaded!! Almost 14 years of marriage and I learned a lot as a believer. Hubby and I have different personalities, and I am further along in my journey with Christ, but I have recently realized that even though he is a believer, though he isn’t one to engage in midnight prayers with me, and all that, that God still loves when I let him be, and let God work on him. Many times I will present matter to the Holy Spirit, if God wants me to do something and I usually know it’s of God when he himself will agree with my decision, no matter how crazy it seems. Wisdom is paramount. Honestly, the first thing for singles is to make sure God helps you choose your spouse first. He will open your eyes to what’s important. Like Solutions, me sef I wanted a man much taller and that’s how I ended up with my Mr Amazing who is just an inch taller 😂 I am managing ok lol

God has structured this our Christian walk such that we will always come out of any situation a winner !!! That’s it , that’s right !

I'm in the season of getting married and I can't thank you beautiful ladies enough for giving me a better Revelation of what submission should be even in this dispensation as a well educated Christian woman. ♥️♥️♥️

Ahhhhhh .... Ahhhhhh... Solutions mama , Jbums🙌 this is timely , this video is for me, you see that submission part, I still struggle with it, infact we just settled one disagreement this morning , that I allowed to be pending since Friday night oooo , the Holy Spirit has been nudging me but I have been ignoring it, because the devil was dishing me the lie that if I submit and be the first to apologize it will make me a fool, man has been trying to get us to deal with it and I no gree.... But I am not a fool and thank God for the man I married, I refuse to open up gates for the enemy to have it way in my home. This wisdom you guys are spilling bah, I have shared the link to my friends (core) to comman receive rhema. I couldn't be more grateful for you both . Thank you so much . God bless you ❤️ I absolutely love you both

After watching this my latest prayer is “Oluwa every spirit of Miss feminism (aka we have equal right) that wanna follow me inside marriage, cast & bind.” 😂😂😂

I absolutely needed this! I’m currently in a relationship with a guy who is kind, caring and loves God. But I just realized I’ve created an image of “a man who loves God” and I’ve always questioned my choice with him. But this video definitely put things into perspective for me. Loved it!!!

Yup that’s right! Spirituality/Godliness should not just be measured by outward activities alone, the fruits matter a lot. Thanks for blessing us WOG!!

Please we need more conversations of you two like this please. You both sharing knowledge together is soo impactful

It all starts with marrying right. If you marry wrong then there will be problems. It is difficult to submit to a man who is lacking in Godly wisdom. If you marry someone filled with Godly wisdom then submission comes naturally. May God lead you to that man that will truly be a priest of him home.

So much in this video ahhhhhhh!!!!!. Truly this video did what the word of God should do you us 1. Rebuke 2. Conviction 3. Repense 4. Decision to turn a new leaf God bless you Mama Solutions 😘 God bless you Jbums😘

We love you!!!! ❤ Thank you so much. I feel like God really wants me to hear this. I have learned a lot from this. Thank you Mama Solutions, may your cup never run out

12mins in n I'm blown away We love God differently!!!! Come ooooooon. This is wisdom

My God! This was over the top for me! Particularly spot on for me at the moment. Thank you!!!

I just found this channel, and I can’t believe there’s something this great and I knew late. This is so insightful, Godless you guys🙏

Wisdom!!!! Thank you so much for the gems you both shared. Came here with my jotter and it’s full! God bless the both of you and continue to keep your home in his love. Amen.

Wowwww. This is so much wisdom , this is a serious eye opener.From now on, I'll begin to enjoy where u are right now even while anticipating for something better.

Listening to Jbums is always rewarding. I feel in love with her when she made a post about her family and what happened between her and her husband when he lost his job. Godly women still exist.

Point 1: Don’t focus on spiritual gymnastics alone when you should mainly focus on God’s definition of LOVE.

This video very deep!!! And if I must say, it’s not supposed to be watched just once. Like you have to pause at every moment to digest everything that’s been said. You both are loaded and I definitely learnt a lot from this. Thank you for sharing and I pray your well of wisdom never runs dry. Amen 🙏 . And the quality of the video too, it’s super clear really love it . Welldone ma ❤

The grass is greener where you water it. A “hmmm” moment for me. Thank you for this video ❤

Power, value and wisdom packed. All in one video. I really gained alot.Thank you so much @Tolulopesolutions and @Jbums. God bless you both.

