After so many years, this song still makes me want to be in my early 20s again and feel that hopelessness one feels in youth after an earth-devouring love is lost, but in a sort of beautiful and way, where you know it’s for the best and are at peace.
The worst part is that it's a lie. Live through this, and spend the rest of your life looking back because you have never felt anything that deeply since.
First heard this song when I was 18 from degrassi lol. Looked it up so fast and fell in love with this song. This was about 11 years ago. Turn 30 in a couple months. Decided to look this song up once again since all those years ago. Crazy how some songs can bring you right where you used to be in life in that certain time. Makes my heart heavy. Hope all of you who read this lives a happy and full life.
I heard this on Degrassi too. I graduated the same year as Manny, Emma and spinner so this was my grad song as well. I relate it to my first love from senior year in Las Vegas and now I still think of it when I hear this song. Thought I was the only one.
Weird, I have watched this video several times and just this once thought 'this reminds me of Eternal Sunshine'. Not only are the lyrics very apt (all that time you thought I was sad, I was just trying to remember your name) but also the shots of them lying on the ice together happens in the film too. I was about to go look up the soundtrack... Michel Gondry, who directed Eternal Sunshine, has made some amazing music videos (see Everlong by Foo Fighters) and would approve of this video too.
This song didn’t resonate until I lost my first love to Suicide this August. Exactly a month after we reconnected. Moral: Please ask your loved ones if they’re ok. Even if they seem like they’re the best they’ve ever been
This was my boyfriend's favourite song. He fell and hit his head which lead to his death. I can hear his voice singing each lyric. When we all said our final goodbye, we played this song and I held onto his feet hoping he'd wake up when he heard 'live through this, and you won't look back...' we watched his final breath to this. We were neighbours. We'd hope a fence to get to each other. The last time I saw him alive, we spent the night together, haha 'lazy lovins'. We sang 'Tribute' by Tenacious D while I got ready in the mirror together. I made breakfast and danced, he pulled me into his arms and told me to eat- knowing I was behind. I (ofc) was running late for my bus that morning. He unlocked his bike, tried to 'scare' me and proceeded to flag down that bus. I thanked and kissed him. He kissed me back and said 'I love you, and I'll catch you later kid' then gave me a love tap. I smiled and turned to him to savour that moment. The bus driver called him a nice boy, and I smiled and thought back to my parents. That's how they met. My mom was running late for school, my dad saw her then biked up to the bus and my mom got on... she fell for him in that moment and eventually crossed paths again. I spent NYE in Montreal, I couldn't get this song out of my head. I wished he was with me whenever I looked up to Pont Champlain. Our streets of parkdale, toronto are covered with ghosts. I never get to bike with him into heavy traffic or sit on his porch drinking a warm Turborg with a cigarette in hand. No one will ever get to hear his funny fuckin jokes. So this song reminds me of a lot. I miss him every day. I look at his collection of books. They haunt me like the notes of this song. Joshua Pamplin, I didn't get to love you long enough. I will always miss you and your profoundly poetic ways. Come visit me sometime? Please.
Sounds like a cool guy. I wish it weren't so sorrowful to revisit memories of loved ones. My grandpa just passed.. I grew up helping him harvest apples and now that he's gone, I think of him everytime I eat an apple (eating one right now😭) The things we associate with them are somewhat bazaar but comforting
Sooo.. I'm a writer, and I was able to base a 188 paged novel off of this. That was two years ago, and it's changed so much that I forgot what it stemmed from. Thank you, Stars, because it is the best thing I've ever written.
Man it's so excruciating how songs from the teenage/Young Adult days take an even deeper meaning now. Almost as if they were trying to warn us or something
I always listen this song when my heart broken and it heals me a lot. I know everyone come to your life must have some meaning and teach you something. I won't regret I loved someone so madly but it is not work out anymore, Like this lyric said " I'm not sorry I met you. I'm not sorry it's over. I'm not sorry there is nothing to say" Thank you the one come to my life let me know I still can love someone and I deserved be loved too.
