I worked with a girl who got involved with her sister's abusive boyfriend. She said the next time he put his hands on her sister she was going to kill him. Well....he did and she pulled and gun so he pulled his gun and shot and killed her. Guess what....he didn't do a day in jail. It was considered self defense sinse she pulled her gun first. Now she's dead and her sister probably never left him. So sad.
As much as I understand why someone would take up for their family I learned the hard way that most times you don't get involved because it usually doesn't mean they're done with the person. I got involved with in my sister's situation and after I did that she had 2 more kids with him and they're still together in a toxic relationship.
When I was in Germany one friend told me his uncle got killed for taking up for his niece my friend's cousin and she still got back with the guy who killed her uncle.
We don't know how they found out about him cheating. They could've saw him for all we know and told the mom. Could've been overheard if they were arguing over the phone. Could've been told by a family friend. Could've put two and two together when they realized he not coming back to the house. Why the momma getting blamed automatically
@@Ayommari Really? You do know in certain states that’s justified right? Your feelings don’t matter here. In a lot of cases this would’ve been justified. Also, just because his life wasn’t taken doesn’t mean he wouldn’t be seriously injured. Wether it’s wrong or right or justified you can’t assume someone has the right mindset to let that slide look at school sh00tings
It shouldn’t result in the kid’s being involved in violence with their stepfather. If the father was involved in a physical abusive relationship with the mom. I get it! That’s not the case. His bags should’ve been packed and left on the lawn…leave it up to the courts
They should’ve never touched that man UNLESS he hit their mother. If he shot and/or killed her child she would really be crying. The relationship is definitely over now if there was a chance for reconciliation.
That happened with me and my brother back in the day..we heard them arguing about, he smacked Momz..soon as he walked out of the room we gotteem. He brought back his brother and sister but we was ready for ALL the smoke 🤷🏽♀️
The kids were wrong from crossing those boundaries but who knows what their mom been through. Men should respect women or leave us alone. Why is that so hard?
I feel like this. Those boys had absolutely no right in doing what they did. They should have known what happened between the mother and their stepfather. The only way they should have known in case they caught their stepdaddy out there cheating with their own eyes.
Every man and woman should be getting their @ss beat for cheating. The fact that people are not being held more accountable is ridiculous yet it’s condoned for what? To limit us all to having broken families? Why would anyone want to fight (figuratively or promote) for that kind of limitation? 🤦🏽♀️
With social media, folks taking pictures, and the way people talk and “spill” information in general, there’s no way of knowing how the young men found out. I don’t agree with what happened. As a mom I would have told that man not to come home to protect him and my boys. Especially knowing how upset he boys were. Sad.
@@Confessions089 Regardless of him cheating, he didn’t deserve to be jumped on. In my opinion, people are too quick to judge. If cooler heads had prevailed, that situation probably wouldn’t have happened. For me, there is no satisfaction in what happened nor thought of the potential consequences for all parties. I respect your view though.
Ummm how about men don’t CHEAT on their wives!! Anyhow, how are people going to say “ the children shouldn’t have known?” Are y’all stupid or What???? They aren’t babies!!!!!! When people cheat sometimes or 9 times out of 10 the kids know about it before the wife!!! Kids see parents cheating!! Either way “BLAME THE WOMAN!” How was him “cheating “ her fault???
@@BleakBarbie If it ain't no domestic abuse & you just weak & won't cut it off... it's simply "Momma, leave that nigga b4 he give you something you can't give back" Niggas piping moms, she finna tell them boys to pack their bags. 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
@@BleakBarbie If it ain't no domestic abuse & you just weak & won't cut it off... it's simply "Momma, leave that nigga b4 he give you something you can't give back" Niggas piping moms, she finna tell them boys to pack their bags. 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
Children know if adults are cheating or experiencing problems. The mother nor the father doesn't have to talk to the kids. They have eyes to see. They listen to, or overhear different conversations. They hear arguments. Most of us knew what was going on with our parents growing up. Most of the young kids I taught knew what was going on in their homes even if they couldn't articulate it. A lot of times they start acting out in class because they are privy to it, but can't talk to their parents about it. I've had to mediate several situations like this over the years, where kids were reacting to family drama and internalising stuff. People gatta stop acting like kids are clueless and dumb. Also there is nothing to suggest the mother told them. So how are we making a whole video on this premise when that wasn't established. And how you gonna tell a woman (or a man), not to cry if they're upset. WTH? Also why do folks think it's okay for a BM to shoot and kill some kids because they fought him over their mama. I get saying he should have whopped their ass, but how is it that when BM are faced with any kind of adversity (if a woman is cheating on him, if a child tries to fight him, if a man/woman tries to fight him), it's okay to say "What if he came back and killed them?" WHAT??!!!! Not fight back in self defence, but KILL??!!! Perhaps analyse why the desire to murder folks BM disagree with, or are wronged by, is so prevalent and deemed a normal reaction. Because it really isn't.