Thank you so much ❤️❤️ God bless for these word of wisdom. May your tanks never run dry and your marriages continue to flourish🙏🙏

Love you guys sooo much! I was really blessed by this. It stirred up spontaneous prayer points as I was watching. See me skabashing alongside Mama Soteria. Thank you so much. May God continue to bless your homes and may your revelation of Him continue to increase.

You ladies talk so much sense & looks like you’ve been minding your business and drinking lots of water. #learning

This conversation changed my life and marriage. Thank you ladies, you are really impacting your world

Thank you JBUMS💚💚💚💚 This video was a whole sermon/conference on its own. Grateful for these women of God. Thank you Solutions 🖤🖤🖤

Taking notes!! Really wisdom packed. Thank you mama solutions and Jbums. Great combo!!!!

Thank you so much Mama Solutions and JBums... Your well of knowledge will never run dry. God bless you really big. I love you both. Thank you for being a blessing.

Can I like this a million times?! Seasoned women of God and awesome take on this topic. God bless you! I've been thoroughly blessed!

This video, a masterclass!!!! Thank you JBums and Mama Solutions. Pure wisdom on 4 legsss

Hmmm! Thank you so much ladies! You are shaking serious tables! Infact not just tables, Foundations! God bless you both real good! These are such valuable words for both pre and post marriage! Thank you both 🙏🏽

This was very refreshing, didn’t want it to end. God bless you both

This is wealth of wisdom pouring into me, and it is producing deep revelations for a better walk .... GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!

You guys are fun to watch and listen to. Love the honesty and authenticity

God help me! This made me cry, making me reflect on my attitude towards my husband because I love God soo much... Thank you to both of you for this wisdom. God replenishes you both in Jesus name.

OMG❤❤❤!!!! I'm so so so blessed by this video. God bless you both, Jbums and Solutions, you truly are blessings to this generation🎀! Thank you so much🌹 🙏🏼

Thank you guys for this video,it spoke alot about my experience in marriage. You're indeed a solution.

Wowww!!! Can i just like this a million times over🔥Thank you so much JBums and TolulopeSolutions. More grace to you power women💪🏾

wow this is a amazing !!!!! i’ve sent to like 10 of my people to watch. it’s beautiful… Thank u Tolu and Jbums

Jeeeeez! Father I'm grateful for these vessels, this platform and this wholesome content that's on fire 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

This video is a gem!! Thank you both. 🙏🏾

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Thank you soooooo much Solutions Mama and Jbums. Really charged. The icing on it is how everything is linked to the word of God. May God continue to bless you

This video moved me to tears sha! A lot was learnt, unlearnt and relearnt Thank you guys !

This just got me to re-assess myself and behaviours in this phase of my life .This issue of projecting my ideals on the other person, a lot to unpack here . Thank you 🙏🏽

Loved it!!! OMG such a blessing and it’s worth a constant rewatch! May God replenish you both in wisdom. We love to see more of JBUMS pleaseeee! 😍😍🥹

Awesome!! Flesh and blood has not revealed this to you both. A timely rhema Word. Grace upon grace be multiplied to both of you. Loved every bit of it.

We’re blessed to have you both. Thank you for spewing this wisdom at this crucial moment for me. God is indeed interested in me and has sent you both. Thank you ❤

Wuuueeeeh..... This was beautifully handled. I have been rebuked and most importantly very built up. God bless you Tolu.

Thank youuu sooo much for these gems! This was POWERFUL!! Thank you so much Jbums and Solutions!!! ❤

This is the kind of vídeo that one need to come back to watch at least once every month. This is pure wisdom and God bless you both❤️❤️

Amazing Timely message Team solutions for life

Eeeeeeeyyyy. Word in season!!!! This here is Godly counsel. God bless you abundantly!!! Both of you. This is literally rivers of living water

Please I was screaming through out this video!!!! Thank youuuuuuuu for this.