I discovered this song back in 2005 and I absolutely loved it! Then somehow I forgot about it. 13 years later I went through an old music collection - and here I am. heart-wrenching, but in a nice way. :')
When I was 16 years old I saw Stars live at the Cat's Cradle. It was profound, but it's not until now, eight years later, that these lyrics leave tingles on my skin. I stayed at a friend's house that night and I don't remember it a bit, probably because the very next day, my life would never be the same again. I was going through a dark time and was in a toxic relationship with a drug-addicted teenage boy. I had an Adderall prescription and he begged me to give him some. Being the insecure and codependent teenager that I was, I agreed. He sold them on the school bus. The next day I was in third-period math class chatting with my best friend and the assistant principal pulled me from class and nothing was ever the same. I never went back to math class. I never went back to that school. I was a straight-A student going to jail with a felony at 16 for distributing a controlled substance. I lost every single one of my friends and my first love. I was sure my life was over. I ended up going to a school for delinquents, which brought my life to another level of darkness that I never imagined possible, but still, I prevailed. I was sexually assaulted, date r*ped, but I felt lucky that I was able to graduate high school a year earlier at this school due to my credit amount. Then I got into college! A miracle considering my past. I thought I was beginning to turn the page, but then I developed a serious autoimmune disease from the stress of it all, causing me to gain a significant amount of weight and had to drop out of college. A year off at home and my friends were my mom's friends who took me into their crew (yes, it's weird). At the time, I wanted to die. I thought I must set myself on fire...looking back it's just a fleck on my porcelain skin. I lived through this and I won't look back. I left my tiny town, fell in real love, and started my own business a couple of years ago that's going really well. If you read this far, you might be going through the hardest time in your life, but I promise there will always be a silver lining. Beautiful things come from the darkest time. Love to you all.
Thank you for sharing your story…. Many of us go through dark times but not everyone prevails.. sharing your story will inspire some, give hope and strength to others. I wish you continued success ❤️
Same. I'm happily married and wouldn't change a thing. This song makes me think of the guy I thought I was going to marry when I was 20. I'm not sorry there's nothing to say.
6 years ago, I was going through hell, and someone turned me on to this song. I'm in a far better place now, and I have to keep coming back to listen to it every November.
Heard this when it came out. I was younger but loved it. Years later in 2019, spotify randomly played it for me and I started crying on a train in another country because I knew my relationship was over. Lmao. How can a song be so sad but hopeful at the same time.
Guys, this is the kind of music that you have to do again! All the albuns until set yourself on fire are masterpieces! Please, don't let that kind of songs go away
Listened to this song on repeat in college daily. I have rediscovered it a dozen times since. Always brings back those same ol feelings. Some hearts never change.
Simply the perfect breakup song. It's been 13 years since I first listened to this, gosh. It still gives me the chills. So great is real Art. So strong is the pain when you have to let her/him go. But to those that are in that dark place right now I say: there is always hope to move on, and be OK again. Just live through this, and you won't look back.
That's because this song was quite literally written for the Eternal Sunshine soundtrack. You're not alone in feeling that way, because that was the intention all along!
Stars deserves to be so much more well known!! Their music is amazing, in the complexity, the lyrics, and the sincerity in their songs. It makes me mad that they don't get more recognition haha.
There are so many beautiful things about this video - I love that each musician is lying on the floor (and as a musician, playing on the floor is hard af, so props) back to back or back to side. For some reason the trombone and french horn always strike me because the leg angles look so cool - This song is one of the only songs that I think accurate capture the reality of a break up where both sides think: "I was right, you were wrong, here's my side of the story - I did love you and I was vulnerable with you" - I love the duality of it almost feeling like a first date, a few of the shadoews holding hands during the ice skating to it feeling just so cold and lonely - The two singers capture SO WELL what it's like to stand right next to someone who used to be your world and now is your past - I WILL NEVER NOT CRACK UP AT THE FUCKING DRUMMER LMAO
I was watching something and heard the voice that says "When there is nothing left to burn you must set yourself on fire" and it instantly made me want to listen to this song again. I love this album so much when I first heard this song it gave me the chills hearing it for the first time and those chills still happen. I mean such great lyrics, Stars are such a wonderful band. I would love to hear what everyone else thinks I think this album stands up.
