Standing Alone: The Ultimate Widow Superpower | Mary Oves | TEDxGrandCanyonUniversity 

I needed to hear this, lost my husband 2 weeks ago. Sudden death of a healthy 42 year old man, no signs, no illness, no warnings. He was gone in a matter of hours. I’m absolutely heartbroken and devastated. Feeling so lost and scare of the future. Blessings to you all. 🙏

7.5 years out from being widowed at 35. We WILL find our happiness once we find ourselves in this new forced life. Love to all fellow widows and widowers. WE WILL persevere!

Great talk Mary! I am a new widow now at 37.. I have to literally tidy up this life and close the chapter on it and move back to my home country of Ireland to create a new life from scratch having lived with my husband in CA for the past 7.5 years. It feels terrifying at times as I only have some friends here to help when they can.. but every day I get up and accomplish all of these awful tasks, I shower, eat healthily and walk the dog! No one can believe how I am doing this.. but what is the alternative? Lay in the fetal position all day accomplishing nothing? Fall into a deep, dark depression numbing my pain with God knows what? Widows are strong because we have no other choice! It is up to me to create a big, bold and beautiful life for myself.. the only option is strength and I pray for it every day. Thank you for this talk.

My husband died recently and people were telling me the same thing. I am so glad I found this. Praise Jesus!!! And I am an aspiring writer. I have a story to tell!!! Thank you!! Widows Unite!!! 🫂

New widow here. I want to thank you for your words of encouragement. THANK YOU.

Yes! From one widow to another. We all possess super powers. We just need to believe it!

My beautiful soulmate died in a car accident on 25th May 2023 ❤ he had turned 39 only a few days before he passed. I love him so much and this is so hard but I will try, for him.

I love this, Mary. 17 months widowed. Moving forward, accessing my spark, following my bliss and making new roads into my life and capabilities. Bravo. I will look for your other writings and work. I love inspiration.

Thank you. My husband of 30 years, is currently battling pancreatic cancer, I am 48 yo. I am attempting to prepare myself for what is ahead of me.

Three years and counting. I miss my husband, but I did realize I am now free to do whatever I want. If I can't have him, I'm going to at least enjoy myself. And spent a lot of the insurance money remodeling my house!

Lost my beloved husband 2015 December, he was only 43, he was brutally gunned down. I have just turned 39 at the time. Now, I’ve just turned 48, with twins, boy and a girl, they were only 6 years of age when he passed away, they are now 14 years of age🥰🙏🏾.., What a rollercoaster of a journey.., but, I keep on soldering on🙏🏾 Dating…, non existent to this day. My kids are my everything, my besties.

I needed to hear this today because I come from court regarding my late husband’s estate which left to my children He died 3 years ago and am planning to go with my children to live in abroad because society is so cruel to us Thanks 🙏🏽 for the informative video

One of the first things you said madame spit out my coffee. Thank you for paving our way. Now I have to finish this coffee and try to figure out how to start a frozen snow blower

I needed to hear this. I am so proud of myself and my beloved would be too.

14 months ago, my life changed forever. My dearest Tony took his last breath. I will never get over him or the loss. He was my world 🌎 ♥️. Thank you for sharing ❤️ 💕 ♥️

Thank you!

Just what I needed to hear. God bless you for sharing your widow wisdom.

Well done Mary!!

widowed or not...all women have so much power...

Awesome, Mary!!!! Congrats!

Lost my husband suddenly a month ago. It is difficult and painful.

I m a widow n loved that Thank you

Best speech I have ever heard ever

I lost my husband two years ago the journey very tough no good job hustling in a hard way trying to make ends meet for my four children especially two are in school not a joke putting food on the table its by the grace of God trying my level best but guys its not that easy

I'm a widow 48 years old I lost my husband when I was 39 in 2015 I was left with a 10 year old and a 13 year old to raise now I'm an empty nester both are doing okay despite not having a father for the last half of there childhood.the thing that scares me now is trying to navigate my life most say I'm to old for remarriage and looking for work is tuff I feel like I have a big mark on me now.

I was left with no insurance, barely enough SS to live on. If l had insurance money l could be more sure of myself. Sadly many widows only have SSecurity to live on and in their seventies and eighties.

So good. I still struggle after two years. I have a couple of "lightbulbs to change". I'm going to use my super powers and get them changed!!

There is no widow Barbie. I am forever changed and enlightened. I needed this today. Thank you.

Thank you, I've never had to go it alone before but I am sure that I can do it. My late husband encouraged me to stand on my own two feet when he knew that his time left was limited and that I'd have to and you have just confirmed it for me, I can do it.

2:30 I lost my life long love after 35 years and I am terrified of starting over and I needed to hear this too!!!

15 months ago I lost my Gracious. It's hard and I know it will always be hard but I know I have to persevere for my sake and for the children. RIP G

I as a widow agree with everything you said...

i am a widow twice now 24 years the last one it wasnt fair now i have 2 to grive for still hard i was lucky to have a large famly but if you think that helped it didnt for they had their own lives yes i was alone now what do i do now . first pay the bills take care my dog and cat the n i decide a new place would help well i sold the old place payed off the car and built a new one havng all that to do was a help but still had him in my the back of my mind and i think he agreed i am now in a dif place sold my home help my daughter build a home for us and her hubby i am somewhat happy getting to see my 12 great grand kids sometimes doing crafts to stay busy friends on here who are widows now and dealing with the widow fog as my friend deb says is new widow has become a nomad sold it all and travels but still grieving i am sure that never ends un til we take our last breaths so we try to stay strong thanks for all the help love you all

My husband just passed away I feel such an emptiness

Memories about Emily breaks me all up 💐😭

13 years out here, as a widower, I never remarried or replaced. I love being a bachelor and am having the time of my life. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and you have to survive it however you can. I loved my wife, but as selfish as it sounds, I also love myself. I do whatever makes daddy happy and don't apologize to anyone for it.

I have had nothing but good experiences with government agencies, friends, and strangers since my husband’s death.😊

I don’t know if anyone think it’s even more difficult being a widower

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Yes! yes! yes! I decorated my house with the insurance money, took off my wedding ring, and quit my job after the first year of being a widow. Only widows can understand why I might have done those things.

Jesus is with us!!!!

That was useless. She spoke about a damn lightbulb. How delusional. Some of us have little children, our husbands were our best and only real friends, and life partners, and still have life to continue at a younger age. I would of loved to hear about more then a damn lightbulb.

What the f has happened to TED?? This rubbish. Did anyone tell her how she actually looks in that dress? Sorry for your loss but what does this have to do with the purpuse of Ted? My aunt just became a widow, and all her life, deferred to the domineering abusive husband. I’m wondering what it could be like.

Just what I needed to hear. God bless you for sharing your widow wisdom.