You guys made me weep watching this is an eye opener. God bless you two so much. I have really learnt alot watching.

I haven't even finished watching but can I say... God bless you for the wisdom you both dished out. This topic is so needed in a world where women seem to appear more spiritual.

I cannot get enough of this video. So much unlearning, learning and relearning. Thank you solutions, I am truly blessed. Satan almost snatched my thoughts, watched this at the right time. Please more of this. Thank you once again Solutions and Jbums🥰🥰

You ladies are so much in sync! This is great and productive friendship . Long may it last

This conversation is deep and timely for me, i am currently praying for clarity and i saw this message

This was so refreshing and beautiful. Thank you JBums and Mrs Solutions. 💛

Wow! Exactly what God is teaching me this season. Thank you beautiful women for this❤❤❤

wow , you have no idea how this video has impacted my life, i just retraced my step just watching this and i am so grateful for this, Thank You Ma (s). God bless you

Please JBums must be a prophetess to be dishing out this Great Deal OF ACCURATE WORD OF KNOWLEDGE. This is GREAT DELIVERANCE. Thank you ma @Solutions for doing this topic. God bless you both.

Thank you so much Solutions for this. Jbums, I celebrate you. This came at the right time for me. It just seemed as though you both were telling the story of my life o I've been greatly enlightened. God bless you both. 💕

Great conversation. Thank you so much, may the Lord abundantly bless both of you

This blessed me greatly and gave me clarity in choosing who to be in a relationship with. God bless you both. Your marriages would continue to be great IJN...love you

Yes pls definitely keep bringing this lady back, she's feeds us with Godly food. Thk you

The wisdom in this conversation 🔥 My jotter is so full, I grabbed everything. Thank you Jbums and mama Solutions.

Wow, First time commenting....this was super amazing, Wisdom overflow!!! Thank you so so much @Jbums and @TolulopeSolutions for this amazing piece....I was more than blessed!!!!!

This video brought me to my knees. Thank you Bunmi and Tolu. It was the exact word I needed for this season of my life. The revelations, the clarity, the wisdom, the counsel and relatable guidance is EVERYTHING. Thank you!!!!

I so much love this! The wisdom! The balance to this teaching! The love! God bless you both. ❤

eeeiiisshhh!!! see wisdom come from Kingdom queens. How timely this is as I am facing something like this in my marriage. God bless you from Uganda. XXL Grace to y'all

Haa... So much wisdom to part with here. I literally shed a tear or more watching this video especially the part where Tolulope mentioned her prayer when she was single. I am currently in that waiting season where I keep saying "if God is not done working; I am not done waiting". I learnt a lot and I have gained so much insight on the best way to handle my marriage when my king shows up moreso that the basis is purely on the scriptures . I love the wisdom and the glow you both served us in the video and it's more fulfilling for me to see beautiful ladies, doing well and honouring God in and with their marriages. God bless you!

Jbums…what a woman! My gosh! Mama solutions! A solution to the world. Thank you for all the powerful godly wisdom shared here. I’m immensely grateful. Thank you.

This friendship was divinely orchestrated to share the wisdom of God. God bless you both

Kaiiii!!!!!!! This video is soooo rich!! Thank you Solutions mama!!!! Thank you Jbums!!!!!! God bless your home, your ministry and all that concern you Ahhhh….God bless you😍😍😍😍❤❤❤

I listened keenly and this is a real gem.Thank you ladies for such powerful advice

I love you both so much. Thank you for pouring into us. I could listen to this sermon for hours on end. Thank you for being so full of light. This video is very instructional for me. God bless you both.

Honestly this is it, not only showing off but deep inside.... I love this,Mama Jbums I love you dishing out wisdom 🥰🥰 God bless you solutions..

Haaaaa Thank you Mama Solutions not me about to start micro-managing hewo, you caught me right before I could fall. Honestly, I've been having this issue and I'm seeing more clearly now. This is amazing Thank you

Thank God i found this channel your a blessing to the past, present and future generations😍 am learning a looooot...

Woooooowoooo…. Such insightful discussion… I am sooo blessed… God bless you More grace sis