I’ll never forget my twin flame, Lola. She passed in 2015. This was one of our songs. Always always always. I still need you. I feel you everywhere 🌌❤️
I found this song this year and so much has happened my life fell apart but I rebuilt it and I can’t wait to come back here and tell everyone about the people I’ve loved and lost all over again
I listened to this during my breakup with my first serious boyfriend in 2011. I remember that I cried heavily and won't stop doing so. By now, he is really dead as he died in 2020.
God. This song is still as beautiful-if not more-as the first time I listened to it. To say I'm transfixed would be an understatement, this song manages to engulf me every. single. time. It's such a beautiful piece, lyrically and musically.
Don't know this band but over the last 10 years this song has saved me multiple times and it was shown to me by the most amazing girl ever. And we just reconnected.... and I just broke up with my gf. Funny how life works. I doubt there's anything there but having her in my life means more to me than anything
I had forgotten about this song I first heard it in Daydream Nation and then I started rewatching Degrassi. They used it in the season 5 finale and man it was perfect!!! I love this song! I love the female singer!
I miss this song so much, back then I met them when I was much much younger and honestly I’m so happy I did :”) This just gave me nostalgic feels and I really miss that feeling
When I first heard this song I thought there is no way this isn't inspired by The Delgados. It has such a distinctive Delgados sound it may as well have been performed by them. Very nice.
I feel crazy for not discovering this band sooner. I've been honestly listening to this song weeks and it has a certain haunting feeling when you really listen. I can't explain how beautiful this song is. Moral of the story....it's a great damn song.
Anyone else one of the 100 lucky people that saw Stars at the free MySpace Secret show in Vancouver at the Media Club 14 years ago? I remember being SO excited at 14 that it was all ages, I even skipped school so I could be first in line (and I was!). To this day it is the most intimate show I've ever been to. Oh how time passes.
Literally fell into a peaceful sleep meditating to this song last thinking about every failed relationship I’ve ever had. I love this song. The instruments are just are healing as the lyrics.
There's a lot of songs that i love, that some feelings i can relate to, but this song, this song is just woah. its my favorite song, and all my soul can relate to it. God bless Stars for making a beautiful and inspiring song.
I've always appreciated this song but once I was widowed at 35 with conflicted emotions about the 180° my life was taking it took on a whole new meaning. This is a beautiful song ❤
For years I listened to this song with the heartache of hoping to be able to live through it and not look back. Finally there, and love this song the same.
I’m 17 now. Barely got to spend being 16 as a 16 year old cause of the fucking pandemic. I know I’m going to listen to this and think back to these moments, probably after my first break up, and then probably as an old woman. This song is heart wrenching. I just want to fall in love, make up for that time spend on such insignificant things. I want to cry but I can’t. I’ll be back.
Brasileiros, cadê você ouvindo as músicas boas dos USA, só eu que me lembrei do filme "Brilho eterno de uma mente sem lembranças" na cena que ele e ela se deitam no gelo.. muito lindo essa canção.
I wish I could be in a romantic relationship at least once in my life (if it lasts forever that’s the best of course). I’m 25 and still waiting for the right person who’ll respect and love me right to come along :’(
BRING THE PAYNE 75 idk man, I’ve shed many tears already. I still think it’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved. At least you have memories of what it feels like...
I can't believe I"ve been listening to this song longer than 15 years at this point. I've been one of those ones that have meant different things to me about different people in different phases of my life. And even though life is pretty good these days, I still bring it up and feel those same motions again. It never gets old.
I love this song it reminds me of when I lost love and she tried to be friends not acknowledging what she did to me. Hurts but it's a part of me. My perspective is from the woman's lyrics...