Props to Trill for holding the mother accountable. Seems like the children didn't fully respect dude in the first place, which is often a problem in stepfather situations. Mothers play a role in that as well
Similar situation happened with my mother and brothers. Your children shouldn't be involved if he's/she's not physically being abused. Wow!! Everybody is in their feelings but these two adults should have handled this without children present. Unfortunately, i agree with you men( especially those boys cheating on thier girls😂😂😂)
How can you hide feelings from your kids. If he was abusive how do you keep that away for the kids. 3 women died every day at the hand of domestic violence. In the United States.
Had he took their life people would feel a type of way. Staying in a child’s place is the best thing you can do. The lack of respect as a step father is crazy. Never raise another woman’s kids. Women will continue to be abused and cheated on no matter who intervenes or what is done. She is going to go back. I lost two female friends to this same thing. Women have poor dating decisions no matter how they feel towards that individual. You tell them to go right they will intentionally go left just because you told them to go right. Had the woman cheated on him and his daughters beat her it would’ve been wrong.
Being a step mother is no walk in the park either. No woman without kids truly wants to raise another woman's child. Kids treat step mothers with little to no respect as well
@@omw2230 Well see that's not the norm and it's more socially acceptable for women to get acquainted with a man's children because stepfathers and men in particular are the discipliners in the relationship a stepfather can't discipline another man's child especially if the mother is overbearing and has an Oedipus complexity with her sons for the daughters it's difficult because a man can't get that close to a little girl it's a very thin line there. I had a stepfather and I never respected him until I got with a woman with kids from that point on I understood his struggle. With being a stepmother you are there to nurture the children and provide that motherly effect even if they don't want you to. A stepfather has less mobility to not only discipline the children but also be respected by the mother and the children especially if there's an Oedipus complex present there and it's very prevalent in the black community that's where that son/husband bond comes in at.
@@MrBondSinatra I get what you are saying but being a step mother is just as challenging. It's nothing out of the norm. They get the same disrespect as step father's. I'm glad you realized how wrong you were for disrespecting your step father. Do you two get along now?
@@omw2230 Yeah, I understand what you mean, but stepfathers have far more on their plate because the standard of being a man doesn't stop because you must provide and protect no matter if the children don't respect you. I had a stepmother also I still don't like her I respect her but don't like her. My stepfather and I didn't get along for the reason that no man at the time could measure up to my father, plus he was a police officer so I didn't like or respect him because he provided structure and guidelines for me to abide by. I was gang-banging and doing a bunch of nonsense because I didn't respect him. I haven't spoken to him in a while after my mother passed in 2015 I moved away from home to Houston Texas. I cut a lot of people off. I have only been home once since I'll be back this Christmas so I'll speak to him again. Being raised by a very emotional mother it made me value emotions over logical reasoning. Besides my father having a stepfather was the best thing that could've happened to me.
@@MrBondSinatra jeesh it seems like you have been through a lot. Sorry for the loss of your mother. It's always a risk when taking in another person's child. I guess since I am a woman I view things differently.
Not for cheating. If he was putting hands on her, they have a right to defend their mother physically. But cheating she can just leave and not discuss it with her kids. Physically assault their mother is a whole other animal.
I agree the kids is not mature enough to be in adult conversation. People saying oh well, now if he comes back and shoot then y’all would be saying he is wrong. Stop with this generational trauma. This is straight ignorant. That man is stupid stupid as hell if he come back inside that house. The entire situation is toxic. Yes cheating is wrong, and if that is the consequences, then don’t be mad at the reaction of the consequences.
