Stages of Grief for People With Chronic Pain & Chronic Illness | Florida Chronic Illness Therapist 

What really hurts,is family who do not get it and act like you are just too much

I had no energy for other stages, had only 2 stages: grief, acceptance, grief, acceptance, and this loop goes on.

After 21 years, I don’t think I’m going to get better, but I still try to be the best that I can.

I definitely had to go through all these stages and I got stuck at anger for a long time. I was angry with God for allowing this to happen to me. I had so much going on positive for me at the time I developed MRSA in my spine that caused the 5 back surgeries that have left me disabled. I had to go through it to be able to go forward. I definitely experienced depression and anxiety before the anger. I'm just trying to get back to my relationship with God now in the last month or so. I knew He was always there and I still prayed over my food but that was it. Now I'm reading my Bible again, listening to my favorite Gospel music and praying for other instead of myself. It's made my day to day so much better. I'm praying for us all. ❤❤❤

I feel so guilty that I can't work. So many of my favorite things, can no longer do. I've always had depression and anxiety but now so much worse.

Anger at people in my life who think things might not be as bad as you are describing…as if I think it’s so much fun to feel like a truck ran over me daily. As my husband once said to me..”the pain can’t be that bad…” and me screaming at the top of my lungs..”god I wish I was lying”. I had to force him to goto the Dr with me and sit in the room and actually listen to the specialist.

i’m stuck in stage 5. i just had to quit dancing which i’ve done my whole life and i had to leave my team and my family (i was a competitive dancer for over 8 years). my treatment isn’t working and i have appointment after appointment to see if i have other chronic illnesses on top of the one i’ve already been diagnosed with. my doctor and parents suggested i see a social worker/therapist to help me cope with everything i lost. literally every single part of my life changed in the past year. anyways thanks for readying my rant lol

As a therapist and a chronic pain sufferer, I totally relate to this information. It so aligns with my emotions and cognition on a daily basis. Grieving my"self". Thank you!

I'm stuck in the go to work until my body has a crisis, have to go on leave to try and heal, go back to work, repeat.

I was first diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis after trauma from a seperation. Years later my rheumatologist diagnosed me with fibromaglia & I have to say that the pain is so chronic & far worse than rheumatoid. They call it the invisible syndrome cause you don’t look sick but once you spend days months or longer in bed you can honestly see it. Every part of your body hurts & there is no cure just meds to try & relieve some pain but they don’t even work at times. I’m no longer the person I was doing everything running a business, bringing up the kids involved in everything now I’m lucky if I can get out of bed to go to the toilet. You lose yourself, depression sets in & you no longer want to go anywhere or see people. Many people & even some dr’s don’t even know abt fibromyalgia & more has to be done to help those in pain & to discover a cure. It’s a horrible pain & some times I don’t want to be here if it wasn’t for my kids or granddaughter. We need help desperately. 🙏❤️

I skipped over denial and desperation went straight to Anger, anxiety and depression just the fact of waking up everyday in so much pain, I say to myself really again. But at the same time I know my invisible illness isn’t going anywhere slumps me right into my depressed state. I haven’t worked in 3 years because I have CFS and fibromyalgia I’m just so tired all the time and my pain in it’s severity is all over the place. Trying to make having issues with my fibromyalgia and CFS part of my life, it sucks but my doctor wants me to cut out gluten and diary so trying to remove these from my diet might be extremely hard but they will hopefully help me long ter

Hard to move forward when you Lose your independence. I prefer adaptation, the pain can really set you back. I meditate and try anything.

I don’t grieve over my pain anymore. I’ve been in acceptance for years and it’s OK.

I came here to tell you thank you. And I found myself replying this to a comment. This is hard, and that was very validating. You inspired me enough that I made a TikTok video lol It took me going through withdrawals after 10 years to get out of denial. Letting myself cry and feel sorry for myself and having a partner who is very understanding during the angry part help me go through what I realize was that. Listening to this might help me get to the last part. it helped me make the video I just put on my RU-vid channel which is a copy of my very first TikTok video. I am buying stuff to help me get to the future stage lol. And no I don’t have any plans of being at TikTok lol

I was diagnosed about 4 years ago with having suffered massive blockages in my heart that effectively killed about 40% of my heart tissue. The doctors at the time really didn't give me much hope I would survive. But I was able to adapt to necessary changes pretty well and found some good help from a few doctors that allowed me to manage the physical changes and limitations. What I've struggled with the most is the emotional stress, especially considering the extent of the damage and the likelihood of dying from this. So I know I'm oscillating now between depression, anger and acceptance. Sometimes daily, just depending on the day. Good video though, I did like the way she laid out the seven stages. I would agree that I've been at each stage at one point or another during the last 4 years.

this was incredibly validating. thank you. ❤

Does Congestive Heart Failure qualify?? But no pain……..just fatigue.

hello. what a helpful video. as someone who is new to chronic illness, and who does self evaluations very often, i am finding that i experience some or all of these stages at different times. the statement regarding finding new joys is such a huge truth. thank you for what you are doing!

i think it's even harder because i dont have energy, so the little i have is wasted on loops of grief, making it almost impossible to take steps to restructure my life. idk maybe time will change a thing or two and i'll heal

I have all stages at once for 8 years now

Thank you so much for making this video

Thank you for the video,

Thank you!

Very well said in this video. You are very knowledgeable Dr, Thanks

I've reversed loss of self and anger Moving into anger whats helping me out of depression

It’s hard Sis, hard as hello. 😢

also, re: your discourse on acceptance: "nonresistance" is the word I use instead that helps me! its different for everyone.

Maybe if we could be medicated properly.. from crack downs on pain meds with no exceptions to generic manufacturers putting sugar pills on the shelves, it’s very hard to find consistency in treatment to the point of being able to deal and lead a somewhat normal life.

How do we connect with you or grief counseling?

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