He couldn’t control himself. That was the first issue. He should’ve been faithful or separated before he messed with another chick. The response from the host at the end is giving me Adam and Eve vibes. Eve was indeed wrong but the power lies in Adams hands.
That was something between the mom and stepdad. The kids should stay out of it, while still being there for their mother. There are still times when I child should stay in a child's place.
That's not realistic for the kids not to know. They're going to find out one way or another especially if they're of age and not small children. We don't know if the mom told them or not the other woman could have called the house or popped up..... anything. That's how my uncle got caught. One of the boys could have caught him. Maybe their sister told them. Could have been some kind of post on social media. Regardless of how he got caught he got caught and all actions have consequences. Clearly she didn't tell her boys to jump on him. So she probably didn't tell them because she knew they would jump on him.
I feel like as a single mom you have to VET everyone my rule is 2 years before a man can meet my daughter and no one has met my daughter she’s 4 & I think it’s best to have things casual but of course men tb they “love me” so it’s best to get to know people. Cause tbh I feel for the kids my mom let you around us but it’s the mother responsibility to VET everyone before considering male into your child life. My daughter have a dad I left him! So the next guy have to top him. Sadly but I’m not allowing anyone less around my child. It’s crazy to me cause I just be trying to date to get to know people these men be like “I love you” “I want to marry you” but my mindset different I don’t allow anyone around my child. I be feeling like Regina Hall off think like a man frfr 😁🤣 me and her dad were together 8 years it just didn’t work sadly!!
Dude "came back" to the house. I'm quite sure she or them said don't come back. When u come to the crib and I say DO NOT, you gotta deal with the consequences.🤷♀️
Men don’t want to be stepdads??? 😂😂😂 Hell they don’t want even want to be fathers!! Also the guy was right! If it were the man getting cheated on other men would be like “that’s what that thot gets, she’s for the streets, that’s the worse thing you can ever do to a man, etc, etc!” How about we promote “FAITHFUL PARTNERS!” And if you can’t be faithful stay single!!!!!
They were wrong but we don't know that she told them, They could have seen it for themselves. You can't blame her until you have all the facts.But I do agree kids should not be involved in your relationship
OMG! This is a black family we all know emotions are high. It's the STEP DADS fault, not the mother and kids will be kids. If you watch the video, she was trying to stop her boys. When he entered into the relationship he knew she had teenagers and he couldn't control his urge. If you're gonna cheat, leave the relationship!!!! Just be a man about it ~~Tony Braxton
Yes, they should not be in grown folks business. But as a child my brother, cousins, and I caught my stepfather cheating on my mother several times. I wanted to do what they did! But I figured I am a child and she grown.
Children should not be in grown folk business!! PERIOD!! Because the mama and the man probably have this kinda relationship which is usually the case. Krew is absolutely right! She'll be right back with him. And why these 18 /19 year olds at home. They tails need to be at work!! Sitting around waiting for this man to come back home to his own house. We need to stop accepting our kids being privy to things they don't need to be privy to.
I would never allow my son to disrespect a grown man like that. Even if he's the one that saw it with his own eyes. That's my issue and I'll deal with it myself. That's my relationship; she's obvi either "forgiving"/ accepting it for him to return to the house.
Not enough details and too many hypotheticals. Seen the same clip and caption read “Sons beat up stepdad for HITTING their mom.” None know what really happened. But what we do know is, this is all the mom’s fault. Had she would have tucked her emotions, cried in her closet or put on makeup and sunglasses, none of this would have ever happened. I bet she thought SHE was the victim too 🤔
That she told them is an assumption. Isn't it? Context is everything. Not to say the beating is justified, because it's not. But is it known for a fact that is what occurred? The could've seen it for themselves. They could've eavesdropped a private conversation. I don't have chick nor child, AND I don't believe your children are your friends or should be involved in adult matters. However, I do believe there is emotional maturity issues as well as there may be a need for children, especially male children to want to be protective of their mothers. Who knows what they may have seen growing up that may have caused that need to feel overprotective of their mother. Additionally, to say the cheater is absolved of accountability when he could've possibly left, communicated appropriately, or otherwise before engaging in said behaviors, is a cop out. You can't simply watch a video like what was shown in the clip you provided without well-rounded context.
First of all dude is either stupid or arrogant or both to think after his antics he could just stroll on in...🤣BUT, Okay...I want to start out with what a TRUE male is INNATELY. Males are protective and TERRITORIAL by NATURE. Men, just think of the RAGE and hurt you would feel to know some other man has been in your "space" that you have already "marked". Now in this situation we have young males protecting their mom because they KNOW what takes place when a man steps out and their rage and hurt comes from knowing that you so DISRESPECTED their mother, to bring your dirt back to her AND want us to live with that? There would NEVER be peace in that house and it may feel like they are cosigning his behavior AGAINST their mother. They aren't going to do that....I'm NOT saying this should have gone down like this, but he has to be a special kind of STUPID to NOT think it could! EVERY man knows who HE is when he meets a woman, kids or no kids... and if you can't love her correctly...keep it pushing...I hope that cheat was worth that sho'nuf beat down...
Otis my guy, but he bugging on this one. That momma been talking crazy about the step-dad. Them boys have been looking for an excuse to jump on that dude. This was pent up from the things they saw/heard from their momma towards the stepfather.
You see how the one that said he’d fight never mentions questioning the mothers actions at all? What if she cheated first? What is considering cheating? That man could’ve just sent a message to someone, we don’t know and neither do the boys bc they are not being taught to ask questions. What if she just lied? Furthermore, the amount of rage that she was able to manipulate out of her boys is dangerous.
She should have cut ties with her boyfriend when he cheated. Its sad what happened but they love their mother. Unfortunately she probably would have taking him back. Smh her boys forced her hand on the choice now. When family gets involved understand the woman or man better frfr be done with their partner for good. Stuff gets serious when family gets involved. Her boyfriend better move the hell on after getting hands and feet put on him over there mother. Craziness smh
Clearly these young men have boundaries and standards that they are willing to reinforce when it comes to honor, respect, and the protection of the family dynamic. However, in any case if the adults involved where adulting than the kids never would’ve been in the position to respond in such a manner. Both parents need to take accountability bc it’s not just the mothers fault that her sons responded in such a manner (if indeed she chose to disclose their marriage issues to the kids) ; it’s their stepfathers fault as well bc he made the decision to behave in such a manner that ran the risk of him jeopardizing his family relationships and stripping himself of whatever honor and respect his family had for him. Clearly he has poor risk management assessment and isn’t fit for leadership role based upon the results shown here and as for the mother she should’ve chose better for herself and her sons. I’m curious if this was a first time offense or repetitive behavior for her sons to respond in such a way? She better be done with his ass either way bc the foundation is crumbled and there will always be hostility in the household between the men bcz of this entire situation. Those young men will never respect him as their stepfather, he will demand respect and feel entitled to it and when the chaos hits the fan the mother is caught in the middle bc the sons will feel betrayed if she stands up for him after he’s been disrespecting her and etc and he will feel betrayed if she defends her sons bc he’s supposed to be a father unto them and her husband, so It’s a wrap.
Was she cheating to? She wouldnt tell her kids if she was..so why would she tell her kids he was cheating? If they end up killing that man.. then all of them would be in jail for murder..leave your kids out of your business!
Real ishhh though the mother was wrong for allowing them to sit there and wait on him just to beat his a##. He could possibly come back and do some deadly damage control. I just honestly wonder how the children found out about the cheating?
Now what if they mom take him back? She shouldn’t have involved the kids nothing wrong with protecting your mom but you can’t protect her from cheating.
Kids should stay in kids place. What if he would have shot one of her sons,she shouldn’t want her kids in that position.Don’t put kids in grown folks biz
And even if it was the actual father, the kids should still say something because that’s their mother even if the mother was cheating on the father right is right and wrong is wrong it don’t make a difference where the logical thinking comes from if it needs to be spoken on or brought up It’s for a reason and people are not understanding that. When I have done wrong, and it was spoken upon, it was supposed to be spoken upon because that person is being protected it’s meant for you to get caught or whatever because you are the one that’s doing wrong people forget that when you do wrong, you have consequences that you gotta deal with that was that man’s consequence.
They were 1000% wrong. I can understand if the stepdad was beating on their mother in front of them, but the fact that he cheated, the sons should have stayed in their place... Period
